Am a straight, married female with kids, but feel a connection more thanfriendship with another woman. What does it mean and how can I tell what she feels?
Q. I'm a straight married female with kids. I have been best friends with this girl for about 2 and half years. She is also married with kids. We had an immediate connection from the start. Became close quick. We spend almost every day together. I feel ...
A. 25 September 2011: So what will you do if there is more? Have an affair? Divorce your husband and hope she does the same?
Have you thought it through?
Also, what if she doesn't feel the same way about you? I don't think the average friendship handles professi... (read in full...)
Pictures of ex's!
Q. Hi all, Last week i discovered pictures of my gf's exes (yes, there were pictures at least 3 of her exes in there, probably more) she had saved in her external hard drive in a folder. In the same folder, there were pictures of me too. She tells me...
A. 25 September 2011: Poeple deal differently with their memories, their past and keepsakes. I think it is WAY more common for a women/girl to have that shoebox with all kinda of little silly things from various relationship. It doesn't mean that women/girls HANG onto ... (read in full...)
Why does it seem that women when they go to college just lose themselves and become slutty?
Q. Ever since I graduated high school 3 years ago I have noticed that out of all my guy and girl friends that it seems like all the girls that where once nice and respectable have become party whores and seem to have lost their good morals. I really ...
A. 25 September 2011: The only thing I really don't get about your post is the double standard.
If you think college is going to make your GF a slut, per say, then you have no faith or trust in her and maybe she isn't the right one for you.
To the Anon Male who sa... (read in full...)
Pictures of ex's!
Q. Hi all, Last week i discovered pictures of my gf's exes (yes, there were pictures at least 3 of her exes in there, probably more) she had saved in her external hard drive in a folder. In the same folder, there were pictures of me too. She tells me...
A. 24 September 2011: I think you are being way to controlling. You know you can not dictate what momentos she keeps from her life and you have to realize that she HAD a life and relationships before you.
She isn't displaying them around the house, she is keeping ... (read in full...)
Tips for a mind blowing blowjob?
Q. I want to give my boyfriend an incredible blowjob? What can I do, I'm not ready for sex just yet, and I have only ever given one blowjob in my entire life and that was with him, my first time ever, and he said I was very good that it was "awesome"...
A. 24 September 2011: I can WARMLY recommend this book:
Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing by Sadie Allison
It is a fun and easy read with a LOT of great tips and ideas.
... (read in full...)
He moved on quickly. Did our relationship mean nothing to him?
Q. i was w/ my boyfriend in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 yrs and i recently broke up w/ him b/c i didnt see a future w/ him. he started dating someone new in only two weeks and when i found this out i was really hurt. does this mean that our ...
A. 24 September 2011: Yes, it is unreasonable for you to be hurt over what the guy you dumped is doing with his life. You didn't see a future with him, so he found someone who might.
Time for you to move on.
Some people cope with a break up by dating someone e... (read in full...)
Am a straight, married female with kids, but feel a connection more thanfriendship with another woman. What does it mean and how can I tell what she feels?
Q. I'm a straight married female with kids. I have been best friends with this girl for about 2 and half years. She is also married with kids. We had an immediate connection from the start. Became close quick. We spend almost every day together. I feel ...
A. 24 September 2011: Does it matter? You are married, your vows should count for something.
Seems to me that you are hoping there is more to it.... (read in full...)
Why does it seem that women when they go to college just lose themselves and become slutty?
Q. Ever since I graduated high school 3 years ago I have noticed that out of all my guy and girl friends that it seems like all the girls that where once nice and respectable have become party whores and seem to have lost their good morals. I really ...
A. 24 September 2011: Not all girls do that. That is just a silly generalization.
I grew up in Europe, and girls certainly didn't turn into sluts once they started on a higher education or moved away from home. Maybe becuase we were taught to be more independ... (read in full...)
He's changed his password on Facebook? And not mentioned it to me. Am I over-thinking this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 19 months now. He cheated on me after about 10 months and after that he completely changed his attitude and I could honestly see that this mistake was something that he regretted, so I took him back ...
A. 24 September 2011: Obvioulsy his past actions and behavior surfaces in your mind when something pops up, that might seem out of the ordinary.
The only way you will really know, is to ask him. If you say you were just going to fix something for him, he will understa... (read in full...)
He is such a tight-wad in everything. Should I stay or go? It bothers me that he thinks women are after his money.
Q. I am a 46 years old woman. I've met this man 16 years older than me after my divorce. He is a wealthy man with his own house and car and still earning a good income. Im in a low paid job and just earn enough to support myself. I've got my own h...
A. 24 September 2011: Have you two talked about living together? At all? Does he know that you are struggling when you need to buy things to fix your house?
Maybe he's had bad past experiences of women who assumed his money was their money too. I think if there ar... (read in full...)
He's 32 years older, and past the bedroom we don't have much in common. Do I break it off?
Q. hi, i am 18 and have fallen head over heels in love with a man that is 32 years older then me. I am in love but I also know the relationship is doomed as past the bedroom we don't have that much in common. We have been having sex for about a year ...
A. 23 September 2011: Yes, there isn't much there for you. Enjoy Uni and the variety of younger men, who you might find more in common with in and out of the bedroom.
Honestly, I have no problem with an age gap for most couples, but a 32 year old man should be dating a... (read in full...)
The ex and facebook etiquette.
Q. Facebook etiquette question: Me and my ex decided to stay friends after the relationship ended. We didn't have contact for a few months, then started hanging out again, and it works ok. I'm not in love with him any more, yet... It's still bothe...
A. 23 September 2011: Delete him & her, it's causing you upset in your life - this is something that is an easy fix.
If they ask, just tell them you want a drama free life.
If they get mad.. *shrug* they will get over it.... (read in full...)
I like to watch her masturbate, is this normal?
Q. [note: please do not write questions in all caps] I like to watch my wife masturbate and she likes to watch me. I'm very small in size, maybe 6 inches hard. She tells me it doesn't matter. It bothers me and I just hope she's truthful. I perf...
A. 23 September 2011: Does it matter if it is "normal"? And when it comes to sex, what IS normal? :)
If you both like it, I can't see the problem.
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Emails and texts with sexual innuendo, should I be upset or is it harmless?
Q. My fiancee lives with me. He sometimes sends emails to his ex girlfriends with sexual inuendos. Should I be upset about this or is it harmless flirting/banter. He doesn't tell me about the messages and I have asked that he does. I have also see...
A. 23 September 2011: How do you know this? Have you snooped? If so, what promted you to snoop?
Seems to me you don't trust him much (which I can understand why) and he... doesn't seem to respect your or your relationship.
Either you sit him down and have a talk ... (read in full...)
Flirting with me while all the time having a girlfriend!
Q. I can not get this man out of my head! I met this man at a fitness class, we got on great had lots of chemistry, and would always chat for hours. He always singled me out in this class and would smile all the time at me. He then asked me to go to ...
A. 23 September 2011: Seems to me that he is a overly friendly guy and that he likes to get attention from the ladies.
I would (if I had feelings for the guy) walk away, remove myself from his FB and life. I wouldn't want to pine after a guy who is "taken", nor woul... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this irritating man child whom I had been dating?
Q. I'm really mad. I was seeing this 40 year old man child for 5 months. He tells me he really likes me, sees us together but needed time to get himself together after a break up. He wasn't married or engaged to this woman. This guy would only call ...
A. 23 September 2011: You called him a man-child, why would you even wanna date such a not-hot mess?
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Best friend keeps stealing my girl!
Q. So Im in college and my best friend is a year older than me. In a way, he's always been my "wingman" but recently it seems he ends up taking the girl I'm aiming for. The first time it happened, I met this super hot chick at a party me and my friend ...
A. 23 September 2011: I agree with CaringGuy. "dump" your friend. And if you see a girl you want to get to know, go for it. If you continue to have this guy as your WINGMAN,then don't point out what girl YOU are "after".
Sounds like a dumbass game honestly.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend superior sports knowledge gets me jealous, what should I do to get rid of this tendency ?
Q. I am a sports freak, I play field hockey and soccer and great fan of other sports. I always wanted to have girlfriend having same passion for sports. To my good luck, I got one early 2010 and immediately we hit off well. She was a field hock...
A. 23 September 2011: Be proud of her!... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex for FWB till he is ready to get serious again
Q. A few days after my ex fiancee and I started talking about breaking up, he starting persuing another woman. Because of this I ended it totally with him. They got very serious quickly but she broke up with him a couple of months later. My ex was ...
A. 23 September 2011: I think that would be super dumb. He just wants someone familiar to USE while he looks for the greener grass.
Tell him to go fly a kite and find yourself a REAL man.... (read in full...)
G/f complained about my penis. Is she cheating?
Q. my girlfriend recently started complaining of my penis size. Could this be the sign she is cheating on me? ...
A. 23 September 2011: Complain about her vagina? Sorry, that is just silly. How are you supposed to fix it? I say she is VERY immature and rude to boot.... (read in full...)
18 year old with crush on 14 year old?
Q. hi guys i am 18 and i have a developing crush on a 14 year old girl and i just wanted to get peoples views on this is it weird to you or doesn't it matter to you? ...
A. 23 September 2011: I have to say an 18 year old boy and a 14 year old girl is a no-no. She CAN be a very mature 14 year old and you CAN be a very immature 18 year old, but it can still lead you in a lot of hot water.
I'd tell you this, if it was any of my daughter... (read in full...)
Husband left and parents want to arrange a marriage, is this right?
Q. Hi I am a 33 year old female and have a very complicated problem. My husband used to threaten all the time to leave when we had a fight. I would always request, beg and pacify. The day I didnt he left home that was 3 months back. I tried to reach hi...
A. 22 September 2011: Only you can decide this. ... (read in full...)
G/f's ex has invited her for a movie, and I don't trust this guy at all
Q. My girlfriend's old friend / ex boyfriend invited her to the movies with him, alone. Her and I have been dating for 18 months and I've never really felt like this before. I feel, not that she would cheat on me or anything, but the ex will do ...
A. 22 September 2011: It comes down to whether you trust your GF or not. I would tell her how you feel though and let her make up her mind whether it is right or not for her to go. In my honest opinion, if you tell her she CAN'T go, she will want to go. And on the other ... (read in full...)
Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?
Q. Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and...
A. 22 September 2011: I would seriously ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. You keeping pictures of guys?
One thing is people hitting on someone online and they being turned down (your original question) but saving pictures of "random" girls/wo... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this woman?
Q. I met a woman 3 months ago on a dating site. It has been a very intense relationship whereby I've not seen much of her and have been regularly dumped by text! I don't even know where she lives - she's like an MI5 agent - she reckons she's had ...
A. 21 September 2011: Run away fast, I think she is playing you and lying thru her teeth.. no one that unstable is with MI5 or any other agency.
Stop being a doormat.... (read in full...)
Why am I still pining for my army lover though he treats me like dirt?
Q. Ive been involved with a guy for 9 months and Im going out of my mind with frustration. To say I fell for him hook, line and sinker would be an understatement.I was totally and utterly in love with him. However, we couldnt properly be together ...
A. 20 September 2011: You aren't in love with this guy. You are in love with the idea of him. However, you know he falls WAY short of your idea of him. I think you are "classifying him as a "bad boy", when he really should be classified as a douche-bag.
You think th... (read in full...)
Is this guy just being a pure jerk at this point?
Q. I personally got annoyed today when this guy that I was interested in a little had approached me a few weeks ago. He told me his name and I told him mine, and after that I didn't speak to him again, but I did see him around the campus. His frien...
A. 20 September 2011: Ignore him, that is what I would do. He's not worth wasting any anger or other emotions on.
He is like one of the boys who in daycare who pulls the pretty girls hair cause he likes them.. know the kind? lol See for a 3-5 year old that is kinda ok... (read in full...)
I think he should have told me at the beginning that he had bad credit and had been blacklisted!
Q. I started dating a man I met via internet 2 years ago. All seemed fine to start with. He told me once he has no credit cards because he doesn’t want any. Fair enough. He rented his flat, didn’t own property or have a mortgage. He bought a new ...
A. 20 September 2011: Yes he should have been honest sooner. Makes me think what else is he hiding?
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Sent a girl a dirty pic. Things are weird. Now what?
Q. I am sort of new top this online dating thing. I met this girl online and we hit it off real well. We started chatting via I'm and some of our chats got explicit. She sent me some photos of her bare legs (waist down) in the past. Last night, s...
A. 20 September 2011: Well, take it as a lesson. Sending "cock-shots" is not a way to wow a girl. Somethings are just better kept within a "fanatasy" (even a shared one) or in person. IMHO
I think she might have felt it was pushing it too hard. She might WANT to flirt... (read in full...)
A friend told my good friend that I had a small crush on him. Awkward!
Q. I had a small crush on a guy who is my good friend, i share my chips with...so i told a friend...then, they told him...and now we are just.....awkward. What do i do..?...
A. 20 September 2011: Ignore it, unless you or the "crush" himself brings it up.If you want it out of the way I suggest you call the "crush" and tell him not to take it serious.
Nothing wrong in having a crush. Your friend on the other hand needs to learn how to keep ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she would leave me for famous people in an instant! It hurts!
Q. I'm 17 and my girlfriend is also 17 She is Christian and waiting until marriage. I am cool with this I am not cool with her telling me how hot other people are and alluding how she would have sex with them and leave me for them in an instant. Gra...
A. 17 September 2011: That sounds utterly immature. I would tell how you feel about it.... (read in full...)
Pregnant by fwb what do I do
Q. Hi everyone here is my problem I have a fwb didn't intend to I wanted a relationship with him he just wanted sex so that was that but here's my problem I think I might be pregnant but he doesn't want to be with me as we have talked about this before ...
A. 17 September 2011: Have you missed a period? Have you seen your doctor or taken a test? If not, what can you tell him? You "think" you "might" be pregnant?
I certainly wouldn't tell him til you know 100% that you are. And even if you are not, maybe using a condom o... (read in full...)
Broken heart, now I'm thinking of joining the military
Q. I am currently enrolled in college. I really dislike school. I cant pay attention in class. I just broke up with the girl of my dreams and I am really sad. The whole reason why I decided to go to college was to be closer to her. Now that its over I ...
A. 17 September 2011: Go with your Dream. You may or may not make it, it all comes down to you. However, joining the military will not mend a broken heart. Being a soldier is a 24/7-365 day a year kind of job, not something you do for sh!ts and grins or because the "girl ... (read in full...)
Hubby having/had an affair???
Q. Had or having an affair? hes 31 but 2 months ago he trashed his 24 year old friend by revealing her sexual antics on radio,the number of men she slept with and who's she sleeping with while hes talking and 3 weeks ago he said hes a fan of the same...
A. 17 September 2011: I would also veture a guess that he hit on her and she turned him down... the rest was his "revenge". He assumed since she was a "slut" (in his book) that she would sleep with him too.. Apperently not.
Wow, people talk about women scorned.... (read in full...)
Why do my friends do this to guys?
Q. Why do my friends do this? i think is so wrong what they do.? Most of my friends go out dinner, shopping with guys they don't even like. They go cos they like the attention and free stuff. and talks about the guy really badly. When I ...
A. 17 September 2011: It comes down to values and morals, it honestly sounds like your "friends" have neither.
If they wish to prostitute themselves for "stuff", well that is on them. Personally, I find it rather nasty.... (read in full...)
Thrush or chlamydia?
Q. Last thursday (9 days ago) i had unprotected sex with a friend i know and trust to be clean of any sti although the proceding events has got me worried. On the sunday i noticed a cluster of red spots on the tip of my penis no smell or irritant...
A. 17 September 2011: Call your doctor and ask about the results.
chlamydia is a nasty thing to spread. If it turns out to be chlamydia I strongly suggest you tell the last partners about it. Also, no matter how much people "claim" to be STD/STI free, stay safe, pa... (read in full...)
My so-called-friend is flirting with my crush!
Q. Ok, well, my so called "friend" stabbed me in the back a few nights ago. It all started a 2 months ago when I met this really cute boy. He works at my favorite store and he and I didn't talk much, but we like the same music... And I'm not sure abo...
A. 17 September 2011: Well, be glad you didn't waste more time on the dude.
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Why he can't leave me alone like he said if he doesn't care or doesn't love me?
Q. My exboyfriend and I have been seperated for almost four months and we were together for almost four years. the first time he wanted to end the relationship was september 2010 and after two months he came back says he missed me. we were ok at that ...
A. 15 September 2011: I think he is trying to stay "friends" in order to not hurt your feelings, however, the longer you hang around him/IM/Talk the longer it will take for YOU to get over him. He has already made his mind up, he is done with the relationship, but seems ... (read in full...)
Is she after me for rights to live in UK permanently
Q. Hi, I have a GF now fiancée, I asked her to marry me, however I am now starting to think after what some people said wither she is after me for just rights to live in the UK permanently as most people from country do this, is there any way I can ...
A. 15 September 2011: I think yu need to hold off on getting married, honestly. I don't think you know each other well enough. Getting married after 3 months of dating is a tad fast for me.
If you want to know for sure, tell her you want to postpone till after Uni. S... (read in full...)
Things are more serious between me and my bf, but he wants sex less, and wants to talk more. why?
Q. Dear all, I have been seeing my bf for around five months now. We used to have sex everytime we saw each other, but now things have got 'serious' between us, he comes over sometimes , and we just talk and he leaves without having sex with me. We ...
A. 15 September 2011: It would seem that he is taking it to the "next level" I would guess, but to really know, you would have to ask him.
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I'm worried about history repeating itself. Should I tell my partner I feel insecure?
Q. My ex left me when we were at our prime time in the relationship (marriage). We were buying a house, we both got new jobs, we'd just bought a new car and he threw all that away to go with someone he met at the new job. I've been with my current ...
A. 15 September 2011: One thing that you always have to remember - your Bf is NOT your ex, so try not to compare them.
And yes, if you feel insecure tell him instead of going "nuts" by yourself :)
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How do I stop feeling a tiny bit betrayed about LDR boyfriend's actions?
Q. Yesterday evening, my LDR boyfriend from on the Continent met up with one of his female friends for a bite to eat and a couple of drinks. For a laugh, they decided to sneak into the place where he works since they weren't too far away and he has a ...
A. 15 September 2011: I guess it really comes down to how much you trust him. When in a LDR you have to realize that they have a "life" where they are at, which inclused friends, for some friends of both sexes.
I think it is more about you feel like it should have ben... (read in full...)
My so-called-friend is flirting with my crush!
Q. Ok, well, my so called "friend" stabbed me in the back a few nights ago. It all started a 2 months ago when I met this really cute boy. He works at my favorite store and he and I didn't talk much, but we like the same music... And I'm not sure abo...
A. 13 September 2011: Personally I don't believe in calling "dips" on a guy. It is kinda up to him to return the feelings.
But I think your friend has no or little respect for you. She should have been honest and upfront with you.
As for the boy, well honestly, ... (read in full...)
Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?
Q. Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and...
A. 13 September 2011: It seems to bother you, so why haven't you told your husband?
Personally, it WOULD annoy me. Yes, Im the one he comes home to every day, he has tons of friends, that should be enough. But I think I would just stay away from his page.
To me i... (read in full...)
Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?
Q. Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and...
A. 10 September 2011: I think you USED your morals when you turned the dude's advances down.
Now if he continue hitting on you, I might talk to the BF and ask what you can do to make to make the guy quit.
I don't think it's a thing that needs to be shared per say. ... (read in full...)
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