B/f broke up because of my good looks and what his friend said??
Q. Hi everyone, It took me two days to even talk about this,cause I'm unable to wrap around what happened to me.. My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me yesterday for a reason sooo silly and immatur'ish' if I can say.. When he first met me,he was very...
A. 2 November 2012: Cerberus put it VERY bluntly but also very straight from the heart and I think he is absolutely right.
The reason he invited you to his parents place is because he thinks you will be polite and not dig into whatever the truth really is. Who woul... (read in full...)
Boyfriend reflecting his guilt on me, can this all change?
Q. I've already posted on here a few times due to relationship problems but I'm really miserable with it now, I'm constantly thinking and worrying, and as a result I'm on edge. I can't enjoy work, university or time with friends, because I'm so bogged ...
A. 1 November 2012: What you are experiencing is pretty normal. YOU lost the trust in your BF. Once trust is gone other things in the relationship will deteriorate, specially if this has been a case of you "forgiving it" by just sucking it up. That is not forgiving ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to move on and be happy. Maybe my ex just isn't the one?
Q. so me and my ex have broken up for about 2 1/2 months now, we still talk and are friends, we were going to start dating in about a month and give us another try (we were together for about 3 years), but today she came to my house to tell me that she ...
A. 1 November 2012: You EX is NOT the one for you, that is for sure. She has just been stringing you along as "friends" in case the other guy didn't work out.
Let her go, she made her own bed (and got knocked up with a guy she been dating for 5 minutes) and make you... (read in full...)
We broke up and I didn't say what I wanted to say. Should I go tell her now?
Q. Me and my gf split up this January after 5 years together. Her reason was; it wasnt working out. Well that was not surprising as she kept me a secret all that time from her family and friends because i am 17 years older than her. Id had enough of ...
A. 1 November 2012: I don't think there is anything you can say to her that will magically fix this.
But if you NEED to get something of your chest to her, I would firstly write it down in a letter. Don't send the letter for a week, then re-read it and determin... (read in full...)
All he does is talk about sex and grope me. Is it lust? Or love?
Q. I have a bf... He was here before... But now is in another city for studies...i Trust him... We Dnt have Any kind of problems... He's also ready to talk to his parents abt us after both our education is over.... But whenever he comes down to meet ...
A. 1 November 2012: Sounds like lust. no doubt.
It's not that you can't lust after someone you love, but you would want to have conversations about what really matter as well as sexy chats.
When you say grope - I think Ick! But what exactly do you mean? is it he c... (read in full...)
2 children, a 3rd on the way. I fee blessed but overwhelmed. How do I cope?
Q. Hi, I could really use some advice and someone to talk to in general. Some backround, Im 23, my fiance is 26 in nov. We have two young children (ages1 and 2) we both work and alternate our schedules around e/o, except sunday, the day my mom ...
A. 31 October 2012: Honestly, going from 2 kids to 3 is a big jump, for several reasons - one being logistics and one being that you only have 2 arms. (and let's not mention the financial side).
What can you do? Put aside as much money as you can. No buying fast foo... (read in full...)
Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Or does it grow with time?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles My questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this ...
A. 31 October 2012: She will be more hurt if you stay because you are waiting for the fireworks to start - which basically mean.. you WISH she made you feel something that she is reality doesn't make you feel.
Let her down gently.
And yes, there is not a way to ... (read in full...)
B/f broke up because of my good looks and what his friend said??
Q. Hi everyone, It took me two days to even talk about this,cause I'm unable to wrap around what happened to me.. My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me yesterday for a reason sooo silly and immatur'ish' if I can say.. When he first met me,he was very...
A. 31 October 2012: I agree with the majority of the uncles and aunties. That is the most BULL SHIP excuse for breaking up I have ever heard, and honestly, you have to be pretty naive if you actually BELIEVE it.
People don't end a relationship after 2 year because ... (read in full...)
I don't think my ex will ever let me move on
Q. its been 20 days i broke up with my verbally abusive ex, but he still keeps on messaging me goodnight and good morning text, he is saying that he has realised his mistake , now he can understand my importance. he keeps on calling me all of the ...
A. 31 October 2012: Yep the Aunties and uncles are right - YOU are allowing this.
BLOCK his number, or get a new number and then start the block and remove him from all aspects of your life.
YOU choose to answer your phone and talk to him...... (read in full...)
I loaned boyfriend money and he hasn't paid it all back but I may need it! How do I go about this?
Q. Hi everyone. My problem is I grew up poor and I worry about money. I earn enough to pay my bills and save a bit. From time to time I have given my bf money when he needed help, and recently this has happened 2 months in a row. Plus a couple of times ...
A. 31 October 2012: 1. Don't lend him money in the future - it causes you stress and you obviously don't like asking for what's yours back. So not lending would be the best option for you in the future.
Secondly, sit him down show him what he own black/white on paper... (read in full...)
I loaned boyfriend money and he hasn't paid it all back but I may need it! How do I go about this?
Q. Hi everyone. My problem is I grew up poor and I worry about money. I earn enough to pay my bills and save a bit. From time to time I have given my bf money when he needed help, and recently this has happened 2 months in a row. Plus a couple of times ...
A. 31 October 2012: 1. Don't lend him money in the future - it causes you stress and you obviously don't like asking for what's yours back. So not lending would be the best option for you in the future.
Secondly, sit him down show him what he own black/white on paper... (read in full...)
Should I let her remarks undermine my trust in him? She claims I was second best, that he chose me because her friend didn't want him.
Q. Hi I found out my boyfriend cheated on me a few years ago Anyways we got back on track solved all the problems in our relationship, and everything was going great. We have a child our own home and I am madly in love with him. My problem is a ...
A. 31 October 2012: Who knows?, He might have chosen you because SHE wouldn't have him, but HONESTLY (think hard now) do you think he would have STAYED with you for this long, if that was the ONLY reason he is with you? AND do you think he would have WANTED to work ... (read in full...)
My fiance said her ex was a better lover.
Q. Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I a...
A. 31 October 2012: I think Cerberus nailed it.
I want to add this though. I think your FI was really thoughtless in what she said to her friends. Even IF you hadn't been in the room to hear it, it's still thoughtless.
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Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Or does it grow with time?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles My questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this ...
A. 31 October 2012: For me personally, there HAS to be a spark from the get go. A physical and mental attraction and just killer chemistry.
What initially attracted you to her?
Why did you start dating her?
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me. Has anyone taken their cheating boyfriend back?
Q. FIrst my question is, is there anyone out there who took their boyfriend back after cheating and is still happy today? With trust and no more cheating? My story: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. He is my first and ...
A. 31 October 2012: He is so full of bull crap. None only is it YOUR fault he cheated (according to you) but you should just suck it up and move on?
I have only dated one cheater - he (as it turned out) was dating multiple girls at the same time and none of us knew.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't do the things I need to make me climax. What should I do?
Q. The only way I can cum is with penetration and breast stimulation at the same time. Time and time I've asked him to touch me and to suck on me, but my boyfriend of 9 years won't do it for more than ten seconds. He gets to cum, but I never can be...
A. 30 October 2012: How about investing in a pair of nipple clamps ? He might find that a turn on and it might help YOU to get what you need.
Seems to me that your man can't "multi-task" or he is just really lazy sexually.
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So much porn on boyfriend's computer has really grossed me out
Q. Ok so I've had issues with my boyfriend and porn from the gate im insecure and hes bot very understanding of that but whatever just some history for ya .... Anyway I went to his pad to do some work for my college courses i'm in and ( we have bee...
A. 30 October 2012: I'm not a fan of porn either. I do understand that my husband watches it from time to time and it's pretty "vanilla" so that doesn't bother me either.
However, if his computer was filled with it I would be creeped out - the tranny sex? Yea, I d... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend stealing from me?
Q. I dont mean to accuse my boyfriend, but when I was out with him the other week when i did NOT spend a penny, and I went out with 10 pound, I came back with no money at all, not even for the bus. I thought nothing of it until the other day where I ...
A. 30 October 2012: Where did you keep the Money? Is anything else missing? Are you 100% sure you brought the money? Is there anyone else who could have snatched it? Did you leave your purse/wallet unattended at anytime during the night?
None of us here can say for ... (read in full...)
Why is it that he only really talks to me when he's horny?
Q. Hey guys so my boyfriend and I and I have been going out for a little over 2 months. Something that I noticed in our relationship is that he only really talks to me when he's horny. I try to make conversation with him but he always runs that...
A. 30 October 2012: If he can keep a conversation when he is HORNY he can keep a conversation when he is not.
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Am I bad for faking orgasms with my boyfriend?
Q. I am a 26(F) with my boyfriend 25(M). We haven't been dating a super long time, but we fell in love and got very close very fast. He is wonderful, and I love the shit out of him and would do most anything for him. I can totally picture myself being ...
A. 30 October 2012: The only one you REALLY cheat by faking orgasms is YOURSELF.
He will NOT try and work harder/better to get you off if he thinks he is "gods gift to women" in the sack already.
Time to find ways where you BOTH can get off.... (read in full...)
Could my breasts get larger without the side effects of the pill?
Q. my breasts have grown bigger since i've been on the pill, but i didn't get and soreness or aching which i'm concerned about? Of course i'm not complaining, but is it possible that they can grow without any of those side effects? ...
A. 30 October 2012: Yes the change in hormones (when you take BC) can change your cup size, however it's not permanent for everyone.
And yes, they can grow that way with out being sore or ache. Soreness and aches are often found when your hormones change FAR more dra... (read in full...)
Is this normal that my persistent 45 year old Ex is chasing after me after a month of silence?
Q. Dear all. Your thoughts please! In brief, My bf and i have had a rather hard work relationship. We were together for 16 months. Things got worse,and he kept ignoring me for up to 3 wks at a time. In the end he said it was ok. I was like,ok. Th...
A. 30 October 2012:
Honestly e-mail him back and tell him you can't met you after all.
Seems like he just want to yank your chain, to say JUMP and have you go :" how high?"
After that ignore his e-mails and ignore him.
There really is no point in wastin... (read in full...)
Why is he so interested to see the inside of my home? Does this mean he wants to get serious?
Q. Hello y'all , I have been dating a guy for a few months - close to 3, but I have known him for a while. We were friends before anything happend. Things seem to be going well, we don't text every day, more like every other and I see him once, so...
A. 30 October 2012: Why not invite him over to a home-cooked meal?
I don't see the big deal in him wanting to see your place, you have seen his.
I do think it's a case of curiosity. Like Cerberus said you can tell a LOT about a person by looking at how they live... (read in full...)
What is the reason? I texted him for the first time, said my name in the text, and he has not replied?
Q. To keep it short, im 80% sure that my crush actually likes me back. So a week ago my friend Nick helped me ask for his number, he seemed to be a little bit happy about this and he knew i was the one who wanted his number. And he acutally said 'rem...
A. 30 October 2012: Don't stay home from school over that.
Just go to school and pretend all is well, either he will talk to you or he won't. If he doesn't then let it go. I think it was bold of you to get his number and text him, hopefully he will get back to you i... (read in full...)
Do my husband and I give in to my MIL's demands? What can I do about this pressure? Should I call my MIL?
Q. Hi. I need your help. My mother in law complains that i dont call her enough. But i dont feel compelled to call her often because when i call she wll be finding fault with me all the time. Either i have not done this or that corectly. Recent...
A. 30 October 2012: Honestly, try calling your MIL once a week or once every two weeks - make it short and without giving her any details of what is going on in your life.
When she asks you a question pertaining to your marriage turn it around on her in the "sweetes... (read in full...)
For Girls: First Impressions when you meet a guy - is 5 foot six inches tall enough for you? Or do you prefer taller?
Q. Hello This question is mostly for girls Do you find attractive a guy who is 5.6 feet or maybe girls want a guy who is taller. Well I know some responses may be 'a guy must be loyal,caring etc' but my question is related with first impression. T...
A. 30 October 2012: Height have never been an issue for me, but with that said I have never dated a guy who was shorter then me - however that really has nothing to do with their height, growing up in Northern Europe most guys are in general taller then I was. I'm ... (read in full...)
Why is it that he only really talks to me when he's horny?
Q. Hey guys so my boyfriend and I and I have been going out for a little over 2 months. Something that I noticed in our relationship is that he only really talks to me when he's horny. I try to make conversation with him but he always runs that...
A. 30 October 2012: Sounds like he is in it for the sexy talk, unless you two are having sex, because if you are, he is in it for the sex & the sexy talk.
Doesn't seem like he really understand what a relationship is about.
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My boyfriend ABANDONED ME far from home today!
Q. THIS IS A LONG ONE BUT PLEASE READ ALL OF IT AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK: First of all, we have been together for 3 years. We're both 22 years old. We just moved in together a few months ago. We're both going to the same college full time. ...
A. 29 October 2012: I honestly think you two need to figure out how to end this living together arrangement.
It also sounds to me like the fights you two have are over REALLY petty stuff. If you two PLAN on staying together and making this work you two need to SIT d... (read in full...)
Who do I believe? My friend? Or the guy?
Q. Sorry in advance, this is probably going to be long. I've been joking up with this guy since July. From the beginning we said it wasn't going to be serious and if either of us wanted it to end we would say it flat out. We got closer over the weeks ...
A. 29 October 2012: I'm with Cerberus 100% as well. You two are not BF/GF, you are in fact F-buddies or FWB.
I'm not sure what your friend would get out of telling you lies, however I don't see why your F-buddy would tell your friend of all people that he is hooking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said I smelled bad during oral sex. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend went to eat me out and he said that I "smelled bad" he didn't say it was fishy, just smelled bad. What can I do to fix this? I know I don't have any infections. Is there any soaps, cleansing pads, etc. I could use to fix this? Thanks!...
A. 29 October 2012: I would go (for peace of mind) and see your GYN - you could have Bacterial Vaginosis.
http://www.medicinenet.com/bacterial_vaginosis/article.htm
And if you come back clear, then I will agree with Cerberus.
How lovely does he think his dick t... (read in full...)
I can't wait forever for my boyfriend to figure out what he wants!
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months, and I had been fighting a lot, I got fed up with him over a situation, and told him our future seems foggy, and told him how miserable I had been feeling, and he retaliated with saying he needed to take a break. Well, we ...
A. 29 October 2012: Then you need to sit him down and be serious. Give him a date to figure out what HE wants (and honestly YOU need to decide if this really is the guy for you or not as well)
By that date, if he (and you) don't say ok lets work this out, then I s... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things before they could even begin?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Please help me. I have totally muucked things up with a guy who I really like and who I think was perfect for more. I feel sick at what I have done, or more importantly how stupid I have acted. I am 31 and can't beleive...
A. 29 October 2012: My point of view is this. He wasn't REALLY looking for a GF, but for a girl who was willing to have sex with him for a while, but when you pulled the "Klingon Girl" he pulled back because that was more then he had bargained for.
From what I have l... (read in full...)
My partner is accusing me of cheating because of my body!
Q. i am in a relationship of more than 20years, now my partner is accusing me of cheating he told me that my vagina is loose from the outside i am worried because he said he will end our relationship and yet i have no cheated, please help me ...
A. 29 October 2012: I would tell him that it's not your vagina that is more lose, it's his dick that shrunk.
What an idiot!
Like Person12345 said sex doesn't change the shape of the vagina - giving birth can though.
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My husband left me for a 19 year old and took our kids with him
Q. I have two children, a 16-year-old son and a 21-year-old daughter. Me and my husband have been married for 20 years now. I'm 42, and he's 45, and recently he left me for a 19-year-old and moved in with her taking the kids. I'd gone out to work one...
A. 29 October 2012: Both your kids are old enough to decide where they want to live. Your husband CAN'T make that choice for them.
Secondly, contact your lawyer and ask him to FILE the divorce papers. Not sure how that works in the UK, so you do need to go get lega... (read in full...)
Why can't I ever orgasm? I have to fake it every time, even though I want to orgasm.
Q. So, I don't know much about other women's experiences, but everyone knows that guys sometimes (out of nervousness or shyness etc) can't get it up, if you know what I mean. I know that women don't have 'ahem's' ...but can they get the same sort of ...
A. 27 October 2012: If you don't even get wet, there isn't enough foreplay - that would be my bet.
And honestly, not many women get orgasms from intercourse, but with a lot of practice you can find positions where you get the clitoris stimulated while you have pen... (read in full...)
Should I choose a different Doctor? When I met the new Doctor I realised that I've slept with him and his wife. He was professional when I saw him recently.
Q. Okay this is an odd thing that happened to me, I went to the doctors because I have been having some bad neck pains so I just randomly picked a doctor and when I finally meet the doctor I actually know him and have slept with him and his wife when I ...
A. 27 October 2012: I would change doctors, it's that simple - unless he is the best in his field or something like that.
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I want to be friends, he wants a FWB
Q. This may be odd...but i need help. I met this guy at the beginning of my senior year, same age as me, and we obviously liked each other. We hung out once at his house and chilled and almost kissed. Then a week later he got into a relationship that ...
A. 27 October 2012: He isn't interested in your friendship he wants a place to park his penis whenever he feels like without having any obligations like he would in a friendship or a relationship.... (read in full...)
We dated for a year. Then were told we're related. Is it wrong to stay together?
Q. I have been talking to this guy a year now and he's everything I wanted in a man. After the year was up we were told we were related. That hurt me to the core. We care for each other so much. Is it wrong to not let go? I wish I would have known...
A. 27 October 2012: I think it really matter as to HOW you are related.. by blood or by extended family intermarrying?
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My wife has been keeping secrets from me. What did she do in Vegas?
Q. My wife and I were in Venice sitting on a hotel balcony overlooking the Grand Canal. We were joined by 2 girls in their mid 20s and a boy about the same age. Conversation let to what our favorite city was. When my wife's turn came she stated h...
A. 27 October 2012: I agree 100% with SVC's answer.
I honestly think she was "showing off" a little for younger crowd. She was trying to be "all that and a bag of chips"...
And I'm sorry that you read so much more into it, that you felt it ruined the vacation.
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He's 64 and I'm not interested. How do I discourage him without ruining the car share system that benefits us all?
Q. I am part of a car share group where one drives and the other three are passengers. We rotate who drives. It works OK. In fact it's very convenient. But two days out of every fortnight there are either one or two of the others not present. Thes occ...
A. 26 October 2012: You have every right to not open the door if he shows up at your home.
Have you thought about bringing a book or a magazine and read when it's just him and you? It's a "nice" way to say I don't really want to interact with you.
However, if i... (read in full...)
How does he always seem to turn up?
Q. theres this boy who is always just turning up when I arrive in the cafeteria and I dont even have a really regular set routine. So how is it when I choose to go early there he is? When I choose to sit outside he just happens to walk up the path ...
A. 26 October 2012: Maybe he is wondering the same thing about you?
Just talk to him :)... (read in full...)
Should I Trust My Husband? Am I Wrong For FeelingThis Way?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 28 years. I have always trusted him because and have never suspected him cheating on me. Lately he has upset me because of some of the things he has done. One example occurred several years ago when s...
A. 25 October 2012: It seems iffy honestly.
Why don't YOU go to these events with him from time to time?
And as far as being a bad/good example for the kids. Yes a PARTY HARD attitude is kind of juvenile for someone in his 50's (I'm guessing 50's) on the other han... (read in full...)
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