Cheating wife and I don't think I can forgive her!
Q. just found out my wife has done something with another man,she said they havent had sex but only done it the once,we been together 20years,dont think i can forgive her,she says shes sorry and wants us to start again, she said it was because she was ...
A. 24 June 2009: Ok honey, two wrongs don't make a right. They just make another wrong.
IT IS ok if you can not forgive. Forgiveness isn't for everyone. And certainly not everyone deserve it.
Obviously she has something "on" you that she after 19 years haven't... (read in full...)
Is sex important in a relationship?
Q. Okay let me just start this out as...I am 21 and still a virgin and would like to stay that way until I'm ready to get married. I have always promised myself I would and I'd rather do so, sex just doesn't seem important to me...I've never even ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think you have very clear sense of morals and values and the fact that you intend to stick to them is something you can be proud of.
Unfortunately the society today is so oversexed in most aspects, that it is rare to find girl and guy who choo... (read in full...)
He wants sex but I don't. What should I do?
Q. Noone dont find me attractive ive ony sortaa hadd a boyfriend for a few month but he sed i was boring because i didnt want to do anything sexual with him. We kissed and hugged butt i didint want to be forced to do things.hes wierd with me and outs ...
A. 24 June 2009: You need to stick to your guns. Being forced or pressured to having sex is NOT love, honey.
Yes, he is full of testosterone and most likely like a lot of young teenage males a horny young fella. If he can not respect that you aren't ready then you... (read in full...)
She's using their kids for blackmail - what can I do?
Q. The man im with said we cant be together as his ex might stop him having contact with his children. Even though he said he has strong feelings for him and i make him so happy his ex has done this before turned around and that she does not like one ...
A. 24 June 2009: Find a man who doesn't have a crazy ex.
Sorry, but he needs to grow a set.
I understand as a mother you would not want the father of your children to date/marry some one you don't like, because you might feel less inclined to let him see the ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in the middle of this rift. Help!
Q. I've been married to my husband for 8 years. My son was 12 and my daughter was 8 when Mike came into our lives. He and my daughter have a great relationship however, my husband and son.. now 20 (in college, home for the summer) are always bucking ...
A. 23 June 2009: First off you son is 20, so not a child any more. However he is staying at your house, so some simple ground rules should be in order.
I think your husband is trying to teach your son some basic common sense but he might be going around it in th... (read in full...)
He is so selfish and has really hurt me...
Q. My heart is breaking, my partner and i have not been getting on for a while and we have had a temporary seperation. We have been living apart for almost 4 weeks now but he is here all the time, but yet he wont commit to the things he promised.. ...
A. 23 June 2009: Obviously it is his money and obviously he is being selfish. He is not keeping any promises made and I bet you he will stay that way.
Move on, honey.
Let him be with the one he loves the most... himself.
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How do I get my ex to let me live my life?
Q. So i'm engaged to be married. I am currently still married trying to divorce my ex. He's giving me problems signing the papers. He believes that we should stay together for the kids. I believe I'm better off with my fiance. He's a great man treats ...
A. 23 June 2009: Yup let the lawyers deal with him. Unless it;s about the kids don't talk to your ex (soon to be ex husband).
Set some ground rules. If Your fiancee loves you he will understand that the Ex is trying to cause some drama. A marriage is over if one o... (read in full...)
Emotion of a teenager
Q. Am 20 and am being shown some concern by a girl of 17 since i started visiting their home. My friend who is their neighbour usually passes by to say hi because i know this girl's elder sister, so any time i don't see my friend he used to be there at...
A. 23 June 2009: She is interested in you maybe?
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Dilemma over morals.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both musicians. Recently, I applied for a position at a church along with him and was hired.. When I looked on my title, It said music minister. My boyfriend and I live together and the Church from what I gather thinks we are ...
A. 23 June 2009: When you applied for the job were you asked about your marital status? Did you lie? Will abstinence make your relationship work better? Or will you just feel less of a sinner?
I'm not judging you.
I don't believe in getting married just to ... (read in full...)
Ghosts of past relationships are eroding our trust
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over the past year. I love him unconditionally and the moment we started dating, I have been nothing but faithful. Before I started dating him, I had a past - as all relationships do. I had had sex with one...
A. 23 June 2009: I think you should honestly talk to him. Tell him what you wrote here. That the past is the past and the ex is the ex and for the exact reason that is was just a hook up not a relationship like you have with him.
What did he expect? That you stop... (read in full...)
My parents want me to marry someone else but I'm not a virgin any more.
Q. I was committed with a guy for 2 years. I even lost my virginity. I belong to a very constraint hindu family and so my parents were against my love. My guy was getting worser every day and we broke up but now they want me to get married to some ...
A. 23 June 2009: Do your parents want an arranged marriage?
I'm not familiar with the traditional Hindu culture and what is expected of the bride to be in this day and age.
Do you think they know you aren't a virgin?
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Why kiss like this?
Q. Hi. I asked this question a few weeks ago but things are still no different. My boyfriend when he writes/texts me tells me he loves me and I am his rock etc etc. But when he kisses me his eyes are HALF OPEN and his tongue never really enters m...
A. 23 June 2009: How do you respond to his kisses? You "snog" him back deeply? or match his kisses?
It might be your man don't know how to tickle your tonsils, he might actually not like the whole tongue thing.. Some people don't.
Maybe ( this is sooo politica... (read in full...)
He says he's lonely and that's why he looks for others
Q. I'd like some advice from guys and girls out there. My bf and I have been together 9 yrs, but split up 1 yr ago for 6 months out of the blue, and I found out he was 'seeing' a female work colleague, posting himself on adult dating sites and ...
A. 23 June 2009: I'm not saying it's your fault. At all. BUT if you "try" to ignore this and "pretend" all is well he will never stop.
Some people seriously believe as long as their partner don't know it's ok to flirt/fuck/call/text whatnot others.
I think... (read in full...)
Cheating wife and I don't think I can forgive her!
Q. just found out my wife has done something with another man,she said they havent had sex but only done it the once,we been together 20years,dont think i can forgive her,she says shes sorry and wants us to start again, she said it was because she was ...
A. 23 June 2009: I think everything that you are feeling right now is not only normal but justifiable feelings.
She DID betray you, she did cheat.
You need to take the time to figure out exactly what you want. From her if you intend on trying to forgive her. ... (read in full...)
The case of thr stinging lube!
Q. Hey Aunties and Uncles! Thanks in avance for any help you can give - it's all appreciated :) Anyway... Yesterday when me and my boyfriend of just over a year were having sex, he wanted to do anal, so asked for me to fetch the lube ('cause we ...
A. 23 June 2009: Waterbased lube, with out any scent/flavors will most likely be the best option for you two. Use loads.
There is a product called " H20 gun-oil" which I personally can recommend. (can buy it off the net)... (read in full...)
I want to help my sister but unsure how
Q. I need some help people! okay my sister has been with her husband for nine years and married almost two. recently she hasn't started seeing this girl that works in the office with her. she is lesbian and has a wife if that is what you call it! well...
A. 23 June 2009: You could sit her down and tell her how you feel. You don't know what her marriage is like, you don't know why this is going on.
Other then that, there isn't much you can do. It is her life. The fact that she is screwing up two marriages with her... (read in full...)
Am I a fool, or is there still hope?
Q. 18 months ago I met the man of my dreams and began what I look back on as the best year and a half of my life. Our relationship was everything that I had ever wanted, everything I had searched for. This was it, I just knew it. We talked of marriage ...
A. 23 June 2009: I don't think he dumped you for a city. He dumped you for a sense of familiarity and security. For some that overrides the feeling you can have for another person.
Not everyone are able to "just" pack their back and go. Others try and it just don... (read in full...)
Was he trying to fob me off with his excuse?
Q. I've had a couple of dates with a wonderful man, the trouble is we met through a dating site, and left me wondering if he was also contacting other women, I got very drunk Saturday and he called me on the phone where I began ranting and raving about ...
A. 23 June 2009: Live and learn.. Don't beat yourself up. ... (read in full...)
Help! What should I do? I really like this girl but don't want be burned again.
Q. Hi all, I would like to get some feedback on this one.. 3 months back I met this girl. We met for drinks and it was all fun.. From the beginning she insisted that we would be casual. For me this was all good. I was badly burned before so being ...
A. 23 June 2009: I think you need to be totally honest with er as far as what you want,expect, hope, wish as far as her and you. Be honest. You don't want to be friends-with-benefits and there is nothing wrong in that, UNLESS she isn't ready for a "real" ... (read in full...)
Should I text him like my friend says?
Q. I went on a school trip last week and got to know this guy who i hadn't ever really talked to, who also went. by the end of the trip we were always together, we pretty much fell for each other. anyways we got back yesterday (sunday) and today at ...
A. 23 June 2009: I think you have shown him you are interested. Let him make the next move. ... (read in full...)
Since he didn't try to hold my hand or anything should I assume he isn't interested?
Q. So I met someone on Facebook. We have mutual friends and both go to the same college. We started talking a lot online and eventually it led to him asking for my number. He flirted with me a little through text and we exchanged questions about each ...
A. 23 June 2009: Be glad that he was honest about it. Sometimes when we met someone new sparks fly. Other times you get the whole flipping fireworks and again at times it's just "nice".
Body language can tell you a lot, but again each person is differen... (read in full...)
Why does my friend act this way?
Q. Hi, I have a question to do with homophobia. My flatmate and I have been living together for a while now. She has known that I have dated women since before I moved in. The problem is that no matter how much I explain to her that I don't and will ...
A. 23 June 2009: I would quite honestly find another flat mate. She does seem pretty scared about "gayness" rubbing of on her. It happens and yes specially to people who feel insecure or unsure of their own sexual orientation. She might actually be curious.
Your ... (read in full...)
I feel in my gut he's cheating..but have no proof
Q. i've been with my bf for over 2 years, before me lets just say variety was his spice of life, literally hundreds of women!! he's a lawyer for a major financial company and i know at times he has to go away on business but this time he told me less ...
A. 23 June 2009: It might be her, it might be 20 other "porn" queens.. It could be a 20 year old student or a 65 year old librarian...
Who the women is, is not really important. TRUST me. HIS actions is what is important. What he says is what is importan... (read in full...)
His family keep inviting his ex-wife to family gatherings, what can I do?
Q. I am in a tough situation. My boyfriend is divorced but his family keeps inviting his ex wife to family functions even though he has asked them not to. She also invites them to her family functions and they accept. Last December his parents ...
A. 23 June 2009: The only way I see for her to realize that YOU are in the picture is for you to show up. BE there. WITH him.
I assume there are no kids, but really it doesn't matter. For some people family is family no matter what, divorce, re-marriage, deaths, ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my girlfriends sexual past, we broke up. Have I done the right thing?
Q. I recently broke up with my girl because of things she has disclosed to me about her sexual past. I know that may sound immature but it wasnt just the fact that I had thoughts of the guys she told me about her having sex with. The situation ...
A. 23 June 2009: I don't see it as being wrong. You don't have a strong bond with her, and don't really seem to have trusted her much either.
Growing up I always had more male friend then female, but the thing is.. for me at least. You don't sleep/have sex with... (read in full...)
Was he trying to fob me off with his excuse?
Q. I've had a couple of dates with a wonderful man, the trouble is we met through a dating site, and left me wondering if he was also contacting other women, I got very drunk Saturday and he called me on the phone where I began ranting and raving about ...
A. 23 June 2009: I agree with Eyeswideopen - She is right on the money. Of course you were curious and of course it is easier to ask the question when drunk. I do get it. It's just never very smart.
After 2 dates you are both probably still "testing" the waters s... (read in full...)
She's stolen my thunder! How do I tell her to stop going on about it?
Q. Please please help, this is a bit of a long story. I haev a friend, z, and we're very close. last year she moved away to egypt. we have kept in touch. well, for a very long time, ever since i was really little, i have always been into graphic ...
A. 23 June 2009: You INSPIRED your friend with your creativity. Good for you! If you are truly talented no one can take that from you. Ever.
One in a while YOU can inspire others. Hopefully you inspire them to grow and do good things. To learn and challeng... (read in full...)
Infatuated with someone on the telly!
Q. I like someone very much off the telly, she is so beautiful and every time I see her I get butterflies in my stomach, she isn't famous, she just reads news type things on a channel and used to sell things on another. I don't know if I love her or ...
A. 23 June 2009: Having a crush is wonderful ( at any age) but realizing and accepting it for what is it can be a little harder. She doesn't know you from Adam, so if you do get a chance to talk to her try and be your self. Talk about hobbies, her work maybe, pets, ... (read in full...)
In bed...
Q. Hi.. I need some advice please.. I have been in a relationship for almost 2 months. We have good time together, trying to get to know each other better. He is a nice guy, sensitive, serious, we have many things in common. In bed i don't know, he ...
A. 23 June 2009: I agree with Satin 100%.
There could be a couple of reasons as to why he isn't seeking to please you. 1. he's had women before you who "faked" and he thinks he is all that and a bag of chips. 2. He is selfish is bed. 3. He believes that if sex i... (read in full...)
Opinions on age differences
Q. Is it okay for a 18 year old guy to date a 31 year old woman?...
A. 23 June 2009: Not a problem in my book. Personally I'm not much for big age gaps ( been there done that - got the T-shirt). But I think it's really up to the individuals.
Are you embarrassed? Can you take him out in public? If it's no to the first and yes to t... (read in full...)
Is it like, love or lust?
Q. Is it like, love, or lust? 1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc. 2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream ...
A. 22 June 2009: Frankly, no one can really KNOW how YOU feel. Lust or love. Your interpretation of love might be very different then let's say someone twice your age. I still say it's a crush.
If it is lust, then what?
Ditto for love?
There is a reas... (read in full...)
I can't tell my parents I'm gay. Should I move far away?
Q. Well i´m gay and i cant sum up the courage to tell my parents. what should i do? i could move away, very far away. Or should i just stay single my whole life. i want children though, even if they are adopted. i dont want to live life scared....
A. 18 June 2009: Why can't you tell them? Living a lie would be a million times harder. Moving away is not really an option either. That would just be running from your problems.
You need to deal with this.
Is there any adults you know you could talk to ab... (read in full...)
I had a dram my wife was engaged in sex with a stranger. What could this mean?
Q. I dreamed I came home and found my wife in bed on top of another man riding him crazy wild. But rather than becoming angry and violent I found myself hiding from them yet watching and enjoying it. What could this mean and is it common? I would never ...
A. 18 June 2009: It's a dream. A fantasy. There is no telling why you had that one that night. Don't forget that we don't even remember most of the dreams we have.
Honestly though. Sounds like you are a little sexually frustrated. It might be that your "mind" i... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm through intercourse!
Q. Hey, I find it really hard to orgasm through vaginal intercourse, and by hard i mean practically impossible. I can cum fine through personal masturbation or if my boyfriend goes down on me, its just the actual sex that doesnt make me orgasm. ...
A. 18 June 2009: Stop faking.
Really that is all there is to it. Otherwise you will end up with boring second rate sex. Why? Because the guy you have sex with thinks he rocks your world when all he did was tickle it..
Have your BF ( or yourself) stimul... (read in full...)
Everyone says I'm Beautiful and skinny. I just feel fat and ugly!
Q. My boyfriend is always telling me I'm beautiful to him no matter what. Alot of people I know tell me I'm pretty, beautiful, skinny, etc.. but I can't help but feeling fat and ugly, is there something wrong with me?...
A. 18 June 2009: Nothing "wrong" with you per say. Just low self esteem. You should work on that. Most women can find a million faults with herself and her body, yet when another person looks at you they don't see them.
No One is perfect. Which.. in fact is a goo... (read in full...)
He said he didn't fancy me as much as her! Is this true?
Q. Hi I have a sex question. I had a messy get together with my boyfriend and his ex was a little upset and tried to stir some trouble. She told me one night how he had had this massive premature ejaculation problem previously (when he was with her), I ...
A. 18 June 2009: Sorry hun, but really you need to stop listening to her. She is a jealous bitch.
Sometimes they off a little fast other times they last longer, it doesn't mean the guy loves you any more or any less.
Next time you see her tell her that he can ... (read in full...)
Friends are ment to stick you right? Why are they telling me to change?
Q. Hello, I am a 16 year old girl. I admit that I smoke, I occasionally go out at the weekend and get drunk, and I have taken pills about 3 times in my life (but legal highs). And I have had a few boyfriends. I have, however, never had sex or done ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think you have come to a point in your life where you might have matured further in some aspect then your friends. It happens. However, having friends like yours who are basically "good girls" is priceless in the long run, since they can help you ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him even though we are both going to collage?
Q. I'm pretty much best friends with my boyfriend. We've been "best friends" for more than a year, but we've only been going out for 3 monthes. I really trust him and love him, but i'm not sure if we'll have a future since I'm going off to college in ...
A. 18 June 2009: If you aren't sure then don't do it. I think it is refreshing to see teens who actually thinks about it.
You don't sound like you are really ready for sex. And honey, that is ok.
With that being said. I'm glad I had my first time with a guy ... (read in full...)
We put a "floor show" on at her wedding.. Is she right to be mad at us?
Q. My sister is mad at me because I put a floor show with my "underdressed" girlfriend (her dress was quite revealing) at her wedding. Me and my girlfriend had way too much to drink and we were all over each other on the dance floor. My sister and her ...
A. 18 June 2009: Yes, she is right to be flaming mad at you. I think you and your girlfriend need to learn a little about etiquette and decorum.
Come on now.. Floor show at a wedding? With kids present? That is not only tacky - it's kinda lame. A wedding is a cel... (read in full...)
Help! Can you die from leaving a tampon in to long?
Q. I have a big problem and I am SO scared. I put a tampon in for my FIRST time yeasterday to go swimming. I went swimming for 2-3 hours. When I got back inside my house I went to my batherroom and I took out the tampon. I didn't bleed much since ...
A. 18 June 2009: You can get pretty sick from leaving a tampon in too long, not sure about dying though. If you suspect you still have anything left in there call your GYN and get in to see her/him ASAP. CALL! Now. Better be safe then sorry.
let us know ok?... (read in full...)
I feel stupid talking to my boyfriend..Should I end it?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year and i love him but it´s weird. We always have ackward silences and when ever we´re together it´s either we´re making out or other things but it never involves like sitting down and talking. i ...
A. 18 June 2009: How about going some place where making out isn't easy? Like to a museum? Football game, baseball whatnot.
Have a picnic at the park ( can eat, talk, "play" and well make out) but it is fairly relaxed.
Go to the movies. ( no watching girlie ... (read in full...)
He got his ex pregnant! Everytime we argue I'm scared he goes to her!
Q. My partner of 4 years cheated on me with his now ex, unfortunately she got pregnant by him. Anyway today I had to go to the doctors as i'm not well and i asked him if he could pick me up from there. We arranged it and all was fine. I came out of the ...
A. 18 June 2009: Let him go. He isn't worth your time. You can not change him into a caring man, if he isn't one from the start.
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I feel in my gut he's cheating..but have no proof
Q. i've been with my bf for over 2 years, before me lets just say variety was his spice of life, literally hundreds of women!! he's a lawyer for a major financial company and i know at times he has to go away on business but this time he told me less ...
A. 18 June 2009: If you get a feeling something is wrong it usually is. Is he cheating? Maybe. Something odd is going on for sure.
I would tell him that you are having some trust issues with him lately and why. ( I wouldn't mention the ex pornstar - cause th... (read in full...)
Is it like, love or lust?
Q. Is it like, love, or lust? 1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc. 2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think it's more of a crush then actual love. First off he is a teacher so that SHOULD be a big no-no. You are getting all these signals from your hormones and your body. It's quite normal.
The fact that the two of you like the same ice cream is... (read in full...)
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