What's the best way to deal with a girl who is playing mind games with you?
Q. What's the best way to deal with a girl who is playing mind games with you ? If you ignore her, she'll write you after a week or two but if you do reply, she would read the message and wouldn't reply for 3-4 days on purpose ! How would you d...
A. 29 May 2014: I think she wants you back as a friend or to have someone to hang out with, not because she wants to date you.
So it's really up to you and what you want.
If you want a GF, I don't think SHE is it. And if you WANT her as a GF you are wasting ... (read in full...)
His grown daughters are nasty toward me!
Q. My husband has three daughters, all grown adults with children. His wife died ten years ago. We married two years ago and all three girls took part in our wedding. Every March 22,(the date of her death) the girls rush to mention the date to us and ...
A. 14 April 2014: Oh, wow... yeah I'd move far far away.
They has 8 years to deal with the death of their mother before you married their dad and they SHOULD wish him to be happy again. They should be GRATEFUL that there is a woman like you who can make him happ... (read in full...)
Confused by this lady
Q. Hi all, I have met this woman she's 39 and I'm 38, things had been going really well over the last month or so but then she told me she has fallen in love with me and would love to spend her future with me, I'm not scared off or anything but she ...
A. 13 April 2014: Asking her to be friends instead of a couple is like a slap in the face. So I wouldn't do that.
I think holding back on introducing the kids is SMART and the RIGHT thing to do, personally, I would never introduce my kids til the 9-12 months m... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I need to just be blunt, ask him his salary and then maybe nip it in the bud if it is too little money. Should I be honest?
Q. I'm in my early thirties, I have to think about starting a family. I barely make any money and would maybe prefer being a full time mom. I went out on one date with a sweet guy that seems interested. He told me his job.... I think he makes very ...
A. 13 April 2014: I think you are totally jumping the gun here.
You want to be a SAHM well, after one date you don't even know if he wants kids, if he can even HAVE kids and IF YOU two are compatible.
Being a SAHM should be your goal. Being independent shou... (read in full...)
What's the best way to deal with a girl who is playing mind games with you?
Q. What's the best way to deal with a girl who is playing mind games with you ? If you ignore her, she'll write you after a week or two but if you do reply, she would read the message and wouldn't reply for 3-4 days on purpose ! How would you d...
A. 13 April 2014: I'd skip this girl and move on. If she all of a sudden (after she find out you like her) becomes slow in replying then I would assume it's because she isn't really interested.
So why waste more time on that one?... (read in full...)
6 months pregnant and my dog has started waking me up every few hours! Why is she doing this?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but i would like some advice if anyone can give it to me. My problem is my dog....shes 3 years old so not a puppy and we have had her for almost 2 years..so she is very settled in the house. No routines have cha...
A. 12 April 2014: I'd check with the Vet first if this is new behavior.
And then I would NOT try and feed her, walk her/let her out or play with her. I'd simply put her on the floor with a no. And then go back to bed. Does she normally sleep in your room?
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Do I confront him or ignore him when he makes these snide comments?
Q. Dearcupid, ive just stopped seeing a guy that i never should have seen in the first place. I was very lonely and his company made me feel good. The relationship started off great but it ended. I kno i am better off witout him. He had a lot of ...
A. 12 April 2014: Should you get mad?
No, what's the point? He is a loser who likes to make girls feel like crap. My guess is he is upset that YOU ended it with him. He think you believe he is below you somehow. He wants to shot you down a notch or two.
What I ... (read in full...)
I'm completely confused as to where I actually stand now, and I don't want to lose him!
Q. Me and my boyfriend (ex boyfriend, i dont know what to call him) have been together for a year and two months, well we had. We were friends for four years before getting together. Through our relationship when it first began, it came out that he had ...
A. 12 April 2014: You two weren't as "completely in love" as you want to think. He was cheating on you left and right and then making YOU think it was YOUR fault and there was something WRONG with you in not accepting it. HOW is that him loving you?
And you bein... (read in full...)
I left this woman to go back to my ex but I've never stopped thinking of her. Should I contact her?
Q. Hello, well about two years ago i met someone, it lasted about three months, she treated me fantastic, but then my ex poped back into the picture, she treated me really bad , even hit me but I was in love with her, so i dumped the new one, went back ...
A. 12 April 2014: I agree, leave her be.
You screwed up. She was smart enough to cut all communication and walk away. And it was only a 3 months relationship, she doesn't need an explanation now.
Don't be selfish AGAIN, when it comes to this woman.
... (read in full...)
The guy doesn't seem to know what he wants and I'm not into playing games. Should I just forget it?
Q. Hi , I need some honest advice . Dated a guy for three months ( he was waiting on his divorce to be finalised ) . He then sends by text the old line " It's not you , it's me ...I am not ready for any kind of relationship " . I felt annoyed ...
A. 12 April 2014: Yea, I'd walk away.
If you are looking for a relationship he isn't it. HE already wasted 3 months (not so bad..) but why let him waste more?
Wish him good luck and cut off and communication.
He wasn't a "friend" before. He was a guy who... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy who does drugs?
Q. Would this put you off someone ?. I met a guy recently. He seems really nice,and it seems like we have things in common, but something happened today which made me feel uncomfortable. I was in a pub with him. Another woman who was in the pub...
A. 11 April 2014: I'd pass this one up.
What kind of future is there with a guy who does drugs? really?
However, when you say drugs do you mean pot or crack? I mean smoked drugs can mean so many things. (not that it alters my advice, I'd never date someone who... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my stubborn mother-in-law?
Q. My husband and I dated for 7 years and married for 4 years with 3 children. He was a very obedient son he will never make any decisions without his mom's input. We lived together for 2 years in an apartment (both worked) until his mom talked him ...
A. 11 April 2014: I agree with Cerberus, YOUR husband needs to deal with her. However, I'm betting she mainly bully you when he isn't around to see it or hear it. Typical passive-aggressive bullshit MIL.
Time to MOVE out. Sit your husband down, tell him you thin... (read in full...)
Why would he say I act strange and weird when I'm hanging out with my husband's friends?
Q. Hello. I am so confused, and I really hope to gain some insight. I have never had an issue with my husband hanging out with his friends. In fact, I think it's good for him. However, there are times I feel like I should be included with hanging out ...
A. 11 April 2014: Ask him to elaborate.... (read in full...)
Why would my ex boyfriend get mad about me being with someone else and then assume I would tell my boyfriend about him?
Q. Recently my ex boyfriend started calling and texting me. He found out I've been talking to another guy. The new guy is in the army. I'm happy being with the army guy. Its just that my ex boyfriend is acting like doesn't like me being with someone ...
A. 11 April 2014: Sounds like he isn't being a friend and that you staying in contact with the EX is not going to help your current relationship.
It's kind of underhanded discussing your new love with your ex. Specially if your new love have no idea about this fri... (read in full...)
How do I gain his friendship back?
Q. I asked one of my closest friends "W" if he liked anyone because I like him and he said that question crosses the boundary and that we talked about boundaries. I told him that we did talk about boundaries but never set them, which was true. He got ...
A. 11 April 2014: I agree, this got blown out of proportions over a little bit of pretty jealousy.
W isn't into you, he is into G. You got upset about that and created some drama which lead W and G to not talk. But they resolved it and W decided he RATHER talk to ... (read in full...)
Guys, what should I do next? I want to see him again.
Q. A question for the guys: If you met a woman at a party and she wanted to see you again, how would you like to be contacted? I was at a huge anniversary party yesterday. I was bored so I looked across the room and I saw this charming guy who was ...
A. 11 April 2014: I agree with Cerberus.
Why not add him? You can always send a PRIVATE message telling him you hope it wasn't weird to add him.
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I'm at a crossroads, do I work things out with my ex or stay with my new boyfriend?
Q. Hello! I am taking the time in advance for taking the time to read my agony and for any help you may provide. I also apologize for the lenghty paragraph. I am at a crossroads. I have an ex husband who I was with for 6 years and we have a...
A. 11 April 2014: I think Auntie BimBim is right.
If you have so much conflict in who to pick, then neither are good for you.
You have a weird co-dependency with your ex husband, where you mistake DRAMA for passion. You think because you two fight a lot, you... (read in full...)
Return it or wear it?
Q. My boyfriend got me a solid rose gold bangle for my birthday. It's simple, thin band that's beautiful. It's exactly my style. Only problem is that I have tiny wrists and big hands and it sits a little uncomfortable on my arm. Rubs against my wrist ...
A. 11 April 2014: Since he offered that you can change it, I would ask him to take you out looking for a new bracelet to replace this one with.
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How can I get my ex to actually talk to me about the way he feels about me?
Q. How do can I get my ex to actually talk to me about the way he feels towards me? I recently broke up with my boyfriend and not on good terms I basically wrote to him on Facebook messages that I was cheating on him and it's best if we called it ...
A. 11 April 2014: I wouldn't talk to you either, IF I were him.
Making up elaborate and hurtful lies (I think the HONEST truth would have served you 100% better) in order to break up doesn't help anyone move on or make the break up any easier. It also makes no... (read in full...)
We've been together for three years but he blocked me on Facebook?
Q. This is going to sound as pathetic as it is but it's irritating me. I've been with my partner for 3 years and we have never been friends on facebook. I don't use it much but about 2 months ago I sent him a friend request. Not only did he decline ...
A. 10 April 2014: I don't blame him. So many people let their life be "rules" by utterly unimportant crap on Facebook.
Facebook is like the biggest drama- central these days. The guy "likes" a female friend's pictures and the GF goes nuts because it MUST mean he ... (read in full...)
Texting--am I asking for too much?
Q. My bf and I text throught the day and everuthing is fine but sometimes he disappears and doesnt txt me back in a long time, and when ge returns he said he went to do something. I dislike it a lot, because I think he should be courteous and ...
A. 10 April 2014: Yes, I think you are asking too much and act kind of overbearing with him.
You are a typical product of this instant gratification generation, who puts WAY to much emphasis on constant communication even if the communication is utterly meaningl... (read in full...)
Is it usual practice to do STD tests for male infertility? Should I get tested too?
Q. My boyfriend went to the doctors for a general check up. He told the doctor that he was thinking of having kids in a couple of years, but didn't want to find out if he had fertility issues when it was too late so he asked if there was any way of ...
A. 10 April 2014: It makes sense. And yes, I would get tested too. I think anyone who is sexually active should get a STD test.
I had one done around 20 and then did a full panel after I broke up from a BF who (as it turned out) had SEVERAL GF at the same time. Th... (read in full...)
I feel so low after the abortion, how do I get out of this rut?
Q. Heya, sorry to ramble on in advance but i feel so alone. Well to start off i have recently had an abortion, and i regret it so much. Im not in a realtionship but had been sleeping with this guy on and off for two years. When i found out i wa...
A. 10 April 2014: What you are feeling I think is normal. The choice you made and the decision you HAD to make by yourself is not an easy one. The fact that you got absolutely no support from the "sperm donor" doesn't help, it makes you feel totally alone with what ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing holding my head high and ignoring him ?
Q. He was my best male friend We had a blazing row and he hasn't spoken to me in 7 months despite me asking to be friends and texting etc hes ignored the lot He ignores me at work and hangs around with new friends He saw me last night and was...
A. 10 April 2014: I agree, if someone doesn't want to talk to you after 7 months, there is no friendship there.
Be cordial if you HAVE to talk to him, otherwise I'd just plain ignore him.
Don't be a drama-llama.... (read in full...)
Are cheaters always cheaters?
Q. My ex constantly cheated when we were dating. I was even the one he cheated on his ex with. I forgave him everytime because I loved him and thought he loved me to death according to the commitment he gave and he would beg his parents and friends to ...
A. 9 April 2014: Are cheaters always cheaters?
I don't think so. What I do think is that if a partner cheat more then once and YOU (general you) stay, you are somewhat enabling the cheater.
I DO NOT believe a woman/man can change a cheating, lying, morally c... (read in full...)
Do people tend to stick with life plans they made early on, or do other priorities start to take over?
Q. This is a very brief question I have, but how many of you stuck to life plans that you made in your teens? I stuck to the same job I wanted in my early teens and went to the university that I wanted to go to in my teens, but I know it's highly u...
A. 9 April 2014: I don't think you can make a blue print and stick to it 100%.
I never wanted kids. I have 3. I changed my second daughter's name 2 weeks before she was born, due to a dream.
Don't be too rigid. Having goals and dream are good, some you can mak... (read in full...)
What's the best way to deal with a girl who is playing mind games with you?
Q. What's the best way to deal with a girl who is playing mind games with you ? If you ignore her, she'll write you after a week or two but if you do reply, she would read the message and wouldn't reply for 3-4 days on purpose ! How would you d...
A. 9 April 2014: It depends on what you hope to accomplish by writing. If you are OK with a platonic and sporadic contact, I'd keep writing, but not really have any expectations for anything. Which means I would keep it strictly platonic.
IF you are hoping f... (read in full...)
First love, reunited 30 years later, he's married!!!
Q. Where do I start? Guess at the beginning ... 30+ years ago, I fell in love with a boy that I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He was my first love, physically and emotionally. His family moved away and our relationship, due to ...
A. 9 April 2014: Well first off, stop beating yourself up. You fell for a fantasy of a "long lost love". The guy you loved and adored is no more. Instead is a man who is cheating on his wife, making all kind of sob-stories to reel you in. And you fell for it.
... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be-deported husband is spending my money on his mother and told me not to spend it on my own parents! Any ideas what to do?
Q. My husband is to be deported and is currently detained by immigration. I have financially supported him for a long time now and also whilst he is in immigration detention i have sent money and visited 3 times per week. He has been detained now for ...
A. 9 April 2014: I don't know your cultural background so the advice is a "blanket" statement more then anything.
There are two people in a marriage. Financial issues, things like vacations and spending, saving should be JOINT decisions not one partner dictate ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to immediately go from being in a long-term relationship to being just friends?
Q. Is it possible to immediately go from being in a long term relationship to being just friends? This guy who is interested in me tells me that he is over his ex with whom he's been living with for several years. They've just broken up a mont...
A. 8 April 2014: I'd be vary of going straight into a relationship with someone fresh out of a long term relationship.
Now it could be that he "mentally" left the relationship long before they broke up, but he should still process the relationship that is no more.... (read in full...)
Why didn't he ask me out on a second date?
Q. I went on a blind date the other week.(we both know what each other looks like) He was very excited about meeting me-so he drove 2 hours to my town so we could go out to dinner. I let him pick me up at my house ..we went to eat and the conversation ...
A. 8 April 2014: Maybe he was looking for "one of those girls" ( you know the ones that put out) and since you aren't one he backed off.
It does sound kind of weird that he just dropped off the radar after THAT much talking.
My guess is, he is still dealing wi... (read in full...)
Should I tell a girl I like her even though she has a boyfriend now?
Q. I have liked this girl for over a year almost 2. I am 25 she's in her 30's. We have got along well, she has always given me those "looks" she always laughs when she's talking to me and can be touchy. Thing is I wasn't sure as she's kinda flirty with ...
A. 8 April 2014: I wouldn't. She has a BF and she has CHOSEN to be with him and him with her (even with the cheating).
Just because you carry a torch for her, doesn't mean you HAVE to let her know. I think you want to tell her for purely selfish reasons, it's def... (read in full...)
Did my B/f enjoy the anal play?
Q. Hi everybody. Keep it simple. I've been with my boyfriend just over four years. We've always had a good sex life but never really experimented with anal play. This was due to a previous experience I had when I lost my virginity with a different...
A. 8 April 2014: I'd leave it for a bit. Wait til he has digested the idea of it, and wait til he ASKS you for it again on his own account.
I think MANY guys are afraid of being looked at as "gay" if they enjoy "anal play". Penetration is for some about dominati... (read in full...)
My friends are getting married and starting families while I'm still chasing casual sex and other cheap thrills.
Q. A really good friend of mine just announced to me about a couple of days ago that he's getting married. Obviously, I'm really happy for him but strangely enough, there's also another part of me that feels a little nostalgic and wistful. I remember ...
A. 8 April 2014: I think, what you feel is somewhat normal. He is growing up, you REFUSE to grow up. You are STUCK. And I say that because you aren't progressing.
Everyone progress through life at their own speed. Some is set by society, like education and care... (read in full...)
Would it be better to take anything I can get or is being conscious of compatibility a good thing?
Q. In high school, I was an overweight awkward boy who had no chance of getting with any girl. At the end of junior year I slimmed down a lot, changed my style, started working out to this day and I keep going with it. I had a girlfriend for a bit over ...
A. 8 April 2014: Reading up on social interactions is a good thing, but you NEED to put it to use. WITH real people (aka girls).
You can get companionship from family and friends you DO get something a bit different from a partner. But to think that you are not ... (read in full...)
I was planning a future with this man and then found out he cheated on his ex wife!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He was married previously but his wife passed away. He told me once he had a threesome when he was younger but I never really thought anything about it. But on the weekend something came up about ...
A. 8 April 2014: I would seriously have a chat about cheating, about expectations, about morals and values.
Who cheats for 6 months in a new marriage? Someone who doesn't RESPECT his wife. He ended it out of GUILT. Not because he knew what he was doing was mora... (read in full...)
I am in love with his brother, help?
Q. I am 20 years old and have been in a relationship with this guy for nearly 4 /2 years, I dont know if I feel the same about him like I used to, sex doesn't work anymore and I feel as though the spark has gone. However a few months back I got drunk ...
A. 8 April 2014: Yes, you should end the relationship and NO you should talk to the brother about this.
It's not like the brother can actually date you, I mean come on how do you think your now-BF would feel? His family, all your friends? Cheating with someone ... (read in full...)
It's been two years -- will I bleed?
Q. It's going to sound odd and I am going to try and phrase it in not too much gruesome detail, the only time I have ever had sex was with my ex boyfriend, I bled a little when we first did it, it's almost 2 years ago that we broke up and I haven't had ...
A. 8 April 2014: You shouldn't bleed the next time you have sex.
If you do, I would suggest a check up with your GYNO - which might be a good IDEA anyways BEFORE you get sexually active again, in case you want to be on birth control.
And honestly if a gu... (read in full...)
Why is she so distant after I told her we could only be platonic friends?
Q. Hi there I had a female friend whom I shared alot of things with! We were only platonic and we knew it since day one! Then,one day I felt she's pushing for it to be more than platonic and I told her she's a great girl but I only think of h...
A. 8 April 2014: She is doing this in order to "protect" herself from more drama.
Just because you go into a friendship saying it's platonic doesn't mean that one person can't develop feelings for the other. She might have and when you shot her down her pride an... (read in full...)
This incident made me question whether our core values are in sync
Q. I feel very disappointed in my girlfriend of almost 4 years yesterday, but I don't think she understands the core issue (or maybe it's not an issue). We are 29 and 28. We were in a car driving to a birthday event about an hour away with my gir...
A. 8 April 2014: Both Auntie Cindy and Tisha said what I was thinking.
WHY did you just SET an example and pull out $5 for the guy?
Not everyone is willing to give their shirt of their back (or their snacks) to whomever seems needy. That doesn't make her a b... (read in full...)
He seems to have a 'type' and I'm not it, should I be concerned?
Q. Ok quick question that needs some honest answers .... If a woman is with a man and he is often commenting in women he thinks are attractive and every single one of those seem like a similar type which happens to be nothing like her ... Does she have ...
A. 8 April 2014: I agree with YouWish.
It's a power thing. To make you feel "grateful" that DESPITE the fact that you are NOT his type he is condescending himself to dating you.
I would call him out on it. Or ... TALK to him about it. I just don't see him st... (read in full...)
Would it be better to take anything I can get or is being conscious of compatibility a good thing?
Q. In high school, I was an overweight awkward boy who had no chance of getting with any girl. At the end of junior year I slimmed down a lot, changed my style, started working out to this day and I keep going with it. I had a girlfriend for a bit over ...
A. 8 April 2014: You said (and I quote):
****I'm kind of two-sided when it comes to expressing myself as alone I'm very insecure, but when I'm out with friends/at school I tend to be confident.****
You might THINK you come off as confident, but I don't really... (read in full...)
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