Should I Trust My Husband? Am I Wrong For FeelingThis Way?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 28 years. I have always trusted him because and have never suspected him cheating on me. Lately he has upset me because of some of the things he has done. One example occurred several years ago when s...
A. 25 October 2012: It seems iffy honestly.
Why don't YOU go to these events with him from time to time?
And as far as being a bad/good example for the kids. Yes a PARTY HARD attitude is kind of juvenile for someone in his 50's (I'm guessing 50's) on the other han... (read in full...)
Is my friend enabling her son? Should she talk to a professional?
Q. I have a friend whose adult son is having a lot of issues. Basically he is living on the streets and has troubles with his family, etc. My friend is sending her son money to help him out. I think it sounds like she's enabling his bad behavior, so...
A. 25 October 2012: Why is he living on the streets? Does he have mental issues? drug issues?
It may not be the same asking a friend for advice, as it would be talking to a counselor in certain points, on the other hand BOTH should be able to give her some common s... (read in full...)
It's beyond me. What kind of help does my wife need about her fetish? She seems to want to get sick. I'm at a loss. Does she need help?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 28, and recently she's developed a new fetish. She's become hooked on getting a stomach-ache having read webforums and sites about 'stomachache fetishes', and eats a lot of rich food in order to get it. She keeps going on a...
A. 25 October 2012: So let me get this straight, she GETS OFF on having a stomach ache?
I have never heard that before, and honestly it doesn't sound sexual or sensual at all to me, it sounds more like a psychological issue or attention issue.
So when she gets a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises?
Q. Should I tell my Wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises? I was doing them a few years ago and stopped at her request. I finally decided that this is something I want, even if she doesn't want me to. I am small down there and she has had ...
A. 25 October 2012: People say all the time to women that if they want bigger boobs go for it, have implants!! Instead of telling them to LOVE the body they have....
So I can't see why it wouldn't be OK for you to work on your penis. Though I hope to goodness... (read in full...)
He blocks me out. Yet I do everything for him and his children. Is it time to stop being so giving? or break up?
Q. I met him about 4 years ago. 2 years ago we finally got together after both being in love with each other for about a year. He is about 10 years older than me and has a few kids. At the start things were perfect. He was so in love with...
A. 25 October 2012: Seems to be that he is either taking you totally for granted (assuming you will stay because you have bonded with his kids) or he hasn't gotten the balls to end it himself and therefore is pushing you to leave, for you to be the "bad guy".
You a... (read in full...)
Help! I'm scared. This girl in our group already took over one girl's Bf. Now what can I do? Because I think she's after my Bf.
Q. Hello:) Thanks in advance for your time:) I'm in a relationship, which is going well, and we are both in the same friendship group. All his guy mates, and all my girl mates are all mates! haha, but there is one problem. One of my girl mates...
A. 25 October 2012: You can't STEAL another person. If your BF chooses to leave you for her, there is nothing you can do. And in the same breath, if your BF loves you she can bat her eyelashes all day and not get him to leave you.
She didn't TRY to "steal" the othe... (read in full...)
Do I stay and hope he can contain his love of gambling? Or do I go?
Q. me and boyfriend have been together a year, we now live together and i love him very much. i have a daughter from a previous relationship who he is great with. the problem is he likes to gamble, hes currently awaiting his date to join the army, s...
A. 25 October 2012: Is he seeking help for the gambling issue? Does he admit and acknowledge that he HAS a problem?
If not, then you are wasting your time.
And yes, he can go get a job if he is THAT bored or volunteer.
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I really like this guy, but he has recently become involved with my friend. What should I do?
Q. I really like this guy, but he and my friend are slightly involved, they're nowhere near official but I know they both like each other, i've recently started speaking to him more, he's amazing, but he and my friend are the same religion and have ...
A. 24 October 2012: IF they are already "slightly" involved I'm sorry then you really need to step away.
HE likes HER. She likes HIM.
Don't be one of "those girls" who thinks guys are a "prize" and getting them is a competition. It's the FASTEST way to losing a ... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend carpool with a female co-worker?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together 4months ago, and things have been going pretty good so far. He started a new job about a week ago and while in the process of meeting the coworkers in his ...
A. 24 October 2012: Give it a week or two and see how you feel. If it still feels weird you need to figure out exactly WHAT it is that makes your gut churn.
And it IS kind of forward to ask a new guy for a ride every day, but on the other hand it makes sense for her ... (read in full...)
How can I put him off texting me all the time without sounding nasty?
Q. Hi there, I had a best friend and we were really close. But then after two years I decided to end the friendship because things had become very toxic. I could not trust him, he was nasty to me, he was always putting me down, etc. Anyway, a few mo...
A. 24 October 2012: You could slowly phase out talking to him all together. Which means if he sends you a text ignore it for a few days or ignore it all together.
Or you can do the easy way, get a new number and/or block him.
I really don't think you "owe" him an... (read in full...)
How can I flirt and impress this girl?
Q. Theres a girl who recently joined my college.she is also from my home town .and she even knows me because we are family friends..and i really like her.shes my junior in my college.. Problem is that i am 21 and she is 17, so she always hesistat...
A. 24 October 2012: She sounds like she is either shy or just not interested (but trying to be polite).
I wouldn't start out with flirting til you figure out if she is interested or not. How about just talking to her? Figure out what she likes? See if you two have... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend carpool with a female co-worker?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together 4months ago, and things have been going pretty good so far. He started a new job about a week ago and while in the process of meeting the coworkers in his ...
A. 24 October 2012: My husband carpools here and there when one of his soldiers (be they male or female) need a ride. Of course it's not every day, but even if it was I see absolutely nothing wrong in it.
But then again I TRUST my husband...
Do you trust yours?... (read in full...)
I want to share my wife with my old friend....
Q. I have had a fantasy about sharing my wife and the feelings have become stronger. My wife is aware of this fantasy. We have role played this for years approx 8yrs). Within the last 4 years I have been talking to her about bringing this to real life. ...
A. 24 October 2012: I think the reason your "lust" for this fantasy dies down so fast after you get off (of the fantasy) is because you are aware of HOW much living this out in reality can not only change the fantasy, but ruin the marriage and the friendship.
You w... (read in full...)
She tells me she loves me but is she just using me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I hope you can help? I will try and give you as much history as I can to make the picture clear. I can count on one hand the serious relationships I have had in my life. But everyone of those relationships ended with them ch...
A. 24 October 2012: I'm guessing she is using you as a "rebound" kind of thing. While the two of you were broken up did she date anyone else?
The thing is... SHE doesn't want a relationship with you, but she wants to be around you, so she sends a lot of mixed si... (read in full...)
My older brother physically abuses me and my mom is fine with it. What rights do I have in this? What power do I have to stop him from doing this?
Q. Hi. So, my older brother hits me. He doesn't do it very often but when he does, he hits me bad. He abuses me verbally constantly calling me names and insulting me in every possible way. He's always been like this to me since we were kids, he's ...
A. 24 October 2012: You need to read over Abella and YouWish's post over and over til you understand that THIS is what you need to do.
His behavior is not normal. You mom should protect you both but she might actually be scared of your brother too.
Be proactive.... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? I'm tired of feeling 'second class' and "not quite good enough for him".
Q. My husband and I have been together now for about 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children. However, i am so sick of dealing with his selfish ways. He has cheated 3 times, the first was about 9 years into our relationship and was a full on relations...
A. 23 October 2012: He really doesn't seem to want to be with you (no offense), but you are CONVENIENT and FAMILIAR to him.
It's not that YOU aren't good enough. He isn't enough. He isn't MAN enough to leave and let YOU find happiness.
The thing is you didn't "m... (read in full...)
Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?
Q. For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is somet...
A. 23 October 2012: Why won't he tell you? Well, he obviously think you believe his lies since you are STILL there.
For some people they assume when a partner sticks around that they can do whatever as long as they don't get caught. He got caught, lied and yet... Y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is mean and pressuring me for sex. Should I break up with him?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 5 months dearly, but i'm still not ready for sex and he pressures me sometimes. We have different religious views and his parents don't want to meet me,and on top of that he can be soo mean to me. But he can also be soo sweet. ...
A. 23 October 2012: Yes, you should break up with your BF and no you shouldn't go to the beach with another guy (alone or not).... (read in full...)
GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's ...
A. 23 October 2012: I'm sorry she is being a brat. I wish you well. With or without her.... (read in full...)
I know I get jealous but is it normal for a man to keep so many online pictures of women he has known or knows?
Q. So my fiance of 10 months now is wonderful. My only concern is that he has a thing for having girl friends on his xbox and facebook. I know I should trust him and I do its just I dont know if this is normal. He doesn't flirt with them really b...
A. 23 October 2012: Honey HALF the worlds populations are females.... So because you two are getting married YOU are now the only girl in the world he can look at, talk to, be friends with?
BE realistic. He will have FEMALE co-worker, FEMALE dentist maybe, the girl... (read in full...)
Was inviting him to a movie, as just a friend, the wrong thing to do? I have a crush on him. He does have a GF as well.
Q. Dear cupid, I really like this guy at my school, but he is a going out with a friend, of mine right. I reassured him that I don't mind being just friends and that I wouldn't dare interfere with his relationship because I care about him and I care a...
A. 23 October 2012: I think it's wrong he has a GF and you need to back off for two reasons.
1. HE already HAS a GF.
2. YOU are the one who is emotionally invested so you WILL be the one who gets hurt.
Step away and look elsewhere for a BF. Being "friends" with... (read in full...)
Our daughter has admitted she's marrying for money and we are very upset!
Q. I have issues with my daughter marrying. Not her partner, but her motivations for marrying him. Our daughter's 19, and her boyfriend's 22, she told us she's fairly wealthy - we had no idea when we met him, in fact he lives in a fairly normal...
A. 22 October 2012: I would suggest that the two of them do some PRE-marital counseling.
And just because he said yes to marrying doesn't mean there will BE a wedding between the two of them.... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a male engagement ring to show that the man is betrothed?
Q. what do guys think about wearing an engagement ring? my bf of 2 years proposed to me out of the blue 6 weeks ago. i was shocked, happy and said yes! when we talked about marriage months ago, i recall he said he thought a man should do the prop...
A. 22 October 2012: I think it's a cute idea honestly. My husband never wore an engagement ring because it just wasn't practical in his job (military). Later when we got married he would wear his weeding ring on his dog-tags lol.
But if you BF/Fiance can wear one... (read in full...)
She doesn't like vibrators what else can she do?
Q. My girlfriend likes to masturbate by rubbing her clit through her panties. I was wondering if any women who also like to orgasm like that have any suggestions on other things she might like? BTW she doesn't really like vibrators. Oh yeah, ...
A. 22 October 2012: I am wondering too why you feel a need for her to change. If she gets off that way, what's wrong with that?
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His selfish and hurtful behaviour was completely out of character -- what's going on?
Q. Worried that something is going on with my husband. We have been together 18 years. We have had anal sex 3-4 times in the past ( i was only 19-21 years old and extremely loaded when we did it) since then we have had 3 children, i am in a twelve ...
A. 22 October 2012: None of that is OK.
Just because you have done it in the past and JUST because you are married gives him NO right to treat you like that. For me that is rape.
You need to talk to him. THIS is not OK.
Why on EARTH you felt you needed to l... (read in full...)
Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?
Q. Dear Cupid Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday...
A. 22 October 2012: I honestly think most people does to an extend. And I don't think there is anything wrong in it, as long as it doesn't get to the point where they can ONLY get off if they think of someone else.
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She has a Major Crush on my boyfriend. We are both fed up with her. How do we get her to leave us alone for good
Q. My boyfriend works with a girl who loves my boyfriend. When her boyfriend broke up with her she was crying and my boyfriend listened to her and helped her. Everything was fine at that moment. But since then she has developed a major crush on my ...
A. 22 October 2012: I think your BF needs to step up and next time she calls, to tell he calmly that he can only talk to her at work and about work. To NOT call him anymore at home or on his cell.
That he CAN'T be friends with her because what she is doing is not f... (read in full...)
Why does someone dump you and then come back acting like he wants my attention?
Q. I dated a guy for six months. We were really close--I thought. He told me he loved me AND cared about me-- AND showed it as well. Two months ago he told me I was beautiful, intelligent, AND perfect for him but something was "missing" AND ...
A. 22 October 2012: I agree with AuntieEm.
He likes to have you in his life, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
I don't really see a whole lot of mixed messages. I see him trying to be a positive influence in your life. Not much else. I think yo... (read in full...)
What was this guy's intention? Does he think he is entitled in some way to treat me so poorly?
Q. i met this guy at the club he invited me to come over his friends' birthday party. I thought I was his date but he ditched me as soon as I got there. there were all complete strangers and I didn't know what to do. so I said I have to go hom...
A. 22 October 2012: He sounded like he wanted to have a female back up in case another girl fell through.
Next time go on a real date with a guy before going to something as "personal" as a birthday party. That way you will know his intentions beforehand.
It soun... (read in full...)
He's left for good?
Q. I had been with my boyfriend almost 4 years, we have a 2 year old son. We are both 22. We got into an argument earlier, he took our son out with his parents at 9.30 and I asked him to have him back for 11 so we could take him out somewhere we had...
A. 22 October 2012: So you are more worried about being alone then being with an abusive guy?
Nothing you write about him makes him out to be a decent partner at all, and honestly not really a very good role-model for your son either (with how he treats you).
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Just lost my virginity, what can I expect?
Q. Hey guys, soo me and my boyfriend had sex like less then a week ago. It was my first time. I was just wondering if their are any post-sex like "symptoms" I should know about. I've been pretty sore and I don't know if that is normal I also heard ...
A. 22 October 2012: It's not average that the first period after first sex gets delayed, but it can happen specially if you stress about it.
But I will assume you were smart enough to use a condom and birth control. So ther shouldn't be anything to worry about.
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When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?
Q. Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is be...
A. 21 October 2012: Nothing to do with dominance (unless the guy is her BF and the girls around her feels like competition)
She likes you. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my LDR boyfriend. Do I tell him or just end things?
Q. I cheated on my long distance boyfriend. I got so lonely waiting around for him to return home. The relationship more or less is dead. Do I tell him or do I just break up? I feel so guilty. ...
A. 21 October 2012: If you are about to end the relationship regardless I wouldn't tell him, that is your "baggage" to bear.
Your intentions aren't to make the break up easier on him, but to unload the guilt you might feel over cheating...
I mean REALLY what will... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: You cheated and that fact that you don't even seem capable to comprehend that would make me guess you need to GROW a set of morals... (read in full...)
We have been secretly dating for 6 months and our anniversary is coming up?
Q. He and I have been a couple for 6 months now, none of our friends, family members, acquaintances, teachers or anybody knowing. We have kept it a secret between the two of us because his friends would NEVER approve of me and our relationship. If you ...
A. 19 October 2012:
Um, in my book people who don't approve of "interracial relationships" ARE racists. They may not admit it, but they surely are.
And I'm sorry you two have to hide your relationship in this day an age. I can't see this working long term.
I h... (read in full...)
I pretended to be someone else online and it all went down hill.
Q. First off I want to say please don't judge me I know I made a huge mistake and I am trying to fix myself and what I have done. Around 2 months ago I made a fake account on a dating website. I got pictures from someone else and made up the "abo...
A. 19 October 2012: I DO think you should send her an apology and explanation and let HER decide if she wants to have anything to do with you or not.
If she does, good for you, if she doesn't well then hopefully you have learned your lesson.
Those are REAL people ... (read in full...)
I've been branded as a "person of suspicion" and have been banned from seeing my husband at his work. Is his boss crazy?!
Q. As if my life was not weird enough my boyfriends boss is singling me out for harassment. He is a teacher at a local school. She is the principal. I am not at all sure how to deal with this. I noticed about 2 years ago when she started working ...
A. 18 October 2012: I would dig into that contact the School board, that sounds utterly ridiculous.
What she called you a "person of suspicion" what are you supposed to be doing wrong?
She sounds nuts honestly.
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Should I leave my b/f because he wants his hot ex on facebook?
Q. My bf of a year and I were merging facebooks, and we were thinking of who to add from both our accounts. So he picks this woman from his, and says he wants to add her. I ask who it is, and its an ex. Now im cool with that...only... shes way hotte...
A. 18 October 2012: Should you leave him? Over FB really?
I think the two of you need to NOT be on FB if it cause THIS much drama.
Did you ask hi WHY he wanted her on? Was she an ex who had become a friend pr was he mentioning her to get you going?
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He's a good guy but soooo boring!
Q. I ve met this really nice guy, who I date now for 6 months. He is everything any woman can wish for: handsome, has a good job, good natured, we managed not to have a single fight, gentleman. But, I can't believe I m actually saying it, he i...
A. 18 October 2012: It doesn't sound like it's ENOUGH for you. Might be for another woman.
Honestly though, he sounds like a keeper to me. But I may have quite a different taste in men then you do.
As I see it, NEVER settle.
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My wife actively discourages me forming any friendships of my own. How do I find the courage to stand up to her?
Q. My wife won't let me have any friends of my own. We've been married for about two years now, and I've always accepted that. I messed up and cheated on her early in our relationship, but she decided to keep me around, and we got married and moved on. ...
A. 18 October 2012: Without figuring out HOW to overcome she will not "just" get over it. It takes work, from BOTH of you. Hence why a few of us suggested the couples/marriage counseling. If you think your marriage and SHE is worth the "hassle" I would try it out and ... (read in full...)
Married six weeks and now he has left me to live in another country? What can I do? No warning. No idea why.
Q. I've just got married, and been married for 6 weeks now. We haven't even had our honeymoon yet, it's been busy with work etc. Our wedding was lovely - cost about $25,000 - at HIS request, not mine, so I can't really be called a bridezilla for t...
A. 18 October 2012: I wonder too which country he is a resident off and where is his family?
Do you know which bedsit he is at? If so, call and ask for him?
It makes absolutely no sense for him to do this, from what you write.... (read in full...)
My wife actively discourages me forming any friendships of my own. How do I find the courage to stand up to her?
Q. My wife won't let me have any friends of my own. We've been married for about two years now, and I've always accepted that. I messed up and cheated on her early in our relationship, but she decided to keep me around, and we got married and moved on. ...
A. 18 October 2012: Honestly you two should look into some marriage counseling. She can't hold this "you cheated on me" over your head for the rest of your marriage, that is just ridiculous. But I understand if it's still fresh in her mind.
She is however, using it... (read in full...)
GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's ...
A. 16 October 2012: Wow. IMHO the GUY picks the engagement ring and the couple picks the wedding bands together.
I could understand if you gave a ring from a bubblegum machine but it's 10K right that YOU picked you for HER with HER in mind.
Honestly I th... (read in full...)
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