I was hospitalised for 10 days, and my LDR boyfriend sent nasty emails! Should I even bother to contact him?
Q. Hello to all on the site. I am so hurt and confused. I took ill around 10 days ago and had to be hospitalised. I am now back home and doing ok but am a bit shell shocked to discover that while I was on the ward, my boyfriend (who lives in France)...
A. 3 April 2014: As you TRIED to (yet again) give him the benefit of the doubt (which I don't blame you for, wanting to give him a chance is not something to "beat yourself" up about.)
So what's your plan now? To give him a few days to come up with somethin... (read in full...)
I was hospitalised for 10 days, and my LDR boyfriend sent nasty emails! Should I even bother to contact him?
Q. Hello to all on the site. I am so hurt and confused. I took ill around 10 days ago and had to be hospitalised. I am now back home and doing ok but am a bit shell shocked to discover that while I was on the ward, my boyfriend (who lives in France)...
A. 31 March 2014: There is nothing wrong with your brain. Insulting you isn't your fault.
And good for you for recognizing that you don't need or deserve that kind of treatment.
The thing with LDR is that when there is distance there is also active imaginati... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 30 March 2014: Kids are resilient. They takes thing is stride, it's always harder for us grown up to move on.
However, when you are ready to date the next guy I would wait a good 6-12 months before introducing them (your daughter and your date) to void that in ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 29 March 2014: He knows he messed up a good thing, that is why he dropped of the radar (my guess).
And I think it's OK to miss him and to wish things had been different, but after a while you have to accept that HE wasn't IT for you. And that it DOESN'T reflect ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 29 March 2014:
He doesn't seem capable of relationships.
I would tell him that you want no further contact. Because being IN contact with him DOES NOTHING for you, other then remind you that it didn't work out. And as much as you seem to blame yourself (an... (read in full...)
I was hospitalised for 10 days, and my LDR boyfriend sent nasty emails! Should I even bother to contact him?
Q. Hello to all on the site. I am so hurt and confused. I took ill around 10 days ago and had to be hospitalised. I am now back home and doing ok but am a bit shell shocked to discover that while I was on the ward, my boyfriend (who lives in France)...
A. 29 March 2014: Never accept that someone treats you badly, no matter what excuse THEY or you make up for it. (he was stressed, we haven't seen each other in a long time.. blah blah).
The first time it happens you stand up for yourself and if the excuse isn't a ... (read in full...)
She lied and said she wasn't a virgin. Now that I know she is one, I feel like I can't trust her if she would lie about something that big!
Q. Can I be annoyed at this girl I've just started to date for lying to me about something big like this. She says she did it to protect herself, but I feel insulted she judged me to be like those guys... We got to talking and I asked her how ma...
A. 29 March 2014: I guess she found out you ARE not like those guys, you are petty and self righteous.
I don't blame her for not wanting to talk about her sex life (whether she has had one or not) and I don't blame her for not being sure if you are "one of those" g... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to break it off with him!
Q. Any one good at body language?? I think my boyfriend I had over a decade is trying to get me to dump him but I can't he started a fight today.. even during the fight he said I'm not breaking up with you, your gonna do it this time is what he said.. ...
A. 29 March 2014: It sounds like you two are just hanging on out of familiarity, not love.
And I think you should talk to him not try and guess. HAVE an honest and ADULT conversation.
If he wants the relationship to be over, then he can break up with you as much... (read in full...)
Don't know if I want to date him or get back with my ex
Q. Is it ok to go to watch a show at the theatre with a man that isn't your boyfriend?. What do you think about that?. I don't know if I want to date this guy, and I don't know if he wants to date me. I'm also not sure whether I will get back with my ...
A. 29 March 2014: I think it's fine going to show with a guy who you aren't sure you want to date or not. You could make it clear to this guy that it's JUST an outing as friends.?
BUT if you are hoping to reconcile with your ex, going on an outing OR date with ano... (read in full...)
Never thought it would go on so long or get so serious, and now I can't live with the lies
Q. You guys have probably never gotten a problem like this before...what I'm about to say is completely disgusting but please bare with me. I randomly met a guy online about 1 year ago. It was all just fun and games at first and a few days into ta...
A. 29 March 2014: Come clean and be prepared for him to never want to talk to you again.
I don't think he will forgive you, the reason you gave was an excuse. You set yourself up for failure and you set him up to fall in love with a person that doesn't exist.
... (read in full...)
Didn't know I was pregnant so missed out on the early pregnancy care
Q. ive just found out im pregnant. thing is, I could highly possibly be around 26 weeks gone. I say this as months ago I missed a couple of periods but then they came back, pretty normal so I didn't think anything of it. recently have been getting ...
A. 28 March 2014: I didn't know I was pregnant with #2 til she started to kick and I started having braxton hicks contractions. I was roughly 4 1/2 months pregnant. I was put on bed rest and had a healthy 9lbs 7oz baby girl at 40 weeks.
They might still do a scan a... (read in full...)
I have a massive crush on my much-older, married landlord. Would it be worth it if I could sleep with him just one night?
Q. Ok I don't know where to begin here but I have a massive crush on my landlord. Like I'm not saying I want to run of to the sunset and marry him lol, but I have fantasised sleeping with him! He's older than well by 20 years but looks like fecking ...
A. 28 March 2014: Seriously, he is married but you getting yours makes it OK to pursue a married guy?
Grow some morals, girl.
And if you think HE can throw you out if it goes South, what do you think HIS WIFE will do if she heard about his? Let you live in your... (read in full...)
How can my grandparents and I come to some consensus? My grandparents don't agree with gay marriage and parenting
Q. Hi. I'm struggling with accepting that my grandma and grandpa don't agree with gay marriage and parenting. Their reasoning is that marriage is a religious thing (though I pointed out that many non-religious people get married) and it would be unna...
A. 28 March 2014: I think the biggest thing in one of these discussions is NOT about "winning the argument" but about hearing each other out.
And about respecting that not everyone HAS the same view or ideas.
Personally I have never understood why people's sex... (read in full...)
Can I never trust a guy after this?
Q. Please help me. In January I met a guy in Facebook and we both started chatting. After few days of chatting we both exchanged our contact number and he started calling me. After few weeks we decided to meet at one of his friends home. We both wer...
A. 28 March 2014: I have to agree with Cerbeus and Ciar.
You need to OWN your own actions. You flirted on line and then had sex with a VIRTUAL stranger. No matter how much you chat, sext, flirt it doesn't mean you ACTUALLY know the other person and LOVE is definite... (read in full...)
They're getting married in nine days and I KNOW he is cheating on her!
Q. One of my lifelong friends is getting married to the man of her dreams in 9 days. They have been together 4 years and have a daughter who is just 6 months old. This morning I've found out that he has been having an affair. I don't just suspect, I ...
A. 27 March 2014: I would NOT wait til after the wedding. That just isn't fair. If she DECIDES she can forgive him and STILL marry him, at least she will enter the marriage with her eyes open.
I get that you don't want to ruin her big day, but when IS the right ti... (read in full...)
He disappeared from my life and now he is back, should I hear him out?
Q. Hi everyone, I had posted a question a while back (My boyfriend has disappeared and I'm very worried.) After a about almost two months now I have moved forward but was still wondering what had happened I heard from him. I was looking at my em...
A. 27 March 2014: You don't OWE him anything. Bear that in mind.
You are not his.... If you were he wouldn't have ignored you for 2 months, now would he?... (read in full...)
How can I control the jealousy I feel when he visits his daughter from a previous relationship, especially now that we have a child of our own?
Q. Me my boyfriend have a child together and he also has a child from his first relationship... often he goes to spend time with his other daughter and it's really getting on my love. He loves his daughter very much but sometimes I hate the fact th...
A. 27 March 2014: Standing ovation to Cerberus's post. He is SPOT on.
YOU need serious help, and not from a website. Find yourself a therapist and deal with these destructive issues.
THAT is my advice.... (read in full...)
I genuinely thought I was over my ex, but lately I keep thinking about him and it's getting me down!
Q. Hi guys, I'm having a bit of a rough time at the minute. My relationship with my ex ended 2 years ago after several break-ups and him cheating. However, we do consider each other friends and do speak every so often. I thought i had moved on and...
A. 27 March 2014: I agree with Cindy (as usual)
It DOES have something to do with him having a new GF,but not that alone.
EACH relationship is unique. You can not go into a relationship expecting the same fireworks and theme-song every time. If you do - them ma... (read in full...)
She said she was straight but I'm starting to wonder if she secretly has feelings for me!
Q. basically I've been living with a bunch of friends for 2 years now. We all knew each other for an additional year before that. At the start of that year when we all met one another, I openly admitted that I thought this one girl in the group was ...
A. 27 March 2014: She could be bi-curious, but I don't think she is ready for that or ready to admit it to you let alone herself.
So no, I wouldn't push it.
Let her come to YOU, if she decides she is really CURIOUS.
MANY bi-curious women feel it's "safer" ... (read in full...)
They're getting married in nine days and I KNOW he is cheating on her!
Q. One of my lifelong friends is getting married to the man of her dreams in 9 days. They have been together 4 years and have a daughter who is just 6 months old. This morning I've found out that he has been having an affair. I don't just suspect, I ...
A. 27 March 2014: If you were in her shoes would you want to know?
If the answer is yes, then I would talk to the husband to be. Tell him that you know and that he NEEDS to come clean to his wife-to-be or you will tell her, but that you think it's is BETTER i... (read in full...)
I feel lonely and alone.
Q. Basically I feel very lonely and alone in life. I unfortunately lost my mother a few years ago and it's just me and my father. I'm grateful for my father but he is literally the only person in my life. A lot of my family live in different states and ...
A. 27 March 2014: Do you work? Go to school?
If you work, then maybe start looking around and find some women your age and get to know them, maybe there is a friend hidden in there. You won't know til you try.
If you go to school, then you might want to co... (read in full...)
My husband has confessed but my best friend says she can't remember!
Q. While I was pregnant my husband and a argument and I've since found out that he went to my best friend one thing led to another and he gave her oral sex, she tried to give him it but he says it didnt happen as he couldn't get an erection, is this ...
A. 27 March 2014: What should you do?
Accept that he cheated. Whether he RECEIVED oral or not, is kind unimportant (unless she has Herpes, HPV or another STD that can spread through oral). Whether she can remember it or not SHE still participated. It is possible... (read in full...)
I'm worried I should have given it more time!
Q. I met a guy and we dated for 3 months and it was amazing in the beginning he chased me took me to places I met all his friends. The only thing was that he ended a relationship for 2 years and after 3 months she started to date his friend so that ...
A. 27 March 2014: This seem to be such a common theme on DC these days with guys STARTING to date LONG before they are ready and then pull a can we just hang out and stuff, because I'm not ready to date?.... And the women think if they PUT out or STICK around that ... (read in full...)
My wife disgusts me!
Q. Hello all! I am almost 41 years old and I have been with my wife since 2001. There are still some things that thrill me about her, but often I wonder what I ever saw in her. She is lazy, drinks too much liquor, has let her good looks go, and a...
A. 27 March 2014: I would start by doing two things. 1. find a therapist or counselor YOU like and start going. She might have agreed to it but she is now backtracking, because she either isn't ready to work on herself or she isn't over her self-enforced pity ... (read in full...)
He disappeared from my life and now he is back, should I hear him out?
Q. Hi everyone, I had posted a question a while back (My boyfriend has disappeared and I'm very worried.) After a about almost two months now I have moved forward but was still wondering what had happened I heard from him. I was looking at my em...
A. 27 March 2014: Wow, no. I would tell him I'm sorry but I moved on. I'm sorry you had an accident, lost your phone and so forth but when someone ignores me for THAT long, I have to assume they are no longer interested.
And then I would block him.
You e-mailed ... (read in full...)
Hpv in a long term relationship. Is cheating involved?
Q. I am a 36 year old woman. I have been with my husband for four years. I have had regular Pap smears my entire life. I have been tested for hpv every single year since I was 28. My hpv tests have always come back negative. Last month, I ...
A. 27 March 2014: If your doctor suggested that the strain of HpV is not one that was dormant for years, then I would trust her. She should know.
There are so many types of HpV, so if she suggests it's something you have gotten over the last year, I would talk to ... (read in full...)
I ended it with my difficult BF and now he is being so sweet and I'm confused.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles. Please advise!! I split with my BF of 3.5 years about two weeks ago. The relationship was volitile and difficult. I really loved him , but was not seeing him enough , and did not feel he was making enough effort to keep me in ...
A. 26 March 2014: I think he has "changed" his approach, not himself. He knows what you want in a man, but NEVER bothered providing that. Now that you have walked away he wants what he lost, you. And if he HAS to play nice to get you back he will, but I think the ... (read in full...)
I was hospitalised for 10 days, and my LDR boyfriend sent nasty emails! Should I even bother to contact him?
Q. Hello to all on the site. I am so hurt and confused. I took ill around 10 days ago and had to be hospitalised. I am now back home and doing ok but am a bit shell shocked to discover that while I was on the ward, my boyfriend (who lives in France)...
A. 26 March 2014: Yes, it possible.
Obviously you are game to him. He tries to control you by first being on the attack and then switching gears.
He will mostly think that you have forgotten all about his previous behavior and that you are grateful for his... (read in full...)
Sex when on my period?
Q. My boyfriend won't have sex with me when I am on my period. It's nothing to worry about to have sex on my period - what should I do??? ...
A. 26 March 2014: If he doesn't WANT to have sex with you while on your period, my advice is to respect that.
YOU might feel like it's nothing to worry about, obviously he does.
There are 21-25 more days of the month for sex, so relax.... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 26 March 2014: I'm glad he is safe and sounds. I agree that he SHOULD have found a way to get hold of you (work or e-mail) but no need to cry over spilled milk.
Take a deep breath and relax. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to look at other women and come to the conclusion that some are better than my wife?
Q. Is it wrong to look at other women if you find yourself thinking they are better than your wife in some way? For example you see a woman who has long shapely legs, and you catch yourself thinking for a second she has nicer legs than your wife. I ...
A. 26 March 2014: You sound like you are more looking for faults in your wife then what she is all about, why you married her.
It sounds like you actually believe you could have gotten a "better model".
It is natural to notice beautiful people who aren't your ... (read in full...)
His idea of a compliment left me troubled
Q. Hi. I would be grateful for some opinions please. My partner of ten years has never paid me many compliments but the other day, he said he had been watching me sleep and had made a decision. He said he thought to himself, "Yeah, she`ll do". He said ...
A. 26 March 2014: That is one of the worst pathetic excuse for a compliment, no matter how long you two have been together it scream, I'll SETTLE for this.
If that is his idea of compliments I think I would tell him to not pay you any more compliments - ever.
... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of giving the baby up for adoption but getting no support
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm having a kid soon, and I was wondering what the cons of adoption are. When I first discovered I was pregnant, I nearly had an abortion, but was convinced not to follow through by my mother and friends. Now that I mention adoption...
A. 26 March 2014: I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. And then have your family try and cram THEIR choice down YOUR throat.
They might be helping if you kept the baby, but that doesn't mean keeping the baby is the right thing for you.
You CHOSE to ... (read in full...)
My Gf finds flatulence disgusting. I am afraid to share a bed with her because of it. What can I do?
Q. i cant sleep at night with my gf, we have been together for two years now but we are LD, we have reach a very acceptable level of comfort with each other, but i cant still pass gas in front of her, not yet. she finds it disgusting. Every nigh...
A. 26 March 2014: See? Being honest with your partner IS the way to go. After all if you can't be honest, what kind of relationship do you have?
IF there is something nagging you, then talk to her.
... (read in full...)
Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 26 March 2014: ROFLMAO @ Cerberus you just made me spit out my coffee!
To OP, like I said don't play games. If you want to talk to a girl/woman say hi, and have a conversation. We aren't dogs and your "line" isn't a parlor trick that will reveal your true lov... (read in full...)
Falling in love with one of my best friends. How do I manage this without ruining our amazing friendship?
Q. I think I'm falling for one of my best friends. Admittedly I was interested in him when we first met. We started out just running together after meeting at school, and I originally thought that was a precursor to something more, but nothing ...
A. 26 March 2014:
As much as he wouldn't mind a roll in the hay with you, he isn't seeing you as someone he would date.
He has gotten to know you over the last year and yet you two remain friends and no more. He could have jumped in the drunk thing and he didn'... (read in full...)
The bio father has never shown any interest in her but she's been messaging him
Q. My daughter has recently been messaging her biological father through Facebook. I'm really not sure how to handle this or feel about it. He has never shown any interest in her and has never actively tried to see her. I know that now she is 14, I...
A. 26 March 2014: Everyone wants someone to belong to. And since she went from being an only child to having half-sibling maybe she wanted something that was HERS only. And that would be her dad.
Try and stop over compensating. It's not your fault HER bio dad was ... (read in full...)
Should I stay friends with him after this?
Q. I meet a guy from a group just after xmas last year, like a hobby group, we meet up on Sunday morning every week.we added each other on fb not long after we met, and we have been chatting everyday, early February he told me he's in limbo from a ...
A. 26 March 2014: Best to be honest. Always.
... (read in full...)
I need a job, but is this the right one?
Q. I'm a shy person. Would a promotions job be the wrong kind of work for me?. I have been offered an interview for a job as a promoter in a shopping mall. It's only part time. I would be working at the weekends. I am on Jobseeker's Allowance. I...
A. 25 March 2014: Try it anyways, instead of making reasons as to WHY not try. It may be absolutely perfect for you and it may not. Not everyone can deal with crowds or strangers or noisy environment. But sometimes we have to put ourselves in situation to face those ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he perform?
Q. I lost my virginity tonight, it wasn't what I thought it'd be like, the guy was drunk. We did it for a little bit and then he started talking just about random stuff and we were just laying there not doing anything. He started falling asleep. When i ...
A. 25 March 2014: Because he was drunk.
Why on Earth would to have sex with some drunk dude your first time?
And it doesn't matter if he went soft, you DO know that there CAN be sperm in the pre-cum and you CAN get pregnant, but that aside STD's - GIRL. DO NOT h... (read in full...)
He slept with someone else right before our wedding was scheduled
Q. I have been married for 9 weeks and now my husband decides to tell me that he slept with a work colleague last year but thinks because its a one off that I should be able to move on and forgive him. Our wedding had to be pushed back due to the ...
A. 25 March 2014: He hoped it would make you stronger? Seriously?
She was still invited and actually dared to SHOW up at your wedding, what a cheeky cow!!
He should have told you BEFORE the wedding. I guess hindsight is 20/20 and therefore not useful right now... (read in full...)
I need a job, but is this the right one?
Q. I'm a shy person. Would a promotions job be the wrong kind of work for me?. I have been offered an interview for a job as a promoter in a shopping mall. It's only part time. I would be working at the weekends. I am on Jobseeker's Allowance. I...
A. 25 March 2014: Why not try it? It doesn't sound like you can really BE too picky.... (read in full...)
How do you confront a liar cheating wife with the facts?
Q. . My wife does not know I know she's cheated. I have all the proof I need and it's causing me to distant my personal life from her. I see my wife stressing over me pulling away from her, she appears to not understand why I stopped showing her ...
A. 25 March 2014: What would I do?
I would get my ducks in a row. And with that, I mean I would consult a lawyer and look into divorce. You can confront her all you want, but I would rather drop the papers on her and tell her WHY you decided to divorce her. Tha... (read in full...)
I don't even know his name :(
Q. I'm looking for some advice on how to best get in touch with a guy I like. Basically I met him through teaching an exercise class. I'm the instructor and he's a participant. Please don't judge me here and think I use my job to meet guys, I don...
A. 25 March 2014: I'm with Cerberus.
YOU ARE a little to hung up on a fictional character. You say you teach and you don't even know the names of your students? If someone is really helpful you don't just say:" thank you for your help, sorry I forgot your name..? ... (read in full...)
My Gf finds flatulence disgusting. I am afraid to share a bed with her because of it. What can I do?
Q. i cant sleep at night with my gf, we have been together for two years now but we are LD, we have reach a very acceptable level of comfort with each other, but i cant still pass gas in front of her, not yet. she finds it disgusting. Every nigh...
A. 25 March 2014: Tell her.
Passing gas is normal, SHE FARTS too, you know?!
I think what she really dislikes is people who think "dutch oven" or "pull my finger" are vulgar and gross, but normal farts? What can you do it,s a ABSOLUTELY normal body function an... (read in full...)
Should I stay friends with him after this?
Q. I meet a guy from a group just after xmas last year, like a hobby group, we meet up on Sunday morning every week.we added each other on fb not long after we met, and we have been chatting everyday, early February he told me he's in limbo from a ...
A. 25 March 2014: Aunty Em put it pretty perfectly.
IF there is something I have learned from reading post here on DC is that in 99% of the cases where a guy says I AM NOT looking for a relationship, they are TELLING the truth.
The thing is with guys like that..... (read in full...)
Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 25 March 2014: I agree, this is NOT a good line to gauge much of anything. I'm willing to bet MOST of the girls who says :"you and only you" also want to say:" GET OVER yourself."
It's not cute.
Auntie YouWish is right. It's a bad pick up artist line that ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 25 March 2014: My guess is he lost or had his phone stolen. If he is anything like 90% of people these days he hasn't your number memorized.
Could you remember his phone number without checking your contact list? I bet you not.
Unless like us old folks who ha... (read in full...)
I was hospitalised for 10 days, and my LDR boyfriend sent nasty emails! Should I even bother to contact him?
Q. Hello to all on the site. I am so hurt and confused. I took ill around 10 days ago and had to be hospitalised. I am now back home and doing ok but am a bit shell shocked to discover that while I was on the ward, my boyfriend (who lives in France)...
A. 20 March 2014: What do you do?
YOU get on your knees and THANK the stars that you are now better and that you had to go into the hospital because NOW you can CLEARLY see him for WHO he is. He doesn't trust you. AT ALL.
Then LET is e-mails go into the spam/tr... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 10 February 2014: I get that you nagged about the drinking, I mean what MOTHER wouldn't?
I also get that you feel responsible for what happened and maybe you had part blame in it, but you DIDN'T make him depressed, you DIDN'T make him turn to drinking. My guess is... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 10 February 2014: I don't think it was too fast. He KNEW you had a child, I ASSUME he had seem your place and knew how little it was. He JUST wasn't able to commit to the whole "family" thing outside of occasionally.
Do I think he could do better if you tried ag... (read in full...)
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