Throwing in the towel
Q. hello all! so ive decided to throw in the towel with this guy finally.I have had it with the mixed feelings thing.So my question is do you think it would be to stupid or childish if i wrote him a letter explaining why im doing what im doing ? when i ...
A. 4 January 2010: ~CONGRATULATIONS!~... (read in full...)
A first is all.
Q. Is 32 years old too old for a first boyfriend and first kiss?...
A. 9 January 2009: Nope, there is no expiration date on love. Aunty Rach is right though, the longer you wait the harder it will be.... (read in full...)
Shouldn't she be past all the romantic little things by now?
Q. quick question: I am with my partner for almost 3 years. I might not be the most romantic of men but I do try.. I will bring home flowers/gifts for her without a reason like a birthday or whatever. Spring a surprise trip on her when I can affor...
A. 9 January 2009: I think she loves you and if you are lucky and if the two of you grow old together, you will wish those hugs will still be coming when you are 90. :)
I touch, hug and kiss my husband EVERY chance I get. We have known each other for 12 years ma... (read in full...)
She just "accidentally" happens to be naked when he comes over
Q. I feel uncomfortable with what goes on between my bf and a girl friend of his. On numerous occasions he has gone over her house and shes just 'accidently' been naked- even at times when she KNEW he was coming over- it was pre arranged a time and...
A. 9 January 2009: QUOTE ****My bf tells me all of this and it hurts like hell. Sometimes i have to wonder if hes telling me because he wants to be honest and not hide anything or because he wants to make me jealous and gets some cheap thrill out of all these girls ... (read in full...)
My mum seems to hate me...
Q. My mom seems to hate me We are an asian family, and, well, to be honest, because we don't live in our homeland i've grown accustomed to fast food, aka food that's not 'home-food'. today, only half an hour ago, my mum called me into the kitchen...
A. 9 January 2009: I don't think your mom hates you either. She might have a depression or generally be upset about herself/ her life. Did you guys recently move to the UAE ? Does she not like it there? She might also be a bit homesick, I know how that goes.
Ask y... (read in full...)
I cheated because I'm bored
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for close two years and i live with him. at first it was great but now its just the usual routine. im bored i think.. thats why i cheated. he knows i kissed this other guy but thinks thats it... well i slept with him ...
A. 9 January 2009: Honestly, you need to get a grip. Cheating is disrespectful to your partner.
Make up your mind which man you want and "fire" the other one. Stringing your BF along is just plain mean and once he finds out (and eventually he will) he will be devas... (read in full...)
We've broken up and I'm hurt
Q. i have just ended things with my boyfriend, we had been together almost three years, and in that time he has cheated on twice. I am very upset about the breakup even though i am the one who made the choice, when i told him, he accepted it and did ...
A. 9 January 2009: I'm sorry you got hurt. But here is how I see it. If he's cheated on you twice (that you know of) you are FAR better of without him. Breaking up was the best thing you could have done, for YOU. Screw him.
It is ok to be sad, it is ok to mourn a ... (read in full...)
I think my cousin is my soul mate
Q. I am a bit in a pickle here.. I have a male cousin who is 10 yrs older than me that comes from the US. He comes once in a while for a vacation and special occasions. He always stays with us. Naturally we are close. It has been a while since the last ...
A. 9 January 2009: Are you first cousin's? Or cousins of a more distant variety?
And like Uncle Phil asked.. what's the question?
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I told my ex I missed him and he said "That's a real turn off!"
Q. he says he loves me,he wants to be with me, thats my ex, but i really dont get him. now i phone him as usual, i told him that missed, all he could say was oh,thats really a turn off, i love him but he is the one who initiated this stupid lets get ...
A. 9 January 2009: I would stop phoning him. Let him make the next move. Most guys don't like a "clingy" girl ( I'm not calling you clingy, but he might perceive the "I miss you" as a "clingy" thing to say, know what I mean?).
I don't think he's playing games, I... (read in full...)
Virgin? Or not?
Q. My bf n I have been dated for 1 yr n 3 months. we haven't have sex bc i wasn't ready for that step. Other than that he n i did everything else. On xmas, i was spending time with him, we was making out and stuff n i was really horny so he ask can he ...
A. 9 January 2009: Hard to tell, but in my book you loose your virginity when you have intercourse.. Even if it's only in a little or for a very short time.
If you want to stay a virgin, then you have to stop having sex.
As far as bleeding from being given Oral... (read in full...)
When a guy invites you to his house is it for sex?
Q. When a guy invites a girl to his house, does that basically mean he just wants sex even though we're close friends? He's an older man (probably close to 50) if that means anything; he's not some young horny teen. I just want to know what his ...
A. 9 January 2009: Can't say for sure, but I think since he is older he might just wants you too see him at home in his environment. You can usually tell by the first 15 min. what he's got up his sleeve lol
Just don't let him pour too much alcohol on you.
If y... (read in full...)
Girls Girls Girls please help
Q. Question to girls, do you find guys that wear tight pants attractive??? I'm not talking about the super emo tight pants but something that hugs the body at least??? And why do you find it attractive???...
A. 8 January 2009: I don't like tight pants on a dude.. eww. I like a pair of nice straight legged Lewi's.
I can't stand the huge jeans/pants either that are half ways down over his ass.. Makes a guy look like a retard that can't put the right size pants on..... (read in full...)
How far can a stripper go during a lap dance?
Q. Hello all! Something has been bothering me about my boyfriend's past that isn't really important in the big scheme of things, but despite knowing this it still bothers me. Here's the deal: My boyfriend went to a (fully nude) strip club right be...
A. 7 January 2009: How far can a stripper go? I'm guessing as far as she was paid for or as far as she wanted too. I know there are rules for how far they officially can go but I have been to a couple of places where it's "illegal" for them to engage in anything then ... (read in full...)
Which one could it be?
Q. I'm having menstrual problems, I also have irregular periods. I looked at some of the symptoms and I have more symtoms from an ovarian cyst problem than pregnancy. I'm definitely too young a have little pride and joy in my arms. (baby) but if I ask ...
A. 7 January 2009: Make sure you go see the doctor. It can be that the cramps are bad or worse due to stress, but I really recommend you go see a doctor as soon as possible.
Like Griffo said, you are not a doctor, it could be nothing it could be something. Make an ... (read in full...)
How can we have sex without it hurting her?
Q. I have a girlfriend that has not done it yet and I was wondering if there is any way to do it so it will not hurt for her....
A. 7 January 2009: Go slow. Lots of foreplay so her body is actually ready to receive you. That means plenty wet on her part.
USE a condom!
If she has trouble getting wet use water based lube.
Let her help you guide you and let her set the pace for the pen... (read in full...)
What are the chances of pregnancy in my situation?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend the other night, but he withdrew before he ejaculated and had to wank himself for a couple of seconds until he actually came. After another hour we did it again unprotected for maybe 20 seconds and then he put on the ...
A. 7 January 2009: Start learning how to use a condom every time. It will save you headaches and worries, and might save you from an std' or two. Maybe also get on the pill for extra "safety"
You can not get pregnant from the pre-cum (as far as I know) since it... (read in full...)
Strengthening the PC muscle?
Q. I want to strengthen my PC muscle. I'm a guy and i really cannot last any more than 10 seconds when having sex. All i want to know is whether this would help to strengthen my PC muscle. If i hang a small back on my penis and put some small w...
A. 5 January 2009: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/45806/kegel_exercises_for_men_improve_the.html
Hope that link can help:) Working your PC muscles is a good thing for a guy too.
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Should I be grateful for what he offers? Just friendship?
Q. I am young looking widow 69 he is divorced 62 ,we meet on net. after a good start he wanted to be friends,did not love me.after 2 year now sleeps in spare room. I went along at first but we row about it .he is good to me looking after garden and ...
A. 5 January 2009: He doesn't have to live with you to be your friend. If you want more then you should find yourself someone who wants you in the same way.
Why settle?... (read in full...)
Has he cheated on me? Opinions please
Q. Hey there im guna apologise for this as its guna be a long one. This girl on facebook messaged me with a conversation her and my boyfriend were having, im guna post it here - could you please let me know what you think? Do you think he has che...
A. 5 January 2009: Man, that was TOUGH to read, why can't people spell? The whole net speak is horrible.. Uh, I digress,
No he isn't cheating on you as far as I can tell. He's trying very hard (but not very firmly) to shot her advances down. She's trying to get him ... (read in full...)
His best mate hits on me!
Q. Well.. my boyfriend has been best mates with this boy for about 2-3 months, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months. Just recently His best mate has been trying it on with me touching me in inappropriate places and keeps trying to kiss ...
A. 5 January 2009: He's jealous of the two of you, that is pretty clear. First off tell the mate there that if he touches you you will scream. That you have no interest WHAT so ever in him. To leave you alone.
He might be "testing" you, to see if you are easy.
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Is there any medicineIcanget that will make my husband want to have sex with me?
Q. i am a marred person my husband not intrested to sex with me there is any medicne in market (in india ) that my husband is out of control and ready to sex with me please help me...
A. 5 January 2009: You want to drug your husband so he will have sex with you? Or did I read your question wrong?
Clarify please... (read in full...)
Can I still get pregnant?
Q. ok here is my problem well i had unprotected sex about two weeks ago so i got my period 5 days late i thou i was pregnet but i got my period.......but the day before i got it i had sex agian and he came inside can i still get pregnet???????????????...
A. 5 January 2009: You really need to stop having sex til you can use protection. I know about heat of the moment, but no condom, no sex.
Pregnancy isn't the worst of it all, take a few and think of all the STD's that you can catch. He might say he doesn't have any... (read in full...)
Is this a guy's way of ending a marriage?
Q. Sorry this is so long :) Four months ago I came home from work to discover that my husband of 3 years (together for 7) had taken the day off of work to move all his stuff out. He never mentioned anything about moving out prior to that. In fact I...
A. 5 January 2009: Wow, such a mess. First of all the total and absolute lack of communication and problem solving was the biggest issues, I think, in your marriage.
He's acting like a spoiled brat - totally. If he didn't want pets he should have said no and mean... (read in full...)
Will my ex ever realize what he has done to the family?
Q. was with my partner for many years and suffered verbal, emotional and physical abuse. all our children are all grown up now and have nothing to do with their father, ive recently divorced him and have left the area where i lived with him and now he ...
A. 5 January 2009: Most likely he will never understand or admit what he did was wrong. And I would bet he is continuing he behavior with this new.. backwards girl.
I fell sorry for her. ( the new girl/woman in his life)
Be glad that you are rid of him. You move... (read in full...)
Why does he mention about his exes? Could I just be his rebound girl?
Q. So, I met this guy online and we live in different states, we've been talking on the phone for about 6 months and he says he really likes me, and I really like him too, sometimes we get into arguments about little stuff, then usually i would just ...
A. 5 January 2009: People you meet through out your life will leave an imprint on you. They will in one way or another always mean something to you. Same goes for your BF.
Some people like your BF likes to share his life, I think that kinda shows he is over the... (read in full...)
He knows I love him and wants to have sex with me... but it would be "just sex" for him!
Q. Hey i am a virgin.. One of my friends wants to have sex with me. He loves another girl, but he knows that i love him. He says clearly to me that he can have just sex with me, no attachment. As i love him since 3 years, i am also tempted to have sex ...
A. 5 January 2009: If he is currently involved with someone else I would not have sex with him. I can understand the idea of having him as your first is nice, but it can end up oh so messy. Not for him, but for you. He doesn't love you back.
Find yourself a man, who... (read in full...)
Throwing in the towel
Q. hello all! so ive decided to throw in the towel with this guy finally.I have had it with the mixed feelings thing.So my question is do you think it would be to stupid or childish if i wrote him a letter explaining why im doing what im doing ? when i ...
A. 5 January 2009: If you are done, you are done. I know it's hard to break someones heart, but if you are already starting to disengage from the relationship there really is no point for you to just "wait" for him to be something he obviously isn't.
I'm sorry.... (read in full...)
I don't have a clue what would feel good for him!
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we're really happy together. We've started taking the relationship to a higher level over the past few weeks and he has started putting his hand down my pants etc. I'd like to be able to do the s...
A. 5 January 2009: I will recommend one of my favorite books on the subject, "Tickle his pickle", by Sadie Allison. Read it, then ASK him what he likes, tell him to show you. That way you learn it from him.
You could start by keep your hands on the outside of his p... (read in full...)
My girlfriend likes it rough, but I don't. How do I get her to tone it down?
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for close to 3 months now. We enjoy being with each other and have now started to be intimate with each other. However, lately I feel she's being a little too sexually agressive for my taste. The kissing, hugging...
A. 5 January 2009: I can't stand hikey's - it's just so eww. I agree with Emily that this subject might not be the best to sit and talk out,but let her know that it turn you off.
However this might only be the beginning of her trying to show you what she likes, s... (read in full...)
Throwing in the towel
Q. hello all! so ive decided to throw in the towel with this guy finally.I have had it with the mixed feelings thing.So my question is do you think it would be to stupid or childish if i wrote him a letter explaining why im doing what im doing ? when i ...
A. 5 January 2009: You should tell him face to face. Write down what you want to say and you have trouble telling him it all, tell him you wrote it down, but that you thought he deserved to hear it from you. Can always give him the letter after that if you can not ... (read in full...)
I cheated, wife found out and now wants to call everything off
Q. I have been married eleven years and have cheated on my wife 6 months ago and she found out. She has been depressed since the birth of my son (9 years ago) and for the last three years basically stop having sex with me and telling me she hated me. ...
A. 5 January 2009: Just because you are over the affair, doesn't mean she is. It's not only a huge breach in trust it pretty devastating. As far as her not wanting sex for 3 years, yeah I can see that as a problem, something the two of you should have worked on before ... (read in full...)
Anonymous answers please about lots of ?? about penis!!
Q. Okay I know this is another Penis size question and that people are probably sick of it,but for men it's a huge insecurity. Answer anonymously if you please. 1)Would you ever breakup over a lovers size? 2)What do you consider small? 3)What do y...
A. 5 January 2009: 1)Would you ever breakup over a lovers size?
Not unless he was hung like a horse.
2)What do you consider small?
I don't know I have not been with a guy that "felt" small and I have never measured anyone I dated.
3)What do you consider ... (read in full...)
Do women find men drinking beer on a date unattractive?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice from the ladies, please! Very simply - do women generally find it unattractive if a man's drinking beer on a date, or even at a social event? My female friends tell me this is the case, and that I should switch to wine...
A. 5 January 2009: I would also venture that is has more to do with the amount then what it is they drink. My husband is a beer man, I'm a whiskey woman.. Don't bother me none. However we rarely drink.
And a guy sitting at a bar sipping wine is just.. odd. Most bar... (read in full...)
A way to navigate this problem with dignity?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I'm hoping you can help me with this dilemma. Let's just say I'm quite handy with the computer and media-related arts. More specifically, I'm very good with photoshop and image manipulation over the years, as it ended up bein...
A. 5 January 2009: Sit down and tell you dad JUST how many hours you spend on it. Maybe then he can understand that you can not drop everything at the tip of the hat.
Let them know that they can write down what they want altered and as soon as you can get too it y... (read in full...)
How can I get erections without drugs?
Q. What can I do to help erections without viagra or cialis?...
A. 5 January 2009: Are you on any kind of medication at the moments? That can cause ED? If not, talk to your doctor.... (read in full...)
?? for females about sex
Q. i have some questions about the sexual feelings of a female. 1. do girls or women maturbate? 2. if yes,why?only for fun or getting sexual satisfaction too? 3. do they feel excited seeing a naked well built guy? 4. do they want to touc...
A. 5 January 2009: I'll bite, I guess.
1. do girls or women maturbate?
Some do ( I would venture at least 70% of females do.) Not sure as many girls as women masturbate.
2. if yes,why?only for fun or getting sexual satisfaction too?
Same reason as men; sat... (read in full...)
He bites my neck now instead of kissing it... what does this say to me???
Q. I have a question. I recently got into a relationship with a guy and so far it's been 3 amazing months. In the begining whenever we would makeout he would eventually end up kissing my neck, which I loved. But now when we engage ourselves in ...
A. 4 January 2009: Maybe he thinks it turns you on to get bitten. For many people, biting is high arousal. Maybe he is just so turned on by you that he bites.
If you don't like it you need to find a nice way to get him to stop.
If I should "decode" it for ... (read in full...)
He keeps backing off from me
Q. I have a problem and wondered if you could give me some advice. I met a man about about a month ago he is 46 and I am 33, we have gone out on dates a few times and seem to get on well. The problem is there have been occasions when he has tota...
A. 4 January 2009: mich33 is verified as being by the original poster of the question
I have asked him what he wants and he says a relationship. Also i have asked about whether he is single and he says he is..
The only other thing i have noticed is the excuse if... (read in full...)
Is friendship with this married guy going the wrong way?
Q. I'm asking this question b/c although sometimes one might feel like is just about friendship, there are somethings that makes you wonder if it's just an innocent flirty kinda game or if it might lead to something else later. I become friend wi...
A. 4 January 2009: A female reader, NiceKid + ?, writes (4 January 2009):
Let's come from another angle: if you were married to this man, would all the things he's done with you be appropriate with another woman?
100% agree.
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What do I do... my husband has left
Q. My husband of 21 years has left me after telling me he has feelings for this woman. He says he can't come home for the damage he has done to me and our 3 teenager children. He does show remorse, he feels bad for the way things have turned out, we ...
A. 4 January 2009: Sounds like a total midlife crisis. Know that this is not about you or your family, as much as that might hurt. It's about him discovering mortality and middle age.
Listen to Eyewideopen, she is right. Get your ducks in a row. Financially and othe... (read in full...)
My friend is having an affair... should I tell her husband???
Q. Yesterday I went to visit a good friend and she told me that she is cheating on her husband of 4 years also a friend of mine) with a guy she works with who is also married with kids. She asked me to go for a drive with her and told me in the car....
A. 4 January 2009: Urgh, it's a tough one. As much as I detest cheating ( and I do believe me) I wold so HATE to be the one to tell someone their spouse is cheating.
However since she dragged you into it maybe you should tell her that she need to tell her husband ... (read in full...)
He keeps backing off from me
Q. I have a problem and wondered if you could give me some advice. I met a man about about a month ago he is 46 and I am 33, we have gone out on dates a few times and seem to get on well. The problem is there have been occasions when he has tota...
A. 4 January 2009: Is he actually married maybe? (just a guess)
It's really hard to know what really goes on - you have to talk to him. IF he can be open and honest there really isn't much in the future for you two.... (read in full...)
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