Can sperm die in chlorine water?
Q. Can sperm die in chlorine water?...
A. 19 July 2007: Then the answer is yes.... (read in full...)
My wife is cheating on me and wants a divorce
Q. Hi, I found out 6 days ago that my wife is having an affair. I have known in my heart things have not been right for quite a while and understand that this has been going on behind my back for 2 or 3 months. I am having a very tough time deali...
A. 18 July 2007: You need to consult with a lawyer and he will walk you through everything, that's why they earn the big bucks. She sounds like a real witch, you'll be just fine. Act like a class act, your children and lost friends will notice, trust me.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt want to use spermacide because he says it is painful for the girl. Is that true?
Q. Hi There People,I Have Just A Quick Question. My Biggest Fear Is Getting Pregnant, But Im SO In Love With MY Boyfriend (and he loves me too :) ) That We Started Having Sex The Problem Is, I'm Getting On The Pill But I Want To Be Safer Than That ...
A. 18 July 2007: I used spermicide as my only form birth control (after marriage) and was able to space my three kids two years apart successfully then hubby had a vasectomy. My doctor said I was lucky because spermicide is only about 75% effective at least it was ... (read in full...)
Since I moved in with him, he is jealous and controlling
Q. Hi, i have just recently moved in with my boyfriend of 6 months, we got along great and i needed direction. But now that we are living together everything is different, he is different, he is very jealous, i am not allowed to go anywhere alone, not ...
A. 18 July 2007: This is a very unhealthy relationship, he is dangerous pure and simple. You need to get out immediately and don't look back. The guy is spiralling out of control. Run honey.... (read in full...)
My 16-yr old son is in a cult!
Q. Apologies for the length of this, but the problem is really worrying, and I can't deal with it! I'm a father of two, with one 16-year-old son, and one 22-year-old son, at university in Manchester. My 16-year-old son has joined a dangerous cult....
A. 18 July 2007: Wow Neil, this is a very touchy problem. I know back in the 70's there were all kinds of cults and there were professional "de-programmers" who would try to reverse the cult's brainwashing. I'm sure with all the gang's springing up these days those ... (read in full...)
How can I get this relationship to progress further?
Q. There is a wonderful lady with whom I worked for many years. We have been very good friends for a long time. And I've always been kind of interested in her, but never did anything because we worked together. Anyway, I recently was laid off due to ...
A. 18 July 2007: Well Michael, why don't you ask her out for coffee or dinner? If she has stayed in contact with you she obviously likes you. Go for it Buddy!... (read in full...)
What is the best way for me to handle this "friend"?
Q. During my adolescent years I had a good friend whom I lost contact with when I temporarily moved overseas. He had difficulty mixing in the same circles of friends and so our time together was often just the two of us. His mother was always very ...
A. 18 July 2007: He doesn't sound like someone you need as a friend. Who needs to hang around with negative people? Enjoy your other friends. If you run into each other be friendly but I wouldn't try to rekindle anything. Good luck with your studies, your future ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets mad because I never have anything to talk about!!!
Q. My boyfriend gets mad because I never have anything to talk about!!! When were on the phone and we have a good conversation he asks me what do I want to talk about and I always say I don't know because I really don't have anything to talk about. I ...
A. 18 July 2007: Watch the news everyday, read an interesting book, google stuff on the internet, not only will these activities give you lots to talk about, they will widen you horizons. But do this for yourself and not your boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Can sperm die in chlorine water?
Q. Can sperm die in chlorine water?...
A. 18 July 2007: Of course sperm die in chlorinated water but like Stina said that doesn't make having sex in a pool safe sex. Your partner won't have chlorine up her vagina so those little buggers will be able to swim safely to the egg and bingo, baby! Now if you ... (read in full...)
How do I have phone sex?
Q. How do I 'make love' to my girlfriend on the telphone? We have kissed each other this way. Has any other boyfriend done this with their long distance girlfriend?...
A. 17 July 2007: ha ha Eddie...balance ha ha ha... (read in full...)
I am in love with my teacher. How can I get through summer holidays without him?
Q. Right i'm in the most awful, emotionally-depressive situation. Now as you're reading this you'll think that by my first sentence i'm over-exaggerating! But trust me, if you are or have been in a similar experience to this then you'll hopefull...
A. 17 July 2007: You've posted this on this forum over and over again. You've gotten excellent advice each time. I don't understand what purpose it serves since you never like the advice you get. You get told it's a crush, you deny it and say it's true love. You are ... (read in full...)
He wakes me up for unsatisfying sex - how do I approach him without him getting offended?
Q. My boyfriend wakes me up in the middle of the night to have sex. He pokes me so I can wake up. He does not perform foreplay ever, and I have to get him aroused. Then I must get on top and do all the work, always. I'm really tired of this. He doesn't ...
A. 17 July 2007: This is the reason I keep a caste iron frying pan next to MY bed. Offended my ass, I'd tell the guy in no uncertain terms that you do not appreciate the midnight romps especially if you have already fallen to sleep AND then have to do all the work. ... (read in full...)
He feels that I have so much more to experience in my life and if I ended up with him I would leave him when I grow older... he feels he is too old for me.
Q. I have been seeing a guy who is engaged. We met about a year ago, and over time we have become so close, we started off being great friends but it just went too far... now we are so in love, we have everything in common and have not once been sick ...
A. 17 July 2007: Wise up Chickie, the guy is playing you like a violin. Throw him back to the poor smuck who agreed to marry him. You are right, you aren't thinking straight, try harder.... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming that my ex husband is being emotionally cruel to me.
Q. My ex husband was very emotionally cruel and sometimes physically. I was with him for a long time and have been seperated from him for 3 months and not seen him at all in this time. I am determined never to go back this time but the thing now is ...
A. 17 July 2007: I just want to tell you how glad I am you escaped! Good for you and I hope you have all the best in the future. The bad dreams will fade as you start to bloom. You go girl!... (read in full...)
Guys don't like me b/c of my hair color, so how do I get the boy I'm after?
Q. None of the boys on my year seem to like me because I have ginger hair. I also really like this one boy. How do I get the boy I'm after?? Please help...
A. 17 July 2007: Listen to the other aunts but I also want you to know that over here in the USA, men go nuts over redheads!... (read in full...)
My 16 year old son is very verbally abusive with me! How do I deal with him?
Q. i feel very embarrased about having to ask for some advice on here regarding my 16 year old son. whenever he doesnt get his own way or he is in a bad mood he is becoming very verbally abusive with me, by calling me names such as dickhead and slut ...
A. 17 July 2007: Sounds like the spoiled brat learned his lovely behavior from his father. Since you've lost your footing here I think you will need to call in a professional to give him the counseling he needs. Without counseling he will continue to behave this way ... (read in full...)
Do I take it she’s just not interested and move on; as if she was she would have been in touch right?
Q. Hey! Thanks for reading this, hope you can give me some advice. Ok so I posted recently how I was having trouble with my ex, she dumped me claiming she didn’t have time for a relationship, but then a few weeks later made it obvious she want...
A. 17 July 2007: Honey, she isn't interested. You have to give it up at this point. I know it hurts but you will have to move on. Keep yourself busy, time is your best friend. You'll be just fine and will find someone who loves you as much as you love them. You ... (read in full...)
My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 17 July 2007: I don't know if I would give the Dad full custody, if he changes his mind about the 2 nights a week there is nothing you can do about it. I'd insist on shared custody but allow the boy to stay primarily with the Dad if that's what he wants at this ... (read in full...)
I want to end it with her, but I'm not sure I could forgive myself for breaking her heart!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years. She absolutely adores me and would do anything for me. I love her, she is such a wonderful person. However, over the last year I've found myself less attracted to her and wanting to see what its lik...
A. 17 July 2007: In these situations it is always best to put yourself in the other person's position. Would you want to be with someone who felt this way towards you? I think not. You are doing her a huge disservice by stringing her along when you don't feel there ... (read in full...)
He only sees me as a friend, but I feel by having sex with him I can keep him!
Q. I have been close friends with this lad for about 18 months and have always been sexually attracted to him and we have always had a sexual tension between us. The night of my 21st birthday I slept with him (obviously I was very drunk!)and slept wi...
A. 17 July 2007: There is nothing but unhappiness and pain down the path you've chosen. He was upfront and honest with you, it's just sex. If you think you are "keeping" by using sex you're sadly mistaken. You are being used pure and simple. Stop the sex, keep the ... (read in full...)
The woman my ex-husband cheated with got pregnant so he left me. But the child is not his! I got remarried but still love him.
Q. OK Check this out!!!I was married to my first love from highschool and we had 2 kids together and we both had a child from previous relationships.After being together for eight years he cheated on me,and the woman became pregnant, even though he ...
A. 17 July 2007: Not sure what you want from the aunts. You shouldn't be laughing at some else's misfortunes of course, however I'd probably do it if my husband left me for another woman. Since you have remarried I'd concentrate on your husband and forget about the ... (read in full...)
I slapped my bf and he kicked me out! Any advice on how to make him reconsider?
Q. My boyfriend of just over three years and I had a fight. I slapped him and he threw me out and told me it was over. Any advice on how to make him reconsider? ...
A. 17 July 2007: I think you blew it by turning violent. Maybe if you get some anger management therapy he might reconsider but just apologising probably won't cut it, and that's as it should be. If you slapped him once you will slap him again unless you get a ... (read in full...)
My guy is almost perfect...except he still hasn't divorced his wife! Am I wasting my time?
Q. Me and my guy have lived together for 8 years and he is almost the perfect guy he supports me and my children, we have never spent the night apart if he is not working we are spending time together.My problem is that he has not divorced his wife am ...
A. 17 July 2007: For crying out loud, why the heck has he not divorced his wife? Why are you allowing this? This is nuts. What kind of example are giving your children? I don't get it.... (read in full...)
When's the best time to have children? During college or after?
Q. so i've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and we plan on getting married in the future. we also plan on having kids. but the problem is. i dont know when is the right time to have kids?? during college? or after?...
A. 17 July 2007: After.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps giving me mixed signals - I've not done anything to deserve this, and it's just torture!
Q. Since mine and my Girlfriends long distance realtionship of 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago today, I can't help but hate how little contact I can make with her. For the first 2 weeks or so, I couldn't contact her due to her being on holiday. But since ...
A. 16 July 2007: She may feel that she is letting you down lightly and doesn't realize that it's torturing you. Let her contact you next. But from the sound of all this If I were you I'd try to start moving on with my life. I know it hurts but a clean break is ... (read in full...)
I don't just have spotting, I seem to have it all the time. Sometimes it's blood, and sometimes it's this sort of a brown discharge thing that just won't go away. I have it every day!
Q. Sorry I know this isn't a relationship question but I don't know where else to go for advice! I just started taking birth control pills literally three weeks, almost a month ago. On the package it says for the first few months you can have irregul...
A. 16 July 2007: Sounds like you just need to have your doctor up the hormone dosage of your pill. Keep calling that gyno, they may do it for you over the phone. It can be remedied so don't sweat it honey.... (read in full...)
I have this very strange problem - well it's hard for me to eat in front of people most of the time.
Q. I have this very strange problem - well it's hard for me to eat in front of people most of the time. Like I can eat in front of my mom and family members and at restaurants, but I'm kinda scared to eat in front of my boyfriend even though I've done ...
A. 16 July 2007: This is very common in young ladies. Just pick foods that are easily eaten (fries, small sandwiches, chicken tenders etc...). Once you have eaten many times in front of your boyfriend you won't give it another thought. Trust me you will outgrow this ... (read in full...)
When we broke up she said she'd find someone new but time was ticking by for me!
Q. I have recently split with my girlfriend after a 3 and a half year relationship, she is 21 and I am 25. The last thing she said to me is that she will have no problem finding another partner, but the clock is ticking for me. Is it too late to find...
A. 16 July 2007: Actually I think 25 to 30 is the IDEAL time to find the love of your life. By your age you have your feet on the ground and have started truly planning for your future. Usually 25+ yr olds have had a couple close relationships so they know pretty ... (read in full...)
We want to give up condoms and try to guess when it is safe--how do we do that?
Q. Hey all. I have a question. Let me just tel. you a bit about my question. K me and my bf have been having sex 3 time and we now want to do it without a condom and we both got some information. That if you do it within a average of 14 days after your ...
A. 16 July 2007: Write us back in a couple of weeks and we can help you decide what color to paint the nursery.... (read in full...)
My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 16 July 2007: An 11 year old should be beyond tantrums there must be an underlying problem greater than simply not getting his way about things. Go with him to counseling and see what the problem is, maybe he is just confused about where he fits into your life at ... (read in full...)
My 20 year old friend just got engaged to a man who's nearly 70; she wants to know about problems the gap could cause
Q. I am a 23 year old girl and my friend is 20 years old. She told me she has recently got engaged to a 68-year-old man she met in a pub at a karaoke contest - he is the owner of it, and that he is a decent person, was what she told me. She asked me w...
A. 16 July 2007: We had this same question a year ago last January:
Question - (31 January 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 3 February 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:
I am a 23 year old girl and my friend is 20 years old.
She told me she has recently got eng... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and doesn't love his girlfriend (who he has three kids with) anymore - but he hasn't left her yet!
Q. im 25 with 3 children and have been seein a man for 4 years he has kids and a girlfriend,he has been telling me since just before xmas that he loves me and doesnt love her anymore wants to be with me but finds it hard to leave cause of his kids, i ...
A. 16 July 2007: Tell him it's all you or nothing and mean it. Force him into a decison otherwise he'll just enjoy the fun of going back and forth between you. ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant cheating with my ex - it means something right?
Q. I dated this one guy for about 7 months and we broke up because i developed feelings for another guy. A few months into that relationship i cheated once and had a one night stand with that ex of 7 months. I became Pregnant that night with his child. ...
A. 16 July 2007: It's a sign that you were irresponsible for having unprotected sex with a one night stand. It's never a sign or coincidental that you get knock up having sex.... (read in full...)
What do you do when you thought your relationship was approaching marriage, but then it went through a dark period where he had someone else, but now you're back but he won't have sex?
Q. What do you do when you thought your relationship was approaching marriage, but then it went through a dark period where he had someone else, but now you're back but he won't have sex? Still says he's confused but says he loves me. We lay next to ...
A. 16 July 2007: This relationship sounds pretty shaky to me. This dark period you speak of, were you broken up or did he cheat on you? Now he won't have sex? What does he say for a reason for this? I wouldn't hold onto those great hopes if I were you.... (read in full...)
Should i contact my exgirlfriend?
Q. Hey all, Its been 3 weeks since I broke up with my ex. She is home for the summer for another month until she returns. She broke it off the day before she went home, totally out of the blue - really cold and blunt almost to the point of being s...
A. 16 July 2007: I wouldn't contact her. The ball is in her court since she broke it off with you. I'd go out with friends this next month and try to have some fun. She may have broken things off to please her father and will be interested in resuming your ... (read in full...)
Do I choose my msn boy or my jerk ex?
Q. right so im 13 i have a bf but i dont really like him but i like my ex who has hurt me many times in the past but i always forgive him an i dont tend to forgive people but i always forgive him anyway who should i choose my ex who i love so much but ...
A. 16 July 2007: Why do you have to choose? Neither one sounds all that great. How can you have a boyfriend whom you haven't met in person and don't really like anyway? Why would you want to get back with an ex that didn't treat you very well. Forget about both guys ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 19 years older than me and I am worried about our future
Q. Hi I have currently been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very happy together. However, i have major concerns about the age gap. I am 22 and he is 19 years older than me. He is divorced with no children. I am worried that this will c...
A. 16 July 2007: You need to sit down and have a nice long chat about what both of you want in your future. With an age gap this large there are special problems. Do both of you want children? When you go out do you enjoy the same activities? Where do you see ... (read in full...)
My parents dont like my tattooed boyfriend
Q. I am only 14 years old and I really like this 16 year old. He has two tattoos and my parents don't like the fact that he has them. I like making out with him but it feels like i want more and don't know how to tell him and plus I want him to know i ...
A. 13 July 2007: Your parents wouldn't give a rip about his tatoos unless they think you maybe involved with this guy. I would be very concerned if my 14 yr. old daughter was interested in a 16 yr. old. It is important that you listen to them and follow their ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to reject someone because I think they are wrong or because they cant help me out?
Q. do you reject someone just because you think that you are right and they are not, or you think them to be wrong in some way.. is it the fear of unknown and paranoa in general about life and hopelessness / desparity about their own future leads on...
A. 13 July 2007: I have no clue what you are asking here. Reject someone because you are right and they are wrong...right about what? What do you mean by reject? A better explanation will net better responses from the aunts.... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 13 July 2007: I agree with most of the aunts here, sometimes the truth hurts and sugar-coating it does a disservice to the poster of the question. People often post questions hoping for a specific answer that will vindicate their bad decisions when they don't get ... (read in full...)
How can a person marry someone they dont even love?
Q. How could a person marry someone that their not even sure if they like or love them? ...
A. 13 July 2007: It's a stupid thing to do but people do it everyday.... (read in full...)
Is it the 'mid-life crisis' or does he actually have feelings as it has gone on for so long?
Q. Hi, One of my male colleagues has shown that he is interested for the last year and a half. He is married with children and in his early fifties. I find him attractive but never wanted to pursue it as he is married. Since I have not been pursuing...
A. 13 July 2007: Who cares if he has "feelings"? Stay away. Whether it's a mid-life crisis or whatever...it's certainly no business of yours. Let everything he says go in one ear and out the other.... (read in full...)
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