I feel in my gut he's cheating..but have no proof
Q. i've been with my bf for over 2 years, before me lets just say variety was his spice of life, literally hundreds of women!! he's a lawyer for a major financial company and i know at times he has to go away on business but this time he told me less ...
A. 23 June 2009: It might be her, it might be 20 other "porn" queens.. It could be a 20 year old student or a 65 year old librarian...
Who the women is, is not really important. TRUST me. HIS actions is what is important. What he says is what is importan... (read in full...)
Is it like, love or lust?
Q. Is it like, love, or lust? 1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc. 2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream ...
A. 22 June 2009: Frankly, no one can really KNOW how YOU feel. Lust or love. Your interpretation of love might be very different then let's say someone twice your age. I still say it's a crush.
If it is lust, then what?
Ditto for love?
There is a reas... (read in full...)
He got his ex pregnant! Everytime we argue I'm scared he goes to her!
Q. My partner of 4 years cheated on me with his now ex, unfortunately she got pregnant by him. Anyway today I had to go to the doctors as i'm not well and i asked him if he could pick me up from there. We arranged it and all was fine. I came out of the ...
A. 18 June 2009: Let him go. He isn't worth your time. You can not change him into a caring man, if he isn't one from the start.
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My boyfriend was a bit rough with me and now I'm in pain!
Q. My boyfriend was kinda rough last night when he was fingering me and I've been extremely sore ever since. I think his nails might have scatched me, is there any way to ease the pain? It's honestly so bad Im avoiding even using the washroom as long ...
A. 18 June 2009: Take a hot bath. Tell your BF to keep his dirty paws out of your vagina. Rough nails contain a LOT of germs as well as the potential to scratch and scar the inside of your vagina.... (read in full...)
I feel in my gut he's cheating..but have no proof
Q. i've been with my bf for over 2 years, before me lets just say variety was his spice of life, literally hundreds of women!! he's a lawyer for a major financial company and i know at times he has to go away on business but this time he told me less ...
A. 18 June 2009: If you get a feeling something is wrong it usually is. Is he cheating? Maybe. Something odd is going on for sure.
I would tell him that you are having some trust issues with him lately and why. ( I wouldn't mention the ex pornstar - cause th... (read in full...)
He's very close to his ex, it troubles me, he wants us to all be friends!
Q. hi, i have posted on here before and got some good replies. i have been with my partner now for nearly a year and i am planning to move in with him as we live 2 hours apart, the problem is that he is best friends with an ex. he split up with hi...
A. 18 June 2009: Uh, personally I wouldn't move in with him with all this potential "drama" going on. To me it seems like she is quite comfortable having the babysitter/friend/ex lover around the corner. With that being said I don't believe in telling your SO whom ... (read in full...)
Mom is drinking, wondering if she's going crazy, how to handle this?
Q. If nothing else, I'd like to use this space to vent. Advice and even just opinions would be fantastic. To begin, I think my mum is going crazy. I remember that the only time my mum used to drink alcohol when I was younger was on Saturday nights ...
A. 18 June 2009: The sad thing with alcoholics is that you can not help them til they are READY to help themselves.
I know there are a lot of websites and forums dedicated to support children of alcoholics. I would try and find a support group (either on he web o... (read in full...)
He loves me but doesn't know if he wants to be with me?
Q. So this is a long-ish story. I'll try to keep it a summation of events, rather than full-tilt detail. --He asked me for two days of space. He was treating me like crap, being a jerk, I finally said okay. But I had to find somewhere to be ...
A. 18 June 2009: Ok, just to be the "devil's advocate" here. WHY is HE the only one making MAJOR decision in YOUR life? Why do you let him? Because you love him?
If he has all these doubts then it usually means you aren't "The one" for him. At least not now. He ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has "been around"
Q. I'm stuck I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months but I met him for the first time when I was 14. I love him more than anything but the only problem is, hes got a "record" Lets just say, he's been around. My problem is that I just can't s...
A. 18 June 2009: I guess it comes down to this, do you want to have a slut for a BF or not. It is as easy as that. Some guys will sleep with anything with a pulse the first few years they are sexually active, others are more picky.
It could be that he is trying t... (read in full...)
Is it like, love or lust?
Q. Is it like, love, or lust? 1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc. 2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think it's more of a crush then actual love. First off he is a teacher so that SHOULD be a big no-no. You are getting all these signals from your hormones and your body. It's quite normal.
The fact that the two of you like the same ice cream is... (read in full...)
Itching after anal... Should I see a Doctor?
Q. Hi, I tried anal sex for the 2nd time last week and it was protected and everything but now I freaking out that I may have a STD or something. It initially hurt the first day, but have a slight itchy feeling there every now and again but nothing ...
A. 18 June 2009: You could try some hemroid cream first and see if that help, if not, go see a doctor. And SMART choice to use protection.
I know some people reacts to the latex and some to the lubricants, could be either of those as well. Make sure you don't us... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my girlfriend since she had a weekend away
Q. I don’t trust my girlfriend!? She secretive and gets all defensive if I ask her about things. It never used to be like this. She used to be so open, used to tell me everything, I didn’t need to ask anything. It all changed a few months ago...
A. 18 June 2009: I think Army Medic has a good point. If he only is a friend then you two should meet. If she refuses then there is more to it them she is telling.
I truly believe in gut instincts. Mine are rarely wrong. However, once you start to loose trust in... (read in full...)
How to tell my mother-in-law she can't come at my aunt's funeral?
Q. My mother in law is a real tag along. She wants to go everywhere with me and my husband. Tomorrow, we're going to my Aunt's funeral. She's not invited because it's intermediate family only; we couldn't afford to have a public funeral. We're ha...
A. 18 June 2009: I'm sorry for your loss and I'm with Old Guy. He's right on the money there.
And yes, it should be your HUSBAND who needs to talk to her. It's his mother.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wondering if she'll ever care about her appearance?
Q. This autumn will be 6 years married, 7 years in the same relationship and i will be 26. My girl is really good to me, but she is really overweight. I figured eventually she could lose weight, but there's never been any motivation. I've tried ...
A. 18 June 2009: You are being a JERK if her weight is what makes you think that looking at other women is ok. Everyone looks at other people besides their spouses. It's HOW you look and what you do about it that really counts towards being a jerk or not.
Don't... (read in full...)
We've never met..should we meet a theme park?
Q. Is this a bad idea? Recently I met a girl through a dating website. I think we both have a lot of things in common and our friendship has grown over the past few weeks. We arranged to meet up last week, but a couple of nights before hand she ...
A. 18 June 2009: I don't think it is a bad idea. Though I think I would start out with a couple of VERY short coffee "dates" first. It would kinda suck if you pay a good amount of money to go to the park and then not "clicking".
Meet her for lunch or coffee. ... (read in full...)
I think he is just using me!
Q. ive been sleeping with this lad for ages now n he always slags me off to his friends but tells me he dosnt meen it n thats what they wanna hear my friends say hes just playing me but hes gorguss n i cant help but go back for more i realy like him ...
A. 18 June 2009: Sounds like an asshat to me. Sorry, he is using you. People don't slag someone they truly care for and certainly not to their mates/friends..
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Is there any way I can make my period come early?
Q. i still havn't come on my period yet and im due soon but problem is on the 26th imgoing away for my big walk which is over 3 days with school. it would be the worse thing if i came on for it. does anyone know any ways of making it come early? ...
A. 18 June 2009: Suck, but no.
Only if you have been on the pill for a while can you "move" your period. There are even certain ones that can give you only 4 periods a year.
Make sure you pack A LOT of the things you use and if possible make sure you change ... (read in full...)
Taking birth control pills, but worried I'll still get pregnant if he doesn't wear a condom
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow. He and I used to foreplay and sometimes have sex but it all stopped a few months ago when I got on birth control pills. I don't know why but I Just was never in the mood. The thing is, I've been ...
A. 18 June 2009: I agree 100% with Army medic. No condom = no sex. He's not the one who could potentially become pregnant. It's your body.
PS, there are many public places were they have condom machines in the bathrooms.
PPS, I have never heard of anywher... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wondering if she'll ever care about her appearance?
Q. This autumn will be 6 years married, 7 years in the same relationship and i will be 26. My girl is really good to me, but she is really overweight. I figured eventually she could lose weight, but there's never been any motivation. I've tried ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think it happens a lot when people reach a weight where they aren't really happy about themselves that they give up. Thinking there is nothing I can do.
However you being critical of her ONLY makes it worse. That can lead down the road of depre... (read in full...)
I can't climax through oral sex and I don't want her to feel like a failure
Q. i have this great woman who i have asked to marry me (she said yes). There is just a small problem, she really wants me to climax while she gives me oral sex, I can get right to the edge of no return but cant go over the egde. I have seen a a ...
A. 16 June 2009: Use hands first. hers on it and your on her hand, that way you set how tight the grip is and the tempo when you get close ask her to just work the tip with her mouth ( no moving no hands mind you). That should do the trick.
Not every male climax f... (read in full...)
Who is the father of my baby?
Q. my 1stday of my last period is february 3,2009.i had sex wd a guy on the 15th of february.then i had sex again with my bf at 17th of february now im pregnant.and im confused who is the father of my baby.can you help me figure it out?...
A. 15 June 2009: You really should learn to use birth control pill and condoms.
No way of telling with 100% accuracy who the daddy is.
You can have a paternity test on the amniotic fluids during pregnancy, but it's not something doctors do commonly. You mo... (read in full...)
My bf left me after 11 years but he still texts me...
Q. my boyfriend left me for another women he moved straight in with her, after our 11 happy years togther. he never stopped texting me he used to end me a text once a week and since the 20th may i had about 25 texts some saying how was your weekend, ...
A. 15 June 2009: I agree fully with Steve S. He's keeping you hanging on "just in case". Block his number, ignore if he still tried to call or e-mail.
You guys spend 11 years together so of course he didn't just stop having feelings for you, but he didn't want you... (read in full...)
He's sent e-mails to another woman...what do I do now?
Q. I know I shouldn't but I've been hacking into my boyfriends email account and recently found emails to another woman which imply they have had a previous encounter (not sure how long ago) but my boyfriend has told the woman I will be working away ...
A. 10 June 2009: What do you want to do? You have a couple of choices.
1. you confront him now. ( he will most likely turn it around on you and make you feel like the bad guy because you snooped.) And yes, when you snoop you sometimes find stuff you really d... (read in full...)
Affairs by email
Q. My husband has struck up an email relationship with a widow with a son of 16years because 'he felt sorry for her'. This has been going on for several months. They write pages to each other every few days. He has told me the gist of their emails - ...
A. 10 June 2009: Personally ( I have been in a similar situation, jsut not a stranger but husbands ex-wife) I would print ALL the emails out. Then I would sit him down and tell him how it makes you feel that he is cheating on you.
Now he may tell you that it is ha... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my toxic group of friends?
Q. I've know my friends for years now and I know what they are. From the start, they have been backstabbing one another. They seem nice and all but when you are gone, they'll start gossiping. No matter truth or rumors, they always spread them fast then ...
A. 10 June 2009: If you don't want to be part of the gossip SPEAK up. You don't have to not have any friends, but you CAN set limits as to what you want to be involved with.
Some people ENJOY the gossip, others enjoy making up gossip just to get the attentio... (read in full...)
A lot has happened between us. Now I'm pregnant and he doesn't want it
Q. right I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months, in the very short space of time alot has happend. soo when i met him he had only been single for 1 week. he split up with hes ex as hes in the army and she called him all the time was very needy an...
A. 10 June 2009: Well one thing you can count on is that he will not be there physically to help you with this child, if you decide to go through with the pregnancy. He's already told you he didn't want it. However, if you do choose to have it, then he will HAVE to ... (read in full...)
I want us to be happy without all this arguing...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together going on 5 years. We have a 2 year old son. We got together when i was 16. I love him very much and i know he loves me. The problem is that we argue a whole lot. It could be the smallest thing and get turned ...
A. 4 June 2009: You say you two argue over little things. What you need to do is figure out WHY.
You might have forgiven his cheating but you still resent him and yourself for it. You need to work on that. If you plan on staying you need to work on the forgiven... (read in full...)
I don't want him to think I'll just drop everything and keep running back to him
Q. ere's the situation: We've been dating for awhile. It's a long distance relationship, but we both went into the relationship knowing it wasn't going to be easy. He said we were in it for the long haul; good or bad. We got into an argument t...
A. 4 June 2009: Don't second guess yourself OR him. It's not going to do you any good, it will just really drive you batty.
If you don't want it to be over, then call and talk to him. If he tells you again that he can't DO long distance, then you have three ch... (read in full...)
Want to lose some weight quickly, any healthy suggestions?
Q. help! i've started eating really healthy and exercising is there anyway i can lose 3 stone in 3 months it's really important as i'm starting college soon and need that extra confidence boost, i've been eating healthy in moderation but now i'm thin...
A. 4 June 2009: Loosing a lot of weight in a short period of time usually backfires.. Meaning you will get the weight RIGHT back on.
You could cut sugar and starch to a minimum and stick to as many raw veggies as possible, but I truly suggest you talk to a dietic... (read in full...)
Confused, she aborted her roomate's baby, says she cares about me, what am I to believe/
Q. Ill try and keep this brief, but this is a complex situation, which is why i am asking for outside help(not friends and family who have their own agendas) Met this girl through a mutual friend 6 weeks ago and we have had some of the most romanti...
A. 4 June 2009: Awkward! Situation that is.
First of all, I like the fact that she was honest about the abortion. About the casual sex with her room mate. She is fairly upfront with you.
However, to me it seems like she isn't quite over the experience of th... (read in full...)
Would texting a woman be classified as cheating?
Q. My fiance has treated me like crap for 4 months RUDE!!! I caught him texting a girl from work now that he's caught, he's being really nice and things are back to normal, I don't know what to think. In my book Texting another female and hiding it is ...
A. 4 June 2009: Can't say unless the text's were sexual in nature. I think texting back and forth CAN be harmless but once it becomes VERY personal and even sexual I do consider it cheating.
If those are texts he can show you, then they should be ok. If he hides... (read in full...)
Is my family's attitued rubbing off on me?
Q. Hey guys I've been going out with a 36 year old guy for about 6 months now (I'm 21) and everything's great. Age difference hasn't been an issue, and whilst our relationship isn't typical as he's at sea quite a lot, we email and it's great even ...
A. 4 June 2009: Is he Navy?
Not that it matters. First of all. Talk to him. Ask him when you get to met his family. (preferably ask this face to face so you can gauge his reaction).
He might want to take it slow, but wanted to be honest from the get go that ... (read in full...)
Sex in the woods to lose my virginity?
Q. So me and this guy "Alex" have been talking all school year. We pass notes all the time and we always joked about having sex, especially because at my school, everyone think I get around. The truth is I'm a virgin. Well Alex asked me to go to a lake ...
A. 4 June 2009: Why? What is the hurry in loosing your virginity? You think you will be more cool if you screw some "almost" random guy in the woods?
To me that sounds more like someone who is desperate for acceptance. Is he in some clique of popular people y... (read in full...)
I didn't break up with him..did I do the right thing?
Q. A little while ago my boyfriend cheated on me. he was drinking.. a lot and this one girl who has been after him for a long time.. a few years (shes.. not exactly particular about who she sleeps with, all she wanted was him.. but not really as a ...
A. 4 June 2009: I think first of all, only YOU can say if it was the right thing to do or not. Though in my honest opinion being drunk is really a bad excuse that I have heard a lot of times.
If you forgive him, you will have to remember that his actions can NOT ... (read in full...)
He thinks what I asked him to do was wrong
Q. hello, i've been with my husband for about 5 years; august 28th will be our first wedding anniversary. a year before we met, he and his girlfriend of two years had broken up. he told me they were still friends. that was okay at the time, since ou...
A. 4 June 2009: YOU WROTE : "the ex still loves him. that's a problem. it's altogether possible for him to turn to her for emotional support should we have other problems at some point."
You know, whether he talks to her or not that will always be somethin... (read in full...)
He thinks what I asked him to do was wrong
Q. hello, i've been with my husband for about 5 years; august 28th will be our first wedding anniversary. a year before we met, he and his girlfriend of two years had broken up. he told me they were still friends. that was okay at the time, since ou...
A. 2 June 2009: One thing I have learned over the years is this, DON'T tell a lover/SO/Hubby/BF/GF who they can talk to and whom they can't. For the simple reason that you are not their momma but their "better" half.
What I do think is right is to tell them tha... (read in full...)
Should I trust my gut instinct about him?
Q. should I trust my gut instinct ? My long term boyfriend and father of my two children has been acting really distant . He has gone for " nights out with workmates " more frequently and gone to Paris with work for a week .He now sleeps in a seperate ...
A. 2 June 2009: Yes, trust your gut. He is not sleeping in the spare bedroom out of love for you, rather out of guilt. He wants whomever he IS having a affair with to believe he is "faithful" to her, yet he doesn't have the BALLS to let you go.
Pack his back and... (read in full...)
'J' and 'A' text me all the time but which one should I go for?
Q. Dear Whoever, I need help! I have two guys who both like me and are trying to get me. They are best friends. I don't want to hurt either of them. One of them told me he likes me... J. He is so nice. He always texts me when i text him. Everyone...
A. 2 June 2009: Ok here is what I think. If you aren't sure then get to know them OTHER then text. That means get to talk to them FACE to FACE. Yeah I know texting is so popular these days but really what you get to know and "see" of a person is a FRACTION of who ... (read in full...)
A lover's rectangle? My dentist, his affair, his wife and me!
Q. Dear aunt agony , Last year I chaned my dentist. He is cute and I instantly fell for him . I lost my sleep and apetite , it has been a year now but whenever I see him I get jitters in my knees. Since he is my neighbor , I know he is married. A...
A. 2 June 2009: Well your dentist might be hot, but he is a slut. OK? Think of him as a male fantasy and that is it. Do not ( unless you want a LOT of drama and heartache) take this any further - NOTHING good can come from this.
You have befriended his wife? Yo... (read in full...)
Please help me. Is my boyfriend cheating? He says this is a set up.
Q. Hello, I am 28 years old mother of a 10 year old daughter. MY past relationships haven't been all that great. My first husband cheated on me numerous times but I stayed with him to try and work things out. Well that was back in 2003 that we got...
A. 2 June 2009: Make sure you report the vandalism to the police. She could be a former client of his as well, someone who wasn't happy with the outcome of trial/case he worked on? Not sure what your BF i doing work-wise but I would definitely call the cops. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had secret account email but says he was just curious
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 Yrs. we were engaged and everything ready to move in this coming December. He's been the most caring boyfriend with me. Very respectful, gentleman, sweet, always listened to me, in general...I thought he was the ...
A. 29 May 2009: I think Gina is right. He is having some serious issues with sex and maybe also with commitment.
However, I think til you two get to the bottom of this I would advice you not to move in, have kids or get married.
I think you only know the to... (read in full...)
Do I let him go? He now wants children and I still don't
Q. Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now (I am 37 he is 32). At the start of the relationship we had quite an open conversation in which I said that I had never been that interested in having children and that I felt indifferent ...
A. 29 May 2009: Honestly I didn't want kids until I got pregnant with my oldest. I knew my husband wanted kids but he also knew that I wasn't all gun-ho about kids. I have no regrets in having kids - I enjoy all 3 of them. I love them to bits and they drive me ... (read in full...)
Please help me. Is my boyfriend cheating? He says this is a set up.
Q. Hello, I am 28 years old mother of a 10 year old daughter. MY past relationships haven't been all that great. My first husband cheated on me numerous times but I stayed with him to try and work things out. Well that was back in 2003 that we got...
A. 29 May 2009: Wow, not sure if he is cheating or what is going on, but it seems VERY odd.
First off, the fact that he "blamed" YOUR ex to try and set him up, that reeks of deflection. I honestly would talk to that woman again of possible and then go with you... (read in full...)
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