He asked for my number but hasn't called!
Q. Friday night, as I was leaving the bar, a cute guy I had DEFINITELY noticed, who had introduced himself to me that night (but we were never really able to have a conversation), hurried over and tapped on my driver's side window. He said he something ...
A. 21 November 2012:
Eh don't sweat it, you got kissed by a horny toad, it happens.
There are decent guys out there :)... (read in full...)
My husband is terrible with money and blames me! I've tried talking to him but it doesn't work, what can I do next?
Q. My husband makes bad decisions when it comes to money. He will buy any thing from any body. We have a business in the city but he insisted on moving 1 1/2 hour away from work. We spent months driving to houses and land. Some of the were 2 hrs a...
A. 20 November 2012: I would evaluate if this is something you can live with or not in a marriage.
Your husband seems to use you for one thing, a scapegoat for his own bad choices. However, you LET him do this to you. This for now is his/your pattern of behavior... (read in full...)
Friend who can't think for herself!!!
Q. Hi, im soo annoyed right now. Where to start? A couple of months ago i fell out with people i used to call my 'best friends' long story not going into detail about why we fell out. While i was friends with one of the particular 'friends' she co...
A. 20 November 2012: Eh, I'm sorry you went through being bullied. People like your "ex-friend" are the pathetic ones.. She could ONLY make herself stand out by kicking someone else - you. That is kind of sad, don't you think?
Here are my suggestions. First of all l... (read in full...)
Met a guy online, going to meet him soon.
Q. So I met this guy on this online forum and he started talking to me first. He thought I was a guy and we were talking for a bit until he asked my number and texted me. It wasn't until he asked my name did he find out I was female. haha I just came ...
A. 20 November 2012: Don't mess around with him. Take your time getting to know him face to face. I know many people think that texting is all that and a bag of chips but it's is NOTHING compared to good conversations where you can read their face, body language and so ... (read in full...)
I made a stupid mistake. How can I make things right again?
Q. My problem started last week, i made a stupid mistake a really stupid mistake.something i thought i would never do.and i regret it with all my heart . the only problem is that what i did affected someone very very close to me and no matter how ma...
A. 20 November 2012: You really need to stop beating HER up for the way she is reacting.
You did something you call a "stupid mistake" (yet if it was "just a stupid mistake" why haven't you bothered explaining it to us all?) Is it because it wasn't such a minor tr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I could sleep with my ex because he didn't see us ever getting married
Q. The other night I asked my long term boyfriend if he ever saw us as getting married. I want to be married to him eventually and I wanted to see how he felt. He told me that he may want to but he is not sure. I was a little hurt as I think we have a ...
A. 19 November 2012: You were shocked that he said:" sure stay with your ex", but you don't think HE might be shocked that you even thought meting up at the seaside with the ex is an OK thing to do?
I mean put the shoe on the other foot - your BF wanted to go to let's... (read in full...)
I don't understand the way he's acting, please help!
Q. I have been with my bf for 5 yrs only 3 days ago he changed he started telling me to shut up every time I spoke that he hates me. He didn't want me to stop at his mum house were he lives. So I went home and thought that it might be cuz he hasn't had ...
A. 19 November 2012: I suggest you leave him be, don't call and don't stop by any more.
This is NOT how anyone should treat their partner. You do NOT deserve this abuse from him or anyone else.
And please talk to your doctor about the depression.
... (read in full...)
My room mate doesn't understand why I don't want her to walk around naked in front of my boyfriend
Q. I asked a question awhile back, and now things have progressed and I need HELP! This is the link to my first question... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-female-room-mate-who-has-a-crush.html (RECAP: My female roommate has, on multipl...
A. 19 November 2012: Oppps typo.. should have said:
IT would NOT kill her - not I lol...... (read in full...)
He asked for my number but hasn't called!
Q. Friday night, as I was leaving the bar, a cute guy I had DEFINITELY noticed, who had introduced himself to me that night (but we were never really able to have a conversation), hurried over and tapped on my driver's side window. He said he something ...
A. 19 November 2012: I'm thinking this guy thinks he HAS to wait 3 days before calling you, or you will think he is way too keen on you.
So, if you like him I'd give him a day or two to call you back.
However, like Dorothy Dix said, don't sit around and wait ... (read in full...)
Am I being manipulated by my live in boyfriend?
Q. I met this guy through my ex n we were seeing one another and things were going good. My kids adored him n he always had time of day for my kids....the moment i moved in he stopped sleeping in the same bed had nothing to do with my kids n we have ...
A. 19 November 2012: I agree with Oldbag as well. You need to ask him to move out. And then you ought to end it, this is NOT working for you and your kids AT ALL, is it?
Bye bye dude....
You can do better.... much much better.... (read in full...)
Oworker spreading my business and trying to upset me.
Q. How do I deal with my coworkers who is telling other coworkers I'm lesbian and other coworkers about my other job? For the record I am gay and do have another job but its none of her business. I found out she lied n told some coworker I tried to ...
A. 19 November 2012: I would quite honestly confront her and preferable with the person whom she told around, so she can't deny it.
If it continues I would bring it up to the boss.
Why does she do it? Because it's juicy gossip and it makes her feel like SHE is the ... (read in full...)
My room mate doesn't understand why I don't want her to walk around naked in front of my boyfriend
Q. I asked a question awhile back, and now things have progressed and I need HELP! This is the link to my first question... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-female-room-mate-who-has-a-crush.html (RECAP: My female roommate has, on multipl...
A. 19 November 2012: Look for a new room mate - kick this girl out, and when you get a new room mate SET her down and go over the "rules" of your house.
I'm sorry I'm not the LEAST bit puritanical, but when you live with a room mate you simply do NOT walk around n... (read in full...)
Does evidence on his boxers mean he is cheating?
Q. I saw dry sperm stain on my hubby boxer amd he toil me when ever he urinates sperm comes out from his body. Am not happy because he has not make love to me for a long time and I feel he is cheating on me....
A. 19 November 2012: Guys don't urinate sperm.. unless he suffers from prostatitis or retrograde ejaculation. BOTH means he needs medical attention.
I'm guessing he got aroused and ejaculated in his pants. If you two haven't had sex in a long while it might not take... (read in full...)
What to do when someone likes you and is attracted to you (and you are to them) but they don't completely understand you?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now and we like each other and he's made it quite clear he's attracted to me (and I am to him but I've made it less clear). Part of me would like to develop the relantionship into romantic direction but he ...
A. 19 November 2012: Seems to me that you two just aren't that well matched intellectually.
I agree with FA - physical attraction isn't always enough.... (read in full...)
Will my cheating ex ever look back and regret her actions?
Q. Having recently come out of a five year relationship where I have just found out she lied and deceived me from day one, where I have just learned she was seeing others behind my back; I was wondering if there will ever come a time when she will look ...
A. 19 November 2012: If this was her "pattern of behavior" for all those 5 years with you, then no, I'm sorry, I don't think she will not wake up and realize that she was an utter failure as a partner. People like that can ALWAYS justify their actions.. the partner ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I could sleep with my ex because he didn't see us ever getting married
Q. The other night I asked my long term boyfriend if he ever saw us as getting married. I want to be married to him eventually and I wanted to see how he felt. He told me that he may want to but he is not sure. I was a little hurt as I think we have a ...
A. 19 November 2012: Seems to me that he is almost HOPING you will sleep with the EX so he has a good reason to end your relationship without being the "bad guy" .... I don't think he really wanted to you galavant off to meet up with your EX I think he was "testing" ... (read in full...)
Is this guy in to me? Does he want to meet? I'm always the first to text.
Q. I met this guy online he is 20 and I an 17 and yeah I know I should not be chatting to guys online. So after a few hours of chatting we swapping numbers and chat on whatsapp. I told him my age, he does not min, he says I am stunning and how can ...
A. 18 November 2012: Yea he was hoping you would drop your knickers and spread your legs for him.
Honey, delete his number, block him or whatever you can do to avoid any further contact with him.
And learn from this. Don't look for love in all the wrong places, bu... (read in full...)
He went from wanting to date me to not wanting me at all in just a few days??
Q. I am just so confused at the moment. I met this guy a few weeks ago while at an event I was working at and he was attending. We got talking and at the end he gave me his phone number as in his words if I was interested I could contact him and he ...
A. 18 November 2012: Eh, it's definitely a case of the "it's HIM, not you". I agree that a guy who claims he doesn't play games... do indeed play games. It's a "look at his actions don't just take his word for it." Someone who feels a need to say I don't play games are ... (read in full...)
Should I try to contact this model? I don't know him but I'd like to get to know him, maybe have a relationship.
Q. I'm a 25 yr old woman, I'm attracted to a male model, He's gorgeous! The guy isn't a well known model, so it's not like he might have a massive ego. The pictures of him are 2 years old and it doesn't seem like he has had any new work as a model. I...
A. 18 November 2012: Honestly, I think it's a pipe dream. It's like thinking Brad Pitt will leave Angelina Jolie for you because you wrote to him..
The extend of the persons fame has nothing to do with this.
You saw a picture and found him attractive, it's... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had anal with me without asking first. Should I be freaked out?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and love each other very much. We're very serious and have been making plans live together this summer. We have a great sex life-- we've very open with each other and I trust hi...
A. 18 November 2012: Honestly OP that would not be OK with me AT ALL.
Sounds like he's been watching WAY too many porn.
You need to sit him down and talk about this. The thing is IT IS to say NO! during sex. If it is not pleasant to you and I can not imagine firs... (read in full...)
My friend told others that he "had me in the palm of his hand". I called him out on it and now he says he only likes me as a friend!
Q. I have met a guy at college and we hit it off straight away. It's the first time I've found a guy with the same interests and we even seem to have the same way of thinking and insecurities. It's strange. He does things like carry my bags and he g...
A. 18 November 2012: Yikes, he might be a decent guy to have a friend but I would DEFINITELY not go further then that - I can't see him being mature enough for a relationship if he thinks this is a game.
If you feel more then a friend about him, I would honestly... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting to date men with financial problems? My parents say I'll never find anyone!
Q. I m being told for the past few years that I my attitude is wrong toward men and their financial situation. What do you think after I tell you my story? I m a professional woman with a good job that let's me have. Comfortable life with a ni...
A. 18 November 2012: I agree with you there too on most points.
I married a man who's finances were in shambles and I honestly didn't know to what extend. Had I known, I would most likely not have continued to date him and I wold not have married him either. And that... (read in full...)
Will the doctor be able to tell that I was sexually active a month ago?
Q. Okay so, I know this may not be the right place for this. But, I really need and answer. Alright so my parents are taking me Tuesday to get a Pap and get me on birth control. My only worry is that my parents said they're gonna have my doctor check ...
A. 18 November 2012: Nothing wrong in getting a pap smear/check up and on birth control.
You do NOT have to bring your parent (mother or whomever goes with you) INSIDE when you get your check up. Nor can your doctor "tell" on you to your parents. However, MAYBE yo... (read in full...)
Am I really the bad guy here??
Q. I have two relatives that got pregnant on purpose knowing they had no way to support these babies.. Then to top that off they got pregnant again. They both have two kids living off the Gov for their housing and every other benefit they can get ...
A. 18 November 2012: You are more then entitled to your opinion, but that doesn't mean you get to dictate how others live.
No, I would honestly NOT feel sorry for them either.
But if your opinion causes drama and stress with your relatives WHY not DROP the subject... (read in full...)
After dating he said he wanted to be friends but he ignores me. Why?
Q. I am so confused by this mans actions and hoping someone can shed some light on it. I was in a relationship with a man for 9 months, we mutually decided we could not be together long term but he was adamant he wanted to stay friends. I couldn't...
A. 18 November 2012: He REALLY doesn't want to be friends with you. It just sounds good when you break up with someone.
Forget about him. Being friends with an ex is not really a good idea for most people - friends are friends and exes.. well they are exes no matter h... (read in full...)
He told me I may not be the one he wants but I'm the one he needs!
Q. The title says it all. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and we've been recently having fights about the direction of our relationship. He always tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me and is in love with ...
A. 18 November 2012: That would just not fly with me, I would definitely take it as he was "only" with me for the lack of a "better" mate.
I can't tell you what you should do, I'm just saying this would NOT make me want to be in a relationship with a guy like that.
... (read in full...)
I'd like to get this man out of my heart, his actions confuse and hurt me
Q. I had a 'phone relationship' with an old college friend (I was somewhat involved with back in 1984) which lasted 5 months. Back in May he was supposed to visit me (first time we would have seen each other in 30 years), when he canceled at the ...
A. 18 November 2012: The only thing this guy is interested in is getting his ego stroked.
Honestly, I would block his number - delete/block him from any social website, same for e-mail and accept that he is NOT the good guy you thought he was. He is a selfish indulgen... (read in full...)
What is this bad smell coming from my arm pits? I clean but it is still there, help!
Q. It comes from my arm pits. It is not as bad-smelling as sweat. But, it does still stink. Could it be my own personal scent? If so, why am I picking it up? I can smell it evdnafter having taking a shower. And, yes, I clean both arm pits with soap. ...
A. 18 November 2012: *facepalm* Sorry OP
I still stand with the - I don't think it's your own personal pheromones - they wouldn't be stinky to you.
Do you smoke? Drink a lot of coffee and not a lot of water? If so I would try and up the water intake and cut t... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that he punched himself? Should I just get out of this relationship?
Q. I'm not sure whether to stay with my boyfriend or not. We had a bad argument last night. He said something that upset me. He told me that a man and woman that he knew had sex with each other infront of him ( i'm not sure why he was in the room at ...
A. 17 November 2012: I think you both overreacted.
I don't honestly think there is a DUDE out there who hasn't thought a 3-some might be fun to do, but on your BF's case he didn't like the moral implications so he didn't do it. I don't see how you can think it's HIS... (read in full...)
Would it be too forward to give this very attractive guy in the Boots shop my phone number?
Q. Hey, I'm 16 years old and I have a need for a bit of light hearted advice. I was served by a guy in Boots who was incredibly attractive but seemed modest at the same time. It may sound cringey but we were laughing together and embarrassing ours...
A. 17 November 2012: iAmHereToHelpYou is right. YOU need put your safety over meeting guys quite honestly.
And I don't think handing out your number is necessarily the best way to meet people you have something in common with.
I know compared to your generation ... (read in full...)
What is this bad smell coming from my arm pits? I clean but it is still there, help!
Q. It comes from my arm pits. It is not as bad-smelling as sweat. But, it does still stink. Could it be my own personal scent? If so, why am I picking it up? I can smell it evdnafter having taking a shower. And, yes, I clean both arm pits with soap. ...
A. 17 November 2012: I honestly don't think your OWN pheromones would smell "bad" or "stinky" to yourself.
Is there times of the month (along with your cycle) that it is stronger then other times? If so, it COULD be that - IF it happens around/near ovulation when you... (read in full...)
Dated for about a year and we have not shared "I Love You"s
Q. We are both 20 years old in college, and have been in long term (2 yrs lasting) relationships in the past. In a month will be our 1 year anniversary and we have not said I love yous or anything. Everything is still kept really light between us. Is ...
A. 17 November 2012: Do you LOVE him or do you LOVE the idea of having a BF ?
I DO think a year is kind of "late" in the game to not have said :" I love you."... (read in full...)
Her Bf is stationed overseas. Should I just try to keep it as friends, or should I try to take advantage of this night?
Q. Hey all, so any help on this issue I'm having will be much appreciated. I have no clue what to do anymore. So, this is relatively going to be a long story. My freshman year (I'm now a senior) I met a girl who was a senior at that time. Me and her...
A. 17 November 2012: If you try and "take advantage" you will lose. You will get "used" as a rebound.
She needs to work things out or end it with her BF overseas - you REALLY don't want to end up in the middle of THAT drama.
And honestly, it's a kinda scumbag mo... (read in full...)
Would it be too forward to give this very attractive guy in the Boots shop my phone number?
Q. Hey, I'm 16 years old and I have a need for a bit of light hearted advice. I was served by a guy in Boots who was incredibly attractive but seemed modest at the same time. It may sound cringey but we were laughing together and embarrassing ours...
A. 17 November 2012: How old do you think the guy is?
As a mom of daughters I wouldn't be to keen on any of them giving out numbers to guys because they think that guy looks hot, you know?... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because of his behavior. Have I overreacted?
Q. Im in college living on campus with my friends in an aparment and I've been in a relationship for almost four years now and I've finally had enough of the stuff that he put me though so I broke up with him. He has almost expected me to be there at ...
A. 17 November 2012: I think you did the right thing, FOR YOU. And in some ways for him too. Now he is FORCED to make his own way.
Yes, the dude took you and your "stuff" 100% for granted. Even people who are married and share a car, make sure they check with their pa... (read in full...)
I'm sixteen, she's thirteen. Is this too much age difference?
Q. Hey I'm 16 years old. I just came back from hoilday with my mate and his family. Throughout the hoilday I started to get more attracted to his sister. Problem is she is 13 and I'm 16. Her personality is what I like in a girl everything she like I do ...
A. 17 November 2012: At 13 she is still a kid - at 16 YOU are still a kid but with more hormones.. So like SVC said, at 13/16 the 3 years is a HUGE gap at 20/23 it is not.
If you two stick to being friends it's ok though, but BF/GF? Yea not an even match in my book.... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend keep checking my phone?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 months now and she keeps going through my phone constantly without asking even though she never finds anything on there as there isn't anything 'dodgy' going on. Can someone please advise me on why she is ...
A. 17 November 2012: Ask her.
And I agree with Oldbag - next time she does it go through HER phone. She how she likes them apples.... (read in full...)
I made a stupid mistake. How can I make things right again?
Q. My problem started last week, i made a stupid mistake a really stupid mistake.something i thought i would never do.and i regret it with all my heart . the only problem is that what i did affected someone very very close to me and no matter how ma...
A. 16 November 2012: I think Anon Male said it perfectly..
Read and re-read his answer til it sinks in.
... (read in full...)
I push friends away even though I want them. What do I do?
Q. I feel like I've totally screwed up my life. I don't have any friends in my area. I always hide behind work. At work I'm very sociable and bubbly but when they ask me out I don't want to go. I don't want anyone getting close to me although deep down ...
A. 16 November 2012: Honestly, it sounds like you could be suffering from depression, it is not uncommon for people who are depressed to WANT to socialize but isolating themselves.
I do think you need to consider talking to your doctor as well. I'm not saying a pill w... (read in full...)
Child's father's wife is trying to raise my child!
Q. Hello, My problem is with my child's father's wife. I don't mind her being a part of my child's life because that is his child. The problem is that when it comes to communicating with him about our daughter, she speaks as though she is the father. I ...
A. 16 November 2012: I would look at it like this - you have 4 people in your child's life who all love her and want the best for her.
You - your BF - your ex and his new wife.
So your child has a LOT of love around her.
However, I would sit down with your... (read in full...)
What is this bad smell coming from my arm pits? I clean but it is still there, help!
Q. It comes from my arm pits. It is not as bad-smelling as sweat. But, it does still stink. Could it be my own personal scent? If so, why am I picking it up? I can smell it evdnafter having taking a shower. And, yes, I clean both arm pits with soap. ...
A. 16 November 2012: IT could honestly be the food you eat.
Steam bath or sauna can help you sweat out toxins too which can eliminate the odors.
Drinking PLENTY of water can also flush your system.
The fabrics you wear can make a difference as well, natu... (read in full...)
My brother in law is on drugs and we want to help, but he has said he is in love with me. Would inviting him here help or make things worse?
Q. My brother in law has went off the deep end with drugs. He's lost his job, no money, his mom and brother kicked him out. He's alone and messed up. My husband (his brother) and I want to help him. I've called around to rehabs and im trying to find ...
A. 16 November 2012: Does his brother(your husband) know that he has this crush on you?
And honestly, what do you and your husband really think you can do for an addict? I can see it being useful to help him get into rehab and getting HELP if he is ready but I'm not ... (read in full...)
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