I want to be with my husband and this other man too!
Q. I'm married. My husband is lacking though in the affection dept. now I'm not talking about worshipping the ground I walk on. I just want a love you or kiss in the morning before he gets up to start his day. I have talked to him several times and am ...
A. 22 April 2009: Blaming your husband is not right either. Nor is it jsut 1 persons fault when a married couple disagree. However, He is not MAKING you sleep with another guy.
What kind of marriage do you have if you can not be open and honest? If you want to ... (read in full...)
I'm married so why do I desire other women?
Q. why do i desire other women even though im married? when i see a women i can't help but look up and down at her and then i think of her like crazy! Why do I do this?...
A. 14 April 2009: You can look as long as you don't act. Men and women don't STOP looking at a beautiful/handsome gall/guy just because they get married.
Now if you get "happy pants" every time you look at some pretty girl you need to learn a few things about se... (read in full...)
What does his approach about our sex life say?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now. we have sex on a regular basis. he always uses the "f" word to describe it. the other night he asked if i wanted to make "F". he never refers to our sex as making love. its kind of ...
A. 14 April 2009: I don't mind the word F**k personally, but for him to say that he might rape you.. you can rape him, seems UTTERLY sick. I'm thinking ( and I could be way off) that he has come dominance issues/fetish going on. As in he is wanting to either dom you ... (read in full...)
I want to be with my husband and this other man too!
Q. I'm married. My husband is lacking though in the affection dept. now I'm not talking about worshipping the ground I walk on. I just want a love you or kiss in the morning before he gets up to start his day. I have talked to him several times and am ...
A. 14 April 2009: I think you need to put on the thinking cap here.
You are currently involved with 2 men. One is your husband and one is the "other man" ( yes I will call it involved cause you are emotionally attached to him).
WHAT do you want? Be honest.
Do... (read in full...)
My b/f said "I want to sleep around because I feel like I'm missing out"
Q. My boyfriend is 19 an I am 17. We have been together a year and a half now and we are still going strong... so I thought. As I am 17 I can't always get in clubs. I understand my boyfriend wanting to go out with his friends in clubs. He wnet o...
A. 14 April 2009: I agree with Emily. He's not really ready for the level of commitment that YOU are ready for.
I guess you will have to decide for yourself what you will accept and what you will not. He wants to go out and be "single" but have you at home. Ho... (read in full...)
Why didn't you give in to temptation?
Q. Has anyone ever been tempted to cheat? If so- how didn't you give into the temptation?...
A. 14 April 2009: I have never been tempted. Yeah I have met some really nice and attractive guys, but I was raised with a set of morals, integrity and values.
Even though I am not a Christian, I believe the 10 Commandments are as useful today as the day Moses br... (read in full...)
He's married, threw me out like garbage but I miss him!
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend left me in February, but until now I'm still in love with him. I cannot concentrate with my job anymore. I'm obsess and the problem is he is married too. Please anyone can give advise how to move on. He throw me l...
A. 14 April 2009: He wasn't yours to start with. Remember that. He is married.
Next time don't get involved with a married or commited man. Try a single fella. They can break your heart just as easily.
Also, you might want to take some time to think on why you... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he was married and I have really fallen for him!
Q. Last month I saw this guy @ work.He came and introduce himself to me,he was nice en freindly.We working for the same company but in diffent branches.We started chatting,I enjoyed talking to him.After 3 weeks we orgarnise to meet en it happened.I ...
A. 14 April 2009: Let him go. He is not looking for a soul mate or a relationship. He's looking for something on the side.
Basically, it's NOT love, it's using you.
Ignore the man. Move on.
Have some selfrespect and do settle for some other woman's lefto... (read in full...)
Apple cider vinegar & weight loss?
Q. hey all. i just wanted to know if apple cider vinegar really helps with weight loss? Is there anything to this, or is it just a rumor/myth? Anyone have any results good or bad using this? thanx...
A. 14 April 2009: I would drink more water instead, not apple cider vinegar.... (read in full...)
Period onlylasts 3.5 days..should I worry?
Q. is it normal for a period to last only 3 1/2 days??? its been like this since my son was born in july. im only 20 so im not going through menopaus or anything. should i be concerned....
A. 14 April 2009: You might be one of the lucky ones getting lighter periods after having a child, but if you are truly concerened get a GYNO appointment and get check out.
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Is it worth saving my marriage?
Q. My husband is cheating on me and wants a divorce. He actually hasn't admitted to the cheating, he just said he wanted a divorce because he doesn't love me. I found out he was spending a lot of time with a woman at work, going out with her, talking ...
A. 14 April 2009: *Hugs*
I hope you figure out what YOU want and go for it. Maybe he's not IT.. you know?
Like the new attitude :) Telling him nice hair cut, take the trash out will ya? HA!
No matter what you can do it!
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Cute vs Sexy
Q. I have a question. I know, I have a lot of questions, but I also have a lot of answers, so I think it balances out =] I've noticed that a lot of guys I know have, over the past few years, said that I am so hot and sexy. They say they want to hav...
A. 9 April 2009: Ignore them. Wear what you want to wear. You don't have to start looking dumpy or hide yourself because other are raised in a barn.
However if you do like to show of your clevage then yeah you will get comments. Sad but true.
Don't change ... (read in full...)
She has a really pretty face but she's fat!
Q. I kind of like this girl in school. The thing is she's the nicest girl I've met and she's got a stunningly pretty face but she is a bit on the big side. She is pretty but fat. I feel I shouldn't go out with her beausde I'm one of the best foot...
A. 9 April 2009: Don't ask her out. She deserves a guy who is less shallow then a kiddie pool..
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Did he lie to me all that time?
Q. Hi cupid readers, here's the story! I was in a long distance relationship and I was so in love with him and he loved me. Then one day he told me a girl asked him out for a meal and he told me they were just friends and I was trying to tell h...
A. 9 April 2009: Take a deep breath then be happy. He is one sick puppy that truly do not deserve you.
So you hacked his hotmail.. /shrug.. Yes you shouldn't have but.. I can understand why.
What I think you need to do is cut the contact with him. Block his c... (read in full...)
Any ideas to keep my foreign friend entertained? Please help.
Q. well,tomorrow arrives my friend from another country.at first,we'll stay at my house and i have no idea what to do to have fun and keep us both entertained.what do you thing we should do?any suggestions?i'm 13...
A. 9 April 2009: Take her bowling :) or the roller rink. Ask her what she would like to do.
Maybe invite some of your friends over and have a slumber party. Have your mom and your friends help you come up with fun stuff do do for the slumber party.... (read in full...)
Why is he always nice, if he doesn't want to hang out with me?!
Q. This guy i like, who i speak to online like everyday (we text too). We speak for hours sometimes, and we obviously enjoy speaking to each other. We've been to the cinema before and he came to my house party last week, we ended up kissing and he f...
A. 9 April 2009: Have you tried to "play" hard to get for a little while? I normally don't encourage "games", but in my experience men likes the chase.
Also he might not have 7 other girls, but maybe a girlfriend?
I'd honestly back of and see what he does.
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Is it worth saving my marriage?
Q. My husband is cheating on me and wants a divorce. He actually hasn't admitted to the cheating, he just said he wanted a divorce because he doesn't love me. I found out he was spending a lot of time with a woman at work, going out with her, talking ...
A. 9 April 2009: Fixing a broken marriage takes 2 people giving 150%. You can not do it on your own. The fact that he is still lying to you doesn't help much either.
I think he's done with it. HE cheated. He made a choice. You can not "fix" a cheater if he doesn... (read in full...)
My ex wants to have sex with me on my Birthday, but I am not a cheater. What should I do?
Q. so i have a bf but i keep thinking about my ex and is crazy because i love my bf but we have sex issues. the sex has never been good but i didn't leave him because i love him and i didn't want to just tell him and hurt his feelings. but we have spo...
A. 9 April 2009: In the long run if the sex don't work it is really hard to make the rest of the relationship work.
I do agree with you that I rather have bad sex and a good man then great sex and an asshole.. BUT... it is possible to have great sex and a great ... (read in full...)
Teacher love story......And Obbsession...
Q. Well i am only 16...My questions is does it mean anything if your teacher(married) stares at you a lot and tries to talk to you in the hallway and always compliments on everything you do and his always smiling every time he sees you. Like today well...
A. 8 April 2009: You are 16 and HIS student. He might be flirting with you but apperently you need to act like the grown up here and ignore him. He will find someone else to flirt with. If he does not stop I would talk to FIRST your parents then the school.
I und... (read in full...)
My ex wants to have sex with me on my Birthday, but I am not a cheater. What should I do?
Q. so i have a bf but i keep thinking about my ex and is crazy because i love my bf but we have sex issues. the sex has never been good but i didn't leave him because i love him and i didn't want to just tell him and hurt his feelings. but we have spo...
A. 8 April 2009: Uberman is so right.
If yo uand your BF is having problem with sex. You two need to focus on that. What is wrong with your sex life? Is it something you think you two can fix? How important is the sex to you?
If you are not over your EX you... (read in full...)
Got involved with ex, wife found out and now wants to end things
Q. 40 yr old, Married for 15 years - 2 great kids ages 12 and 8. I love my wife very much, always have and always will. I started texting and emailing with my ex after seeking love and compassing that I was not getting at home. My ex was very lovey ...
A. 8 April 2009: Are you sorry for what you did to your wife or for getting caught?
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According to guys, if you are raped, do they think of you as "loose"?
Q. If you get raped does it affect your muscles? In a mans terms does getting raped make you "loose"? ...
A. 8 April 2009: I agree with the anon female reader.
No.
Some women are raped for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Rape is not about sex. It's about lack of empty, power, hate, fury... you name it.
Rape is rape is rape and it's still a horrifying t... (read in full...)
G/f would black out and wake up with guys..she can't remember what happened!
Q. My girlfriend recently told me something that I wish she never had. She was going through a tough time, and slept with guys, then woke up with them in her bed, and didnt remember what had happened. She said this happened several times. There was ...
A. 8 April 2009: If she quit drinking and got help I think she is heading in the right direction.
It might be that she told you to "test" you and how strongly you feel about her. If you truly love her you will understand that she has a past that she isn't proud of... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married teacher and now I want him to be with me!
Q. okay i posted a question quite a while back saying i tried to kiss my teacher but he rejected me. However last night i was at a nightclub with my friends and because hes only like 26 himself he was there and we started talking and he was saying how ...
A. 8 April 2009: Why would you want a guy who isn't fully "yours" ? And more over how can you ever trust him? If he cheated on his wife with you, then how long do you think it will take him to "date" another new student?
You are naive.
And shame on him for... (read in full...)
I want out of the relationship but she's so depressed I'm afraid to leave!
Q. I feel more like my girlfriend's mental health carer than her boyfriend. I never relised she would need to go to cousoling and take anti-depressents. I spend most days trying to cheer her up for one reason or another and it's bringing me down. I've ...
A. 8 April 2009: Hi again :)
Anti depressants are a short term ( or should be ) band aid solution. It will not cure depression. It will not "fix" her. But it can help her overcome some of the worst "peaks" in the depression, IF she takes them like prescrib... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't stay with me unless I lick him and strip
Q. this is her little sister i am 14 nearly 15. it all started at his 15th birthday party when we got a bit drunk.then i shared a bed with him we keep hugging and kissing. he went under the cover and pulled be pj bottoms down and started touching...
A. 8 April 2009: Have more self respect girl. It is not love when there are demands for secual favors involved. He's using you.
You can do better. Much better.... (read in full...)
Was I just a FWB or a Plan B only?
Q. It has been a while since I’ve been here at Cupid asking questions mainly because other than sorting out my life I haven’t been in any sort of relationship to have any issues. Its a bit long... But quite interesting... And there’s quite a bit of ...
A. 8 April 2009: Urgh. I'm sorry but she seems to be playing the field - enjoying being single and attractive.
First of, She isn't over her ex. He might not be what she wants long term, but she still "snogs" him when they met.
Secondly, she isn't that into ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone out there whose spouse DOES NOT look at other men/women??
Q. Dear People, Isn't there anyone out there whose spouse DOES NOT look at other men/women? All day, i've been searching for someone but every single title i find is all about how their husbands look at other women. Well, my husband DOES NOT look at ...
A. 8 April 2009: There are all kinds of people in the world :) There is nothing wrong with looking and certainly nothing wrong with NOT looking.
My husband don't stare og give a pretty girl the "elevator look" ( looking them up & down) but he does notice a pretty... (read in full...)
My buddy's dating a nut job because the sex is amazing
Q. My buddy is dating this really messed up girl. They have some really good highs but some bad lows. It's extremely draining for him and he puts up with a lot and I know why he does: The sex is really good. He's got some particular "pref...
A. 8 April 2009: All you can do really is tell him what you think. The rest is up to him. IF she gets pregnant, well the there will be him paying child support for 18-21 years.
Hopefully he will "grow up" and realize that sex truly isn't everything before he knock... (read in full...)
I want out of the relationship but she's so depressed I'm afraid to leave!
Q. I feel more like my girlfriend's mental health carer than her boyfriend. I never relised she would need to go to cousoling and take anti-depressents. I spend most days trying to cheer her up for one reason or another and it's bringing me down. I've ...
A. 8 April 2009: Obvioulsy neiher of you two are happy. You do need to have a sit down with her and tell her how you feel. You both deserve happiness.
You can NOT be respensible for HER ACTIONS. But you can be there for her as a friend til you feel you can let ... (read in full...)
We're dating and no one knows we're together
Q. hello i am 25 dating a 17 year old girl and i love her with all my heart and would do anything n this world for her happiness.she and i turn 26 before she turns 18 and we r keeping our relationship a secret except to the people we trust.we have not ...
A. 8 April 2009: Well it might be hard because you are friends with her dad. Maybe it would be an idea to ask him if you can "date" his daughter? If you two sneak around behind her family's back it will kick you in the shin & ass later.. Trust me.
17 and 25 is a ... (read in full...)
Did I give my best friend the right advice?
Q. Ok so my best friend is having a Big problem... she likes this guy. She and this other girl were competing for his attention/ being his GF. Anyways it turns out he was deciding between the two of them and before he could the other girl made the firs...
A. 8 April 2009: Help her get over him. He obviously wasn't for her. If he had really been interested he would not have sat on his hands going enie, meanie, minie, moe...
I bet he enjoyed having two girls "fight" for his attention.
Breaking up someone else'... (read in full...)
Whats the game plan here with her?
Q. My ex of two years split sometime ago, I found out she was seeing someone else. There have been ups and downs between us, and we have never quite had closure. She has played games with me. Anyway she recently has started to show an interest in w...
A. 8 April 2009: Honestly, if I was you I would cut all contact with her. If she truly is an EX then let her go. There will always be times after a relationship is over that we all wonder the what-if's and have the feeling of need for closure.
However, there ar... (read in full...)
Is it in poor taste for my friend to ask for money via a website?
Q. Is it in poor taste to ask for money via a website? a few days ago, a "mature in age" friend of mine that I have not talked with in about three months sent me and all of his friends one of those collection pages (Fundable.com) asking for money. ...
A. 8 April 2009: It does seems to be in poor taste. But it really is up to you wheather you want to give him some money (donate) or not. I understand that you know it is his dream, but he is also a grown ass man who SHOULD have though of putting away a few dollars ... (read in full...)
Tips on how not to gag when giving BJ?
Q. Dear Cupid I don't enjoy giving BJ's but my boyfriend (obviously) likes them. I feel bad because he gives me head all the time and for nothing in return, but I know that he wants to get them more... Does anyone have any advice on how to give a re...
A. 8 April 2009:
As far as the gagging. Well start out with NOT trying to do deep throat. That honestly takes pratice for most. Use your hands in conjunction with your lips/mouth. Also find a position YOU are comfortable in.
Buy the book "Tickle my Pickle" (... (read in full...)
Wanting to be with the love of my life.......a married man who won't leave his wife....
Q. I am 29 years old and I am so much in love with a 40 year old married man. This has been going on and off for 3 years. He is in love with me as well but he has a problem with starting a future with me. He does not want to start over --- house, ...
A. 2 April 2009: Why are you settling for another woman's leftovers?
You are being HAD. He is having his cake and eating it too. He is not going to leave his wife. ... (read in full...)
I have no life because of him and think I am being brainwashed!
Q. ok, so seven years ago I met the man of my dreams. Total charmer. He went out of his way to impress me. But things turned south very quickly. For instance, every time I missed his phone call he would go crazy. He wouldnt talk to me for days. I ...
A. 2 April 2009: He's a psycho control freak and you need to let him go.
That is JUST not love, honey.
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He won't give oral unless I shave and I really don't want to!
Q. For a while when my boyfriend and i started dating i went down on him almost everytime we had sex and in between, expecting to get some oral lovin as well, but i got nothing. When i finally asked him to go down on me he said he doesn't really like ...
A. 2 April 2009: If you don't want to start shaving then don't. You can however meet him halfways and trim the "bush" :)
Is he clean shaven below? ( not that it really matters) Some people don't like to give oral but enjoy recieving. If he satisfy you in other wa... (read in full...)
He texts me but wont call me! Why?
Q. I lost about my next move. What do I do, my relationship of only a few months recently ended, not sure why, but, it did. We did a lot of things with our homes together and some of his stuff is at my place and vise-versa. Within the last two ...
A. 25 March 2009: Box up his crap and mail it to him. If he can't pick up the phone what really is there to say?
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Should I just delete the message before he gets it?
Q. Help, urgent advice needed. You are probably sick of my saga. My husband had a 'text affair' with a work colleague and although it's over he still has to liaise with her and attend work related committee meetings (he doesn't see her on a daily basis ...
A. 25 March 2009: If you want to keep an ounce of self respect and sanity STOP snooping. Trust me on this one.
I know that you most likely don't trust your husband much these days, but you have to give him the chance to prove that he can be trusted again. That can... (read in full...)
8 years of marriage..6 with no intimacy!
Q. Help!!!! I have been married for 8 years, six of which have been void of intimacy. My husband can't even hold my hand or give me a hug!!! We have had sex once in six years !!!!!!!!!!! We have had counselling which has in no way helped. I hav...
A. 23 March 2009: Like Cat said you need to have a talk with him, tell him what you NEED from him.Though if the two of you already did counseling he should already know.
One thing I have learned after 10 years of marriage is that sometimes if you want somethi... (read in full...)
I don't like to wear underwear often
Q. I don't like to wear underwear often. Will that be a problem? Can any one help on advising me on this?...
A. 22 March 2009: I guess that depends on what you wear. Under a kilt it's kinda a cliche..
I go "commando" most of the time, though NEVER while wearing loose shorts or a skirt/dress.
I have known lots of guys who never wear them.
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