He keeps backing off from me
Q. I have a problem and wondered if you could give me some advice. I met a man about about a month ago he is 46 and I am 33, we have gone out on dates a few times and seem to get on well. The problem is there have been occasions when he has tota...
A. 4 January 2009: mich33 is verified as being by the original poster of the question
I have asked him what he wants and he says a relationship. Also i have asked about whether he is single and he says he is..
The only other thing i have noticed is the excuse if... (read in full...)
He keeps backing off from me
Q. I have a problem and wondered if you could give me some advice. I met a man about about a month ago he is 46 and I am 33, we have gone out on dates a few times and seem to get on well. The problem is there have been occasions when he has tota...
A. 4 January 2009: Is he actually married maybe? (just a guess)
It's really hard to know what really goes on - you have to talk to him. IF he can be open and honest there really isn't much in the future for you two.... (read in full...)
I'm really worried about my friend but I don't want to seem paranoid.
Q. I have a problem with a friend. Generally me and my friend were very chatty with each other we could talk for hours about nothing and enjoy it, she even told me once that she really likes having me as a friend. However at one point I went on to ...
A. 4 January 2009: If she talks down about you she isn't a very good friend. Honestly I'd ignore her a while. If she truly is a friend she will get hold of you, forgetfulness and all.
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Does taking speed and drugs stop a guy from getting a hard on?
Q. Does taking speed and drugs stop a guy from getting a hard on?...
A. 4 January 2009: It can. Yes.
Lots of regular medicines can prevent an erection and of course things like alcohol, amphetamines (speed), cocaine, Marijuana, opiates and for some even nicotine can ruin an erection.
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Should I forgive my boyfriend for watching porn?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years. We do not live together and we are both virgins. He recently confessed that has watched porn at least once a week for the last 3 years. I was really hurt when he told me. He seemed to feel bad ...
A. 4 January 2009: I think you should be glad, that he felt he could be honest with you.
Lots of men ( and women) watch and enjoy porn - it's not my cup of tea personally, but lots of people enjoy it.
The fact that he watches porn doesn't mean he isn't attracted ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his "hobby"?
Q. Thank you to everyone who responded to my question here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-is-storing-up-so-much-timber.html With regard to Gina's answer, I did try to get him to sit down and talk, but he just stomped off, and went ou...
A. 4 January 2009: Does he have any close friends or co-workers he seems to talk to? If so, call and see if they know.
It seems so very strange. The fact that he gets upset when you want to talk about it is a little scary too. You guys belong to a church? If so, m... (read in full...)
What is she doing? What does she want from me?
Q. It started as a year affair. I sold my house and moved out on my own. The the other woman decided I was still too close to my ex (we have 2 small kids. The other woman (OW) decided she was not in love with me and I just wanted to be friends and ...
A. 4 January 2009: I guess she was fine with cheating on your wife, but now that you are single you are just not her type of man no more, sorry she likes her men attached ( preferable married).
As for you having a good relationship with your ex-wife and mother o... (read in full...)
Do girls have female sperm
Q. im really curious.. you no how in the porn movies,, the guys starts having sex with the girl and all of a sudden a bucnh of watery fluids squirt out of the girls vagina.. what are those fluids?? why does that happen?? and do girls hav...
A. 4 January 2009:
what are those fluids?? It is prostate like fluids produced on the kidneys and pushed out through the urethra. It is not pee.
why does that happen?? It's about the same as when a guy ejaculates. Mostly by stimulating/over stimulating ... (read in full...)
Female curious about animal sex
Q. my friend has a male dog he's about 3 yrs old. she's been curious about having sex with animals is it ever sinces she was 9. is it alright for her to do it with out getting Any Std's? ...
A. 4 January 2009: Leave the poor dog alone.... (read in full...)
Is this a good reason to marry? Will the marriage last?
Q. i have a daughter who is nearly ten and she is an only child at present not only for me but also for her father. three years ago my exes dad died after a long illness and then just over a year ago his mum died suddenly. i found out just aft...
A. 4 January 2009: Quote*** i didnt ask her to, he didnt even tell my daughter he had got married, she saw the wedding pictures in thier house, simple explanation, what about marrying for love? how simple is that!!***
Yes, that is very odd indeed that he didn't t... (read in full...)
14 & lost my V-card
Q. I just moved to a new city same state. At my old school I was just getting involed with boys. I was in 7th grade then. And now I am in 8th and I moved here over the summer.So Im in 8th grade now suopose to be in 9th. But lately I have been making ...
A. 4 January 2009: I can understand that being new is hard and you wanted to fiting, but having sex with different boys in not the way to do it. Stop trying to please the boys. Get to know them, really know them without being intimate. And dating/hooking up with a guy ... (read in full...)
How to make the first move?
Q. i want some advice...my bf and i are moving on in our relationship...but there is no sex, until we are married he knows it very well and wants me to be a virgin on our wedding night, where i live its very important to be a virgin, so for sure we ...
A. 4 January 2009: You could read "Tickle his Pickle" by Sadie Allison. There are good instructions for hand/BJ, though I don't suggest you go straight for that. Why not tell him that you want to do something nice for him? Ask him what and how.
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My wife left a note saying I would never see her again..??
Q. I don't know what to do. My wife and I have been married 19 1/2 years April 1st it will be our 20th. A day after christmas she didnt come home from work and her cell number is off. She will not talk to me and her parents say they have heard from her ...
A. 4 January 2009: Forward the paperwork to her family, so she can sign them. If they have talked to her they can most likely forward them to her or someone who can.
I have no idea why she is doing what she did. And I feel like there is a whole lot of the story mi... (read in full...)
Since we had sex it seems he has cooled toward me
Q. hi hope someone can give me some advice please. Just over a year ago i met a guy online and we'd been texting, chatting etc since then. Soon after we first started chatting, we met up in person twice and things went well. Since then it had been ...
A. 4 January 2009: He might feel that he somehow disappointed you and therefor will not bring it up. Honestly you two need to talk. Not guess or assume what the other one is feeling or thinking. That only leads down a sucky road.
Talk to him, what have you got to l... (read in full...)
Is this a good reason to marry? Will the marriage last?
Q. i have a daughter who is nearly ten and she is an only child at present not only for me but also for her father. three years ago my exes dad died after a long illness and then just over a year ago his mum died suddenly. i found out just aft...
A. 4 January 2009: Don't send a child to do a grown woman's work:) If you want to know, ASK him, don't involve your daughter.
He might have explained it that way to your daughter, because it was a nice and simple explanation that a child would accept. Maybe he marri... (read in full...)
Overexaggerating? Or something wrong?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now, every things going great. At christmas he really treated me and bought me amazing expensive gifts, i couldn't believe it. Anyway i went on holiday for three weeks to australia over ...
A. 4 January 2009: Tell him that you would love to spend more time with him, don't just pout. But also realize that he needs to hang out with his friends too.
Oh, and if he had a hard night of partying he might have been really crummy company the next day anyways:... (read in full...)
Possibly pregnant from affair
Q. where do i begin...ok im 22yrs old and i have a girlfriend i've been with off and on for 3yrs now whom i love with all my heart she is my sunshine she does anything in the world for me...meanwhile we went out one night and she is a big people person ...
A. 4 January 2009: You say you love your girlfriend, yet you cheated on her and not only that you did it over and over, it wasn't just a OMG what did I do thing.
My advice, first take that pregnancy test. It's going to stress out out even more then anything... (read in full...)
He checks out other girls and I try to be cool but it bothers me
Q. This is really typical and stupid, but it's causing me pain and I was wondering if anyone could help me. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. Before that, we were really good friends for about a year. Well a few weeks before he asked me out, he ...
A. 4 January 2009: Obviously he is with you and he likes you for you. Guys will check out girls their whole life, some are more subtle about it then others. And women will check out guys but we are usually WAY more casual about it.
Love is about way more then jus... (read in full...)
Can I trust him? I found his speedating name tag!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years and although this happened a year ago it still plays on my mind. he was thinking of starting a speed dating business and in the end didnt go through with it but it was something that he offered ...
A. 4 January 2009: First of, you are not his mother. You shouldn't feel like you have to keep an eye on him. He obviously isn't regarding your relationship the same way you do.
No I don't think you can trust him. You don't trust him at all ( with good reason) so y... (read in full...)
I'm always the one to initiate sex!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and our sex life has always been just ok. My last relationship was fantastic in that department and I have a high sex drive (well, I don't think I do but my new boyfriend thinks I do bec...
A. 4 January 2009: Talk to him. Come on now if he is the guy you want to possibly be the father of your children, then you better be able to communicate , right? :)
Tell him that you find him attractive that you want to jump his bones every time you see him, tel... (read in full...)
He's not the one for me? What do I do?
Q. I need help the man I love so much is not about shit, I bought his something real nice for x-mas and I didn't get any thing,two days after he gave me a card with money in it,but he ask me to pay a bill and he would give it back to me when he made ...
A. 4 January 2009: You say you love him, but you obviously don't trust him or you wouldn't go through his phone.
I also agree with britt, gift giving is not about the amount you spend but the thought behind it. He couldn't be bothered finding/looking for somethin... (read in full...)
What can I do to feel something when he sucks on my nipples?
Q. the only time ican be alone with my bf is in the car...we are not public about our relationship because where ilive u r called names if uhave abf...so in order to be together we go to a different town, where i live weekdays because of uni. so my ...
A. 4 January 2009: Ice cubes might do the trick too:)
And what is with the whole hiding in a car in another town thing?... (read in full...)
I seem to be the only one struggling to hold my bladder and only release twice a day. What should I do?
Q. As you are already aware - I suffer from OAB. Not only does this influence my sex, love and social life - it also provokes difficulties at school. I attend a boarding school, and teachers love to prevent me from using the toilets, using whatever ...
A. 4 January 2009: Get a hold of your parents and have them talk to the headmaster, make sure they can mail him or bring him a note from your doctor, cause they way you are treated is ridiculous.
Being forced to only urinating twice a day is not healthy. ... (read in full...)
I hate my sister's boyfriend and it's tearing me up.
Q. ok well here goes... My sister has been with her bf for almost a year now and well first time I met him I thought he was rude because he said things that were quite offensive - which for the first time meeting his gf's sister... that's pretty su...
A. 4 January 2009: Does he talk all this hot garbage in front of your sister or when she is not in the room?
Either way I would tell your sister that you would love to spend time with her but not with him, so maybe the two of you can hang out without him. He reall... (read in full...)
What are odds of getting a boy?
Q. Hi... Wel, i'm rather asking for people's views about this. I'm 23 years old and Jus recently, my boyfriend and i have decided to have a baby. He wants a boy and i'm happy with just any gender but would prefer a boy right now as well. Now we've be...
A. 4 January 2009: From what I know it's supposedly 50/50 the gender of the baby but I found some articles about people trying for boys.
Fromlovetoknow website
How to get Boys:
Dr. Shettles bases his theory of gender selection on the idea that sperm containi... (read in full...)
If he didn't clean his hands properly, what are his chances of getting syphillis?
Q. I have a couple of questions. If sperm got onto a male's hand, and ate something without washing their hands (just cleaning it with tissues ), what are their chances of getting Syphillis? My friend did that and he is a bit worried....
A. 4 January 2009: Well if it is his own sperm there is no way he can get syphilis. Why would he think he could get syphilis that way?
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If he didn't clean his hands properly, what are his chances of getting syphillis?
Q. I have a couple of questions. If sperm got onto a male's hand, and ate something without washing their hands (just cleaning it with tissues ), what are their chances of getting Syphillis? My friend did that and he is a bit worried....
A. 4 January 2009: How is syphilis spread?
Syphilis can be spread during vaginal, anal, or oral sex through contact with an open sore or contact with a skin rash. The bacteria can enter the body through the penis, anus, vagina, mouth, or through broken skin. An... (read in full...)
I know I'm worth twelve of that bitch and at least a hundred of the asshole I can't believe I let myself fall in love with!
Q. My ex and I went through a seriously bad break-up about ten months ago after a year and three and a half month relationship. We then got back together about four months after that and then broke up again a month ago. It's now the new year and I just ...
A. 4 January 2009: No contact only work if you don't have contact with him, so tell him to bugger off, that you are done with him.
Why oh why do you even want to exchange a hello with that disgusting pig? Even if you have had a past together doesn't mean you have... (read in full...)
Will he think I'm disgusting?
Q. Well, I always worry that when you shave your pubic hair and you go to a boyfriends or whatever and engage in sexual pleasure with him... Then the next after a few days you have it again but haven't brought a razor along to get rid during a shower. ...
A. 4 January 2009: I don't think he will think you are disgusting for wanting to keep trimmed or clean shaven. Just be up front and honest, can always run out and buy a razor.... (read in full...)
Am I in denial? Is he really gay?
Q. I've been with this guy on and off for 9 months, the last I seen him was around the middle part October, the guy is strange to make a long story short which there is so much talk about. Today is my birthday. He called me to wish me a happy ...
A. 4 January 2009: Nope it doesn't make him gay. Men ( and women) have about as many nerve endings in the anus as women do in the clit, so stimulation of that area can be quite pleasurable. Women have a a G-spot in the vagina and dudes a P-spot in the anus ( p= ... (read in full...)
When he blows up, it's so much hard work to get him to lighten up and accept that a lot of the problems are the ones he's causing.
Q. My boyfriend is so gorgeous to look at, absolutely stunning, so I was gobsmacked when we got together. After a few months together I have realised that he is always always right. We fall out over the most ridiculous things and until I apologise he ...
A. 4 January 2009: Do me a favor and google narcissist.. he is one.... (read in full...)
When is the right time to have sex?
Q. Hey.. just a random question. When is it the right time to have sex? people say its when you feel ready But is it okay to do it when you feel ready after just a day or so?? or wrong to do it when your not with someone?? i personally think people ...
A. 4 January 2009: I think that it is a personal thing. For some they court/date for a couple of week then have sex. Other wait X amount of week/months and lastly some wait til marriage.
Whatever is right for you.
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Why are they so obsessed with size?
Q. Why are guys so obsessed with the size of their penis, despite what women say in response (i.e. size doesn't matter - it's what you do with it that counts)?...
A. 4 January 2009: Same reason women obsess about breast sizes. Some guys are insecure as it is and believe all their worth is assembled in their joystick.. Same with women, who think we should all run around with triple D's like Pamala Anderson in order to attract ... (read in full...)
Just walk away, right?
Q. I was dumped by my girlfriend last year which really took me by suprize and upset me quite a lot. The thing that really hurt was that she dumped me by text and then cut off all communication for months. I have dated quite a lot since then but not ...
A. 4 January 2009: She doesn't want to be friends or she would have tried to hang out with you as a friend. She just want you around, just in case.. at least that is how I see it.
I would forget about her. Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads to find your fro... (read in full...)
I'm worried we'll look weird if I grow taller than my boyfriend!
Q. I have a new boyfriend, we are currently the same height but im 16 and still growing and he is 18, im worried we will look strange if i get any taller, help?! ...
A. 4 January 2009: Don't worry so much about thing that are totally out of your control.
And no you won't look any more strange then couples where the girl is shorter then the guy.
Relax and love him as he is.... (read in full...)
Am I really starting to fall in love with my brother?
Q. My older brother and I have been sexually active with each other for some years now. I know this started as him abusing me but I no longer see it that way and I think I might be falling in love with him. He is 4 years older then me and started uni 2 ...
A. 4 January 2009: SAIL Sexual Abuse & Incest Line
PO Box 8
Chesterfield
Derbyshire
S40 1NY
tel: 01246 556114
Call it and talk to someone if you don't feel you can talk to your parents. It is not love and it is not right what he did to you.
Please call th... (read in full...)
TOOK THE MINI BIRTH CONTROL, NOW I THINK I'M PREGNANT
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and my boyfriend and i have been involved in a loving, commited relationship for almost 3 years now. We are quite sensible so we have agreed not to have full penatrative sex untill we are both out of school. He is 17. I went on ...
A. 4 January 2009: If sperm entered your vagina you had sex. One way or another. If you have been taking your pills as prescribed I don't see how you could have gotten pregnant, unless you have been sick or skipped a pill or two. Then if that is the case and again, if ... (read in full...)
Met up with my ex but he looks soooo different now and I find it hard to handle.
Q. I had been with my boyfriend for six years and had a great relationship. Then my family suffered multiple devastating losses, the family members we lost were the glue of our family and everyone left behind seemed to be fumbling around in the dark as ...
A. 4 January 2009: If you want to try and start over I suggest you start to "date" again.
From what you say your aren't really attracted to him any more. Most women would give an arm and a leg for their man to buff up. So maybe there is more to the resentme... (read in full...)
Is a girl not a virgin if the tip of the penis is in her?
Q. if a boy sticks the tip of his penis inside a girls vagina does that mean she lost her virginity?...
A. 4 January 2009: I would assume if the hymen hasn't been broken, you are still technically a virgin. If you want to stay a virgin.. stop having sex - tip or no tip.... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 19--does he just want sex?
Q. well theres a boy i knoww that i chat to often he really likes me but theres one problem im 13 and hes 19 my mates say that he just wants one thing but hes not like that hes very sweet and looks out for me im not sure if i wanna be with him thou...
A. 4 January 2009: I don't know if all he wants is sex, but I don't really think a 13 year old (even if you are a mature 13 years old) and a 19 year old have enough in common to have more then a friendship.
What does your parents think?... (read in full...)
Questions about pubic hair....
Q. How do women prefer their man's pubic hair?Completely shaved/Trimmed/Etc? Also why do men like a woman's pubic hair completely shaved? I haven't seen a Vagina or a girl naked in person,but I know I'd prefer for her to have some form of hair oth...
A. 4 January 2009: I'm with Bella, no hair. However if you prefer to have some then keep it trimmed, nothing worse the hair in your mouth when you are down there.... (read in full...)
What is the best and most discrete form of pubic hair removal for a female?
Q. What is the best and most discrete form of pubic hair removal for a female?...
A. 4 January 2009: I prefer waxing, but I have done it for years. Shaving might be a good start -
Here is a link to an awesome instructional of how to shave right:)
http://www.de... (read in full...)
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