If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: You can't let.. "I have HEARD that SOME guys don't enjoy it as much in their 30's" HOLD you back - or maybe you can, it IS up to you.
What you DO get in your 30's are MORE women who are WAY more OK with their bodies and enjoying sex, who KNOWS wh... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: It's different for EACH person and at different ages. I didn't DATE till 19 and I was with that BF for 4 1/2 years -so into my 20's.
THERE are no rules that you HAVE more fun dating at certain ages. IT's UP to you. IT IS your life.
YOU are... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: I didn't marry till 28 and we certainly didn't slow down in our 30's, it wasn't really till his heart attack in his 40's that things slowed down, WAY down.
You can't go around with a chip on your shoulder for ALL the things you HAVEN'T DONE, wh... (read in full...)
Is it wrong if we still see an EX as an IDEAL partner?
Q. Is it wrong if we still see an EX as an IDEAL partner? Last fall I had a mundane breakup, not too dramatic or over the top, just a little saddening. This girl had very attractive characteristics like being level headed and excelling at com...
A. 25 March 2015: I want to add that maybe you also say her as IDEAL because you WANTED the relationship to be more meaningful than it was. Making her seem a little better than she was.
Liking certain traits is normal, I presume. But they should never be the be-a... (read in full...)
About Pornography: are my thoughts about women who like pornography accurate? Or simplistic generalizations? Or incorrect assumption?
Q. This is just a general question about something I've wondered about. Its safe to say that men who like porn come from all walks of life. But what kind of woman likes it or at least accepts it within a relationship? Often I'll read commen...
A. 24 March 2015: Yes.
I think women who likes/accept porn are from AS WIDE a selection as MEN who watches porn.
I DO NOT watch porn, but I have no problem with my husband watching it.
I'm not a liberal, I do have a couple of tattoos but I do not believe in ... (read in full...)
My sister's rage is out of control
Q. Before our studies commenced we had both decided to live together in a two bed flat in the Student Village. I thought it was going to be amazing... But it turns out that she gets angry and violent really, really easily. I have concerns that she's ...
A. 24 March 2015: This is your twin sister?
I agree with WiseOwlE that telling her you think she needs help, might not work well. She might be aware that her outburst are NOT "normal" but maybe YOU are the only one seeing these violent outburst, so she MIGHT di... (read in full...)
He's 25 and he's interested in me and I'm 47. My son, 27, is not happy about it. Should I try to deal with my sons concerns first?
Q. My boyfriend is 25 and im 47. my son is 27, I initially could not believe a guy younger than my son would be interested in me... but I have looked after my figure. We have a mind blowing relationship and both his and my parents have no problems... ...
A. 24 March 2015: I can see why your son is worried on your behalf. My guess is he's been the "man of the house" for a long time and thus feels RESPONSIBLE for defending and taking care of you. I think it's pretty natural. Then add that your suitor is HIS age, I ... (read in full...)
Is there anything we can buy from the health food store that will help maintain an errection?
Q. What can you take from the health food store that can help a man part stay hard . Can you gave me some names to try that will fix the problem . Hope so. ...
A. 24 March 2015: Has he been to see his doctor?
There could be ALL kind of MEDICAL reasons he can't keep it up and taking stuff (even some herbal) may not be the best idea.
He should go have a check up and a chat with his doctor.... (read in full...)
I'm too nervous to speak to the older man that I have a crush on
Q. Hi, I have a massive crush on an older man. When I say older he's in his 40s and am in my 20s. I can't avoid him as he works local and I'm a stay at home mum so guaranteed to bump into him daily. When I see him I do get all nervous and awakered...
A. 24 March 2015: IS he married? Are you? (or are you in a relationship?)
Because if EITHER of you are married or dating someone the CRUSH is irrelevant.
And I have to say, your behavior is pretty peculiar for someone who claims to have a crush. My guess is he t... (read in full...)
Considering seeing a therapist. How do I find one to address my concerns?
Q. I'm 29 and have never had a girlfriend. I have dated some, but they've been few and far between for the most part. While I have a great, supportive family, hobbies to occupy my spare time, and a few close friends that I like spending time with, I ...
A. 24 March 2015: Are your hobbies "solo hobbies" ? Or do you share your passion with a group of people or at least a forum? Or do you just DO that by yourself FOR yourself?
I'm not really sure you "NEED" a therapist. I have put that in quotations because I do thi... (read in full...)
I think he is keeping secrets about his ex from me!
Q. We have been together 5 years and I know he is in contact with his ex-he says to discuss kids. I know she wants him back. I also know they text and call each other frequently. I also know he deletes his texts from her and most likely, the record of ...
A. 24 March 2015: I think you have answered your own question, which is a good sign (to me) because it means you are thinking past the " Oh I love him, so he must love me too". You are now paying attention to his actions and his words.
With or without snooping... (read in full...)
What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner while having sex with their husband
Q. What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner why having sex with there husband...
A. 24 March 2015: Cindy offered you statistics, those you can google too. However statistics are not EVER the whole truth.
I think in MOST successful marriages there are TWO people in the bed during sex. The husband and the wife (or for the gay couples the husband/... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 24 March 2015: I think that if you STOP being so focused on the "virginity" issue and JUST try and go out and GET TO KNOW women, NOT for the SAKE of losing that virginity but to BEFRIEND females, it's a start.
I'm an online gamer (not as much as I used to be) b... (read in full...)
How much should I tell my lovers about my home situation?
Q. My Husband has lid to me repeatedly about porn. At the very beginning of our relationship I was clear that I was not interested in q relationship including pirn and he assurd me he shared my views . I find it demeaning , offensive , degradin...
A. 24 March 2015: So taking a lover and cheating is on par with him watching porn?
I understand that you feel deceived, if he TOLD you he doesn't watch porn and then turns out to be a HUGE porn dog.
But what you are intending doesn't make matters better. ... (read in full...)
I found a box of condoms in his place!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now, rough patch but we get through it all. i have keys to his place, and yesterday I dont know why I snooped around. In one drawer iour bedroom, I saw a box of condoms. We dont...
A. 24 March 2015: So curiosity got the best of you, huh? And now you are left holding that HUGE pink elephant that you don't dare talk to him about...
The suggestion to ask him to use a condom, is not a bad way to go about it.
But the grown up and mature thing... (read in full...)
My gf is upset with me for talking to my ex
Q. Me and my exs relationship ended almost 3 years ago and I've been with my now gf for 2 years. My ex gf messaged me on Facebook last Saturday night (we had not spoken for like 8 months prior to this, we don't speak hardly at all to be honest). We ...
A. 24 March 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
I think in this day and age where people think the more Facebook "friend" and contacts they have on their cell phone the greater things are.
IS there any REAL good reason to be friend with this ex?
IF you still had feel... (read in full...)
Is she still interested? She didn't respond to my message so I unfriended her!
Q. Hi there, I met this lady on Saturday at my friends club. We had a lot in common and danced together for most of the night. She asked if I wanted a drink and seemed very interested. No psychical contact made on my part nor hers as I think we were ...
A. 24 March 2015: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/could-she-be-interested-in-me-or-is.html
I guess this is you.
I don't think she is interested any more. You un-frineded her because she didn't answer as fast as YOU wanted her to. DO you realize how imma... (read in full...)
Originally I didn't know he has a Gf when I flirted with him. Should I ignore him now, or say something?
Q. I have to see him all the time for the next few weeks too and it's going to be awkward :( Me and my friends are travelling in Ireland and we're staying in a backpackers hostel for two weeks. Last night, we met a group of young guys who were als...
A. 24 March 2015: You didn't do anything wrong. I'm sure he wasn't wearing a "I have a GF" sign.
BUT now that you know he has a GF, I'd be polite but not engage in any flirtation, you can still chat and be polite.... (read in full...)
Is he just playing with my emotions or does he like me?
Q. So, there is this guy that i have known since the 7th grade. From middle school until the end of high school I was best friends with his sister. However, after high school my friendship with his sister faded. I have always liked him since middle ...
A. 24 March 2015: He isn't over his ex and he wants a "shoulder to cry on" and YOU seemed convenient.
Honestly, I'd not get my hopes up. HE has some issues to deal with before he should even be considering dating, UNLESS you are willing to be his rebound.... (read in full...)
Dan the Firestarter is Bad News, but I still want to talk to him
Q. (Sorry if this is rly long) So about 6 months ago I found myself seriously liking my friend, this isn't his real name but let's call him Dan. I know Dan from my drama group, we go to separate schools. Someone else I know from his school says he's...
A. 24 March 2015: I agree YOU did nothing wrong.
He DOES sound like bad news. There is nothing COOL in setting fires. ... (read in full...)
Is this a break-up? Why did he threaten me and say such cruel things?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf has told me he has some work related problems, and wanted me never to talk to him anymore. Long story short, he always make mountain out of mole person and he lies often, I don't entirely but his story. Still wanted to be the...
A. 23 March 2015: Can you name what it is about your BF that you are SO crazy about, that outweigh his treatment of you?
WHEN it is EVER OK for a man (or woman) to VERBALLY abuse their partner?
Do you need to wait to call him back?
NO you need to NEVER call h... (read in full...)
Few questions for the guys, including why the heck do you always leave the toilet seat up?
Q. I have a few questions for you guys. 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more like "Lets ju...
A. 23 March 2015:
I found your post both sad and humorous. And I truly hope you are generalizing.
1. Been with my hubby for 19 years (married 17) and we still kiss. If you date a guy who stops kissing.. move on. Why? Because he OBVIOUSLY doesn't know that kissing... (read in full...)
His friends refer to us as a couple but does he like me?
Q. I met a guy in my med school cohort 2 years ago. The first year, I got the impression that he liked me. I caught him staring at me a few times, he knew my name before I knew his and said hi to me often. His friends would also make references about ...
A. 23 March 2015: IGNORE the friends. For them it's half jest, part jealousy maybe and 1/10 sincerity. WHAT THEY think is irrelevant.
IF he is INTERESTED he is OLD enough to ASK you out, and not do it through friends.
I see nothing wrong in you finding the frie... (read in full...)
Stable relationship, no ups and downs, but no excitement either.
Q. My boyfriend told me he's missing excitement in our relationship. He dosen't think it's a problem, but I'm thinking that if only we could add some he'd be more happy. His past relationship (his first one) was pretty explosive, arguments, probl...
A. 23 March 2015: As someone who is married to a Veteran with PTSD and two prior TBI (traumatic brain injuries) your relationship sounds like a balm. Sounds like something MOST people should STRIVE for. We don't fight a lot (barely actually) but you never know what ... (read in full...)
Sexual attraction or a feeling of being cared for?
Q. Okay cupids, I need your help! Is sexual attraction important in a relationship? I mean, we should all fancy our boyfriends/girlfriends/husbands/wives, yes? Isn't that what attracted us to them in the first place?! I was with my ex boyfrien...
A. 23 March 2015: Don't go back to an ex. THERE really WAS a good reason you left him.
It's not really fair to have the same expectation of #2 as you got from #1.
THEY are two different people.
#1 showed affection by communications.
#2 shows affection thro... (read in full...)
Should I confront him with what I found?
Q. So I just found two hotel keys cards in my boyfriend's overnight bag that he took with him to his mothers house...should I tell him that I found the keys.........
A. 23 March 2015: I'd ask. Because pretending you didn't find them isn't going to help. JUST don't make any ASSUMPTIONS of what those keys are for.
THEY could have been in there for ages?
... (read in full...)
What's the lowdown on the down there hair?
Q. I guess my question is more for the men on DC, but of course I am also interested in women's comments. So : it seems the general consensus , at least among the younger generations, is that a woman SHOULD be hairless down there :the hairless...
A. 23 March 2015: History of shaving goes back at LEAST 3-4,000 years. So it's not something totally brand spanking new.
The Norse (Vikings) (men and women) carried a little purse with personal grooming stuff, comb, razor, toothpick - they used lye to clean th... (read in full...)
Is it wrong if we still see an EX as an IDEAL partner?
Q. Is it wrong if we still see an EX as an IDEAL partner? Last fall I had a mundane breakup, not too dramatic or over the top, just a little saddening. This girl had very attractive characteristics like being level headed and excelling at com...
A. 23 March 2015: **I still see nearly all of her traits as belonging to my ideal partner, so my question is, does this hurt my ability to move on?**
No.
We like what we like. And apart from her anxiety issues she might check a LOT of your "I like that" boxes... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend of 4 years but met a girl on spring break and now I am questioning my relationship. I' m unsure of what to do
Q. Hi all, Cant say this is a question really, but more or less a plea for some advice or opinions on my situation. I have been seeing this girl for about 4 years now. We have had our ups and downs like any couple. But recently i have been fee...
A. 23 March 2015: Maybe the girl from Spring Break was more of a catalyst and an eyeopener than your future GF.
Things aren't going well in your relationship, and you should have thought of trying to FIX it before "branching out" with another girl, though it seems... (read in full...)
He cheated, can I trust him again?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now. (it will make a year in May) We've had the best relationship so far, we're so comfortable with each other and we get each other so well. I really believe he's the one. But, I recently found ...
A. 23 March 2015: You are a "horny teenager" too, right? Yet have you cheated on him? My guess is no. Being a "horny teen" doesn't EXCUSE what he did. If he wanted more attention then you were giving him HE SHOULD come to you, not another girl.
Emotionally cheating... (read in full...)
I want to check my ex's facebook all the time! How do I stop doing this?
Q. Ok my ex cheated on me like 2 months ago and left prior to that I would always get on his fb no we are over and i am heartbroken and when I have nothing to do I get the urge to check his Facebook by hacking it because its so easy but I know its not ...
A. 23 March 2015: If you are looking for an explanation or good reason why he cheated, there IS NONE. He CHOSE to cheat because he is a self-entitled twat. You didn't MAKE him cheat None of it is YOUR fault. KNOW that and WALK away.
There are PLENTY of things t... (read in full...)
I didn't know he's getting engaged... Should I get closure? Am I too conservative or he's clueless?
Q. "Dan" and I dated four years ago long distance. Last winter I took a vacation to his home city with my family and we hung out a few times. We kept in touch with long convos ever since, talked minimum every couple weeks. On Christmas day he called me ...
A. 23 March 2015: I think you already GOT closure. The guy is married.
I'm sure he KNEW you liked him and for a while HE liked you too, but not enough to be totally honest with you. Banter in one thing and so is joking around, but... IF he truly considered you his ... (read in full...)
Why do white guys always flirt with me and then I find out they have someone?
Q. Im African American. Whenever a non-black guy flirts with me, its the same scenario over and over again that I've learned to play along with it just for fun. He'll be overly flirtacious with me, (one would blow kisses at me) I'd take the bait an...
A. 23 March 2015: Honestly you ran into a couple of asshats.
I agree it's not about ethnic background. It's a MALE thing, these guys just used to fact that you are black as an "excuse" to hit on you. I'm willing to wager they don't treat "white" girls any better. ... (read in full...)
He's a lovely man but moving fast and I haven't had the "He's the one moment!:" yet
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I'm seeking some advice. I've started a relationship with a lovely man after a long history of really rubbish relationships, one of which was emotionally abusive. We've only been together one month. He is kind, attentive,...
A. 23 March 2015: I see it as a BIG FAT red flag with the whole marriage and moving in this soon and I think the feeling in your pit of your stomach? IS your gut reaction yelling DANGER!
You don't KNOW a person a month in. Nor how you really feel about them.
... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 22 March 2015: No he isn't missing the point. He is being IGNORANT.
And that ATTITUDE is why rape still exist.
You should DO a little research because you obviously do NOT grasp why women WANT/NEED equality.
Let me give you some numbers from RAINN
... (read in full...)
He never tells me he loves me! What do I do?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my parter for the last four years, we have a 7 month old son together. there is an age gap he's 45 and I'm 24. I love him so much but I doubt if he feels the same as he never tells me. I don't think he fancy's ...
A. 22 March 2015: Find ways to LOVE yourself. If you are unhappy with your post-baby body - start working out and getting back into shape, you have youth on your side and getting pre-baby body back is a LOT easier at 24 them 34.
He is NOT the person who makes yo... (read in full...)
Do I let them figure out they belong together? Or talk to the boy and get him to man up?
Q. So I have two close friends; a boy whose been my best friend since we were kids and a girl who I've recently become close with due to her being friends with the boy. The thing is the girl and the boy so obviously like each other (they both get ...
A. 22 March 2015: Let them figure it out for themselves.
Why?
Because GUESS who gets the blame if they don't work out? Who will lose BOTH people as friends?
YOU.
... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 22 March 2015: You haven't even MET her?
So how do you get this sense of "ownership" ?
I'[m sorry you MOVE at a snail's pace and get upset when she decides OK I'll go have me some fun (which by the way doesn't MAKE her a slut) so she had a fling with a guy... (read in full...)
I thought we had something but now he's avoiding my calls and texts!
Q. Please help me.? Edit There is a guy who I work with for a year. He knows that I had cancer six years ago. I have a scar on my chest of the chemo port. At first I didn t like him but suddenly I started to develop feelings for him but not tell him...
A. 22 March 2015: My advice DON'T pursue anything with this guy or any other till your divorce is final.
You have already stated that you "ran" twice because you were scared. So WORK on that before jumping in. To me that seems like you ARE NOT ready.
And don... (read in full...)
How do I get past this flirtatious part of her to something more meaningful?
Q. I met this girl recently through a mutual friend. We have known each other for less than a month now but she added me on Facebook less than a week ago. From what I know so far, she is very flirtatious. With most men - from what I have seen - she ...
A. 22 March 2015: Alternative methods?
Like what?
Don't flirt back?
You want to get to know her, and move PAST her more flirtatious persona - so GET to know her. My guess is the flirtatious bubbly personality is part of WHO she is, but also part "self defe... (read in full...)
How do I get past this flirtatious part of her to something more meaningful?
Q. I met this girl recently through a mutual friend. We have known each other for less than a month now but she added me on Facebook less than a week ago. From what I know so far, she is very flirtatious. With most men - from what I have seen - she ...
A. 22 March 2015: Have you asked her out? Maybe being one-on-one will make her "relax" a tad and lighten up on the flirtation.... (read in full...)
I don't want to push him, but I do want him to relax
Q. My boyfriend and I have just begun to get sexually curious about each other. He is a virgin and I have only slept with someone once so I do not have a lot of experience. He has experimented on me but gets very nervous whenever I start kissing ...
A. 22 March 2015: Talk boundaries with him, ASK him what he would be comfortable with. IF he is "scared" of not living up to whatever standard he THINKS he should live up to, maybe back off the sex stuff a while. Keep your hand 100% above the waist on him. He will ... (read in full...)
Ridiculed for being single
Q. I am a 24 year old student in college who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. it really hasn't bothered me, besides my friends bringing it up or other people asking me how come I am single, but recently my family has been picking on me as ...
A. 22 March 2015: Learn to say GO FLY A KITE when people tell you how to live your life.
It's YOUR life live is as YOU see fit. Having a BF doesn't make you a better person.
TELL your parents how their comments make you FEEL, my guess is they think they are "... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 22 March 2015: How is she SLUTTY?
My guess is she SEES you as a friend. 12 months and NOT a move? NO WONDER she moved on to another guy.
I mean what did you expect? For her to sit by the phone till you got your courage up to ask her out? To date her? To kis... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be with one person forever, even if he's perfect?
Q. Hi all, I am a 24 year old female who has been with my boyfriend going on 7 years. He was my first proper relationship and the only person I have had sex with. Everything between my boyfriend and I is what I presume all anyone could ever as...
A. 22 March 2015: Having a BF, fiance or husband doesn't mean you go blind and deaf. YOU will still NOTICE other guys, your BF will still notice other girls.
You have been with your BF for 7 years. THAT is a long time. And you two have undoubtedly settled into a s... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 22 March 2015: John, do you even really understand what feminism is?
It wanting equality. NOT outdo men or get the upper-hand. The law you talk about yes-means-yes sounds like a uneven law. Because a drunk guy can't consent any more then a drunk woman.
But ... (read in full...)
I think he is keeping secrets about his ex from me!
Q. We have been together 5 years and I know he is in contact with his ex-he says to discuss kids. I know she wants him back. I also know they text and call each other frequently. I also know he deletes his texts from her and most likely, the record of ...
A. 20 March 2015: I don't think you have ANY rights to go through is e-mails in SUCH an underhanded manner. Now IF you suspected he was cheating, I can understand digging for dirt for a divorce, but because he isn't as open as YOU want him to be about HIS privacy ... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 20 March 2015: *chuckles*
*hugs*... (read in full...)
Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop?
Q. Why are there so many expectations for women? I've started to notice a trend that women are mostly valued by their attractiveness. We're expected to shave, wear makeup, be skinny, have larger boobs and a nice butt, etc. The list goes on and on. I ...
A. 20 March 2015: ***Will the over-sexualization of women ever stop? ****
Nope, because women SELL goods better than men. It's a fact.
Men ARE sexualized in the media and marketing, but it's NOT as common as women being used and it's mainly on "manly" or produ... (read in full...)
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