My mom is being really overbearing regarding my wedding and it's taking a toll on me
Q. This isn't about my relationship with a partner. This is about my relationship with my mother who has been extra attached and possessive with me because my older sibling never became close to my mother and avoids her. Due to which I have always ...
A. 16 February 2019: I'd sit her down and tell her if she doesn't STOP, you and your fiance will "just" elope.
Explain that HER behavior is making you not want to do all this wedding stuff with her.
BE honest.
However, your mom IS your mom and will likely not ... (read in full...)
In a polyamorous relationship and the woman is pregnant. How do I deal with the pregnancy?
Q. I'm in a very unfamiliar type of situation and not sure where to turn for advice. I am a woman dating a married couple (FMF polyamorous triad) for about 6 months, and we have all been getting along great to where we spend most days together, and ...
A. 16 February 2019: Maybe OP, you should TALK to some of those happy 1000's who this kind of relationships works for?
You say you know many who makes this work, it might be more beneficial for you to ask people who actually live this life-style and enjoy it than peo... (read in full...)
I waited 2 years for him and now he has a girlfriend and is snubbing and ignoring me!
Q. hi cupid i saw a guy i felled in love with him i revealed to him that i loved him he asked me to give him time to feel the same way for me that we can still be friends i patiently waited for him for two years but only to find out now that he has a ...
A. 15 February 2019: Just let him go.
Don't waste your life WAITING on someone to return YOUR feelings. If someone YOU like doesn't feel the same, MOVE ON. There will be someone who WILL like you to the same degree.
Waiting for him was YOUR choice. And as i... (read in full...)
My ex was hiding something, am I right?
Q. My ex broke with me and block me from fb, after 10 days he told me he missed me, but cant be with me, but he also did not wanted to tell me where he was living etc . He kept texting trying to be friends, which I tried. He told me when we met that ...
A. 15 February 2019: Who not just GET RID of all contact and thoughts of him?
IT IS OVER. Why give him the power to roam free in your head like that? Why pretend to be friends?
He WAS probably gas-lighting you. Lying to you, so GET RID of the scumbag from you... (read in full...)
Were my comments racist?
Q. Hi everyone, I had an interesting and slightly upsetting conversation with a friend tonight. We got on to many inane topics that a few drinks brought to the surface and he asked me about my ‘type’. I explained that I am not someone to gener...
A. 15 February 2019: I don't think it has ANYTHING to do with racism hwne it comes to what a person is attracted to.
I grew up in Denmark and in my childhood through teens, I met MAYBE 3 people of African decent. (Not talking movies or music stars here but ACTUAL p... (read in full...)
Should I try to track this woman down?
Q. Hi, I'm a 32 year old man, I have gotten out of a long term relationship about 6 months ago, which lasted 10 years and a 3 year relationship prior to that. Anyway last night I met a woman that I got on with quite well and ended up kissing her. But I ...
A. 14 February 2019: Well, your ex can be mad all she wants, you REALLY didn't DO anything wrong.
But, as it turns out it might have motivated her to move out and move on, which overall will be better for ALL of you, her, you and the kids.
And who knows, you might... (read in full...)
My Nigerian husband keeps asking for money and gets upset when I question him!
Q. Hello and thanks My husband and I have been married for two years. I love in Canada and he is from Nigeria. For the most part he treats me well he is very charismatic. Tells me he loves me many times predates. I’m working on his permanent vi...
A. 14 February 2019: When I hear Nigeria, all I think think is SCAMMMMM!!!
Because Nigeria is one of the TOP nations known for scamming, ESPECIALLY "romance scamming". Why are you giving him THAT much money? Why not save it up for vacations, buying a house, a car, som... (read in full...)
I wish I could end all contact with my toxic mother!
Q. I feel so much hatred towards my ‘mother’ but I can’t cut her off because she threatens to kill herself. To put things into perspective, I am in my mid thirties now with a teenage boy who luckily doesn’t know the half of it. He just knows I don’t ...
A. 13 February 2019: If this post was written by a friend, WHAT would you advice?
You know FULL well that your mother WILL never change, THIS is who she is. Tormenting you is as much of a habit as it is a vice for her. She hates you for it and loves to do it to you. ... (read in full...)
My ex unblocked me but didn’t contact me?!
Q. My ex and i broke up 4 monthes ago , he broke up with me , i kept begging and pleading until he blocked me on everything, after that i decided to go no contact after 1 month of no contact I realized that he has unblocked me on facebook ( we have ...
A. 13 February 2019: He is doing the "test" thing.
If you contact him, HE wins.
OP, If he was really interested in getting back with you he would have reached out.
WHY are you even still friends with him on Facebook and have him on whatsapp? He DUMPED you!... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a relationship to push away the feelings for my best friend?
Q. I'm majorly confused here and need some kindly advice. I've fancied my best friend for over a year now, we share a house at uni together and often hang out and have a lot of fun. However, she does a have a boyfriend who she goes home to see every ...
A. 13 February 2019: Perhaps people can't "help" who they fall in love with or feel attracted to, THEY do have the ability to TAKE CONTROL.
This "friend" of yours is not really a friend. You fancy her, she KNOWS it and uses you as her "almost" stand-in BF while aw... (read in full...)
He decided to stop seeing me and I don’t know what to believe!
Q. I have been dating a guy for three months. Tonight he split up with me. He's 37, I'm 35. He is separated but married and wife is in a different town and they are getting divorced. I'm recently out a relationship too so I saw this as a bit of fun ...
A. 13 February 2019: I'd say LEARN from this, OP
And don't make the same mistake twice.
HE IS STILL MARRIED. Separated means little. (legally) And someone who is "just" separated still has some emotional and "other" baggage to sort out BEFORE they should ever cons... (read in full...)
Our sex life shouldn’t be this dull!
Q. Hi my partner and I have been together for 5 years our sex life has never been amazing it’s always just been boring even when I suggest something new he’s not interested we haven’t had sex now for 6 weeks so I knew he was up to something I looked at ...
A. 12 February 2019: If he refuses to talk, how can you two "fix" or negotiate anything?
I mean there are times when my husband and I disagree on something and I need time to think it over. He gives me time, but I don't ignore him or the issue. Because I'm not a ki... (read in full...)
Are their comments a sign of insecurity? How do I reply to them?
Q. I admit this question is more of a curiosity than anything, but I ask because I've heard it a lot lately from my female coworkers and friends. They say things like, I'm old (49) or I look old, or my personal favorite, "one advantage of working in a ...
A. 12 February 2019: Could be their sense of humor.
Most people who OFTEN make derogative statements about their looks might BE looking for a compliment, a cheer me up, PLEASE, not necessarily because they are insecure. They might however have a day where they wok... (read in full...)
Our sex life shouldn’t be this dull!
Q. Hi my partner and I have been together for 5 years our sex life has never been amazing it’s always just been boring even when I suggest something new he’s not interested we haven’t had sex now for 6 weeks so I knew he was up to something I looked at ...
A. 11 February 2019: You have the sex life you have chosen. UP to a point. You have stayed with him even if sex was MEEH and now non-existent.
If you tel la guy that your sex life with him is boring, no wonder he clams up.
As for the porn, well 4 times a week doe... (read in full...)
Do I not deserve my life too?
Q. I'm a mother of 2 children ages 12 and 17. My ex husband and I divorced about 10 years ago. He was never really present in my children's lives until a few years ago when he realized I found a boyfriend and was afraid my boyfriend will take his ...
A. 11 February 2019: Once you have kids you kind of "sacrifice" having "your own life" at least... until they are out the door. Nothing new there. In some cultures (looking at you Italians lol) the BOYS stay with mom/parents until they marry, which can be their late ... (read in full...)
Should I try to track this woman down?
Q. Hi, I'm a 32 year old man, I have gotten out of a long term relationship about 6 months ago, which lasted 10 years and a 3 year relationship prior to that. Anyway last night I met a woman that I got on with quite well and ended up kissing her. But I ...
A. 11 February 2019: Most women who kisses a guy on a night out, is not looking for a friend.
I get that you would like female company (other than your ex) but it sounds more like you would like to get to know her and basically put her on a "friendship shelf" until yo... (read in full...)
Should I try to track this woman down?
Q. Hi, I'm a 32 year old man, I have gotten out of a long term relationship about 6 months ago, which lasted 10 years and a 3 year relationship prior to that. Anyway last night I met a woman that I got on with quite well and ended up kissing her. But I ...
A. 11 February 2019: Good Lord, if your EX is still living with you... then I'll give you an even bigger no to start looking for a new lady love.
HAVE something to OFFER a woman before you start pursuing them. And if you are on good terms with your ex, then KEEP it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is preoccupied with his size and performance
Q. Recently my B/f has become paronoid about not being able to please me. He ususaly lasts a min or two and then that is it. Plus he worries that as he isnt as big as he would like to be that I might not be enjoying our love life as much as I could. ...
A. 10 February 2019: I agree with Youcannotbeserious,
And I will add this. THIS is HIS insecurity. YOU can't fix it. NOTHING you will say will make him stop this behavior.
It's something HE needs to work through.
And I would NIP every attempt he makes to put ... (read in full...)
My ex changed my Netflix avatar on his account
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend split up with me a couple of weeks ago and i have not heard from him (we had a fall out) He has a Netflix account and he has himself, my daughter and me on it with our names which have always been under a square blank...
A. 10 February 2019: Then ask him?
You might get a MUCH clearer answer than any guess that we strangers online can come up with?
... (read in full...)
I just found out my girlfriend doesn't like her breasts touched during sex
Q. i been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 5-6 years and i love her very much and i just founded out that she doesn't like it when i touch or caressed or fondle her breast when we were being intimate or playful she say it makes her feel ...
A. 10 February 2019: You can't think of OTHER things to do than fondle her boobs?
A woman has PLENTY of erogenous zones or areas... How about you find some that SHE also enjoys being stimulated?
Let's say she likes to, I don't know... smack your penis hard. And... (read in full...)
Should I try to track this woman down?
Q. Hi, I'm a 32 year old man, I have gotten out of a long term relationship about 6 months ago, which lasted 10 years and a 3 year relationship prior to that. Anyway last night I met a woman that I got on with quite well and ended up kissing her. But I ...
A. 10 February 2019: Nope.
Why do I say that?
You aren't over your ex. So chasing after this new women isn't fair on HER as you aren't really ready to be anything to her, not even casually as you felt guilty over a kiss.
Work on moving forward. Make improvemen... (read in full...)
My ex changed my Netflix avatar on his account
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend split up with me a couple of weeks ago and i have not heard from him (we had a fall out) He has a Netflix account and he has himself, my daughter and me on it with our names which have always been under a square blank...
A. 10 February 2019: Nothing. Maybe he just figured out how to change the avatar.
My question to you is... why are you still using HIS account if you are not dating?... (read in full...)
In a polyamorous relationship and the woman is pregnant. How do I deal with the pregnancy?
Q. I'm in a very unfamiliar type of situation and not sure where to turn for advice. I am a woman dating a married couple (FMF polyamorous triad) for about 6 months, and we have all been getting along great to where we spend most days together, and ...
A. 10 February 2019: I have to say, I held back on answering because I feel like, Youcannotbeserious that this is NOT a poly relationship, you ARE the third wheel, an add on or should I say a sexual entertainment add on.
I could never and would never INTRUDE ... (read in full...)
Should I be doubling my efforts to become a social media butterfly? Should I just be me and hope she accepts it?
Q. I am quite shy and not a big talker. I’m also (I think) thoughtful and an excellent listener. I seem to get along well with extroverted women who talk enough for the both of us and appreciate my attentiveness. I’ve had a few relationships (lasting ...
A. 9 February 2019: I honestly am NOT a big texter (or caller). Most of the texts I send to my husband are please pick up some milk (or whatever) on your way home. Or to let him know the kids have friends over. I text my kids if they have to take the school bus home ... (read in full...)
He's not as into me as I am into him. What now?
Q. i probably know what i should do but id still like some advice. I have been 'dating' a guy for 4 month we dont always get to see each other every week due to work and other commitments. We spend time at each others places but we had a massive talk ...
A. 8 February 2019: If he is more concerned with "protecting his feelings" he isn't really ready to date seriously.
If you (general you) don't take a risk, you won't really be able to partake in a relationship.
So, no I don't think that excuse is significant as f... (read in full...)
I am looking for your counsel how to break away from this man.
Q. Two years ago my (60) boyfriend’s EX cheated on him... while dejected and feeling “dirty about all women” his buddies asked him along on their overseas holiday. There my BF hired a sex-worker for the duration. While I appreciate his honesty in t...
A. 8 February 2019: Just be plain and simple with him and tell him I don't see the two of us being a good match long term, I wish you well and have a nice life. Or say, YOU have decided HE isn't WHAT you are looking for.
then you BLOCK his number and move on.
Y... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of my to ask for her number? Am I now the creepy old man?!
Q. Hi all, I have always personally thought that age differences in relationships don’t really matter (within obvious parameters) as each person is individual and if you love someone then you love someone. However I have always considered the id...
A. 8 February 2019: I think she was more surprised than anything. She (and you) were there for a job interview NOT for a group date or to pick up someone....
Having banter and a chit chat doesn't means she was interested in you at all.
So HAD she been me, I would... (read in full...)
I think this is not acceptable and he thinks I’m overreacting!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a Log Distance Relationship for several years now. We just saw each other this past week. We do have plans to be together physically within the next year or so. Tonight, I received a call and then a text from him that...
A. 8 February 2019: I think your BF wants to live the "single life style" and since you physically live far from him, he kind of is.
The fact that he called YOU to have YOU answer HER question, I think says it all. He wants to impress her, he went to go eat in a mid... (read in full...)
My friend’s study habits really bother me and may affect my education!
Q. So this isn’t anything to do with love but I don’t know who else to ask. I am currently in my second year of university and have made some incredible friends, throughout the first year they pushed me to achieve the best grades so when coming to g...
A. 7 February 2019: Keep projects for school and friends separate. Especially if they have a rather low performance rate.
Someone can be a super great friend but a lousy project buddy.
Find people you CAN rely on to work as HARD as you or go solo for as much of i... (read in full...)
My partner babysits his grandchildren and leaves me to fend for myself, after I’ve worked 14 hour days!
Q. I work full time and am up at 420am each day. I often work until 6pm. I have a two hour break in between where I can come home then return to work. My partner is retired and spends his time at home. I do most of the cleaning on the weekends, the ...
A. 7 February 2019: Why not spend a day doing meal prep for the week? Do it together. That way you know it gets done and what yu are having for the week.
It sounds like you are more upset that he is helping out his daughter and spending time with his grandchi... (read in full...)
On the one hand her behaviour is awful and she's constantly picking up fights but on the other hand she's very keen on moving in together! What's going on here?
Q. Hi I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. We're making plans to move in together soon. Everything was pretty much perfect until about 6 months ago when she started picking fights with me and usually there wasn't a clear reason, nothing I had do...
A. 7 February 2019: On one hand there are a LOT of red flags here and on the other... an impatient girl and... you.
I think you need to ASK her straight up what's going on.
And I would ALSO talk about holding off on moving in together. These is NOT good signs, ... (read in full...)
He's not as into me as I am into him. What now?
Q. i probably know what i should do but id still like some advice. I have been 'dating' a guy for 4 month we dont always get to see each other every week due to work and other commitments. We spend time at each others places but we had a massive talk ...
A. 7 February 2019:
I DO think it's OK that ONE of you (him) is trying to just go with the flow and enjoying it, rather than wanting to focus on "the future". Because it IS only 5 months in. WHAT do you really expect at 4 months?
However, if someone told me "I p... (read in full...)
I fear I will fall apart because of the distance that his military life has created
Q. My boyfriend left a few weeks ago to study at the army’s university for four years until he finishes his course and begins a full time job as an officer. I spent the last couple of years of my life by his side day in day out without ever spe...
A. 7 February 2019: First of all, Easter is only 2 months away, not 6.
Second of all, YOU need to work on yourself JUST as HE is working on HIMSELF and HIS career options.
Yes, you are young. But that could also mean that you are more adaptable than someone muc... (read in full...)
She kissed another man and my feelings will never be the same!
Q. I and my gf were in a close relationship for 2 years and recently we moved to our respective cities and were in a long distance relationship for 5 months...and one fine day she called me and told that a guy kissed her in a weak moment and she didn't ...
A. 6 February 2019: So, the reason you know is because you saw her message, which mean YOU went through her phone or social media.
She didn't TELL you which means she probably doesn't feel much remorse about this, only that she got caught. Sure, she is sorry...... (read in full...)
Why was my boyfriend so weird about his phone? Is he trying to hide something from me?
Q. I was at my boyfriends been together two years and I went to sit down on the bed and saw his phone there so picked it up to move it as soon as I picked it up he snatched it out my hand now I am thinking is he hiding something from me? Has anyone got ...
A. 6 February 2019: I thin k Cindy clarified what I was thinking too.
I don't "guard" my phone, but I also don't like others to grab it or fiddle with it (unless I have asked for that). My kids put Pokemon Go on my old phone (because their old ones didn't support ... (read in full...)
Why do people ignore me and focus on my husband? Why am I always invisible?
Q. When my husband and I are out people address him only . Even today for example a guide at a gallery approached us to to speak and addressed the whole talk to husband even though he showed limited interest and I showed interest . My husband had said...
A. 6 February 2019: I think it is situational.
For some (like a guide giving a tour) it might be that he is trying to "act" political correct and NOT look too much at the ladies.
Others are GROWN people who are not very good in social situations with people of t... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to move out while he's away at the wedding
Q. I am having severe mixed feelings . My fiancé and I have been together 3 years (engaged for 9 months now) . Long story short things were extremely on and off for the first two years until he finally realized what he had and asked me to marry him . ...
A. 5 February 2019: While I agree with you Anon Female,
Who on Earth would want to go to a wedding of someone who CLEARLY hates (or seriously dislike you)? Why? Having to spend HOURS being fake? Not for the life of me would I want to go. I do GET why the brother ... (read in full...)
Do you think that sounds like she is looking for sex?
Q. Hi I met a girl online and on the same day she suggested I could visit her, stay in a hotel and she would spend the night with me. She says she wants something more than just a hookup. I'm really not sure what is going on here. Do you think that sou...
A. 5 February 2019: Oh this just came to me as well,
WHAT if she is a girl, but UNDER AGE? You just have NO idea of the kind of trouble this can lead to.
Getting to know someone online isn't ALWAYS something sinister or bad, but I think planning to book a hotel ... (read in full...)
I’ve lost steam! Any advice?
Q. I’m struggling to find motivation. I lost my job 9 months ago. I have been unable to find one, I found part time work, and that kept me going. I gave up my usual life to live frugally. I made some excuses to friends, as I cannot afford thier ac...
A. 5 February 2019: Oh and I forgot to mention, look into Temp services.
I was out of work for a couple of months and contacted a Temp Agency, all of a sudden I got offered job after job after job, just by having been a temp for 2-3 weeks.
... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual and I have a girlfriend but I develop deep, emotional but non-sexual bonds with much older women. Why does this happen?
Q. Hi everyone! Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this. I'm not sure my question belongs on a relationship site, but this is seems like the most suited place I've come across so far so I'm just gonna give it a try. I'm a bisexual (or pan...
A. 5 February 2019: I think the only "problem" you may have is that you keep these "not-really-friendships" a part from your relationship with your partner. While you might TELL your partner ABOUT these women, you don't introduce them and "treat" them like you would a ... (read in full...)
Do you think that sounds like she is looking for sex?
Q. Hi I met a girl online and on the same day she suggested I could visit her, stay in a hotel and she would spend the night with me. She says she wants something more than just a hookup. I'm really not sure what is going on here. Do you think that sou...
A. 5 February 2019: I'd be vary too.
What if this isn't a girl, but a dude?
I think you should LOOK for a a girl to date closer to home, someone you can get to know IN PERSON, not over the Internet or phone or apps.
It doesn't sound like a good idea at all.... (read in full...)
I’ve lost steam! Any advice?
Q. I’m struggling to find motivation. I lost my job 9 months ago. I have been unable to find one, I found part time work, and that kept me going. I gave up my usual life to live frugally. I made some excuses to friends, as I cannot afford thier ac...
A. 5 February 2019: Like Code Warrior so wisely said,
DO NOT have any ZERO days. So do SOMETHING EVERY day. Spending 16 hours in bed will get you nowhere, and you know it.
Life isn't going to show up at your doorstep and give you a job you want, success or make ... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to move out while he's away at the wedding
Q. I am having severe mixed feelings . My fiancé and I have been together 3 years (engaged for 9 months now) . Long story short things were extremely on and off for the first two years until he finally realized what he had and asked me to marry him . ...
A. 2 February 2019: The thing is OP, SHE can like or dislike you as much as she wants, SHE is entitled to her own opinion of you. Maybe... the reason she dislike you is because she felt YOU hurt HER brother. After all, all she went by is what HE told her.
Shoul... (read in full...)
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