I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: I'm TWICE you age and honestly I still expect a gift. It doesn't HAVE to be expensive for me, but I would prefer if it was something for ME not anyone else, if you know what I mean.
Hopefully he will make it up to you. Maybe you two need to set r... (read in full...)
Two years after breaking up we are still having sex!
Q. I am In Love with my ex of five years we only been broke up for two and he has a girlfriend and I have been having sex with him cause I love him alott when he leaves me I am sick to my stomach I can't even sleep. I ask him if e loves her and he ...
A. 10 November 2012: You need to cut all contact with him. HE isn't loving you back, he is JUST using you as a slab of meat on the side.
If he is STILL with his new GF, I'm betting he DOES love her, but if he told you YES, I love you you might cut him off and he can't... (read in full...)
I want to give girl a hickey but don't know how
Q. I really want to give my girlfriend a hickey, but i feel like i don't know how, and that'll be embarssing if i mess up.. :( She gave me one, it hurted cause she was also kinda biting at my neck, but it felt good at the same time....
A. 10 November 2012: Hickeys are gross.... (read in full...)
Will I get the sack?
Q. I have just started my first job in a serious role in social services. I am 22. However it has been my first week , no contract yet the admin are very slow and it has been a hard week. Just realised my lunch isn't included in the hours so bas...
A. 10 November 2012: I don't think so, but I do think your your manager appreciate that you did the math and noticed that you OWED them, that mean you are careful, honest and pay attention.
Keep up the good work :)... (read in full...)
I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: I would be miffed too. I can in a way understand if he didn't do anything as far as dinner out, I would honestly wait til Fri/Sat to do so, rather then during the work-week BUT I would SURELY let my partner know that something WAS planned for the ... (read in full...)
Where can I buy lingerie to surprise hubby for his bday
Q. Hi aunt and uncles. My q is in regards to lingerie. There arent any local places to buy lingerie and I have a harder time now that Im plus size, US 16/18. Does anyone know any good websites for plus size lingerie that has variety of colors? Red, ...
A. 9 November 2012: I did a quick google ( like SVC suggested you do) and there are many options:
http://www.lingeriediva.com/plus-size-lingerie?gclid=COf5jLbgwrMCFSemPAodZBIAgA
http://www.hi... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, advice please?
Q. There is this guy I like. We have had a fling in the past n it stopped due to his mates not liking me. Recently he has started to txt every now and again. We meet back up and he started bringing up the past, and asking me how my love life is? Also ...
A. 9 November 2012: Could be he is looking for a F-buddy/FWB.
If he dumped you because his MATES/FRIENDS didn't like you, I don't think he is interested in dating you in the future. The pack has spoken, doesn't mean... he can't "do you" without the guys having a... (read in full...)
I'm confused, some advice please!
Q. I'm still a virgin,but sometimes last month,i and my boyfriend had anal sex and he said he didnt come and i didnt see any sign of blood that my hymen is broken but i've been expectin my period for almost a week now,do you think i'm still a virgin or ...
A. 9 November 2012: To put it bluntly.
There is no hymen in your ass. So if you had ANAL sex - there would be no blood from no hymen.
However if you two did ANAL without protection (which is STUPID) and he ejaculated in your backside - sperm could in ALL pos... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have a problem with me wearing hair extensions?
Q. The guy i'm seeing seems to have a problem with me wearing extensions, it's just getting insulting and tiring now! I don't know whether to get them taken out? I got them in a few weeks ago and all my friends compliment me on my hair, even thoug...
A. 9 November 2012: I'm like this, if you like them keep them and tell him, I'll wear other folks hair if I please.
I know a lady who after losing her hair to chemo got hair extensions sown in when her new hair was long enough and it made her feel better. When a p... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 9 November 2012:
Honey, I'm sorry to say this.. But you can "talk" to him about this til you are blue in the face and he will deny, lie and reflect til the cows come home and IF you decide to stay you will in time believe his crap and believe that you are IN F... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy condoms! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: ...
A. 9 November 2012: Order then online? ... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy condoms! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: ...
A. 9 November 2012: And I forgot to add - I DO NOT believe it's ONLY the guys responsibility to buy condoms EVERY girl should carry some for peace of mind.
BUT if a guy can't buy them or refuse to wear them, he shouldn't have sex.
... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy condoms! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: ...
A. 9 November 2012: I will echo SVC
IF you are too embarrassed to buy condoms you are not ready to have sex.
It's THAT simple. ... (read in full...)
Is it just the alcohol, or does he really know what he's doing?
Q. When my boyfriend is drunk, he always flirts with other girls. He'll grab their boobs etc. Or he lies about things. When I talk to him about this, he always says thats the alcohol talking. Does he really know what he is doing?...
A. 9 November 2012: Oh, he KNOWS what he is doing, he just uses the alcohol as his excuse.
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He says we can't have a relationship if wee don't have sex. I'm not ready for that, and don't know what to do!
Q. I met a guy online..and he has been saying that intimacy goes hand in hand with a relationship.. and he is not willing to compromise on imtimacy... i lied to him once about not being able to make it to a second date.. sinc e i was scared we were ...
A. 9 November 2012: He is trying to guilt you into doing what HE wants. SEX. He was hoping to find a "booty call" kind of girl and he got one who is interested in a relationship.
Don't let him fool you into thinking that IF you have sex you will have a happy relation... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of taking him away from his girlfriend?
Q. Me and a guy at my job has been having a secret relationship for about a year during this time the relationship is a secret everyone knows. He has a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend(me and my boyfriend broke up for un-related reasons) now im singlr ...
A. 9 November 2012: Wow, first of all he sounds like a total scumbag.
Second of all DO you think you have some magic snatch? That if he starts to see you more often or even start to DATE you, that he will be faithful to you? If you DO believe that you are 100% kid... (read in full...)
I still live at home with my parents. My mother is ill and in need of special care, my father is out of work. I have a lot of people depending on me, so I'm thinking of joining the military.
Q. Okay, so I'm 25 and I still live at home with my parents. Because of the crisis we may have to have to sell the house and get my ill mom moved to a special care facility. I'm considering joining the military to cover for expenses and hopefully keep ...
A. 9 November 2012: It's hard because on one hand you want to be honest, but being honest also would mean that you are not joining the military because you are all HUA (hooah) aka fan of it, but out of need.
So, I would tell that you want to make something of your ... (read in full...)
My mother went through and cleaned my room without any warning. I feel violated, my dad says "get over it"!
Q. DearCupid Aunts, I need your opinion on something. I came home the other day to find that my mother had gone through my entire room, and cleaned it out. My drawers, all my laundry, several of my purses/backpacks, and private papers, had been...
A. 8 November 2012: Well there is an easy solution to this.
Keep your room tidy and keep IMPORTANT receipts and documents in a lock-box in your closet or where ever it's convenient.
Yes, she shouldn't have tossed stuff out or gone though your drawer, but I do... (read in full...)
Do my friends want me single forever?
Q. Okay well Im 21 and I've never had a boyfriend so i was talking to my friends saying that i want to start dating :) I've had sex before but only with 1 guy and that was a little over a year ago. But my question is do my friends want me happy? B...
A. 8 November 2012: Ahh thanks for clearing that up :)
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Do my friends want me single forever?
Q. Okay well Im 21 and I've never had a boyfriend so i was talking to my friends saying that i want to start dating :) I've had sex before but only with 1 guy and that was a little over a year ago. But my question is do my friends want me happy? B...
A. 8 November 2012: Well I think it's because they know you don't exactly have a great track record when it comes to boys. Specially if you are looking for a BF yet you sleep with any guy who smiles at you the first night you meet. THAT is not a good way to find a BF, ... (read in full...)
He's making me choose, him or my dream, what do I do?
Q. Hey there guys/gals. I am in need of help :/ Let me explain: I am 18 and have a boyfriend of a little over a year and known him for about 6 years. We both have dreams and aspirations as many others although he's not very fond of mine. My dream is...
A. 8 November 2012: Never give up your dreams.
It's that simple. And yes, it IS possible you will meet someone else, it is possible HE will meet someone else while you two are away from each other. But there is also the possibility that you two CHOOSE to make it ... (read in full...)
Why Does He Feel He Has to give love up to protect his daughter from his ex?
Q. I was in a LDR for almost 8 months when he finally said he had to end it because it would prevent the pain from being worst. I met this man online...and I only had agreed to even chat with him because he was suppose to be relocating to the city I ...
A. 8 November 2012: I don't know the laws in Canada, but in most states in the US, no matter WHAT custody agreements are in place BOTH parents have to give consent THROUGH the courts in order to move out of state and certainly out of the country.
The mom can be charg... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if your husband encourages it?
Q. What should I do? My husband of almost ten years and I talk about everything. He knows exactly what I like and he satisfies me but I have been having a fantasy about being in a threesome. My husband likes the idea but doesn't think the other guy ...
A. 8 November 2012: Oral is sex too, by the way.
I just can't believe you are so willing to ruin your marriage for a few minutes of sex with another dude.
Now if you think your husband really want this and "love" the idea why are you not asking HIM all these... (read in full...)
Why did he say that I came on to him the next morning?
Q. okay so at a party and im a little bit tipsy and this guy from my school who ive never even talked to before starts asking me to do shots with him and i say no (giggling as i remember...) because my mums picking me up but he keeps trying to ...
A. 7 November 2012: Immaturity and wishful thinking on his behalf..... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if your husband encourages it?
Q. What should I do? My husband of almost ten years and I talk about everything. He knows exactly what I like and he satisfies me but I have been having a fantasy about being in a threesome. My husband likes the idea but doesn't think the other guy ...
A. 7 November 2012: I will echo person12345 - Fantasy and reality are two VERY VERY different things and when you start "opening" your marriage and bed up to more then you and your spouse - drama, hurt feeling WILL ensue.
So he SAID he was OK with it. Doesn't ... (read in full...)
Hotel room buddies!
Q. I have a big problem. I am in love with someone I have known since just after I was born. He knows how i feel and he used me and took advantage of my feelings when I told him. Our parents work together and regularly go away on conventions. Me and ...
A. 7 November 2012: Honey getting an erection has nothing to do with love. It's lust and hornyness. Pure and simple.
I think it would be a big mistake to start having sex with this guy on this trip. DATE him first for a few months, see if you two are even compatib... (read in full...)
I still live at home with my parents. My mother is ill and in need of special care, my father is out of work. I have a lot of people depending on me, so I'm thinking of joining the military.
Q. Okay, so I'm 25 and I still live at home with my parents. Because of the crisis we may have to have to sell the house and get my ill mom moved to a special care facility. I'm considering joining the military to cover for expenses and hopefully keep ...
A. 7 November 2012: No Cerberus, women can "join" the front lines now.. Equal opportunity and all... (well except Infantry) many line-unit have women as well, not to mention transportation. Some may not consider driving huge or smaller truck being in the front line ... (read in full...)
Was I rude or was I justified in saying what I did?
Q. Told a guy he was too busy to date - was I unreasonable? I met a guy online (He's 35, I'm 30) and we exchanged a few emails but he would always take a couple of days to reply, saying he was really busy. Not a problem really, but it does colour m...
A. 7 November 2012: I think it was just fine... I think he really was TOO busy to date or just not really all that interested.
And I think his answer was more rude then your question to be honest.... (read in full...)
STD query...
Q. If you have an STD are you 100% guaranteed to pass it on during unprotected sex? ...
A. 7 November 2012: What Auntie person12345 said.
I will second the - GET the Gardasil vaccine. HPV doesn't show up in STD tests unless you have an outbreak you can be there carrier and transmitter of it - which can lead to cancer in women.
But really WHY would... (read in full...)
Dildo dilemma!!!
Q. Hi this is a question mainly for women!!! my ex got me a vibrator, it’s very soft and adaptable is not very wide so it fits just fine, the problem is it hurts when i insert it so i cannot use it... when he was using it on me it didn’t feel that ...
A. 7 November 2012: Use it externally (which mean on your clit for the buzz buzz) and don't insert?
and if you want to insert don't jam it "up there" could be the reason it hurt is because you are hitting your cervix.... (read in full...)
I broke her heart, does that make me a bad person?
Q. Well, i had just broken up with my girlfriend of a year due to the fact that i basicaly "fell out of love" with her. before i actually brokeup with her i had been contemplating on doing it and each week i was more sure that it was the right thing to ...
A. 7 November 2012: You are kind of damned if you do and damned if you don't. Yes, it hurts to get dumped, but on the other hand if you had stayed and not really wanting to be there, what would have been the point of that?
Who knows maybe this ex of yours will bre... (read in full...)
I suggested he be tested for STD's before I sleep with him and he took offence...
Q. I am a 23 year old virgin and I'm dating a 24 year old guy,the reason I stressed on being a virgin is that I've waited for the right man to come along and I think he has, and I know it will happen soon.. but now I think he's not the one, cuz he took ...
A. 7 November 2012: Nope, you weren't' wrong to ask. He can still b a carrier for STD's that won't show up in testing HPV for one, but generally I think it is the SMART move to ask & get tested.
My husband and I BOTH did the whole STD/HIV/AIDS test before having s... (read in full...)
Should I be having side effects now I'm on the pill?
Q. i'm on the pill and strangely I haven't experienced any side effects yet, people say you experience depression, mood swings, emotional, headaches, cramps and breast soreness, weight gain... yet i've been on it a month and I haven't had any of that, ...
A. 7 November 2012: Some women are affected some aren't - if you are not, you are lucky. The pill still work.
Another brand might not work so well for you and another woman might have no side effects for that one.. The thing is we are all different and our hormonal... (read in full...)
I still live at home with my parents. My mother is ill and in need of special care, my father is out of work. I have a lot of people depending on me, so I'm thinking of joining the military.
Q. Okay, so I'm 25 and I still live at home with my parents. Because of the crisis we may have to have to sell the house and get my ill mom moved to a special care facility. I'm considering joining the military to cover for expenses and hopefully keep ...
A. 7 November 2012: Joining the military is not the worst option, but as I see it people should WANT to join, not feel like it's their only option to survive.
Yet, this is very common in the US.
How about you go to the nearest recruiter and make an appointment? ... (read in full...)
My best friend wants a marriage of convenience!
Q. hey aunts and uncles urgent advice needed please. My close male friend and i are both creeping closer to 30. Neither of us is with anybody and we get on very well. We were having a meal at his house, together the other night and got talking about ...
A. 7 November 2012: KIDS not kinds... Grrr no not being able to edit lol
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I think my roommate and I are headed for a relationship. Any advice you can give me would be great!
Q. I'm a 32 year old female. About 10 months ago I needed to find a new place to live, so responded to a random online roommmate ad. The guy is 35 and really awesome. There was about 2-3 weeks before I actually moved in, and during that time we wer...
A. 7 November 2012: To be it sounds like you are more of a build in booty call then a potential GF for this guy, sorry.
He isn't ASKING you to move in with him at his new place, but he would like you move you along, line a nice piece of furniture or.. again having a... (read in full...)
My best friend wants a marriage of convenience!
Q. hey aunts and uncles urgent advice needed please. My close male friend and i are both creeping closer to 30. Neither of us is with anybody and we get on very well. We were having a meal at his house, together the other night and got talking about ...
A. 7 November 2012: Honestly people have married for less.
A Green Card, to get a Government allowance, for medical or religious reasons.
Personally, though... I would ONLY marry for love. Otherwise what's the point? And what would happen the MOMENT either of... (read in full...)
My wife wears jewelry another man bought her and it makes me uncomfortable
Q. My wife made a new business acquaintance whose family owns a jewelry store. As part of celebrating a milestone he gave her a silver and amethyst necklace and an amethyst ring, which she sometimes wears. To be fair, he also gave a gift to my wife'...
A. 7 November 2012: Totally Absurd. ~sorry~
It's not extremely expensive pieces and he didn't single her out to receive a gift. He was trying to be thoughtful and perhaps a little business shrewd - because she MIGHT wear it at work, people MIGHT notice and ask abou... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with my rich celebrity brother? Have the drugs affected him so badly that he has lost his ability to be rational?
Q. Its ridiculous the way my brother lies. He has become a complete lying machine. He is extremely rich, handsome and a celebrity. His marriage with his wife is utterly awful. Since they dated, he cheated on her openly. He did drugs and weed and his ...
A. 7 November 2012: You wrote a week ago about this - different post though.
And I will give you the same answer YOU do not know what "rules" they have set in their marriage or how the marriage actually works. IF she is staying with him she is in one way or another ... (read in full...)
Was this abuse and how can I get over it?
Q. I was wondering if someone could help me reflect on my five year relationship that I finally ended two years ago but remain broken. Short story I started dating my ex when I first started college I was 19him 23. I used to be very extraver...
A. 7 November 2012: Yes, that was abuse. And I'm glad you were able to walk away from it.
You need to start from scratch. So maybe not dating is not a bad thing for now. Focus on getting "you" back.
You might also want to delve into why you let this happen over... (read in full...)
I need help dealing with PMS
Q. I have PMS and a week before every period I suffer with terrible anxiety, irritability and a short fuse, I can get extremely angry if anything pisses me off, where normally I am well controlled. Does anybody have any suggestions of how I can imp...
A. 7 November 2012: Well, I have some killer PMS but not as sever as yours, what I do know helps (for me at least)
DO NO NOT skip meals. Even if you feel crappy/not hungry - eat 3 good meals and a couple of snack, up your water intake (not soda/coffee).
Vitamin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always out partying
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 1 year. Im 22 and he is 30. I feel that he partys way too much were always arguing about it and it just doesnt seem to stop him. I dont want to stop him having fun but we have i trust issues with him ove...
A. 7 November 2012: Maybe you have outgrown this guy and seems like he HASN'T out grown his late teen/early 20's party hardy days.
He knows you don't like it but you are still with him, thus in his "man logic" it is OK by you. Know what I mean?
You two live ... (read in full...)
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