Should I break up with my depressed boyfriend?
Q. Hello, and thank you to those to can guide me in my dilemma. My boyfriend has depression, and is suicidal. He opened up about these thoughts is January, and was hospitalized and got a psychologist, anti-depressants and the whole package. After ...
A. 27 May 2014: First off, thanks for your update. I hope you get to start feeling a little better about YOUR life and can move along with your own path.
And secondly, I'm glad he is getting help.
Speaking AS a mom, I can see why she is acting the way she i... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 6 May 2014: While what she is SAYING she is planning is illegal it kind of also reeks of "getting even" more then doing the right thing. All you have right now are hearsay and planning. Nothing is concrete and nothing has been done. So what are the city ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 4 May 2014: She sounds sketchy. And your husband's reasoning to help is JUST as sketchy.
My guess is he KNOWS her better then he has told you, or she is a good salesman and has him hoodwinked into thinking he is going to make BANK helping her.
... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 4 May 2014: And what did your husband say when you told him you are leaving? Or didn't you tell him yet?
IF you haven't I'd go see a lawyer first. Find a place to live and so forth.
And I'm sorry. I think the man you married is a man with a lot of agendas... (read in full...)
The information this man gave me about his past has made me uncomfortable. Should I keep dating him?
Q. Is this weird? I started dating a man, and we've been on a few dates, I'm still getting to know him. But during the last date he told me that he had been previously engaged to a woman he had dated for almost ten years since he met her in colle...
A. 4 May 2014: I see a whole forest of red flags here.
First of all it's been a FEW dates and he is talking marriage and kids.
Second of all, his former fiance was dumped after 10 years.. Because she wanted HER wedding HER way and not HIS Mother's way? It... (read in full...)
He is giving me mixed signals what should I do?
Q. I fell in love with this guy I know he had feelings for me We used to work together he's extremely popular and everyone likes him please don't judge but we got close and kissed he's been living with a girl for 6 years and he said after we kis...
A. 4 May 2014: I suggest you woman up and take of those rose colored glasses. THIS is NOT a good guy.
HE used you. He was unhappy in his relationship and kissed you.
HE isn't interested in you. Or at least not interested in treating you like a decent person ... (read in full...)
Oral sex with no protection..should I worry about disease?
Q. I'm in the habit of frequenting sex workers on a weekly basis. Now, I typically use condoms where penetrative sex is concerned but there have been occasions where I've received unprotected oral sex. I've done some research and apparently, it's ...
A. 3 May 2014: When having unprotected sex with ANYONE in a high risk group you SHOULD test and RE-test in 3-6 months.
You doctor will ASK about your sexual habits and will probably suggest which you should test for and how often.
... (read in full...)
Could an attractive real woman make a guy less interested in porn?
Q. Right here is a question I possibly know the answer to. Lets say a guy likes a lot of porn, glamour mags, sexy photos etc. is here any way him finding a real woman who is attractive in looks and personality can change this or at least lessen it? ...
A. 2 May 2014: The interest in porn/mags/whatnot is NOT about the girl. It's about the GUY who entertain himself with these and how he views sex and women.
Some guys DO put the porn on a back burner when having a new GF others don't. Some HIDE it. Some pick it ... (read in full...)
Maybe its "no more Mr. Nice Guy " time!
Q. Hello, I met a women on a dating site, talk for two weeks, then decided to meet, she wanted to meet at a bar, three hours later it was great,we laugh ,alot hug kissed talk about everything, decided to go out on sunday, the next day she tex me an ...
A. 2 May 2014: When it comes to dating sites you have to (unfortunately) deal with a lot of trolls and toads.
It might take a date or two to figure out if a woman is a troll, a toad or a decent woman with dating potential.
Even trolls can start out by bei... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair and I've about had it
Q. I am 35 years old and I have three older sisters. The middle one is 45 years old and twice-divorced. She has been having an affair with a married man from her work for almost three years now. He says he has to stay with his wife for the kids but...
A. 2 May 2014: I'd pick up my mom and have her stay with me. When the part is over and done with I'd ignore the sister 100%.
You mom didn't do anything wrong.
... (read in full...)
I'm shy, would working with children be alright for a job?
Q. I am a shy person. Would working with children be right for me ?. I am on Jobseeker's Allowance. My advisor at the Jobcentre has said that I need to do some voluntary work. She has put me forward for a voluntary job at a Youth Club where children ...
A. 2 May 2014: Go for it.
I'm not a shy person per se. Kids/young adults are not too hard to be around. It can be fun.
Try it.
And listen to Daisy. If these anxieties hold you back this bad, you NEED to talk to your GP/therapist.
Come on out of your she... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my depressed boyfriend?
Q. Hello, and thank you to those to can guide me in my dilemma. My boyfriend has depression, and is suicidal. He opened up about these thoughts is January, and was hospitalized and got a psychologist, anti-depressants and the whole package. After ...
A. 2 May 2014: I think taking a break is the best way to go. Taking a clear break will be even harder (not for you, but in how he reacts).
He might NOT want to "let" you take a break, but he can't stop you. If you have INFORMED him that you need/want a break, h... (read in full...)
Do women think the key to attracting men is to dress like sluts?
Q. Hi this question is not specific to one specific relationship but more on a general level, in my effort to meet someone. I'm curious about why when going out on say a Friday or Saturday night, young (and not so young) women feel the need to dress ...
A. 2 May 2014: "Bad taste creates many more millionaires than good taste."
***Charles Bukowski***
What you find slutty, others might find sexy or fun.
NOT all women dress to impress. Some dress because the fabrics make them feel good, the knowledge that H... (read in full...)
I had a threesome before I got married. Do I tell my husband?
Q. I was involved in a once only threesome with my ex bf and another girl. Deeply regretted. Should I tell the man I married later? He has had premarital sex but not of this kind....
A. 2 May 2014: Nope, I would NOt tell him, for several reasons.
1. you flag said UAE and I think CULTURALLY a 3-some might be considered more "disgraceful" in your end of the woods then many others, and thus leave it in the past.
2. It was a mistake. YOU are... (read in full...)
Is my online date a bit weird?
Q. I've been chatting to a 45 year old guy online who was keen to meet new friends and go dating. I was going to meet him at the weekend and we've been chatting for a week. He works from home and is also renovating his place. He boils up batches of ...
A. 2 May 2014: My father in law became a single father of 6 BOYS overnight when his wife ran of with another man. HE could barely boil water and all of a sudden had to make sure these 6 kids (ages 1-10) were fed and taken care of.
He learned how to cook from var... (read in full...)
My friends tell me I should give my boyfriend a BJ
Q. A lot of my friends are wanting me to give my boyfriend a blowjob, and he agreed to wanting me too when i asked. But i feel like we are kind of young for this to be happening. My friends said it was okay because we have been dating for 6 months, but ...
A. 2 May 2014: Your friends can go blow themselves.
IF you do NOT feel ready for this you don't OWE anyone ( your BF OR your friends) to do things you aren't ready for or willing to do.
You friends are doing what's called "peer pressure" trying to "get" ... (read in full...)
I'm fine with being polygamous but he just likes to cheat!
Q. Hey everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and we got engaged in November. We started off very casually because we don't live in the same city - I happened to be visiting his town on a business trip, I met him, we hooked ...
A. 2 May 2014: Ah, I'm sorry if that hurts you.
But I'm not really surprised. You would have cramped his "style" by living near or with him. From what you wrote it seemed (at least to me) like he was trying to alienate you/push you away before you moved there, s... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 1 May 2014: Still smells like week old herring in here.
What would she need a lab for? And why on her rental property?
... (read in full...)
How can I defend myself against this worker?
Q. Hi Everyone. I apologise for the length of this problem. OKAY so I am quite an easy going person. I respond to banter, even the odd jokey name calling and can take a joke as well as the next person. But I am also very shy, sensitive and som...
A. 1 May 2014: Is she a person who is below you in the "food-chain"?
I would talk to her supervisor about her, and about how she is creating a hostile environment. Note it down every time.
SHE knows she is getting to you. She find YOU the weak link for wh... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my depressed boyfriend?
Q. Hello, and thank you to those to can guide me in my dilemma. My boyfriend has depression, and is suicidal. He opened up about these thoughts is January, and was hospitalized and got a psychologist, anti-depressants and the whole package. After ...
A. 1 May 2014: I agree with Uncle Wise.
The relationship as you know it is over. He doesn't TRUST you enough to let you in on the "big secret". My guess is there is more to this depression/suicide then he is letting on. Maybe he was diagnosed with an addition... (read in full...)
Is he just stringing me along or trying not to hurt me?
Q. It's been 4 months since my partner broke up with me. We lived together for another 6 weeks until I was able to move back home. I didn't want the break up. He dumped me out of the blue and never gave me a clear reason, nor wanted to talk about it...
A. 1 May 2014: He DUMPED you (without bothering to give you a reason or explanation) - yet continued to USE you for the GF experience even expecting you to send dirty pics to him.
YOU decided (because you didn't want the relationship to end) that IT was only a b... (read in full...)
How to tell if she's only dating you for the money?
Q. There are some things worrying me about my girlfriend. At first, things were great and I never really had to spend much. Lately, the more I shell out, the more she expects it and doesn't really say thank you. I take her out all the time, we go ...
A. 1 May 2014: You are ENABLING her. By buying her gifts and "paying" for things she WANTS (but can't really afford) and then when she pitches a small FIT you give in and LET her have whatever she wants.
How do you tell if she is ONLY in it for monetary gain?
... (read in full...)
I quit my job after 5 days because of the way I was treated! Should I say something?
Q. Hey! I've been having a bad day at my new job today. I started my new job last Tuesday at a Clinic and got to meet 4 girls who I'm going to be working with in the front desk and with the doctors. My first day was good. My second day was really bad. ...
A. 1 May 2014: IS it good that you quit? I don't think quitting is going to help you. Specially not after only 5 days.
You just GAVE up because they didn't help you.
What you SHOULD have done (if you ask me) is go see the SHIFT supervisor (unless that was... (read in full...)
I don't want to seem weak when I end it
Q. I've been casually seeing a guy for about 6 months and I think for my own sanity I need to end it. He's probably the most rude and arrogant person I've met and he makes me feel worthless with the way he speaks to me. Now do I tell him that's ...
A. 1 May 2014: I agree (as usual) with Auntie Cindy.
"never explain, never complain, never apologize "
Just call him and tell:" hey this thing we got going isn't working for me anymore and I'm over it. Don't call me and I won't call you. Have a nice life.. " ... (read in full...)
Is porn getting in the way of our relationship?
Q. My bf is 22 and I am 24. He watches porn A LOT. As in, a few times a day. I know that most men look at porn, but is this like normal? Our sex life is ok but I feel it sometimes comes to a point where he prefers watching porn over having sex. (He, ...
A. 1 May 2014: Yes, it's getting in the way.
Yes, he is having unrealistic expectations of you SEXUALLY and without a doubt because of the porn.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/
Like Auntie Daisy said, THESE women (porn stars) are PAID to "enjoy", endure, and ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my boyfriend of a year and a half had pictures of him and his ex girlfriends on a hard drive that he bought after we started going out?
Q. I'm keeping my question short and sweet really. Is it weird that my boyfriend of a year and a half had pictures of him and his ex girlfriends on a hard drive that he bought after we started going out? Bearing in mind he's been broken up with o...
A. 1 May 2014: For me, it's not a big deal. Many of the OLDER of us Aunties and Uncles here on DC will tell you that keep mementos of your past (which includes exes) is pretty normal. I have some pictures of my first love and my second BF, the third, no (he was a ... (read in full...)
He said things can't work between us but he still contacts me. Am I just a backup plan?
Q. I met a guy roughly a year ago in a bar. We began dating, we both work in the same industry so were both very understanding of the lack of time we could spend together however for three months we saw eachother at least one a day a week. at one po...
A. 1 May 2014: Unless you want to keep wasting your time on a guy who CLEARLY doesn't WANT a relationship (at least not a relationship YOU want) - I would DELETE and BLOCK his number. Staying in contact is NOT helping you AT all.
You two keep doing this dance ov... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to ask him for help financially!
Q. I'm 23years plus i'm dating a guy of 29years plus getting to three years now, l love him so much but despite my love for him i'm shy to ask him when i need help financially because of my two reasons my first reason is that i'm thinking its too ...
A. 1 May 2014: You have been together for 3 years and you CAN'T tell him if you are in a financial hole/predicament? Why not?
Instead of ASKING him for money, ASK him if he can help you figure out how to GET out of this hole.
Why do you need help?
With WH... (read in full...)
Oral sex with no protection..should I worry about disease?
Q. I'm in the habit of frequenting sex workers on a weekly basis. Now, I typically use condoms where penetrative sex is concerned but there have been occasions where I've received unprotected oral sex. I've done some research and apparently, it's ...
A. 1 May 2014: Yes, you should worry.
YES, you should test. And re-test 6 months later.
Some STD's are even transmittable WITH a condom. Such as HPV and YOU can't even get tested for that one. You can have HPV and transfer it to other partners WITHOUT... (read in full...)
Am I crazy because of lack of sexual release? Or is "craziness" determined by genetics alone?
Q. I am far too embarrassed to ask anyone I know about this, so here it is: Can you go crazy from never getting sexual relief? I'm a 25 year old virgin, and I've also never had an orgasm. A long time ago, I believed you didn't need to have...
A. 1 May 2014: Are you crazy? No.
Up until the 1980's the term HYSTERIA was used for women (and men) who had ANY kind of hint of mental illness, and/or those who basically couldn't reach orgasm, sexually frustrated. TWO very different things. We all know now... (read in full...)
I love her but she played with my mind
Q. Hi guys, I have a long story, that I'll try to sum up. I'm 23 and I was talking to my manager at work who is 26. We texted and talked all day and all night, flirting, dirty talk, etc. He asked me to meet him privately and I said no, cuz I wanted...
A. 1 May 2014: Well, that certainly is quite a drama-llama show!
ALL you can really do with this, is learn from it. DO NOT treat your work place like High School/Playground. And DO NOT treat your co-workers as best buddies and text/sext-buddies.
She got roped... (read in full...)
1st pregnancy and I'm a little nervous! How will I know if water breaks?
Q. hi all agony aunts just a question. I am on my 1st pregnancy and so a little clueless about things. im only 28 weeks pregnant but a scan 2 days ago shown that my lil baby was already lying with her head downwards as if she was preparing to be ...
A. 30 April 2014: You are probably having Braxton Hicks contractions ( They are sporadic uterine contractions that start about 6 weeks into your pregnancy, although you won't be able to feel them that early. You probably won't start to notice them until sometime ... (read in full...)
For the grown folks, what advice would you give to your adult child who is about to move out?
Q. Hey everyone, I just graduated from nursing school and I'm 18 years old and I got a job as a licensed practical nurse, it's feels great and I make a decent pay check :) but I'm thinking about moving out of my former guardians home because I'm not ...
A. 30 April 2014: Well, first of all congratulations on getting a job :)
Secondly, Make sure you sit down with the friends you plan to move in with BEFORE moving in and set some rules. Dishes, food, bills, money. MAKE sure everyone is on board with these rules. T... (read in full...)
I feel like he just wants to go around and sleep around and then I'm just stuck here waiting for him to be done. How do I move on with my life?
Q. So me and my boyfriend recently broke up. Maybe about 1 week ago. Our relationship has been very difficult, we dated for a little over a year. (14 months) our biggest issue was trust. I have caught him texting other girls throughout the ...
A. 30 April 2014: You two need to step away from each other. It hasn't worked in the past and it won't work for you two any time soon (if at all).
If you spend more time fighting over ANYTHING and EVERYTHING (petty or not) it's a pretty clear sign that you are not ... (read in full...)
Should I be selfish for once or be the good girl?
Q. Hi, I have this problem... I have this friend I've known for two years now and we always kind of liked each other. He's much older than I am and is in a relationship. Because we were such good friends, I know his girlfriend really well now too. Bu...
A. 30 April 2014: There is a reason WHY you are posting this question here. WHY you are questioning yourself.
You are caught up in the excitement and attention this guy is showing you - lapping it up and basking in it - BUT you DO know right from wrong.
This is... (read in full...)
This guy cancelled 3 hours before a date because he met someone else when he had been the one to suggest the date!
Q. I met a guy online a month ago and we went out on a first date and had an amazing time. Since then he had been texting me and sending pictures and flirting, then he asked to set up a second date. I agreed and we set it up, 3 hours before the date he ...
A. 30 April 2014: OP you have a good attitude about this and that will help you on down the line.
Just keep on going. If the dude WAS A flake then be glad you didn't waste more time on him.
Better luck next time!... (read in full...)
My co-worker doesn't invite me along when she goes out with our colleagues, should I confront her?
Q. Dear Cupid I have an office friend, we know each other for almost 7 months. She is nice person, but i found one annoying thing about her which kind of hurts me as well. We used to go out for lunch few times, sometimes she leaves me and goes...
A. 30 April 2014: Should you confront her? ARE you kidding?
She doesn't OWE you to ASK to to tag along when she goes out to lunch with other people at the office. YOU are a grown woman and can ASK anyone (if you don't want to eat alone) if they want to go to lunch... (read in full...)
I'm fine with being polygamous but he just likes to cheat!
Q. Hey everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and we got engaged in November. We started off very casually because we don't live in the same city - I happened to be visiting his town on a business trip, I met him, we hooked ...
A. 30 April 2014: Well, I AM glad you are not going straight from your home & town into his house.
Have you considered that the CLOSER you two get to actually being together the more he resists and almost push you away?
Do you know why he isn't with the mother ... (read in full...)
Wondering about long-term relationships and living together or not?
Q. I know on here people often mention about relationships being a fairytale, but that isn't true, obviously. However, I found out that some couples in longterm relationships don't live together, not just for financial reasons - personal space e...
A. 29 April 2014: I think it really comes down to EACH individual relationship and the people IN that relationship.
My husband and I have been married for nearly 17 years - together for almost 19, and living together for almost 18.
So, we dated (mostly LDR) for... (read in full...)
My husband's chasing another woman.
Q. I have been married to my husband for 6 years and it's been great but in the past 4 months he has got really close to a female at our workplace, he then asked me to be friends with her which I was ok with because she seemed nice, however I noticed ...
A. 29 April 2014: Stop trying for a baby. For now at least. You don't need to add a baby to this mess.
I would slowly let her go as a friend. And I would sit him down and talk to him.
It ALMOST seems to me like asking you to befriend her was his way of trying to... (read in full...)
Married now and sex life has bombed, what to do?
Q. Been married a month, living together 6 months and dating 3 years prior to that. Fabulous sex life until now. It's like as soon as we were married he wasn't interested. There are no worries now except for his job but they're the same worries as b...
A. 29 April 2014: SIT him down and talk. You can't GUESS what's up with him. YOU will HAVE to talk to him and get him to open up.
Tell him you miss the sex, tell him you MISS the guy he WAS before you married.
TALK.... (read in full...)
Is the girl in my class jealous of me?
Q. There is a girl in my class who is annoying me. Whenever I'm happy she tries to make me down. And she always tries to call me fat, stupid and ugly and imperfect. Whenever a guy compliments and flirts with me, she acts like she is not listening. And ...
A. 29 April 2014: Maybe she just doesn't like you? Just like you don't seem to like her. She could be jealous, but so what?
You come of as a little self-absorbed and materialistic. Which I guess for your age group isn't a huge surprise.
If she calls you fat, u... (read in full...)
I'm fine with being polygamous but he just likes to cheat!
Q. Hey everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and we got engaged in November. We started off very casually because we don't live in the same city - I happened to be visiting his town on a business trip, I met him, we hooked ...
A. 29 April 2014: Polygamous or not.
I HOPE for your sake that you aren't going to be moving STRAIGHT in with him. He asked you to marry him because he saw an opportunity to KEEP leading a single life while having the stability of a GF/Fiance/Wife.
You tell that... (read in full...)
His self-harming has led to him cutting me off!
Q. Hi , would love some advice . I was dating a guy for several months and as I got into the relationship I realised the guy had some mental health issues that included self - harming . I tried to be patient and loving as he was finalisi...
A. 29 April 2014: As hard as it may be, you have no other choice then accept that he can't be your friend, BF or lover. Not now, maybe never.
He is not in a healthy spot right now, and HE needs to sort himself out.
A freshly divorced person makes for a crap... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 29 April 2014: She wants to what? build a chemistry lab?
She going to bring some "Breaking Bad" to the Cul-de-sac?
Let him dig his own hole. And perhaps you need to re-think this marriage?... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my husband and this strange woman?
Q. I am a newlywed. 6 months married. I am starting to see some really off things about my husband and I want to get some advice or opinions from others. I love my husband, he has some wonderful qualities but I think I may have made a mistake in ...
A. 28 April 2014: I would say something smells fishy too.
1. because she was so vague.
2. you husband has NO contractor experience.
3. she showed up out of the blue.
4. when he found out she didn't live in the neighborhood he STILL called her? and made an app... (read in full...)
This guy cancelled 3 hours before a date because he met someone else when he had been the one to suggest the date!
Q. I met a guy online a month ago and we went out on a first date and had an amazing time. Since then he had been texting me and sending pictures and flirting, then he asked to set up a second date. I agreed and we set it up, 3 hours before the date he ...
A. 27 April 2014: Some people date multiple people in hopes that there is a greater chance to meet someone special. My guess is he WAS seeing her, you (and maybe more girls) at the same time.
I can understand that it's a kick in the pants to have a guy do this, bu... (read in full...)
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