Why is my boyfriend acting like this?
Q. Is it abuse if your bf tries to force you into sex through making you feel guilty? By saying things like 'if you loved me' or 'if you wanted to see me happy you would do it', 'if you cared about me' etc. Is it abuse if he doesnt respect you when...
A. 19 August 2009: It means he is a controlling sick jerk and you need to drop him fast, he isn't healthy for you to date. He will keep trying and trying til you give in because you think it is easier or even worse you start to believe his crap.
What's next? Or... (read in full...)
My partner keeps having sex with me in my sleep, even if we have had sex before sleeping!
Q. my partner and i have a very active sex life, we have been together 14 years, we still have sex 3-4 times a week, however he goes through phases, of having sex whilst im sleepin, my partner is quite a dominate man, and ive let him be, when i start ...
A. 19 August 2009: Sleep in separate rooms til he stops. Even if you are a couple it is still not consensual sex when one party ISN'T even awake. It is jsut wrong and disrespectful.
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Taking the pill, but should I still ask him to wear a condom?
Q. Ok so I'm in a bit of muddle at the moment and not sure what to do. Basically I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I genuinely love him and feel comfortable in the relationship in every way. However, since going on the contraceptive pill, I'...
A. 18 August 2009: You know I would actually ask your BF to still use the condom even if you are on the pill. If you miss a day, get certain types of antibiotics or if you are in 1% of people who can still get pregnant even with the pill.. Stuff happens.. BE safe.
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If you have Chlamydia, how long before you become infertile?
Q. Hi. I recently read that Chlamydia is sometimes a possible cause of infertility. What i want to know though is, how long should one have this silent disease for them to be medically declared infertile?...
A. 18 August 2009: Get treated now. No need for you to spread that to others.
It varies on the strain and I guess the person as to how long. The sooner you get treated the better.
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He doesn't take time out of his day to text or call me, is he interested in me or not?
Q. Ok So I have been seeing this guy for a month and a few weeks, I met him down the shore and he is a fun and outgoing person like myself. He has taken me on a few dates and now I been staying over his house… we recently had sex after the month of ...
A. 18 August 2009: I think if this is so important to you that you need to look elsewhere.
Personally I find it a little *clingy* when a guy/girl HAVE to get X number of texts in order to feel loved.
Some people are just not BIG on living on their cell phone... (read in full...)
Help me understand this guy!
Q. Dear all, there is someone i really like, and we were about to become a bf/gf but, 3 months ago a problem happened, he stopped talking to me for a month, the worst month of my life actually, after this month he came back and said he is ready to o...
A. 18 August 2009: Because when he came back and said he was ready he expected you to "just" feel the same, shut up and agree.
I think he is a TAD controlling and honestly I would BACK off. Let him make the next move. Also, if you feel there is something yo... (read in full...)
Was it right for him to give me gifts after what he did to me?
Q. i Dont kno what to do. When I was 14 this guy who used to come and fix things around the house when my mom called him .I knew this guy my whole life and he came around alot i was kinda poor and didnt have alot of friends but this guy was always nice ...
A. 18 August 2009: I can't say that I think you did the right thing in not reporting him, but I can understand your reasoning as to why you didn't.
If you feel the gifts are inappropriate then give them back. I think him giving you gifts is his way of atonemen... (read in full...)
Will women be put off by man who's only had one sexual partner?
Q. Hi, Im wondering do women think its a turn off if aguy who is in his early 30s has had only one sexual partner in the past. It was a long term relationship that didnt work out and I now wonder if women will be put off by it? Thanks....
A. 18 August 2009: I doubt any woman would be put off by that. To me that sounds like a bonus :)
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What was the reason behind his rude behaviour??
Q. I met a man on a site I was networking on. We began talking on the phone and we seemed to hit it off. I am a single mom of two and I have a life. I noticed this man started being demanding and rude. He got angry with me because he assumed that we ...
A. 17 August 2009: He sounds more like a 5 year old boy who was told NO. I would STAY the heck away, there are too many red flags in your short post.
He is demanding (and you two barely know each other)
He is trying to control you.
You didn't jump headfirst into b... (read in full...)
What do you do if someone is giving you the silent treatment?
Q. What do you do if someone is giving you the silent treatment? I have told them I will not contact them again as they obviously dont want to speak to me, and I know I must not break my word now that i have said that or i would look stupid. but what ...
A. 13 August 2009: Again Emilysanswer is perfect! I couldn't have said it better.
Be the BIG person and IF they start to talk to you, talk back. Either you work it out or at least you walk away from it not looking like a spoiled brat.
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Pregant with my ex's child. Do I keep my hopes up that he'll eventually come around?
Q. My ex and I ended the relationship in 5/16, I found out two weeks ago I was 14 1/2 weeks pregnant, I am now 17 weeks. I made him aware and he has only contacted me to offer to pay for the abortion. Hes ben stationed out of town and will be returning ...
A. 13 August 2009: I wouldn't keep my hopes up. He wanted you to have an abortion, which pretty much means he doesn't want you or the baby. Sorry honey, but you a fooling yourself if you think a baby will make him stick around.
You are on your own there. Make sur... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in my FWB but he doesn't want to end it! What do I do?
Q. I am a 24 yr old female and I have been in casual relationship with a guy older than i am for a little more than 3 years now. But during all this time, we never really shared any kind of bond except mindblowing sexual chemistry. Sex has always been ...
A. 13 August 2009: No he doesn't just want ONE last bump and grind. He wants to SHOW you what it is you two have - GOOD SEX.
If you want to move on and TRY a real relationship then you need to cut the old guy loose. No contact, no more sex.
You can not really m... (read in full...)
Is my mother being paranoid?
Q. ok im 17 and my girlfriend is 15 the legal age for sex in WA is 16.. just to explain and make it easier for people to understand even though my girlfriend and i havnt even had sex and dont intend to until she is 16, also we have been together for ...
A. 13 August 2009: Ah sorry my bad with the Covers part. I still agree with your mother. She is looking out for YOU and your GF big time.
Respect her rules and life will be much easier.
You got a GOOD and smart mom.
What she is worried about are things like, s... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to do, fight or walk?
Q. me and my best friend haven't spoken in months(please read my other questions) I emailed him and his entire family ( over a month ago) and asked them not to contact me again then a week ago out of the blue he emails me and says: How do you expe...
A. 13 August 2009: Keep his family out of this. That is just ridiculous to drag them into whatever it is that is going on with you.
and if you want NO contact you don't reply to an e-mail. Sorry to be so blunt as to say that it is FUCKED UP to play with another ... (read in full...)
Will I still pass as a virgin when I get married even though I've had sex 3 times?
Q. had sex 3 times not planing on having sex for 2-3 years will i still pass off as a virgin when i get married? (all 3 times bled)...
A. 13 August 2009: Why would you lie about it?
I'm 100% with Emilysanswers.
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Our lack of sex is making me want an open relationship!
Q. Question 1: its been almost 20 months now and my boyfriend has followed a partern of only have sex with me every one to three months what does this mean and why Question 2: if my boyfriend is not having sex with me should i ask to have an open rel...
A. 13 August 2009: 1. You need to sit him down and figure out WHY you two aren't having any more sex then you are. You need to let him know that you WANT more sex then you are getting.
2. Open relationships is a bad idea for most people. Basically you sorta have a p... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend: what do I do with him?
Q. If someone can help me now i'd be very gratefull! My BF and I are now together for about 3 and a half years now and about a month ago i caught him in bed with another woman, he admited that it happend twice since then we've gone on vacation for 3 we...
A. 13 August 2009: I don't think you HAVE to accept that he is a cheater and thus will cheat again.
You need to sit him down and talk through WHY he did it and what you (and he) thinks should be the consequences if he does it again. He could be genuinely sorry fo... (read in full...)
Should I be bothered that he didn't tell me he was going out?
Q. Ok, so I just talked to my boyfriend..as usual every morning before we both start our work day. He says, "yeah a buddy of mine called me to go out yesterday..(he's dating his sis/living together). Anyways, they went out and it ended up be...
A. 13 August 2009: No I don't think he HAS to tell you every time he does something. You are not his mom, right?
I think if you trust him and he trusts you as well you can both benefit from some time apart with friends. I think being joined at the hip isn't al... (read in full...)
He caught me red-handed, cheating, I treated him badly and dumped him, but he still wants me!
Q. I had a short lived relationship with this may, who has been a childhood friend. He wanted marriage and i agreed to it, though i wasnt realy sure. I hurt his feelings badly. I cheated on him several times and he cought me with condoms and hotel ...
A. 13 August 2009: Maybe BEFORE you two enter into a relationship or marriage you get some couples counseling. You could definitely benefit from it and I bet he could too.
It would show him just how far you have come and how willing you are to make it really w... (read in full...)
If I overdose on birth control pills will I be safe?
Q. before getting married i have indulged in sex wid some other guy and have takenpills to not get pregnant.so my question is that will i get pregnant after marriage because i have eaten so many pills to not get pregnant before marriage while doing ...
A. 13 August 2009: I think overdose is a very wrong term for you to use.
The term drug overdose (or simply overdose or OD) describes the ingestion or application of a drug or other substance in quantities greater than are recommended or generally practice... (read in full...)
I feel I have a right to call the woman's house where my son is staying, and maybe try to get to know her. So why is she so disrespectful to me?
Q. My baby daddy just moved away and he took our son for the summer. All along I thought he was staying with his sister but until recently I found out he was staying with this woman. Everytime I tried to call his sister to talk to my son. Her reply ...
A. 13 August 2009: Honestly I would contact a lawyer and see what rights you have legally.
I don't CARE how old your son is - you as his MOM should be able to talk to him (a set time or when you want to - within reason) I'm guessing he isn't old enough to call you... (read in full...)
Do chicks like red pubic hair?
Q. Okay, I am just wondering, do girls like red pubic hair? I mean, Im 18, just turned legal and want to know does it? I'm a natural red head. Just curious....
A. 13 August 2009: If the carpet matches the curtains it is all good :)
If a girls likes you red head and all then she will not have a problem with your pubic hairs.
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Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 13 August 2009: I think you have to go with what you feel in your heart. And I think that you want/need for others to tell you that it is OK to cut her off.
I think it is ok for you to cut her out of your life. She made your life a living hell and still you turn... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I might have miscarried
Q. i am 14 years old and 24 weeks pregnant and i have just woke up this morning with about half the amount that i get when i am on my period, i feel empty and my stomach is killing me i darent tell my mum as she didnt even no i was pregnant i was going ...
A. 13 August 2009: You have to tell your mom and go to see an OB/GYN ( or go to the ER )
You may not have lost the baby, it is quite possible to bleed while pregnant.
Tell your mom now. ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's penis too big? It will be my first time and I'm scared of the pain!
Q. I am a 19 virgin and ready to lost my virginity to my bf. When we want to have sex last night and found that his penis is too big. I don't think he able to fit inside me without hurting me a lot. I ask him to measure it for me and is 8.5" long and ...
A. 13 August 2009: I wouldn't focus on the size so much really. What you need to focus on is a LOT of foreplay so your body is ready for the sex. If you are (pardon if it sounds crude) good and wet his size should be a problem. That and he really needs to take is nice ... (read in full...)
Is my mother being paranoid?
Q. ok im 17 and my girlfriend is 15 the legal age for sex in WA is 16.. just to explain and make it easier for people to understand even though my girlfriend and i havnt even had sex and dont intend to until she is 16, also we have been together for ...
A. 13 August 2009: Your mom is THE adult here and YOU will have to listen to you. SHE is after all looking out for you and for your girlfriend.
You say that you two aren't going to have sex til she is 16, but your mom was young once.. I bet you she knows how easy... (read in full...)
I have decided an abortion is the right thing for me, but I'm worried what my boyfriend's family will do when they find out!
Q. I found out I was pregnant about two weeks ago. I am now about seven weeks pregnant. During these two weeks I have been forced to face some tough desicions. I am fifteen and my boyfriend is sixteen. At first my boyfriend was supportive, but ...
A. 13 August 2009: You have to do what YOU think is right for YOU. Don't worry about his family or even him for that matter. In this situation he is pretty useless.
Just do me a big big favor, get counseling after the abortion. And good job dumping the boyfrien... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend, but I still don't feel ready to move on
Q. I recently found out my boyfriend of six months was doing "stuff" with my best mate. I was devistated. But as he is away on holiday, it made it hard to get to the understanding behind it all. I told him it was over because i was so hurt and all of ...
A. 13 August 2009: Maybe you need to look at WHY you think you can not function with out him. Is it just HIM you can do with out or is it the having a boyfriend.
What he did was serious betrayal. Your friend too. You really think you can ever trust him again en... (read in full...)
I lied to my fiancee about why my phone was off all weekend but he's not convinced. What can I do now?
Q. During the weekend i spent time with my ex boyfriend and i had switched of my phone. my fiancee tried calling but could not get through.When he asked why my phone was off i told him i had a lot on my mind and just did not feel like talking to him, ...
A. 11 August 2009: Your phone was off because you KNEW that if your fiancee called he would figure out in 5 seconds flat that you were "hanging" out with your ex. It was EASIER or CONVINIENT for YOU to have the phone off, rather then being honest and DEAL with the ... (read in full...)
I want to get close to him but I'm afraid of catching something!
Q. ok i have this really gig problem i am with a guy that is alot older than me and i like him so much but im so scared of getting close to him and have any kind of sexually contact with him because im scared of catching something and afraid that ...
A. 11 August 2009: rcn + ?, writes (11 August 2009):
I agree with the other poster. If I were interested in a girl, but afraid of catching something, I'd become not so interested quickly. Your first duty is to yourself, and you do not owe anyone or are ob... (read in full...)
How do I reduce the number of periods I'm having?
Q. i used to be on the birth control yaz, but my dad thinks 60 bucks a month is a lil over doing it so i switch to a cheaper brand tht we only have 2 pay 25 a month. But ever since i switched iv been having a period every time i turn around. i know ...
A. 11 August 2009: Talk to your doctor. Not all pills work the same way for each woman. This new one might just not be the right match for you.
It IS normal for the body to need an adjustment period when switching but if it feels wrong then maybe it is.
If Yaz ... (read in full...)
I fell hard for my therapist.
Q. Hi, I went to a psychotherapist last week and when I was filling out the questionnaire in the waiting room he came in and it took me about 5 seconds to fall for him. I immediately knew I was attracted to this man. I even thought about leaving an...
A. 11 August 2009: You need a new therapist, this one is NOT going to help you in the way you need.. Because you will not open up enough to get to the core of your problems..
Sorry.
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I need socialization tips.
Q. Hey, I'm a 14 year old guy and I'm going to be a freshman in high school. I'm real smart, and I'm not gonna boast or anything but I'm hot. The only thing is that I don't know how to get my "dream girl." She's always with someone else, and when she's ...
A. 11 August 2009: She knows yo uare interested... Ignore her for a while and see how that goes. She might just not be the one for you.
Don't forget looks are only skin deep. She might be very shallow.... ... (read in full...)
Why would a man tell you he wants to see only you and then cut off communication?
Q. I was dating this man for a few months. Everything was going well. We had met families and our children had become close. Then I had a feeling things weren't quite right. Like he sometimes wouldnt return texts or calls etc. So I comfronted him and ...
A. 11 August 2009: Sorry I think it is time for you to STOP calling him. You have given him EVERY opportunity to have a reason ( other then he cares about you) to call you back and he CHOSE not to. Maybe this is how he deals with his confussion. ( if he isn't sure ... (read in full...)
Please help me learn how to intimate with him again.
Q. Hi everyone, I am 22 years old and I have a boyfriend and we have been together for over 5 years, we have lived together for the past year or so and are both finishing up university (he's in a 5 year bachelor and I'm doing my master's). Late...
A. 11 August 2009: I agree with Gina,
Guilt is eating you up right now and you are tense when it comes down to actually having sex. When you are tense sex rarely feels good. You two need to take some time and sit and talk. If you don't feel you can tell him about th... (read in full...)
I've been cheating on my wife because she won't blow me.
Q. Hi. my problem is i love blow jobs so so much but my wife doesn't like to give them (she says it hurts her mouth too much cos I'm quite big, which i don't think i am) i have even on a few occasions gone else where for them but would like to receive ...
A. 11 August 2009: Divorce your wife - buy a blowup doll, after all, that is all you seem to want from a wife.
She is most likely NOT lying when she tells you that her jaw hurts giving a BJ. Or maybe she is just tired of giving head. *shrug*
Like others wrote , y... (read in full...)
Should I break my no-contact with my ex or am I using my dog as an excuse to contact him?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me a few months ago. I tried to get him back but couldn't. Then I tried just being friends with him thinking something would re-spark (kind of a lame plan since this is long distance.) didn't work so...
A. 11 August 2009: No you shouldn't break the NO Contact and call him. The dog is yours and even if he cared for the dog, it really isn't any of his business that you have to put it down.
You KNOW that you really want to USE the dog as an excuse to call him, but... (read in full...)
I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?
Q. i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issu...
A. 11 August 2009: As usual I agree with Satindesire.
What is the whole "Martyr-wife" thing you are putting yourself though? You can walk away, you can start over, you can be happy.. It's about choices and action.
He keeps cheating because you "assume" the doo... (read in full...)
Is it okay for him to keep letters and pictures of his ex?
Q. My husband still keeps his ex-girlfriends letters and photos..Is it ok? My husband kept his ex-girlfriends photos and letters over 20 years. At first I want to burn those letters and photos. I asked him permission, i am not going to burn the...
A. 1 August 2009: Now if he took them out on a daily or weekly basis to look at ad read I would be upset, otherwise, no. I don't see a problem in him keeping some mementos from his youth. After all he has had them for 20 years WHY does that upset you now?
Let... (read in full...)
I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?
Q. i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issu...
A. 31 July 2009: I second what Satindesire said:
Time for divorce.. WHY would you want a man that treats you like crap? No matter how good of a person you are, how much you do for him, how much you LOVE him, he will not stop doing what he is doing. WHY? Because ... (read in full...)
Are my nan's tarot predictions correct???
Q. Im 16 and had my period about a week ago, but now im worried im PREGNANT! I keep getting brown discharge in my underwear and feel quite bloated and keep farting a lot. My boobs are sore sometimes, on and off. Im on the contriceptive pi...
A. 31 July 2009: 2 words for you:
PREGNACY TEST
Only way for you to move on. Sore boobs can be a sign of pregnancy but also a sign og fluctuation in hormones which, is quie normal. Take the test, use condoms ( even you are on the pill). Better safe then sor... (read in full...)
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