We've only been married six weeks and my husband wants a divorce
Q. Hello Im in a big family trouble now. And I wish I could get some advice from here. ( I dont know hot to begin this question ...) Me and my husband we have knew each other more than a year then we got married 6 weeks ago. And yesterday he t...
A. 10 December 2012: You write:
***( Guess I just gave him too less space or its no big deal if a married man fun a wee bit fun from Internet. )***
I absolutely DISAGREE with you. A married MAN should NOT NEED to look around for his WEE bit of fun with random chic... (read in full...)
My 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager. Will her grow out of it?
Q. My problem is that my 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager at times. He is still very influenced by what his friends think, and because of that he often does things to fit in with them. He is often the drunkest guy on a night out because he ...
A. 10 December 2012: I don't think he will grow out of it any time soon. He LIVES for his peers and the peer pressure - I mean come on... he can't go to the theater because his friend might laugh?
What reason does he have to grow up? Obviously YOU are still there. H... (read in full...)
Why did my ex say all that he did?
Q. I bumped into my ex in a pub yesterday. He told me that he had seen me in another pub earlier that day, as he was walking past the pub at the time, but when he went in that pub later on, i had left. I was surprised that he noticed that i had left. ...
A. 10 December 2012: He was jerking you chain to see if he could still make you squirm.
I would honestly NOT hang out or chat with him when all he does it pointing out all your "flaws". He is trying to make you feel bad and it worked, didn't it? Why even try and be n... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to be more accepting of my cannabis use? She's gone from being a nice loving woman to a total nag!
Q. I am 28 and have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I recently made new friends and they have introduced me to smoking cannabis again. This is something I have not done since I was about 18. My girlfriend hates it though and has gone from a nice ...
A. 10 December 2012:
Seriously?
I think you should let her go so she can go find herself a guy who ins't reverting back to his immature high school self.
I hope to goodness that she will stop nagging and just dump you.
I'm not a huge "I hate pot" person, bu... (read in full...)
Over my head or out of my league?
Q. Here's my question: Is it ever appropriate between a first and second date (which I asked for) to ask the other person if they've met someone new? She has already rescheduled the second date from a Saturday night to a Tuesday night, and her ...
A. 10 December 2012: I think it's a little too soon to expect exclusivity after 1 date. Could be there is a lot going on in her life (specially with the holidays coming up) so that could be why she is a little more "cool" on the phone. I DO think you are reading more ... (read in full...)
I got pushed and want to know..if there could be any damage to my unborn baby?
Q. I was just wondering if any damage would be done to my baby. Im 31 weeks pregnant and i got pushed and hit my back. my whole body is sore and my baby's movement has decreased im scared and worried i need help. ...
A. 10 December 2012: If you are worried AT ALL go see your doctor.
I feel down a set of stairs when I was pregnant with #2 (fell on my bum & back) bruised my bum and ribs - went to the hospital right away and they did a stress test on me & baby and an ultra sound. S... (read in full...)
I really don't want to let this guy get away ...
Q. I met this boy a few months ago and I've had a huge crush on him for a while. His girlfriend broke up with him around then too so he's not looking for a serious relationship. Anyway, we've hooked up twice so far (we kissed a lot and slept together ...
A. 10 December 2012: Sorry honey, he isn't looking for a GF and you are fooling yourself if you think you can "change" his mind by offering hook ups.
And if you have serious feelings for him, and he knew this.. he isn't a FRIEND.
He isn't into you as a GF material... (read in full...)
He plans to leave me and our son.
Q. I don't know what to do, my boyfriend has come home from work today and told me that he is moving back to his home city without me and his son Fastforward we have been through a lot he cheated I took him back and we had our son he moved here to be...
A. 10 December 2012: This is not about you or your son, this is about him being a miserable person. I doubt you did anything "wrong". He is the one who can't HACK it. Let him go.
Time to find a way to make it work as a single mom.
And don't forget that he NEEDS to... (read in full...)
Worried because my hookup count is building up...
Q. Hello all, It's been more than half a year since I got out of my first and only relationship that lasted a good 1.5 years. And since the end of that relationship, I've had a good handful of drunken hookups. I've had three one night stands alr...
A. 9 December 2012: If you feel like you can't control your own actions when alcohol is in the picture you need to cut the drink.
I wouldn't call you a slut, because I don't believe in labeling people like that.
But you are not happy with your own behavior, so you... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 9 December 2012: No no no no ABSOLUTELY no sexy pictures. Pictures of your face is fine - NOTHING in the nude WHAT so ever. Even in NO ONE can see your face or what ever it is NOT legal and it will be regarded as CHILD PORNOGRAPHY if you are under 18.
Secon... (read in full...)
I'm confused about how abrupt he became after sex. What could be his problem?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been feeling incredibly confused and feel that I need some advice before I can let this go.. Im 29 and the guy in question is 26.. we dated for only 3 weeks. He is quite an introvert and definitely not the player type. The...
A. 9 December 2012: I agree with learnNlive.
He is embarrassed about the experience.
He then does he little bluster spiel - I get bored blah blah blah. That way he can play it off like he is a player, but honestly a player HAS sex with all the girls he "charms... (read in full...)
Is he genuine? Every time he's 'going to leave her' something comes up. How do get more strength to cope with him?
Q. First of all I know im an idiot for getting myself in this situation and I do regret it more than you could know which is why I could do with some advice. I had feelings for a guy that I've known for a year and stupidly let him kiss me a few mo...
A. 9 December 2012: Why would you even want to be "something" on the side like that? Do you have so little love for yourself? Don't you think you deserve a guy who is ALL yours?
He may NOT be intimate with her, but honestly in this day and age NO ONE HAS to stay wit... (read in full...)
Despite my huge weight loss I have a legacy of low self esteem and shyness due to how things used to be. How can I overcome this?
Q. i have had low self esteem my whole life... recently i lost 40lbs (through sports and good eating habits) and feel like people act differently to me ("nicer" basically). before, i used to feel invisible... usually, nobody would ever pay attenti...
A. 9 December 2012: First of all congrats in getting healthier!
You still see yourself as the "big" and "awkward" girl you think you used to be. You lost weight, but you didn't lose being shy, that takes work. That is why all this feels weird.
It IS sad, but also... (read in full...)
How can I ask my girlfriend to have anal sex with me?
Q. Hi, i need some advice from the ladies. I have a wonderful girlfriend and we love each other very much. I love her to bits and she is super hot. I would like to have anal sex with her, i noticed that when i touch her, or lick her there, it arous...
A. 9 December 2012: I agree, just ask her and RESPECT her answer. If hell no is the answer then that means hell no - not OK, ask me again in 5 days....... (read in full...)
Am I being used? I want more than to just be his FWB
Q. So there's this guy I've known since high school. We are the same age. Both came out of really bad relationships. We are friends. I went over to his house one day we ended up doing things. Then afterwards, he says "I'm not sure what this means ...
A. 9 December 2012: Ok when a GUY says - all I want is FWB NOTHING more, he usually means it. He will not suddenly wake up and know in his heart that YOU are the one - sorry.
When a girls says she is OK with a FWB - 50% of the time she is.. the other 50% she is hopin... (read in full...)
I know I'm going to break up with him. But am I right to wait until after Christmas? Should I return his Christmas presents after we break up?
Q. Something has snapped in me this week and I have finally decided, after a lot of heartache, that I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. He is no longer making any effort with me, and despite me bringing it up several times and him prom...
A. 9 December 2012: I would tell him now. That way he can make other plans. I would not have him stay at my house like that.
And no wonder he is the way he is.. What a pair of cold hearted parents.... (read in full...)
How do you get a bartender's attention and have them ask you out?
Q. I’m almost 25 and yet to really date anyone. I live very strick and traditional asian family. Plus til recently I’ve never really always the enjoy the single life. I notice when im out the pub with best friends, to listen to the local band, somehow ...
A. 9 December 2012: I worked as a bartender for 4 years. I got hit on A LOT and gave as good as anyone else, but NEVER went on a single date with anyone I served. Never went home with anyone either.
As a bartender it's your job to serve drinks and be charming... (read in full...)
Am I just a game for him?
Q. I love a man who have 31 years old,I only have 20.We meet in a mmo game and I begine to love him.I love him more than my life.At begine was wonderfull,he show he's love.he bip me when I was offline,we stay alot at time together,he was jelous but he ...
A. 9 December 2012: The question is not WHY is he doing this, the question is... WHY are you letting him?
Ok, I get it he was nice when you first started to chat, but then he turned indifferent and ignoring you - YET you are still there at his beck and call?
... (read in full...)
Girlfriend pressured me to throw out all things from my past but she lied and didn't do the same!
Q. After 6 months I bowed to constant pressure and threw away all my old photos, holiday photos the lot (except the ones of my son). My girlfriend was adamant that they belonged in the past, was nothing to do with "us" and told me she had thrown all ...
A. 9 December 2012: That seems to be a matter of double standard. First of all I would NOT have tossed any pictures out that meant anything to you. I would just have put them in a box and out of sight, but that is moot.
Sit her down and ask her. Why were you so adama... (read in full...)
Although I'm getting an abortion, hiding the pregnancy is taking its toll on me
Q. Last week I found out I was pregnant with my boyfriend's child. I'm 5 weeks in, and I've been going out with my bf for just over 9 months. I'm to say the least.... totally devastated. This was a complete accident and neither of us ever had any ...
A. 9 December 2012: Talk to your doctor and ask about support groups/therapist - this is a BIG deal and it WILL affect you, especially emotionally.
I had a miscarriage when I was in my early 20's - it wasn't planned, I was on BC, we used condoms - I had planned ... (read in full...)
We get on really well, but he said he needs sex, but I'm a virgin?
Q. I just turned 20 a while ago. I'm a virgin. I'm single and always have been. Dated a couple of guys, but things ended horribly and I ended up hurt. Even though I am a virgin, I have done other things, nearly everything that comes before it, su...
A. 9 December 2012: This won't end well, he wants sex.. You want to wait until you can feel comfortable enough with a guy to actually have sex.
The fact that you BARELY know this guy (part from chatting with him) might be why you are not ready for sex.
My gues... (read in full...)
I'm the one with the crush. And he has a Gf. Am I getting mixed signals from him or does he just really like me?
Q. I've know this guy for about 2yrs, we met at my job (I work at a bank and he deposits there). Even though I've known him for 2 yrs, we started talking about a year ago. We get along well. we sort of have the same sense of humor so when we are a...
A. 8 December 2012: Doesn't matter, he should be off limits if he has a GF.
Treat him like you would ( I hope) if he was married.
... (read in full...)
What can I do? My husband focuses on details in an argument to avoid answering questions! Drives me nuts!
Q. My husband and I just got married in September, after being together two and a half years. We were driving home from his friends house the other night and talking about relationships and how funny people can get when they notice one small thing ab...
A. 8 December 2012: Stop playing his games.
IF he doesn't "get" your point the first time, I would tell him to drop the subject, because nothing good can come from it.
And.. pick your battles.
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Did my Ex ever really move on? Why does he still get so mad at me? How am I annoying him?
Q. Ok everyone, here it goes. Sorry if I am rambling a bit. Lately, I have been having trouble with my EX. I should add that it has been a year and a half since we split…..we are both in our 30's. He broke it off with me, saying he wasn't ready...
A. 8 December 2012: Block your Ex's number - DO NOT play his little mind F... games. He wants to get a rise out of you. Because HE isn't happy he doesn't want you to be either.
Block him on your Facebook, and un-friend him - if he gets upset that you talk to people l... (read in full...)
How can I avoid becoming one of her punching bags at work?
Q. What makes some people fly off the handle so quickly? There is this woman at work. I have heard her get so aggressive so quickly at work. She acts like she has to fight so fiercely over issues that are nothing more than day to day things. So far I ...
A. 8 December 2012: Do you job and do it good, IF it happens that she goes of on you, take it directly to the boss. Don't stand and take it.... (read in full...)
Is he over his ex wife? I feel like his second best wife, considering his need to still keep pictures of his ex.
Q. Hi could you please give me some advice?? I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and have been really happy. The problem is that recently he has put some old pictures on his pc. These pictures are from years ago of his kids growing up ...
A. 8 December 2012: You wrote ****I challenged him when I found the naked pics previously and his answer was 'it's so I can tell the kids about the relationship and the reasons why we split'.****
That is the WORST TRITE BS excuse I have EVER heard! His kids SURELY d... (read in full...)
Why am I so hesitant about having sex with this man? What could be holding me back?
Q. I met this man on an online dating site. The first time we went out he scared me be the way he was over excited to see me. He literally ran towards me to hug me I felt so frightened that I automatically put my hands up. We had talked on the ph...
A. 8 December 2012: Because he is FAR FAR to pushy and your GUT is telling you something is off?
Having talked on the phone for 3 months does NOT make it a relationship, yet. THAT takes face-to-face time.
I would be honest with him. Tell him that you are NOT comf... (read in full...)
I have a very popular and outgoing boyfriend, and my insecurities have become an obsession. Please I need advice!
Q. Hi, everyone. I'm a really insecure person. I have a boyfriend whom I really love, and I suppose I should trust him. But my boyfriend is a really popular guy among the girls and many girls just tend to fall hard in love with him. They don't even ...
A. 7 December 2012: YOU need to work on your insecurities you can not expect him to fix that for you.
Also this is not just about you being insecure, it's also about trust and control. YOU need to find a way to learn to trust your bf - because without the trust th... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont have sex or go anywhere near my "man parts" when she's on her period.
Q. Is it wrong for me to be extremely frustrated at the fact that my girlfriend won't go anyone near my genitals when she's on her period? We can be hooking up and it will get intense and she'll stop us and tell me she "doesn't want to get too horny, ...
A. 7 December 2012: edit// cramps not craps lol.//... (read in full...)
Would I be right to tell anyone I meet in the future that I'm a virgin because I feel like I am, despite having tried to have sex a number of times?
Q. Dear cupids, I do not know how to explain how I feel at the moment. I am disgusted with myself. After I experienced bleeding, I still tried to have sex again like a month after. I bled again and every time I bleed. I believe I am still a virgin cos ...
A. 7 December 2012: If a you had a penis in your vagina you are no longer a virgin, no matter how much you bleed. The hymen is not in deep it's actually pretty close to the opening of your vagina. So it doesn't matter how far in he inserted his penis. Penis inside ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my engaged co-worker that I have feelings for him?
Q. I want to tell a co worker that I have feelings for him. I have liked him for a few months and the only problem is that he is engaged. The weddings not for like 2 years though. I wasn't planning on saying anything because he's not available. But ...
A. 7 December 2012: I wouldn't tell him anything.
If they REALLY break up then I might let him no, but not until he truly is single.
And understand that there is ALWAYS two sides to a story. He might tell you she is mental, but who knows HE might be the mental on... (read in full...)
Could he be seeing someone else?
Q. My boyfriend and I were dating for 3yrs, I helped him financial when needed for his mother's meds or and family members including his kids etc.everything went well or so I thought.he will be retiring the armed force in Feb next yr,and now all of a ...
A. 7 December 2012: I don't know if he is seeing anyone, but he is ending it with you and telling you to move on.
Seems a little iffy to dump you so unceremoniously after 3 years together.
I'm sorry.... (read in full...)
How can someone who used to love me so much now seem to hate me when all I've done is be kind and thoughtful?
Q. A person that I am very close to is shutting me out. She has had some big problems in her life in the past few months and I have stuck by her all the way. I help her constantly but lately she is shutting me out. Lately when we hang out she is rude ...
A. 7 December 2012: She sounds rather ungrateful, but maybe she feels like you are trying to run her life. Not everyone is rational when crap hits the fan, could be that she feels like you are rubbing it in her face that YOU got your "stuff" together and she doesn't. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont have sex or go anywhere near my "man parts" when she's on her period.
Q. Is it wrong for me to be extremely frustrated at the fact that my girlfriend won't go anyone near my genitals when she's on her period? We can be hooking up and it will get intense and she'll stop us and tell me she "doesn't want to get too horny, ...
A. 7 December 2012: Some women and men swear by sex while the woman is on her period, others just won't/can't do it.
YOU need to respect that she doesn't LIKE sex while on her period and if you are THAT much in need I'm sure you have two good hands. It's not her job ... (read in full...)
Rejected 3 times by her! What should I do?
Q. I like a girl for no reason. I've been waiting for her for 5 years already. During this 5 years, i've got rejected by her 3 times. Any advice?...
A. 7 December 2012: Let her go. If you like brick walls and find out that banging you head into the the brick walls hurt, why not stop?
She doesn't want you. Find someone YOU want, who want you back.... (read in full...)
"I love her as much as I could" What does that mean?
Q. What does it mean when a man says "I loved her as much as I could.?" I ask, because, an associate of mine cited that he cheated and left an ex girlfriend over twenty something years ago, but he claims that while she "loved him more than he loved ...
A. 6 December 2012: It's hard to say, but I would venture a guess.
It mean he doesn't (didn't) know what love it.
He didn't cheat because he didn't LOVE her enough. He cheated because he wanted to.
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How do I forgive a cybersex affair?
Q. I met a new guy three years after my divorce . online dating he was very newly seperated ( i didnt know this at first)I think his wife cheated . she moved out with another man. But anyways .. Everything was great He was great . Lot in common, ...
A. 6 December 2012: Personally, I would be out of this relationship. He is lying and when he isn't lying he is making up excuse after excuse.
He won't stop, he will just hide it better. Addict or not.
He was not EVEN considering if you wanted to do these 3-some ... (read in full...)
No contact but he is blowing up my phone
Q. I did it in person, I did it as nice as possible, I did it affirmatively. I have ended the relationship, but he has not put me in the past. It's been a month and everyday it's 15 or more texts. So after the 2nd week I text him saying, "I'm sorry ...
A. 6 December 2012: Judging by the "quality " of the texts I would have guessed he was 15 not 55.. Wow. I think you dodged a really crappy guy there.
Hang in there, hopefully he will find someone else to bug.
BUT stay safe. He doesn't sounds quite right in the hea... (read in full...)
Why are girls constantly giving me weird looks?
Q. I'll start by saying whenever I'm at school all I do is sit by myself and listen to music the whole school day. People constantly tell me I look depressed including my sister who is two years younger than me. I am pretty depressed if you ask me, and ...
A. 6 December 2012: I'm thinking the girls look at you "weirdly" because they have no clue how to go about talking to you or even help you. I think they sense your "unhappiness" but don't know how to reach out to you.
And I think that may-hap you read WAY more int... (read in full...)
My best friend's younger sister wants me to pop her cherry and give her a crash course in lovemaking...but she has a boyfriend
Q. There's a girl who wants me to take her virginity and teach her about sex with a guy. She's a friend, but not a girlfriend, and I'm unsure about how to handle it. I'm 23 and hope to graduate next May with a degree in marketing. I'm unattached ...
A. 6 December 2012: NO offense...
Honey, You are no prize winning stud, OK?
IF you have sex with her, she will without a DOUBT develop feeling and an attachments to you. She might also regret the sex deeply once she figures out that this doesn't mean anything em... (read in full...)
Did I take my daughter's happiness away? I think her and my new stepson have feelings for each other
Q. Summer 2012, I got married for the first time at age 52 to a 37 year old woman. We met on eHarmony Spring 2012 and things just clicked. She was married once before for two years and has a 20 year old son. I have a 19 year old daughter. My issue is ...
A. 6 December 2012: They aren't siblings. They are step siblings. I see nothing wrong in it.
THOUGH if it doesn't work out it can become rather awkward for the whole mixed family.. Such is life.
Let the two of them figure it out. It might end up jsut being a fli... (read in full...)
No contact but he is blowing up my phone
Q. I did it in person, I did it as nice as possible, I did it affirmatively. I have ended the relationship, but he has not put me in the past. It's been a month and everyday it's 15 or more texts. So after the 2nd week I text him saying, "I'm sorry ...
A. 6 December 2012: I would also look into blocking his number. You dumped him and he refuses to accept it, I would NOT contact him back, HE KNOWS - he just doesn't ACCEPT.
I would ignore, ignore, ignore if you can not block him.
If he shows up at your house DO... (read in full...)
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