He's emailed old girlfriends, I'm not sure I trust him but I don't want to police him either. Help!
Q. This is the 2nd marriage for both my husband and I. Last year, I discovered emails he sent to a female he met at a ticket counter in which he described how he missed his ex and would still die for her. When confronted he said we were going through ...
A. 15 July 2009: Good Job! I love it when people don't just give up or "suffer" in silence! I'm glad he got his eyes opened and hopefully he will act like a grown up. ... (read in full...)
In love with 1st cousin
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is asking for HELPFUL advice...Not to be BASHED. Aunts please answer according! i need some real help and not judgment plz! ok so i don't really know where to start...its a long story so a few years ago i fell in love with my 1st c...
A. 9 July 2009: It used to be the norm that you married someone as closely related as possible ( so the land stayed in the family and so forth) but, the probability of defects in children, in breeding is higher and therefor is was outlawed in many countries and ... (read in full...)
Am I a slut or are my friends just prudes?
Q. So I hook up with a lot of guys, not as in have sex, but oral and makeout and stuff, a lot of my friends tell me I'm a slut, and they say that they're kidding, but I don't think they are. It could just be because they are prude, because I don't ...
A. 9 July 2009: Sorry to burst your bubble but oral IS sex.
Though out your life you will be labeled by the people around you, as you are labeling other. They call you slut - you call them prudes..
FA ( Fatherly Advice) put it the best:
"Only if you yoursel... (read in full...)
Just found out I'm pregnant, boyfriend is still grieving over the death of his daughter and wants me to have an abortion. Please help... I don't know what to do!
Q. I was seeing this guy for a couple of months but we decided to end it after I found out he was still seeing other people behind my back. He lost his daughter just after we started seeing each other and has two other kids. This was a really hard time ...
A. 9 July 2009: I'm sorry he is grieving, but he is being an utter JERK. HE got you pregnant, not you all by yourself.
I can understand that you don't want to do this alone. I doubt any woman really does.
As I see it, it is now 100% up to you. Pretend he'... (read in full...)
My mother loves her clutter, but I'd love to be able to bring friends home!
Q. My mother is a clutter maniac. Ever since my father cheated on her and left the house, my mother has been collecting all kinds of things starting with napkins all the way to old pillows. I moved back with her because of unemployment. I also feel ...
A. 9 July 2009: I could be the stress after you fathers affair have been a mental strain for you mother. Some people suffer from Compulsive hoarding. IT is now classified as an illness.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsive_hoarding
If this isn't it, I just... (read in full...)
Irresponsibly drunk, sent him harsh hurtful words, now things are even more messed up
Q. hiya, i would like anyone to help me regarding my boyfriend. We had a huge argument last saturday and both attended a party that night. We didn't talk as we were both mad at each other and both got really drunk with seperate groups of friends....
A. 9 July 2009: For God's sake stop with the texting! Pick up the phone and TALK. You can not maintain a relationship based on texting.
PS. The ball is in his court. IF you truly are the love of his life he will want to talk.
Most people have been in the... (read in full...)
He's emailed old girlfriends, I'm not sure I trust him but I don't want to police him either. Help!
Q. This is the 2nd marriage for both my husband and I. Last year, I discovered emails he sent to a female he met at a ticket counter in which he described how he missed his ex and would still die for her. When confronted he said we were going through ...
A. 9 July 2009: I agree with Celia here. He is not sorry for contacting them, he is sorry for getting caught.
However the two of you need to talk about limitations, values and what you both find is "right & wrong" behavior.
The fact is, your guy thinks that ... (read in full...)
I find my 19 year old step son attractive!
Q. Hi. I'm a 32 year old woman. i recently found myself attracted to my 19 year old stepson, and i am seriously trying to fight these feelings. i would never pursue him or make any moves, because i think it's wrong, and i love his dad too much, but i ...
A. 8 July 2009: Just realize that you have a young handsome lovable step son and move on.
I think it's quite normal that a woman ( or man) can look at a person younger ( or older) then themselves and feel an attraction. He is after all not your biologic... (read in full...)
Torn between sexual love and safety!
Q. I feel pretty desperate and in so much uncertainty. I left my wife 6 months ago. We've been married for nearly 22 years. For many of those years we didn't have a good sexual relationship. For the past 10 years we didn't have sex very often at ...
A. 8 July 2009: I think you need to figure out WHY you keep cheating ( or why you kept cheating on your wife) - and no, you can't put it on her. Cheating is a choice - YOUR choice. If you felt like you needed something you wife didn't provide then you should have ... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married, we're both unhappy and have an affair, should we keep it going?
Q. Hi I'm a 36 y.o man unhappily married with two beautiful girls ages 10 and 6. My lover, whom I met 9 months ago is also married she's 33 and has a teenage boy. My marriage has been on the rocks since about 3 years ago. thanks to my wife's me first ...
A. 8 July 2009: What is sad about this whole mess, is that both YOU and your married lover blame your spouses for YOUR actions, not fair.
If you aren't happy with your wife, then you should spend time either figuring out how to fix it or separate, not go out and ... (read in full...)
Tried everything but can't seem to shift this weight! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi, its not relationship advice i want, and i dunno weather i should be asking on here. but im really gettin frustrrated now! im 17, and im just over 14 stone, im a size 14 clothes, 36DD boobs and im fat. i hate it! ive tried every diet going, im ...
A. 8 July 2009: Good for you!
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Should I do unpaid, volunteer work to help my c.v.?
Q. hi i am a first year student, 21 years old and I am now off Uni for the Summer and looking for PART-TIME work i cant seem to find a job in my town. I have applied everywhere but they say although Im well educated I dont have retail experienc...
A. 2 July 2009: It looks very good:) Specially if you do it well.
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Do you really think they like me or are they just being jerks?
Q. i've been through a lot this summer and its hard to be happy with all the dramma. pertty much i was dumped by my bf and almost everyong(literally) on facebook hate me. i dont kno y, but lots of ppl tend to call me a transexual? these guys from my ...
A. 2 July 2009: You need to learn to QUIT the whole FACEBOOK stuff. Ignore it and stay in the REAL world. People (young and old) tend to lash out at others in cyberspace not caring one iota for the other person's feeling.
Someone calls you a transsexual? Odd. Are... (read in full...)
Family drama....
Q. My mother in-law wants to move in should i let her it not just her its her grandaughter to because my boyfriends brother is in the army and his mother is watching his child until next year when he comes home we already have 2 kids and 1 on the way ...
A. 2 July 2009: You need to at least have a WAY out in case it turns out that it is TOO much work for you. Maybe set a trial of 3 months and see how it goes?
I'm guessing you are a stay at home mom? If so, does that mean YOU will be taking care of your BIL's ch... (read in full...)
He guards his phone with his life! I'm suspicious and tempted to look through it. What should I do?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 4 years now. I trust him but his behavior with his cell phone gets me thinking. He guards his phone with his life. Wherever he goes, he takes his phone with him. Should I be concerned? I feel tempted to look ...
A. 1 July 2009: You don't trust your husband. THAT is why you want to look though his cell phone. Be honest, honey. Nothing wrong with that.
Do you guys get an itemized bill? Pay it over the net? Some cell phone providers will give you an itemized bill so you c... (read in full...)
Family drama....
Q. My mother in-law wants to move in should i let her it not just her its her grandaughter to because my boyfriends brother is in the army and his mother is watching his child until next year when he comes home we already have 2 kids and 1 on the way ...
A. 1 July 2009: I wouldn't do it personally. Just because I don't want another queen bee in the castle, except if it was MY own mother.. Not nice of me, but being honest.
How is the relationship with the two of you? ( MIL and you?) How old is the child? WHAT is ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I think about her when I masterbate?
Q. ok well i don't know how to say this but my gf just resently asked if i masterbated and i said yes and i have been wanting to tell her that when i masterbat i think of her but idk how to tell her i mean i want to tell her bcuz we tell each other ...
A. 1 July 2009: What if the picture of her that you masturbate to actually is her best friend not her..
Don't go there, like The old Guy said some things SHOULD stay private.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to masturbate "to porn" while in a relationship?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years and I was just wondering if it is normal to masturbate "to porn" while in a relationship. I understand that it is a natural thing but when I think of him masturbating to another naked women it makes me feel ...
A. 1 July 2009: Yes it's normal. Men just aren't as adapt to fantasizing without visual aids...
I swear.
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Why has my teacher been treating me differently than anyone else?
Q. Why has my teacher been treating me differently than anyone else? This year, he's given me full credit (twice) for an answer that I put, and half to the rest of the class who wrote the same answer. He's also thrown papers to everyone else bu...
A. 1 July 2009: He might see potential in you and want you to try and strive for it, maybe he feels sorry for yo or maybe he's just a little creepy, hard to say based on what you wrote.... (read in full...)
We want to elope but I don't want my parents to feel cheated in seeing me get married.
Q. My boyfriend asked me to marry him a week ago and we still haven’t told anyone. We want to avoid the tension, stress and drama that come with planning a wedding and not to mention the debt. We just want to go on a tropical vacation together and ...
A. 1 July 2009: Talk to your mom and dad. Maybe you guys can do a SMALL civil service at the courthouse or in your parents back yard ( you get the point) and then REDO the vow's on some lovely beach in St. Tomas (or where ever):)
OR you can go in debt and invi... (read in full...)
I went online pretending to be another woman and my boyfriend fell for her!!!
Q. I used this fake account and added my boyfriend on it. I started talking to him as her, and he started to flirt with her. He said he would kiss her and most probably have sex with her! I kept asking him about me his girlfriend and he was acting like ...
A. 1 July 2009: I'm with Satindesire.
It's like when you snoop and find dirt or when you listen in on a conversation about yourself, it might not be flattering.
He's obviously a flirt. And you are a liar.. Not sure what is worse?
I'm willing to bet mo... (read in full...)
Plucking your eyebrows.... what should I do?
Q. I need to know what other girls do when you pluck your eye brows... i just sort of 'clean them up' i guess. just plucking the ones around the edge and the next day they look really messy again. should this happen or do i have very fast gr...
A. 1 July 2009: Go and get your brows done professionally - at a spa or hair salon. After that all you have to do is pick the stray hairs that "don't" belong in your brows..
I pluck mine 2 times a week ( maybe 3-5 hairs each time) I have them groomed 4 times a ... (read in full...)
Calling all horse people (and others)!
Q. so i went bareback riding on the pavement on my friends horse who i lease....obviously dumb idea i realize now...she got spooked and galloped off and i fell and held the reighns and got dragged and she kept rearing so i let go....she stayed still..i ...
A. 1 July 2009: Why haven't you gone to the ER yet?
I lost about 50% of my hearing in my right ear after a fall from a horse, he got spooked and jumped sideways and I apperently just went forward. I had a concussion. Nothing serious, though, was told to take it ... (read in full...)
I want my ex to have her closure...what do I say?
Q. I dated a girl for two months a year ago. The relationship ended when I told her I had "hooked up" with someone else. That someone else was my old best guy friend. I only said "hooked up" but all I did was kiss him. After I told her I had "hooked ...
A. 1 July 2009: You dated her for two months. I mean, I can see that her trust issues COULD stem from the relationship with you, but I think her issues are a little more deep rooted. You are just a convenient scapegoat.
Unless you can explain WHY you cheated.... (read in full...)
A woman scorned -- is she ever gonna leave me alone?
Q. Well im in a situation, i had a married woman at work who wanted to have an affair with me. I was very attracted to her and it took alot of resisting on my part to get away. She wouldnt let go, she wouldnt stop playing "games" with me at work....
A. 1 July 2009: M bet is you aren't the first dude she had tried this with, and not the first one to say NO either. I'm thinking you have a very good chance of getting another shift.
Let us know how it goes.
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Tried everything but can't seem to shift this weight! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi, its not relationship advice i want, and i dunno weather i should be asking on here. but im really gettin frustrrated now! im 17, and im just over 14 stone, im a size 14 clothes, 36DD boobs and im fat. i hate it! ive tried every diet going, im ...
A. 28 June 2009: Another thing that is worth mentioning is that when you eat few calories then you need after a while your metabolism will slow down and slow down, meaning that you can eat very little almost be at starving point and STILL not loose weight. You ... (read in full...)
I told her what she tried on made her look like a fat pig
Q. My girlfriend dragged me to the mall to go shopping with her (it was really boaring). We were there for probably an hour of her trying stuff on. She tried this dress that made her look fat when she asked me what I thought about it. I said it made ...
A. 28 June 2009: I (again) agree with Old guy. Man you really stepped in it... Have you no tact, no common sense? I see a LOT of sucking up in the future. Not sure she will ever forgive it though. ... (read in full...)
Had a threesome with friends, afraid I'm falling in love
Q. I just had a threesome with 2 of my best friends who are engaged to each other. I thought I could be ok with it, but now I'm finding that I have strong feelings toward him. He's made it quite clear that he has no interest in leaving his partner, ...
A. 28 June 2009: This is exactly the reason I usually advice people to NOT do threesomes. Someone always ends up getting hurt. As hard as it sounds I think you need to NOT go there again. (sexually). If you care about BOTH your friends you will have to let it g... (read in full...)
A woman scorned -- is she ever gonna leave me alone?
Q. Well im in a situation, i had a married woman at work who wanted to have an affair with me. I was very attracted to her and it took alot of resisting on my part to get away. She wouldnt let go, she wouldnt stop playing "games" with me at work....
A. 28 June 2009: Any chance you can get transferred somewhere she isn't? She seems a little psycho. As bad as I feel for the new guy she is chasing be glad the heat is off you. I would actually go find another job, and one you have a new job let the old job go. ... (read in full...)
Tried everything but can't seem to shift this weight! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi, its not relationship advice i want, and i dunno weather i should be asking on here. but im really gettin frustrrated now! im 17, and im just over 14 stone, im a size 14 clothes, 36DD boobs and im fat. i hate it! ive tried every diet going, im ...
A. 28 June 2009: Have you gone to see your doctor? It can be something as simple as a hormonal imbalance. That can be corrected. It can be your thyroids as well. Go see him and get it checked out. Both things can seriously lock up your metabolism.... (read in full...)
Is it safe to delay your period with birth control?
Q. Ok so totally random question but I heard it you're on birth control, you can delay your period if you take active pills during the week of nonactive pills..is this true? and if it is... is it safe? ...
A. 26 June 2009: Depending on the brand you are using, yes. Best thing you can do is call your doctor's office and ask. They will explain how to do it correctly.
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Should I trust my husband after what he's told me?
Q. My guestion is...about for years ago when my hubby and I first got together he was working with this girl that loved to get into the pants of guy that where takin. He has told me that they would flert alot and that he would help her out whenever she ...
A. 26 June 2009: What does your gut tell you?
If you ask me no man grabs a girls ass while dancing with her ( and being drunk) and give her a little peck on the mouth.. I don't think I would trust a single thing out of his mouth.... (read in full...)
I found an email written by my husband to his ex saying he wanted her bad!
Q. Couple of months ago I went online to pay my phone bill and I saw that me husband used like 230 text messages, I was wondering whom he is texting to, as he is not a big texter and it was to a same number. He was texting every single day and actually ...
A. 26 June 2009: You need to nip this in the butt. Like Gina and rcn suggested you need to tell him. Yeah you snooped, but really that is nothing compared to him suggesting for her to come down and have sex with him
There is no reason for him to maintain this con... (read in full...)
Hopelessly in love...with a player.
Q. Ok first of all, i'm a 22 year old virgin. i've never had a boyfriend and i had my first kiss just last year at 21. i've always been pretty shy especially when it comes to talking to guys. this is gonna be long, but please help me. here goes...ab...
A. 26 June 2009: Have you heard the expression, don't eat where you shit? ( I know gross sounding) BUT it basically means DON'T date guys (girls) you work with.
He is not interested in a relationship. He obviously will sleep with anything that is female and has ... (read in full...)
We both have the same dream!
Q. Ive been having really strange dreams lately about my boyfriend and im not sure if its either trying to tell me something or its my insecurities coming through in the form of dreams. Basically. One night a few weeks ago i dreamt my boyfriend ran...
A. 26 June 2009: To dream what you are dreaming, signifies your emotional state. You are excessively worried and fearful about a situation or circumstance that you are going through, it can have ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with your BF. It could relate to work, family, ... (read in full...)
I don't want to step in but I want to date her!
Q. ....i need a little help here... there is this girl i met a few months back through some close friends, and she has this boyfriend who is kinda a jerk to her, but she says that she is in love with him and not willing to leave him yet, however i hav ...
A. 26 June 2009: You let her go til she is single. ... (read in full...)
What's so wrong with my enjoying the female form?
Q. My girlfriend is very upset because I enjoy watching porn. We've been together for little over 2 years, and she lost her virginity to me. I love her, she is such a great girl, she is different from other girls I've ever met or been with. I've told ...
A. 26 June 2009: I can understand the "instant gratification" aspect of porn, and for the most part I'm not "against" porn. I'm not into it myself, I don't watch it alone. I have watched it with my husband a few times, but his reactions is what turned me on, not the ... (read in full...)
How should I contact him?
Q. Okay so my bf and i haven't talked in like a week now and he doesn't text me and hasn't talked to any of my friends that are his friends too and idk wat to do? should i text him? call him? *sigh* i suck at the whole relationship thing. ask...
A. 26 June 2009: Call him :) No texting ok. Those are easy to "ignore" a phone call isn't.
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The third time I've dreamt about him and I have nothing for him!
Q. out of the blue, I've been having dreams about this guy i used to have a thing for. I mean, we both had that moment of liking eachother. We never actually said that we liked eachother but it was soo obvious to us and everyone else that we did. We ...
A. 26 June 2009: I mean he is in one of the "boxes" of your brain that the brain ducked into for whatever reason. Something triggered it. You met him recently or saw a guy or a guy with a shirt that reminded you of him.. Lots of thing can set those cells off.
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He's been visiting the mother of his fourth child without my knowledge!
Q. My husband had 3 children before we met. We went out for a while and then seperated to give each other time to figure out if we wanted to be together long term. While we were seperated, he entered another relationship and had a child. Shortly before ...
A. 26 June 2009: I think the both of you need to sit and talk. I think when it comes to children they should be put before any comfort/discomfort the partner might have.
I think it is a GOOD thing that you husband gave her a little extra money, after all child su... (read in full...)
DO men like to be woken up to a blow job?
Q. My friend said she gave her boyfriend a blow job in the morning just as he was about to wake up but she didn't tell me about his reaction and I was too scared to ask because he might think I was being too nosey. Is it annoying to be woken up to a ...
A. 26 June 2009: I have never had any complaints from my hubby. I think actually he'd rather wake up that way then any other.
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Her ex is around a little too much!
Q. This is my problem. Me and My Girlfriend have been together since early april, we 'paused' our relationship until may 2nd because she was having problems with an ex of hers. He keeps luring her into his car and kissing her, grabbing her ass...
A. 26 June 2009: I'm sorry but friends don't grope and kiss in cars, ok? Yes he might be a smooth-talker but obviously she lets him do this. If he was truly "forcing" her she wouldn't claim he is a friend, if you get my point. It takes two to flirt, it takes two to ... (read in full...)
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