I'm an unhappy married man attracted to a woman at work
Q. i am a unhappily married man who is very attracted to a beautiful young lady at work. at first it seemed that she was and maybe i hope she still is attracted to me. but lately i am very attracted to her and pay attention to her as much as i can with ...
A. 2 July 2019: You aren't single, so not only is it WRONG to pursue this young pretty coworker, it's also wrong towards your wife.
Stop thinking with your dick.
IF your marriage is not working and makes you unhappy, FIX that first. Figure out if the marriage ... (read in full...)
Possible three years affair between my boyfriend and my close friend, is she lying?
Q. My boyfriend and I got drunk at a mutual friend's party. She's supposed to be my friend but I had always had some feeling ever since I've been with my boyfriend and also with my ex she used to be a very flirty friend since I can remember. Long ago I ...
A. 30 June 2019: Instead of worrying about what HE or SHE is thinking or might be thinking or whatnot... SPEND your time thinking on YOUR next move. What YOU need and want to do next. YOU CAN NOT control anything they do, say, think or feel - only how you react to ... (read in full...)
My ex and I had a big fight and have to be together for a week and a 15 hour car ride. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. its a bit long. I'm feeling a bit bewildered, hurt and pretty angry all at the same time. I have just had the weirdest experience with my now ex, all of 20 minutes ago, best ...
A. 30 June 2019: Go and be there for the kids. After all, THAT is why the trip is planned.
Being a book and honestly, IGNORE him. (without being childish about it)
I can see both sides. I can see the competitive side where you (he) wants the kids to win. The... (read in full...)
My sister demanded 1/2 the take when I worked alone all day. Is this right?
Q. Hi people. My sister found a place after my dad asking us where we can sell stuff for the summer to make extra cash to pay for school. Last week on a certain day she helped me set up and left. I was there all day from 9am to 7pm without a toilet o...
A. 30 June 2019: What did you agree on BEFORE?
That she would get half? What did you sell? HER stuff?
It's hard to say, but generally, I'd say no, she doesn't get 1/2 IF the stuff wasn't mainly hers and she didn't help out selling the stuff.
Maybe ask your ... (read in full...)
I think I really insulted my bf....how should I fix this?
Q. A few days ago my bf came home from work and he came into our bedroom where I was reading/studying and to get my attention he took his penis out and wanted me to play with it....I told him to go away bc I was busy. When he came back to bed a few ...
A. 29 June 2019: Don't you think it's time to walk away?
He is trying to manipulate you into doing things HE wants to do, regardless of whether YOU want to or not. As for you still cooking and cleaning, well.. I'm sure he appreciate the "free" maid service.... (read in full...)
Is it worth for me to get into a relationship if I feel that the man will inevitably lose interest?
Q. I am having trouble dealing with the thought that it seems no matter how good a relationship or marriage or how beautiful a woman or how well she looks after herself it seem that everything I hear about read and see in real life it’s ineveitavke ...
A. 27 June 2019: Ever heard of self-fulfilling prophecies?
Is that what you fear?
Yes, men are very visual. So, are some women. There isn't a cookie cutter for men... or women.
No one is going to be in a bed of roses for 10-60 years in a marriage or relatio... (read in full...)
Possible three years affair between my boyfriend and my close friend, is she lying?
Q. My boyfriend and I got drunk at a mutual friend's party. She's supposed to be my friend but I had always had some feeling ever since I've been with my boyfriend and also with my ex she used to be a very flirty friend since I can remember. Long ago I ...
A. 26 June 2019: You say you KNOW something happened between then, does it really what that was? (as in, do you really NEED details?)
What makes me go hmmm... is that she still flirts with him, talk to him and have conversations with him EXCLUDING you. That doe... (read in full...)
My insecurities are making me wonder if I should make things official with him or just break up?
Q. I've been dating a guy for about 9 months who's 20 years older than me. I've been taking it slow because I was married for 7 years before this and I've been a bit nervous about a new relationship after my husband cheated on me (resulting in the ...
A. 24 June 2019: In those 9 months you have been together, have you met any of "all" these women he chats with?
Have you been introduced as the GF?
Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that you will never get hurt again by someone. All you CAN do is try an... (read in full...)
I am in love with my cousin that is 10 years older than me
Q. I just wanna let u know I’m 17 and my cousin she’s 27! I know this is going to sound like a very crazy story and looking at the ages I know. Me and my cousin love to mess with each other it’s our??? thing! As time went I had feelings for her and ...
A. 23 June 2019: Being Muslim doesn't make it OK to be with your cousin. It's OK to MARRY your cousin. Which is a WHOLE other thing.
You think having sex with her once will somehow make you not want it anymore... which isn't realistic.
And NO ONE here can giv... (read in full...)
We are both married but how do I let go of this man who is my real love?
Q. This is going to sound ridiculous and like me and this other person are the worst people in the world. I am married, but separated and this man is married with kids. We have been talking for quite some time now. We have never done anything sexually ...
A. 23 June 2019: How do you cope?
You work on YOURSELF. You work on finding what makes you happy (within you and things like family ,friends, sports, hobbies)
TAKE that year that the law requires, to do just that.
Being separated doesn't mean being singl... (read in full...)
Upset with my friends putting me in the middle of a mess
Q. Am I right to be upset with my friends on this? I help coach some softball teams for my local area. I try to help setup teams and find people to play on all the nights. My problems began a couple months ago when two of my friends(from different ...
A. 23 June 2019: Replace them both. ASAP.
Tell your friend that drama is not helping the teams and you want NO part in their drama, so they can either stay on their respective teams or both be replaced.
That is what I would do.
I don't think you should f... (read in full...)
I lied to my ex boyfriend about my pregnancy
Q. i lied to my ex boyfriend about my pregnancy and i wanna now how i can get him to talk to me again its so hard not to think about him i can't get no sleep at night cause all i do is think about him what should i do i need help....
A. 23 June 2019: I'm with Cindy,
We need more info to give you answers. You post is way to vague.
... (read in full...)
My ex gave me money with no strings attached to buy land but my husband is upset
Q. I have been married for four years... But we stay in our father inlaws house. My husband has a job but doesn't know how to manage his finances..so we haven't invested much. More so his growing old and is to retire in the next 10years. We have two ...
A. 23 June 2019: I think you should have talked to your husband first.
I can see why your husband is upset. You don't see him as a good provider (which apparently, HE isn't) and you went to ANOTHER man who just gave you money.
If I were you I would have put t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend expects me to cut his family's hair for free since I will soon be a hairdresser
Q. I'm about to qualify as a hairdresser and my bf if expects me to cut his families hair for free otherwise he says it will be awkward? He has a large family and I've spent nearly a year and half working for apprenticeship wage. Am I right to be ...
A. 23 June 2019: You say no,
DID his family PAY for you to become a hairdresser?
What you can do is OFFER a "discount" for family but then ONLY cut their hair outside of the salon.
YOU DO NOT owe his family free haircuts, that is ridiculous.
It won't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and my friend/roommate are way too close for comfort! Should I be concerned and who should I be upset with?
Q. I've been seeing this this young girl for couple months now. Very passionate with each other sex is great! She says I love you and so do I and I do love her.we started out as friends.. anyway, recently I moved in with my friend into a two-bedroom ...
A. 22 June 2019: I had to check your age, because I just don't see ADULTS who are dating seriously breaking up over little things after ONLY a couple of months... THAT is teenager stuff!
The reason she said :"she wishes that her boyfriend would be friends was her ... (read in full...)
Why does a man with a perfect girlfriend still feel the need to have sex with someone else?
Q. I'd like to know WHY a man can have sex with two women at the same time? I don't mean a threesome. But having two sexual relationships concurrently. One of the relationships is with a woman he's been with for 6 years and he supposedly loves...
A. 22 June 2019: Why do you presume that it's the WOMAN who isn't "good enough?"
MAYBE, just maybe HE isn't as good of a BF as SHE deserves! Maybe he does it because he thinks he can get away with it.
And why on EARTH would a woman STICK it out for 6 years with... (read in full...)
Why does a man with a perfect girlfriend still feel the need to have sex with someone else?
Q. I'd like to know WHY a man can have sex with two women at the same time? I don't mean a threesome. But having two sexual relationships concurrently. One of the relationships is with a woman he's been with for 6 years and he supposedly loves...
A. 22 June 2019: Why do you presume that it's the WOMAN who isn't "good enough?"
MAYBE... (read in full...)
She didn't answer should I call again or just move on?
Q. So I called her a few days after getting her message. I'll probably see her again at some point but the bottom line is she didn't answer and from what I've seen it's really a mixed bag when it comes to calling vs. texting. So, if she didn't answer ...
A. 22 June 2019: If you WANT to talk to her, then shoot her a text saying:" hey, I tried calling you to see if you were up for doing XYZ (insert whatever plan you had) this weekend but I guess you were busy, maybe we can make plans for NEXT weekend if you are ... (read in full...)
They are both my friends do I tell her that he's going to a swingers club?
Q. Hi everyone, Around a year ago I found my very close friend on a popular swingers site. He’s my best mate and I’m also pretty close with his girlfriend. They’ve been together for a few years now and have a serious relationship, house, engageme...
A. 22 June 2019: I'd talk to him first.
Ask him if she knows, and if she doesn't WHY he thinks it's OK to do when in a relationship. Just a guy to guy chat.
Though you DO have to remember you are not the morality police that needs to "enforce" the "laws" of a ... (read in full...)
We are both married but how do I let go of this man who is my real love?
Q. This is going to sound ridiculous and like me and this other person are the worst people in the world. I am married, but separated and this man is married with kids. We have been talking for quite some time now. We have never done anything sexually ...
A. 22 June 2019: It's still a fantasy. For both of you.
And no, you don't know your boundaries, at all. At least HE doesn't. HE is still married and living with his wife, so really he has NO business "courting" you.
I will cut you a little more slack than him, ... (read in full...)
Am I right in just leaving him to it?
Q. Hi all I’ve asked for advice before the same guy and found it really helpful so I was wondering if I could run this passed you also x So ... basically work together sometimes , he split from wife six months ago after bad times ... started se...
A. 22 June 2019: Best to just leave him be.
He might "think" he is ready but in all likelihood he isn't. AT LEAST you won't be the rebound. Saying he is single and ready to mingle might just be him trying to sound confident.
Just chalk it up to a mistake, and n... (read in full...)
Why is there so much pressure for women to stay youthful?
Q. As I am getting older I’m finding that outside influences make me conscious of my aging and like there is somehow something wrong with me or less attractive about me because I’m a woman getting older. It seems that every se one ad on is about how to ...
A. 21 June 2019: It all comes down to reproduction. It's not JUST entirely about commercials or superficiality. It's biology. It's evolution. It's life.
OLD men can still father children, OLD women can't.
I'm 50 and don't GIVE a SINGLY flying F about whether ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my husband that his adult daughter is putting terrible things about him on social media?
Q. Do I tell my husband or not that his adult daughter is putting nasty things on social media about him, things like he's not been around for years and other horrible stuff, which is untrue we took her out for dinner last weekend! I am assuming it's ...
A. 21 June 2019: Have you talked to her?
I mean she is an ADULT. So why not go to her first and ask her what is up with that "smear campaign" of hers?
Then (depending on her answer and reactions) I would perhaps talk to him, but I would ALSO block her feeds ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has grown more distant as my pregnancy goes on. Is he no longer interested?
Q. Hi so my boyfriend of a year and a half and I got pregnant recently. At the beginning when we found out he was so supportive going to appointments, helping me figure out what is going to happen with our living situation etc. Everything recently ...
A. 21 June 2019: There can be several reason why he is acting the way he is. However, ONLY he knows... we can ONLY guess.
Maybe he feels overwhelmed? Or feel "useless"?
Maybe he doesn't really feel PART of it all, yet?
Maybe he regrets?
It's hard to... (read in full...)
How do I handle my husband's annoying best friend?
Q. My bf of 5 years has a friend who I can get on with but he's a bit annoying. Recently his friend came to stay for 5 days and it was very testing for me. It's one of his best friend's so I just smile and get on with it while he critisizes my cooking ...
A. 21 June 2019: Once the "friend" is gone HAVE a chat with your husband.
If he is still there... JUST let the two o them go out and see sights, you DO NOT have to hang with this friend. TAKE a break, visit your sister or call and talk with her.
If someone cr... (read in full...)
Do I give up my baby dream
Q. I joined a dating site last year and after a few bad dates i found a guy that was perfect we had several dates loads in common enjoy each others company but he decided to tell me hed rather be friends with benefits. I agreed but now im unsure what ...
A. 21 June 2019: I'd let this one go.
It seems he doesn't SEE you as relationship material, JUST someone to TALK to, HANG with and have SEX with. Basically HE gets the GF, experience with you WITHOUT having to commit. Which also means... when he DOES find someone ... (read in full...)
He thinks I like his best friend but I like him. Its a mess!
Q. He thinks I like his friend yet I like him. We were attracted to each other and we knew it..but we didn't talk about it. His friend who is more out going and social asked me out and I told him I am not interested in a relationship but we can be ...
A. 20 June 2019: I'd leave them both alone for a GOOD long while.
If the guy you LIKE "hate your guts" and ignores you... then WHY are you not taking the HINT?
HE isn't interested. And his friend... only wants to play games.
It DOES sound like High School d... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boyfriend's best friend!
Q. I just need some advice on a situation I am overwhelmed by. im not sure how common this situation is , I don't want to be judged I just need some help. so the situation is this. I have been with my boyfriend for four years, our relationship has...
A. 20 June 2019: You know, OP you will meet people who seem to be "just" that great person for you, sometimes they are and sometimes they are not.
IF you pursue this there are a few scenarios I can see happening.
1. He rejects the idea. (because he care... (read in full...)
Should I cave in and help out a friend or not?
Q. I have a longtime friend… maybe some of you have one just like her… someone who’s funny, interesting and… always needs something. Here’s some background: Over the years I helped her a lot. The last time she needed help big time, I ended up doi...
A. 20 June 2019: OP, my advice?
Keep the discussion of this with the "mutual" friend to a minimum. Just stick to the " I don't have the time". Because if the "mutual" will tell YOU about the other friend complaining, she might also tell her what you said... ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband address me as his wife?
Q. Hello and thank you My husband addresses me as his girl , his babe, his baby on social media but never his wife. We are legally married. I'm not sure of I'm over thinking or getting upset over the title. His girl to me means girlfriend. I ha...
A. 19 June 2019: Should you be offended?
I don't know. It seems a bit much to be OFFENDED over what he calls you on social media. I mean AFTER ALL don't the people who are his friends on social media KNOW you are his wife?
If you RATHER he uses to term wife, as... (read in full...)
My boyfriends contact with other girls makes me very insecure
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year now. I’m 19 he’s 22. Up until about three months ago he had been in communication with his obsessive ex, texted her and talked on the phone with her once because she had some drama about ...
A. 19 June 2019: Why are you with him?
He doesn't respect you and quite frankly.. calls you boring. So HIS excuse it it's OK to say hey to other women. Do you REALLY think it stops at hello?
He is looking for greener grass. To boost his OWN ego by talking to ot... (read in full...)
Should I cave in and help out a friend or not?
Q. I have a longtime friend… maybe some of you have one just like her… someone who’s funny, interesting and… always needs something. Here’s some background: Over the years I helped her a lot. The last time she needed help big time, I ended up doi...
A. 19 June 2019: *chuckles*
Yes, you did the right thing. She "tried" to throw hints for you to volunteer and you didn't take the bait.
You don't OWE her any work. Not for free.
IT it HER JOB to DO her job and unless she can PAY you for your time, I think i... (read in full...)
I am upset that my friend is moving and I don't know what to say to her
Q. I'm in a really bad mood with my friend because she is moving. She is going to her bfs country to visit family. I haven't spoke to her in a few weeks because I'm really annoyed and I don't want to lose my friend but I know she will go and I don't ...
A. 18 June 2019: You can still be friends even if she lives far away. I have friends from back home from my college days (so 25+ years ago) that I still keep in contact with even though we are 4,000 miles apart. And I made friends while living down South, people I ... (read in full...)
Are straight people welcome in gay clubs or not?
Q. Recently my gay friend invited me to accompany him to the gay club. I'm straight and I was kind of in two minds about it. I'm not homophobic at all but somehow I felt like I don't belong in there and as a straight person, I shouldn't occupy places ...
A. 18 June 2019: Gay clubs are MADE for gay people to give them a "safe space" to make connections - PRIMARILY.
Doesn't mean you aren't welcome, I would guess. However, from my experience you will also find that SOME (not all) gay men are WAY more tactile if inter... (read in full...)
Should I stay and see how we can manage this for the sake of love or should I walk away?
Q. Hi there, I am in a very difficult situation right now, due to the fact that my boyfriend is dealing with something very hard for him, my boyfriend is older than (quite older) I am 30, he is 47, he is divorced from 6 years ago, he came to this ...
A. 17 June 2019: Staying with him will change nothing.
He will continue to be at her beck and call, not just because he promised her dad but because HE gets something out of it.
YOU will ALWAYS be a lower priority than her.
Move out, move on. Find someone yo... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with a woman 30 years younger than me with a boyfriend
Q. I fell in love with a woman 30 years younger than me i behave she is my true love we have spend hours talking about everything but she treats me like a dad i think about her day and night her a boy friend\ fiance lives with her he hurts and abuse ...
A. 17 June 2019: I think you need to leave her be.
YOU want to be her knight in shining armor, but she rather stay with the turd in tinfoil, so leave her be.
You aren't the one she wants, and you can "save" her.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have to say hello to every young blonde woman that he sees?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for two years now but every time we are out walking when a young woman passes by he says hello I don't understand this as I don't say hello to random young men or women passing by and it really winds me up. He says he's just ...
A. 15 June 2019: He isn't going to stop.
THAT much is certain, he even told you that.
Yes, I think you are overreacting. But I also think he does needle you on purpose. Because HE knows it bothers you.
DOES it make you FEEL like you are "replaceable" with a... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not want to contact my only remaining family?
Q. Hi, I’l l try and keep this short. I am not angry or sad. If anything I feel at piece. However, recently some mutual friends have started pressuring me into reconnecting with my family and I know they mean well, but… I just do not feel th...
A. 15 June 2019: I don't see why you NEED to contact them. You have obviously done fine without them for 20 years, and they without you.
There is a saying that we don't get to pick family. Genetically, that is true. And for some they would do anything for family b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly quits jobs and I'm tired of picking up the financial slack
Q. Been together almost 5 yrs. We live together and have a joint bank account. I have been working for the same company for 2 years now, full time, doing about 50 hrs per week. About one year ago he suddenly quit the job he had been with for a long ...
A. 14 June 2019: He is your BF, NOT your husband. YOU do not OWE him to take care of him financially and cover HIS slack constantly, NO wonder you are stressed!
First off. GET your own bank account ASAP. NO need to SHARE finances if he DOESN'T really pitch in... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend lying about the period he was depressed and about how things were with his ex wife?
Q. My boyfriend has told me a few times that the years he was with his ex wife he was miserable and it was the worst time in his life (we have been together two years, they divorced over ten years ago) The other day while I was driving I asked ...
A. 13 June 2019: I don't think you will EVER get past him having had a marriage and a wife before dating you.
I think you "suffer" from Retroactive Jealousy.
(here is some info about that)
https://psychcent... (read in full...)
How do I deal with post-breakup loneliness?
Q. My ex-fiance and I were together for three years. I was very upset and lost shortly after the breakup. However, as soon as I moved out a few days later, I was neutral/happy. The pressure had been lifted and this neutral/lighthearted feeling lasted ...
A. 13 June 2019: How do you put in pants, OP?
ONE leg at a time, right?
SAME with life, take it ONE day at a time.
Finding a hobby is not a bad idea, doesn't mean you have to jump in with both feet and be "consumed" by that hobby.
Journaling is another o... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have to say hello to every young blonde woman that he sees?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for two years now but every time we are out walking when a young woman passes by he says hello I don't understand this as I don't say hello to random young men or women passing by and it really winds me up. He says he's just ...
A. 12 June 2019: OP, that is crazy that he can't say hi to a passer by without you going nuts. Seriously!
And the reason he won't stop is because you are acting like an insecure control freak.
My husband is the same in that regard, he will say hello if someone... (read in full...)
I think I really insulted my bf....how should I fix this?
Q. A few days ago my bf came home from work and he came into our bedroom where I was reading/studying and to get my attention he took his penis out and wanted me to play with it....I told him to go away bc I was busy. When he came back to bed a few ...
A. 28 May 2019: Well, I think YOU need to consider what you REALLY want here.
And if it is FRIENDSHIP, then you NEED to move out and see if HE wants friendship too. The whole wanting a relationship with him but without a MUTUALLY beneficial sex-life and respect ... (read in full...)
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