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36-40,
*oboaxe
writes:So I met this girl at a friends party two weeks ago. We talked for about an hour and I got her number. I asked her out via text, and she said she'd like to but couldn't that week because of a trip, but said she'd be up for it the following week. Once she returned I texted her again, we set up a time and place, and went out for dinner. It went well! She was very chatty and seemed to be having fun. After dinner we walked to another bar and hung out there for about 2 more hours. On our way back I asked her what she was up to the following weekend (because she made clear earlier that she is very busy during the week with classes and her job), and she said she was going to be working on a project. I walked her to her car, we hugged, and I said goodbye. Two days later I texted her "Hey! I had a great time Friday night. How was the rest of your weekend?"And she didn't text back until the following night around 10 PM "It was good but pretty packed!"So now I'm worried she was kind of blowing me off by closing the text conversation and also taking so long to write back. What should I do? Text her next week? In a few days? Call her? She's a great girl and I would hate to mess it up. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 October 2016):
 I would block her number. Someone who rather "ghost" you and then when she has no "better" prospects comes back to you... IS NOT into you.
Consider this.... she is a flake with issues, so you dodged a bullet.
On to the next. No more wasting time on someone who can't really be bothered.
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (2 October 2016):
Roboaxe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your advice!
So after a couple weeks of texting back and forth we finally went on a second date. It was a hike by where she lived.
I thought things went well, but apparently she didn't
She pretty much stopped texting back. About 2 months later out of the blue she was reconsidering going out with me, even going so far as to suggest a place to meet and agree to it...
To only cancel the day of with no explanation, and never responded to any further texts.
Really mind boggling.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 February 2016):
Just make sure when you ASK for that second date that you give her 3-4 days advanced notice.
And I agree, light funny texts would be the way to go.
I think she is just be a bit guarded.
And text the NEXT day if you had a great date.
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (3 February 2016):
You waited two days to text her it was a great date .. and your little worried she took a day to answer .
Listen if you like don't play silly games .. be friendly .. she may be very busy but texting and calling is a good way to kinda up the romance so to speak without taking over her life .. send light texts, something that made you laugh at work or at home etc .. banter a bit lol then say maybe next time when your free we could have a chat .. even ten mins once you get the going ask her when she next free ..
And take it from there .
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (3 February 2016):
 Shes being cautious. Avoid creating any sexual tension for now and heavy messaging and calling. Add fun n humor to your light messages to help build some trust.
The other view is shes a woman with a lot of issues and these are your first signs to something that will never be. Ive seen it a lot man and must mention that here.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (3 February 2016):
 You haven't been shown the red card yet. I would say she is proceeding cautiously - which is good. Keep trying. Keep it light. Let it be fun. Be happy.
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