Should I ask for the money again or just let it go and block her?
Q. Hi everyone. I know this lady for few years and I can’t call her my friend but we hangout for a coffee sometimes. I find her cheap, not that she is not spending but just her attitude towards money. 2 months ago she was asking to attend an event ...
A. 21 May 2018: Yikes, she sounds like a right cow!
Glad you got your money back!
... (read in full...)
Why do guys I meet (and like) only like to flirt and never do anything?
Q. Why do guys I meet (and like) only like to flirt and never do anything? I have an unusual job, we do fieldwork and one expedition can last for several months, so we get to know each other well and spend time together. They are all very open...
A. 19 May 2018: The dating pool at your age IS getting smaller but that doesn't mean you should get LESS selective.
I'm sure you are also aware that there IS a double standard when a guy is flirty or even a little inappropriate at work... and when a woman is... (read in full...)
He broke up with my but regrets it 1.5 years later. I still love him, but what is the right thing to do?
Q. My ex and I are high school sweethearts and each other’s first love. We had been together for a decade and the last 4 years were long distance. I thought he was the guy I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with;unfortunately he ...
A. 19 May 2018: You don't find it strange that he is pursuing you now that YOU are in a good and healthy relationship?
The thing is, 1. he cheated and 2. he was UNSURE about his feelings for you after a 10 YEAR relationship.
NOW that he HASN'T been able to fin... (read in full...)
Does he have a disorder or is he just a liar?
Q. Hello i have a question, i have been dating this guy for 3 months but am confused about his character.The first time met him, he told he was born Jan 30th, the next time i asked he said 20th feb 1979 i asked to see his Id it was 1th Jan 1978. Last ...
A. 19 May 2018: I agree with CodeWarrior's advice
He is either a liar (and even lying about things that isn't important s- a HABITUAL liar) or he has mental issues (or BOTH). And either way, that is NOT something you want to get into. There will be no trust fr... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips on mental health?
Q. Hello aunts I realize this is not a relationship question but I have been diagnosed with ocd/ rumination (excessive) to the point where I get horrible tension headaches and panick. I am a prisoner of my mind and I go and recheck things and ...
A. 19 May 2018: CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) is what you should look into.
Meds might work in tandem with that, for some the meds don't help much. No two people have the same reaction to psychotropics. However, working with CBT you can get the tools t... (read in full...)
I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!
Q. Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...
A. 19 May 2018: I agree with YouWish,
You need to NOT be douche-canoe and take advantage of her REALLY liking you.
She didn't come over for sex, she came over hoping that YOU seeing her you would have missed her and wanted to be with her again and sleeping WIT... (read in full...)
Why do guys I meet (and like) only like to flirt and never do anything?
Q. Why do guys I meet (and like) only like to flirt and never do anything? I have an unusual job, we do fieldwork and one expedition can last for several months, so we get to know each other well and spend time together. They are all very open...
A. 18 May 2018: I think flirting with guys you work with is a BAD idea to start with. It makes you seem unprofessional (them too) and someone to not take serious.
If you are OK with a guy flirting and touching you before you even really know them, you kind of ... (read in full...)
Should I ask for the money again or just let it go and block her?
Q. Hi everyone. I know this lady for few years and I can’t call her my friend but we hangout for a coffee sometimes. I find her cheap, not that she is not spending but just her attitude towards money. 2 months ago she was asking to attend an event ...
A. 18 May 2018: I also doubt you will see a penny of this.
IF she is to pay you she needs to pay you in CASH, you don't need any more fines from your bank because of HER writing bad checks.
Also... WHY would you pay all of it upfront for someone who isn'... (read in full...)
How much of an issue is porn while getting into a serious relationship/marriage?
Q. How much of an issue is porn while getting into a serious relationship/marriage? I don't know if I'm addicted but I watch it everyday. I am currently single and I've noticed that I watch it even when I'm with someone. Do women take offence to their...
A. 18 May 2018: OP,
Take a gander at this website.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
It might give you some extra insights that you didn't consider.
Unless you date a women who ISN'T really into sex and rather you "do you" then YES I think you will r... (read in full...)
Any advice on dealing with my strange boss?
Q. I have recently started a new job that I really enjoy and my new boss is very strange. One minute he is full on saying the coffees on him as I done a great job ...then leaves before the pre arranged meeting time so we have no coffee and no ...
A. 17 May 2018: Sounds like I'd be looking for a new job.
If not, then is he REALLY the only one who can answer the questions you have?
If there are others who can help you and answer your questions I'd simply stop relying on him.
Maybe some of this is... (read in full...)
My husband found some screenshots from my sim game!
Q. My husband is jealous of a dating Sim (similar to otome) visual novel romance game. Recently he came across some pictures I'd saved of one of the sex scenes between the sprites (it's all dialogue) to show to my friend. He got mad that 1) I had ...
A. 17 May 2018: Do you spend more time "romancing" imaginary characters than your husband?
For me that is what it comes down to.
Why did he bring it up? Does he feel neglected?
And why so defensive?
"Please don't lecture me about my fandom life. It is n... (read in full...)
He hasn’t initiated a date and I’m wondering if I’m being played!
Q. Hello everyone! So I’ve been on a few dates with this guy, who I really like! He’s a mutual friend, but I don’t know much about him. The first date was good, we had plenty to talk about but we were trying to impress each other quite a lot b...
A. 17 May 2018: If he initiated the first date, you the second and you even suggested to do something for a 3rd date, I'd say the BALL is in his court.
I's give him a couple of days to figure something out, but I would NOT WAIT for him decide he wants to see you ... (read in full...)
Should I keep in touch and message him from time to time? Or leave it to him? And how long are we on hold for?
Q. i met someone in february at a friends party and we hit it off immediately, only he suffers from mental health issues because of a past abusive relationship anyway recently my mum had a go at him through Facebook for going to see his friend instead ...
A. 17 May 2018: WHY is you mom getting involved in your relationship?
No, I think you should leave him and and I think you should set some boundaries with your mom.
You have only known him 3 months and he ALREADY needs a break from the relationships...... (read in full...)
Why does my husband look up his ex after we argue?
Q. Anytime I have a really big argument with my husband, the next day or day after I check his internet history. I did this once years ago as I felt paranoid after the fight. I really really hate arguing, it freaks me out. So the first time I did it, I ...
A. 17 May 2018: Does it mean he wishes he was with her?
I don't really think he is wishing he was with her, because you say he LOOKS them up, but does he CONTACT them?
WHO knows? ONLY he knows.
Maybe he hates arguments as much as you and his way of d... (read in full...)
Should I send snapshots to his siblings and his mother?
Q. Recently after another classic domestic between hubby (59) and me, I was at the end of my tether... I asked hubby how he would like me to talk about his mother in the same manner of profanity he speaks to me day in day out? Later I did apologize, ...
A. 17 May 2018: You say on one hand that you feel this is between you and your spouse, yet YOU are the one who wants to drag his siblings into this?
Is that a tad... contradictory?
So it would be OK for you to point out HIS faults to THEM but not vice verse? ... (read in full...)
How to change her behaviour and thinking?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now and I have the known her very well but sometimes still our thoughts,thinkings are very different and I think she usually takes a situation negatively and I mostly get angry while handling situation and ...
A. 17 May 2018: Why not start this by changing your OWN behavior and YOUR way of thinking... See how that goes?
If that is easy for you... then you can see how changing someone else goes (*hint* it's not easy and sometimes not even possible to "change" others).... (read in full...)
After I told him I’d give him space if he needed it, I haven’t heard from him! What next?
Q. Hi, I’m in a LDR online. We do know each other in person but a few months ago reconnected. Things have been going well but recently he has been going through much stress with his business and children. Things (for him) seem to be getting worse ...
A. 17 May 2018: How long do you want to wait for this guy and his drama to die down?
It might NEVER happen.
Instead I would take his silence and him AGREEING with you. I mean, if he REALLY cared about you he would AT the least contact you and let you know WHA... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on the perfect girl but we're both in relationships. Should I still get her number in case we break up with our partners in the future?
Q. Im in a class with a girl, who when I first saw her thought she was pretty but didnt think much of it. As Ive got to know her a little better over the semester and she is so smart! Probably the most intelligent in the class. She honestly seems so ...
A. 17 May 2018: No.
You should decide if the girl you are with now is someone you can see yourself with or not. If you can't END it with your GF.
She has a BF, so she SHOULD be off limits. Just like you shouldn't pursue her for "further use" "just in case yo... (read in full...)
Do you think it's wise trying again with his family and friends against us?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend amicably agreed to break up around a year ago and let fate decide where we'd end up. I was travelling, he was studying and it just wasn't our time. Even though we decided this together, he became more hurt about our breakup as ...
A. 17 May 2018: No, I don't think it's wise.
If he has talked SO much smack about you behind your back after the break up, even if you start at "square 1" it probably won't work. Also, you can't start over. That isn't how relationships and life works. Because ... (read in full...)
I don't think this party girl is girlfriend material. Should I break up?
Q. I'm 32 years old my girlfriend is22. We're dating for four months and I still have doubts about her if she is gf material to me. Bottom line is she's a party girl, to me a girl who likes to party and drink and have sex with a lot of dudes is not ...
A. 17 May 2018: Maybe you should STOP trying to date someone who is STILL trying to figure out who she is and what she wants. Being a "party girl" at 22 is not unheard of. A YOUNG woman of 22 is not mature, not sure what she wants. Her focus in life is having fun ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ignores me for computer games, should I be upset?
Q. Hi, I feel like this is a bit of a strange question and I'm not sure if I am allowed to feel this way or not. Hopefully you can shed some light for me. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years and recently moved in together 3 years ago. I fe...
A. 17 May 2018: I play online games, usually WITH my husband, though he tend to play longer hours than me. But I don't prioritize the game and online gamer friends over my family. EVER.
I DO think you should expect more quality time from him, more time in gener... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend snub my son by not saying goodbye to him?
Q. Something is bugging me. I drove my boyfriend to work today. His car is in the shop and he doesn't live with me. My 13 year-old son was in the car too. After I dropped off my boyfriend, I was going to drop my son off at school. Well, my boyfr...
A. 17 May 2018: I agree with Cindy..
I also presume there is more than ONE episode for you to feel this way. If it's ONLY this once, I don't see the issue.
And like Cindy mentioned, WHY not talk to him about it? If it really bothers you?
Did it bother y... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?
Q. My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...
A. 17 May 2018: Whether she "respects" herself I think is irrelevant. Do you respect YOURSELF? Because this isn't really about her. We aren't trying to help HER, but you see the light.
He is DISRESPECTING you. YOUR relationship by his actions with her.
If you ... (read in full...)
I can’t get the thoughts of her having sex with her exes out of my head!
Q. Hello, my girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now. I am 17 and she is 20, I know most people would say this is a recipe for chaos and it probably is.. In 2 months I will be going to Brazil (I am from Belgium BTW) ...
A. 16 May 2018: I DO think this is a recipe for chaos (as you put it). You have only "sort of" known her for 4 months and RESENTMENT and DISGUST towards her is already building. And over something SHE can not change!
She had no idea before she met BF #1 through ... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex with a drinking problem a second chance?
Q. Do I give my ex with a drinking problem a second chance? I had been with my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I recently decided to end our relationship because of his drinking habit. I wasn't happy about his drinking early on but I t...
A. 16 May 2018: No, I wouldn't give him a second chance. Not now. Why? Because NOTHING has changed.
He might SAY that he can't forgive himself for letting it go to this point but has he ACTUALLY taken ANY steps to work on it? To seek help? As it is CLEARLY ... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?
Q. My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...
A. 16 May 2018: Devencianna
"It seems as if he’s waiting until she gets desperate enough to give in to spending nights with him and stop having casual sex with him and get from under her parents thumb"
It might be OP,
IS that really a guy you want to... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter wants to spend time with these older men! What do I do?
Q. My 16 year old daughter has recently made some new friends. At first I let them come round to our house only. My issue is they are in their late 20's. They talk about music as my daughter plays guitar. But now she has been wanting to go see their ...
A. 15 May 2018: OP, she has to grow up sometime and holding her back and treating her like a kid is not going to help her at all.
She isn't your PET she is your daughter. I ABSOLUTELY get that you want to keep her safe, but what you do is raise a sheltere... (read in full...)
Am I being used? I believe deep down that he is a good person but I am worried that I'm just there to teach him how to be in a relationship!
Q. have been seeing someone new for 4 months. When we first met, it was unlike anything I have ever experienced – I felt a real chemisty with this person and we hit it off straight away. Despite the distance (he lives in the south of the UK and me the ...
A. 15 May 2018: 1. have you talked to him about the steroids and Viagra?
If not, why not?
Steroids are dangerous on so many level, and you have no clue HOW long he has done them for or how affected he REALLY is by them. Because you ONLY see him for "short b... (read in full...)
I am upset at how he dealt with Mother’s Day! What would you do in my shoes?
Q. Hello. My bf and I are 35, cohabitating. We have kids but not with each other although I am quite close with his. I was really upset on mother’s day because I woke up to an empty, messy house but a gift and cards left out. Apparently he thought the ...
A. 15 May 2018: Why didn't you just wait until they got back? that way you could open the present AND card surrounded by your loved ones.!
I think you are being over the top on this. YOU are making it an issue.
Honestly, OP! drama for NO real reason.
And I... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?
Q. My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...
A. 15 May 2018: How would it be punishing HER if he took her back?
No, I think he rather enjoys having you two "compete" for him affections. It makes him think he is all that and a bag of chips.
Or maybe he is trying to have TWO women in his bed/life at the ... (read in full...)
He says I’m loose! Help!
Q. I'm a virgin and today my boyfriend tired putting a bit of his dick inside and he said later that its very loose, I've never played with myself or let anyone else, no one has entered a finger inside me still he's saying this. can anyone please h...
A. 15 May 2018: Is he sure it's not his penis that is skinny? small?
And what does he COMPARE it to?
OP, the vagina is a muscle. NOT an old sock. It is MEANT to be flexible so you can later in life deliver children.
Having SEX doesn't make a vagina lo... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in love and committed to a man, whereas developing only sexual interest in others?
Q. I will turn 30 next month and my life's in a big mess. I've a good career, a loving would-be husband (getting married in early fall this year). We've been together for 11 years. You're wondering where's the messy part? Well, the sex between ...
A. 15 May 2018: Ask your husband how he would feel?
I mean if you SERIOUSLY plan on marrying him. You feel your own actions are OK? And if you do, then why not ASK him if he wants to marry a women who isn't attracted to him and who has been having an affair f... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?
Q. My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...
A. 15 May 2018: He is using you both.
He is using you to get back at her for not doing WHAT he wanted her to do.
She is 21 living at home and her parents didn't want her to stay over at night with a 31 year old... NOT really totally strange for parents to f... (read in full...)
How should we take this strange comments from a male boss?
Q. Apologies that this a job-related rather than relationship-related question. Our male boss at work has made a few comments lately to female employees that I find a bit questionable, but I would like a second opinion on what these remarks say abou...
A. 15 May 2018: I pick option 4:
I think your boss in as idiot trying to be witty.... (read in full...)
He ended our friendship because I loved him as a friend only. He sent me a message yesterday after 3 months. Do I reply?
Q. Me and my ex guy friend have been friends for years. He started to have feelings for me and he did confess to me that he wants to be more than friends. However, i don't see us being together and i dont share the same feelings with him. I rejected ...
A. 15 May 2018: I think you should leave the poor guy alone.
And I have to say I agree with Code Warrior and 123 - if anyone should have an HURT ego, it's him but he actually handled it MATURELY.
He took a risk by telling you how he felt and he respected you... (read in full...)
We texted and chatted but when his parents came to town he didn’t!
Q. Dear cupid , Ive met this guy at work (im from the middle east he's American ) we exchanged numbers but he was flying back to the us the day we met so we disnt get a chance to go out , he texted me Everyday and even video chated almost everyday ...
A. 15 May 2018: Do you actually see potential here?
A long distance relationship is HARD to maintain and he didn't talk to you while his parents where there (WHICH I might add kind of makes sense as they SHOULD be his priority when they visit.) there is nothing ... (read in full...)
At what age would young couples move in together?
Q. Hello. I am 21 years old and already wanting to settle with my boyfriend. We have made plans in the future to settle and live together as in get an apartment and eventually a house. I am in university full time and seeking part time jobs. We both ...
A. 14 May 2018: Some people as young as you two don't really WANT the responsibilities of being a grown up, just the benefits (if you will). For him, he might also not want to leave his mom or his comfortable home.
I think he is stalling because he isn't READY. S... (read in full...)
He wants to get married and I just feel he isn't the right one. What to do?
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a little over a year. He is a good guy, makes me coffee in the morning, opens the door for me ect. I believe he wouldn't ever cheat on me. He helps out around the house a little. He even moved to another state with ...
A. 14 May 2018: You be honest with him?
In the nicest gentlest way possible?
First though, you go open a NEW bank account and make sure your salary is routes to the new account. Then once you know that is working, you take your name off the shared one. Peop... (read in full...)
Why can't I get past first dates?
Q. I'm suffering from a really bad 18 months or so of dating, all the dates have been from various apps like Tinder or Bumble but the most dates with one girl in that time is four. However, recently it's got really bad... I haven't had a second date ...
A. 14 May 2018: Maybe it's the "pool" of women from which you pick? I mean... Tindr? Bumble? Those are mainly HOOK UP apps. So you will get a bag of mixed nuts, so to speak.
When you consider the girls you pick, how much do you REALLY know about them from the... (read in full...)
My wife is bi-curious and has talked about a threesome then never does anything about it! What is she thinking?
Q. Over the years it has been obvious my wife is bi-Curious, she came home one night and told me she kissed another girl, I thought wow tell me more.. she said it was just messing around and we laughed and I though cool .. nothing got mentioned again ...
A. 14 May 2018: You wife likes the fantasy and she is TRYING to get you to say, I DON'T want to share you. And you just don't seem to catch on.
You think you will be part of some porn like 3-some if you agree to this? Think again.
YOUR wife is ASKING you permi... (read in full...)
Why his sudden change in behaviour?
Q. I met a guy through mutual friends age took my number . We had an amazing first long conversation on call followed by a couple of video calls sessions . There were no romantic talks but we were planning to meet up. I agree he is busy but he used to ...
A. 14 May 2018: Maybe he did enjoy meeting you but maybe dating isn't a priority right now? Or maybe dating someone Long Distance is not what he wants.
Yes, it would be nice if he just TOLD you straight up, you are NOT what I'm looking for. Or whatever reason. ... (read in full...)
Does one mistake break you forever? Even if you've learned from your mistake and would never ever repeat it?
Q. Does one mistake make you broken forever? Even if you've learned from your mistake and would never ever repeat it? My first bf and I were not a good match. Or we were for a codependant relationship. Bit I didn't know that then. Everything was a...
A. 13 May 2018: Of course you can have an opinion, OP
You can even give her advice from PERSONAL experience! You know what cheating did and how it STILL affects you. So yes, you can advice her not to do it and explain why.
Now she may not AGREE with your ... (read in full...)
At what age would young couples move in together?
Q. Hello. I am 21 years old and already wanting to settle with my boyfriend. We have made plans in the future to settle and live together as in get an apartment and eventually a house. I am in university full time and seeking part time jobs. We both ...
A. 13 May 2018: I moved to another country at age 18. Came home a year later and then meet my BF - we moved in together after about 10? months of dating? So at 19 almost 20 for us both. He was in the military and I was in college and working 2-3 weeknights.
It wo... (read in full...)
Does one mistake break you forever? Even if you've learned from your mistake and would never ever repeat it?
Q. Does one mistake make you broken forever? Even if you've learned from your mistake and would never ever repeat it? My first bf and I were not a good match. Or we were for a codependant relationship. Bit I didn't know that then. Everything was a...
A. 12 May 2018: At some point you have to realize that beating yourself up for something you did when you were 21 - is pointless.
DID you learn something from it? Have you remained faithful ever since?
If you can say YES to both of those, maybe it's time ... (read in full...)
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