Size does matter to me! Should I just be honest and tell him?
Q. Dear Cupid,I met this guy last September(2008),and we dated for about 3 months.The first time we got intimate with each other was kinda weird for me.It was unexpected yet great.He performed oral sex on me,he is the pleaser type guy.I was enjoying it ...
A. 15 September 2009: I would tell him that you don't like him as much as he likes you. Don't string him along.
I would NOT tell him:" hey, dude I'm dumping you because you are too small."
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She's 14 should I tell her that I love her?!
Q. Dear Cupid, i'm 20 and there's this girl that i play video games w/ online who is 14. the thing is, i really love her, which to me is an understatement. we've now known each other for 8 months. i really have feelings for her. i think about he...
A. 15 September 2009: She is 14 you are 20, that jsut isn't right. She might be a mature 14 year old and you might be a very immature 20 year old but it still doesn't make it right.
Be her friend. You can't really be anything else to her.
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We broke up but now he's suggesting FWB
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago. he says that he still cares about me more than anybody else and the only reason that he broke up with me is because he doesn't see us being together forever. he thinks there is someone else out there ...
A. 15 September 2009: So he wants to screw you til he finds someone to have a relationship with? Unless you can shut down all feelings for him I wouldn't do it. You will be the one hurt in the end.
He wants sex, not you.
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My boyfriend told everyone what we did -- how do I deal with the abuse?
Q. I just tryed oral sex with my boyfriend and he told all his friends. now people are calling me a slut, and i have guys from school asking me to "suck them" or "get on your knees for me" any idea's how to stop this or to deal with it. ...
A. 15 September 2009: Wow I would break up with him in the spot. I know teenage boy can be immature but this? bragging about what you two did sexually to make himself look "big"? That is just uncalled for. HOWEVER, it happens fairly often, so I suggest you remember this ... (read in full...)
B/f wanted to be with his friend and she shot him down
Q. Hi all, I would really love some help on this one please......I recently found out that my Boyfriend of nearly two years is in love with his friend ( has been for 8 years) the things is they are thousands of miles apart. so of course I am very...
A. 15 September 2009: I would walk away, you are the "consolation prize" not the one he really wants to be with. Which means, he will stick it out with you till SHE or someone "better" comes along.
Why settle?
Specially for a man who isn't 100% into you?
Just bec... (read in full...)
Should I end my marriage?
Q. hi! i posted this in another site and didn't realy get any help so i thought i'd try here. Okay, my hubby and I have been together for 4yrs. married for 2. We have an 8mo. old baby. In the beginning, things were pretty good, we waited about a month ...
A. 15 September 2009: IF you use divorce as a threat yet don't do anything about it, it is just that.. a threat.. words.
I have no idea why this guy don't want to sit down and talk or even be a family. After all he had no problem putting a child into the world.
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I found a condom packet in his bag!
Q. Condoms found in the bag I have been with my boyfirend for 9 months in a long distance relationship. we have managed to spend every weekend together for nine months and i love him so much. He is moving here to be with me in three weeks. This week...
A. 15 September 2009: Condom's can stay lubricated for way longer then 9 months.
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How do I fullfill his sexual needs without feeling uncomfortable? Try it again or don't?
Q. My husband and I have brought other people into the bedroom before. Only 2 times have we had this experience. I was uncomfortable with it but Im trying to please my husband who enjoys it. We have rules, no kissing on the mouth and no sexual ...
A. 14 September 2009: It sounds like to me that you above all want to please your husband. And that is a good thing. However, it is ok to have some boundaries and limitations to what you feel comfortable with and what you don't.
Obviously you don't really want to ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my fiancee before I go to Iraq?
Q. so i suppose i'm here because im just at the end of my rope. i recently got out of boot camp and just got notice that i am going to iraq next week on tuesday. and i am aware i will be a different person if i make it back home . so i want to know, ...
A. 14 September 2009: My husband has deployed 3 times already and yes there have been subtle changes in him. But we all have those as we all grow older and hopefully wiser.
Do you love this girl?
Does she love you?
Does she want to wait for you?
Can you handle ... (read in full...)
I quit my job! Do I have to show someone else how to do things?
Q. I have handed my notice in at work having worked there for almsot 8 years as I cannot stand being picked on indirectly-anymore although I havent got another job to go to-unwise I know but I couldnt stand it after the last straw when one of the staff ...
A. 14 September 2009: I can't see why you should have to show anyone else the ropes. However, I would be 100% honest when you apply for a new job on why you left the old one. And you might want to seek legal advice as well.
That would not sit well with me either h... (read in full...)
Was this conversation a compliment in disguise?
Q. so i was talking to my step brother and his friends and they were saying what they liked in a girl. some of the things they mentioned were pretty eyes (big with nice makeup), pouty lips and always use chapstick because it makes them soft, don't ...
A. 14 September 2009: I agree with tasteofIndia 100%
It seems like they are very shallow when it comes to girls. And very immature. Love is not about looks - yes certain traits attracts certain people, but really, beauty is truly in the eyes if the beholder.
I would... (read in full...)
Guy I dated just txt me a month after not talking to me
Q. Hi everyone, im just really confused about this guy i went out with a few times, just wanted some advice. So this guy ive known since highschool started talking to me on facebook. We talked for a few weeks and he asked me out for dinner. So i wen...
A. 14 September 2009: I agree with the other two advice you got. Let him go, he isn't what you are looking for.
I would honestly just ignore him from now on.
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He's using his pet name for me with other women too
Q. My b/f has a sweet little nickname he's always called me by but lately, I've caught him calling other women by my little pet name and it hurts my feelings because I thought it was something special reserved only for me. The first time he did it, I ...
A. 14 September 2009: What's the nickname?
I dont know if you are reading too much into it, but I wouldn't like for my husband to call others by my nick name.
For him it might just be a reflex thing. Female=nickname.
I would ask him, but try not to make it a big... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair, I'm considering divorce and now she's threatening to harm herself!
Q. A few months back my wife confessed to having an affair with a married man after almost three years of stubbornly denying it. She only confessed after my doctor told her it would delay my recovery from a mental breakdown i had over her affair. ...
A. 14 September 2009:
She spend a lot of time messing with your mind before you found out for sure, and she is still messing with your mind. I don't think she is being fair to you by threatening to do herself harm if you don not forgive and stay married.
What sh... (read in full...)
He deleted my email without reading it, but I really want to see him!
Q. I've got a very close friendship with an old colleague and we often email each other and occasionally speak on the phone and we are quite flirty (and I think he's lovely). We live miles away from each other, so always try to catch up if either of ...
A. 14 September 2009: Maybe he is involved with someone and deleted the email so he wouldn't be tempted?
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My sexual and drinking behavior is out of control and is now frightening me. Please help
Q. Hello all. I am an attractive female with a nice ok regular life who does not have sex very much by choice, but then when I do, I tend to go nuts, and am worried about my behaviour, as I am indulging in sporadic risky, drunken threesom...
A. 14 September 2009: I could be menopausal of a "female" midlife crisis. You seem to focus on your sex drive a lot. Like it drives you, not the other way around.
If you don't like what you are doing then stop putting yourself in those situation where you normally... (read in full...)
I cant stand his accusations any more!
Q. I don't know if this is abuse or not. I have been dating my boyfriend (he is from Europe) for almost a year and a half. It started a year ago when he would tell me that I am looking at other men (when I don't) and that I wanted to be with other men ...
A. 11 September 2009: Your relationships is one of those long distance relationships that will never ever work, he is not only immature, controlling and manipulative he is also abusive and totally destructive. He might also be a borderline narcissist ( google that if you ... (read in full...)
She's bringing all kinds of men into my kids' lives.
Q. Hi can you help me? I split up with my partner 2007 we have 2 kids together, 4 and 3 years old. She's been dating and bringing all different sorts of men into my kids life; she can't stick to one man. I want to hear your advice and what negative ...
A. 11 September 2009: I agree with Old guy. I do not believe that it is healthy for any children to be "exposed" to a long string of partners, specially if it is nothing serious.
Talk to her about it, you two should be able to set some guide lines maybe? I know it ... (read in full...)
During sex he went too deep and I started bleeding! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend was having and it went in deep too deep to the point were it hurt, after i started bleeding, but i was due on so we think its probably that, but were just wondering if it could be something else, if it is my period then i have ...
A. 11 September 2009: You do know that for some women having sex simulates the uterus? Some bleed less some more, some have less cramps and so on..
I agree with Gina, that you guys should stop having sex til you know what is up..
And please please use condoms EVER... (read in full...)
We went out for two days and then he dumped me. I can't stop crying!.
Q. I need help, I'm 15 in year 11 and there's this lad I like at school I havent been talking to him long, and we got together a couple of days ago, he dumped me last night, but I have never felt like this before. I havent stopped crying, I can't ...
A. 11 September 2009: It's not love, honey. Not after only a few days. It is infatuation and maybe a little bit about hurt pride.
Be glad he dumped you now and not after 6-8 months. He was NOT the one for you. Not the one-right now for you either.
Wipe your eye... (read in full...)
How long to wait around before moving on?
Q. I have been dating someone for about 7 months, the last 2 months has been less and less...I don't get return phone calls for days, we rarely see each other. We have never argued, when we are together we get along well, although there is a bit of ...
A. 11 September 2009: You two do need to talk. You need to find out why he is back up now. Tip toeing around will do nothing for the relationship and nothing for the healing. Be open, be honest.
I don't think there is a set time to wait before moving on, you will kno... (read in full...)
My first boyfriend wants to get back with me but I'm engaged, how do I tell him?
Q. I dated a guy in high school for 2 and a half years. During that time I fell in love with him. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first time, my first everything. We ended up being forced apart by my parents from some trouble we got into. ...
A. 11 September 2009: Don't marry anyone til you know WHAT and WHO you want. And most likely you can not have them both in your life without some kind of drama..
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My boyfriend is torn between his wife and me
Q. When my boyfriend and I first met it was love at first sight. Not something I had ever believed in before especially at 28. After having our 1st date, he called and told me that he was separated with a daughter and going through a divorce. Not ...
A. 11 September 2009: Well you are in a hard situation. You fell in love with a guy who wasn't quite "done" with his previous relationship.
I would tell him you need to back off til he has made up his mind about what HE wants. If he wants to work it out with the wife... (read in full...)
He cheated on me. He doesn't know I cheated on him too. Should I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend has cheated on me twice and I've forgiven him both times because he came out and told me I didnt have to find out or any other immature things involved. While he was cheating on me I kinda felt that something was going on so I cheated ...
A. 11 September 2009: Two wrongs never make it right.
I think you want him to forgive you like you forgave him, I'm not sure if telling him won't end your relationship, it seems to be based on a huge lack of trust and respect.
However, I do believe in honesty in a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wasnt paying me any attention when we had a threesome but now I think I want to try another one!
Q. so I'm bisexual female and Ive had the same boyfriend for over a year now. a threesome came up in our conversation about four months ago and we'd thought it be fun to try it with one of my friends thats a girl whos also a bisexual, we asked and she ...
A. 11 September 2009: Not all fantasies need to be played out. Some are just perfect if they stay in your own head.
I don't think you are ready for another 3-some.... (read in full...)
This relationship is really promising but I don't want to be a mom to her 6 year old son!
Q. I am openly, and proudly, bisexual, and I make no apologies for that. I have recently started to become involved with a woman, which is nothing unusual for me. What IS unusual, however, is that she has a kid, a 6 year-old son. The father is still ...
A. 11 September 2009: It is going to be hard to "ignore" the fact that she has a child. They are a package deal for sure.
It doesn't mean you have to "play" mom all of a sudden, HE has a mom already. You would be "mom's" partner.
Last but not least, the CHILD... (read in full...)
Is it unusual not to have your father give you away at your wedding and have your brother do it instead?
Q. I'm getting married soon (yay!) and I'm worried about that tradition where the father of the bride gives her away. You see, my dad was never around...I think I've met him on 3 or 4 occasions and never had more than a superficial conversation with ...
A. 11 September 2009: Considering you father was more of a "sperm donor" then a father, I would have no problem with asking your brother to walk you down the aisle.
This is YOUR wedding day. Invite whom you would want to share that day, not who you "think" should b... (read in full...)
I don't want to be seen as a homewrecker if he leaves his girlfriend for me!
Q. I am in a bit of a messy situation. Last year I reconnected with a very old friend of mine. We have history, massive attraction and flirtation, and an emotional connection that I have never felt with any other guy before or since. The only reason ...
A. 10 September 2009: I think you need to step back and let him figure out what to do next. If he don't want to stay with his GF then it is HIS choice. HIS mess, so to speak.
If you two start having thing going on and he is still with his GF, then I'm sorry you are ... (read in full...)
How do I stop telling the world every detail of my life?
Q. My problem.... I must not email/text everyone over every detail and tell world my news.. Not good It is like I can’t deal with my emotions, and so I have to air them to everyone else, then I say something and then feel bad, guilty or conflic...
A. 10 September 2009: Get a journal, write it all down there - let it out but keep it to yourself.
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Is anybody familiar with divorce process in Canada?
Q. Is anybody familiar with divorce process in Canada? I have made my decision ,to leave my husband, but I don't know where to start. What happens if I move out before the divorce papers? I'm not sure I can deal with him, he is not going to cooperat...
A. 10 September 2009: Least stupid way is to get a lawyer, now. Don't wait. Also make sure you have copies of ALL papers of everything you own, house, cars, bank statements, YOUR birth certificates, those of your grown children ( if you still have any of those).
It se... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair. Should I tell her lovers wife.
Q. My sister has been having an affair for over a year now. They are both married although only content in their marriages. I want to reveal the affair to his wife but do not want to reveal my sister's identity because she has young children in the ...
A. 10 September 2009: Do you want to bust your sister because she is being immoral? Or what is your motivation for telling?
And IF you are going to tell someone why not tell your brother-in-law?
I am very much against cheating, but there are things that will lead t... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair -- shouldn't I be putting some distance between us while I sort out my feelings?
Q. We've been married 17 years. My husband had an on/off again affair with a married woman for 3 years. I found out about it. He told had already decided to break it off because it was hurting him. I was in shock at first, screamed, cried, wanted ...
A. 10 September 2009: Distance can do wonders. I would also suggest that if YOU want to keep the marriage going that the two for you seek out couples counseling.
It is very devastating to be cheated on and no snap of the fingers will make it go away. There is a long r... (read in full...)
He said he wanted group sex and now I havent seen him for a week
Q. Well I have a boyfriend of about 6 months or did have. He was so romantic when I first met him, really interested in getting to know me take me out on fantastic great dates. He was amazing and sex was amazing, he would always tell me I was the best...
A. 10 September 2009: I think it's a good thing if you never hear from him again. He wants multiple partners you don't. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks its a bad idea to go to the police after I was raped, what should we do?
Q. About 3 months ago I was raped by a man I met in town on a night out who I thought was nice-looking but wasn't a nice person, then I met my boyfriend in mid-July, and he is far nicer than my exes or the guy I met. It's only recently I told ...
A. 9 September 2009: Honey, there is a BIG difference between a burglary of a garden shed and a rape.
You BF might be looking out for you thinking it is less traumatic if you don't report it. But I think that part of healing for many rape victims is telling someone ... (read in full...)
Worried that relationship with teacher will be found out by police!
Q. I'm worried that my relationship with a Teacher will be found out by police. We are no long in the relationship. But I had talked about it via phone/text messaging to a very good close trustworthy friend of mine. Even though I haven't talked about ...
A. 9 September 2009: If you are over 18 I would assume there isn't much they can do about a relationship ( The school board might fire him) But I'm not sure he can be prosecuted.
I agree with Sexless that it is your guilt that is making you paranoid.
Who have told... (read in full...)
Pregnant, not ready for a child but cannot have an abortion either
Q. Help me!!!!! Idk what to do. I skipped my period last month so I took a pregnancy test yesterday and it came back positive I'm gonna get myself two other test just to make sure its not wrong but I'm so scared. I'm only 20 and me and my fiancee arnt ...
A. 9 September 2009: It seems instead of being scared you need to start taking responsibility for having gotten pregnant.
I understand that you feel abortion is not an option which leaves you with two other options, having the baby or adoption.
If you two don't fe... (read in full...)
How can I introduce this so early into the marriage?
Q. hello aunty,I just got married 3 weeks back and am on my honey-moon,it was an arranged marriage (we knew each-other,our families decided that we should get married),now we are havign our honeymoon!! I have been fasinated by bondage sex and want my ...
A. 9 September 2009: Unless you both have talked about his before marriage and before you started having sex, I would suggest you two to get to know each other a little better before bringing bondage to the table.
You could if you are a little daring suggest some mil... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks its a bad idea to go to the police after I was raped, what should we do?
Q. About 3 months ago I was raped by a man I met in town on a night out who I thought was nice-looking but wasn't a nice person, then I met my boyfriend in mid-July, and he is far nicer than my exes or the guy I met. It's only recently I told ...
A. 9 September 2009: First off I'm sorry you have to go though something like that. I think you need to listen to your own gut. Why did you not go to the police right away? What held you back?
Secondly I think you should call the polive or a rape hot line and give the... (read in full...)
We planned to have this baby and try to make things work, but all of a sudden he wants me to have an abortion!
Q. Hi Guys, Just want some outside opinion on a tricky situation. I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months and last week we found out I am pregnant. I know it is iresponsible, but I don't want a lecture! We talked about it, and even though w...
A. 9 September 2009: I think you might be on your own, no matter what you decide. He seems to have no clue what he wants and honestly a little immature.
Do you want to be a single mom? If so, have the baby. I don't think he will stick around. And I don't think yo... (read in full...)
I can't tell is it's just flirting?
Q. Lately, I've been confused by the attention of a personal trainer at my gym. I signed up for him, and we got along great, and he even came to one of my family's get togethers. There's always been a bit of flirting, from him. I play stupid because I ...
A. 8 September 2009: I would forget about him. He isn't available for anything really, he "might" be able to be a friend, but I'm not sure if that is what he is looking for.. Sounds to me that you are better off not talking to him.
He is married. Some people convenie... (read in full...)
My pregnant partner and I keep rowing. Could it be down to her hormones?
Q. Good morning, Me and my partner are expecting a baby in 7 months time. We are going through a rocky patch at the moment, maybe its her hormones I'm not sure. We nearly broke up last night because things are getting in our way. She thinks e...
A. 8 September 2009: It is not just hormones. I think she expects you to grow up. Playing Xbox while on the phone with her might mean nothing to you but we all know how distracting it can be to play a game and try and have a conversation.
You two need to sit down and... (read in full...)
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