No contact but he is blowing up my phone
Q. I did it in person, I did it as nice as possible, I did it affirmatively. I have ended the relationship, but he has not put me in the past. It's been a month and everyday it's 15 or more texts. So after the 2nd week I text him saying, "I'm sorry ...
A. 6 December 2012: Judging by the "quality " of the texts I would have guessed he was 15 not 55.. Wow. I think you dodged a really crappy guy there.
Hang in there, hopefully he will find someone else to bug.
BUT stay safe. He doesn't sounds quite right in the hea... (read in full...)
Did I take my daughter's happiness away? I think her and my new stepson have feelings for each other
Q. Summer 2012, I got married for the first time at age 52 to a 37 year old woman. We met on eHarmony Spring 2012 and things just clicked. She was married once before for two years and has a 20 year old son. I have a 19 year old daughter. My issue is ...
A. 6 December 2012: They aren't siblings. They are step siblings. I see nothing wrong in it.
THOUGH if it doesn't work out it can become rather awkward for the whole mixed family.. Such is life.
Let the two of them figure it out. It might end up jsut being a fli... (read in full...)
My partner said I ruined his life!
Q. Hi, I feel terrible and ill because my partner has basically said i have ruined his life. We got together a few years ago in uni and had been saving for ages to get a house together. due to him being a little hot and cold (loved me but didnt...
A. 6 December 2012: I will agree fully with the other answers. YOU did not ruin his life.
HE might feel that way, because THAT is MUCH easier for him to say/feel then actually OWN his own "failures" or mistakes.
Life is a series of lessons. Some we learn from ma... (read in full...)
How do I try and remain civil with this woman when I never want to see her again?
Q. I have been with my current partner for almost 3 years, been living together for almost 2 years, known each other for a long time. We have a good relationship, he is my best friend and is very supportive. About 9 months ago I cut off contact with...
A. 6 December 2012: I'm sorry, she WAY overstepped the boundaries and I understand your anger 100%. For me this is ABSOLUTELY unforgivable.
SHE used this VERY personal and private information to put herself in a position of "gossip power" You know the people who will... (read in full...)
He says he can't marry me because I've been divorced and have a child. His parents would never approve of me.
Q. i am 27 years and my boyfriend have 26 we r met 5 years before and my mother died when was young i got married when i was 19 and due to some problemwe r seperated and i had a kid now he was seven years my problem is before 5 years i met this guy he ...
A. 6 December 2012: If there is no future with his guy WHY keep him around?
Isn't he then just using you? Til something more parent appropriate comes along that they WILL accept?... (read in full...)
No contact but he is blowing up my phone
Q. I did it in person, I did it as nice as possible, I did it affirmatively. I have ended the relationship, but he has not put me in the past. It's been a month and everyday it's 15 or more texts. So after the 2nd week I text him saying, "I'm sorry ...
A. 6 December 2012: I would also look into blocking his number. You dumped him and he refuses to accept it, I would NOT contact him back, HE KNOWS - he just doesn't ACCEPT.
I would ignore, ignore, ignore if you can not block him.
If he shows up at your house DO... (read in full...)
He's always needing money, always questioning my feelings for him, and never wants to go out or do anything.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months, I love his personality and sense of humor...but seems like he never has any money and he makes more than i. he asked me a couple of weeks ago to make his house payment for him because he was three ...
A. 6 December 2012: Good for you! And good luck to you.... (read in full...)
I hate my job, I miss my boyfriend, I'm making myself miserable!
Q. Hello, can I get some advice? :) I'm 22 and I recently finished a post-grad degree at University. I have a part time job (which I really dislike, but I took for the money) but very little money saved at the moment because a lot of it went towards ...
A. 5 December 2012: I would NOT quit til you get a better job. I'm sorry but I would rather have a sucky job then no job.
As for missing your BF, set up some Skype Dates and try and see if the both of you can come up with an ACTUAL plan that can help you two move in ... (read in full...)
I thought we were in a committed relationship, but he's been dating someone else while dating me.
Q. I have been dating a man for 9 months now. All along I have considered this a serious, mognogamous relationship. I recently found out that until about a month ago he had been dating another woman as well. I was crushed, but he said until now he ...
A. 5 December 2012: Let me get this straight... So for the FIRST 8 months with this guy he was dating two girls? And not telling you til you found out yourself?
I'm sorry I would call his BS. If you two had ALREADY decided and had the "exclusive" talk, he shouldn'... (read in full...)
Is revenge a good idea?
Q. hii im a PG student... and i have ben tortured by my lecturer a lot.. she also encourages other lecturers to give less marks even though they give good marks for me... she never teaches well.. i dont attend her class fully... i still have attended ...
A. 5 December 2012: You know the saying: "Two wrongs never make a right?"
Don't sink to her level. And perhaps she is hounding you because you are only attending 60% of her classes. She is making an example of you for her class - maybe to try and get others to atten... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be upset about my husband not wanting to delete pictures of him and his ex together?
Q. my husband and have been married for almost 2 years and he knows that i have a jealous problem, (no bad) but today he was looking at old pics and he went by a pic of him in his ex's room and in back ground there were pics of her and him together, i ...
A. 5 December 2012: Honey, you can't erase the fact that he has a past, I don't see why he should have to delete them, UNLESS they are of a sexual nature or displayed around a shared home between you and him.
... (read in full...)
If I ask someone if they are dating and the response is "I won't answer that." What does it mean?
Q. I ask my ex girlfriend if she is dating someone and her answer was "I'm not going to answer that", what does she mean?...
A. 5 December 2012: Like Auntie BimBim said,
She doesn't believe it is ANY of your business.... (read in full...)
I feel so stupid for falling in love with someone who doesn't feel the same
Q. I hate myself for falling in love with this guy. He told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship from the beginning. I was ok I thought it would be ok because he wasn't my type. Low and behold I fell for him hard. Now he makes excuses not to ...
A. 5 December 2012: Well, seems like you need to RESPECT this guy's wishes and back off.
He doesn't WANT to talk to you, because he doesn't want to string you along or give you hope that he might some day perhaps like you back. He could tell you to go fly a kite, bu... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me and wants to communicate again. I feel guilty for refusing her request, advice?
Q. My ex has recently contacted me after no contact for six years. We had been together for 18 years and she left me for another man. I have found out that she got married and now has separated from the guy she left me for. The split really hur...
A. 5 December 2012: If you aren't really or willing to "invite" her back into your life then THAT IS OK!
I would however drop her a short email- just saying no, thanks I'm not interested in communicating with you - wish her well and then no more.
She might sti... (read in full...)
Would I be better off without him? He makes me feel like shit much of the time.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, after a very shaky beginning of being on/off for about 6 months before that. I've never felt this way about anyone before, but I've also never felt so bad about myself since I started liking him. It's ...
A. 5 December 2012: I think you DO know what to do, you are just not ready or willing to do it.
I'm just wondering if you think you can't do better then him or that you somehow deserve this treatment, if no is the answer to both - then WHY haven't you dumped him alre... (read in full...)
How soon after a missed period should you take a pregnancy test?
Q. How long would you wait after a missed period to take a pregnancy test? I am not irregular, since I have started tracking my period 5 months ago it was always the same time 30 days apart. Yet I was supposed to start on Monday and still no period... ...
A. 5 December 2012: I would wait 2 week and do the digital type pregnancy test. Some tests CAN tell you earlier though.
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Everything is ruined because of a silly text.
Q. I was in a group message with my crush and one day I sent a picture about him and he got really mad. I texted him separately and he apologized for getting really mad and I thought things were going to be OK. Then he canceled plans to go out with ...
A. 4 December 2012: Let him go. You apologized he didn't totally accept it and he wants nothing to do with you.
STOP trying to go all out for people like that specially if you do it in the hopes that they will return the favor.
Let him cool his heals, either he... (read in full...)
I just found out that my boyfriend got another girl pregnant (before we got together) and dumped her.
Q. I just found out today that before I was with my boyfriend, he had sex with other girls, got them pregnant, told them he would marry them If he had too then left them. I'm so confused this is the first guy that I have really seen having a long ...
A. 4 December 2012: He says he wants to marry you so HE CAN GET INTO YOUR PANTIES!!
It's not that he really love you.
Worst case scenario.. He will get YOU pregnant and dump you too and because he has to pay child support to other children you won't get much f... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the office bullies?
Q. Dear all, I attended the party and got really drunk. I was so wasted that I did not know what I said or did. I was told I had gone crazy and behaved totally different from my quiet image. I am a decent person.I know I made a mistake and I am...
A. 4 December 2012: Next time someone brings it up, just tell them it's yesterdays news. That YOU are so over it and you would appreciate if they can stop bringing it up.
All I can say is, LEARN from this. Watch the alcohol at office parties. You can have plenty o... (read in full...)
I feel like my perceptions ate getting twisted and I'm not even sure what I want anymore.
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend because he wasn't listening to me or taking my feelings seriously but he kept on trying to meet me and after 2 months I met him again. I told him it was just to talk about stuff, try and help him get clarity as he had so ...
A. 4 December 2012: Ok, so what DO you want really?
Seems to me you don't WANT to be with him, and if that is the case BLOCK him from your life 100%. Don't talk on the phone or text or e-mail and what not - STOP being so vague - just tell him FLAT out, I don't se... (read in full...)
Just a question: how long would you wait after sex before breaking up?
Q. Just a question: how long would you wait after sex before breaking up? I imagine, having sex and then breaking up with someone on the same day would be unacceptable. So do you guys or girls have any set rules? Do you wait a certain time leng...
A. 4 December 2012: I don't think there is any general breakup/sex etiquette. My first BF and I agreed that we either needed to break up or take a break. We then made a nice dinner together and yes had sex, the next morning we packed up my stuff and he helped me move ... (read in full...)
Should I go against my girl's wishes and spend time with my ex and our son on Christmas?
Q. I have 9 month old son with my ex girlfriend who left me before our son was born. I didn't want to be a father at first which is why she left me. I told her that I couldn't afford a child and we are too young ( Shes 21 I'm 24) I was a total dick ...
A. 4 December 2012: I like Cerberus' compromise.
I think it's RIDICULOUS that your ex-gf expects you to sleep over... Talk to her and find a time in the morning, that will make sense for the both of you and the little man - then go over and spend a couple of house wi... (read in full...)
Why did she want me back, only to end up on the dating sites again?
Q. I had lost count on how many times I had found my girlfriend on dating sites and chat rooms that focus on flrting. She either lied to me about being on them or played it down to them just being harmless internet friends and me being jealous. I ended ...
A. 4 December 2012: Why?
Well the easy answer is - because she could. You "enabled" her by agreeing to dating again and not holding her responsible for her own actions.
She obviously isn't THAT good of a liar, so instead of making up stories, she goes on the offe... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on having an extemely self-centered, selfish, hypocritical friend?
Q. Z and I started hanging out with each other (met her through my close friend Y) at college, and at first I thought she was a very fun, talkative, and easy-going person. She just has that charm when she first meets new friends. Z and I would spent ...
A. 4 December 2012: First of all DROP this chick Z - she is NOT a friend.
Secondly, you can still keep seeing your other friend just stop hanging out with her one-on-one and if you know she is going to be there, don't give her any ammo. Or decide not to go that day... (read in full...)
He doesn't want anymore children and wants me to give this one up for adoption, so what do I choose, being a single mother or giving up my baby?
Q. I need help. Me and my boyfriend of 8 years are expecting again. Unfortunately for me, he doesnt want anymore children. He has expressed this to me before even before our first child, but he knew since I was 11 years younger than him and didnt have ...
A. 4 December 2012: Well there is no way I would give up my child because he doesn't/didn't want another child with you.
It's a day late and a dollar short for him to make SUCH a decision.
IF he TRULY didn't want more kids, he should have gotten a vasectomy and ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are cheating on our new partners together, what should I do? Part of me wants to end it with both of them, part of me wants to get back with my ex!
Q. Before anyone says im a slag or idoit or whatever i know i am. Ive been having an affair with my ex behide our new partners backs. The thing is we never really broke up in the first place, we live in different areas of our city now but we would ...
A. 4 December 2012: Well, seems like you know what you are doing is wrong, however... you keep doing it. Because YOU get something out of it. Screw what's morally right and wrong... I'm not going to tell you what I really think about that, because I'm not sure it ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend hasn't spoken to me in 2 weeks and I'm slowly losing feelings for him, how can I find out what is going on?
Q. I'm confused. He hasnt talked to me like almost for 2weeks.. I'm scared i might loose him. He's the one that always made me smile. He was the one that made my heart beat faster.. Now idk anymore... He's my long distance boyfriend and he hasn't ...
A. 4 December 2012: Have you two ever met in "real life" off the computer - face to face? If not... My guess is that he lost interest in this "fantasy relationship" because he met a girl locally.
Do you not have his phone number? ... (read in full...)
I just found my boyfriend on a gay website...
Q. I have just found my boyfriend on a gay website and on a dating website. We have been together for 6 months and we are very close and he's really close with my 2 kids. I have asked him about this and he says he didn't set up the gay 1 and that he ...
A. 4 December 2012: Things that make you go hmmm..
She somehow KNEW your e-mail address and mailed you old naked photos of your BF and when you didn't react she sent you a link to a gay dating site..
Normally I would think your dude has way to good explanation... (read in full...)
He hasn't text me in 2 weeks, should I contact him or move on?
Q. The guy i've been seeing for the past two months hasn't texted me in two weeks... I'm not sure if that's a sign that I should move on, or if I should contact him? Things were going brilliant with us, so I don't know why he has just stopped texting ...
A. 4 December 2012: I would pick up the phone and CALL him. It's not as easy to ignore a phone call as it is a text.
But in general 2 weeks and NEITHER of you try and contact each other? seems like you are still in the "I'm not sure I want to date this person p... (read in full...)
Why does he keep changing his mind?
Q. so my boyfriend of two years broke up with me i was totally wrecked apart i kept texting him and calling him n he said we need time off we cant get back together right now so i stop texting and calling n send him a letter telling him it was fine ...
A. 4 December 2012: Honey, he is OVER you.
You really need to block his number, defriend him on Facebook and work on getting over him.
BEGGING someone to love you back, to stay doesn't work. If becomes clingy.
You care about him, he doesn't care for you in ... (read in full...)
We lost our first baby and now he is reluctant to talk about trying again, should I just go ahead and get pregnant anyway?
Q. Last summer i fell pregnant with our first child, however sadly i lost the baby a few weeks later. Myself and my boyfriend didn't handle it very well and we constantly fought and at one point we broke up due to the constant pressure from everyone ...
A. 3 December 2012: No, that isn't right.
If he isn't READY he isn't ready.
And YES that would be cruel and inconsiderate.... (read in full...)
My husband is spending Christmas in Australia without me!
Q. My husband of a year and 9 months decided to go on hols to Australia for 6 weeks (he only works at peak seasonal times) - i couldn't get off work. He rang at weekend saying he was gonna stay with his mates over christmas and new year. I am totally ...
A. 3 December 2012: Don't you have any family or friends you can spend Christmas with?
I DO think that his choice to stay in Australia over Christmas seems really selfish. If his work there is done he should WANT to come home to you.
It seems to me that he has a... (read in full...)
What should be shared in a relationship and what should be private?
Q. What should be shared in a relationship after a year and 3 months? Is it wrong to want to see his facebook, cell phone etc? I have no problem showing mine! I feel like people with nothing to hide, hide nothing and all he says he wants is privacy! ...
A. 3 December 2012: My husband and I have total access - but I have never checked his Facebook or his phone.
Why should I? I trust him and I really don't think I need to monitor him. Why would I need to know what he posts on FB or who he talks to on there? He tells... (read in full...)
My 16 year old son is in love with a woman who is 24 years older than him!
Q. My 16 year old son is in love with a woman 24 years older than hisself, he met her when he was in a Subway with friends, he's told me theyve been secretly dating for over a month now and that the relationships not based on sex but proper love. She's ...
A. 3 December 2012: I'm sorry, if the genders were reversed we would all call him a PREDATOR. SHE IS A predator in my book.
WHAT the heck does a 40+ year old woman have in common with a 16 year old BOY? Not a thing, unless she is EXTREMELY immature.
Now if you so... (read in full...)
My Ex took my daughter to meet his new "friend" and they stayed the night at hers!
Q. Hello. I desperately need to get this off my chest and see what other people thought. my ex has our 4 yr old daughter every other weekend, and yesterday was one of them. Today i found out he took her to London to meet his new "friend" and they stay...
A. 3 December 2012: I think ANYONE (mom or dad) needs to take a GOOD LONG time to get to know a new partner (minimum 5-7 months) before introducing them to their children. Because it gets too confusing if the partners are changed out too often.
You daughter is 4, so... (read in full...)
Would you commit to someone who treated you like this?
Q. Hello -- I've been with a girl (30) for 15 months now. Initially everything was great, but as the months wore on, some issues have came to light. She's pushing hard for commitment; living together, marriage, kids eventually, etc, and is threatening ...
A. 3 December 2012: You may be inexperienced in how to have a good relationship because you are in a rotten one. THIS is NOT going to get better no matter WHAT you do.
First off if she has ANY passwords of yours, change them NOW - same goes with access to bank acc... (read in full...)
Can fingering lead to the loss of virginity?
Q. Can fingering (sex) leads to disvirgin, especially in a case of bleeding? ...
A. 3 December 2012: No, BUT it can break your hymen but in more
technical terms" to lose your virginity it means penis in vagina.
If intact hymen = virgin in your country, and you want to stay a virgin, I suggest NOTHING gets inserted in your vagina.
... (read in full...)
A friend has asked me to have a threesome with himself and another male friend of his. Should I do this?
Q. A man I have liked quietly for some time and known for over a year reently messaged out the blue with a few out of character messages. We have always just been casual friends as he is with many people. These messages were very come onish and at ...
A. 2 December 2012: Do you really want pictures of yourself possibly floating around out there of you having 3-somes? And what is going to happen with these pictures?
And do you want to do this in hope that the guy will like you better? Or are you tempted because ... (read in full...)
New man wants to take a break because of my crazy ex husband
Q. I'm currently going through a divorce from an emotionally/verbally/physically abusive marriage. We have been separated for 4 mths and divorce is in process.. I started dating one of my good friends about a month ago.. This past week ex started ...
A. 2 December 2012: Honestly, I don't blame him.
His child comes first and drama is never really welcome in most people's lives, specially IF they can avoid it.
And maybe he REALLY needs to figure out if having you in his life is worth it, considering that... (read in full...)
What would my partner do if I suddenly stand up and be strong?
Q. hello, roughly for the last two years in my 3 year relationship i have realised that i have been a pushover. for example if he threatened to leave i would beg him back etc, i apologise for nearly everything, if hes angry or upset i cry afterwards...
A. 2 December 2012: I think he would just use his current bully routine but crank it up some - maybe give you an ultimatum that you stop "acting" up or he will leave.
It honestly sounds like a rather unhealthy relationship. It's his way or the high way and YOU bett... (read in full...)
How do I get b/f to perform anal sex again?
Q. Had anal sex for the first time loved it want to do it again but not sure my boyfriend is into this how can I get him to be for it. ...
A. 2 December 2012: You can't make him like something he doesn't like.
But the thing is with sex, you HAVE to be able to talk open about it with your partner. So talk to him.... (read in full...)
How long do women need foreplay before being turned on?
Q. Hello I've read an artice on internet which showed something different what I've knew until now. In this article is mentioned that to turn a woman on needs at least 15 minutes foreplay and sometimes even more( I thout 5 to 10 minutes its enough) ...
A. 2 December 2012: There is no set "timer" on turning a woman on.
Depending on MANY things a woman can be good to go in 30 seconds other times 30 minutes. Depends on what you do, how well you do it and also the influx of hormones that given day.
If you really... (read in full...)
He's always needing money, always questioning my feelings for him, and never wants to go out or do anything.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months, I love his personality and sense of humor...but seems like he never has any money and he makes more than i. he asked me a couple of weeks ago to make his house payment for him because he was three ...
A. 2 December 2012: Wow, sounds more like a 3rd child then a BF honestly. I don't think he wants a GF he wants a second "mom" someone who will CATER to him every wish and whim.
Sorry if he is in the same age group 36-40 as you I would end it. It's only been 3 months... (read in full...)
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