I don't like to wear underwear often
Q. I don't like to wear underwear often. Will that be a problem? Can any one help on advising me on this?...
A. 22 March 2009: I guess that depends on what you wear. Under a kilt it's kinda a cliche..
I go "commando" most of the time, though NEVER while wearing loose shorts or a skirt/dress.
I have known lots of guys who never wear them.
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Is he right in thinking I owe him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have a 2 year old together. At the time we both had great jobs. I took a year off for maturnity leave. Now, my boyfriend thinks that because he had to help support me when i was on maternity leave...he thinks i owe him this huge...
A. 22 March 2009: I still say he's a greedy bugger. If he helped you with your student loan then I would pay back ( over time) the amount he paid out. I wouldn't pay him a cent for anything else.
Since you aren't married, technically your student load isn't "c... (read in full...)
Is he right in thinking I owe him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have a 2 year old together. At the time we both had great jobs. I took a year off for maturnity leave. Now, my boyfriend thinks that because he had to help support me when i was on maternity leave...he thinks i owe him this huge...
A. 18 March 2009: What is wrong with him? I can understand if it was't HIS baby too and you two had an agreement written or verbal that he would pay while you were on leave, and tha you would pay him back.
Kick his petty ass out and get child support.
If you ... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 17 March 2009: You should ask your wife that question. She is the only one who can give you the right answer.
Why do people not understand that when you cheat it WILL come out sooner or later. And WTF were you thinking that it wouldn't HURT your wife? And not ... (read in full...)
Is it the truth? Or one of his famous lies?
Q. I am an older person and should know this but I want to get it verified. I have been seeing this man on and off for 20 years and just back together afte being separated for over 5 years. Everything was going ok until a couple of weeks ago. He ...
A. 12 March 2009: Obviously he's lied to you in the past or you wouldn't have the thoughts of it being one of his "famous lies".
If he can e-mail you about being hospitalized he could have called. Anyone would have made sure to let friends & loved ones know the... (read in full...)
I thought I would be free of his abuse, but I'm not. Help!
Q. 20 years old and I just broke up with my bf because he was abusive. I thought I would be free of his abuse, but I'm not. His abuse has escalted!!! It has got so bad, I am constatnly shaking, feeling faint and dizzy, out of anxiety and fear. ...
A. 12 March 2009: Don't talk to him in person. There is nothing he can say that you need to hear. If he harass you on facebook, contact the web support and see what they can do.
Tell your friends and family why you broke up. They need to know. YOU HAVE NOTHING ... (read in full...)
My gf wasnt a virgin but I was, and it bothers me
Q. Ok. Ive been with my gf for over 4 years and we have a 1 year old baby. Ok my problem is that I was a virgin till I meant my gf and she was my first and only. But come to find out i wasnt for her. its kinda hard to explain but the guy who had sex ...
A. 12 March 2009: What is it exactly that bothers you? About her not being a virgin ?
Did she tell you when you first got together that she was one? Did you assume she was one?
I think it's a little late to be upset that she wasn't a virgin now. Specially i... (read in full...)
I am dating my best friends ex-fiancee. Should I tell her?
Q. Hi guys and gals. I moved down to London around six months ago because I found a good job. I left my best friend up in Manchester. About three months ago, I ran in to my best friend's fiance here in London. I knew that they had broken up since my ...
A. 12 March 2009: I would tell er and ask what she thinks. She is your best friend after all. Best friends boyfriends always.... (read in full...)
Worried about b/f's conversation with sleazy secretary
Q. I met my boyfriend for lunch and the secretary at his office called.. He said, 'Hello' And I couldn't hear what she said..he didn't move away do much..so that's not the problem. But he said, 'Well how do you want me to answer.' Then you co...
A. 11 March 2009: Don't let your imagination run away with you. You BF seem able enough to handle her.
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More important? Your happines & life? Or your kids?
Q. I have been married for about 13 years now. I have two daughters which I love so much. I am an honest, hardworking husband and try to be the best father that I can. I hug my kids daily, tell them I love them, sit with them on the couch and watch ...
A. 11 March 2009: I'm sorry :(
I think your wife is going thru something, but obviously she isn't going to doctor. It's NOT normal for a woman to totally lose their sex drive. There is usually a deeper or underlying cause for it.
It could have to do with depre... (read in full...)
I know this isn't good..I always feel bad after sex
Q. Hey. Ive been with my boyfreind for almost nine months and recently we started having sex. But im confused because before we do it i feel so ready and i want to. But after we do it i always feel bad. im not quite sure what it is that i feel but i kn...
A. 11 March 2009: Don't take this the wrong way, please.
You aren't ready for sex. That simple. You want to have it because you want to please your BF. You might even get turned on yourself, it doesn't mean you are ready.
Girls are "raised" to be pure and "vir... (read in full...)
How much porn is too much porn?
Q. How much porn is too much porn?!? I ask this question because I found downloaded porn on my boyfriends computer. I had never used his computer before ( mine was broken). I then saw there were folders full of it, as well as bookmarked pages...
A. 11 March 2009: He's addicted, but like any other addiction the addict don't see it being a problem.
You can not cure him. Honestly I'd start packing and move on. It's NOT going to stop.
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Living up to "redheads are good in bed"
Q. I'm sixteen in a few days and i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, i'm a redhead and drowning with boredom i decided to research about redheads themselves, i've always been pretty firey and most of the things and myths i've been told ...
A. 11 March 2009: I think the color of your hair has NOTHING to do with how great sex you get/have.
Talk to your BF about fantasies and maybe roleplay them.
Personally I'm blond, but I don't do the whole DUMB thing.. I leve that for the actual dumb people..... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand? Or emotional affair without sex?
Q. Do you consider a drunken one night stand to be 'better' or worse than a longstanding emotional affair without sex?...
A. 11 March 2009: It's both cheating - it's both morally wrong. I guess it comes down to how you perceive it. ... (read in full...)
Why did he do this? I'm confused.
Q. Im really confused. I have what i thought was a good friend in Reno, we have known each other for two years or so, but have grown closer over the last couple of months (in a 'friends' way...)we both have partners. However, lately there has, if im...
A. 11 March 2009: Odd thing to do. First of you need to tell him that stuff is NOT ok. That he actually physically HURT you. LEFT you with bruises. WTF?
What does your partner say?
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How do you motivate yourself to be healthier?
Q. I know this site is generally for relationship advice but I have a query I'd love some help on, and I'm sure it's something many people can relate to or give advice on. I am terribly unhealthy. I eat way too much and exercise way too little. ...
A. 11 March 2009: Wii Fit is the shiznits! But I digress, Find an exercise you like, be it swimming, cardio (elliptical for example - fun stuff), aerobics, running.. you name it.. Find yours :)
Make a plan ( for instants decide that Tuesday and Thursday you work... (read in full...)
Am I blinded by love?
Q. After My Divorce I went wild and said just what every other girl says when they have been through hell, I will never love again. I met a guy in December that has just taken every inch of my heart, and I’m not sure if it’s in the best entrees for...
A. 10 March 2009: I would tell him to get back to you when his divorce is finalized and if you are still available you can start to date.
Why are you content with sloopy seconds?
If he is cheating with you on his wife how are you to know he won't cheat on yo... (read in full...)
Was she trying to irk me?
Q. First off I wanna say Hi to everyone on the site. I am slackersace and new to dearcupid. I shall start my career of asking dumb questions now. So heres the thing. I finally worked up enough cahones to ask my favorite Latina sweetie out on a date...
A. 10 March 2009: Take it slow with the pretty Latina ;) If you like her give her the benifit of the doubt. I think your friend is looking out for you. Unless she was laughing her tail of while telling you.
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Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 10 March 2009: My husband just got home from his 3rd deployment. It is not an easy job for sure but making you believe he had died is just sick. WHY would he do that? Have you asked him that?
Call the Rear D and get the acting Chaplain's number and talk to him. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating but live with my brother and it embarrasses me
Q. hello there... I hve just started dating a guy (seen him 6 times now) and we get on really well. Im just so embarrased because I live in rented accomodation with my brother and it gets me down. I cant afford to rent on my own and feel embarras...
A. 10 March 2009: I would tell him that you share a house/flat with your brother, what the shame in that? If (for now) that is all you can afford what is wrong with that?
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My boyfriend is emotionally abusive, but I don't know how to leave him...
Q. Hi everyone, Ok I have a boyfriend who is almost 26 years old, we've been together for 1 and 1/2years. For half this time though he has been emotionally abusive but tries to disguise it as "joking" comments. He orders me what to do, says we are m...
A. 10 March 2009: He's a prick, why haven't you packed your stuff up already? What is holding you back?
Fear of being single? Fear of not feeling loved?
He doesn't seem to respect you one bit.
IF you did leave him, do you have a place to go? Do you have... (read in full...)
When a girl starts to orgasm, should I keep touching her until she's finished?
Q. I have a question Ive always wondered about. Whenever a girl starts to have an orgasm do they want/need the guy to keep on touching them to keep it going or once its started does it just go by itself? I know for a guy if i started to orgasm and th...
A. 10 March 2009: Ask her:) While she is hitting climax ask her if she wants you to keep at it. My bet is she will say yes! It will prolong the feeling.... (read in full...)
Finally got the strength to walk away from a cheater
Q. UPDATE After finding out about my husbands affairs just over a year ago (3 over our 20 years of marriage)and all the lies and excuses i have finally LEFT HIM,i tried to make it work i love him with all heart but can not be with him any more. I...
A. 10 March 2009: *Congratulations*
Take some time and mourn the loss of the marriage and then put you and yourself on the top of your list. YOU didn't MAKE him cheat, YOU didn't betray your marriage, YOU gave it your best shot.
Keep the no-contact going... (read in full...)
Why Anal sex
Q. Why does a man want to have anal sex with his wife? Why that kind of sex? ...
A. 10 March 2009: I think StudentofLife has it down. It's something a little kinky and "dirty". For others it's about dominance.
If done right it can be pleasurable for both parties. If you have no desire to try it then I see nothing wrong in that.
Not all... (read in full...)
Once a cheat? The doubt is driving me crazy!
Q. Hello, I'm looking for some advice. I've been with my bf for nearly 9 years. Last year, he came home (we were living together, not engaged/not married)from a working trip abroad and abruptly told me he didn't want to be with me anymore. Four week...
A. 10 March 2009: Honestly trust is pretty hard to gain back, but my advice is this STOP snooping. When you do you might find stuff and with even a little imagination it because a huge issue. And no matter what you find you might feel like a crazed stalker more then ... (read in full...)
Other half has been texting women for a year
Q. Just found out my OH (we've been married for 9 years and have a two year old daughter) has been texting other women for about 12 months. The texts are not explicit but do contain things like love you loads, hi sexy, you're so gorgeous. He says its ...
A. 10 March 2009: How do you get back trust? Very little at a time. First, I really strongly suggest that he says that he understood what he did was wrong. Unless he knows and understands there is no way he will ever stop.
Secondly what could he do that would sh... (read in full...)
How do I go into college tomorrow after trying to kiss my teacher?
Q. Omg ! Ive just made a complete idiot of myself.So im 18 and Ive always had a thing for one of my teachers at college since he wasnt like the rest of the old fat teachers. Hes young attractive and really funny, however he is married and has twin ...
A. 9 March 2009: Your age doesn't matter and yes, stop calling yourself names. So you made a stupid pass at not only a teacher but a married one too. Well, my bet is he is flattered so go to class and pretend it never happened. If he does want to talk to you after ... (read in full...)
Other half has been texting women for a year
Q. Just found out my OH (we've been married for 9 years and have a two year old daughter) has been texting other women for about 12 months. The texts are not explicit but do contain things like love you loads, hi sexy, you're so gorgeous. He says its ...
A. 9 March 2009: You need to be very open when you talk to him. Tell him how it feels and how you perceive this kind of contact. For instants do you see it as cheating or just plain wrong.
He needs to OWN up to it. You can not be in a relationship or marriage... (read in full...)
Because we don't have sex he accuses me of having it with someone else?
Q. Ok I've been dating this guy for a few months. Things moved pretty quickly as far as emotions are involved. I have deep feelings for him, and from what he says the feeling is mutual. I decided to wait a while before we had sex. He said no problem. ...
A. 9 March 2009: He seems pretty insecure and a tad jealous. Had he been cheated on before or cheated himself maybe?
First of all no, I don't think you should marry someone who is acusing you of being unfaithful. That shows a HUGE lack of trust ( on his end).
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Can my husband investigate into my computer?
Q. Hi, I'm going on a trip, and would like to know if my husband can get into my computer to find sites I've been on. I have a password and erased my history, but can he bypass it all to find out everything? I once saw a show about computer forensi...
A. 6 March 2009: Karma is a bugger.... (read in full...)
Will a threadworm tablet stop my pill from working?
Q. Hey aunts please help! I started taking the contraceptive pill (microgynon 30) on Tuesday for the first time ever! I started on the first day of my period, and I've read the information leaflet about 4 times, the doctor told me and the leaflet ...
A. 6 March 2009: Call the pharmacy or the doctor's office and ask they will know 100%.
I doubt however that the worm pills will mess with your birth control. BUT that is just a guess. Worm pills kills eggs and worms in the gastointestinal tract.
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My boyfriend wants to be kinky in our sexual relationship.... But I absolutely hate it.
Q. Hi, I love my boyfriend very much and I've been with him for about a year and a half. We have an absolutely great relationship... except for when it comes to sex (for me anyways). We first started having sex taking it slow. That kind of stuff turns ...
A. 6 March 2009: It might be that the two of you aren't really sexually compatible. But if you still want to give him a go you need to tell him ( not right before or right after sex though) how you feel. How it makes you feel. What you like and what you REALLY like ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can recall an email from hotmail if it hasn't been read yet?
Q. HELP!!! I was really emotional a few days ago and sent my ex a really stupid email which I totally regret now. I am not sure that he has read it yet; is there any way I can recall the email if it is unread? I sent it from my hotmail account. Thanks ...
A. 6 March 2009: Don't think so unless you know his PW and go delete it. However that is illegal....
Once you hit SEND the email is no longer yours.. "technically".. :)
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How do I keep both women in my life?
Q. I've been in a committed relationship for the past 6+ years with my girlfriend, "Rachel". I love her with all of my heart and I had planned on proposing but something recently has caused me not to. One of my close friends, "Tammy", and I h...
A. 6 March 2009:
Sorry sending flirty email/texts and horny pics is NOT friendship.
Shit or get of the pot.... (read in full...)
Porn addicted husband wants my help.
Q. My husband and I have been married a year in May. We have a son who just turned 3 months. I found out about 8 months ago that he has a porn addiction. I confronted him on several occations and he always told me he would stop. He didnt. I have a p...
A. 6 March 2009: http://www.compulsionsolutions.com/?gclid=CLaOjq-Sj5kCFQ8eDQod5zunZg
maybe this will give you an idea to start?
I'm sorry that you have to deal with it, but remember the fact that he knows he is having a problem is a huge step. He's asking for ... (read in full...)
At times I find myself hating her... should I call it a day with her?
Q. I have been with my girl 6 years on and off. From the start she has hidden things like texting ex's(denied for 1 year until he told me), joining dating sites, calling me by the wrong name, phone calls from males and then lies as she's unaware I'm ...
A. 6 March 2009: Move on, she's a lost cause. You deserve better and she do not deserve you.
If she gets upset.. Tough cookies.
I would (if I were in your shoes) dump her and tell her no contact.
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Would it be sensible to hold off on the military until I'm divorced?
Q. okay, so im leaving for basic within the next two months, I have been dating my boyfriend for awhile now...and when i say awhile, im not talkin about more than a year. I love him to death, i would take a bullet for this man. Here is the probl...
A. 27 February 2009: Yes.
Simple as that. Your "new" husband however won't be coming with you til your first duty station, married or not. However you will receive the financial and medical benefits for him as well if you are married. As well as financial assistan... (read in full...)
My long term b/f has caught me on several dating sites and left. Shall I forgive him?
Q. My long term bf has caught me in chat rooms and several dating sites over the last 9 months. We argue,like a child he walks out and doesnt come back for a week or so. All i do is harmless flirting and the odd guy i text. We broke up and this time i ...
A. 27 February 2009:
The poor guy deserve a good women, let him go. You aren't it.
You either have attachment issues, have a narcissistic personality or you are just a plain attention whore. Not sure which, not sure I care.
I think you shouldn't forgive hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he was bi-curious, but found out he's more... help!
Q. I am a female who wrote a question about my live in boyfriend. I wrote that I was worried because he had been bi-curious before he had met me. He and I had been dating for 4 months then moved in together. After several weeks I came accross some ...
A. 27 February 2009: I think you need to do what you feel is right. I'm sorry that it hurt his feelings, but hiding stuff in a relationship (specially in the beginning) can cause so much drama.
He might have had a phase where he experimented with bi sexuality and he m... (read in full...)
Does sleeping with 4 guys in one year make me a slut?
Q. I have a question... At the age of 16 I lost my virginity to someone who I dated for only 2 weeks but we went on to be together for 4 and 1/2 years. I dated and slept with 3 other guys. 3 of the 4 guys I ended up being in love with but I am now 21 ...
A. 27 February 2009: If you don't feel like one, don't put that label on yourself, and don't let others put that label on you.
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My husband said it's "just texting" and I have nothing to worry about! What do you reckon?
Q. So, found text on my husband's phone of naked girl and dirty talk. She is my sister in law's best friend.. Lives 2,000 Miles away, so a lot of talking on phone and dirty pics. I set him up with a facebook account and this is were they connected. ...
A. 27 February 2009: It's what's called an emotional affair. What he should do is put all that time and effort into you and your marriage not flirt/horny mail some chick 2000 miles away.
Been in a situation a lot like yours.
What I did was write him a long ass m... (read in full...)
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