Am I rushing the wedding bells?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship for 10 months with a wonderful man. We see each other every day and spend weekends together. Our families have intertwined and everything is going great. When should I be expecting a marriage proposal? I'm 43 ...
A. 28 November 2012: Honestly, I do think you are rushing it.
I mean what is the hurry? It's not like you have an expiration date when it comes to marriage.
I would talk to him about what he thinks - you already know that marriage is something he can see in the f... (read in full...)
I really like him, but I don't think he likes me, even though he flirts with me.
Q. So, I met this freshman(I'm a junior) boy this year of school. He seemed great and all at first, but dorky and young. He started flirting with me, or so I and everyone else thought. He always spends lunch with me, he takes my phone, he messes with ...
A. 28 November 2012: In the US guys are raised to believe that "cheer leaders" are the "standard" in High School. As in, if you date a cheer leader you will instantly be "DA MAN!" and become popular.
Just like girls are thought that going out with the captain of the f... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 28 November 2012: I agree with YOS.
Biology has a LOT to do with it.
But in all honesty - do as you please, if your brother can't handle it, don't involve him in it.
I also DO think that is comes down to how religion has shaped the society. I mean FIND me ... (read in full...)
How to not get attached if I am the rebound
Q. My boyfriend (19) is on a rebound, I can tell. And I (19) am his rebound. I am moving away by next year August to another state for sure, so when this guy came up to me, I accepted to date him. Things have moved FAST. 2 weeks and we are already very ...
A. 28 November 2012: Sleeping with him sooner will not make you "care" less. It can have quite the opposite effect, whether you like it or not.
Slow down. GET to know him (and I don't mean text like crazy and post stuff on FB back and forth) but SPEND time together... (read in full...)
Will I ever have children?? :(
Q. I had been on the depo injection for 5 years until may 6 months ago. There's still no sign of a period. Myself and my husband are trying for a child but to no avail. My doctor never warned me of any dangers involving depo. I have recently read of ...
A. 28 November 2012: You have ONLY been trying to get pregnant for 6 months- it can take a lot longer then that.
Make an appointment with your doctor and figure out what the next step is. ... (read in full...)
We don't like her, so we bully her. I think she's going to report us, any advice?
Q. in my friendship group there are 20 of us and we're all really close. since about yr6 we've been friends with this other girl,bertha, in yr7 we had a fall out. i felt really bad so i apologised to her face she accepted it, but did not apologise ...
A. 28 November 2012: I HOPE she reports you all.
What you are doing is SERIOUSLY wrong and you know it.
At your age friendships break and sometimes mend - sometimes they stay broken but that DOESN'T give you the right to BULLY anyone.
PUT yourself in her s... (read in full...)
I fear I've been used by a man I met on a dating site.
Q. I have been such a fool. I joined a dating site and met what seemed like a man in a million. He was a good listener, polite and we clicked. He took me for a meal and we ended up at my home, we talked and he listened to my problems and then we slept ...
A. 28 November 2012: I think it's pretty obvious that he used you. Could be he is married and trolled dating site for on-night stands. It is not uncommon. It could be he is just on the dating site to met women for NSA sex. I would be surprised if he has done thing kind ... (read in full...)
One day my partner can be the sweetest person ever and the next he can be so mean that it can bring me to tears.
Q. Hi everyone, I have a partner i love to pieces and he loves me. But sometimes it can be strange. One day he can be the sweetest person ever and the next he can be so mean that it can bring me to tears. He always helps me out if i need it no mat...
A. 27 November 2012: It is 100% NOT you.
I agree with Cerberus - this is a nasty controlling dude. He has you even doubting yourself so much that you can't see that the good in this relationship can NEVER outweigh the bad.... (read in full...)
Question for the girls out there about responding to texts!
Q. I've a question for the girls out there about responding to texts. Ok.....I'll give a quick example on my situation and then you can hopefully ease my impatient side. I was with this girl at my friends 21st Birthday. She was a lovely girl ...
A. 27 November 2012: She isn't interested, I'm sorry.
If she didn't reply all that fast on text and not at all to the "date -invite" - then she isn't interested.
Or did she not text you at all after you gave her your number? If that is the thing, then she really ... (read in full...)
Is he a narcissist? He's jekyll and hyde and I never know what to expect from him..
Q. i am a mess. i have recently split from my partner who i believe may be a narcissist. im not sure where to begin, but this is what ive come to believe and know -he is jekyll and hyde. there is no predicting how he will act toward me from one day ...
A. 27 November 2012: Sounds like he is over all toxic to you.
I mean if you read your own post would you think, THAT is a healthy relationship with two even partners?
He does sound like he has some narcissistic tendencies, but you need to take some responsibility f... (read in full...)
How can I find out if this girl likes me without putting myself completely out there?
Q. By nature, I have always been a bit on the anti-social side. I'm more comfortable in my own company rather than with most people I know. However, there is this girl that has started to work on my floor over a week ago. I instantly had a ...
A. 27 November 2012: She ONLY started to work there little over a week ago, she might be interested but she doesn't know you and visa versa.
Why not chat when you run into her ?
There is no litmus test to see if a girl likes you and if you tend to play it cool and... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has lent an ex-girlfriend £200 of our joint money and she hasn't paid a penny back
Q. My boyfrind of just over 2 years has just lent an ex-girlfriend £200 of our joint money. This was 6 weeks ago now and she hasn't paid a penny back. I reluctantly agreed to this because my boyfrind tells me's a good man and she is now just a friend ...
A. 27 November 2012: Tell your BF to sit her down and make a pay-us-back plan.
YOU and your BF find a number you think is reasonable and then she needs to pay back £ each paycheck.
Though in all honesty.. I would have put my foot down and said no. If HE wanted to ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me!
Q. I am concerned my boyfriend is cheating on me. I have had suspicions before as in our first year of University I heard him talking, drunkenly, to one of his other flat mates about how he would love to sleep with this other girl he lived with and ...
A. 27 November 2012: Well considering HOW he treats you I would just end it. Cheating or not, that is not OK.
I would venture a GUESS, that he is in fact cheating, maybe not physically but emotionally with the girl on his phone/work and that is why he is pushing ... (read in full...)
How long should it take before relationship becomes exclusive?
Q. We've been dating for the past 8 months. How long should it take before relationship becomes exclusive?...
A. 27 November 2012: I would say within the first maybe 2 months if you see a lot of each other and DEFINITELY before having sex. You kind of know if this is a person you want to be with all the time or not after 2 months time - maybe not "forever" with but definitely ... (read in full...)
How did I get HPV if I have had only 1 sexual partner?
Q. So I got a Pap smear recently and my doctor told me I had abnormal results and needed a colposcopy. The results from that showed that I'm HPV + ! However I have only been with 1 person sexually my whole life, my current boyfriend. He on the ...
A. 27 November 2012: There currently isn't a test that can reveal if a guy has HVP (unless he gets an outbreak with genital warts). So he might not have been aware that he had been "infected".
IT IS NOT the number of partners YOU have had, but as nasty as it sounds -... (read in full...)
He's been separated for 6 years but wont get a divorce, am I a mug for staying with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months, he has been separated from his wife for 6 years! But still isn't divorced! He says she means nothing to him and its only a piece of paper. We have bought a house together and I have 1 child and he ...
A. 27 November 2012: Well the "so-not-an-ex" will never entirely be out of his life, because they share children.
BUT personally I wouldn't be with a man who has no intentions to get a divorce from his "so-not-ex". What is his reason for not wanting a divorce?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly brings up my past, how do I get him to see I've changed and help us move on together?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 11 months. 16 months ago I split up from my husband and went a little crazy, craving attention from absolutely any guy I met. I slept with a few guys but would also get guys numbers and constantly text them and email ...
A. 27 November 2012: YOUR past is just that.. YOUR past. He doesn't need to know every juicy detail of whom you slept with and talked to in order to move on. But he might need to know certain things in order to accept it, for give it and file it away - and since YOU ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that I can't trust him because of this co-worker!
Q. Hi, I am looking for some advice. I have been in a relationship with my partner for the past 6 years. I always trusted him, I felt I had no reason not to. Last month we got invited to his work mates engagement party and he said it would be best if ...
A. 27 November 2012: If this really happened WHY hasn't he been looking for a new job?
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Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 27 November 2012: Einstein said it the best..
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Albert Einstein
If you KNOW she will NOT stay off the dating site, she will NOT take responsibility for her action and she w... (read in full...)
Is our relationship doomed? He, (45) verbally abused me (19) when I queried his actions.
Q. I found out my partner has been lying to me. It's been going on for months until last week when I asked him why he has been lying to me (iv'e been honest, not cheated nor played around) Instead of him explaining he just verbally abused me a...
A. 27 November 2012: So you were with a 40 year old when you were 14?
Or is the relationship new but you have known him for 5?
He sounds like an immature dickwad - trying to pull the IT ALL YOUR fault! instead of owning up to his own lies and mistakes.
My ... (read in full...)
Have I trained myself to orgasm only with this vibrator?
Q. I'm only able to have an orgasm with the [insertion type vibrator]. I have been successful once in a great great while with just manual stimulation. Is there any ladies who have been in a similar situation but have been able to become orgasmic ...
A. 27 November 2012: I think it's quite possible. Go cold turkey. STOP using the buz buz - use your fingers.
You do have to "retrain" your body to receive is vigorous gratification.
I would compare it to a guy who is SO used to his right/left hand that he can't ke... (read in full...)
I have refused to do this. So why is my Bf obsessed with wanting to see me do oral with another guy. What else can I say to him?
Q. hi i am in a long term relationship since my teen years and the last 4 years long distance. but late 1 year my guy has been obsessed about seeimg me doing oral with another guy. i have always said no. but he has kept on asking for this.. i dont kn...
A. 27 November 2012: Get a big mirror place it NEXT to the bed so he can WATCH you do him...
And tell him if he brings it up again, you are DONE. (and then BE done).
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Why did my ex girlfriend do this?
Q. I'm very disturbed by an action my ex girlfriend did. Why I don't like her in any way is because, when she dumped me, she lied to me, and wanted to be friends. This is why I don't like, nor do I trust her. However, this action isn't what d...
A. 27 November 2012: Why is she still curious about Autism? Honestly, til you met a person, or know a person who has or has dealt with an affliction you may not pay much attention to it. (I mean a general you, not you specifically)
The thing is though, it's impossi... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend but I know it wull hurt her so badly. How do I let her down gently?
Q. I have ben with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years, she is the year above me so we are in different schools. I love her so much and don't want to hurt her but she doesn't excite me anymore and all we do is argue. I feel like she is holding me back ...
A. 26 November 2012: Just let her down gently.
Staying with her while you make go-go eyes at another girl is just cruel.
Tell her you think the two of you have grown apart. That is doesn't feel right when all you do is fight with each other. That you wish her luc... (read in full...)
My wife told me she would leave me if I didn't stop seeing my friend.
Q. Back in May of this year my wife and I had new neighbors move in after being introduced to each other we came to find out he was from England and I grew up in Ireland we instantly hit it off seeing as we both had so much in common as far as sports ...
A. 26 November 2012: With your last two answers it seems like something else is going on with your wife.
Talk to her. Ask her straight out what the problem is. I don't think it's you spending time with your friend I think she is unhappy with her own lack of a social l... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that I can't trust him because of this co-worker!
Q. Hi, I am looking for some advice. I have been in a relationship with my partner for the past 6 years. I always trusted him, I felt I had no reason not to. Last month we got invited to his work mates engagement party and he said it would be best if ...
A. 26 November 2012: This is 100% fishy.
I would be honest with him and tell him STRAIGHT to his face that you don't believe a word of this. Now he can get defensive and try and pin this back on you or the "evil" female co-worker but if it truly is innocent, he would... (read in full...)
Why did my ex girlfriend do this?
Q. I'm very disturbed by an action my ex girlfriend did. Why I don't like her in any way is because, when she dumped me, she lied to me, and wanted to be friends. This is why I don't like, nor do I trust her. However, this action isn't what d...
A. 26 November 2012: I'm sorry you are still hurting for how she treated you, but in all honesty she can Pin-interest ANY subject she wants. Maybe dating you made her curious or fascinated with Autism.
People Pin-interest all kind of stuff, like some choose cancer, ... (read in full...)
Why would my guy want to be friends with his ex after everything she did?
Q. My man was with a women 7 months and she cheated, stole, destroyed his heart and now he wants to be friends with her and she wont leave him alone. How can i make her go away???? Why would he want to be involved with her after that at all anyway? I ...
A. 26 November 2012: Like SVC said YOU CAN NOT make HER or this go away. ONLY he can. If he WANTS to be friends with her he is not over her, plain and simple.
Why do people do some of the weird things people do? It's hard to say. For him, I would imagine that he thing... (read in full...)
What am I dealing with? His drinking problem or something else?
Q. please help, my husband of 14 years has had a drink problem for years which has got worse over the past 3 years [he has been drinking 3/4 of a liter bottle of vodka a night and gets "out of it" does stupid things like texting/messaging girls/wo...
A. 26 November 2012: He left because he likes drinking more then being a husband and dad. Alcoholism is like any other addiction - it takes over and run their life (and that of those close to them) and it will continue to run his life until he ADMIT he has a problem and ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with my libido? It was good at first but then as time went on it started to hurt. Now I'm just not in the mood
Q. Hi everyone. So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We first had sex when I was 16 and him 17. It was good at first but then as time went on it started to hurt but I'm just not in the mood for it...ever! I'd happily just have a ...
A. 26 November 2012: If something hurts you then it is logic that you don't want to continue doing it, correct?
If you hurt your head smacking it into a brick wall - then you would automatically NOT want to do that ever again.
First of all go get yourself to a Gy... (read in full...)
Why did my teacher only invite me and none of the other students to his birthday party? He's 24 Does he love me?.
Q. I've have been in the big trouble! I have fallen in love with my teacher, and I wonder if he loves me too. The way he looks at me and he also looks at me a lot! My friends already thought I'm crazy. They said it's impossible to love the teacher ...
A. 26 November 2012: He invinted you because he is INAPPROPRIATE - and no, honey he doesn't LOVE you. He might feel LUST for a little school girl.
And yes a 24 year old TEACHER should stay far far away from 16 year old students.... (read in full...)
What am I dealing with? His drinking problem or something else?
Q. please help, my husband of 14 years has had a drink problem for years which has got worse over the past 3 years [he has been drinking 3/4 of a liter bottle of vodka a night and gets "out of it" does stupid things like texting/messaging girls/wo...
A. 26 November 2012: You know, drinking doesn't make anyone text or message random chicks. That is the lamest excuse ever - the VODKA made me do it.
Instead of being a man, he ran home to his mom. Instead of owning his actions and admitting that he is an alcoholi... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship after the "where are we going" conversation! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in an exclusive relationship for almost three years (both of us over 45). We see each other five times a week, taking turns sleeping at each other's home. My home is a lot for me to take care of (large yard and pool), n...
A. 26 November 2012: Only you can really answer if this was the right thing.
Since it looks like from your post that you wanted and expected marriage and he isn't interested in marriage (at least not right now) you two may not be on the same page.
To me though ... (read in full...)
I care, but I don't care?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 9 months now. There's some issues though. I care about her, but I really don't know if I care about her. I know it sounds weird, but it's what I've concluded to be the case. I care about her because ...
A. 26 November 2012: First off, it's a good thing that you have spend time thinking about doing the right thing. It means you care about her, but perhaps not as a GF, but as a fellow human being. BIG difference there.
Don't try and "make up" reasons to end it with her... (read in full...)
Do you think he contacted me because he wanted to move on and close this door for good?
Q. I met this man over a year ago after chatting online. We hit it off. He lives in another state but he flew in to meet with me and have dinner. We had a great time and he went home. He contacted me the next day to say he wanted to come back again ...
A. 26 November 2012: I agree with Sage here. I think it was a birthday greetings no more, no less.
However, if he keeps "popping" into your life here and there to "check up" on you he is HOLDING you back from moving on. Because YOU will keep harboring hope that he ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to fix the problems with my Gf since she cheated. WHAT should I do?
Q. I need help. I have a girlfriend who, like me had a rough childhood, which has ultimately made us both kinda crazy. When we are happy, it is obvious we are in love, but when we are mad, you would think we have been married for 45 years. She...
A. 26 November 2012: I agree with the other answers. Pot didn't MAKE her cheat. Just like being drunk isn't an excuse to cheat, or being dumb.
How do you fix it?
Well, first of all you lost your trust and faith in your GF. THAT is a given, when people cheat on... (read in full...)
My wife told me she would leave me if I didn't stop seeing my friend.
Q. Back in May of this year my wife and I had new neighbors move in after being introduced to each other we came to find out he was from England and I grew up in Ireland we instantly hit it off seeing as we both had so much in common as far as sports ...
A. 26 November 2012: You spend 70% with your friend and what 10-20% with the wife and kids and 10% by yourself?
Does that not seem out of balance to you?
Learn to compromise.
Is this the first time she has mentioned you spending more time with your friend th... (read in full...)
My relationship's been ruined by my boyfriend taking drugs. Advice?
Q. I've broken up with my first boyfriend of 9 months today for the second time. I lost my virginity to him, he was my first proper love and i planned to have a future with him. We first split up 2 months ago shortly after he...
A. 25 November 2012: IF.... you get a call like that again..... call 911 or 999 (I think it is in the UK) and pass on the information.
He could have overdosed, he could have acute alcohol poisoning BOTH need serious medical attention.
And GOOD FOR YOU in deciding ... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend and I just laugh off the weird noises during sex?
Q. Since our 1st time a couple of months ago me and my girlfriend are now enjoying regular intercourse.We've started moving our bodies more to increase the pleasure.What's started to happen though is my girlfriend has begun to release a pooping sound ...
A. 25 November 2012: It's called queffing or "fanny farts". It is quite normal and for most girls quite embarrassing.
Don't make her feel bad. Put on some music and don't sweat it. It's not GAS it is trapped air.... (read in full...)
Should I propose for a second time? Thoughts please!!
Q. What a god damn cliche I'm about to spew, but it's the truth and I need guidance. Girl moves next door in 5th grade, boy befriends girl. They become best friends by the summer before 6th grade and continue this sexually frustrating relationship ...
A. 25 November 2012: I would, BEFORE, you propose again, sit her down and have serious chat about the future together.
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My relationship's been ruined by my boyfriend taking drugs. Advice?
Q. I've broken up with my first boyfriend of 9 months today for the second time. I lost my virginity to him, he was my first proper love and i planned to have a future with him. We first split up 2 months ago shortly after he...
A. 25 November 2012: If he is getting into Meth, is abusive and not able to trust you then YES of course it was the right thing to end it.
Someone in their teens, like yourself is NOT equipped to help someone stop doing drugs - and as drugs go Meth is pretty hard cor... (read in full...)
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