I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!
Q. You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...
A. 1 July 2014: The ring while it might be pretty... is a hold out tactics. And then he goes on holiday with his daughter? Nothing planned with you? At all?
He thinks the ring will keep you around, he gave HIMSELF ANOTHER 2 years to wait. Wanna bet... in 2 years ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!
Q. You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...
A. 6 June 2014: I think you deserve better, or rather MORE then he is willing to give you.
It's OK to be sad, hurt and angry - but take some time with NO CONTACT and let yourself move on. YOU have put in 5 years with this guy and when push came to shove...... (read in full...)
I need ex-boyfriend advice: will he change if I stop answering his calls?
Q. my ex bf and I have been playing this back and forth game for a while now. he says he does not want to get back in a relationship and he does not want commitment, I do. but yet he continues to call me and not let me go and move on whyyy? will he ...
A. 8 May 2014: Nothing will make him CHANGE - unless he wishes to change. You no answering his calls will not do a thing FOR him, but ofr YOU it might.
YOU might realize that you are holding out for a guy who DOESN'T want to be with you any more. (other then per... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!
Q. You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...
A. 7 May 2014: If he is still married getting a mortgage with him is the DUMBEST (sorry) thing you can do.
NO MORTGAGE til the divorce is final. And I strongly suggest that IF you two do NOT marry but share mortgage that you MAKE sure there is a PIECE of paper... (read in full...)
Is he cheating, texting her, wanting her back?
Q. I have been in a relationship for going on 6 months. After falling madly for each other I thought that we were doing great. He was attentive, we rarely had harsh words and he ended up moving into my apartment with me. Just last month I noticed that ...
A. 7 May 2014: I'm with Auntie YouWish as well.
He is pulling a strong DEFLECT on you. Making you out to be the bad guy when HE is the one who is doing things he shouldn't and that he PROMISED he wouldn't do.
And the whole BULL SHIT story about her workin... (read in full...)
What type of condom do you recommend for the first time?
Q. Hi! So I am a virgin currently. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex. I'm a virgin and he isn't. My question is: What type of condom do you recommend for my first time? He wants to use fire and ice but I'm not so sure since if it hur...
A. 7 May 2014: I'd go with something a little less "fancy".
Your BF needs to hold his horse and wait with the "fun" stuff til you are more comfortable with sex in general.
I will second you considering to get on birth-control yourself and BE on it for a good... (read in full...)
In an LDR for 3 years, we rarely see each other, and have had sex 3 times! She says she loves me but I'm not sure she wants to be with me. What should I do?
Q. Hello.I am a 31 year old guy and I have been in a relationship with a younger woman for the past 3 years.We live around 100 miles from one another but have kept things going but I rarely ever see her and in those 3 years she has come up to see me ...
A. 7 May 2014: I have to agree with CMMP,
WHAT is the point of this "relationship"? I have to say that if NEITHER of you plan to move towards a goal of BEING together there is no point in "dating" other then to SAY you have a GF/BF.
Her mother runs inte... (read in full...)
It's obvious there is something 'off' about my new neighbor, how do I deal with it?
Q. I think there is something wrong with my new neighbor . He is in his late 50s, has a very sweet wife, grown children and an 8 years old granddaughter. We live in our house for 3 years, and mostly young families with small kids. They just moved in a ...
A. 7 May 2014: I'm with Auntie SVC and Auntie Daisy - I think he is TRYING to be "gallant" and pass out compliments in a really awkward flirty way.
The wife ignore it because she finds it embarrassing, my bet is she's told him a million times it's not appropri... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accused me of dating the phone repairman!
Q. I'm female of 23plus and my guy is 29yearsplus we've been dating getting to 3months which l love so much but sometimes i still wonder if he loves me as a result what happen of recent, this how it happen two weeks ago when an enginner who repairs ...
A. 7 May 2014: Well, I think you DODGED a bullet with your "bf" - he was all nice and sweet for 3 months and then BAM accusing you of cheating the FIRST time he sees you with another male....
Personally, I would stop calling him and consider the relation... (read in full...)
My ex's mum messaged me and I'm not sure if or how I should respond!
Q. Today my ex's mother has facebook messaged me. It is the first time I have heard from her, and I was relatively close to his family, so am not sure whether to respond or how. The message was nice, she was sorry to hear about us breaking up, she ...
A. 7 May 2014: As long as she isn't trying to "get you" to forgive her son and take him back, I think it's actually quite nice to see a MOM who isn't blaming the GF/BF for the break-up.
I don't see a problem writing her something polite back. It doesn't mean you... (read in full...)
If he takes you to meet his family is he serious about you?
Q. Dear cupid,when a guy lets you meet his family is he serious about you? Is this guy serious about me or is he a player? we are both 23.When I first met him he was very sweet and said he hasn't been in a relationship since he was 17 and he has just ...
A. 7 May 2014:
I'd wait with sex til you ARE exclusive (IF that is what you are looking for). And you DO know YOU can ask about being exclusive - it's not the guys job to bring that up - I would however wait til you have been dating (no sex) for a good 3-4 mont... (read in full...)
I am not a needy person but I feel like I need an explanation. HELP!
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice on this one as myself and all my close friends are stumped! Basically I met this guy last summer and we were meeting for about 2 months. He initiated everything but he told me that he had literally just ...
A. 7 May 2014: You CAN tell him, that you aren't looking for a new friend or relationship and feel it's better to cut the contact as the two of you had no deep connection nor friendship. ( You can phase however you feel is BEST - that was just a suggestion)
... (read in full...)
My friend expects a lot from me, is she just using me?
Q. Okay, so lately I've been feeling like people are using me, for the past year I've been constantly paying this that my friend need because she has no income and I feel mean when I'm getting thing, but lately she's been weird with me and expecting ...
A. 7 May 2014: Her having no income doesn't mean that YOU (as her friend) HAS to pay anything for her, or buy things for her. I would just not go shopping WITH her.
IF you FEEL like cooking a meal for her, then THAT is nice. IF she is EXPECTING you to do so, I... (read in full...)
How can I keep this relationship going?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year and we live together at the beginning of our relationship it was the best kind of relationship we always did things together we went every where together there was never a boring moment. ...
A. 7 May 2014: It almost sounds like you are expecting him to make ALL the moves.
Why not say, hey let's go see Godzilla on the 13th or whichever movie. Or, I don't feel like cooking like go to Olive Garden (or where ever) INITIATE going out and doing things. ... (read in full...)
White lies, half-truths, minor deceptions...are they bad signs or just normal human behavior?
Q. Are small half-truths or deceptions insignificant or significant in a relationship? I have been in a relationship for a couple of years with a woman who is different from any others I have ever known. She is very outgoing, very social, and a lo...
A. 6 May 2014: Maybe it's just me but I don't think you (general you, not you OP specifically) should NEED to know where you partner is 24/7 - every minute of the day.
IF you trust your partner, she/he should be able to GO about their part of their lives wi... (read in full...)
How do I give her support? My friend has been her Bf for month. Now he wants to spend his Birthday with his guy friends, not her
Q. hi, please please tell me what i should do? A friend of mine have been dating with her bf for 1 month. On this friday it will be her bf's birthday, and her bf said that he doesn't want to go any where with her, but instead wants to go with the...
A. 6 May 2014: They have been dating ONE month. Nothing is set in stone yet.
Him having a day out with his FRIENDS who he has know a LOT longer is not a SNUB towards her.
She can still do something nice for him, but I would suggest she doesn't go over ... (read in full...)
I am not a needy person but I feel like I need an explanation. HELP!
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice on this one as myself and all my close friends are stumped! Basically I met this guy last summer and we were meeting for about 2 months. He initiated everything but he told me that he had literally just ...
A. 6 May 2014: I think there is more going on with him then anxiety. He might not be aware of it, he might not feel he knows you well enough to share. Or he might STILL be dealing (or rather, NOT dealing) with the break up.
He is blowing hot and cold because ... (read in full...)
Why is she taking birth control?
Q. I'm in a LDR, my girlfriend and I are in different countries due to school and we can see each other every three months or so. she is on the pill. why would a girl be on birth control if she is not supposed to be sexually active?...
A. 6 May 2014: I was on BC to regulate my period for years. Others take them to minimize the heavy periods and.. others again use them to control when and how long (more or less) they bleed. Like let's say you have a holiday planned and your period lands RIGHT in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a gay man.
Q. How do people accept being gay so easily? I'm starting to think I'm gay but I don't want to be. Sure I could pretend to be straight for the rest of my life but I'm not sure if that's what I want but I don't want to lead a gay lifestyle either. I ...
A. 6 May 2014: I think your best "bet" is to find a LGBT group so you have others to talk to, who might feel the same. If you don't want to do it in person, look up some LGBT boards and find people to talk to through there.
For you to be "pissed" over what gir... (read in full...)
What thoughts comes to a woman’s mind when a 25 year old guy says that he has never been in a relationship and is a virgin?
Q. Just looking for some straight forward answers. Question: What thoughts comes to a woman’s mind (as well as guys) when a 25 year old guy says that he has never been in a relationship and is a virgin. Why: Initially, it was a religiou...
A. 6 May 2014: 25 year old virgin, be you male or female - it's no strange, weird or odd. It just is. YOU are still you and after sex YOU will still be you.
I know males seem to have more of a stigma by being a virgin, but that is partly because society ... (read in full...)
He always wants sex
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend won't stop trying to have sex, we can never stay in a just watch a dvd, he always trys it on, and I tell him no but he will carry on until he gets it, should I say something? Thanks ...
A. 6 May 2014: So he can't come over any more. OR you have to WOMAN up and tell him to leave if he can't respect you. YOU need to grow a spine or HE and every OTHER man in your life will WALK all over you.
IF you seriously still want to date this guy, Go OUT i... (read in full...)
Was I right to conclude that he isn't over his ex?
Q. I am so confused. I met a guy I used to date 25 years ago on facebook, we fell immediately back in love. He is separated and from what both he and his family tells me, his soon to be ex is a horrible person. I have witness first hand. She texts ...
A. 6 May 2014: You two fell in love with a fantasy. A 25 year old fantasy. Nothing wrong in that. Facts are , that you are two VERY different people today, then who you were 25 years ago.
Second of all, NEVER ever date a guy who is claiming to be ALMOST divorced... (read in full...)
Living with sister is hurting our relationship! Please advise!
Q. How can I talk to my sister? My sister and I are more than 10 years apart in age. She's in her 40's and I'm close to my 30's. Both of us are single and never been married. We've been roommates for years, and it's only since this past year t...
A. 6 May 2014: You haven't done anything that Karma wants to hunt you down for, honey.
It's just time for YOU to have a life.
IF you stay you are going to be like a couple if spinsters straight out of a Jane Austen novel. Living and bickering til you two are ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 6 May 2014: While what she is SAYING she is planning is illegal it kind of also reeks of "getting even" more then doing the right thing. All you have right now are hearsay and planning. Nothing is concrete and nothing has been done. So what are the city ... (read in full...)
Does my impatience with my puppy mean I'm going to be a terrible mother?
Q. Hi everyone, This might be an odd question to ask but here goes! I have a 4 month old puppy. I love animals, always have. I have previously had grown dogs but this is my first puppy since I was a child. I walk him, train him, clean up after h...
A. 6 May 2014: I'm impatient with my cats from time to time. But I don't think I'm a bad mom. Fur-babies and real babies, there IS a difference.
However, IT might also be a GUIDE for you to see where you need to improve.
A DOG needs play time. (cats too)... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being mad about these 'friends'?
Q. How do you see this situation? Am I wrong for being mad about them? We have a vacation house that we come to from another state approximately 6-7 times a year. Ussualy for kids holidays, just a short break away from work, long weekends, etc. ...
A. 6 May 2014: Kick the tenant out. She will be more problems then she is worth.
Second of all though, if you have no CLEAR and WRITTEN rules for tenants, and what you expect as far as behavior, you basically give the tenant carte blanche to do as they please. ... (read in full...)
He always wants sex
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend won't stop trying to have sex, we can never stay in a just watch a dvd, he always trys it on, and I tell him no but he will carry on until he gets it, should I say something? Thanks ...
A. 5 May 2014: You need to tell him.
No means no, EVEN for women who are in a relationship. YOU are not "sex on the tap" for him. If you JUST want to watch a movie then make SURE you tell him and if he starts to "put the moves" on you you tell him, no I came to ... (read in full...)
I need to stop liking a co-worker
Q. Hello Thanks for reading if you do . This is probably a daft question but see how it goes , I have been working with this girl nearly a year now and we get on rather well . Well we have always had a banter and she winds me up and I wi...
A. 5 May 2014: I would just "wind" how much you interact with her down. Not avoid her 100% or go cold (because let's face she doesn't deserve a cold shoulder because you developed some feelings) - just cut down on how much time you spend with/around her.
... (read in full...)
How do I explain to my family how I met my girlfriend?
Q. Ok. So long story short.... Me and my gf of 3 years, are planning to get married. However since we haven't told any of our patents yet, we need to Annouce and tell them how we met. I am Indian, so culture reasons don't make it easy for us to mix ...
A. 5 May 2014: Are you asking total stranger to concoct a lie you parents might swallow?
How about you MAN up and tell them YOU have found the woman YOU want to marry and live YOUR life with?
... (read in full...)
Fed up with always being there for others?
Q. I am fed up of being a responsible person. I am so lonely and starved of support myself and have become sick to death of people sucking my blood for support. I am the type of person who doesn't brag about how successful I am at being independent and ...
A. 5 May 2014: I agree with Mark.
Learn to say no.
Tell your pregnant friend that you are HONORED but you already have 10 GODCHILDREN and you take the job serious, you just don't have enough in you to be a Godmother for 11. I think THAT is fair enough. YOU... (read in full...)
My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!
Q. I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...
A. 5 May 2014: You called the place and you actually think they would tell you the truth and the whole truth?
Honey! Don't you think they ave a standard "excuse" they use for all the "belligerent" GF's and wives?
Who does she make her money off? The men or ... (read in full...)
I went out of my way to accommodate them, and they couldn't be bothered to return the favour
Q. This probably may come across as me being picky but I would like some opinions. I threw my husband a birthday party at our home 2 months ago and we invited a few of his colleagues and their families from his work. 1 particular colleague had ad...
A. 4 May 2014: Well, then I would just not do cook out with these people again, because clearly they don't give a flying fart about their guests.
My guess is the jokes they made on your expense, was because they were embarrassed that they fell short on their ho... (read in full...)
My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!
Q. I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...
A. 4 May 2014: You, cheating on him out of anger will do NOTHING for you. Other then make you stoop to his level and.. make you look like you don't know what morals are. CLEARLY you know what they are, so you should know, that no matter the REASON cheating is ... (read in full...)
Guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself?
Q. A question for the guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself .... I ask because my bf said he did this before we were together . He saw a very sexy woman one day out and said he went ...
A. 4 May 2014: Yikes.
I don't think it's normal. It's normal to NOTICE and be ATTRACTED to a hot chick or dude, but to need PRIVACY to rub one out? NOT normal. I mean can you imagine that guy on a beach full of hot almost naked people? Poor penis!
If my h... (read in full...)
I went out of my way to accommodate them, and they couldn't be bothered to return the favour
Q. This probably may come across as me being picky but I would like some opinions. I threw my husband a birthday party at our home 2 months ago and we invited a few of his colleagues and their families from his work. 1 particular colleague had ad...
A. 4 May 2014: I think it's partly BAD hosting manner and partly your husband's fault.
THEY might not remember that you are a vegetarian. YOUR husband should have made sure to remind them.
And I would NOT go so far up and beyond for people with the hope th... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 4 May 2014: She sounds sketchy. And your husband's reasoning to help is JUST as sketchy.
My guess is he KNOWS her better then he has told you, or she is a good salesman and has him hoodwinked into thinking he is going to make BANK helping her.
... (read in full...)
I've been lying for years telling people I was 10 years younger than I am! Now I can't talk to people about things because they don't understand why I would worry!
Q. I am 34 and I have been lying about my age for nearly 10yrs. I don't know why I first started doing it, I just did and have carried on since. I live in a different country to where I grew up so it technically wasn't easy to do. Then I started dating ...
A. 4 May 2014: I can see how it makes sense at work (for you) to "tell a white lie" about your age. BUT if you start seeing someone I would be VERY upfront about my age.
I have actually NEVER met a woman who lied about her age. But in your case I can see why ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never invites me to his parties
Q. Hello all. Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and have known him well for about 7 years. Last year he decorated his backyard. I picked out the pool which is the staple of the backyard. I picked out most all of the furniture, ...
A. 4 May 2014: Have you done the simple thing here and ASKED him? You hinted at wanting to watch the match WITH him and he blew you off, don't be coy - BE DIRECT when you ask him.
And I agree with Auntie Bim and Auntie llifton.
Stop being his doormat, end... (read in full...)
Has "nice guy" become a derogatory term?
Q. It seems like when you call someone a "nice guy" it seems as if it has some sort of negative connotation to it as if it is synonymous with loser, wimp, geek/nerd, pushover etc. basically anything that would be viewed as unattractive to the opposite ...
A. 4 May 2014: I agree with Mark1978.
There are several types of Nice Guys. The ones who FEEL entitled to GET whatever GIRL he think HE deserves because he is a Nice Guy. They might be NICE, but they are delusional. In the sense that SAYING you are a nice guy... (read in full...)
Girls are being inappropriate with my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I need some help My boyfriend works at a big store and is good friends with most of his co workers. These co workers have friends that come up to their work sometimes and hang out during break/lunch time. Recently, there have been a fe...
A. 4 May 2014: OP
PLEASE read Auntie Chigirl's answer. The truth is in her words.
You WANT all these girls to be the ones who are inappropriate, but THEY aren't dating YOU. HE is. HE is being inappropriate towards you and your relationship. Why? Because HE ... (read in full...)
My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!
Q. I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...
A. 4 May 2014: My advice?
First go have a STD panel done. I'm not saying that prostitutes are full of STI/STD's but they are EXPOSED to them WAY more then the average man/woman.
If you can't see yourself marry him anymore then why not end it? Kick him out (if... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 4 May 2014: And what did your husband say when you told him you are leaving? Or didn't you tell him yet?
IF you haven't I'd go see a lawyer first. Find a place to live and so forth.
And I'm sorry. I think the man you married is a man with a lot of agendas... (read in full...)
The information this man gave me about his past has made me uncomfortable. Should I keep dating him?
Q. Is this weird? I started dating a man, and we've been on a few dates, I'm still getting to know him. But during the last date he told me that he had been previously engaged to a woman he had dated for almost ten years since he met her in colle...
A. 4 May 2014: I see a whole forest of red flags here.
First of all it's been a FEW dates and he is talking marriage and kids.
Second of all, his former fiance was dumped after 10 years.. Because she wanted HER wedding HER way and not HIS Mother's way? It... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 1 May 2014: Still smells like week old herring in here.
What would she need a lab for? And why on her rental property?
... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 29 April 2014: She wants to what? build a chemistry lab?
She going to bring some "Breaking Bad" to the Cul-de-sac?
Let him dig his own hole. And perhaps you need to re-think this marriage?... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 28 April 2014: I would say something smells fishy too.
1. because she was so vague.
2. you husband has NO contractor experience.
3. she showed up out of the blue.
4. when he found out she didn't live in the neighborhood he STILL called her? and made an app... (read in full...)
Living with sister is hurting our relationship! Please advise!
Q. How can I talk to my sister? My sister and I are more than 10 years apart in age. She's in her 40's and I'm close to my 30's. Both of us are single and never been married. We've been roommates for years, and it's only since this past year t...
A. 22 April 2014: Give her 3 months notice & find a small place you can afford on your own.
I think living together was a GOOD idea for the two of you when you both NEEDED a room-mate, but you two also need to have your own lives.
It kind of sounds like she ... (read in full...)
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