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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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30 September 2011: Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
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I only lied to avoid a fight. She's aggressive and doesn't trust me. Should I break if off with her?
Q. I'm an insurance agent by trade and I sat down with one of my girlfriends friends. I sold her a policy. But recently my girlfriend called her up, and asked her if anything is going on between us. I think it's inappropriate, along with her constan...
A. 22 December 2011: Sounds like she is insanely unstable in terms of relationships and the new guy sounds about the same. It’s not his place to determine your relationship with her. That should be between you and her. Sadly for her she was probably going to be ... (read in full...)
Birth Control pills to control Period. Opinions please?
Q. I've recently decided to go on the pill, not for sexual reasons, but because the pain of periods is unbearable, and I'm always such a mean, cranky person when I'm on my period! I want to get something to either reduce or get rid of (4 periods a year ...
A. 2 December 2011: KC i see the link you posted is about DISORDERS...
planned parenthood http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-pill-4228.htm
says:
It's pretty common for people to be confused about how birth control pills ... (read in full...)
Should I sit here and wait for his call? Or should I just break up with him?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for three years and most of our relationship has been long distance due to the fact that he is in the army. I love him with all my heart and he is my first boyfriend. We had only been dating for six months when he went ...
A. 1 December 2011: “When we talk he always starts the conversation and wants to know about my day. The problem is I'm always the one that has to call or text him.”
OP this is confusing me. Either YOU initiate the contact or he does. IF you are the one who calls or... (read in full...)
Birth Control pills to control Period. Opinions please?
Q. I've recently decided to go on the pill, not for sexual reasons, but because the pain of periods is unbearable, and I'm always such a mean, cranky person when I'm on my period! I want to get something to either reduce or get rid of (4 periods a year ...
A. 1 December 2011: KC_100 I just read your post and I have to disagree. My limited understanding is that the lining only is built if you ovulate... if you don't ovulate you don't build a lining.... then it's shed if you don't get pregnant and used by the baby if you ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? The ex who abandoned me and our son or my current boyfriend who's a wonderful guy?
Q. My ex and I were together for 6 years. We started dating when we were teens I gave birth to our son when I was 20. A few years after that, we broke up because he was not ready to take the responsibility. He was kinda immature that time. Then I...
A. 30 November 2011: then marry neither and go off and be alone and figure out what you want.
if my ex that left me came back now after years of being GONE (especially if I had a CHILD with him) it would NOT make me question wanting to be with my current partner.... (read in full...)
My fiancee doesn't want sex with me any more and says I'm lose!
Q. I have been with my fiancée' for 2 years now and we have been having sex maybe around 3 times a week. But now he is saying he's bored of sex and he doesn't like it. he just wants me to give him Blowjobs. I don't know how he can be bored of sex as i ...
A. 30 November 2011: my first thought... DUMP HIM.
truly. he's emotionally abusing you. my boyfriend loves porn and big boobs and makes no bones about it. I just had surgery in June to reconstruct my belly and breasts after a massive weight loss. My poor baby boo... (read in full...)
Long Distance relationship feels one sided.
Q. I've been in a LDR for about 9 months now. During that time my bf has visited me once. We both live in the same state but about 5 hours apart. He had a car accident a year and a half ago and as a result he had a lot of injuries. He has recovered but ...
A. 30 November 2011: Before I comment on your story let me tell you mine so you know I get what you are saying...
I had an LDR... it's a bit complex. Separate states but only a 2 hours’ drive apart. (and even that felt like an insurmountable distance at times.
... (read in full...)
I'm worried my long distance potential g/f won't wait for me
Q. My potential girlfriend lives a long way away and she wants me to come up and visit her soon, within a month or so. But the problem is that I have no job and can't afford an airline ticket. I am currently looking for a job but I'm not having much ...
A. 30 November 2011: well if you find a job where you are and she has one where she is...who will move? because LDRs cannot exist without a plan to END the LDR part..
maybe it's best that you two remain just friends till you get your life in better order?... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? The ex who abandoned me and our son or my current boyfriend who's a wonderful guy?
Q. My ex and I were together for 6 years. We started dating when we were teens I gave birth to our son when I was 20. A few years after that, we broke up because he was not ready to take the responsibility. He was kinda immature that time. Then I...
A. 30 November 2011: NOT the ex. he's just reacting to someone else wanting you.... (read in full...)
Anyone have experience with erections barely sufficient to achieve vaginal penetration?
Q. Has anyone been with a guy aged about 36 who at best could achieve only a "fat soft" barely sufficient to manage vaginal penetration on a regular basis?...
A. 30 November 2011: does he drink?
does he smoke?
does he do drugs?
take any medications?
how is his blood pressure?
all these things negatively can and do affect erections.
we often can accomplish blow jobs but not penetration... it happens... so... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with my LDR......I'm in pieces and need to know how to cope and be strong
Q. i need some advice please. Ive just ended it with my ldr boyfriend, after being messed around with yet again and now as i sit in here in tears, my heart is broken and i feel sick, I just need to know how to be strong over the next few weeks. We had ...
A. 30 November 2011: you mourn.
you grieve the loss
you have my personal blessing to spend the next six weeks crying at the drop of a hat, eating ice cream from the container, wearing dark glasses instead of makeup and calling all your gfs to obssess about him. ... (read in full...)
My B/f is always telling me how hot he thinks I am, but he never seems to be in the mood for sex any more
Q. I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, we love eachother very much, and also find eachother very attractive. We used to have sex practically everyday, I'd dress up for him and everything, then we went to having sex 3-4 times a ...
A. 30 November 2011: our sex life deteriorated after a year and moving in together... it's common... you know you can have it at any time so you don't make the time for it.
and are you so sure it's really that long?
the other night we were going at it and BF said ... (read in full...)
Something more or just games?
Q. I ment a woman about a year ago, since then we have became pretty good friends. Over the course of the last 3 months we have had several sexual encounters. Shes the type to hide her feelings and play it off like it is nothing. But lately she has ...
A. 30 November 2011: why don't you ask her the exact same question "is this a game to you or do you truly feel this way?"
if you intimate enough to get naked and have sex with someone you should be able to ask them how they feel about you.... (read in full...)
How can I get my G/f to feel sexy and realize how wonderful she actually is?
Q. how can i get my wonderfull girlfriend to feel sexy. She has low self image. To me she is beautiful and what she finds imperfections. I think that what makes her who she is. She always covers her self up. Says she is fat and unattractive. When we ...
A. 30 November 2011: sadly there is NOTHING you can do.
I think I'm old and ugly and fat. I used to weigh nearly 300 pounds and wear a size 26... now I weigh less than half of that and I wear a size 4/6 I've had plastic recontructive surgery and yet I find fault wi... (read in full...)
Ladies, once you meet a new interesting guy, when do you allow that first intimate touch?
Q. Ledies, you meet a new interesting guy. When do you allow that first intimate touch? Is it any different if you meet him while you're hurting from a recent break up? Your answers are important to me....
A. 30 November 2011: depends on how old I am and what my experience with other men and sex are
depends on how i meet him
depends on what I want from him
depends on a LOT fo things.
what do you mean?
a hug? could be intimate or not...
a kiss? depends on w... (read in full...)
Do I confront, support him, or walk away? My married lover confided he has started meeting men for sex.
Q. I need some support! I have had a relationship with a married man for many many years we are very very good friends and occasionally we have sex too which is like the icing on the cake. His wife is sick with MS so please dont criticise me for see...
A. 30 November 2011: oh so cheating on your wife (in sickness and in health marriage vows be dammed right?) is not impugning his moral integrity but sleeping around with men is?
What pray tell is the DIFFERENCE other than he’s cheating ON YOU now?
So did you th... (read in full...)
I find the thought of my girlfriend with another guy arousing, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Is something wrong with me? I don't know why but I find the thought of my girlfriend with other guys very arousing. I don't know why but I do. When she was going out with other guys it hurt like crazy, like I was having an emotional heart attack b...
A. 30 November 2011: sounds normal to me... some folks do find this arousing. I am one of those folks... i often think of my man with the type of women he finds attractive...
if you want to talk to her about it, I would do it at a non-sexual time...some time at home,... (read in full...)
Why did he do a disappearing trick on me. How would you have handled this situation?
Q. Hi everyone, I met a guy a month back in a business meeting and we exchanged numbers then added eaach other on blackberry. we hit it off instantly given the strong chemistry between us! He lives an hour drive away from me, so we were in touch on a...
A. 30 November 2011: sounds married to me...
you have no need to feel guilty... you don't owe him an explanation...... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a satisfying sexual life if your boyfriend has never made you have an orgasm?
Q. Is it possible to have a satisfying sexual life if your boyfriend (of 2 years) doesn't know how to and has never made you orgasm? At first it didn't bother me...but now I'm beginning to feel like he has given up on trying to please me and only wan...
A. 30 November 2011: why in the world are you waiting to finish yourself till you get home?
instead of that... finish yourself off manually with his help...
my boyfriend does not do oral. (a limitation of our relationship that i accept and accepted even before we w... (read in full...)
Should I sit here and wait for his call? Or should I just break up with him?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for three years and most of our relationship has been long distance due to the fact that he is in the army. I love him with all my heart and he is my first boyfriend. We had only been dating for six months when he went ...
A. 30 November 2011: sounds to me like it's time to move on.
just get busy with your life and go out with friends and see what happens...
does he ever initiate the contact with you or are you always the one starting the conversations? if he never starts it s... (read in full...)
I want to get married and have kids and my boyfriend is no where near ready for that.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for several years. He is not working and he is a mama's boy even though we live together. He thinks im a liar even when i am telling the truth. It hurts and as a result i get mad and say a lot of awful things that i ...
A. 30 November 2011: if you want to get married and have kids you need to ask him. when he says NO you need to leave him.
if he wanted to be married and have kids you would be married and making babies..
how will he support you and the family if he's not working... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me over 12 times and gave me a STD. How do I cope with my hurt and the feeling he's going to do it again and soon?
Q. I've been with the same guy for 4 years we have a baby together but in the past 2 years he cheated on me over 12 times. One of the times he gave me an std I found out from his sisters friend because he gave it to her as well. Another time a girl ...
A. 30 November 2011: You're not going to get hurt again? What about the next time he cheats or gives you an STD? will that hurt?
if it doesn't why will you leave?
you are deluding yourself into thinking it won't hurt. It will.
do you have a best girlfr... (read in full...)
Can someone give me some techniques to just accept compliments with good grace and not feel so undeserving and overwhelmed?
Q. I have a really difficult time accepting compliments, and people think I'm stuck up because of it or I seek attention - but really with anything, grades, comments from a professor regarding a great paper I wrote - it all overwhelms me so much and ...
A. 30 November 2011: you accept it with a "thank you" and a smile... and let it go...... (read in full...)
Would I come across as creepy or desperate if I add this guy on Facebook?
Q. Earlier I was bored and clicking around on facebook, and found myself on the profile of a guy whom I had 9 mutual friends with. Looking at his profile I could see that he often attends the same clubs as me, and shares my music taste EXACTLY (there's ...
A. 30 November 2011: tell him exactly what you told us
we have 9 mutal friends
we go to the same clubs
we like the same music
I thought we could be friends...
... (read in full...)
My pattern of preferring much older men is starting to bother me. But are men in their 30s discounting me for dating older men?
Q. I'm a 31 year old woman. I live alone and have a career that I love. I'm fairly attractive. I would say I'm an 8 out of 10 on most days. I don't have a desire to get married. I have a healthy fear of getting pregnant or catching a disease. I ...
A. 30 November 2011: So what's so wrong with having a preference for an age group? You're over 21.... there are plenty of age gap couples out there. why do you judge yourself? just enjoy it.
and who the heck cares what OTHERS think?
please... I'm 51 and my he... (read in full...)
I only lied to avoid a fight. She's aggressive and doesn't trust me. Should I break if off with her?
Q. I'm an insurance agent by trade and I sat down with one of my girlfriends friends. I sold her a policy. But recently my girlfriend called her up, and asked her if anything is going on between us. I think it's inappropriate, along with her constan...
A. 30 November 2011: I hit my boyfriend ONCE and felt horrible about it. THERE IS NO EXCUSE for violence. I told him I will NEVER raise my hand to him in anger again and I have not and will not.
Abuse is abuse and I hate that women get a free pass so often when the... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 30 November 2011: so glad to hear that our work here has helped you! Thank you for the update. ... (read in full...)
Birth Control pills to control Period. Opinions please?
Q. I've recently decided to go on the pill, not for sexual reasons, but because the pain of periods is unbearable, and I'm always such a mean, cranky person when I'm on my period! I want to get something to either reduce or get rid of (4 periods a year ...
A. 30 November 2011: I was put on Birth Control Pills in 1974 for menstrual problems. Pain, heavy bleeding, irregular periods etc.
it helped a bit. I was 14 at the time and stayed on BCP till I was in my 20s... after I married and decided to have children I went off... (read in full...)
After 1000 messages should I meet this online man?
Q. Okay, I met someone from Turkey over the internet I did not ask to be his friend he asked me. to make a long story short and numerous phone calls, and 1000 messages later he says that he is in love with me, and I feel the same for him my question ...
A. 30 November 2011: Ok here is my take...
stranger things have happened
do not dismiss him JUST because he is younger or from Turkey....
but there have to be some rules
1. DO NOT give him money or pay for his trip in anyway
2. DO NOT go to his hotel ... (read in full...)
I get so close but never actually have an orgasm
Q. Slightly embarrassing but I can't seem to orgasm. My bf and I have been together about 6 months and he has made me orgasm once but it took forever. He does all the right things and I always get so so close but never actually there. Any advice? Is it ...
A. 30 November 2011: STOP trying!
seriously.
if you can't orgasm with your partner then do it without him and spend your lovemaking time ENJOYING every other aspect of it.
when he's done if you are not done, then he can "help" you finish yourself off.... there i... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is 10/11 years young than me! What shoud I do ?
Q. Hi Im 32 years and I met a 21 beautiful girl. We had our first date and we kiss each other. She said to me that she just want FUN ... After while she said that she is in love of me, because she didnt know about my personality before. I was very ...
A. 30 November 2011: I'm so sorry she is hiding behind the age as a reason for not dating.
I'm 13 years OLDER than my boyfriend and we are getting married next year...
The age is not the problem here I fear she is just not wanting to be as serious as you want to b... (read in full...)
Not sure I want to officialyl end the marriage, but I definitely want to make it legal. Any advise?
Q. I live in the state of New Hampshire and my husband and I have had a rocky relationship for quite sometime now. We have been married 14 and 1/2 yrs now. He doesn't seem to understand or want to believe that if things don't start to improve then the ...
A. 30 November 2011: a google search for New Hampshire divorce laws gives this link (among many other links):
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/newhampshire.shtml
and it says:
In order to file for a divorce, the parties must: I. Both be residents of ... (read in full...)
Why would a girl ask a guy why he doesn't flirt with her when she knows that he is in a serious relationship with a live-in girlfriend?
Q. Why would a girl ask a guy why he doesn't flirt with her when she knows that he is in a serious relationship with a live-in girlfriend? I find it strange and rather disrespectful. Is this something that people generally do? Because I don't think I ...
A. 30 November 2011: because she wants to flirt with him and wants him to flirt back?
it's not about what SHE says or does... it's got to be about how he DEALS with her... ... (read in full...)
I was just wondering once we grow apart can we get close again?
Q. Hey everyone... I am abit confused at the moment :\ i need some advice please. Me and my boyfriend have been together just over seven months and i feel that we are growning apart :( i have ask him how he feels and he said that we are fine as close...
A. 30 November 2011: all long term couples have periods of waxing and waning of affection and emotions... it's part of life.
if he's one of those guys that does not share his emotions easily he's just holding it all in as is his way.
just continue to be available ... (read in full...)
He said he "loved" me...but then he said he "liked" me and I now have doubts
Q. This is both incredibly neurotic and potentially important. I have been dating my current boyfriend for four months; we met on a dating site, immediately clicked, have great sex, and almost always spend our weekends together (with other people ...
A. 30 November 2011: You are overthinking this.
you love him and told him
he either loves you or likes you very very much and you are together on weekends with friends so you are part of each others lives...
sounds like at 4 months it's going great...
no nee... (read in full...)
Am I embarrassing him, and how do I find out if I am?
Q. I have a problem with maintaining heat, so I get cold very easily. My friend is of the opposite sex and 2 years older than me, but he is the warmest one of my friends, and when I get cold it is important that I try to stay as warm as I can so I ...
A. 30 November 2011: so then the two of you need to stop playing games and be a couple...
... (read in full...)
He still stares at me. Does my ex like me still?
Q. So, my boyfriend (ex) broke up with me, I still really like him sometimes I catch him staring at me during school, (I'm 15) I want to find out if he still likes me. any ideas how? please help me....
A. 30 November 2011: "i do still like him...i think"
you THINK?
hon you need to KNOW how you feel about him...
why would he think you are breaking up with him?
and why is your friend involved in this relationship?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dresses attractively when she goes out with her friends but when she's with me,its always the usual t-shirt and jeans
Q. Well, I've always noticed that my girlfriend dresses attractively when she goes out with her friends(of course,this includes guy friends),but when she's with me,its always t-shirt and jeans,in fact she only wears the same 3 or 4 t-shirts over and ...
A. 30 November 2011: ya know it's true I prefer comfort to dressing up but I always make sure to have pretty sexy matching bra and panties on and make sure my man sees them even if it's under the jeans and sweat shirt....
and I make sure he sees me when I get home if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps hinting for money.
Q. My boyfriend keeps asking for money indirectly. He would say my mom is not giving me money we can't date. Or he would go directly like 'can i ask you something? No leave it'. If I say tell me he would ask me. I mean I am not so rich. I don't have a ...
A. 30 November 2011: tell him you will visit him in jail....... (read in full...)
Should I go through with an abortion at 21 weeks?
Q. im 21 weeks pregnent with no family around me they all live in australia and my partner has decided to leave me and now wants nothing to do with my child and me i dont think ii can do this whole thing on my own so have recently thought about ge...
A. 30 November 2011: I am VERY pro choice... but not at 21 weeks.
I know if i was 8 weeks pregnant I could have an abortion in a second. I could NOT do it at 21 weeks and I'm a cold hearted bitch... truly... it's very hard for me to form attachments... and yet at 2... (read in full...)
I'm worried my long distance potential g/f won't wait for me
Q. My potential girlfriend lives a long way away and she wants me to come up and visit her soon, within a month or so. But the problem is that I have no job and can't afford an airline ticket. I am currently looking for a job but I'm not having much ...
A. 29 November 2011: how far apart are you?
how old is she?
how long have you been dating
like Tennisstar said you need to be able to spend time together in order to make this a viable relationship.
so what kind of money are we talking about? gas money?
a... (read in full...)
My wife called me weird for shaving my pubes. I would like to try some new things. I am incompatible with my wife.
Q. Hi, I am a male, 51, married with 2 children (early teens). I am a late developer sexually (I have a tumor of the pituitary gland which slowed me down for years - it was not discovered until I was early 30's although it had been there for many y...
A. 29 November 2011: nope not weird at all.. my 38 yr old boyfriend was totally shaved when we met... I don't like him totally shaved because he is slim of build and looks too childlike to me so he's grown a bit back and now just trims extensively...
I myself am total... (read in full...)
Could he still be pining for me?
Q. I have been single for a while and have decided to set up a dating profile, while I was browsing the guys profiles I noticed an ex of mine had a profile on there, when i looked at his ideal date he had described me.. right down to hair colour and ...
A. 29 November 2011: it seems a bit over the top but if you are interested in him it' can't hurt to say HI and see where it goes.
... (read in full...)
I'm scared because I'm starting to really like him and I think I should hold off on the sex, but our sexual chemistry is through the roof.
Q. I met this guy on an Internet dating site, we spoke on the phone for 3.5 hours before meeting up and numerous texts. We went out for a very nice dinner and made plans to see each other a couple days later. We ended up sleeping together and he ...
A. 29 November 2011: I slept with my last husband on the first date.. he still married me... so sometimes great sex is great sex.
but you can't worry about it or fret.. what's done is done.
you are wanting to close the barn door after the horse got out... no ca... (read in full...)
How do I convert this one way love into two ways?
Q. Recently , I joined dating-site and got a 49 years old American lady interested but she said she could only be good friend as I am too young for her being 30 years old. She added me on Yahoo Messenger and she looks 10 years younger than her age....
A. 29 November 2011: It's more than just your age I'm sure it's the LDR part of it as well and she's just being kind.
you have to wait to ask her to be your gf till you have met her in real life and spent some serious time with her.
get that travel visa and make... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps hinting for money.
Q. My boyfriend keeps asking for money indirectly. He would say my mom is not giving me money we can't date. Or he would go directly like 'can i ask you something? No leave it'. If I say tell me he would ask me. I mean I am not so rich. I don't have a ...
A. 29 November 2011: stop giving him money
you are 17 at most how old is this boyfriend of yours?
what you say to him when he says he needs money to date you is "oh well sorry then we can't date as I have no money to share"
it will be horrid for you at first but... (read in full...)
Am I embarrassing him, and how do I find out if I am?
Q. I have a problem with maintaining heat, so I get cold very easily. My friend is of the opposite sex and 2 years older than me, but he is the warmest one of my friends, and when I get cold it is important that I try to stay as warm as I can so I ...
A. 29 November 2011: I am always cold. even in the summer when it's HOT and folks are wearing shorts and tank tops I am in a sweater.
I suggest that you stop snuggling into this boy and wearig his coat and start carrying an extra jacket.... and wearing layers. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dresses attractively when she goes out with her friends but when she's with me,its always the usual t-shirt and jeans
Q. Well, I've always noticed that my girlfriend dresses attractively when she goes out with her friends(of course,this includes guy friends),but when she's with me,its always t-shirt and jeans,in fact she only wears the same 3 or 4 t-shirts over and ...
A. 29 November 2011: when she goes out with her friends she dresses up right?
when she goes OUT with you does she not dress up?
when I am with my man and we are just home.. it's sweats and jeans... nothing dressy... running around errands.. jeans... no heels.. ... (read in full...)
He still stares at me. Does my ex like me still?
Q. So, my boyfriend (ex) broke up with me, I still really like him sometimes I catch him staring at me during school, (I'm 15) I want to find out if he still likes me. any ideas how? please help me....
A. 29 November 2011: if he still liked you, he would not have broken up with you.
do you really like HIM or what HE represents?... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: Like EyesWideOpen said you can't do right by EVERYBODY so you have to choose who to do right by.
As a parent your responsibility is to your children. Teach them what is proper behavior in a relationship..
so staying with a man that makes you u... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 21 November 2011: only you can make this choice but it sounds over and over and over like you know what you SHOULD do and just need someone to give you the RIGHT reason to do it?
so if raising your kids to think that emotional abuse and being cruel to the woman yo... (read in full...)
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