Is this incest?
Q. Ok, Im 19.. I have a 21 year old sister who has a boyfriend at the age of 35.. He has a nephew at the same age as me! We have been talking for a while and my sister found out and her and her boyfriend tried to set us up... My sister an her bo...
A. 2 November 2009: Right out of Wiki:
Incest is any sexual activity between close relatives (often within the immediate family) irrespective of the ages of the participants and irrespective of their consent, that is illegal or socially taboo. The type of sexual acti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends make fun of me for my beliefs and he always takes their side!
Q. My bf's friends put me down for my Christian values and beliefs. They always make fun of me and put me down. My bf doesnt say anything to them. He lets them get away with it. In fact, he basically defends them and takes their side!!! He says ...
A. 27 October 2009: I think you need to find a guy who shares your beliefs, not put them down.
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How do I overcome the bullying? I feel so ugly compared to her.
Q. I'm sat here in tears thinking over the events of yesterday and I really just need someone to listen and I would welcome any sort of advice on how to move on... By way of a brief introduction I'm 27, single mother, working part-time with m...
A. 27 October 2009: Wow how old were those guys? Like 5 years old? Or at least they had the maturity level of some 5 year old. Sure they meant to hurt you ( for whatever reason, usually because they saw you as an easy target).
As far as your ex and his new dreamy g... (read in full...)
He backed off after I told him the truth about my past!
Q. I met somebody about 8 months ago, he seemed to be a really genuine guy with good morals and lots of ambition like me and I really thought it could go somewhere. We had several dates and was all going well only I made the mistake of admitting I had ...
A. 27 October 2009: I would let him go. He find you "lacking" in the girlfriend material but "good enough" to screw. Basically. But your gut already told you that. Listen to your gut :)
I agree with Ask Older Sister. There is no need to go into details abou... (read in full...)
Is sex overrated?
Q. As the scrren name may suggest i have done a lot of things in my short life, however there is one important thing i am yet to do , and yes , it is to lose my virginity . I am purely writing this looking for honest answers to the question, that is ...
A. 27 October 2009: I think sex can be amazing and it can be overrated. Same as anything really.
For many waiting on the "right" person to "pop the cherry" with makes it worth the wait. Personally I was almost 19 and he was definently the right guy. I'm really g... (read in full...)
Did he ever have feelings for me? Or was I used?
Q. I have been involved with someone for around three years he is Indian and I am British.He deceived me and went to India and got married and he broke my heart,we split up nearly a year ago and I still think about him sometimes.The biggest thing for ...
A. 27 October 2009: It is hard to know for sure, what his motives was/is. Sure it is not uncommon for men who are to have an arranged marriage to date women outside of their faith/culture til it's time to do as the family wants ( marry a picked out bride). It doesn't ... (read in full...)
By cutting him off, will he realize what he is walking away from?
Q. My husband walked out on me and our 2 children 3 months ago for another woman at work who is 17 years younger than him. We have been married for 9 years and together for 13. I have tried everything I can to try and win him back and I know he is ...
A. 19 October 2009: He wants his cake and eat it too. Sorry he can not stick to his promise, he has no spine :(
I would start the divorce and get the ball rolling, even if he did dump her could you ever really trust him? Love him? Respect him?
Does he reall... (read in full...)
Is she faking it?
Q. is this even possible because ive read alot of places that its not yet my gf seems to have 3+ orgasm just of vaginal sex? is she faking it? ...
A. 19 October 2009: It is quite possible to get multiple's from "ordinary" vaginal sex and I agree, faking one orgasm I can see but 3? I don't see it.
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Moral beliefs on fantasies?
Q. I was wondering what people think about this one. I feel that if you're in a relationship with someone, you shouldn't fantasise/masturbate over someone else. To me, at that moment in time you're choosing to be with (think of) someone other th...
A. 19 October 2009: I will disagree with you as well. Fantasy and reality are two very separate things. I think a healthy fantasy can keep a person alive, even endure unimagined pain and suffering.
I understand the loyalty part of your idea, but I just don't agree. I... (read in full...)
Can little lies lead to bigger lies?
Q. Hi, I just started dating this guy, and I'm noticing some strange little consistencies that I think maybe I'm being over sensitive about. However I feel like I need to address them. First of all, when we started seeing each other, I asked him if h...
A. 19 October 2009: It's called the snowball effect. So yes, little lies can grow and grow til it all tumbles down.... (read in full...)
Am I the only pregnant woman living apart from her significant other?
Q. Help me. My fiances family kicked me out of there house cause I got laid off. They say I can come back after I get a job but I'm pregnant and don't think ill have much luck in it. Also my fiance told me if I ever got kicked out that he would come ...
A. 19 October 2009: I wholeheartedly agree with Satindesire.. What a family @shudder@... (read in full...)
Why do I always seem to want sex when I'm a virgin?
Q. Why do I always seem to be wanting sex even though I am a virgin? When I was grinding with a guy and I felt his boner I was about to explode, why? And another guy that I was grinding with had his hands by my bladder a little lower and that made me ...
A. 19 October 2009: Hormones my dear. Learn to control your impulses. And there is NOTHING worng with feeling turned on my a guy, it is how well you control yourself that determine the outcome.
Might be a good time to talk to your mom ( or another adult you trust) a... (read in full...)
Parent imposed curfew has destroyed my social life! Why have they turned against me?
Q. I'm 20 years old but feel like a child as my parents treat me like one yet treat my younger brother like a adult. My parents brought my brother a house for him and his gf to live in but have raised my rent to pay for the mortage and the expensive ...
A. 16 October 2009: I would do whatever I could to save up and find a room or a flatmate and simple move out. Curfew at 20? Ridiculous.... (read in full...)
Why should I save my virginity when other people don't?
Q. Why should I save my virginity when others people don't ? and why would I wait for the right girls in case the right girl could be a loose one as well. I can't see any points of waiting for me. even my ex-girlfriend when she was with me she siad she...
A. 16 October 2009: That is like saying :"If everyone else jumps off a bridge why shouldn't you?"
If your moral compass, upbringing, religious conviction whatnot tells you to wait til you find someone to share this with then don't compromise yourself. Don't sell you... (read in full...)
Misreading women
Q. I have a situation where a young lady has started to flirt with me (in an office environment at her workplace). She is very nice and it is light flirting. I have been going there for about 4 weeks and initially I did not pay much attention to her. ...
A. 16 October 2009: Well I personally finish one relationship before starting to even consider a new one....
I can't say if she is interested or not. Maybe she heard you are already involved with someone else and she is backing off.. ... (read in full...)
Vaginal flatulence - Help!
Q. The title says it all really. It seems that every time my boyfriend and I make love, that I have this problem. He does notice, laughs a little, and we carry on as we were, but it's a serious mood killer for me. Do I feel attractive when ...
A. 14 October 2009: Kegel exercises - never to early to start them!
And yes it is very normal and you two just need to find a way for him to enter you right.... (read in full...)
Did my text ruin our chance to renew our relationship?
Q. Sorry that it is a little long, anyway i dated this guy for a few months he lost his job and i helped him out but after a while i could not take it anymore he just started asking me for money over and over again i felt like his mother, but i still ...
A. 14 October 2009: You are his "security blanket" he calls and have sex with you when he isn't getting it from others..
Dump him and ignore him, time for you to really move on and do not let him back into your life.
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Is playing hard to get a good thing?
Q. ok what does a guy mean when he says "your playing hard to get"?is that a good thing?...
A. 14 October 2009: Him asking you if you are playing hard to get means that he wants you to be interested in him.
Normally I don't believe in "playing" games, so I would be honest with him, if you ARE playing hard to get I would tell him maybe, if you are NOT then... (read in full...)
12 years later and still clueless in the sack? Is it time to pack my bags?
Q. Here's my situation in a nutshell. Mr X and I have been dating for 12 years. We have never, ever, had good sex (for me). We have sex twice a week, he gets off every time and I get off once every six months only because I am so frusterated at that ...
A. 14 October 2009: Yikes. 12 years of bad sex? Whoa, you have the patience of a saint!
I know sex is everything to a relationship, but usually if the sex works so does the relationship.
I think he is lazy.
If you intend on staying in this relationship I woul... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy and he doesn't listen
Q. Should I stay or go?? I'll try and be brief with this, i met my partner 4 years ago, it was great at first we travelled the world together, and used to do a lot of things together. We moved into our own place but a year ago he decided we move bac...
A. 14 October 2009: I would honestly move OUT and get a place of my own if I was you. Living with your parents is OK in emergencies and for shorter durations ( of if you need to be their care givers) You are 42, correct?
Think about WHAT you want and go for it. If h... (read in full...)
I'm being used by guys for just sex
Q. it seems as though im being used for sex by guys...im tired of it...this guy tells me were making love and i told him i took it seriously...and all he says is his job is very demanding and he's not ignoring me or wanting to hurt my feelings... ...
A. 13 October 2009: Honestly how long do you wait to have sex with a guy you met?
Maybe you need to take the time to get to know them before having sex, that way you will pretty fast weed out the ones that "only" want sex. They won't stick around if you don't pu... (read in full...)
Do I tell her or keep it to myself?
Q. Another Best Friends Wife Story... So my best friend got married to a wonderful girl about three years ago. She has been a very good friend of mine as well. I have been attracted to her throughout their relationship but very easily kept thin...
A. 13 October 2009: I guess my questions are:
keep my feelings for her to myself?
You seem like a smart man, what do YOU think would happen if you confessed your attraction to her? 1 of 2 things. Either she feels like you or she does not. If she does, what ... (read in full...)
Cant cope with the images of my wife with another man
Q. Please can anyone out there help me. After twenty years of marrage my wife had an affair and it has destroyed our marrage.I absolutely adored the woman and this has devastated me . I am only a shell of the man i used to be.I am now smoking heavly ...
A. 8 October 2009: Stop giving your ex-wife that much power over your life.
I understand that smoking hash and drinking have momentarily masked to pain of the betrayal of your wife, BUT in all fairness she did NOT make you pick up the pipe or the bottle THAT was... (read in full...)
Does being too nice drive women away?
Q. Along time ago my mother told me I was too nice to women and this is why my relationships never last.I have been married two times.The first about 5 years and the second about 9 years..I have had a couple of girl friends after this but nothing ...
A. 8 October 2009: I don't believe in the Nice-guy-always-finish-last either.
I don't think you can treat another human being ( be it a girlfriend or stranger) too nicely.
Did both your wives divorce you saying to were too nice?
What is it you are doing that... (read in full...)
My bf rips my thongs on purpose. how can I make him stop.
Q. ill make this short and simple. my boyfriend keeps literally ripping my underwear everytime we have sex! we will get into the mood and he will legit RIP my thong off! im getting rly irritated because i keep having to buy new ones! i have told him ...
A. 8 October 2009: MAKE him bu you new ones.. that simple or go commando.. ( that is no panties at all)
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She broke up with me after I moved 1000 miles to be with her!
Q. I met the girl two years ago. We reconnected over the phone a year later, which eventually developed into a long distance relationship. We fell pretty hard for one another and took frequent trips back and forth from our home states. As we both saw...
A. 8 October 2009: So what do I do?
Either pack up and move home or re-decorate, take one room at a time and get "rid" of her influence.
Do I give up on her?
What Else can you do? She gave up on you a LONG time ago.
What happened?
I think she never... (read in full...)
My wife wants me to give up drinking, but I don't really want to.
Q. i have been married for about 2years with a 4 months son. it has developed that of late my wife dosen't want me to drink and also to hangout with my friends and as we met i used to drink something have tried to quit but all in vein. the other da...
A. 8 October 2009: If the two of you can no find a compromise I think you are going to loose your wife. I can understand still having friends and being able to hang out with them is important, but really is drinking more important then your wife and son?
I guess th... (read in full...)
Do I have a disorder?
Q. I'm a 15 years old and I don't remember the last time I was truly happy. Sure, I laugh and I smile but I can't remember what true happiness is like. I haven't felt it in a long time. I don't have a bad life, I think I am a good looking girl and...
A. 25 September 2009: I agree that you sound like you are depressed. Don't fake it, talk to your parents and get medical help.
A LOT of women fall into depression after having an abortion, that is really "normal", it is not something you "just" get over. I hope you... (read in full...)
How common is it for guys to try to push you into things sexually?
Q. ladies how common is it for guys to try and push you into things you don't want to do sexually or to atually force you-I've encountered a few guys like this and I want to know whether it's normal but girls just don't say that it's happened to them ...
A. 25 September 2009: I agree that is more like rape then sex.
I think you need to dump his dumb ass and learn how to assert yourself.
THAT is not normal. One thing is one is more horny then the other, but disrespecting a no, is just plain and simply wrong.
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My boyfriend gets mad if I wear matching bra and panties when he is gone
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me for wearing panties and bras that match when I am not with him. Is this out of line? We have been together for almost two years. I have never been unfaithful to ANYONE. HE has....
A. 25 September 2009: Um, up until I had children ALL my bra's and undies matched - they are a SET like 2 socks are a pair. Once you have kids you kinda wear what is practical.
Does he think that you wear matching sets because you are being unfaithful?
He has some s... (read in full...)
Has my sister's man been molesting their child?
Q. I have a younger sister who is in a very abusive relationship. Eleven months ago she had a baby by this person. A few months ago they broke up and eventually, he wormed his way back into her life. She just found out (by a doctor) that she has her...
A. 25 September 2009:
A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009):
Oh, but this does not mean anything... If she has herpes, it could have been passed on to the baby during birth... This does not necessarily mean the father was molesting his child.
TH... (read in full...)
I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?
Q. This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...
A. 25 September 2009: I think you need to take some time an figure out WHAT you really want.
I think the reason you keep stepping ( or have done so twice) out of your marriage is because you don't feel fulfilled in the marriage and maybe with yourself?
If you ... (read in full...)
We used a condom but I am late, and worried!
Q. Me and my husband have been having intercourse and only used a condom for protection. My period is now 5 days late. And its never late unless i'm pregnant. I am tired, i have sore boobs, and a few other pregnancy symptoms i remember from previous ...
A. 23 September 2009: You asked: "How many false negatives did you have before you got your positive?"
Depends on so many things, however you will NEVER get a positive unless you are pregnant ( or it is a false positive) It can also be the type of test you are using. I... (read in full...)
At the end of our trip, he pushed me out of his room and closed the door in my face!
Q. we were just friends through the internet and he came to my country. we met and traveled together for couple of days. while we were together he tried to have sex with me. i was shocked, why he wanted to have sex with me although he don't like me or ...
A. 16 September 2009: I agree with Code Warrior 100%. The guys was a jerk, those are a dime a duzin. Don't feel bad, feel proud that you didn't let some idiot take advantage of you.
Don't talk to him any more on the Internet, he isn't worth the time of day.
In the ... (read in full...)
How soon into a relationship should I reveal I'm a virgin?
Q. Hi cupid people, I know another 40 year old virginity rant but ah well - tis unique cos its all about me this time :) Basically I am a 24 (and 3 quarters) year old virgin although I'm not terrible looking and I have had ex's who have offered to ...
A. 16 September 2009: When you meet a guy and you think he is the one, I don't think it will be that hard to tell him.
I assume you sre going to take your time getting to know your BF before even considering sex.
I see nothing wrong in staying a virgin either. T... (read in full...)
M I being melodramatic over him not getting me a b-day gift?
Q. I'm still hurting over something my boyfriend did a few months back, even though i know it will sound trivial. Here goes: on the lead up to my birthday, he said he really wanted to get me something nice, pretty much bombarded me all week for hints ...
A. 15 September 2009: I agree with Lola1.
If you told him you want nothing, some men will give you nothing.
My husband is NOT very creative when it comes to buying me presents, unless I TELL him what I want, I get something LAME. Even after 12 years of knowing me.
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Is it OK to date my former sister-in-law?
Q. I've been divorced for over a year now. My former sister-in-law (who was married to my oldest brother) is also now divorced from my brother. We both divorced the same year. We've always gotten along really well. We live in different states, but I ...
A. 15 September 2009: Do you know who she and your brother divorced? Have you considered asking your brother how he would feel?
Honestly I kind of agree with AskOlderSister that there have to be other women out tere for you to date other then your brothers ex wife. Bu... (read in full...)
How do I be there for my friend now he has found out he is HIV+?
Q. I'm a gay 24 year old male and my best friend and i went for a sexual health test the other week and got our results yesterday ... It turns out that i was all clear but my best friend has been told he is HIV + ... As you could imagine this was a ...
A. 15 September 2009: I'm sorry about your friend.
If you are his good friend make sure he sees a doctor and gets on the medications. Lots of HIV+ people live good and lives being HIV positive, it is not longer a "death sentence" though I'm sure it feels that way to h... (read in full...)
Help!!! How do I get out of my marriage without complications?
Q. If you've been married for two years and you dont love your partner any more because you got married too soon (but dont talk to your partner about this) and you know you've made a big mistake, how do you tell your partner that you want a divorce? ...
A. 15 September 2009: If you don't have children you two might be able to get an annulment. You would have to see an attorney for that.
Be honest with her. Living a lie is never good for anyone.
I don't know how to avoid "complications" with a divorce, unless ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of these good for nothing mother feelings
Q. I'm a SAHM since my son was born. He is 4 yrs old now.Every time someone asks me (what do I do all day or what I'm doing these days) I feel bad. I feel sort of guilty of not working. Its hard to maintain a good life style on 1 person's income(...
A. 15 September 2009: I'm a SAHM and have been for 9 years. It is hard work. Don't let anyone tell you is it not.
Your child is 4, so next year he will start Kindergarten, why don't you look into taking some college courses and improve yourself for the job market? ... (read in full...)
Size does matter to me! Should I just be honest and tell him?
Q. Dear Cupid,I met this guy last September(2008),and we dated for about 3 months.The first time we got intimate with each other was kinda weird for me.It was unexpected yet great.He performed oral sex on me,he is the pleaser type guy.I was enjoying it ...
A. 15 September 2009: I would tell him that you don't like him as much as he likes you. Don't string him along.
I would NOT tell him:" hey, dude I'm dumping you because you are too small."
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