Her ex is around a little too much!
Q. This is my problem. Me and My Girlfriend have been together since early april, we 'paused' our relationship until may 2nd because she was having problems with an ex of hers. He keeps luring her into his car and kissing her, grabbing her ass...
A. 26 June 2009: I'm sorry but friends don't grope and kiss in cars, ok? Yes he might be a smooth-talker but obviously she lets him do this. If he was truly "forcing" her she wouldn't claim he is a friend, if you get my point. It takes two to flirt, it takes two to ... (read in full...)
He's spent $50,000.00 on getting counseling..says he's addicted to it!
Q. I found out earlier this week via a fair few amounts of post that we're in debt and that my husband is the cause of it all. The credit crunch has nothing to do with it, my husband's spending habits are the cause but I had no idea what he had spent ...
A. 26 June 2009: I'm with Gina. I wouldn't believe it was all for counseling unless I saw the bills.
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Is it really internet love and should I push my boundaries and send him a naked picture of me?
Q. well i met this boy online and we have been going out for like almost 8 months now hes 17 and im 15 and i really think i love him and says he loves me to. we talk on the phone evernight and text each other constantly he has never forced me into doi...
A. 26 June 2009: No, do NOT send naked pictures of yourself. You never know where those pictures can end up out there in inerspace..
Don't do it.
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Was my b/f just venting to a friend, or should I be worried?
Q. Hi hoping for some good advice. I am a divorced mum of three and have been dating what i thought was a fab guy for nearly 12 months. I have been planning a surprise for him and wanted to ask his friend what he thought would be the best thing to ge...
A. 26 June 2009: It might be his true feeling ( around his mates) I think some men are insecure about telling their mates that they actually LIKE having a family, even if it is pre-made. I think at 30 he is too old to be this insecure.
I think however that you... (read in full...)
He tells me "Why do you always start talking crazy?"
Q. I've written about this guy a coupe of times. We've still been hanging out. I text him last night saying, would u wanna hang out tomorrow night? He didn't reply back,so i get mad.I text him back again saying,what's wrong,if u don't wanna hang out ...
A. 26 June 2009: Ok here is my suggestion. STOP texting so much. Pick up the phone and call him. That way is he can talk he will talk and you won't overanalyze a situation and acuse him of things he may or may not be guilty off.
Try it.
Texing in my opinion is... (read in full...)
I pay all the bills and want him to leave but he won't!
Q. i rent to own and signed a contract with my husband i want him to leave but he won't what can i do to keep my home and make him leave i pay all bills financially.he is a control freak i love him but things are going south he and i have no more ...
A. 26 June 2009: I will agree with Gina - get a lawyer. He can't just stay and smooch on you. However if his name is on the lease he might actually be entitled to something in the divorce, not sure if it is the same in your situation as it would be if you had a bank ... (read in full...)
How can I win over his parents?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and just started living in an apartment together about a month ago. I know its too soon to say for sure, but I can picture myself spending the rest of my life with him. Everything has been great so ...
A. 26 June 2009: I think you need to give them time, that and I think if anyone needs to "sell" you or the idea of you it should be your BF, not you.
Relax, if they see you are still there in 5+ months maybe they will start taking an interest, if not, it really i... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship..could my dreams mean anything?
Q. ok, so my ex boyfriend and i have been trying to work things out for about a year now. And recently, he decided that he wants to be completely done; finished. I've become exhausted by our problems that I've come to careless about it. But i keep ...
A. 26 June 2009: Most likely it is your brains way of trying to figure out the events of your life. Doesn't mean that you will actually "fix" your relationship problem, more that you aren't totally willing to let go.
Don't forget that dreams are DREAMS, nothing ... (read in full...)
She's really pissed off at me! Was my joke a bit harsh?
Q. Kay my friend is going to sound like a skank but please dont trash her cause I will report you!! Well my friend decided to cheat on her boyfriend for some reason with some random guy she met at a party. They had sex without using anything. She th...
A. 26 June 2009: I guess it all comes down to your sense of humor. But yeah, it was a tad harsh. Don't forget that besides having a LOT more hormones flying around - she is scared, feeling guilty, feeling stupid... you name it.. She felt rotten. For a friend to ... (read in full...)
Helpppp!!! Pregnant or not??????
Q. Hey, i badly need help. There might be a chance im pregnant. I havent had my period for about 4 weeks now and ive had all the signs , just not the actual thing. part of me thinks its to do with the pill since ive come off it and i had two light pe...
A. 24 June 2009: Two words..
PREGNANCY TEST
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I don't want to leave but I really want the independent uni life!
Q. I dont want to leave my family and friends to go to university but want to move at the same time, I have a good home life, I argue loads with everyone but we love each other soo much... I love my friends and have no boyfriend relationship ...
A. 24 June 2009: I felt the same way, but I have to tell you, I enjoyed the HECK out of my university years.
Study hard, do good and take time to enjoy yourself. You will met some of the BEST friends for the rest of your life!
Be sure to write, call and ... (read in full...)
Why did he act this way... is he feeling guilty?
Q. I've been with my bf for 6 months now, a week ago after we were fooling around and he fingered me I bled a little tiny bit - prob my hymen a little scratched or a little broken - Ii didnt tell him till 2 days we were in bed and he asked me if I ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think he feels guilty, because he "hurt" you (as in made you bleed) that and if your culture dictate that you stay a virgin til marriage he kinda "broke" your value as a pure bride.
It's a big responsibility. Do you plan to marry him? Or is he... (read in full...)
Why does my erection let me down when I'm with a prostitute???
Q. I never get an erection when I am with a prostitute whereas whenever I am with a normal girl I get a good erection. Kindly let me know the reason behind this?...
A. 24 June 2009: Hm, could be your morals is telling you to STOP having sex with prostitutes?
It sounds like performance anxiety to me. Maybe get yourself a girlfriend and stop with the prostitutes... Maybe you are more nervous, scared of not performing, scared o... (read in full...)
I feel so betrayed, what should I do?
Q. I am finding life difficult to live at the moment due to how my now ex betrayed me. I was with him almost 15 years. In December he came to see me said he wasn't in love with me any more,didn't know what he wanted in his life etc. I asked if he wa...
A. 24 June 2009: Don't waste so much time on his "new" woman. Concentrate on yourself and the kids. I can understand that it makes you wonder, but really you will never know, so why waste time guessing?
No matter what, you really did get the good end of the stic... (read in full...)
Advice needed. How do I get over her and what do I do about my future?
Q. I have problems everywhere. First i needed to hand a slip in at school to get an interview for the sixth form but i didn't because the courses are just rubbish and the only thing i want to do is become a footballer or a racing driver but if i want ...
A. 24 June 2009: OK, Luke. Having dreams is good:) Having goals are good too. But both are kinda just fantasy, if you do not make plans to meet your goals and to realize your dreams.
We all have dreams, so we get to realize others we just get to have ... as dream... (read in full...)
Was I being clingy?
Q. I am/was (idk right now) with a guy and we havent hung out for a month and I guess I would bug him a lot about the next time we would hang out whenever he said we would soon and he never would be able to. this is also in summer so I dont see him ...
A. 24 June 2009: I don't know if you were being to clingy. But obviously he thought so.
Maybe he got in your face because you asked about the picture, maybe there is more to it them meets the eye. I think if there was nothing to the picture he wouldn't have got... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my balding husband
Q. I'm in a similar situation except I'm actually married to the balding guy. We knew each other for eight years before we married and he actually showed signs of balding the year he popped the question. It was not much hair loss and I thought to ...
A. 24 June 2009: Wow, I'm sorry if that is a turn off.
Look at Seal, Heidi Klum's husband. Bald and scars on his face, but he sure is hot.
Let him go - he deserve a women who loves him lock, stock and barrel. Hair no hair.
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My boyfriend wanted "space" and he's texting another girl! Is all trust lost?
Q. I have just recently broken up with my partner. We were together for about 11months and it was going so well. We had our arguements like most couples, usually about him working so much and us not spending enough time together. He said he want space. ...
A. 24 June 2009: I don't think he is as committed to you as you were to him. He wants his cake and eat it too. That being you and whomever he is sending texts too.
I would let him go. Sorry.
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Is masturbating with a condom a good sign for intercourse?
Q. My g/friend says she's now ready for full sex so before we start I've decided to get used to wearing a condom by wearing one in bed when masturbating. They feel ok-plenty sensation and a decent orgasm without semen all on the bedding.Is this a g...
A. 24 June 2009: I think you are being really responsible. Thank you.
When buying condoms buy the thinner ones if you worry about how much you can feel. Make sure you don't buy any of the ones that De-sensitize you. :) Though they can help you last longer they do ... (read in full...)
How does the guy feel when he touches a girl's breasts?
Q. When a guy is touching a girl's breasts, it feels good for the girl, but what's the guy how does the guy feel?...
A. 24 June 2009: Think about it, guys don't have breats.. Ofcourse they want to touch them:)
It might be partly because it's something a little naughty to do as well. Not quite forbidden but borderline, at least. And that my dear, is why they get turned on by it... (read in full...)
I asked my girlfriend not to talk to someone I disliked. She did anyway, is she in the wrong?
Q. I asked my girlfriend not to talk to someone i dislike. she told me she wasnt talking to him, and never would. I believed her. However i found out that she had actually spoken to him, i feel betrayed and upset. I really love her, but am i in the ...
A. 24 June 2009: I believe you are worng in trying to tell her WHOM she can talk to and whom she can't.
She was wrong for lying.
Not sure if that makes you EVEN...
You two need to talk more honestly and openly. ... (read in full...)
What are your views on premarital sex?
Q. hi there, what do you think with that I think girls and boys should have sex after getting married(for the first time)no sex before marriage what is your opinion?...
A. 24 June 2009: I believe in having sex with someone you KNOW, TRUST, RESPECT and LOVE. But I don't believe in waiting for marriage to have sex. To me SEX should matter. I understand rationally that it is a basic human need to "multiply", but I also understand ... (read in full...)
How can I make amends? I tried to make love to her while she was asleep...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other going on five months now, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me by far, we share a lot of the same interests, enjoy the same things, and really hit it off better than I ever thought ...
A. 24 June 2009: Ok that is a HUGE no-no. You DO not have sex with someone while they are sleeping, in a coma or passed out. OK?!
One thing is being woken up with some nice foreplay, but to wake up in the darn middle of it? I'd be furious.
You can try and ask ... (read in full...)
Do men mind pubic hair?
Q. Hi, I'm so embarrassed I don't know what to say but i have to ask I haven't had sex before and I was wondering about pubic hair do I have to remove it or its okay to leave it there? do men mind? I know its painful and I don't know what to do plz h...
A. 24 June 2009: *chuckles at Eyeswideopen's answer*
Until you are women enough for a rug, don't have sex.
And sex don't have to be painful, you so don't sound ready for this. Curious maybe, not ready.
But to answer our question with a straight face, no most... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? He said he still fancies me.
Q. Ok, my ex sent me a friend request on Facebook afew weeks ago,and i added him.He also sent me a message asking how my lovelife was,if i had a boyfriend,e.t.c, and he said he would like to meet up again sometime.Afew days ago, i saw a comment from ...
A. 24 June 2009: You already stated the answer.
He was having trouble with the GF so he got "nostalgic" and found your "MyFace" page.
REBOUND. Or possibly he is looking for a friends with benefits kinda thing. I'm willing to bet he will suggest that he ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the guy that uses text sex services. How do I convince her I'll stop?
Q. I've done something stupid and need advice on how to make things right. To cut things short, I've been with my gf 7 years, for 5 years we lived together until I left her a year ago. I was tired of my life at the time - I had a long commute to ...
A. 24 June 2009: You ask her WHAT you can do to PROVE to her you will not do it again. If that means going to therapy or counseling then DO so.. You can not commit HALF ASSED to another person!
You broke her trust and then just expects her to believe your word tha... (read in full...)
Cheating wife and I don't think I can forgive her!
Q. just found out my wife has done something with another man,she said they havent had sex but only done it the once,we been together 20years,dont think i can forgive her,she says shes sorry and wants us to start again, she said it was because she was ...
A. 24 June 2009: Ok honey, two wrongs don't make a right. They just make another wrong.
IT IS ok if you can not forgive. Forgiveness isn't for everyone. And certainly not everyone deserve it.
Obviously she has something "on" you that she after 19 years haven't... (read in full...)
Who is more important - his friends or me?
Q. hi guys. recently iv been haveing a few problems, and i think its really affecting my relaitonship. im suffering from depression and i think i have a few other issues. recently me and my partner have been falling out a lot and things are close...
A. 24 June 2009: I think spending time with friends and apart from your mate/SO/Partner is VITAL.
I also think that after the "honeymoon" fase is over hanging out watching tv or playing cards can make for a nice cosy evening.
Now if your partner was a "B... (read in full...)
Would this be classified as rape or no?
Q. I basically wanna know if this classes as rape and if the guy still has an interest in me or not. Well about four months ago i went to meet a guy off the internet. He wasnt the first person id met off the internet and i always have an incling ...
A. 24 June 2009: Ok so many have already bashed you for this so I'm not going to go there.
It was what I would call attempted rape or even assault. No, I don't think you ASKED for it. No, I don't think it's your own fault. I'm pretty sure the guy has done this bef... (read in full...)
How can I find out what's bothering him and try to fix it?
Q. Can someone pz help me with this question? My boyfriend has been on the fritz lately and i dont know why. He has been being so mean and i am getting tired of it. He acts so mean towards the kids. He hasnt been to work in the past three days and i ...
A. 24 June 2009: Of course it is your business if he goes to work or not. You need to sit him down after the kids are in bed ( cause they really don't need to hear/see this) and talk to him. Be calm - don't yell, don't scream.
It is possible he got laid off? Fir... (read in full...)
Do I have OCD? Am I gay?
Q. I am a teenage male, and I have had homosexual thoughts for the past four years. I do masturbate to gay porn, but I also masturbate to lesbian porn too. Its all confusing for me because it takes me longer to get sexualy aroused over women than it ...
A. 24 June 2009: Ok, I can not diagnose OCD or your sexual orientation.
I am OCD. I do things by numbers. Even numbers work for me. If things are on an angle it HAS to be 90 degrees. Towels have to be folded in certain orders and if you look into my wardrobe... (read in full...)
He says he only likes me, so why all the fuss?
Q. Please this has really got me confussed,this guy. i'm seeing tells me we are not in a committed relationship because he's married so the other day when he txted me i just ignored him i thought if i did that and never replyed he would get tired ...
A. 24 June 2009: He is a cheat and a liar. Why even spend more time analysing him?
Keep ignoring him and he will go away.
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Why should I change and act all macho? I'm happy as I am!
Q. I'm a 35 year old guy who is in a great relationship with my wonderful girlfriend. The problem is that the way i act people think i'm gay. It makes me mad having to convince people that i'm straight! Maybe it's because of some of the things ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think you sound like a perfectly wonderful guy. Like the first anon writer wrote, you are the almost "standard" of a metro-sexual.
For people who don't know me I guess I can come off as maybe "butch" is the word. I'm a tomboy (even at 40) - I ... (read in full...)
Cancelled the wedding and I don't feel bad about it!
Q. I just left my fiance of 3yrs and cancelled our wedding. He was very insecure and always gave me hell if i wanted to go out with a friend, we wanted different things in life and grew apart over the years. He is beyond devestated by my leaving, but I ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think it does mean you made the right choice.
Maybe it was a case of cold feet. Only time will tell, but if you ask me, I think you just out-grew the guy.
It would have been really wrong for you to "string" him (and yourself) along any furthe... (read in full...)
Going camping and going to get some?
Q. heyyy please help! well im a virgin and ive never really had a proper boyfriend, and tonight i am going camping with my friends and this guy adam who is a year older then me but not a virgin. we know each other a bit, but mostly though facebook...
A. 24 June 2009: You don't really sound ready.
You sound like you WANT to be ready in order to please this guy. You aren't a very self confidant girl - having sex with an almost stranger won't cure that, honey. Only you can learn how to be more confidant. Starting... (read in full...)
Together again after his affair...but I feel like I'm with a stranger
Q. Well I am back since my husbands affair, you know I thought things would change they have a bit, I feel more strength in myself. As for my husband, who I cherished the ground he walked on, he looks weak, he no longer is the man I loved and ...
A. 24 June 2009: Honey, you stayed with him, but you haven't forgiven him yet. IT IS TOTALLY NATURAL!
You husband got knocked down of that pedestal you put him on. Of course you resent him.
But, you do resent him and you resent yourself. That is NOT moving fo... (read in full...)
Is he sorry about his affair? Should I forgive him?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a younger woman from work for five months. I have children and because of that I packed his bag , and asked him to leave. He says he wished he could turn the clock back and see the kids more , also t...
A. 24 June 2009: He has betrayed his family. He did cheat.
Is he sorry? I don't know. Maybe he was sorry he got caught? Maybe he was sorry you found out. Get my drift?
What YOU need to do is this. Figure out if you rather live without him or if you can in fa... (read in full...)
Why is love judged by something other than the heart?
Q. Dear cupid, I met a guy a year ago, kind of a blind date. We hit it off the first time we laid eyes on one another. The thing is, I am black he is white. He comes from an environment that does not believe in interracial relationships. I know he ...
A. 24 June 2009: Being a military spouse I see a LOT in "inter-racial" marriages. Most of them do a LOT better then the Black/Black, White/White, Hispanic/Hispanic marriages. You know why? Because they from the start had to fight for their RIGHT to be together. It ... (read in full...)
Is he insecure or just nasty?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping for some advice/support. I'm very upset about comments that my partner makes. I've been with him for 4.5 years and gave him loads of support when his ex wife was divorcing him. I live in a council house, have two mixed race child...
A. 24 June 2009: He is both. Both insecure and nasty. You should be PROUD of yourself. You have raised to GOOD kids, have helped them get better educated, you are responsible and giving person.
Dump his sorry ass. You are too good for him.
I don't know why h... (read in full...)
My ex keeps calling me and I'm starting to feel scared
Q. so my ex left me for my friend and i dont talk to neither of them but my ex is veru confusing, he disses me then is nice to me. he tells everyone he hates me. i dont have any form of feelings for him. hes constantly dissing me! on myspa...
A. 24 June 2009: Before you go to bed UNPLUG your phone. Sooner or later he will understand that he can not bully you.
Secondly, good job in blocking his MySpace. !
Thirdly, tell your mom. He seems pretty unstable and even if he is only 14, he can still be dan... (read in full...)
Is sex important in a relationship?
Q. Okay let me just start this out as...I am 21 and still a virgin and would like to stay that way until I'm ready to get married. I have always promised myself I would and I'd rather do so, sex just doesn't seem important to me...I've never even ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think you have very clear sense of morals and values and the fact that you intend to stick to them is something you can be proud of.
Unfortunately the society today is so oversexed in most aspects, that it is rare to find girl and guy who choo... (read in full...)
Cheating wife and I don't think I can forgive her!
Q. just found out my wife has done something with another man,she said they havent had sex but only done it the once,we been together 20years,dont think i can forgive her,she says shes sorry and wants us to start again, she said it was because she was ...
A. 23 June 2009: I think everything that you are feeling right now is not only normal but justifiable feelings.
She DID betray you, she did cheat.
You need to take the time to figure out exactly what you want. From her if you intend on trying to forgive her. ... (read in full...)
I feel so betrayed, what should I do?
Q. I am finding life difficult to live at the moment due to how my now ex betrayed me. I was with him almost 15 years. In December he came to see me said he wasn't in love with me any more,didn't know what he wanted in his life etc. I asked if he wa...
A. 10 May 2009: I can understand your hurt and your anger, but really you got the "good" end of this deal. It may not seem that way right now, but in the long run what good is this man?
If he owes you money take him to small claims court ( if it is more then $ 3... (read in full...)
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