I think he is keeping secrets about his ex from me!
Q. We have been together 5 years and I know he is in contact with his ex-he says to discuss kids. I know she wants him back. I also know they text and call each other frequently. I also know he deletes his texts from her and most likely, the record of ...
A. 24 March 2015: I think you have answered your own question, which is a good sign (to me) because it means you are thinking past the " Oh I love him, so he must love me too". You are now paying attention to his actions and his words.
With or without snooping... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 22 March 2015: No he isn't missing the point. He is being IGNORANT.
And that ATTITUDE is why rape still exist.
You should DO a little research because you obviously do NOT grasp why women WANT/NEED equality.
Let me give you some numbers from RAINN
... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be with one person forever, even if he's perfect?
Q. Hi all, I am a 24 year old female who has been with my boyfriend going on 7 years. He was my first proper relationship and the only person I have had sex with. Everything between my boyfriend and I is what I presume all anyone could ever as...
A. 22 March 2015: Having a BF, fiance or husband doesn't mean you go blind and deaf. YOU will still NOTICE other guys, your BF will still notice other girls.
You have been with your BF for 7 years. THAT is a long time. And you two have undoubtedly settled into a s... (read in full...)
He cheated, we both fell pregnant, she got to keep her baby but I didn't!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years...last summer we basically split up because I found that he was cheating on me and on top of that the girl was pregnant with his child...I Also was pregnant with his child he told me he was happy for us and ...
A. 22 March 2015: Oh sweetie!
I'm so sorry for you having to have gone through all this. I have to say this, IF he is living with you but not paying bills, because his money goes to HER and HER child? I'd kick him out, SHE can have him.
HE cheated on you. ... (read in full...)
When you know all this about them, would YOU leave?
Q. Okay so, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. The time has come in which I don't no if I'm happy. The thing is it's easy for people to say well leave. If it was that easy I doubt most marriages would last beyond this time period. ...
A. 22 March 2015: This is WHY you don't marry the first guy that comes along. THERE is a HUGE difference from a relationship and a LONG-TERM relationship.
Having been married for 17 years (19 together)I can honestly say that we RARELY fight. We don't agree on EVERY... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 22 March 2015: John, do you even really understand what feminism is?
It wanting equality. NOT outdo men or get the upper-hand. The law you talk about yes-means-yes sounds like a uneven law. Because a drunk guy can't consent any more then a drunk woman.
But ... (read in full...)
I don't know why I even want to save this relationship!
Q. Dear Cupid I am with a person for past 5 years, not engaged thougth. Earlier he used to be fun and nice, now for past couple of months, everything changed. He doesnt talk to me, whenever i initiate any kind of conversation he shuts me out. Te...
A. 22 March 2015: SO CUT HIM OFF!
Pack up ALL his crap and text him to pick it up - leave it in the front step of your house so you don't have to even talk to him.
The guy is treating you like crud BECAUSE you allow it.
I'd say block his number and move on. ... (read in full...)
My wife's cushy life is over, but what about the child!
Q. I left home 4 months ago after finding out my wife was cheating with some unemployed junkie we hired to do yard work. I busted my butt making a living so she can stay home even thouhgh our daughter is in school now. Instead of sorry she tried to ...
A. 22 March 2015: Yes, CONSULT your lawyer.
I think you MADE a huge mistake of giving her money for 6 months worth of bills. My guess is SHE used the money for non essential things to make YOU look like you didn't take care of her and your child.
Personally, I... (read in full...)
Which is more important - love or compatibility?
Q. This is so difficult. How important is compatibility in a relationship? We met online (not dating site). Neither of us were looking for a relationship at the time. We chatted, we clicked. He came to visit me. Being with him in person was the exact ...
A. 21 March 2015: I agree on compatibility + attraction.
I think when you have passion and chemistry it pretty good when it'd good and pretty bad when it goes bad. It's like an old care where when ONE thing goes wrong others will follow in rapid successi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend came back but what about this other guy?
Q. Hi, I have been a relationship for almost 2 years now!lately things have been going downhill,we began to argue a lot and started fighting every single day..after one such major fight we stopped talking to each other for 3 weeks during which I got cl...
A. 21 March 2015: I have to agree with the advice to end it with you BF. Daily fight and 3 week silent treatment is NOT way to carry ON a successful relationship.
And the fact that you could "fall" for someone in that 3 week span is also an indication that you no l... (read in full...)
There are constant rumors of my boyfriend cheating. Not sure what to believe
Q. Everyone keeps telling me that my boyfriend cheats on me whenever he goes back to his hometown or away from the city we live (he works away at least once a month) but they never have any proof and I don't want to believe them but there is something ...
A. 21 March 2015: This is a hard one, because your FRIENDS are only passing along rumors, but HIS SISTER? I'd trust her on that one.
So let's say that you knew for a fact that he cheated, what then?... (read in full...)
A girl I like had sex with someone else while we were talking.
Q. Hey, a little back story first: I recently began going to college. During the first few weeks I met this girl that I instantly clicked with. We began hanging out and making out and what not but never anything more because I am a virgin and want ...
A. 21 March 2015: I think you and her have very different view on dating and relationship.
I'm a little surprised that she was surprised that you got your feelings hurt over this. That to me seems like she isn't QUITE owning her actions or that she thinks what she... (read in full...)
Could she be interested in me or is she just keeping her options open?
Q. Hi there, I got some confusion going on with a girl I met last night. I started to talk with her and we danced together for over an hour and she also asked me if I wanted a drink and I declined then we talked some more for a while and then she ask...
A. 21 March 2015: I think she was using the club as some people use a dating sites. MULTIPLE prospects.
She picked out the guys she was interested and just kept on fishing. Maybe you came of as NOT really THAT interested and that is why she moved on to guy #2.
Y... (read in full...)
He said he wants to have sex with me!
Q. There is a guy who use to work at my job. I know he has a girlfriend for five years. He has a girl at the side too. I know what he is and always told him what he is doing is wrong. Now, working for him a year people would say that we make a good ...
A. 21 March 2015: I think if you have ANYTHING to do with this guy, you are being stupid (sorry got to be blunt here)and YOU are the one who will end up hurt.
Can't you DO better then some OTHER woman's SLOPPY seconds?
To QUOTE you:
** I know what he is and ... (read in full...)
I think he is keeping secrets about his ex from me!
Q. We have been together 5 years and I know he is in contact with his ex-he says to discuss kids. I know she wants him back. I also know they text and call each other frequently. I also know he deletes his texts from her and most likely, the record of ...
A. 20 March 2015: I don't think you have ANY rights to go through is e-mails in SUCH an underhanded manner. Now IF you suspected he was cheating, I can understand digging for dirt for a divorce, but because he isn't as open as YOU want him to be about HIS privacy ... (read in full...)
Eight days since the break up. When will I start to feel indifferent?
Q. It's been 8 days since our BU. We were together for almost 5 years and he wasn't good for me. He brought out the absolute worst in me. I don't think he cared about me anymore as he deliberately done things to hurt/piss me off. I broke it off last ...
A. 20 March 2015: It's only been 8 days. You were together for 5 YEARS. So it will take a while to move along.
Deactivating social media, getting a new phone-number, changing your locks AND passwords is a good start.
I think getting OUT of the house, spending ... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated with how she deals with oral sex?
Q. I'm currently having a problem with my fiance. She's 27 I'm 29. The problem is she never gives me oral to completion, she will start and stop making sure I don't climax in her mouth. She seems to want to have sex after she sucks it for a bit so I...
A. 20 March 2015: What if... she doesn't LIKE cum in her mouth? MANY women don't like the taste or the consistency of cum. Now she DOES offer you another way for you to ORGASM & EJACULATION (by penetration).
Hinting with your body language means squat. You can't hi... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 20 March 2015: *chuckles*
*hugs*... (read in full...)
My boyfriend read my texts in front of me without my permission. Why did he do this?
Q. I was with my BF of two years the other day and he saw that I received a few texts. The battery died on my phone and as soon as it recharged he saw I had three texts waiting to be read. He seemed very interested in my texts from the moment he sa...
A. 20 March 2015: I agree with YouWish on the lock, more for the SAFETY of your personal information then to avoid him "snooping".
And her analogy with the diary is good. People wouldn't expect their partner to let them go though their diary, so why is it so preva... (read in full...)
Should I kick my girlfriend out?
Q. So my gf moved in 6 months ago. I cant walk through my garage cuz she hasnt unpacked, its full of boxes. Ive asked her many times to put the stuff away. She refuses to get a sitter for her kid. We havent gone out in 6 months no lie. I suggest things ...
A. 20 March 2015: My guess is you two didn't really have a sit down and talk before she moved in? No ground rules? No budget? No diving chores?
First of all:
I don't see a problem with HER not paying for repairs on YOUR house.
Second of all:
Does she clean... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 20 March 2015: ***Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop? ****
Nope, because women SELL goods better than men. It's a fact.
Men ARE sexualized in the media and marketing, but it's NOT as common as women being used and it's mainly on "manly" or produ... (read in full...)
Should I push this matter to be handled further or let it go since its my last day?
Q. Hi all, Some advice would be great. I've recently qualified as a nurse and have been working 8 weeks at a time in various areas as part of a scheme before I choose the area I enjoyed to take a permanent role. I started a new area 8 weeks ago n...
A. 20 March 2015: I totally agree with Notsohappy when she said:
**I would request for the incident be documented however at this point without formal complaint. ask for a copy too.**
As for your training versus hers, it's irrelevant. What is NOT irrelevant h... (read in full...)
Why are men's sexual needs considered more important than a woman's emotional needs?
Q. Another woman here who had found out her husband who claimed to Not use porn had been jerking off to women online. I've read and read and whilst the experts seem to point out the dangers , the general advice from people online is that it's just a n...
A. 20 March 2015: A female reader, anonymous
I think you misunderstood me.
You write **Many men lie to save there own skins. Many men lie about porn because they have misrepresented their true interest in porn to their partners and have blatantly agreed... (read in full...)
My best friend stopped all contact with me because his girlfriend asked him to?
Q. Hello Everybody! My problem is: I have been friends with a guy for more than 10 years. We attended the same high school, and the same university for BA and also for the MA studies. We never tough about being more than friends, though we kissed...
A. 20 March 2015: I think his new GF had issues with your friendship because it seemed to lack boundaries.
I have never run around and kissed my male friends at parties. Friend were/are friends. And while me may banter, tease and joke around there was ALWAYS b... (read in full...)
Is my anger towards my partner justified?
Q. I'm currently on maternity leave with a beautiful 8 month old boy. I return to work in 6 weeks but I'm getting annoyed with my partner and I'm not sure if it is justified or if I'm overreacting. The first issue I have is he keeps making comments ...
A. 20 March 2015: You anger is VERY justified. I'd be pissed.
My husband said something along the same lines after our first child was born (I was a SAHM - not quite by choice) but what he FAILED to notice is that not only did I take care of the baby (who by the w... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a girl who didn't want to date but now has a boyfriend
Q. Hi there, i'm here, asking one simple question; why can't i find someone special? there is one girl at my High School, that i'm pretty good friends with, and we share a good amount of things in common. to be honest, the group of friends that i hang ...
A. 20 March 2015: She is a chicken, but a "polite" chicken. She should have been honest with you and told you:" I don't SEE you that way. I am NOT into you in other ways then as friends."
She chose to have a go-between tell you she wasn't into dating instead.... (read in full...)
Husband cheated first with best freind now texting another woman of adult freind finder
Q. I've Been married 34 year and I thought happily, but 10 yr ago I caught my husband out and he was having sex and texting my best now X best freind. Now I have just caught him on a adult freind finder web site and has crossed phone numbers and is ...
A. 20 March 2015: No, you do not HAVE to trust him.
The fact that he first lies and then claims he will delete the number, means he got caught.
You two have been together a LONG time, so I think YOU need to decide what YOU want to do. DO you really want to d... (read in full...)
How do I manage an addictive personality?
Q. I have this problem that I'm trying to fix. I used to snoop on my boyfriend. I'm not talking every now and again. But up to twenty times a day. On every email or social media account.... his phone and computer history when I could. Never found ...
A. 20 March 2015: Find an addiction that is GOOD for you? If you have a tendency to swap one for another, you might actually make this WORK for you. So for now, since you can't exercise swap the sugary snacks for healthy ones, celery, carrots, nuts, bell peppers, ... (read in full...)
Why does he suddenly think I'm clingy when I've been the opposite of that?
Q. Ok so i kinda have a friend (lets call him A) that occasionally i make out with, its not a big deal but sometimes we plan it in advance if one of our parents are going to be away. Previously hes asked me where i stand with us and if hooking up is ...
A. 20 March 2015: I think he had his feelings hurt because you shot him down. You treat him like he is a "dick on call" or "booty call" no more and I don't think he actually likes that.
You didn't mess with guy B to make him jealous, you messed with him to SHOVE it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend read my texts in front of me without my permission. Why did he do this?
Q. I was with my BF of two years the other day and he saw that I received a few texts. The battery died on my phone and as soon as it recharged he saw I had three texts waiting to be read. He seemed very interested in my texts from the moment he sa...
A. 20 March 2015: Why? It's hard to say why he would do that, but I would tell him that you don't want him to read your texts. Do you read his?
Is this a one time thing or has he done it before?
If it's a one time thing, I'd say NIP IT in the bud. If you don'... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I have to see everyday?
Q. In September I started a new course at university. From the very first meeting there was a guy I clicked with. Within a week he'd asked me out on a date and we began seeing each other. As well as seeing each other every day, we'd spent most evenings ...
A. 19 March 2015: Nothing wrong in liking what you like. NOTHING. We all have out little kinks. It's just that I would NOT call it degrading if it's something I like. If that makes sense.
I'd just save those more "advanced" ways of sexual expression with someone ... (read in full...)
There is no sex in our relationship and I can't figure out why!
Q. ive asked for help on this site before and do appreciate any insight on my issue. im a 48 year old female living with a 30 year old male. the issue is sex... he wont touch me and says its not me. i cant help to think that it is. he has made many ...
A. 19 March 2015: You need to take back your power here. If he lives with you.. give him 30 days to move out. If you live with him, then MOVE out.
He is FULL of crap. He says it's NOT you, it's him - but he points out all kind of nitpicked faults? like your age... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but why does he still check his online dating profiles?
Q. I met this amazing guy on an online dating site about 7 months ago. When we first met, we agreed to keep things casual since we were both at pretty unstable points in our lives. But we quickly fell for each other and decided to be exclusive. He r...
A. 19 March 2015: Good for you for talking to him. Communication is VITAL for a good relationship. Don't ever be "scared" of bringing up a topic that is on your mind. The NOT knowing can make little thinks get blown out of proportions.
Good luck :)... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, why does he need time away from me?
Q. Hi DC community, My bf and I are going through some problems in the relationship and have decided to work through them. The main issue is that he is working on himself so he can be better for me, but in the mean time he doesn't want to sleep in...
A. 19 March 2015: Yep, I really think that's what's going on. He doesn't WANT to be in a relationship. BUT he doesn't WANT to be the bad guy and ask you to move out.
It he normally a guy who is full of words or full of actions?
(my guess is the first?)
YouWi... (read in full...)
Why are men's sexual needs considered more important than a woman's emotional needs?
Q. Another woman here who had found out her husband who claimed to Not use porn had been jerking off to women online. I've read and read and whilst the experts seem to point out the dangers , the general advice from people online is that it's just a n...
A. 19 March 2015: I'm not a fan of porn, and I do not watch it. THAT is MY personal choice. MINE. I have quite the creative imagination.
My husband DOES watch it (occasionally) but unless I went snooping on his computer I'd never know what he watches or how ofte... (read in full...)
I know this sounds daft but could he be the guy for me?
Q. I'm all very confused by what to do, this is the full story. This started ages ago at Nursery, we were 3 and inseparable, we came out of school together first week and our Mums became best of friends, still are to this day. We followed each ...
A. 19 March 2015: Why not message him on FB? Since you already "like" thing he posts. Ask him out for coffee away from the mums? Tell him you would like to stay friend or rekindle that childhood friendship.... (read in full...)
Why do some people twist everything around to make themselves look the victim?
Q. So last year I was in a bind. I needed some cash. Asked my baby daddy to help me call a few friends to see if they can help out. They did, except for one friend. This is the one friend who always acts so concerned and caring, always wanting to know ...
A. 19 March 2015: No ADULT PARENT should EVER involve their KIDS in their "drama". End of story.
My guess is she felt embarrassed that you asked for a loan, either because she didn't have that kind of money or because she didn't feel it was OK for you to ask for ... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I have to see everyday?
Q. In September I started a new course at university. From the very first meeting there was a guy I clicked with. Within a week he'd asked me out on a date and we began seeing each other. As well as seeing each other every day, we'd spent most evenings ...
A. 19 March 2015: Chalk this one up to a learning experience. And I have to say getting into "rough sex" with a guy you aren't even dating? IS NOT a good idea. He will TAKE how he treats you in bed to how he will treat you OUT of bed. Which is why, he is treating you ... (read in full...)
I'm married and have fallen for a boss at work
Q. Hi, I'm really hoping someone can help me. Im facing the worst predicament I've ever had in my life. I'm 27 and have a very good job, I am exceeding in my career and facing a huge promotion in a few months time. I'm married to a very nice man an...
A. 19 March 2015: First off your math is wrong. He can't be 58 and married for 45... Unless he got married at 13.. Just had to put that out there.
Second of all this isn't LOVE you are talking about, but infatuation and well, borderline obsession.
The whole "It... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my FWB man. Should I end it? I don't think he'll leave his g/f for me
Q. I'm in a total quandary! I've been in a "friends with benefits" relationship for over two years with a guy who has a girlfriend, but whom he is mostly only with for financial "trapped" reasons. Debts and life's stresses mean it is nigh on impossible ...
A. 19 March 2015: I really don't GET why people ask the SAME question over and over. Read the advice you were already given.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-in-a-total-quandary-in-love-with.html
My guess is it didn't give you the answer you wanted.
... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, why does he need time away from me?
Q. Hi DC community, My bf and I are going through some problems in the relationship and have decided to work through them. The main issue is that he is working on himself so he can be better for me, but in the mean time he doesn't want to sleep in...
A. 19 March 2015: I agree with Janniepeg's idea of moving you out. THAT way he can get ALL the time and space he claims to need.
He said he is in no RUSH to get the relationship back. Well, there it is. HE wants to be single. And since you are living there he feels... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 18 March 2015: Nah, what I said is GIRLS are more subtle when alone - in groups they might actually point out a cute guy and rate him, honey.. I'm BEEN a girl, I know how we act and think.
I think you need to work your social skills, not be so busy worrying... (read in full...)
Two months and not over it?
Q. Its been two months so why am I not over it? I was fine until this month, he cheated and left he didn't even apologize. So why am I still sad? We go to the same school....
A. 18 March 2015: So it's time to make new friends - how about some females one?... (read in full...)
Two months and not over it?
Q. Its been two months so why am I not over it? I was fine until this month, he cheated and left he didn't even apologize. So why am I still sad? We go to the same school....
A. 18 March 2015: There is no expiration date on a broken heart or hurt feelings.
Him NOT owning up and apologizing is NOT a reflection on you. You didn't MAKE him cheat. HE chose to cheat.
Seeing him on an almost daily basis can make it harder to move on too. ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but why does he still check his online dating profiles?
Q. I met this amazing guy on an online dating site about 7 months ago. When we first met, we agreed to keep things casual since we were both at pretty unstable points in our lives. But we quickly fell for each other and decided to be exclusive. He r...
A. 18 March 2015: Are you still "casual", yet exclusive? IF you are, he can do what he wants (and so can you).
If you WANT an exclusive relationship - tell him and suggest you BOTH take all dating profiles down (if he agrees).
If you are a couple, as in BF... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 18 March 2015: I agree with Sage, you are WAY over-thinking this.
Yes, you should TRY (because in the beginning you will find that hard) to ignore whether they look and/or give you a 1 or 10. It doesn't matter. (I'm serious).
Can they tell you are insecure... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 17 March 2015: **Am I not allowed to have insecurities because I'm a guy?**
Of course you are! All people are insecure about themselves. Some more then others, but you END you ORIGINAL post with the question:" What is wrong with girls?" TO me that sounds l... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 17 March 2015: As a woman how can I NOT be irritated when a guy makes this the "girls" fault?
This ISN'T about the girls, this is HIS insecurities bleeding through his actions and behaviors.
Girls/women are NOT on this Earth to stoke guys egos.
Maybe y... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 17 March 2015: What is wrong with girls?
SERIOUSLY?
It's GIRLS fault? For what not noticing you or only occasionally noticing you?... (read in full...)
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