B/f's fantasy is a threesome but I have reservations
Q. I'm in a stable loving relationship with a great guy. we are living together and engaged. One of his fantasies has always been to have a threesome with an older guy. I'm not entirely adverse to having a threesome but I have major insecurity and j...
A. 21 January 2009: ****He has said he loves me and never wants to do anything to hurt me so he feels a threesome would be a 'safe' way for him to do what he feels he missed out on as I will be there involved and know about it.****
Basically he wants to cheat wh... (read in full...)
I'm frigid! Will a dildo ease the pain of my first time???
Q. I'm a bit frigid, but know I'm ready to have sex soonish if that makes sense. I'm scared of the blood coz it'll be embarrassing and I'm scared of the pain. Will a dildo help? Like if I gradually use it more and more will it make sex less painful...
A. 20 January 2009: Frigid is the wrong word for sure. Unless you already have sex you don't know if you are frigid or not..
I think you maybe should hold of on sex and dildo's for a little while. However if you do, make you you don't go buy a 9 inch long and 3 in... (read in full...)
I'm a 17 year old girl and he's 21... Is that too much of an age gap?
Q. So there is this guy that I've known for a few years, and my mom and everyone on her side of the family seems to like him, so you can call him a famiyl friend, if you will. I feel that there is something between us, but I'm nervous to go on because ...
A. 20 January 2009: I don't think 17 and 21 is too big an age gap really. Most girls are a little ahead in maturity anyways. It comes down to what you and he feels. Maybe also what your parents think.
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B/f's fantasy is a threesome but I have reservations
Q. I'm in a stable loving relationship with a great guy. we are living together and engaged. One of his fantasies has always been to have a threesome with an older guy. I'm not entirely adverse to having a threesome but I have major insecurity and j...
A. 20 January 2009: So he is interested in guy/guy action with you participating? Or did I misunderstood?... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so paranoid about my weight?
Q. Ok I know that this has nothing to do with sex but I'm really conscious about my weight, everyone says that I'm skinny (in a healthy way) but I just for some reason can't believe them. They don't get how it's like for me, especially seeing my best ...
A. 20 January 2009: What you lack is self confidence. Something that you can not buy or get at the snap of a finger. It takes time and a lot of work ( on your behalf).
First and foremost, just be yourself.
Do things you like to do. Hobbies, sport whatnot. Learn t... (read in full...)
Why do guys seem to get over a girl so easily?
Q. Why do guys forget or get over a girl they really loved so easily? Is it possible or are they just acting cool to hide feelings because people may call them wimps etc. Is it possible and why do guys do that? Guys answers especially would be good ...
A. 20 January 2009: I think some men try and live in the here-and-now and not dwell and overanalyze every aspect of a failed relationship. Unlike us females.
Just because a guy doesn't show he's hurt doesn't mean he is not hurting. It's usually expected that wom... (read in full...)
When's the best time to begin buying baby items.
Q. Hi, I'm just going into my second trimester of pregnancy and I was wondering when the best time to begin buying baby items. I've bought most of the smaller things, but I don't know if starting to create the nursery now is a good idea or not. I'm ...
A. 20 January 2009: I have 3 kids and every pregnancy was different:) With the first (planned) I bought stuff from even before I was pregnant when I say something I liked on sale. Stuff like onesies, socks, neutral pants, bibs, diapers ( omg I had diapers stocked up! ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's making all this up to make me jealous?
Q. Hi everyone, My ex bf is really worrying me, we split 5 months ago, and had been sleeping together since, we split. He met this girl over a dating website, she lives in Ireland and are in a relationship but he's going around sleeping with loads of...
A. 20 January 2009: 1. Stop sleeping with him.
2. cut all communication with him.
3. Don't worry about the Irish girl, she will figure it out. (who knows who if she is seeing someone in Ireland too...)
4. Move on with your own life, he isn't worth a pot to pis... (read in full...)
He just opened up and told me he my be sexually attracted to a co worker...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend of 4 years and we have 2 kids. He just opened up and told me he my be sexually attracted to a co worker. He told me he knows 99 percent he don't want to be in a relationship with her. I asked him if I'm doing something ...
A. 20 January 2009: You two need to talk some more. At least he is honest and open with you, that is a good start.
One thing though, don't start to blame yourself for his actions or feelings. He has a crush and that is it. How you two deal with it is what matters.... (read in full...)
What is his game? Does he still care about me, or he is trying to pay me back for leaving him?
Q. Hi, I walked out on my longterm partner a few months ago, even though I still love him. His jealousy was making me crazy and ruining our relationship. I also must admit that I had treated him badly in the past, lied to him a few times which led to ...
A. 20 January 2009: Hard to say. He sounds like he isn't over you totally, I would honestly be offeded to be dragged into his new relationship the way he is dragging you in and the things he says about her. Totally disrespectful. To me, he sounds like a manipulative ... (read in full...)
His paranoia is splitting us up slowly but surely.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we have started living together. Everything is fine when we spend all day together, but even if we're apart for like 30 minutes he'll suspect me cheating on him. I have never cheated on him and ...
A. 20 January 2009: I'm sorry to say that it's typical for someone who is cheating, has been cheated on or has cheated in the past to accuse a partner of cheating.
Lack of trust will lead to lack of respect and lack of love. It's no way ot have a relation... (read in full...)
Extreme menstruation happening and I am scared!
Q. Dear Cupid's, I have a question for all the girls out there and any guys who are medically oriented. I suffer from excedingly heavy periods, that are very painful and completely dibilitating. Included in my flow are huge clots and things that are ...
A. 20 January 2009: Like everyone else said, you need to be seen NOW. Do not put it off. Have you mom make the appointment if you don't want to yourself and then go.
Birth control might be able to help you have lighter periods. But in order for that to happen y... (read in full...)
I'am very submissive when it comes to sex, and love someone to take charge but hubby isn't comfortable with it.
Q. My husband and I have been married for several years and other than our sex life, everything is pretty good. The problem is, when it comes to sex he is kind of old fashioned. I like to experiment with new things. Toys, bondage, ect. I'am very ...
A. 20 January 2009: Turn the table around on him. Ask him about his fantasies. Ask him what he would like to try. If he is a little bit of a prude.. then get a couple of drinks in him to loosen up the tongue. I know that sounds a little off, but it might just do the ... (read in full...)
Do most men lose interest in sex over 40... or just with their wife?
Q. Do most men lose interest in sex over 40... or just with their wife? I didn't feel like having sex for a long time. I haven't tried looking at other woman but sure I never think of having sex with my wife, or nobody.. What happens to man? Do they ...
A. 20 January 2009: I don't think so. For some it can happen but I don't think it's the rule.
Hubby and I have been married 10+ years and we still have sex daily.
Do you not find your wife attractive any more? Does she not innitiate sex? You need to look at your ... (read in full...)
B/f's fantasy is a threesome but I have reservations
Q. I'm in a stable loving relationship with a great guy. we are living together and engaged. One of his fantasies has always been to have a threesome with an older guy. I'm not entirely adverse to having a threesome but I have major insecurity and j...
A. 20 January 2009: Unless it's something you TRULY want don't do it. You will regret it.
I know loads of people have fantasies about 3-somes. And I know quite a few people, who tried to live that fantasy out and most of them regretted it 100%.
I don't belie... (read in full...)
Is it safe to orgasm during pregnancy?
Q. Is it safe to orgasm during pregnancy? I was advised not to have sex for the first trimester (by my doctor) due to a previous miscarriage. I'm now in my 12th week of pregnancy, does no sex mean no fun on my own? Is masturbating still ok? Ple...
A. 20 January 2009: I didn't think it would be a problem so I looked it up for you, here is a good link.
http://miscarriage.about.com/od/riskfactors/f/sexduringpreg.htm
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What was this wet spot on his pants?
Q. While my boyfriend and I were messing around the other night; like heavy petting and stuff; he got wet down there. It was after he'd been rubbing my boobs for a while, he stopped and just grabbed his dick. All our clothes were still on, he had just ...
A. 12 January 2009: No need for confusion. You got him hot. Like PirncessJasmine said, you don't need to touch his cock to get him hard or to make him emit pre-cum. Same with women, a cuddle, a kiss, dancing close, a picture in your mind.. it can all get you wet.
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Boyfriend has erection troubles and viagara doesn't work..how can I help him?
Q. My boyfriend is 57 yrs old and has trouble keeping an erection so penetration is impossible. He becomes so frustrated and upset and feels sorry for me. He satisfies me in so many other ways. I love him so very much and tell him that we can use a ...
A. 12 January 2009: Cock rings work wonders for keeping an erection. Don't get the metal or the leather ones ( they AREN'T for "beginners" and can be down right scary) get the softer jelly ones. ( check out YOUTUBE) there are some good "how to" instructions on what ... (read in full...)
I found out he lives with someone and confronted him...
Q. I found out he lives with someone and confronted him when I did he said let's be friends what does this mean?...
A. 12 January 2009: That he got caught, but hope he can still have you on the side..
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What can I do to show her 11 years is too much to throw away?
Q. My wife has told me she is no longer in love with me even though I love her to bits. She says it will not work, we have two kids aged 3 and 6 and I am devastated... she said there is nobody else. What can I do to show her 11 years is too much to ...
A. 12 January 2009: You can drag a horse to the watering hole ,but you can not make it drink.
First of, I'm sorry. 11 years is a lot to "just" throw away. You two need to sit down and talk. Make her express why she isn't happy with you. However, being in a relation... (read in full...)
He disappeared on me... what should I do?
Q. So, I've been seeing a guy for the last few months and all of a sudden, he (metaphorically speaking) "disappears" on me. Things were going great until one day he just stops seeing me. He suddenly became (in my opinion) "too busy" to see me. I ...
A. 12 January 2009: Call him and say hey, what's up? He might be one of those guys who have no balls to break up with a girl so thinking that if he "just" ignore her she will get the point.
He might have had a boat-load of stuff happen in his personal life that he ... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting?
Q. I have been very stress out with planning my wedding, my work and my family life. So sex have the last thing on my mind. My fiance and me haven`t had sex in 3 weeks because I haven`t really been up to it lately. One night my fiance and me were going ...
A. 12 January 2009: Aww that is a BAD mistake there on your part. The two of you are planning to get married but don't have sex because it's stressing you out? Not good. She dressed up and she is a stunner and you said no? Oh boy.
Call her - send her flowers.... (read in full...)
His mom is sooooo controlling!!!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are 20 years old and we live with our moms! His mom is controlling and it seems like we can't enjoy our own relationship without her telling us what we can and can't do. I feel like we are in middle school or something... she ...
A. 12 January 2009: It's always hard when kids live at home. Parents believe that they need to follow the same rules as they did before they turned 18. In a way, I can respect that. If she pays the rent, the food, the utilities, it's her rules.. Don't you think?
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I can only express myself through text
Q. my boyfriend one night asked me how i felt about him, and i know exactly how i feel about him but for some reason just can't get it out, i guess i'm just scared but it's really starting to drive me crazy because i've always had this problem in ...
A. 12 January 2009: A love letter is a great idea, but please don't use net speak to express your love and feeling for him.
Once you have put it to paper and he has read it it might be a lot easier to talk about. Being able to express your thought and emotions... (read in full...)
We're both married to others, but can he really love me?
Q. can a married man ever love another woman. i am a married woman who still lives with her husband and kids but have told my husband ive been seeing someone else. i met this other man through a work conference. hes married for 16 yrs me 9yrs. at ...
A. 12 January 2009: Most likely he loves his wife. That is why he is staying, that is usually WHY they stay in a marriage. If she wants him back, I hope for their sake they take the time to work it out and move forward. Which means if he doesn't want contact from you, ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends mad that I didn't do anything for our "monthsary".
Q. My girlfriend was upset with me because I didn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary (monthsary is a different month but same day we became official). She also doesn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary, so I don't ...
A. 9 January 2009: I agree with Emilysanswer here.
I have never been big on celebrating Valentines nor anniversaries. Though I do give my husband a card and something either funny or naughty the morning of our anniversary, and usually he takes it as a clue and retu... (read in full...)
My wife wants a sex change
Q. Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I asked her to repeat what she had just said, and she said that she'd suppressed it ever since she was a girl. She said she'd known she wanted to be a b...
A. 9 January 2009: I found this website, they might be able to answer your questions better.
http://www.depend.org.uk/
I think it's understandable that you are having a hard time dealing with the issue. It's not really what you expect after being with someo... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my wife chatting up other men online?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 10 years of which we have been married for 5. We were each others first and have never been with anyone else. I just recently found out that my wife has been chatting online with other men, then she took it one ...
A. 9 January 2009: Yikes. First off no, you are not overreacting. What she is doing can easily slip into an emotional affair and then a physical one.
You need to nip in the butt. What you need is to talk about it. Ask her WHY she feel the need to talk to strange ... (read in full...)
I'm completely terrified I'm pregnant!
Q. Hello all! I need some advice, I'm completly terrified. I just started my period the day before yesterday, and I was bleeding a good amount, then last night I was changing for bed and when I look at my pad, the blood was a dark brown color, when the ...
A. 9 January 2009: It is a possibility, but before you totally freak out, the reason your period is acting a little weird, might be due to you stressing out. Did it show up the right day, are you very clock work regular? Are all your periods the same? Same flow, same ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: One thing is being REALLY proud of ones girlfriend - that is cool, but the bragging seems utterly immature. As far as the attitude after a promotion, well that I think is more about pride and again some immaturity.
The US military have strict r... (read in full...)
How do you make someone leave your house when the relationship is over?
Q. My Fiancee is stealing my pain medication and lying to me about it. We have been together for 5 years and have planned on getting married soon. I't doesn't matter how well I lock my my pills up or hide them she always finds them and lies about ...
A. 9 January 2009: Honestly I would talk to the building manager. He/She might even be able to refer a lawyer. Make sure you do it the right way.
Personally, if it's only your name on the lease I would honestly have the locks changed on the door. Pack all her crap... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her or should I forgive her again?
Q. hallo, I'm kind of confused. I have a gal for four years now and it seems each year, she has an affair and call me lucky but I always find out about it. well, now it's a couple of weeks into the year and I happen to have the password to her email ...
A. 9 January 2009: Wow, she's got pictures of herself and a friend of yours on her computer having sex?
Honestly, she doesn't have any respect for you, and you by letting her do that, to you, over and over and over, you have no respect for yourself either. ... (read in full...)
I troubled her and didn't realize it!
Q. my girlfriend is not talking to me for last 12 days...... she asks about my well being from our common friends...... she says she is fedup of living her life driven by me......... she has even stopped sending me messages ...total cutoff from me...
A. 9 January 2009: 12 days and no communication? That doesn't bode well for a relationship. I would give her a call or send her an e-mail trying to figure out what's up.
Maybe she can't face you to break up? Or maybe she just needs a break to sort herself out?
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Keep trying or just be with her cousin?
Q. I was out with this girl for 4months and I liked her but I did not love her then her cousin tx me 1day and we started talking for hella long then she said that she loved me I had feelings for her and I did not want her only to say it and not say it ...
A. 9 January 2009: I wish you would stop using Net speak.. Us old folk have a hard time figuring what the heck you are saying..
Which girl do you WANT to get to know. The girl X or her cousin? Pretty simple.. isn't it?
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Frustrated about where this is going...
Q. Hi all, My ex bf of 3 months said to me last nite about this guy I'm talking 2, he said that I am to take him down the pub that we go to and that, if he (my ex) doesn't like him I won't talk or see this any more, and that I should be careful,...
A. 9 January 2009: Stop sleeping with your ex. ( Unless YOU want to be his fuck-buddy).
Secondly, don't let him dictate who you can and can not date. He might just want to look out for you, but really, if he isn't a good friend then I'd still tell him you are a bi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't spontaneous!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, and i told him i loved him about 4 months in because that is how i felt. I wanted to say it before he did so i knew i felt it and wasn't saying it in guilt. Like i have done in the past.It's just i am a ...
A. 9 January 2009: There is nothing wrong in telling him you MISS all the spontaneous stuff he used to do. And no, you can do a lot of crazy stuff for free:) It's all about using your creativity. And YOU can do something spontaneous/romantic for him too, you know?
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The first few times of sex, I don't understand why it's still uncomfortable.
Q. About a month ago, I told my boyfriend that I was ready to have sex. He told me that if I really thought that I was ready, then we could do it. I said that I was. (We were both virgins.) We had sex for the first time three nights ago. I knew that...
A. 9 January 2009: Satindesire is completely right.
If you both work on getting you off before you actually have sex it will be a lot less painful.(if even painful at all)
For some it can be painful the first few times. It's pretty normal.
Another thing y... (read in full...)
Nervous about first quasi-blind date!
Q. So I began talking to this girl online about 2 weeks ago. We were both on free social networking site geared towards dating. She messaged me and we spent about 4-5 hours messaging back and forth the first night. Same thing the second night before ...
A. 9 January 2009: Call it an outing or a date, it's just a word:)
Relax and be yourself. If there is something you remember she likes to do ( going bowling, horseback riding.. what not, then try and plan something like that.
But most of all, don't forget she... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me to date my friend
Q. i have a boyfriend for 8 years and were inlove,until one day he told me that his going out with other girl and we talk about it and he tell me to understand him and he want a space from me,,then i gave him his space but he refuse to let me go ...
A. 9 January 2009: Is it your fault your BF is an ass? No.
Is it your fault that your friend is a cow? No.
That is double betrayal. They deserve each other.
I'm sorry you are hurting, but you need to stop blaming yourself. And cut all communications with ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and cannot accept his so-called honest confession that he has thoughts of reconciling with his ex!
Q. I am in a relationship with a divorced man with two kids. When we first got involved, we fell madly and deeply in love (or so I thought). Over time, the way the ex-wife manipulated my boyfriend (via the kids) became too much for me, and it always ...
A. 9 January 2009: I'm so sorry. It might sound tough but maybe you need to let him go. He is not there 100% for you. He is not looking out for your happiness or even his own. I don't think he's fully over her or maybe it's residual feeling not having deal with her ... (read in full...)
A first is all.
Q. Is 32 years old too old for a first boyfriend and first kiss?...
A. 9 January 2009: Nope, there is no expiration date on love. Aunty Rach is right though, the longer you wait the harder it will be.... (read in full...)
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