Should I care what others think?
Q. Hello dear cupid. I’m with my GF 3 years already, and on Christmas she told me she wants a « heart breakable « jewellery for the both of us. She told me that it would represent our eternal love, and relationship. Well at the beginning I didn’t ...
A. 2 January 2010: It has nothing to do with age - if YOU like it and SHE likes it, who cares what everyone else thinks?
I think it's rather cute to be honest, not all men can do a think like that. It takes a bit of gut!
It's not like it is jewelry from a g... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that my ex raped me, which would explain why I am struggling to have sex with him?
Q. About 2 years ago, my bf at the time (now ex bf) raped me. We broke up a few days later. It was a pretty traumatic experience for me. I tried so hard to stop him but I just couldnt. I tried fighting him off me, but he had me in a pinned down ...
A. 2 January 2010: If you trust him and have genuine feelings for him I would tell him. It is not something that is hard to hide 24/7 - specially in a relationship.
Hopefully he will be supporting and help you deal with this.
also - I suggest you get some counsel... (read in full...)
Was he avoiding me?
Q. Ok so I was acting childish about this guy, I admit it. So I decided to take all the confidence I could muster up and be an adult so I gave him my phone number and even asked him if he would like to go to a New Year Party and meet some new people. ...
A. 2 January 2010: I'm guessing he was trying to let you down easy. Specially with that whole long story about calling people.
No need to be embarrassed, you made the first move, if he is interested the ball is in his court. I just wouldn't wait around for him to b... (read in full...)
He is annoying me lately, but I still care about him, any advice?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 8 months now and he really is annoying me lately. I don't want to break up with him becuse I still care about him. So I really could use some advice as what to do. [Moderator's note: In what ways is he anno...
A. 2 January 2010: Seems like he is a tad controlling and not very respectful. I suggest you talk to him when yo uare alone and do it calmly. If he dones't stop maybe he is not the one for you?
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Will this feeling go as I become more used to fingering?
Q. The problem I'm having is that I don't enjoy fingering. My boyfriend has fingered me 3 or 4 times now, twice for a long period of time. I love being intimate with him but fingering just doesn't feel pleasurable to me. I'm a virgin so he can only use ...
A. 1 January 2010: Stop doing it if you don't enjoy it. First of all, women don't have many nerve ending inside the vagina ( they are in the clitoris) Why not ask him to "play" with that instead.. He might make you orgasm a time or two instead of feeling sick.
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He is annoying me lately, but I still care about him, any advice?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 8 months now and he really is annoying me lately. I don't want to break up with him becuse I still care about him. So I really could use some advice as what to do. [Moderator's note: In what ways is he anno...
A. 1 January 2010: I agree with the Mod - Describe HOW he is annoying. Saying someone is annoying is not very telling.
But going on the little you threw out there,
How about... talking to him?
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Crush for a year but just can't seem to get things moving!
Q. I have had a crush on a guy for nearly a year but can not seem to get things moving. His mum really admires me for what I do and who I am career wise and as an individual. I get on with his sisters. We are very similiar in what we do ...
A. 1 January 2010: I'm sorry if I sound a little rude here, but you sound potentially stalker'ish.. Using his family to get close to him.
If you are interested either call him up or ask him out. Take it from there.
BUT, don't hang on to the other guy to to have a... (read in full...)
Insecure about my Vagina's appearance! Help!!
Q. okay big time help needed! i have really really really low self esteem when it comes to men. Not about meeting them, but 'otherwise'. Whenever i am getting intimate i never allow a man to go near my bottom half because i have a vagina that has ...
A. 1 January 2010: I totally agree with rhythmandblues2 answer. Please read it a few times til it makes sense to you as well, because... she is right.
Just like every penis looks a little different from the guy next to him, so does the female vagina's.
If a gu... (read in full...)
She pissed me off and broke my heart at new year.
Q. I'm currently not home, employed by the military outside the US, I was speaking to my girlfriend earlier today (well practically yesterday) and she told me simply that this fu**** did her, I argued why the hell she let him etc... she gave me reaso...
A. 1 January 2010: Dump her and move on. She is clearly not cut out for the military "lifestyle". If she can not even stay faithful while you are deployed she isn't worth it.
How to cheer yourself up? By living your life well. Having your heart broken doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who doesn't care about you anymore?
Q. Sory if this is long. We went out for close to 8 months, which i guess generally is a short time, but fairly long compared to many teenage relationships. I really genuinely fell in love with her but she broke my heart. Despite saying she loved...
A. 1 January 2010: I agree - step away from her, don't flirt with her and try as best as you can to not hang out with or around her.
She obviously moved on, let yourself do the same.
And accept that it is pretty normal to "mourn" a relationship - just don't wallo... (read in full...)
She forces me to wear condom and I always lose my erection
Q. okay picture this... me and my girl are messing around im getting turned on she is ready for me i am hard as rock and then i go for the condom. in thre time it takes me to get the condom, put it on and start tryinf to go in i lose my stiffness. I ...
A. 1 January 2010: Maybe you are buying the wrong size condoms?
I have to say your GF is a smart girl. You should ALWAYS use a condom. You are not the one to get "knocked" up in case of an oups.
Maybe you need to "practise" when you are alone.
Sorry you are l... (read in full...)
Think I lost my virginity to the wrong guy!!
Q. I been talking to this boy for a while and I just recently went to his house. I didn't know that I would lose my virginity but I did. So now it's been two days and he still hasn't called me. Should I feel bad that I had sex with him. I feel as ...
A. 1 January 2010: No you shouldn't feel bad, what will that do? Will that give your back or virginity or make him call you?
Move on honey.
Next time you meet a guy take your time to get to know him, build a solid relationship BEFORE you guys have sex.
We ... (read in full...)
Worried about ex getting out of jail and trying to hurt us!
Q. i have been with an alcoholic for about a year and a half now and have actually broken up with him as he was beginning to get violent and controlling.about a year in to the relationship he accused me of cheating as i let a few friends in my house ...
A. 1 January 2010: Can you get a restraining order against him before he comes out? ( I see you are in the process of getting one, which is good, THOUGH it is "only" a piece of paper so to speak)
I would actually call the police and ask them HOW you can keep you... (read in full...)
Why was my best mate saying horrible stuff about me?
Q. A while ago I moved, so I didn't know anyone. Then my sort of mate seemed to help me a little so then we became best mates, or at least that's what she called it. I never trusted her because of how two faced she is. In the past she's slept with 4 of ...
A. 23 December 2009: I would stay away from her and any guy she has been involved with, for the simple reason that they are not worth it in the long run.
She obviously have some self esteem issues and it was easier to make you "fatter" then her, because she is quite... (read in full...)
Still bleeding 3 months after giving birth, should I be worried?
Q. I just had a baby sept 28th and has been 3months and i have had a problem i am stil bleeding i dont remember bleeding this long with my other 3 kids.i got a depo shot before i left the hospital should i be worried about all this bleeding...
A. 23 December 2009: Make an appointment with your OB/GYN for aftercare. It could be a lot of things making you bleed. You might need a D&C or it could be a reaction to the Depo shot.
Go get checked out.
PS why haven't you gotten your 6 week aftercare check ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming violent and very angry because I suspect of him cheating, are my fears justified?
Q. hello i really need some help i dont have anybody to talk to. i just got married 4 months ago,my husband is 33 years and i'm 21 years old.my problem is that i can't trust my husband at all. i have been for a while obssesed with him cheating on me. ...
A. 23 December 2009: I think you have some really severe trust issues.
Eggs missing from the fridge = cheating? Wow. If that is the best you can come up with as proof I think you have other issues as well. ( sorry if that is putting it bluntly.)
You should ca... (read in full...)
My wife has no problem exposing herself to others, is this normal behaviour?
Q. this is about a strange behavior of my wife. she is 25. i see that she has a tendency to exhibit. she rarely cares about her dress. whenever somebody comes to our home they have a very explicit view of her assets and other parts. i tlaked to her a...
A. 23 December 2009: When you first starting dating her was she flaunting her goodies to you as well? Or is this something more resent?
Some women who are gorgeous have utterly low self esteem and flaunting their bodies is a way to boost their esteem. Others are just... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 10 years older, and my male friend called him a cradle robber!
Q. Earlier today, my boyfriend and my two best friends were hanging out at my house. My boyfriend was playing with my hair and watching my friend playing video games. My other friend was being very emo (aka emotional) and he wouldn't look or talk to ...
A. 23 December 2009: First of a 26 year old dude dating a 16 year old girls have some serious maturity issues. You may be a mature 16 year old but really, he must be really immature.
Your Mr. Emo - best bud, is in love with you. He finally got the balls to show you... (read in full...)
Did my husband rape my sister or was it consensual?
Q. i found out that my sister woke up to find my husband on top her having intercourse with her. shes saying this is what happened and she pushed him off and that he kept calling her BABE referring to me. for some reason he hought it was me. yeah ...
A. 23 December 2009: All I can say is WOW. I would be short 1 husband and 1 sister right about now if that was me.
I would confront your sister about the "riding" part see how she reacts. It could be your friend was lying, it could be true.
As for your husband... ... (read in full...)
I've had genital warts, what do I say if she says she's on the pill?
Q. i want to have sex with someone but i have had genital warts before. its advised that i should wear a condom all the time, but what if she says 'im on the pill its fine you dont have to wear one?' i dont want to tell her ive had the warts before. ...
A. 23 December 2009: Emily said it all.
WEAR a condom. No if's or but's about it. ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: Maybe you should focus more on your own marriage then this man? I mean really WHY are you both still married?
I would guess that his wife found out and gave him an ultimatum, OR that he finally grew a conscience and decided to end your relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 8 years older then me
Q. i am 15 and i love this guy i think he loves me to but the problem is he is 23 and everyone is saying he is too old for me and only wants one thing but we have been together for 3 months now and he havn't had sex or anything i now that it will be ...
A. 22 December 2009: 15 and 23 is a big no-no for one reason, it is not legal. IF the two of you are intimate ( having sex) he can be charged with statutory rape.
I think a 23 year old guy having a lot on common with a 15 year old girls is a little off. At your age... (read in full...)
My step daughter is flirting with me, making me all hot and bothered
Q. I am 47 years old and after being divorced for almost ten years I remarried a women who has a 18 year old daughter. She is college now but when she comes home she flirts with me. My sex life with my wife has become almost non exsistant and she ...
A. 19 December 2009: I think you need to nip it in the but right now. Tell your step-daughter to quit and you might also tell your wife - she will know one way or another. As far as your sex life that is something you need to talk to your wife about. Why her libido i... (read in full...)
He's been married for 8 months, why is he dredging up our past now?
Q. my ex emailed me to tell me he had got married-there had been a lot of friction due to the split so i was happy to clear the air with him-he said he wanted to stay friends the only thing was i was emailing him andhe wasnt replying til 2 in the morn...
A. 19 December 2009: Like OlderSister wrote, it really doesn't matter. You can not control his behavior. You can however control yourself. I don't think that it is (what I would consider) normal to go digging in the past only 8 months into a new marriage. Bu... (read in full...)
I am pregnant to my step brother and don't know where to turn
Q. I was looking for advice and found this site. Ill try and make this short. I had a bf for 8 months he was ok at first and we started having sex mostly because didnt want him to cheat after awhile it seemed like thats all he wanted me around for ...
A. 19 December 2009: What do you intend on doing with this pregnancy? ( No judging here)
1. You need to tell him, he needs to support you in whatever decision you make.
2. You need to tell your parents or an adult you can trust.
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B/f's parents are WAY TOO overprotective! How do we deal with this?
Q. So, here's the deal. My boyfriend's parents are way too overprotective. So much it drives me and him crazy. He's going to turn 19 in a couple of months, and yet they don't let him stay out longer than 12 am. We went to a party once and everyon...
A. 19 December 2009: I think that is something between HIM and HIS parents.... (read in full...)
Do men prefer fake over real breasts?
Q. Are fake breasts better than natural, small ones? I mean, I know this has been asked before. But it seems like they are. I've asked many guys and they say "Hey, if it improves her beauty, then it's all good!". And I read this article: http://...
A. 18 December 2009: I think no matter fake or real, if you LOVE who you are and are satisfied with your own body a man will find you a million times more attractive.
And honestly I rather men look at my face when they talk to me then down my shirt. It gets old fast... (read in full...)
I don't understand the need for some people to hurt others during sex
Q. More so a question for the guys, ... but comments from females welcome too. After some comments heard today, I am rather curious as to the overall psychology going on behind this seemingly wide spread phenomena that causes SOME guys to actually...
A. 18 December 2009: I think any man wishing to make his sex partner bleed is a creep. Any women who "lets" her man do that to her is in need of help. I think some of this stem from generations of really really bad porn.
Some people like the DOM/SUB - some like SM... (read in full...)
My husband wants to watch me with another man
Q. I have been married to my husband for 13 years and during this time he has hinted off and on that it would be a turn on for him to see me have sex with another man. I remember at first feeling repulsed by even the thought of being with someone else ...
A. 18 December 2009: I agree with AuntieBimBim - he THINKS he wants to see you with another man. What IF the other man is bigger? Better at pleasing you? You start to have feeling for the dude?
Some fantasies are better left as they are, fantasies.
Maybe you two... (read in full...)
He has a fecal fetish!
Q. I need help.. ive been dating this guy who is 28 for about 3mos now, I am a couple years older the problem is he is constantly talking and obsessed with feces and wants to be humilated by this his mis happenings. The main talk is this situation. He ...
A. 18 December 2009: That would so be a no-no in my book. Not sure if he has a fetish or is jsut really immature and liked to talk about crap a lot though, your post isn't very clear.... (read in full...)
Does anyone know of ill effects of wild yams?
Q. My naturopathic practitioner gave me wild yam supplement for menopausal symptomes,I don't even have. I'm 48, but my main problem was heavy bleeding, and I get my period regularly. Also ,I have no hot flashes or many other symptoms. My blood tests ...
A. 18 December 2009: I googled it and found this, hope it help:
Wild yam has many effects on the body, among other things, its very good for the liver and endocrine system, by toning and nourishing the liver it helps to balance hormone production. Wild yam is very wel... (read in full...)
Is this masochistic dream something to worry about?
Q. I just had a really masochistic dream and it's scaring me because I don't know what's going on with me and I don't want to turn into a masochist. Actually, I hardly remember the dream, but I remember quite well the sexually masochistic fantasies I ...
A. 18 December 2009: I think your dreams is your "way" of letting out some of the repressed anger and feeling of helplessness.
I think it if worries you greatly that you seek a therapist.
Fantasy is NOT reality. Fantasies can be enormously kinky with out the per... (read in full...)
How can I make him chose me, not her?
Q. There is this guy that I really like and when I told him that he had told me that he felt the same way but he had a stronger connection with this other girl so he chose her instead. How can I show him that I'm the one for him and not her, and that ...
A. 18 December 2009: You know the expression, you can lead a horse to water but you can not make them drink?
Well, you can not "MAKE" someone love you or "LIKE" you better then someone else.
His loss, honey.
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What should I say to put him in his place?
Q. My Boyfriend has no problem telling me he is smarter then me.It upsets and annoys me and I have told him to stop, but he still does it. He tells me I'm not smart because I won't let myself grow. Sure he is smarter in certain areas, and is al...
A. 18 December 2009: There is smart and being a smart ass. He is being the latter.
Be smart and dump him.
He is belittling and disrespecting you. And I'm willing to be this is just the tip of the iceberg as far as his behavior. Just because someone is older doesn't... (read in full...)
Sharing a bed with my girlfriend has become a nightmare. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm having some real problems in bed with my girlfriend, but not in the way you would immediately think. Sharing a bed with her has become a total nightmare, specifically when we stay at her flat. I'm usually awoken at nights when she pulls m...
A. 18 December 2009: I hate when people mess with me when I'm sleeping. After almost 12 years together, hubby and I have at least two duvet in the bedroom. Hubby is a blanket "hog" so it is just easier to have each our own blanket.
Now if you can't sleep why not get ... (read in full...)
Dad is cheating on mom I have the messages as proof do I let mom hear them?
Q. My parents have been married for 19 years and my dad has been cheating on my mom for as long as i can remember i believe she knows i thought he stopped but i have his voicemail password and i secretly check it a few times a week and there are ...
A. 18 December 2009: You know I grew up in a similar household, my Dad would have affairs (many of them) over the years and I think for quite a while my Mom had no idea. I was wrong.
She had known about it almost from day 1. For whatever reason ( mostly for me and m... (read in full...)
Slept with 2 brothers, now what do I do if I see them?
Q. I met a man this summer and i fell for him really quickly, we had sex after a few dates and then i found out he was seeing someone. I carried on chasing him and slept with him a few more times until he stopped calling. I recently bumped into his...
A. 18 December 2009: Just hope they don't have any more brothers! Sorry, couldn't help myself.
Let it go, you made a mistake sleeping with them both, I guess it happens. But, in the future, if you don't want to have embarrassment or drama, take your time getting ... (read in full...)
My ex has sex with me and then goes and calls his girlfriend
Q. Three weeks ago i found out that my boyfriend was cheating with me. We had a big fight and he left me. He called me bitch and said he never loved me. One week ago he called me and asked for help...he came to my state to do his pratical and he needed ...
A. 18 December 2009: 1. Stop having sex with him - his dick is not made of gold.
2. Tell him he has to move out.Having him around as a constant reminded is not healthy.
3. Don't let anyone treat you like a doormat.
He is a man-shore - let him go. It isn't lov... (read in full...)
Should I end it now and wait until he is 18?
Q. I am going out with a guy that is a few years younger than me (underage). I really care about him and every day I get emotionally closer to him. I’ve never felt this comfortable with a guy before. We have the confidence to open up to each other and ...
A. 17 December 2009: You have been going out 1 week ? Well if you think it is wrong you better nip it in the but and end it gently and end it now.
And just how young is he?
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My younger brother is caught up in an online relationship with an older woman
Q. My brother is a really shy guy who doesn't like to go out much. He is a cutie pie and I wish he could be around more girls cause he has the looks. He is just too shy for his own good. Well, lately he has been talking to a woman online who I am ...
A. 17 December 2009: I understand how you feel, but he is old enough to make his own mistakes. She might be one, she might not.
Sooner or later it will either fizzle out or be something real.
The more you push for him to end it, the more he will fight to keep it... (read in full...)
My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: Well if you two were renting you would pay 50% of the rent correct? This is basically the same, however, the mortgage is also a kind of an investment.
If you don't agree live on your own.
At least that is how I see it.
I would not put... (read in full...)
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