Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 8 November 2010: I'm sorry he cheated on you again, but it seems like you are moving on. Truly his loss, and yes, sooner or later when she has to pick up his smelly socks, dirty towels and be the constant "cheer leader" she will figure out that he really isn't all ... (read in full...)
My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: Well if you two were renting you would pay 50% of the rent correct? This is basically the same, however, the mortgage is also a kind of an investment.
If you don't agree live on your own.
At least that is how I see it.
I would not put... (read in full...)
Fiance' fooled me into thinking the gift was his idea and I found out!
Q. Look what I found out.... My Fiance brought me a gift for my birthday last July. It was really cute. It was a Yellow Rose Plant with a Birthday Bear and a Perfume. I loved it. It was a little weird for me thought that he asked me earlier that ...
A. 17 December 2009: 1. He didn't bother getting you a present.
2. He snagged a gift FOR you and pretended it was from him.
3. He lied.
OK. I'm sorry your BF is a jerk. I would tell him that you DID run into your ex and that you DO know that the present your cu... (read in full...)
My kids got gyped at Christmas by my boyfriend's family!
Q. I have been with my bf for three years, we each have two teenagers from previous marriages. Every Holiday season, my kids and I are expected to join him and his extended family (his Mom, brother, sister in law and their kids) to celebrate Christmas. ...
A. 17 December 2009: I'm kinda on the fence with what I think. Mainly because they might not even consider ow your kids feel, yes it is insensitive and slightly cold. Maybe they just don't know what to get them or even if they should get them anything.
Have you talk... (read in full...)
Please help...hes married
Q. I need help... I really like this man that is married. And i can tell he likes me too. I have never told this man. Cause i know hes married. And im not the type of person to break up someones home... I think about him all the time. Please help. Do i ...
A. 17 December 2009: What good will come of you telling him how you feel?
Are you willing to be a "thing" on the side? Always coming last? Sharing a man with someone else? Even if he does feel the same way that you do, he might not be prepared to leave his wife and... (read in full...)
His text/phone friendship with his ex torments me...
Q. Right so a girl my boyfriend had an on/off thing with before me, is back in contact with my bf, phone/text wise. My bf and I have discussed this and he said he just wants her friendship, nothing else. Now, this is fine, but obviously it's always on ...
A. 17 December 2009: I doubt there is anything that will magically help you either accept or forget this. Sorry.
The thing is, when it comes to relationship you need to have trust. Obviously you do not trust your BF fully. Has he done anything to make you not trust hi... (read in full...)
This pervy man has threatened me, posted pictures of me on the internet and I just don't know what to do!,
Q. This might seem like a strange question to ask help for, but I don't know who to turn to for advice. When I was 16 I was friends with an older man who told me he was a photographer. I was happy at first because I was studying photography at c...
A. 15 December 2009: 1. Go to the police ( make you you know which websites these pictures are posted on for proof)
2. Let it go, as in, forgive yourself. Most people have done something dumb in their lives for whatever reason. He took advantage of a young, vulnerab... (read in full...)
He is a lovely man but his hairy back turns me off!
Q. Ive met this lovely man after a very unhappy 3 yr being in a mental abuse relationship and didnt believe there could be any nice men out there! Ive been single a yr got my head sorted with counciling and finally ready to move on! And thats when this ...
A. 11 December 2009: Bu him a gift card for one back waxing at the nearest Spa ( or place that will wax him) and book the appointment:)
I agree, I'm not a big fan of too much body hair on a man. Leg, arms, a few on the chest and crotch is OK - but facial, back hai... (read in full...)
Why are Western men so infatuated with the idea of being with an Asian female?
Q. Why are Western men so infatuated with the idea of being with an Asian female and why do you rarely see Asian men with foreign women?...
A. 11 December 2009: One word:
Geisha. The "perfect" woman ( well that was more then one word :) )
I think there is a belief in many men's minds that Asians females are subservient, docile and absolutely without inhibitions.
At least till they get their ass ... (read in full...)
My husband abused my daughter, she won't prosecute! Can I?
Q. SORRY FOR JUMPING IN ON YOUR TOPIC BUT i need advice as hitting my head on brick walls and getting no further i have a 24 year old married daughter who has just spoken up after 13 years of child abuse from her step father she never ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: I totally understand your anger and your feeling. He should pay for what he did.
The thing is, your daughter is now a grown woman wit ha life on her own. I think if you talk to a lawyer and a therapist ( yes I think the latter can help you expl... (read in full...)
He asked me to masturbate in front of him but I feel so guilty doing it!
Q. My boyfriend asked me to masturbate in front of him, but I've never masturbated before. I started to rub myself but I had to stop as I was overcome with guilt. He wants me to try again but I'm worried that I will start to feel guilty again. He says ...
A. 11 December 2009: Double M said it. One thing though, I don't think there is anything for you to feel guilty about. Masturbate away, in private if that works for you, or not. Whatever makes you happy. And yes it is perfectly normal to do. BUT lots of girls are rai... (read in full...)
Should I have a chlymidia test?
Q. I am too minds about having a chlymidia test... i haven't slept with the guy i was last with but i did do oral sex...and he is known for being a player. As we all no chlymidia has NO symptoms...and college are giving tests out for free. ...
A. 11 December 2009: If you have any hopes/dreams of ever having children I suggest that you get tested asap, VERY few women ever notice ANY symptoms. Better be safe then sorry. My FAVORITE aunt was barren/infertile due to a chlamydia infection left untreated for too ... (read in full...)
Why does she sign her emails this way?
Q. There's a girl I like who I've been exchanging emails with. She always responds the same day I send an email and sometimes it takes me a week to write back because these are long emails and I am busy. At the bottoms of her emails she started ...
A. 11 December 2009: She really wants you to reply and reply fast, because she is interested.. But she doesn't want to seem needy or pushy.
... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: It's pretty obvious why he cheated, he wanted a woman to put him on a pedestal and put some air back into his ego. He wanted to be DA MAN!
I think affairs happens more often because we ( spouses on both ends) take each other for granted in some ... (read in full...)
My creative son calls me judgemental
Q. How can you tell your son or daughter,if you don't really like something what they create,or dress up,or any other thing ,where they ask your opinion? I have very creative son, and he is good at music , and painting. But many times, I don't think, ...
A. 10 December 2009: Use as much positive reinforcement as possible also ask him if he really wants your honest opinion be it good or bad. Talk to him about the piece ( painting for instance) ask him what made him paint it, what he tried to express and so on BEFORE you ... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 10 December 2009: I have no idea, but I have wondered that myself. Maybe because (no offense here) less attractive women will settle for less?
Maybe they don't worry so much about their look and focus more on other things?
Mistress used to be YOUNGER and PRET... (read in full...)
In love with an engaged woman
Q. Hello I recently met up with an old friend that I hadn't seen for many years. We met on Facebook and decided to catch up. She came an dvisited me for a couple of days as I now live in a different city. We hit it off..as friends..and rea...
A. 10 December 2009: Thanks for the clarification :) Always good to know.
Sometimes it is easier to fall back into a certain way of communication ( you two have a past as friends) and that can seem fascination and new. But once you put your emotions out there you can ... (read in full...)
I want her back, but for what?
Q. Hi i originally posted here on the 11th july, asking advice as to whether my wife was having an affair. Well 5 months on i have the truth. My wife had an affair for about 6 weeks, she went to hotels for chat and sex and sex in this guys flat above ...
A. 10 December 2009: I think you both put each other up there on the pedestal and you both feel down. Which in all sense is absolutely normal.
Get some counseling or couples therapy - I know it sounds so "psycho-babble" but really you two need it.... (read in full...)
No period for 2 months--am I pregnant?
Q. Well, last October me and my boyfriend had sex. I am getting a little bit worried that I may be pregnant. I havent had my period for two whole stinkin months!!! Could i be pregnant? I'm 14 and I can barely take care of myself. Help please?...
A. 10 December 2009: Pregnancy test. Get it done. If you want to keep your options open you need to know NOW.
Get it done.... (read in full...)
In love with an engaged woman
Q. Hello I recently met up with an old friend that I hadn't seen for many years. We met on Facebook and decided to catch up. She came an dvisited me for a couple of days as I now live in a different city. We hit it off..as friends..and rea...
A. 10 December 2009: I would back of in the "courtship" department and "just" be her friend. Don't keep talking about your attraction. IF you are the guy for her ( and not her fiancee) she needs to figure that out for herself.
To be frank here, I think what she is d... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is self concious when it comes to sex and it makes it difficult for me
Q. my girlfriend is self concious. as a result she wont let me use my fingers on her or let me please her with oral sex. at first i accepted this but now i makes things abit more difficult for me. she barely lets me feel her vagina and when she doe...
A. 10 December 2009: I don't normally advocate alcohol and sex, but maybe ( if she is old enough) you two have yourself a couple of glasses of wine before hand ? Have VERY little light on in the room - let her explore you first. Maybe start out with some sensual ... (read in full...)
We have to start standing up for us Guys!
Q. Why is it that every one thinks that guys only want sex and if you say anything your going to make the woman mad,what about how i feel?i would like to see women thinking about us guys the way we realy think about them.im a guy who loves the one im ...
A. 10 December 2009: Maybe a lot of women don't want to be dependant on a man? If a partner cheats out the door they go for most people. I see nothing wrong in that.
What I do see WRONG - is people not having any values, morals or respect for others.
And you do kn... (read in full...)
I want her back, but for what?
Q. Hi i originally posted here on the 11th july, asking advice as to whether my wife was having an affair. Well 5 months on i have the truth. My wife had an affair for about 6 weeks, she went to hotels for chat and sex and sex in this guys flat above ...
A. 10 December 2009: Two wrongs don't ever make a right. I don't agree that because you both had an affair it "cancel" each other out. It is JUST TWICE as stupid.
First of all BOTH you and your wife need to OWN your own actions. Stop the blame-game ( Oh it is your fau... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt every time we have sex?
Q. Every time I have sex it feels like the first time, We sometimes do it 5-6 times in a night and it hurts every time, sometimes he doesn't even put it in all the way, but it still hurts, he says I just have to get used to it but I don't think so, we ...
A. 10 December 2009: As usually I agree full with Satindesire. It is not the amount of sex (5-6 times a day can be JUST fine) but how well "prepared" your body is for it.
It can be you have an infection or irritation to a certain kind of condom/lube. Water Based lu... (read in full...)
Is this what relationships are about, or am I being taken for granted?
Q. I've been with this guy for 6 years. I stood by his side through thick and thin, I put up with things that I would never have. Ok lately in the past year our relationship has crumbled, he's been totally emotionally abusive towards me. He claims ...
A. 10 December 2009: Something more is going on. I can't put my finger on it.
I can understand with 5 kids under one roof that a house will not stay neat 24/7 ( I have 3) and my house looks GREAT til about 3:15 pm then... it looks like a bomb went off. I do NOT run ... (read in full...)
I was sexually abused and don't feel comfortable kissing a child, why can't my man understand this?
Q. I fell deep in love with a man (Jake) who has a 4 year old son from his previous marriage (Leo). I also fell in love with Leo in a way, as well: I love him as if he were my own son. Over a year into our relationship, we decided to ...
A. 10 December 2009: I have never been abused either but I have 3 children, my girls are all very affectionate and get kisses at bedtime. Usually forehead, chin, cheek, cheek - it's more of a game then anything else.
YOU DO NOT have to kiss the boy on the mouth. A... (read in full...)
Nothing will make this guy stop!
Q. I have a problem this guy won't go away. What started out whatseemed like a crush has progressed to begging for one date. I have told him no I'm not interested . I'm in love with someone elae . I ignore his texts and phone calls I'm rude to him. But ...
A. 10 December 2009: Ignore Ignore Ignore. BLOCK his e-mail,phonenumber,cell.
( keep all messages and emails) If he doesn't get it let him know you will file a report of stalking/harrashment ( or like other aunts suggested get a guy to tell him that)
I don't know ... (read in full...)
Is it odd that he is going to his ex-wife's house for Christmas when they supposedly hate each other?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I've posted on her before and got some really helpful advice so I'm back for more! I split up with my partner about 6 months ago (after 7 years together). He walked out after us having many problems and I was upset...
A. 10 December 2009: He is your ex, so really.... It is none of your business what he does. He might do it because he feels he owes his son a family Christmas and maybe just maybe now that his ex-wife have a new man it will be a drama free afternoon. It seems perfectly ... (read in full...)
Should I sign my christmas card to my boyfriend with "love from"? We havent said "I love you" to each other yet!
Q. This probably sounds like a silly question but should I sign my christmas card to my bf 'love from...' or leave the love part out? The thing is we have been together in a relationship for 7 months now and havent said "I love you", so im not sure ...
A. 10 December 2009: Why not let the cat out of the bag?
And signing it "With love", or "Love from" is NOT the same as saying I LOVE YOU. You would put Love from to family and friend as well. It is just a sweet way of telling people you care for them.
No need to fr... (read in full...)
My husband's ex girlfriend is a psycho and horrible mother!
Q. The man I've been with for over 4 years has an ex that has a severe jealousy issue. She has hated everyone hes ever dated and hates me even more. This woman is in law enforcement and yet commits/gets away with some of the most unbelieveable things. ...
A. 10 December 2009: As much as it sucks to have to deal with an EX ( trust me I know) - I have found that it is better for HIM to deal with HIS EX, then you try and get in the middle. THAT IS WHAT SHE WANTS. It will only make you look the crazy one when you point out ... (read in full...)
How can I just let her down easy?
Q. hey everyone, its not really a problem but i need help. one of my bestfriends has a sister that really likes me but im not interested plus she too young. shes 13 and im 19. i just wanna know what to say to let her know im not interested without ...
A. 5 December 2009: Tell her she is a great girl ( yes, use the word girl, cause that is what she is) but that you are too old for her and she is too young for you.
Good luck,... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to give a decent blow job?
Q. How can I get my wife to give a decent BJ? She does give a BJ but she doesn't want me to cum in her mouth or on her. she says she is scared.... ...
A. 5 December 2009: Give her the book "tickle his Pickle" and let her read it - if she wants to she will try something if she doesn't, you need to respect her.
As far as a BJ only being good if you cum in her mouth or on her, well you have seen to many bad porns. I... (read in full...)
I'm doing all the chasing, but can't quite catch him!
Q. ok so i met this guy about a month ago at a college bar. i was dancing with my friends and he caught my attention as he was dancing with his friends so i popped a piece of gum in my mouth and approached him we started talking/dancing for about 10 ...
A. 5 December 2009: I agree talk to him, invite him out, put the ball in HIS court. If he doesn't step up it most likely mean that he isn't that into you.... (read in full...)
Rumour has it he left his wife and children for me, but I hardly know him!
Q. I started working at my current job at the beginning of the year. This is my first job after university. I am a fairly open and friendly person and am friendly towards all the people I work with. This has led to one of the men at work to develop a ...
A. 5 December 2009: I would stay as far away from this guy as is humanly possible. And, I really wouldn't trust any rumors flying around.
Get yourself a NICE single man with less baggage..... (read in full...)
My husband's ex girlfriend is a psycho and horrible mother!
Q. The man I've been with for over 4 years has an ex that has a severe jealousy issue. She has hated everyone hes ever dated and hates me even more. This woman is in law enforcement and yet commits/gets away with some of the most unbelieveable things. ...
A. 4 December 2009: You did do the right thing by contacting Social Services, no doubt. If it hurt her feelings, screw it. It is not about her ( well not mainly) it is about the kids.
One thing I forgot to add is, I think you need to sit your husband down, he needs... (read in full...)
He left his wife for me, but now he treats me badly
Q. Hello, I have been on here several times and I wanted to update my stories. I was seeing a married man for six years. His wife finally left him, and we moved in together. I thought things was really going to be okay, and that I was finally goin...
A. 4 December 2009: I'm sorry you are in this jam, but you put yourself there. You knew he was married, you knew is wasn't available, yet you still pursued a relationship with him.
Imagine all the lies and deceit he ex-wife suffered because of his relation... (read in full...)
My husband's ex girlfriend is a psycho and horrible mother!
Q. The man I've been with for over 4 years has an ex that has a severe jealousy issue. She has hated everyone hes ever dated and hates me even more. This woman is in law enforcement and yet commits/gets away with some of the most unbelieveable things. ...
A. 4 December 2009: I would seek custody before she totally screw these kids up.
You need to let your husband deal with her, she is HIS ex.
As far as her "knowing" it was you calling and the Social Services saying it was a woman, I call bullshit on her. They wou... (read in full...)
My Latin Lover has become a Latin Monster
Q. I am a Canadian woman, late-20’s, and dated an Italian man for just over three years. At first it was magnificent, the hand holding, gentle face touches, dancing in the dark, romantic romantic romantic. We moved in together and it was downhill from ...
A. 3 December 2009: Maybe it is time to kick his Latin ass out the door....... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 8 times. Will he grow out of it?
Q. My boyfriend is extremely attractive, like the hottest boy I have ever laid eyes on in my life. He's got the tightest body made of solid muscle and the cutest face and he is sooooooooo much the best sex I have ever had a million times over. The only ...
A. 3 December 2009: Amen Satindesire.
I 100% agree with her post. Any woman letting a man walk all over her like you do might as well get DOORMAT stamped on your forehead..
... (read in full...)
His girlfriends says I have to stop texting him
Q. So I have this guy friend who I'm pretty close with and we always find ourselves texting each other hours at a time. The problem is his girlfriend texted me last week not asking me but telling me that I'm not allowed to text him... at all. Is s...
A. 3 December 2009: Personally I wouldn't give up a friend because their GF was jealous, but I would never text someone hours on end or phone them constantly.
I think I would call him (not on text) and talk to him. I think it's kinda up to him as well, he might no... (read in full...)
I have lustful feelings towards another male teacher.
Q. Okay, theres this teacher at my school who teaches me English and well...basically every time I see him, I get hormonal..so to speak, I cant help it, I guess you could say I lust for him. Anyway...a few days ago I had a detention with him (for not ...
A. 2 December 2009: If you don't stop you WILL get him into trouble. However HE is the adult here and should have NEVER let it get as far as a kiss even.
Either way it spells disaster.... (read in full...)
Should I continue to push the subject until she deals with the problem?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. Everything has been going smoothly until as of late. First, her parents, even after years, still invite her ex over to their house. When I say how much this bothers me, they don't care. They...
A. 2 December 2009: I'm sorry, but I think you are her rebound guy :( And that, truly sucks.... (read in full...)
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