My brother in law is on drugs and we want to help, but he has said he is in love with me. Would inviting him here help or make things worse?
Q. My brother in law has went off the deep end with drugs. He's lost his job, no money, his mom and brother kicked him out. He's alone and messed up. My husband (his brother) and I want to help him. I've called around to rehabs and im trying to find ...
A. 16 November 2012: Does his brother(your husband) know that he has this crush on you?
And honestly, what do you and your husband really think you can do for an addict? I can see it being useful to help him get into rehab and getting HELP if he is ready but I'm not ... (read in full...)
Do people really need porn to be stimulated or is it just an excuse to look at someone naked?
Q. I have a question about porn, do they really need it to get stimulated or is it just an excuse to look at someone else during a relationship? Is that why some people don't request a picture of their partners to use? ...
A. 16 November 2012: I think some people BELIEVE they "NEED" to look at porn to get excited. Some need more and more extreme images, but that is rare.
Personally, I don't think anyone NEED it. I think people can have great sex lives without ever looking at porn. I ... (read in full...)
Are the intentions of this man innocent?
Q. I am attracted to a man who happens to be married but will not ever do more than occasionally think about him. He has always been kind of flirtatious and he gives me vibes and looks of admiration. I always hear his wife criticizing him over the ...
A. 16 November 2012: I think Caring Guy hit the nail on the head. I think you are NOT the first girl he "flirts" with, nor are you the first girl (outside of his wife) that he likes to make feel "special" - he doesn't do it because he is interested, but because it's a ... (read in full...)
GIrls: Do you like hairy guys?
Q. Hi This question is for mostly for girls. Do you find attractive "hairy men"(hope you understand), who has hair in chest,back and legs,or maybe you will dump them.Also do you think guys with classic beard are attractive, even I think this depen...
A. 16 November 2012: Chest hair is okay, shaved is fine too.
Back hair is NOT for me, sorry.
Leg hair and arm hair is fine too.
Pubic hair is fine, trimmed in nice too, but not a "must".
Facial hair is a no no for me, I just don't like it on a guy I'm going... (read in full...)
My wife is kind of a prude in the bedroom. Would she like a vibrator or be repulsed?
Q. Wife grew up kind of a prude- never seems to really enjoy sex all that much. Just want her to feel as good as she makes me feel. If I come home with a little help with a vibe that she will be repulsed or OK to try. Any wen think this is a horrible ...
A. 15 November 2012: I think it comes down to what kind you think of getting - some huge dildo will probably shut her down something buz-buz that doesn't go inside might be a good start.
BUT with that said, I think being open about it and TALKING about it can make ... (read in full...)
How much do you normally spend on Christmas gifts for in laws and parents?
Q. I have a question regarding Christmas gift giving. How much do you typically spend on parents and in laws for Christmas? I can only really use my own family and my husbands family as examples and we do things pretty differently so I'm curious what ...
A. 15 November 2012: This year my Dad and my FIL get a 2013 calender I photo-shopped of the kids and got printed up and a box of various goodies - maybe $50 each. For them it's DEFINITELY not about the amount but the thought put into it.
... (read in full...)
Where is our 'friendship' going? Do I even like her in that way?
Q. I don't really know who to ask for advice or guidance on this so ... hello Dear Cupid I'm a second-year university student. Since starting the academic year in late September I have been spending a lot of time with one of my 'closer' female ...
A. 14 November 2012: If and only IF you are interested in DATING her - her being your potential GF - I would ask her out.
She does sound interested in you as a potential date/BF. Otherwise I don't think she would have the "hostile attitude" towards any girl you hook... (read in full...)
Should I get a second ear piercing?
Q. i want to get a second ear piercing because i think they are cute and catchy. i just really like them and almost obsessed with them. it's just whenever i want to go and get a second piercing i always wonder if it would ruin my ear, as i've always ...
A. 14 November 2012: If your parents are OK with it I can't see why not. I have second piercing in each ear ( I have had them for a good 25 years) and never had any trouble with them.
I mention your parents because you are in the age bracket age 13-15 and whether ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want any kids so why does he always want sex when I am at the most fertile time?
Q. my bf of ovr 22 yrs says he doesnt want more kids, but the way he acts during sex and how he seems to not be so worried about geting me pregnant and asking when every month my period is due and we always eem to have sex only during the most ...
A. 14 November 2012: I'm with Cally on this one..
It has to do with pheromones PURE and SIMPLE.
However if the two of you do NOT use any kind of birth control and he REALLY doesn't want more kids, I think you are BOTH playing Russian Roulette.
I have NEVER me... (read in full...)
I'm afraid she'll be approached by other guys. Should I tell her of my feelings?
Q. Guys let me cut short my story and come straight to point. I love a girl whos 17 and i'm 21.shes just passed out of school and im we r in same college now..i dont think ever had a boyfriend,relationship stuff etc..i had developed feelings for her....
A. 14 November 2012: I don't know if it would be appropriate to ask her out for coffee, a movie or dinner in India - but if it is why not ask her out?
You don't really know her, so yes you feel infatuated by her - but hold your horses and get to know he.
Does sh... (read in full...)
If I don't ask her out will she be offended?
Q. Okay, this one is complicated. Keeping in mind that I am not looking for a girlfriend, riddle me this: the girl I like has found out from other sources that I like her, and I have not confirmed it. Apparently, she likes me and dosn't think I like ...
A. 14 November 2012: If you DO NOT want to ask her out, then don't.
... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I have a fight over why I didn't take a shower???
Q. Need some advice on an argument I had with my girlfriend. So a few weeks ago, we were invited to my godson's birthday party. My gf decided she didn't want to go, so I went alone. A couple weeks later, my gf and I go out to brunch, but before we ...
A. 14 November 2012: I don't think it was about the shower either.
Though.. if you slept on the couch I can't see how taking a shower to freshen up before going out to bunch can start such an argument. Personally, if I have slept like crap or not enough there is NOTHI... (read in full...)
His ex will never be out of his life, but I'm not going anywhere either because I'm the mother of his child!
Q. ok so yesterday my boyfriend's ex girlfriend called my house looking for him not on a cellphone my actual house phone. so when i asked her who is this she lied and said a different name which is not her name but i knew it was her because of my ...
A. 14 November 2012: I think Uncle Eddie has a really good point. The more you FREAK out over this the more nuts you seem and the less "stalker-ish" she seems.. Get it?
I would sit your BF down and ask him WHY he is still in contact with her. And why she would th... (read in full...)
My husband flipped out because I wore a male co-worker's jacket! Is he making it too big of a deal?
Q. Hi everyone. Pretty quick question: Is it okay to wear a male coworker's jacket if you are married? My husband found out that my coworker let's me wear his jacket at work and totally flipped out. I don't see the harm in it. Let me know what you th...
A. 14 November 2012: Why were you wearing it, and where? (just curious honestly)
From the little you have written I think your husband is overreacting.
If it got cold one day and work and he lend you the jacket, I see no harm, no foul. But if you go to work every... (read in full...)
Questions for the ladies....
Q. I want to ask the ladies a few questions. I hear so much about what MEN want from women and their relationships but not so much about what women want, in fact a lot of the time the women seem to be asking questions about how they can improve for ...
A. 14 November 2012: Question 1: Does penis size matter?
answer: no. SKILLS & WILLINGNESS matter.
Question 2: Do you ever browse online for pictures of men that you find hot?
answer: yes it happens, but rarely.
Question 3: Do you ever wish your partner would ... (read in full...)
Questions for the ladies-- set 2
Q. Hey ladies, set 2: Question 4: Have you ever fantasised about one of your boyfriends/ husbands friends? My answer: Once or twice Question 5: Do you secretly watch porn behind your mans back? Well we know a lot of men do this and try to kee...
A. 14 November 2012: Hey ladies, set 2:
Question 4: Have you ever fantasied about one of your boyfriends/ husbands friends?
answer: No, that I can recall.
Question 5: Do you secretly watch porn behind your mans back? Well we know a lot of men do this and try t... (read in full...)
Should I tell him or just carry on and get rid of it?
Q. So ive only been intimate with one man for the last 3 months, last month my period came oct. 15 until oc 20. We had sex oct. 21. And after that we text one time until we hung out again but i was drunk n messed things up between us, he said he would ...
A. 14 November 2012: If it comes back to you being pregnant then I would guess it's up to you to make the choice if you want to tell him or not.
I would consider the reason WHY you want to tell him though, if you have already decided that you would abort?
And I w... (read in full...)
I've got to live with my ex for another 4 months and she's seeing other guys already! How do I deal with this?
Q. I'm 26 my ex is 21. (go figure I'd have relationship issues right?) Alright, so my now ex-girlfriend and I were together for 2 years. A few weeks ago I noticed a change in her behavior, she was shielding her phone. So I looked through it when she ...
A. 13 November 2012: Think of her as an annoying room-mate. And keep busy these next 4 months.
That doesn't mean you have to be rude or an asshat. It's just such a waste of energy.
IF you think the two of you need some new rules since you will be room mates for t... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by walking away when my fiance was staring at a woman? He didn't try to find me.
Q. My fiance stares a lot at women in front of me. I've talked to him about it, but to no avail. His staring can get blatant, up and down looks, looking at their rear. No matter where we go, he looks or tries to sneak a peek in. I see it all even if ...
A. 13 November 2012: Walking out and hiding in the bathroom is pointless. Let's say you had to go #2 - you would have been annoyed if he was pestering you by knocking on the door or calling your cell because it took you 20 min instead of a 2 minute pee..... If you had ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to ask my boyfriend to touch my stomach when we are intimate?
Q. I am a big girl with many self-confidence issues. My boyfriend of two years tells me that he loves all of my curves, but almost avoids touching my stomach whenever we cuddle. What is the best way to ask him to touch my stomach when we are intimate?...
A. 13 November 2012: I would just take his hand and guide it. Show him where you really like being touched. That way he won't take it as you "telling" him that what he was doing before was wrong but he will take it as a OH she likes that too!
(as opposed to telling ... (read in full...)
Our female room mate who has a crush on my boyfriend walked by our room naked last night!
Q. So this situation is kind of awkward. My bf and I recently got a new roommate. She is fine most of the time, but she kind of had/has a crush on my bf (he thought she was cute in the past, but is totally over it), and used to flirt with him a lot. I ...
A. 13 November 2012: Yea sorry, this room mate would be looking for a new home. Walking around NAKED is OK if this was HER home and she lived alone or with a BF/GF but not at a room mate, that is just ridiculous!
... (read in full...)
Should I tell him or just carry on and get rid of it?
Q. So ive only been intimate with one man for the last 3 months, last month my period came oct. 15 until oc 20. We had sex oct. 21. And after that we text one time until we hung out again but i was drunk n messed things up between us, he said he would ...
A. 13 November 2012: I agree with all 3 aunties.
IF your period doesn't show up in a week- 10 days BUY a pregnancy test and test.
Secondly STOP having unprotected sex.
Thirdly having an abortion is your choice, but it should NEVER EVER replace birth-control. W... (read in full...)
Why was he so harsh towards me?
Q. I'm 24 years old. I posted a question on here a while back, about my guy best friend ditching me because of his jealous girlfiend. I have a similar situation now and I need advice on what to do! He got back in touch with me about 4 weeks ago, he ...
A. 13 November 2012: ****Does anyone think I was harsh telling him not to contact me ever again?****
No, not at all. You can't be friends with a person who acts like a yo-yo like that. He MADE a choice to be with a girls who doesn't "allows" him to have female frien... (read in full...)
Drunken one nite stand is threatening to tell my girlfriend what happened!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for just over a year, I love her to bits. About 4-months ago I had a one night stand, not full blown sex but heavy fondling. I'd drunk wayyy too much. Halfway through I came to my senses stopped and went home. The ...
A. 13 November 2012: Shit happens when you do stupid stuff....
So you have 3 choices:
1. (the moral one) FESS up to your GF and hope for the best.
2. Continue to lie and hope the other dude doesn't find her or her number and live with the guilt.
3. Continue ... (read in full...)
She's not interested in "shrooming" with me...
Q. I really love her, we've been together for 9 months as of the other day. I ask that anyone who reads this, do so with an open mind and not cast judgement or speak against "drugs", assert that I have a problem or anything likewise. Things were really ...
A. 13 November 2012: I agree with k-c100. Don't judge her.
Having a "trip" with your girl-friend will not necessarily bond you closer. You may have read that it can, but that isn't 100% certain. Either of you could have a negative experience.
Usually the "bad... (read in full...)
Is there anyway a doctor could diagnose me without having to touch me down there?
Q. hi all, this is going to be a weird/awkward/gross question... but, I don't know where else to ask. I vaguely remember this... when I was probably 11 or so, I found a sort of sex toy or maybe a ring thing that would go around the guy and it vibra...
A. 13 November 2012: No woman I have ever met would chose to get an examination if they could - the thing is - pap smear and the likes are PREVENTIVE measures, MANY women who have theirs done on a regular basis have been "saved" by catching abnormal cells early. So A ... (read in full...)
Why was he so harsh towards me?
Q. I'm 24 years old. I posted a question on here a while back, about my guy best friend ditching me because of his jealous girlfiend. I have a similar situation now and I need advice on what to do! He got back in touch with me about 4 weeks ago, he ...
A. 12 November 2012: Honestly, seems like isn't isn't really wanting a two-sided friendship - he just want YOU to be there when HE needs you.
I mean honestly what do you get out of this "friendship"?
He doesn't have the NADS to tell his GF that he likes having you... (read in full...)
I want to date the girl I have always liked, but my ex suspected there was something going on so I don't want her to get the wrong end of the stick!
Q. Me and my ex (mentioned in previous question) have no decided not to carry on our relationship as it would be unfair on everyone with our constant arguing. There is a barmaid at my local who I have always liked who ended up dating a guy, naturally...
A. 12 November 2012: What your ex might think or "suspect" is not really any of your problem. If you two broke up you are FREE to date someone else. Don't worry about your ex.
Just go slow with you new girl, that way you both can be sure that you really want to be to... (read in full...)
His comment has damaged my self esteem. What should I do now?
Q. Basically, my crush called me ugly indirectly a few days back. He did indeed mention that he was joking, however, this is not the first time something like this has happened. It really crushed my self esteem, especially since they were talking about ...
A. 12 November 2012: No you do NOT apologize for HIM calling YOU ugly, just because he thinks he can say whatever doesn't make it true!
You accept that you had a crush on a moron and then you just ignore him from now on. He ISN'T worth it.
No more texting, Faceboo... (read in full...)
Is it unusual for married spouses to travel alone?
Q. Just want to get some opinions on that. I m In my 40s with grown children that are independent. I finally got in a stage of my life where we are comfortable with money. I help my husband in our business, but during summer it's slow, so I have ...
A. 12 November 2012: It might be a little unusual, but I don't see anything wrong with it per se.
Personally, I would not want to travel all alone, I would WANT to share those experiences with others, preferably my spouse. But as it stands there are places I wish to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me for interfering with her job
Q. Hi There, I wanted to get your advice about a bad breakup I’m currently going through. I started dating my co-worker after I resigned from the company. Even before I resigned her work schedule bothered me. Our manager would call, text, and IM her...
A. 12 November 2012: You are not really treating her much better then her boss. YOUR intentions might be nicer, but you are treating her like a child, but going over her head, not once but TWICE at her work.
She obviously likes her job or is happy to HAVE a job, so ... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife
Q. I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife. She is too dependent on him for jobs and advice and see`s him as her best friend. Yes, granted, I think if there was any chance of getting him back she wouldnt waste a moment. I have told him my ...
A. 12 November 2012: No, you need to have a LONG chat with your BF and HE needs to be the one who tells her to BACK off. You need to explain how his interactions with her affect you.
I'm guess he LETS her act this way, because that is THEIR pattern, YOU can not chan... (read in full...)
Broken up with her while deployed. She says I gave her too little too late. But why is she keeping my stuff, and should I have no contact with her or text her on her upcoming birthday?
Q. Apologize for the length of this...Currently I am on deployment and won't be home for about 6 months. I met my ex girlfriend about 2 years and a few months ago. When I first started dating her I wanted to take things slow. I had been in another ...
A. 12 November 2012: I think she assumed the friend of your (the girl) who offered to pick up your stuff is your new GF, that YOU have moved on that fast. Properly why she freaked out. As you have pointed out in your initial post your ex-GF isn't exactly rational ... (read in full...)
Broken up with her while deployed. She says I gave her too little too late. But why is she keeping my stuff, and should I have no contact with her or text her on her upcoming birthday?
Q. Apologize for the length of this...Currently I am on deployment and won't be home for about 6 months. I met my ex girlfriend about 2 years and a few months ago. When I first started dating her I wanted to take things slow. I had been in another ...
A. 11 November 2012: Since you are still so far from home, do you have someone who could stop by her house and pick up your stuff? I would send her an e-mail (not text) and figure out a day that is good for her and see if anyone you know can pick up your stuff. Once you ... (read in full...)
My good friend told my crush bad things about me, do I confront her?
Q. Hello, I'm really troubled now. I'm in love with this boy from my school, Matthew. He has hinted that our feelings are mutual recently but does not wish to take our relationship to the next level yet, because he wants to focus on his studies. I'm ...
A. 11 November 2012: I would confront her, but in all honesty IF she can talk smack about you BEHIND your back, I'm sure she has no problem LYING to your face.
I would distance myself from her after this and I would let Matthew do his things, seems to me that he ENJOY... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed! During sex... Thoughts?
Q. my boyfriend proposed to me during sex. he called it making love and he asked me to marry him while his **** was inside me. i said yes but thought the whole time if he was joking and how could he ever think that this was a cool idea of proposin...
A. 11 November 2012: Wow, I would not be over the moon over that proposal either. And, I would tell him that I can't take it seriously.
... (read in full...)
My friend text him pretending to be me and now he won't talk to me... Help!
Q. I've been dating a man for 2 months. He has a lot going on in his life, extremely stressful job and an autistic son that lives 6 hrs away. We've not seen each other much in the last 3 weeks because of this, but we have kept in constant contact. ...
A. 11 November 2012: I don't think he honestly believes it was your friend that sent the text. It DOES sound more like something a high school student would no not a grown woman. DID you confront your friend? Does she know what domino effect SHE started in YOUR ... (read in full...)
How do I cope seeing him with someone else when we still live together?
Q. Hi, first of all, no I should not have let myself get into this position, I know. But here I am. I'm in my second year of university, living with a group of friends from halls, one of which I dated for a couple of months during first year. I fell ...
A. 11 November 2012: I agree with Cerberus, STOP sleeping with him. Since you can't move out nor can he you will HAVE to accept that what you two had wasn't serious from his side. I know that might hurt a bit, but it seems to be the facts.
I know you intellec... (read in full...)
What on earth is he playing at???
Q. Hi, I have never been very good about reading signals from men... recently at work a guy has started to make it obvious he is interested. It has been a little strange, as not the usual chatting trying to get to know me better, more he seems to ...
A. 10 November 2012: Honestly, since you work with the guy, I would not try and move this along nor would I continue to flirt and/or let him touch me.
He is NOT interested in you as a date/partner but as someone who he can flirt with to make himself look/feel good. I ... (read in full...)
I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: I'm TWICE you age and honestly I still expect a gift. It doesn't HAVE to be expensive for me, but I would prefer if it was something for ME not anyone else, if you know what I mean.
Hopefully he will make it up to you. Maybe you two need to set r... (read in full...)
Two years after breaking up we are still having sex!
Q. I am In Love with my ex of five years we only been broke up for two and he has a girlfriend and I have been having sex with him cause I love him alott when he leaves me I am sick to my stomach I can't even sleep. I ask him if e loves her and he ...
A. 10 November 2012: You need to cut all contact with him. HE isn't loving you back, he is JUST using you as a slab of meat on the side.
If he is STILL with his new GF, I'm betting he DOES love her, but if he told you YES, I love you you might cut him off and he can't... (read in full...)
I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: I would be miffed too. I can in a way understand if he didn't do anything as far as dinner out, I would honestly wait til Fri/Sat to do so, rather then during the work-week BUT I would SURELY let my partner know that something WAS planned for the ... (read in full...)
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