Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 6 August 2007: I agree with the Salad, parents today have dropped the ball, they rely on other people and things to raise their children. It's not the school's job to raise your child only educate and you STILL have to help the school to get that done well. The ... (read in full...)
She's meeting me for lunch - does she actually like me or just think I'm a nice guy?
Q. Does she like me? Some people may have seen previous posts about me and a relationship break-up that has been really tough. I'm hoping for a bright new future and being a little out of practice on the dating side wondered if I could have a few ti...
A. 26 July 2007: Yea!I love happy endings! We don't get enough on this site! Keep us posted.... (read in full...)
Sex with my boyfriend is a bit awkward; where could we go for some proper privacy?
Q. Well, I'm in love with my boyfriend and vice versa.. We've had sex... But it had been rather awkward. I do believe we would both like to continue, but, we both feel nervous about feelings, atmosphere, and I was just wondering.. If you want to be ...
A. 26 July 2007: This is great news and a very wise decision on your part. ... (read in full...)
Is not contacting her the best thing? Its making me miserable and ruining any chance we had left!
Q. Tomorrow marks 1 month since my long distance, 2 year relationship was officially called off by my partner, who couldn't handle the distance anymore. I've been very up and down throughout the past month, feeling fairly possitive highs, to lying on ...
A. 26 July 2007: If you decide to contact her on Monday I certainly hope that you don't suggest to her that she reconsiders the breakup. What would be cool is that you do something really, really fun and interesting this weekend and when you talk to her you tell her ... (read in full...)
I am having such a hard time after our breakup!!
Q. ok, longest story ever, but i feel myslef just falling into depression need some help..... My boyf and i broke up 2 days ago, for religous differences. He suddenly felt that we have been kidding ourselves, nobody would accept us and, if acceptan...
A. 25 July 2007: Honey it's only been two days! Sometimes people need to separate from each other in order to really sort themselves out. Your relationship had some of the most major problems a relationship can have. Anger management problems, jealousy and ... (read in full...)
He wont talk to me when my cousins are around.
Q. why won't my bf talk to me when my cuzins are around, any advice for me!!!...
A. 25 July 2007: Ask him.... (read in full...)
My parents signed forms claiming custody of my kids so they could go to school in their district; now they won't let me have my kids back because they don't like my new partner's nationality
Q. I have had very controlling parents all of my life. I now have two children ages 10 and 15. In 2005 my children were attending a school that was in my parents school district. The principal found out and would not let my children go back to school ...
A. 25 July 2007: In the US, courts almost never remove the children from their mother's care except when she is found to be unfit. Since you are not an unfit mother get a lawyer and get them back. Of course you will have to explain why you gave up custody to begin ... (read in full...)
I think about having sex w/ him all the time, but don't want to do it when he's actually around!
Q. Dear Cupid, im a 19yr old female and i just need some general advise really on my thoughts and feelings - well ive been with my b/f now for a month (we dated for a year but then broke up, now were together again) well i think about having sex with ...
A. 25 July 2007: Well sweetie I feel you aren't really in love with him but rather in love with the idea of love. That's why you can have fantasies of having sex with him but when he's there face to face you really don't want to have sex. Perhaps like you say you ... (read in full...)
I'm happy with my relationship as it is; I don't see the need to get married. Is this wrong of me?
Q. Hi, My question is, is it wrong not to marry a man I have dated for 11 years? We have had our ups and downs and have always gotten back together because of how strong our love was for each other. I was controlled by my ex-husband. My ex cheat...
A. 24 July 2007: Of course you don't have to feel you should marry. In fact that you are so independent probably adds a little spice to your relationship. I wouldn't change a thing. If it ain't broke don't fix it. Have fun!... (read in full...)
My ex husband says he loves me but we haven't got back together
Q. my ex husband says he loves me, but we havent gone back together, what am i supposed to do?...
A. 24 July 2007: Need more info here, dear. By "ex" I assume you are divorced. Why would you want to get back together if you were unhappy enough to divorce? Fill in the details in order to get any quality advice from the aunts.... (read in full...)
My ex doesnt want me to come to the party
Q. my ex lives with my brother and cousin in gainesville. i was going up their this weekend as it was arranged .he tells me he wants me back but we need time he really dosent want me to go the party that theyre throwing because he dosent want people to ...
A. 24 July 2007: I'd go anyway if I were you. Give your boyfriend his space and just have some fun. It really isn't his place to tell you what to do anyway, especially since you are taking a break.... (read in full...)
I have a mad crush on a customer
Q. I work and I see frequent customers. There is this one main guy who comes in about every week, and when i see him, i get sooo red. Expecially when i communicate with him. And I'm sure he notices too!! I've seen quite a few attractive guys,...
A. 24 July 2007: Mid-twenties? Better find out if he's married or not before you go for it.... (read in full...)
Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 24 July 2007: I blame Bill Gates. Oh and yes global warming.... (read in full...)
What shall i do with my husbands online cheating?
Q. My question is 'what should I do with my husband'? He was caught in December meeting women online then calling them and then actually meeting in person two of them. He did not have sexual relations, but just the same it hurt. He promised...
A. 24 July 2007: What he heck is he thinking? It won't be long before he does cheat, there are some pretty desperate women out there who will certainly be willing partners. Have one more talk with him, let him know you know what he's been up to. Make it very clear ... (read in full...)
My husband was having a phone relationship with his first girlfriend; he says it was purely financial but I don't trust him anymore
Q. my husband is having relationship with his first girl friend donah. though they were far from each other (Philippines and UK), they connect only through calls. i confronted both of them, and they admitted that they had relationship. my husband ...
A. 24 July 2007: This is nuts! Tell you husband to knock it off with the "financial" phones calls or there's the door. He will have to behave himself in order for your trust to be rebuilt. If he refuses then you should show him where that door is. Good luck, honey!... (read in full...)
I think about having sex w/ him all the time, but don't want to do it when he's actually around!
Q. Dear Cupid, im a 19yr old female and i just need some general advise really on my thoughts and feelings - well ive been with my b/f now for a month (we dated for a year but then broke up, now were together again) well i think about having sex with ...
A. 24 July 2007: I agree, you just aren't into him as much as you think. Was the sex lousy the first time you guys were together?... (read in full...)
How can I motivate myself to make more of an effort in the bedroom?
Q. I have a small problem that I need some help with. I've been married 23 years to a good man. We have a good marriage. He has always had a stronger sex drive than I do. He's not asking for sex every night but he says he finds our sex life to be ...
A. 24 July 2007: Go get some sexy lingerie not only will he be pleased, you get to wear it. Pick out something that flatters you and that you can have fun wearing. Win win scenario!... (read in full...)
I want to get divorced, but I am terrrified of the wrath of G-d!
Q. I want to end my 25 year marriage because my husband and I have grown apart and there is absolutely no attraction in it for me. But I have tremendous religious guilt and worry incessively that God is going to punish me for doing this horrible ...
A. 24 July 2007: Worry and guilt are sins too. Just think of it this way you are doing your husband a favor as well as yourself. Now he can go forth and find someone who loves him and he can come out of his withdrawn state and love back. I'm sure he is as miserable ... (read in full...)
His Mom doesnt like me
Q. I have been i a relationship for 1 year, but i have known my boyfriend for about 10 years. I've met almost everyone in his family and the one person who means the most to him, his mom, doesn't like me. I have never disrespected his mom or even said ...
A. 24 July 2007: I'd say give it more time. Once she realizes you are there to stay and that he won't be going back to his Ex she may come around. Be friendly but you definitely don't have to suck up to her. You will feel more comfortable as time goes by. One ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to give your virginity away as a birthday present?
Q. is it wrong to give your virginity to some1 you love for his birdthday? after 3 months ? or should i wait :S ...
A. 24 July 2007: Like I said before when you posted this...give him a card instead.... (read in full...)
Can a hymen be broken without pain?
Q. Hi my name is Kianna and i have a question can you please help me im 20. I had sex twice and none of the times i had my hymen broken. I want to have sex but i am to afraid for him to brake my hymen. My freinds tell me that i sould get drunk or take ...
A. 24 July 2007: Tampons don't usually break the hymen, it's all a matter of where the tissue is located. It is different for each woman, some are higher in the vaginal canal than another's and some are located lower. There can be differences in thickness of the ... (read in full...)
Is not contacting her the best thing? Its making me miserable and ruining any chance we had left!
Q. Tomorrow marks 1 month since my long distance, 2 year relationship was officially called off by my partner, who couldn't handle the distance anymore. I've been very up and down throughout the past month, feeling fairly possitive highs, to lying on ...
A. 24 July 2007: Andy, you are simply having a bad day today. One day at a time, Buddy. You need to stay busy today, find the most mind-numbing thing to do like reading all the "I've got a crush on my teacher" posts or "why do men like porn" posts or "I think I'm ... (read in full...)
My parents would freak out if they knew about my 'bad-apple' boyfriend and I, yet I don't want to keep it a secret
Q. i really do love this boy even tho i am young! my parents dont like him because he is bad bt they dont no him like i do they just go by what they hear. i am scared to say to them that i have been seeing him for 3 months because they will go of the ...
A. 24 July 2007: The sex makes you not want leave him...hummmm. I think you should listen to your parents on this one dearie.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of almost 2 years has told me she can't date anyone right now and that we can maybe date again when she's ready. What is it she's feeling?
Q. I have been dating a girl for about a year and eight months. One day she tells me she doesn't want a boyfriend right now in this time in her life. She says that she still loves me she just cant be with me right now. She also said that i just have to ...
A. 24 July 2007: You should try to get on with your life. She may have just dumped you or she may just want some time for whatever reason. Either way there's no point to just sitting around waiting for her, get busy. Go out with friends and meet new people, try and ... (read in full...)
She's meeting me for lunch - does she actually like me or just think I'm a nice guy?
Q. Does she like me? Some people may have seen previous posts about me and a relationship break-up that has been really tough. I'm hoping for a bright new future and being a little out of practice on the dating side wondered if I could have a few ti...
A. 24 July 2007: Definitely sounds interested, let us know how the lunch goes.... (read in full...)
My 'friend with benefits' has started seeing someone and I'm mad at him and feeling used
Q. How do I let go of my feelings towards my roommate (friend with benefits)? I currently live with my friend with benefits and he started to date and of course I am feeling used. After last night I am so mad that I can not look at him in the eyes. He ...
A. 24 July 2007: You were being used just as you were using him, that's what you guys agreed to when you decided to go with the "friends with benefits" gig. You have no right to be mad at him. That arrangement is usually a crock and someone always ends up hurt and ... (read in full...)
Can shame make a person withdraw?
Q. when people are ashamed of something they have done can it make them withdraw? and also, what does shame feel like?...
A. 24 July 2007: You have NEVER felt ashamed and you made to 30 years old? Wow that has to be a record of some kind! Of course shame can make a person withdraw. Shame can cause a lot of different responses. If you want any helpful answers you'll have to provide more ... (read in full...)
I need to be sure she is marrying me for the right reasons. She doesnt show me affection!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been going out with my partner for bout a year. I really love her and care for her greatly but I find myself fighting for her attention. She seems to care more for her family then she ever would me. I find myself doing sil...
A. 24 July 2007: Stop making the arrangements, you do not want to get married with all this going on. The writing is on the wall, if she isn't showing you enough attention and affection NOW just think how things will be AFTER you get married! I have no clue why she ... (read in full...)
Sex with my boyfriend is a bit awkward; where could we go for some proper privacy?
Q. Well, I'm in love with my boyfriend and vice versa.. We've had sex... But it had been rather awkward. I do believe we would both like to continue, but, we both feel nervous about feelings, atmosphere, and I was just wondering.. If you want to be ...
A. 24 July 2007: The reason it's so hard for someone your age to find a private place to have sex is because our society doesn't condone it. Your parents don't, the law doesn't, the church doesn't, the school system doesn't, so anywhere you go there is the risk of ... (read in full...)
I caught my husband cheating with his best friend; now he wants an open relationship with her and I. I can't accept it, what should I do? I'm desperate
Q. I recently caught my husband and best friend in an affair that as it turns out has been going on for seven years. She has always been around the house several times a week for the entire time. I thought something was going on about 4 years ago and ...
A. 24 July 2007: What a wonderful answer Nigel! Sweetheart, you need to listen to him! You have been dealt the rawest deal and you don't have to medicate yourself into acceptance. Please consider his wise words and find that happiness. Keep in contact with us.... (read in full...)
I want to give my ex boyfriend my virginity as a birthday present
Q. well heres the thing. i'm 14. iv'e split up with my boyfriend about a month ago now. but i still love him very much. lately he's started speaking to me again like how things used to be. i asked him what he wanted for his birthday and his answer ...
A. 23 July 2007: In all fairness, Cherz, shouldn't you also mention that you are now also pregnant at 13? That may have a decided impact on the poster.... (read in full...)
I'm 10 years old, am I too young to date?
Q. I am 10 . Am i too young to date?...
A. 23 July 2007: If you were my kid you wouldn't be dating at 10 that much I can tell you. Ask your parents if they think you are old enough.... (read in full...)
I'm married and have been sleeping with a married man I work with; now he's backing off, I can't bear facing him every day
Q. I am having an affair with a married man who I work with. I am also married and whilst I love my husband, I'm not attracted to him and our sex life is pretty non-existent and dull. Recently, a very attractive man at work started taking an interest ...
A. 23 July 2007: Awww poor you. You reap what you sow. Lots of bad decisions here, decided to cheat on your husband, decided to cheat with a coworker, decided to try to behave like responsible adults but decided to go back to the vomit. NOW you expect sympathy ... (read in full...)
I want to live with my boyfriend when he's financially settled but he's not sure what he wants to do regarding career; I'm getting frustrated waiting for him to decide
Q. I use to want to live with my boyfriend really bad. Since now he’s unsure what to do with his work and career, I want to wait until he gets settle. Is it really selfish of me to think like this? Moving in together means a lot to me. We might be ...
A. 23 July 2007: Don't buy a house together unless you get married, the legalities can be horrendous if you break up. That being said, I think you need to understand that you can't always have what you want when you want it. If he is sorting through his career goals ... (read in full...)
Want to lose weight by not eating.
Q. Ok well i'm 14 and i want to loose weight as im 9 stone which is like pretty bad for my age i'm fat really..i wanna loose weight by not eatin..but i wanna know what will happen to my boobs? will they shrink?? please answer thanks xxx...
A. 23 July 2007: I hope you won't stop eating altogether. Just eat less than you normally do and exercise more. You most likely will lose a little off your boobs but you'll lose it elsewhere so it will balance out. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Update on my husband who said sex is too strenuous
Q. An update on the question I previously posted: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-doesnt-want-to-have-sex-because.html I spoke to my husband about it, and asked him if anything was stressing him, but he said no. He still insists s...
A. 23 July 2007: Is it possible that what he is implying is that he does all the work and you just lay there or are you an active participant? As a very wise aunt once said, enthusiasm is vital and that "I'd prefer enthusiastic sex twice a week as opposed to boring ... (read in full...)
I worry what my boyfriend is doing when I'm not with him
Q. is it silly to worry what my guy would be doing if he isn't checking his phone? il ring and he'll pick up..i just sit there waiting for him to text thinking he may be in trouble is he hurt or is he up to something..i perfectly trust him and when i ...
A. 23 July 2007: Didn't you post this question:
"how can some one say i love you at the begginning of a relationship then stop a month into it ?"
So now with this question I've got to say that maybe this relationship is rocky at best. I guess you need to chat... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife anymore but I don't want to put my little girl through a divorce
Q. I have been married for 10 years and have come to the realization that me and my wife have grown so much in different directions and that i don't love her anymore. i knew some of the things i didn't like at the beginning but had the faith that we ...
A. 23 July 2007: If you think your marriage is truly over and that counseling won't help (of course you could give it a try) then divorce your wife. Your daughter will ultimately be happier having two happy parents living apart than two unhappy parents together. ... (read in full...)
How can someone stop loving you after one month of dating?
Q. how can some one say i love you at the begginning of a relationship then stop a month into it ? ...
A. 23 July 2007: Probably because he has no clue what real love is or just said it because he thought you'd like to hear it. That is the whole point of dating, looking for the personality traits that will help you recognize the right person when they come on the ... (read in full...)
Even though he pulled out, could I be pregnant?
Q. Hey there, im 16 and I think im pregnant because 8-9 days ago I was at the peak tym of my cycle and me and my boyfriend had sex a few times but pulled out before he came then on that Sunday night my boyfriend did ejaculate in me so we went to get ...
A. 23 July 2007: So DID you take the moring after pill or not? Sheesh I hope so.... (read in full...)
I want to give my ex boyfriend my virginity as a birthday present
Q. well heres the thing. i'm 14. iv'e split up with my boyfriend about a month ago now. but i still love him very much. lately he's started speaking to me again like how things used to be. i asked him what he wanted for his birthday and his answer ...
A. 23 July 2007: If you need a second opinion then you know in your heart of hearts that it's a bad decision. Don't do it, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Your virginity should never be a "birthday present' for crying out loud. Give him a card.... (read in full...)
My Dad treats me like a child and wastes money on junk I dont need
Q. my father is a wonderful, loving and kind man. he is one of the nicest people. however my relationship with him is awful. alot of times i find myself hating and resenting him. my father treats me like i am 3yrs old. he speaks to me in "baby talk" ...
A. 23 July 2007: You said it yourself, just grin and bear it. Let him send you stuff, it makes him happy. Sell the stuff on ebay and send something nice right back at him. Just be glad he doesn't live next door! Try to call when you are feeling patient enough same ... (read in full...)
He doesn't have time for me but he does for his work and friends. What can I do?
Q. Although my boyfriend seems to be interested in me he seems that he doesn't have a lot of time for me. He is spending many hours to work and he wants to go out with his own friends sometimes. I am tired of asking him to spend time together and ...
A. 23 July 2007: If you have to ask for time together then he's not all that interested in you, honey. If a guy is truly into his girlfriend he's going to spend as much of the free time that he has with her. I'd let him go his way and start looking for the guy with ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want anyone to know about our relationship! If they do find out, he lies! What should I do?
Q. 22/7/07 I'm 16, my boyfriend says he loves me, wants it to last forever, wnats to marry me, this is all in texts! When i talk to him or see him, he never says it unless we're physical he'll say i love you.. but not in the way i want to hear i...
A. 23 July 2007: Is it possible that he only wants you for sex? Cut off the physical stuff and see if he's still interested.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's father is my mother's half brother.
Q. Hi, I'm 27 and my boyfiend is 23 but we have a problem. His father is my mother's half brother and we been together for a while and some people know but my mom doesn't and I don't think its a good idea but anyway, I was just wondering what I can do ...
A. 23 July 2007: Genetic counseling definitely should be sought before you have a child with your cousin. Tell your mom what is going on, she's bound to find out sooner or later anyway.... (read in full...)
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