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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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What do I need to do to be accepted as a friend by this girl? She seems super resistant to me
Q. My boyfriend's circle of friends includes 3 other guys, and just 1 girl. I get along fantastically with all of the guys, however, the girl seems resistant to accept me, or be my friend. I get the feeling that she's jealous of me because she feel...
A. 14 February 2011: You can't force friendships. If you and her don't bond immediately then respect that and let it flow naturally. You simply can not be friends with everyone, especially if she's reluctant to make friends so fast. As long as you can get along and be ... (read in full...)
What should I take it to mean when a girl gets this close?
Q. I'm 20. What should I read into a girl's motivation and intentions and does it mean anything if a girl lies back onto my chest and starts rubbing my hair?...
A. 13 February 2011: It's called flirting and means she likes you. When a girl makes physical contact with you it means she likes you and is flirting with you. It could be a friendly flirt, or that she's just a very cuddly person. See if she does the same with all other ... (read in full...)
What do I need to do to be accepted as a friend by this girl? She seems super resistant to me
Q. My boyfriend's circle of friends includes 3 other guys, and just 1 girl. I get along fantastically with all of the guys, however, the girl seems resistant to accept me, or be my friend. I get the feeling that she's jealous of me because she feel...
A. 13 February 2011: How long have you and your boyfriend been together? This is a case that takes a long time. You will have to be patient with this girl and not try and force a friendship on her. That said, Im not sure why you want to be her friends so desperately ... (read in full...)
My roommate keeps breaking "house rules"! How can I approach her about this?
Q. Hi everyone!! I hate it when people take the Mickey! I am a student in my 3rd year at uni. I live with my boyfriend and another couple who we were friends with last year. We all live in a flat that my parents bought and we rent from them. Ever sinc...
A. 12 February 2011: You should have bumped up the cost of their rent then. Its quite common when you rent our furniture, as you are, to put an extra charge. Just because furniture might (or most likely will) get broken or damaged. A tenant, to my awareness, is not ... (read in full...)
My roommate keeps breaking "house rules"! How can I approach her about this?
Q. Hi everyone!! I hate it when people take the Mickey! I am a student in my 3rd year at uni. I live with my boyfriend and another couple who we were friends with last year. We all live in a flat that my parents bought and we rent from them. Ever sinc...
A. 12 February 2011: You're unreasonable about the friend thing. Ella lives there, she gets to invite whomever she wants over. Really. If that makes you nervous why can't you install a lock on your bedroom door? It's common-place that when you pay your rent you also get ... (read in full...)
If a girl has been with a big guy how does she feel about sleeping with a smaller man?
Q. Hello everyone i have a question mostly for the girls but i dont mind having different point of vues. if there is a girl who is used to have sex with Big guys ( if you know what i mean ) . how would she feel about sleeping with an average size guy...
A. 12 February 2011: The very large guys I haven't had regular sex with.. and the only attempt I had at it with a very large guy failed as it was too big and painful, so I just stopped in the middle of it.
Anyway, all penises are different. When you say "bigger"... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011: Beautiful ... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011: No-one goes into a relationship knowing the other persons sexual preferences... and people change. If she absolutely do not enjoy giving oral, yet she continues to do it as a special treat to him, that means she knows how much he likes it, and she ... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011: There's just one thing I will agree with dirtball on in here and that is that your girlfriend does operate with a double standard if she does expect you to go down on her. In sex you are free to only do the acts which you find pleasurable, and you ... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011: @ Illithid:
What's "fair" has nothing to do with sex. Sex, and relationships, isn't about being fair. It's about giving to each other, not about only giving as long as you receive an equal amount of whatever. Your case was beyond comparison to this... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011: What is "dome"?... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011: I don't really see how it's unfair that you get to do something you BOTH enjoy, while you get sulky when she is turned off by you insisting on her doing something she does NOT enjoy. You ENJOY going down on her. It's fun, you like it, she likes it, ... (read in full...)
I feel like no one could ever love me.......
Q. I feel like I've always seen other people, friends mostly, get together and be in happy relationships, but it's never happened to me. Until now. So I don't know what to do, how to deal with it. Apparently I'm a great catch. I don't feel like ...
A. 11 February 2011: Dare to show your boyfriend your true self, and dare to get rejected. That said, working on your self esteem, and getting over bad experiences in the past, take a lot of work. The best way to work through these things, heavy things that you struggle ... (read in full...)
Do ultra thin condoms break more easily?
Q. dear readers, i wanted to know if you use ultra thin condoms does it make them brake easier? are the chances higher? please tell me if this is so cus i want to try them but i dont want to make the risk higher?...
A. 11 February 2011: I need to change that previous answer of mine. Although I judge thin condoms to be quite safe, they, as any other condom, can break if not used correctly, or something happens to it. In such a case they could break easier I suppose, although I do ... (read in full...)
Do ultra thin condoms break more easily?
Q. dear readers, i wanted to know if you use ultra thin condoms does it make them brake easier? are the chances higher? please tell me if this is so cus i want to try them but i dont want to make the risk higher?...
A. 11 February 2011: No there should be no extra risk involved, they have to undergo the same tests as regular condoms. Check the leaflet in the package when you buy the condoms to read more about that particular brand etc, to know more. But essentially there is no ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him he's too rough?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months and we are sexually active but the problem is that he is very rough during sex and it sometimes can be painfull. Help. What should I say to him ...
A. 11 February 2011: You're too rough with me in bed and it makes me hurt and doesn't feel good!
That's what you tell him. ... (read in full...)
I have a perfect boyfriend, but I am sick of him! What is wrong with me?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year, he is practically perfect, he treats me, he doesnt go in moods, hes not possesive, but i am so sick of him! I dont know whats wrong with me, i really love him but im not attracted to ...
A. 11 February 2011: And suddenly he doesn't sound as perfect anymore, does he? Why did you call him a perfect boyfriend when in fact he doesn't know how to turn you on in bed, or he knows but just stopped doing it... lazyness? And doesn't know how to save money (thats ... (read in full...)
He gets SOOO angry! Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend grabbed my head and slammed it against the door. He said that I wouldn't shut up (we were having an argument) and that because I followed him through the house (I was trying to get him to talk / listen) then I tip him over the edge and ...
A. 10 February 2011: This is a man who can not conrol his anger. It's common to feel this way IF you allow your anger to boil up like he does. But it is under no circumstance acceptable to let it go that far.
Don't try to understand him in any way. Normal or not norm... (read in full...)
I have a perfect boyfriend, but I am sick of him! What is wrong with me?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year, he is practically perfect, he treats me, he doesnt go in moods, hes not possesive, but i am so sick of him! I dont know whats wrong with me, i really love him but im not attracted to ...
A. 10 February 2011: I think you've fallen into the trap of taking him for granted. Or the relationship is over and he's not what you need. What do you mean you're not attracted to him? He doesn't turn you on anymore? The sex had gone bad?
However.. perfect boyfrien... (read in full...)
What is this kind of friendship called?
Q. Hi, i met this great guy about four months ago when he called me on phone, and since then we've been talking and sharing pictures, we stay in the same area. We've met two times physically, and the second time we kissed. He got me very nice gifts ...
A. 10 February 2011: How old is he? He sounds like he is too old for you, and if he is too old for you then he is only interested in taking advantage of you. If he's not a teenager himself then you should be VERY careful of letting him be physical with you, and be ... (read in full...)
Do girls like to be touched there?
Q. I feel that my current gf doesn't like me touching her pussy when we kiss because I always thought that girls, like us guys, liked to be touched there when petting but my current gf passed a comment while I put my hand inside her panties the other ...
A. 9 February 2011: Stop touching her there if she's not in the mood. I don't like being touched there unless we're going to have sex and it's part of the foreplay. In which case I prefer to be undressed as it's very uncomfortable to have a hand down your pants. Girls ... (read in full...)
Dating ideas, Quick!!!
Q. I'm looking for more fun inside date ideas. My girlfriend and I watch A LOT of movies together, it's practically all we do. (Blame that on the weather) We've made bracelets, tye-died shirtsand napped together, (which was such an amazing feel...
A. 8 February 2011: Play games :)... (read in full...)
Problem is we want different things in our futures...
Q. My bf and I are totally in love. We get on amazingly and are always laughing and having fun. Problem is we want different things in our futures. And it makes us both sad to think about it cos we're worried it could split us up. What do I do? ...
A. 8 February 2011: How different are these things? If it's between wanting a cat or a dog, or 4 or 5 children, then the differences are not as much differences as different version of the same interest. Like you both wanting eggs, but one wanting it cooked for 6 ... (read in full...)
Does true love really wait?
Q. Hello, I am 16 years old and when I was 12 I met a boy. He and I became the best of friends, so close that people in our school believed we had this happy aura around us that no one can break and like any friendship, at one point we both fell for ...
A. 8 February 2011: If he knows he will be with you in the end, then he will wait, as will you. You can make each other the promise of not dating anyone else, but wait until you are free to be together. That promise could be enough to keep you through it.
It so... (read in full...)
My friend is flirting with my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I recently started going out, but my friend (whom I have been friends with for 10 years) has started flirting with him, he isn't fazed and he doesn't actually like her, it just really annoys me because she knows I've liked this guy ...
A. 8 February 2011: How much of a friend is she?
Tell her to either stop it or the friendship is over. This is ridiculous. ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned after a bad proposal?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 20months. I have a long history with him. We were friends before we dated for about 8yrs. I love him very much and have been wanting him to ask me to marry him. He actually proposed to me two days ago. It definite...
A. 8 February 2011: Good for you! Your family laughing and not liking your man is their problem, not yours. You know what makes you happy in life, and when your man makes you happy they are the fools who can't appreciate him just as much as you do.
I also think yo... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend is trying it on with me, should I tell her or not?
Q. Hello. Well theres this guy at my school and he has a girlfriend. at school today he kept putting his hand on my leg and trying to kiss me (i kept telling him no) but he just kept on doing it, im not sure what i should do, tell his girlfriend or ...
A. 8 February 2011: If a guy cheats once it is typically not a sign of him cheating again, but a sign that he puts himself first and doesn't respect others. This could in turn means that yes, he's more likely to cheat again, but he could also be selfish in other areas, ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend with a kiss. Should I tell her?
Q. i cheated on my girlfriend, it was only a kiss, i know its wrong still yes, i'm not on here looking to be judged, what i want to know is, should i tell her, she'll be destroyed, it was only a kiss and she's cheated on me a few times before in the ...
A. 8 February 2011: Tell her. Tell her you made a mistake and that you are sorry. If it's meant to be between the two of you you will work through it. But perhaps it's best to tell her even if it means the end of the relationship... it's just as bad to cheat and not ... (read in full...)
What makes a man "good at screwing"?
Q. Question for the women: I hear men described as being "good in bed" and as being "good at screwing". What's the difference, and what makes a man "good at screwing"? Is this a skill that can be learned, or is it some sort of natural ability?...
A. 8 February 2011: I think this totally depends on the woman who said it and what she means by "screwing", because what I mean by that word could be completely different. Screwing to me is more mindless bunny sex and a lot of pumping in and out fast and hard and done ... (read in full...)
How do I break up? Our relationship has stalled.
Q. My bf and I just had our 2 year anniversary, but I've wanted to break up for a while. I thought things would get better but it feels like things have stalled. And the relationship is stale. We have lots in common but it's the little things. When...
A. 8 February 2011: You don't need any other reason for breaking up with someone other than wanting to break up with them. There's no rule saying you're not allowed to leave unless you've got a good excuse.
I think it'd be good to wait until after the play, if you a... (read in full...)
I want sex toys but I have to ask my mom
Q. I would like to ask my mum about getting sex toys but need her to buy them since I am only 15 and can't buy online. But I have know idea how to ask her since she is not so open about these things ...
A. 8 February 2011: I always felt you can ask your parents for advice on sex and to talk about sex. But having your parents buy you sex toys is going over the line of what most parents would do. It's like telling their child how to masturbate. Sure it can be done, but ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to be his master but I don't know what to do!
Q. My husband wants me to be his master during sex and domineer him using my imagination for the things I want him to do but my imagination does'nt seen to want to play what can I do? He has wanted this for years and I don't seem to be able to get it ...
A. 8 February 2011: Read novels and stories written about submissives and masters, it will give you inspiration and maybe you find that it turns you on as well.
Places to go would be any blog or online forum for those who are into S&M, or search the stories on place... (read in full...)
I want to give him a BJ, but he smells and tastes kinda funky...
Q. Hello. I want to give my boyfriend a blowjob, but I can't, because he smells kinda bad down there. He's clean, he takes daily showers, but his penis still has some funny smell. I also tasted it once and I wanted to throw up - it was very salty. ...
A. 8 February 2011: No, blowjobs are not essential before sex, they are an act in itself. For the penis to be erect, and the woman to be wet, is all that is necessary for intercourse.
But yes, it is not right that he goes down on you and you don't go down on him. ... (read in full...)
Should I be aiming higher? IS the grass always greener?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm wondering... do any of you suffer from the Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome, like I do? I have a typical office job, where I work 8-9 hours a day, five days a week. I don't HATE what I do, but I'm not exactly passionate about...
A. 8 February 2011: Im with you: life is about being happy. Do what you need to achieve that happiness. Even if it's not the best job you could get career wise, or money wise. As long as you enjoy what you do, gain from it, it pays your bills and what you want in life ... (read in full...)
I feel he's emotionally blackmailing me to stay with him and I don't know what to do... Please help!
Q. Ive posted a question here before about a possessive, controlling boyfriend. good news i said i needed time out - thats lasted a week. He found out his friend dies yesterday and i went to comfort him as i do still love him and care for him. Lo...
A. 8 February 2011: He's not going to change, and you are not responsible in any way for his actions. If you actually take his threats to kill himself seriously the solution isn't to get back into a relationship with him. You know that. That's just what he wants to ... (read in full...)
I want to give him a BJ, but he smells and tastes kinda funky...
Q. Hello. I want to give my boyfriend a blowjob, but I can't, because he smells kinda bad down there. He's clean, he takes daily showers, but his penis still has some funny smell. I also tasted it once and I wanted to throw up - it was very salty. ...
A. 8 February 2011: Ask him to rinse beforehand to see if it helps. Even if he showers everyday he also wears boxers and jeans all day, and it gets sweaty and smelly down there. The salt is likely from sweat. The only proper and elegant way to do this is to rinse up ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned after a bad proposal?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 20months. I have a long history with him. We were friends before we dated for about 8yrs. I love him very much and have been wanting him to ask me to marry him. He actually proposed to me two days ago. It definite...
A. 8 February 2011: I've been proposed to one time already. There was no ring. And it was a spur of the moment thing. I wasn't disappointed at all because I haven't spent enormous amounts of time thinking about what WAY anyone will propose, but wondering if they'll ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned after a bad proposal?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 20months. I have a long history with him. We were friends before we dated for about 8yrs. I love him very much and have been wanting him to ask me to marry him. He actually proposed to me two days ago. It definite...
A. 8 February 2011: You're being unreasonable. And I really do not understand why some women make such a fuzz about the exact way of the proposal. Your biggest concern should be: do I want to marry him? NOT: what will my family think?!
Why on earth does what your fam... (read in full...)
I've got the French maid costume, but what do I do after I put it on?
Q. My boyfriend has told me before that one of his fantasies is for me to dress up as a french maid. As we are at different universities we hardly see each other at all any more, so I thought I'd surprise him when I go to visit him next. The thing is...
A. 7 February 2011: You should be dusting around the house. And then you can leave the rest of what will happen up to him. Or just wear the outfit and do what you'd normally do, it'd be kinky anyway. Just make sure the curtains are drawn and things stay private. ... (read in full...)
My friend can't have kids? Can she carry mine?
Q. My friend just found out she can't have kids . She's very upset and she's 16. Can my friend carry my baby even if she can't have kids?...
A. 7 February 2011: At 16, no way.
And if she's medically able to? You'd have to ask her doctor. But at 16, there is no way anyone would allow her to carry anyone's baby. ... (read in full...)
Is drug addiction a disease, or is it a choice?
Q. Is drug-addiction a disease, or is it a choice? I had terrible tragic experience with drug addiction. Two of my kids got into it, and it destroyed the whole family, and one is dead now. He was the loveliest boy. And me and my husband never use...
A. 7 February 2011: There is no correct answer to this. But drug addiction in itself is not as disease you are born with or catch. Nor is it often a pure choice. In most cases, that I imagine with the very little experience I have with drug addiction (any drug, ... (read in full...)
She wants to take a "Mommy Break". Would getting her a weekend by herself for V-Day be unromantic?
Q. Would it be horribly un-romantic for me to book a beachfront room for my wife to take a 2-day getaway by herself, as a Valentines Day gift? She has been talking about wanting to take a "mommy break" as in, get away for a couple days to relax, read, ...
A. 7 February 2011: I think it's a great idea for valentines. It's not unromantic at all. Being together doesn't have to be the norm for valentines, giving each other a much needed or desired gift can be very romantic as well, and your idea is romantic too. You don't ... (read in full...)
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