He spends most of his time on the phone to her when I am with him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years, I found out he'd cheated on me 3 times during the first 10 months of our relationship both physical and emotional cheating. He 'realised his mistake' and I took him back. Our relationship ...
A. 15 May 2014: Doesn't matter about WHAT this girl does. YOUR BF didn't nip it in the bud, even though he KNOWS you wouldn't like it, he keeps it going, he just "hides it poorly" from you. Because... HIM getting his EGO stroked from another girl is MORE important ... (read in full...)
I want to stay friends with 'the other woman' but she says she hates me
Q. I am a separated male who still is friendly with my wife, we have 2 beautiful teenage girls and we remain very close after 6 years of separation. We still share family vacations and days out as a family and even the bed 1 - 2 times a month. I live...
A. 14 May 2014: You can't MAKE her want to talk to you. YOU can't MAKE her WANT to give any comfort or closure.
YOU made your bed and now... you have lie in it.
ALL you really CAN do is LEARN from this. So that the NEXT woman you "befriend" won't feel so be... (read in full...)
Is she losing interest already?
Q. So I went on a date with a girl I met online last week. I thought it was great, we just walked and talked for like a few hours, although I thought that I might've been a bit more awkward than I normally am, but in general I thought we hit it off. At ...
A. 14 May 2014: If she is still on for the date I think you are OK. It can be that she feel a little more "relaxed" about how you two are moving along. Now if she cancels last minute I would take it as if she has lost interest.
Don't build a relationship based on... (read in full...)
He's farther ahead in terms of committment than I am
Q. Is it possible to love someone yet not be IN LOVE with him? I know for sure I love my BF.. we click very well and do sweet things for each other. We always start the day off with a morning call to each other, talk/text through out the day, and end...
A. 14 May 2014: IF he ignores you when you pull away, he is trying to control the situation. Trying to get YOU to chase him. It's pure and simple manipulations from his side, and honestly not a nice trait in a person. HE KNOWS that you will OVER-THINK everything if ... (read in full...)
He spends most of his time on the phone to her when I am with him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years, I found out he'd cheated on me 3 times during the first 10 months of our relationship both physical and emotional cheating. He 'realised his mistake' and I took him back. Our relationship ...
A. 14 May 2014: So he cheated on you once and you forgave it... And now he is at it again. My guess is... He assumes you will forgive him again and again. That way HE can do as he pleases and still have a GF.
The fact that he is being secretive about the snap-cha... (read in full...)
He's farther ahead in terms of committment than I am
Q. Is it possible to love someone yet not be IN LOVE with him? I know for sure I love my BF.. we click very well and do sweet things for each other. We always start the day off with a morning call to each other, talk/text through out the day, and end...
A. 14 May 2014: Tell him. Tell him you NEED to move slow. Most of your relationship over online, and THAT can be hard to equate with reality. You have only REALLY spend 3 dates together, THAT is reality.
Tell him the more he pushes the more you want to bolt. Wh... (read in full...)
I want to stay friends with 'the other woman' but she says she hates me
Q. I am a separated male who still is friendly with my wife, we have 2 beautiful teenage girls and we remain very close after 6 years of separation. We still share family vacations and days out as a family and even the bed 1 - 2 times a month. I live...
A. 14 May 2014: I think you should LEAVE lady#2 alone.
She had NO idea that you weren't serious about her. She had no idea that she was JUST a fuck-buddy to you. SHE was ready to GIVE her her marriage/husband/security blanket FOR YOU. And what does she find out... (read in full...)
Should I confront my sister over her affair with a married professor?
Q. My little sister (age 20) and I have always been so close and tell each other everything. She has always been very conservative and reserved. I've never had to worry about her because she has never given me a reason to. Well just recently, I notice...
A. 14 May 2014: IF it was my younger sister I would SIT her down and talk about this. I would ASK if she is ready and willing to ruin the professor's career, reputation and be part of ruining his marriage. Not to mention her OWN reputation.
MANY schools do NOT a... (read in full...)
I want to move on, to find someone who will support my choices
Q. Hi. I am 22 years old and have only ever really liked (had a crush on) one person. Ever. I know that he is a total momma's-boy and a gigantic crybaby who thinks that the world should bow down to his gigantic ego because he could have been a doctor, ...
A. 14 May 2014: What do you do? You stop stalking him on social media (if you do that...) You avoid him as much as possible and whenever you think of him with rose-colored glasses REMIND yourself that he is NOT the great guy you WANTED him to be.
Accept that not... (read in full...)
What to say to this inquisitive but kind work colleague?
Q. a woman at my workplace similar age to me (35-40) may at times asks me what I think of my colleagues, she has only been working at my workplace a few months and I dont know her well and dont work everyday with her, but I do li...
A. 14 May 2014: I think She is OK is a good enough answer. What you could ALSO say is, I like you as a person and that is why I'm letting you know that I don't gossip about other co-workers. ... (read in full...)
BF won't show me his phone
Q. Here is a brief bit of background to shed some light frist. My current boyfriend once lied to me and I forgave him but I am finding it incredibly hard to forget in the way that he wants me to. This is most difficult when it comes to his behaviuor...
A. 14 May 2014: He doesn't OWE you to show his phone. I understand his principles that HE has a right to his privacy. You don't OWN him you DATE him.
Same goes for him, he has no RIGHT to go through your phone either.
If you think by going through his phon... (read in full...)
He found a smudge on the wall .........
Q. I have been living with my partner for 10 years. We have 2 kids. My name is not on anything because I am trying to up my credit score (bad credit). He is an ocd neat freak. I am messy. The house isn't a nightmare, but it's not pristine either. He ...
A. 13 May 2014: Um, he can't just kick you out. If that is your residence (you receive mail there). He can't TAKE the kids.
You need to consult a lawyer. Since you aren't married you might still be entitled to the same things as a "wife" does. (common law marr... (read in full...)
Best friend gossiping to ex behind my back
Q. Hey Everyone, I broke down few weeks ago because I found out that my bestfriend of 10 years has been contacting with my ex. I didn't know how she got his number (maybe facebook) but she's been contacting and telling information about me behind ...
A. 13 May 2014: Ignore the "label" they are trying to pin on you. Best way to do that? No contact, no nothing.
Your friend did the wrong thing and most likely for the wrong reasons. It sucks losing a good friend, been there done that, but it's all a tough le... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't fully commit and now ex is around. Should I be worried?
Q. I am very torn right now as to whether to break up with my boyfriend of a year and a half. Almost all of my friends now are very vocal that I should. He is selfish at times, has drank too much and most recently said he can see a future with me ...
A. 13 May 2014: If you are going to go by how you GUESS he feels, you might as well walk away.
You write:
***I just feel its all indications that he's not that serious about me and I want marriage***
SIT him down and TALK. I would say that after 18 months... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to step up in the personal hygiene department?
Q. Hello. I have a problem that I really need advice for. Thing is, it's kind of gross, and I don't mean to offend anyone. My question is, how can I get my husband to step up in the personal hygiene department? I'll give you some back story. He i...
A. 13 May 2014: I'm with Wise.
TELL him straight out, next time he wants to get some head or just sex, that it's a HUGE turn off when he isn't clean.
Removing the foreskin won't make him more clean. HE needs to take care of that himself.
For a grown ass... (read in full...)
My Bf says that talking to this other girl is "different" and he's not going to stop talking to her. What can I do?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 7 years lived together for 6 and half years. For a long time now he has been ignoring me and i have felt pushed away and unloved. he has said he feels that i dont love him anymore and says i am pushing him away bec...
A. 12 May 2014: I would sit down and figure out If he is actually telling the truth (as he sees it) that you no longer love him.
I think you are both doing things to each other instead of SOLVING the central issue, which might be.. THAT the relationship has run ... (read in full...)
Why does he choose to not invite me to functions where the Gfs and wives are invited? I am feeling excluded.
Q. Hi all, I'm feeling a little left out and rejected. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over four years. We got together at 17 and have been together since. We have a really good relationship together and normally I find we can t...
A. 12 May 2014: ASK him.
And EXPLAIN why you don't understand it. TELL him how it makes you feel rejected or not good enough.
We can't tell you WHY he does it. Only he can. When you ask him DO NOT accept a "I don't know" or" I never thought of that" answer.... (read in full...)
Depressed and deliberately avoiding my friends. Any advice?
Q. This is hard to explain, but I am going through a difficult time at the moment. Sometimes, I have ignored my friends when they have tried to contact me. I don't know how to explain to them that I am going through a difficult time at the moment. I ...
A. 12 May 2014: The longer you wait to tell your friend that you are not interested the worse it is going to get.
You have it easy in the sense that you CAN text it to him, instead of talking to him face-to-face.
So NEXT time he hints at a date or liking y... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a girl I fell for. Is it OK to ignore her if she texts me?
Q. Last year a girl joined my college course and straight away I fell for her. We became friends and then I asked her out at the end of the year and she turned me down. After that nothing changed, we were still friends although she did move into the ...
A. 12 May 2014: Yep, it is OK to ignore her.
IF it will make it easier (long term) then I would JUST tell her (if she initiate contact) that you think it's best not to continue the friendship. And leave it at that. YOU do not OWE her a long or emotional explanat... (read in full...)
She wanted to be 'just friends' but cant handle my chasing other girls!
Q. Hey guys, this is about a girl that I met at my university a few months ago. When I saw her, I was instantly attracted to her. Beautiful, great body, nice personality, the works. My mistake was trying the nice guy act when I approached and at...
A. 12 May 2014: Yeah, a female-friend is NOT one of the lads. So the talk about "conquests" I'd keep to the male friends. Specially if she doesn't seem to handle it well.
... (read in full...)
Social media has me questioning my life and place in the world!
Q. A lot of my peers (most of them,actually) have grown up with social media. I was always late with it, getting myspace and facebook years after my friends had theirs. I have lost touch after high school with many people cause I'm not very active ...
A. 12 May 2014: I agree with Cindy.
When I first read your post I was thinking:" Good Grief! Does this girl not realize that MOST of what's posted on FB is SEMI fantasy?
My oldest niece is a deadbeat mom (her dad, my BIL) has her kids, she has no job, cheated ... (read in full...)
She wanted to be 'just friends' but cant handle my chasing other girls!
Q. Hey guys, this is about a girl that I met at my university a few months ago. When I saw her, I was instantly attracted to her. Beautiful, great body, nice personality, the works. My mistake was trying the nice guy act when I approached and at...
A. 12 May 2014: I think she liked the idea of you chasing her (trust me she WASN'T being oblivious to your initial interest) and now that she has found that she wasn't as "special" to you as she has thought (even IF she doesn't want to date you, she wanted to be ... (read in full...)
Unrequited love! I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. im in love with my best friend, who doesn't love me back. i have to spend all day every day with him and it's so painful. what do i do?...
A. 12 May 2014: Why do yo HAVE to spend EVERY day with him?
If you are in the same class/school you don't HAVE to hang out all the time.
And If there is no affection or emotion from his side, then you NEED to accept that it's a CRUSH you have and it's TIME to... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted he saved an inappropriate picture of his daughter's friend!
Q. Hi There, Agh, I am actually a embarrassed to write about this. I couldn't even bring myself to talk to any of my friend about it in the last 3 days. I have this habit of going through my boyfriend's email, phone, etc. It's a bad habit, I ...
A. 12 May 2014: I would be creeped out. PURE and simple.
Snooping doesn't do ANYONE any good. All it does is make you "think" you have to POLICE your BF that YOU have to "make" him behave. THAT shouldn't BE the case. He is a GROWN man and should know that you... (read in full...)
Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 12 May 2014: Thanks for the update and glad you dodged a bullet!... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend want me to act like a 14 year old boy?
Q. My boyfriend told me the other day that I'm not as much fun as he wishes I was. We go out to concerts, dinners, the occasional movie, and do things with our kids. He will usually have ideas of ways we can entertain our kids, but when it comes to ...
A. 11 May 2014: Has he been watching to much NCIS? Doe he think he is Gibbs?
Seriously? flick or smack the back of your head? You should want that? WTF is wrong with him?
I'd tell him to grow up.
... (read in full...)
He threatens to break up because we haven't seen each other for a few days
Q. My boyfriend is mad because we haven't seen each other for a few days, what should I do ?. I last saw him on Wednesday. It was his fault that we didn't see each other on Thursday,and I was busy on Friday and Saturday. He sent me a text today, sa...
A. 11 May 2014: Jeeez, just call him and end it. No one can have a healthy relationship if one of them don't trust the other, accuse her of cheating and make THREATS to dump her when HE hasn't seen you a few days.
The guy is moron.
... (read in full...)
Best friend gossiping to ex behind my back
Q. Hey Everyone, I broke down few weeks ago because I found out that my bestfriend of 10 years has been contacting with my ex. I didn't know how she got his number (maybe facebook) but she's been contacting and telling information about me behind ...
A. 11 May 2014: You say she didn't admit it, so are you sure it's her? Did she defend herself (as in, I didn't do that!) or did she deflect the question/accusation?
You also mention that you told her if she wanted your ex she could have at him - was she interest... (read in full...)
Is this feeling of competition something I should even consider or just ignore? Help!
Q. Hi all! Some thoughts and advice would be much appreciated! I am an artist and have struggled for a while to display my work in public or to even let anyone, including close friends, know that I am an artist. I don't know why though. An...
A. 10 May 2014: If that is how you feel about your friends, maybe keep your art-life and your social life apart.
Maybe they didn't want to offend by giving "bad criticism" or they don't know HOW to support you and your endeavor. Or they might not know how to d... (read in full...)
Will he grow out of his stubbornness? Or is this just something I'll have to get used to?
Q. Hi everybody. Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, but we recently had a 'break' from the relationship. We've been together since we were 17 years old and everybody always used to say that we would be the couple that would be ch...
A. 10 May 2014: I'm stubborn beyond belief. Always was, ALWAYS will be. It's one of those things my husband JUST had to accept.
My husband is a MAJOR procrastinator and that annoys the FIRE out of me. Do or don't do, but don't SAY you will do thing and then tak... (read in full...)
I did some things I'm embarrassed about, he told my adult children, now what do I do?
Q. Hi long story short found photos of my ex with his best friends mrs having sex before he meet me anyway have broken but lived together for awhile when I found the photos of the mrs but also found photos of someone else that he didn't tell while we ...
A. 9 May 2014: Own your mistakes. You might be embarrassed but even a GROWN woman with GROWN kids can make mistakes and do things that are less them stellar.
Own it and stop beating yourself up for doing something stupid. And learn from it. There is a reason y... (read in full...)
My husband requests fellatio all the time and not only that! What do you do when your husband denies you a sexual orgasm or intercourse if you don't do it first?
Q. I don't want to bash my husband or write insensitively of him but it has caused a little ripple in our marriage where it hasn't completely gone away. By continually asking for me to give him oral sex but it's not as bad as it was before when he kept ...
A. 9 May 2014: Wow. If your husband keeps this up, you are going to end up with ZERO libido, not crazy horny.
Some women like semen in their face, mouth, hair on their bodies, but most women don't. IT DOES nothing for a woman. If you are ONE of those women wh... (read in full...)
Should I go for it, the fourth time around?
Q. Should I go for it, the 4th time around? I went yesterday for girls night out and met someone I dated and we broke it off 3 times already. I didn't see him for about a year. It started with one night stand, and then we continued going out and ...
A. 9 May 2014: You two have tried 3 times and it didn't work. A fourth or fifth time won't make a difference.
You even feel pretty sure that he cheated on you while in Germany. So.. there is no trust.
He couldn't bother to wake up and take you home (honey,... (read in full...)
Is there any way he'll ever think better of me?
Q. Could anyone please help Is it possible to change someone's perception of you ? Ok I was very good friends with a guy and it went badly wrong We got close and kissed a few times It shouldn't have happened as he was in the middle of breakin...
A. 9 May 2014: Maybe he is ashamed of how HE acted?
He certainly can't put all the blame on you. YOU weren't dating someone at the time, HE was. YOU didn't act MUCH better then him, but at least you didn't have a partner to cheat on. (even if it was "just" e... (read in full...)
He just can't let go of my past
Q. Hello aunts, I'm having a dilemma with my current boyfriend. We have been dating for a little over a month now and we really enjoy each-other and fell in love and love spending time together when we can. We are almost one person and I've had pre...
A. 9 May 2014: You see a EVEIL person after ONLY a month? IMAGINE what kind of person you will see in 2-4 months. TRUST me you have JUST seem the tip of the iceberg in his behavior towards you.
THERE is no excuse for how he treat you. He is upset that others "... (read in full...)
I thought all men liked giving anal sex! Is he a weirdo?
Q. Am a bit confused about the situation am in it also may sound a bit silly. I have been with my partner now for 7-8 years now and I should think i know him but.... When we got together ok we experimented with each other in the bed room department and ...
A. 9 May 2014: LOL @ CMMP and the lesbian comment!
No he isn't GAY because he doesn't want to give you anal. NOT every man (and NOT every woman wants/likes it). I have never done it, NO intentions of trying it. I've been game for many things sexual, but no anal.... (read in full...)
I am fed up of arguing about her wanting breast enlargement surgery!
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice on a frustrating situation that I am in. About 7 months ago I had a breast enlargement. At 22 I was fed up of feeling self conscious, unhappy and miserable about my body. I never ever developed more than buddin...
A. 8 May 2014: UM honestly, you should take the high road and let her make HER own decisions about HER body, JUST like you did about yours.
YOU might FEEL like you have MORE right to get a boob job then she does, but you don't.
A friend of mine just had a ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to handle this family situation!
Q. My husband's daughter from his first marriage is having a baptism for their baby. The relationship between the daughter and my husband is limited in that she never remembers his birthday, father's day or Christmas. She does not return phone calls ...
A. 8 May 2014:
I would also agree that walking OUT if anything starts up is the right thing to do.
As for your MIL/Granddaughter thing, I'd stay out of it as much as possible. IT IS rude to not call or write back. BUT it's also a little over the top to write... (read in full...)
He said I shouldn't have "put all my eggs in one basket" after I told him what I thought about him! What should I do now?
Q. Hi everyone I split up with my bf of four years six months ago. I'm 25. The split was amicable as we both wanted different things. For two months I've been chatting to a guy online. We chat most days and I really like him. We've spoke on ...
A. 8 May 2014: Yep Yep to Auntie Cindy's advice.
Forget about him. He isn't worth the hassle.
HE was looking for a good romp with a girl whom he also shared things in common with BUT getting SEX was his priority.
I'd block, delete etc. and move on.
I w... (read in full...)
I need advice on getting my confidence back with dating and men.
Q. I need advice on getting my confidence back with dating and men. Sorry I sound selfish but i recently was with a guy who ruined me. I met him a dating site which made me think he genuinly thought he wanted to meet someone. He was nice in...
A. 8 May 2014: Your confidence shouldn't be shattered because you dated a guy who turned out to be ALL WRONG for you and a douche-canoe to boot. He didn't RUIN you. He RUINED a fantasy. HE was not the guy you though he was or the guy you wanted him to be... IT ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give him a second chance but I said I would to settle him down. Now what?
Q. Its been almost a year since me and my ex broke up ... He double timed and after knowing that i broke up with him .. He is constantly appologising and asking me to come back but i never forgave him... But yesterday he texted me that he attempted ...
A. 8 May 2014: Wow, he is NOT right in emotionally blackmailing you.
Tell him YOU need to focus on your studies and then STOP talking to him.
He don't think he will kill himself (but you can never be to sure) IF you seriously think he might, you SHOULD conta... (read in full...)
Does the girl code mean I can't date my soon-to-be married best friend's ex?
Q. Would it be wrong of me to go out with my friend's ex, even though when they went out they were 17 and my friend is now actually getting married this winter? I have known my friend for almost 5 years, and she was the first friend I made when I mo...
A. 8 May 2014: I agree with Uncle Cerberus.
And I think you are not only being a GOOD friend, you are being a GOOD person for questioning this. And I agree it's more about being a good friend then some unwritten (but useful) Girl Code.
I would have a hea... (read in full...)
I need ex-boyfriend advice: will he change if I stop answering his calls?
Q. my ex bf and I have been playing this back and forth game for a while now. he says he does not want to get back in a relationship and he does not want commitment, I do. but yet he continues to call me and not let me go and move on whyyy? will he ...
A. 8 May 2014: Nothing will make him CHANGE - unless he wishes to change. You no answering his calls will not do a thing FOR him, but ofr YOU it might.
YOU might realize that you are holding out for a guy who DOESN'T want to be with you any more. (other then per... (read in full...)
Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 31 January 2014: Hmm you barely know her (2 months) and you are already seeing thing about you you don't like, I'd cut my losses - sounds like she has a whole other set of morals then you.
I would wonder too, if she would cheat on you at some point too, apparent... (read in full...)
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