What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 6 May 2014: While what she is SAYING she is planning is illegal it kind of also reeks of "getting even" more then doing the right thing. All you have right now are hearsay and planning. Nothing is concrete and nothing has been done. So what are the city ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 4 May 2014: She sounds sketchy. And your husband's reasoning to help is JUST as sketchy.
My guess is he KNOWS her better then he has told you, or she is a good salesman and has him hoodwinked into thinking he is going to make BANK helping her.
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What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 4 May 2014: And what did your husband say when you told him you are leaving? Or didn't you tell him yet?
IF you haven't I'd go see a lawyer first. Find a place to live and so forth.
And I'm sorry. I think the man you married is a man with a lot of agendas... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 1 May 2014: Still smells like week old herring in here.
What would she need a lab for? And why on her rental property?
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This guy cancelled 3 hours before a date because he met someone else when he had been the one to suggest the date!
Q. I met a guy online a month ago and we went out on a first date and had an amazing time. Since then he had been texting me and sending pictures and flirting, then he asked to set up a second date. I agreed and we set it up, 3 hours before the date he ...
A. 30 April 2014: OP you have a good attitude about this and that will help you on down the line.
Just keep on going. If the dude WAS A flake then be glad you didn't waste more time on him.
Better luck next time!... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 29 April 2014: She wants to what? build a chemistry lab?
She going to bring some "Breaking Bad" to the Cul-de-sac?
Let him dig his own hole. And perhaps you need to re-think this marriage?... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble accepting newly found step-siblings!
Q. My father had two daughters outside of his marriage 23 yrs ago. Although I knew about it, I prayed it was not true because it will crush me. I grew up looking up to this man as responsible. My whole life seems to be shattered now because of this. ...
A. 29 April 2014: How do you go though it?
BY accepting that you Dad wasn't/isn't perfect.
BY accepting that these girls had NO say in being born.
BY accepting that if you CAN NOT find it in your heart to NOT hate them, then DO not met up with them, they d... (read in full...)
Woman I'm sleeping with is becoming weird and clingy, how do I handle it?
Q. Okay, So I have a little dilemma. I've been sleeping with this woman I met. She's cool and everything and when we hang out we have a nice time, but she's becoming extraordinarily clingy. She texts things like "Do you miss me? What do you miss...
A. 29 April 2014: Try it. (Talking to her that is)
Though for many people it's hard going back to being friends when you have been sleeping with each other and specially if she REALLY has feelings for you (and I think she does whether she wants to admit it or not).... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have an intimate relationship with someone who's still married, and connected through family?
Q. I am a little confused about family relations. Recently I have been confronted by my aunt's brother in-law whom confessed feelings for me. I too have had feelings for him. My aunt is still married to his brother. However, it has been said they wil...
A. 29 April 2014: I agree with Auntie Cindy. I don't really see anything wrong with it.
You could have met him randomly and not knowing he was your aunts BIL. And it's not like you are really related to him.
I would just stay out of any family drama pertaining... (read in full...)
Sex/Intercourse with a partner versus Head/Fellatio with a partner? Why can't I orgasm from the latter and prefer Intercourse instead?
Q. So is something wrong with me that I can't seem to come from getting head? I've only ever gotten it from my girlfriend (she's my first) and I never come from it, I got close once but generally it doesn't feel as good as sex. Is this normal? I me...
A. 29 April 2014: If it's not GREAT for you, but nice, then why not use is as warm-up/foreplay? Instead of making it the entire sexual act?
Maybe you need to spice it up with a 69 instead of just receiving?
I don't enjoy oral sex performed on me, it's just ex... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to trust living with me again?
Q. We've been together for almost a year and a half and lived together for 10mo. We've been having a lot of arguments and most of the time it is him misunderstanding something and having short tempers. His divorce finalized last December and he has one ...
A. 29 April 2014: Honestly, what you REALLY need to do is break it off.
IF two people can't live together in a "decent" fashion without the arguments and tantrums, you aren't a good match.
If the fighting "drove" him away, then you two need to figure out WHY i... (read in full...)
I haven't told my boyfriend I'm pregnant yet, and now I'm back to checking his phone for texts! I need your help!
Q. Is it ever possible to truly move on from finding out your other half has cheated on you? The reason I ask is because for the past ten months, since getting back with my boyfriend since finding out he had cheated on with a mutual friend, I have tho...
A. 29 April 2014: I would tell him about the pregnancy ASAP. He needs to know, and you NEED his support, whether you decide to keep the baby or not.
It is possible to move on after a partner cheats? I think it VERY rare that people move on after it. Even those wh... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend, but she is married to somebody else!
Q. Hi everyone. Sorry, this is a bit of a long one. My best friend is female, we've been friends for about 10 years and she's married. The past couple of years, she's sank into depression. This is due in part to her husband never being there due ...
A. 29 April 2014: She does see you as her white knight, her way out. Or as her security blanket that makes things OK (if only temporarily) I know you say you don't regret it, but you also don't seem to grasp that while the sex was amazing it's NOT the right thing to ... (read in full...)
Is this man a sleaze bucket or am I a prude?
Q. I recently went on a first date with a guy in the public services blue uniform high up who I met online. He tried to kiss me intimately outside a pub in the car park which I found embarrassing and then text me later that he was going to be doing ...
A. 29 April 2014: Good for you OP, START to trust in your instincts - they were SCREAMING at you, this guy is a CREEP!
And your gut was right.... (read in full...)
Woman I'm sleeping with is becoming weird and clingy, how do I handle it?
Q. Okay, So I have a little dilemma. I've been sleeping with this woman I met. She's cool and everything and when we hang out we have a nice time, but she's becoming extraordinarily clingy. She texts things like "Do you miss me? What do you miss...
A. 29 April 2014: I think she is trying to play "I can do casual" and failing, miserably.
She says she's not trying to lure you into any sort of commitment - but she is HOPING sex will do EXACTLY that.
You have two choices.
1. NIP it in the BUD - tell her al... (read in full...)
How do I get my old friend back? She has turned to God and her personality has changed.
Q. Hello. So I have this friend. She was great in high school. Fun, friendly, happy to go out all the time and try new things. Well, she ended up with a few boyfriends (none which lasted very long and hurt her terribly) which made her go back t...
A. 28 April 2014: Unfortunately you can't really do anything about this. I hope for her it's a phase. Having faith and being religious is good, being brainwashed is not.
My guess is there is more to this then just a bad relationship. There is a reason she feels su... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying with this guy who says we are "friends with benefits", or let it fade away?
Q. Okay, There's this guy I've known for about 4 years but we only recently started talking properly. I like him but he's a flirt so I don't know if I'm special or if he's like this with everyone. About a month ago, he dared me to kiss him so I did...
A. 28 April 2014: I would stop making out with him. IF you want him to be your BF and NOT your FWB then don't make out with him til you two are a couple.
However, it doesn't seem like he is all that interested, after all you are the one to initiate contact and conv... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 28 April 2014: I would say something smells fishy too.
1. because she was so vague.
2. you husband has NO contractor experience.
3. she showed up out of the blue.
4. when he found out she didn't live in the neighborhood he STILL called her? and made an app... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend change his controlling, possessive ways?
Q. Is it possible for a person to change there controlling ways? Been together with my boyfriend for 4 years and he is everything I could wish for but the last 6 months he's become very controlling. I have started a new job which is very physical...
A. 28 April 2014: I think you need to be very clear about how he needs to STOP.
He may not want to own up to WHY he is feeling this way, but I agree Caring Aunty A, he feels threatened. Fist you lose weight, what's next? You want to lose him too?
Maybe you nee... (read in full...)
Is it OK for married people to have opposite sex friends?
Q. Simple question ; after you get married and settled down, is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex? Text them? Hang out with them? Strictly platonic that is....
A. 28 April 2014: I think it is IF you BOTH share the shame notions of what a friendship is.
I have read SO many stories on DC where(specially females) seems to think that cuddling, hand-holding and kissing is OK in a friendship - maybe I'm just old-school but I do... (read in full...)
The memories remain and it still hurts
Q. ow do you forget someone you used to be in love with? We were on and off for nearly 3 years.We split up due to mutual agreement as we felt it wasn't working. I got my own place a few months later and he got in touch again and visited 3 times. We ...
A. 28 April 2014: Maybe what you really need is to be single for a bit (and I don't mean single as in dating loads of guys or casual sex) but SINGLE as in JUST you. Sort out your feelings.
My guess is you jumped into a relationship with your current BF too soon. Yo... (read in full...)
Why do guys tease women they find attractive?
Q. What does this mean? This guy playfully teases me but he only does it in the presence of others, mainly men. Alone he's nice. I find some of it funny. He says stuff like it's raining outside it's your fault don't know why, he's obviously joking ...
A. 28 April 2014: Seems to me that SOME men never outgrow the play-ground. Remember how ADULTS would tell a little girl that if a boy pulled her pigtail it was because he LIKED her...?
Well, some guys STILL do that in their 30's and 40's...
The fact that he doe... (read in full...)
He is never there for me
Q. Dear Cupids, I have been in a relationship for three and a half years with a guy I met in high school. I am currently in my second year of college while he opted not to go to college. I have school and a part time job while he has been around u...
A. 28 April 2014: I think the writing is on the wall.
You are moving FORWARD he isn't. He is jobless and content with that.
YOU are working part time AND going to school so you can make a better future for yourself.
I'd stop being so available. If he doesn't... (read in full...)
His focus is not on me anymore. Is this the beginning of the end of our relationship?
Q. I need to start by saying i feel like a stupid teenager for feeling the way i do bout the changes in my relationship. Like i'm being a whiney, clingy, insecure, jealous teeny-bopper. But, this is how I feel, so here goes. We've been together 10 ...
A. 28 April 2014: You two moved in together WAY too fast. Basically before you even KNEW each other. Now you are starting to see more of who he is.
If you want to keep seeing this man, I would suggest you DO get a job and move out (or him moving out).
... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking me to be his friends with benefits?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if you could help me. Why does he keep asking me to be his friends with benefits? I have known him for almost two years though we got closer as friends at the beginning of last year. I fell in love with him but never showe...
A. 28 April 2014: You might have thought you HID your feelings really well, but he figured that out fast and took advantage.
The guy is a user. He wants to have a "virgin" notch in his bedpost.
Why wait for HIM to not talk to you any more? It's not like he is a... (read in full...)
Is this man a sleaze bucket or am I a prude?
Q. I recently went on a first date with a guy in the public services blue uniform high up who I met online. He tried to kiss me intimately outside a pub in the car park which I found embarrassing and then text me later that he was going to be doing ...
A. 28 April 2014: The guy is crude and not looking for a lady or a relationship. He was looking for a roll in the hay. PURE and SIMPLE.
You are NOT being a prude.
I'd toss this one back in the pond and never look back.
Girls are raised to be polite. But... (read in full...)
Is this relationship OCD or am I out of love?
Q. I am lost here. Every time I have a disagreement or see something I don't like in my boyfriend, I immediately go to the 'we're not right for each other' place and it's driving me a little crazy. I've been with him for years. I've broken up with him ...
A. 28 April 2014: What you mention CAN sound like the type of OCD called Relationship Intrusive Thoughts - Obsessive doubts over the suitability of a relationship, one’s partner or one's own sexuality are the main focus for the obsessional thoughts.
IF you THINK it... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, lashed out at me and left me bawling my eyes out, so why is it he's still trying to hurt/and or get a response from me?
Q. Ok, long story as short as possible. My ex and I were together for 4 years. Towards the end things got absolutely horrible. We couldn't be around one another without fighting. He became a totally changed person. His entire attitude about me and our ...
A. 27 April 2014: When you have REALLY had enough of his games you will do what needs done. Block his number, delete & block him on Facebook, not reply any texts and so forth.
For now, you aren't ready to give up on the drama he constantly ropes you into. You stil... (read in full...)
This guy cancelled 3 hours before a date because he met someone else when he had been the one to suggest the date!
Q. I met a guy online a month ago and we went out on a first date and had an amazing time. Since then he had been texting me and sending pictures and flirting, then he asked to set up a second date. I agreed and we set it up, 3 hours before the date he ...
A. 27 April 2014: Some people date multiple people in hopes that there is a greater chance to meet someone special. My guess is he WAS seeing her, you (and maybe more girls) at the same time.
I can understand that it's a kick in the pants to have a guy do this, bu... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, lashed out at me and left me bawling my eyes out, so why is it he's still trying to hurt/and or get a response from me?
Q. Ok, long story as short as possible. My ex and I were together for 4 years. Towards the end things got absolutely horrible. We couldn't be around one another without fighting. He became a totally changed person. His entire attitude about me and our ...
A. 27 April 2014: Wow, and you can't bring yourself to delete this asshat? SERIOUSLY?
DELETE him. YOU two are NOT going to get back together. And him talking to ANYONE new on FB is really not your business, as you two broke up.
BE mature about it. DELETE and B... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't drink often, but when she does it's hell! What can I do?
Q. Hi I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years so it's not something I want to just end. But I'm having a serious problem with my girlfriend and when she drinks. She's far from a alcoholic, she will drink only once or twice every couple of months...
A. 26 April 2014: If your cell phone can record, then next time discretely tape her and show her later JUST what a cow she turns into with a little alcohol in her system. I agree with anon there. Maybe she doesn't know JUST how badly she reacts. My guess is, that she ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend secretly meeting up with my ex friend, when we agreed not to see her?
Q. I've got (had) a good friend who made it clear she liked my boyfriend. She instantly liked him but whenever we had an argument she would always side with him and text him make sure he was OK and I wouldn't hear from her for ages! One time she w...
A. 26 April 2014: Talk to your BF again, ask him if he can't see what kind of distrust HE created by going to HER for advice. He should know that the ONLY reason SHE sees him is to create drama and hopefully snag him up or at least break you two up. She doesn't HAVE ... (read in full...)
He's pressuring me to get pregnant
Q. Hi everyone. I've been in a relationship with my bf for three years and three months. I'm 25 and he's 29. Since the beginning of our relationship, he told me that he wanted to settle down and start a family. I told him, that while I wanted to...
A. 26 April 2014: If you are not ready then you are not ready.
If he only works 3 days a week CAN he support you and the baby if need be? Are you two living together? Does he help around the house?
Personally, this would be a deal breaker for me. For someone ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my ex that he gave me an STI without freaking him out or sounding like I'm blaming him?
Q. I found out today that I have an STI. It's common and treatable and hopefully not a huge deal, but I'm still pretty mortified. I had negative test results before I got together with my ex, and I also had a negative test about 6 weeks after we ...
A. 25 April 2014: I think what Auntie Daisy wrote was nice and polite enough considering what happened.
In the future... Make sure if you have sex with a guy that HE tests too BEFORE any "bareback"....
... (read in full...)
Dating just 3 weeks, I'm discovering more and more things about him that don't match what I'm looking for. Am I right to ask?
Q. I've been dating a guy whomImet online for about 3 weeks now and I'm finding that as we're getting to know each other, I'm discovering more and more things about him that don't match what I'm looking for. I'm a fairly private, reserved woman a...
A. 25 April 2014: I think you need to decide IF there is too much in the CON side (as in PRO and CON) to keep seeing him.
If you are NOT interested in dating someone who has cheated in the past, then he is NOT for you.
IF you are NOT interested in dating someon... (read in full...)
Too Good to be true? Yet he can be VERY controlling. To the point that he scares me sometimes. What to do?
Q. I would like some level-headed unbiased advice on this please. My boyfriend is so good in so many ways but a few traits let him down and I don't know whether these should be deal breakers. We've been together 2 years. I have two children from a...
A. 25 April 2014: Just reading your story makes me scared. Scared not just for you, but your children.
KIDS learn partly by watching the adults around then, partly from what they are taught by parents, family, teachers, strangers, adults and kids alike. Mostly t... (read in full...)
I don't want to play this no contact game with him anymore, I'm too old for it. What now?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for 3 years, we r currently in LDR as he has some job assignments outside country. We used to talk atleast once a day even if its for 10 mts Long story short, for past few months he is not calling me when I do, ...
A. 25 April 2014: How long has he been gone for? How long til he gets back. Or does he work require more or less constant travel?
I would tell him that you NEED to have that daily contact. Calling your partner and either say good morning or good night EVERY da... (read in full...)
Wonderful second weekend date with my ex and now he seems distant! My heart hurts. What should I do?
Q. My ex dumped me last year around thanksgiving and it crushed me. We just went on a second weekend date in a beautiful hotel and went to a concert. Then the next day we started our day in the hot tub drinking mimosa's. We continued to drink and ...
A. 25 April 2014: Maybe he wanted a week-end of fun & Girl-friend experience, but without HAVING to put forth commitment or effort in CARING for a girl friend.
If you want to be his "week-end" or "vacation" girl-friend then go for it. IF you want more then tell him... (read in full...)
I want to keep this private. What should I say if classmates ask about my absence, without sounding rude and mean?
Q. Hi I'm 14 and need advice on what to tell people when I go to the therapist. I will go on Monday for the first time. It is weekly and will fall on the same day, time and lesson. The teachers know but I'm unsure about what I'll say to my 'class...
A. 25 April 2014: First of all, good that you are getting to see a therapist. Don't sell yourself Or the therapist short by saying you don't "believe" in that stuff. You are 13-15 and NO experience with it. TRY it and TRY and make it work.
I went through (CBT) co... (read in full...)
Tries to make me jealous. Phones, flirts. Then treats me like I don't exist? What's he up to?
Q. So. Again with that guy that I went to homecoming with. Everything has been like really shaky and I don’t know because he is seriously so confusing. He got a girlfriend, they had dated for 3 months and during those 3 months we did not talk at ...
A. 25 April 2014: I think he is a VERY insecure and immature guy who doesn't know how to treat a girl and how to be an adult. Just because a person hit his/her teens doesn't mean he/she automatically knows how to be.
Being a teenager means he is rules more by peer ... (read in full...)
Is he just going to come up with a lame excuse?
Q. He hasn't contacted me for a week, and now he has tried to call me again!. What is his game?. I recently posted on here about a guy I met. I said that we had been meeting up with each other for a week, but I told him that I didn't want to da...
A. 25 April 2014: I don't think it's cruel. Cruel would be to tell you to met him a the restaurant and order for the both of you, and THEN never show up, leaving you with two meals and the bill.. THAT is cruel.
You want a friend, he doesn't. I think it's that sim... (read in full...)
Is he just going to come up with a lame excuse?
Q. He hasn't contacted me for a week, and now he has tried to call me again!. What is his game?. I recently posted on here about a guy I met. I said that we had been meeting up with each other for a week, but I told him that I didn't want to da...
A. 24 April 2014: Why do you want to met up if you don't want to date him? Maybe you should kind of focus on getting over the ex?
I mean if I went out with a person and they told me, hey I don't want to date you, I'd back off too.
If you REALLY want to know why... (read in full...)
Does my colleague have bad intentions? He's definitely a bad boy and my engagement nearly ended because of him!
Q. I'm engaged. I became friends with a fellow colleague. He's definitely a bad boy and I've been trying my hardest to stop all connection with him. At first it was harmless I thought and we would just spend short breaks together because we have a lot ...
A. 24 April 2014: You ask if this guy has BAD intentions.. it shouldn't matter. YOUR intentions are the one that matter. YOUR BF intentions are the ones that matter... not some hot stud at the office.
Keep being professional and stop wondering what this colleagu... (read in full...)
Thought I had a chance with my crush when his relationship failed, but now they're back together. Should I move on?
Q. Hi all, I need some advice. I've had this massive crush on a guy for the last 5 years. He's a year older than me and I met him in school. He's an amazing guy, extremely good looking, gentleman personality and has a great career ahead of him. I ...
A. 24 April 2014: I agree with Uncle Wise (and the other uncles & Aunties) you have gone WAY past crush and into obsession.
Waiting 4 1/2 years is 4 1/2 year is WASTED time.
It is time to let it go. Not just try. LET HIM GO from your mind and your heart. He i... (read in full...)
No longer engaged because of his habit of staring at other women. I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 2 years. We generally get on well and plan to live together soon, we got engaged recently - that's on hold now... and I'm really not sure about it all because of one massive aspect of his behaviour. He has had this sta...
A. 24 April 2014: You did good!
Enjoy the holiday an TRY not to think about him OR beat yourself up for being with him.
Chalk it up to a lesson in TRUSTING your gut.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
If it's over, why does he care?
Q. I had recently connected with an old boyfriend via Facebook. When I was 20 and he was 28 we dated on and off for 3 years but he ended up breaking up with me to marry someone else. We went our separate ways, both married other, had kids etc... ...
A. 23 April 2014: I would not (and I'm sorry to say this) put too much stock into the whole "you are the one that got away, my marriage sucked boo hoo story".
He still check up on her. He is NOT over her. He might WANT to be over her, but he is worried she might fi... (read in full...)
No longer engaged because of his habit of staring at other women. I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 2 years. We generally get on well and plan to live together soon, we got engaged recently - that's on hold now... and I'm really not sure about it all because of one massive aspect of his behaviour. He has had this sta...
A. 18 April 2014: I'm an with Uncle Wise.
2 years of this crap and you don't say THIS isn't OK til he asks you to marry him?
No, it's not normal. It's down right gross.
Noticing a pretty or handsome person is normal, your guys reactions is NOT. He is ... (read in full...)
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