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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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Do I ask my spanish guy if he has a girlfriend?
Q. Hi I need some advise about a spanish guy I met overseas. I stayed at a hotel and I flirted with the waiter. There was alot of eye contact between us and we smiled at each other. I have since returned from my holiday and I decided to add him...
A. 13 March 2011: If you don't expect anything to happen why would you add him, send him flirty messages, and want to know if he's got a girlfriend? Just ask him "is that your girlfriend in the photo?". In either case, Im going to burst your bubble: holiday fl... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable that boyfriend flirt texts with other girls!!
Q. My bf is mega flirty with girls via text. He's never cheated and I don't think he's the type but it still makes me very uncomfortable, especially as most include sexual flirting such as "Oh, we could have some fun with an empty house ;)". What d...
A. 13 March 2011: How long have you been with him, and has this been going on since the start of the relationship? If you're still early in then you got to tell him that this makes you uncomfortable. He's in a relationship now, and while harmless flirts are ok, he ... (read in full...)
It's not fair!! The woman who my fiance cheated with is happy with her own new family...while I am still suffering from his affair.
Q. I don't think its fair how the woman who played a part in my relationship stresses, gets to have her happy relationship. She now has a partner and child and is getting married. I have my child and home but harbour the anger towards her and my fianc...
A. 12 March 2011: Why the need to understand her? It wont change things, nor is it important. Really. It wont make the difference in the world, so tell yourself what you want to make you feel better, tell yourself she's a whore and a lowlife and stupid or whatever it ... (read in full...)
How can I stop worrying that my gf is going to cheat on me??
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now and love her lots but i am paranoid she is going to cheat on me even though i don't think she is like that. Its more because she is 7 years younger than me and im new to the city we live in and she ...
A. 12 March 2011:
If you don't feel safe, identify if the problem lies with you feeling insecure, or with you not knowing where you have your girlfriend. If the problem is you are not sure of who your girlfriend really is, you need more time to get to know her, you ... (read in full...)
Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men!
Q. Ladies(and girls), I need your help! Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men! They lie to you, cheat on you, won't allow you to have a life of your own, and if they do? They act like wounded lit...
A. 12 March 2011: Thank you anon poster for stating that fact. ... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to masturbate every day?
Q. i am 19, i started masturbating when i was 16 and the frequency was like once in month bt now i masturbate alot to say once in a day. Is it healthy. If not how do i get rid of it. ....
A. 12 March 2011: It's healthy as long as it's not unhealthy, if I can put it that way. It turns unhealthy if it gets addictive (the feeling that you HAVE to do it, and urge you can't resist), it is unhealthy if you get sore, experience pain related to it, or any ... (read in full...)
He manipulates me by saying he'll kill himself!
Q. My husband and I have been together almost 7 years now. He has trust issues with me. Constantly doubting what i say, asking if i cheat/cheated on him, asking about my past relationship, thinking things have gone on when they have not. all i have ...
A. 11 March 2011: Yes, please do leave. This is a horrible situation, and you are not helping him by staying either. In fact all you do is tell him he can act this way, and throw away his own responsibilities, because you are there to pick him up. So he can go crazy, ... (read in full...)
Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men!
Q. Ladies(and girls), I need your help! Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men! They lie to you, cheat on you, won't allow you to have a life of your own, and if they do? They act like wounded lit...
A. 11 March 2011: Here, read this please:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-manipulates-me-by-saying-hell-kill-himself.html... (read in full...)
Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men!
Q. Ladies(and girls), I need your help! Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men! They lie to you, cheat on you, won't allow you to have a life of your own, and if they do? They act like wounded lit...
A. 11 March 2011: I must also add that a classic way of trapping someone down, and ways an abuser will work, is to literally trap a person. For example they cut out the persons social life. They say "I don't like this or that friend of yours, I don't want you to ... (read in full...)
Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men!
Q. Ladies(and girls), I need your help! Please tell me why some women and or girls, are willing to put up with such "crap" from men! They lie to you, cheat on you, won't allow you to have a life of your own, and if they do? They act like wounded lit...
A. 11 March 2011: Because they love them.
This goes both ways, for men and women.
Things are not as easy as they appear to someone on the outside. Sure, if someone you just met treated you that way no one would stand for it. But that's not how it happens. It's... (read in full...)
What has worked on acne for you?
Q. i have a very big problem with acne. i am 17 coming up to 18. when you look at me straight on my face is fine just the odd spot on my forehead. but on each side you just see spots. when im at home in the bathroom mirror they look fine but when i see ...
A. 11 March 2011: I googled Quinoderm, found this forum. Think it will be helpful to you to read it.
http://www.acne.org/messageboard/discovered-Quinoderm-t224295.html... (read in full...)
What has worked on acne for you?
Q. i have a very big problem with acne. i am 17 coming up to 18. when you look at me straight on my face is fine just the odd spot on my forehead. but on each side you just see spots. when im at home in the bathroom mirror they look fine but when i see ...
A. 11 March 2011: I use Clinique 3-step actually. It's less expensive to pay for the dermatologist and isotretinoin if you think in the long term perspective. Plus, Clinique didn't help my acne at all. It just kept the spots in check.
In addition I have very dry... (read in full...)
What has worked on acne for you?
Q. i have a very big problem with acne. i am 17 coming up to 18. when you look at me straight on my face is fine just the odd spot on my forehead. but on each side you just see spots. when im at home in the bathroom mirror they look fine but when i see ...
A. 11 March 2011: You need to see a dermatologist for the acne. Some light spots every now and then can be held in check by store brands and cleansers. Black holes can be held in check that way too. But the skin deep acne lays deeper, and regular cleansing will have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to see my 'area'!
Q. I'm young, (not going to state my age) but I will tell you, i'm still in high school. My boyfriend, recently told me he wants to see my area. I dont really want to let him, because i think my clitoris is to large, and also my vagina lips are a ...
A. 11 March 2011: Tell him you don't want to show him. It is your body, you decide what you want to do with it and what you show whom. He has no right to ask for anything, even if he's your boyfriend. Just tell him no.
It'd be a bad idea anyway, just so you know... (read in full...)
Desperate for answers. Will someone please tell me why my boyfriend won't accept that I don't want to be with him...
Q. Hey there, I'd really appreciate as much help as possible. I was with this guy for 6 months and everything was great at first. He was sweet, kind. But then he started getting really clingy, so I told him to back off a bit as I preffered casual...
A. 11 March 2011: You are confusing clingy with controlling. It's not clingy to supervise you, to be suspicious, to follow you around. That's wanting to check up on you, making sure you don't do anything the don't approve of. It's controlling. That's why it's not ... (read in full...)
Are Asian women tighter?
Q. Do Asian Women have tighter Vagina's??? My friend said that asian women have tighter vaginas and are much better sexually for pleasure for men? is this true x...
A. 11 March 2011: GeeGee... it's not a mans feet you're to look at, it's his hands! The larger hands have the larger penises.... (read in full...)
18 years old, getting married in a few months and questioning it! What should I do?
Q. I have run into a problem. I am a person who can be told not to do this (ex. if you ride that horse, you're going to get bucked off), but I still get on. I always have to learn the hard way. I am at the tender age of 18, and I am engaged and gett...
A. 11 March 2011: You want it blunt? Then I will point out how you are fooling yourself. First you tell us you will do the things people tell you not to do. Then you go on to tell us that you never do what YOU want to do, or listen to yourself!
So are you telling ... (read in full...)
I am 16 and my penis is curved. I am worried that it will bend more as I grow. Any suggestions?
Q. I am a 16 year old, Asian, male, and my penis is 5.5 inches. I know it's normal, but it has a curve. I am worried if it bends more with my growth. Any suggestions?...
A. 11 March 2011: If it bends or not there is nothing you can do about it. You have to find confidence in the one you are instead of worrying about it. What is bad about a curved penis? It is normal and natural, and as long as the curve isn't preventing normal sexual ... (read in full...)
How can I turn my guy friend into my boyfriend when for months I told him I didn't want a boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I have a question cause I can't find the answer on my own! I'm dating a guy for 4 months now. At the beginning I kept saying that I don't want a "boyfriend" so he doesn't act like it, he doesn't invite me to go out with him and his friends, and ...
A. 11 March 2011: The very best thing to do is to keep it simple: tell him. "I am ready to be in a committed and official relationship now, if you want the same. If you want time to think about it I will give you that. But I want you to know that I am now ready to ... (read in full...)
I am worried about my early morning erections while I am on school camp
Q. hi, i am 14 and always wake up with an erection. I hear that this is normal and naturally i can't help but masturbate, but i am going on a school trip and we will be in dorms. i dont want peopple to think that i am sick. so what can i do?...
A. 11 March 2011: Have an erection as usual, get dressed quickly so people wont see, and DON'T masturbate in the same room as others. If you absolutely must masturbate on the trip then go to the bathroom and make it quick. Do it when you know you will be given some ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to understand without losing him??
Q. Me and my boyfriend havent been dating very long (about two months) and we already had sex. The sex was completely consensual on both sides. Now that we've had sex a few times, he always gets horny when we are just laying on the couch and he tries ...
A. 11 March 2011: First off, if a couple enjoys having sex every day there is nothing wrong with that. If you know you are able to enjoy doing other things, then you should not need to worry that sex is taking over. Just make sure that you're not always just "hanging ... (read in full...)
My aunt hates me now and I don't know why
Q. what do I do I am so upset? My aunt and me live kinda far but we have always been kinda close even because she is not just my aunt she is my godmother and so it means a little more to us usually. Well I went to send a request on facebook for her to ...
A. 11 March 2011: I agree, best to call her before her visit so you wont carry the doubts around for too long and let them set. That way you get to look forward to her arrival instead of dreading it. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry me because I never let him win??
Q. I'm in shock and lost for words right now. My boyfriend/fiance of about 6 years off and on finally told me last night that the reason he has been so hesitant on marrying me is because he has worked his whole life on his business, and if he ever got ...
A. 11 March 2011: Actors and billionaires can afford a divorce, but more importantly can afford a good lawyer. ... (read in full...)
I'm living in a virtual world and I'm depressed...
Q. hey everyone . im in a long distance relationship with my gf that i ve never met yet ! we met online a couple of years ago and we really got along ! we talk a lot and i really do love her like crazy and i guess she does to !! anyway my problem is i ...
A. 11 March 2011: "The thing is we used to talk for hours"
What's that's supposed to mean you think? All relationships start off like that, don't think you and her are an exception to all relationships world wide. What you have is special to you, sure, but the fact... (read in full...)
I cant get turned on by men my age!
Q. I'm a 17 year old guy, and so far it's been pretty much impossible for me to get into working relationships. Essentially, I can't get turned on by men my own age. Very occasionally I might be attracted to someone who's in their early to mid 20's, ...
A. 10 March 2011: You just wait. It's not the big crisis you might think it is. So what if you're not attracted to teenage boys. Tons of people aren't. Including the straight girls out there. I can't remember that many teenage boys I was attracted to while I was a ... (read in full...)
I suspect he wants the pictures to start internet dating again!
Q. My boyfriend of 18 months and I were very close and discussing marriage. Then he got a new job and had to move to another town. We continued in a LDR but it's not the same. Recently he asked me for pictures of himself where he's alone on the ...
A. 10 March 2011: If he asked you for a photo he intends to use for online dating I'd question his intelligence. The easy way to find out is by contacting his family and giving them the pictures of him directly. Just call them and say "I found some pictures of ... (read in full...)
A man tells me not to text after I text him that I love him...
Q. I'm sexually invloved w a neighbor for several yrs. I finally verbally admitted I care and love him and He must know it . I stroke his ego via text alot to make him feel confident.So I sent him a text yesterday telling him ...
A. 10 March 2011: Correct. This man doesn't care about you. Why are you trying so hard to stroke his ego? He seems to me like he's got a big enough ego as it is, it doesn't need to be stroked. He needs to be put in place, that's what he needs. But not by you. You ... (read in full...)
I'm living in a virtual world and I'm depressed...
Q. hey everyone . im in a long distance relationship with my gf that i ve never met yet ! we met online a couple of years ago and we really got along ! we talk a lot and i really do love her like crazy and i guess she does to !! anyway my problem is i ...
A. 10 March 2011: Is there a time difference between her and you? Why are you staying online waiting for her?
I was doing the same as you just a year ago. Was in an online relationship, we'd met in real life, but due to distance it was based on online contact.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry me because I never let him win??
Q. I'm in shock and lost for words right now. My boyfriend/fiance of about 6 years off and on finally told me last night that the reason he has been so hesitant on marrying me is because he has worked his whole life on his business, and if he ever got ...
A. 10 March 2011: I've learned that trusting people isn't the same as being stupid. It'd be stupid to marry you if he wants to keep his business, it'd be stupid if he ignored the fact that divorces do happen, and that in the case of a divorce you WOULD be entitled to ... (read in full...)
I don't know how she feels and I cant get a straight answer out of her
Q. ok, well my situation is this, im a college student attending Utah State University, and ive fallen for a friend of mine, the feeling has grown over the past five months, shes a beautiful girl and very intelligent, with a very unique personality. ...
A. 10 March 2011: How direct about your interest for her have you been? You said she knows you like her, so why has she not given you an answer to whether or not she wants to be your girlfriend?
It's likely, unfortunately, that she doesn't want to give you a clear ... (read in full...)
My aunt hates me now and I don't know why
Q. what do I do I am so upset? My aunt and me live kinda far but we have always been kinda close even because she is not just my aunt she is my godmother and so it means a little more to us usually. Well I went to send a request on facebook for her to ...
A. 10 March 2011: Don't jump ahead and say that she hates you. If she hated you you wouldn't have had the great relationship you have, and she wouldn't have wanted anything to do with you to begin with. You know yourself that writing something simple on facebook ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up then texted me saying "I hope you get over me soon"
Q. Why did my ex boyfriend text me this? please help? ? ? ? My boyfriend of 5months suddenly tells me he doesn't want a relationship cos he got so used to the single life before we got together and he might cheat on me if we stay together, he doesn...
A. 10 March 2011: Good reply. And this guy apparently thinks highly of himself. I will go and stand with the others here, good thing you only wasted 5 months and not more. Don't get back with him again! You might have loved him and cared for him, but the feeling ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to help this penis problem?
Q. hello sir/ma'am, i am 23 years old and unmarried. i have a penis problem.. my penis is too small and not strong... when my penis erect he is only 4 inches long and not strong.. and when my penis sleeps he totally goes inward the body and i only...
A. 9 March 2011: Do you know that you have a perfectly fine and normal penis? It's not too small, it's normal. If you are convinced you need help with it, or that there is a medical problem, you need to talk to your doctor about that.
But you are normal. A 4 inch... (read in full...)
Unexpectedly pregnant and not sure if I really want a termination....
Q. Ok so here goes. Im in a relationship with an amazing man. he's 22 and im 26 We've been together for just over a year and i have fallen unexpectedly pregnant. We have discussed it and decided the best option in a termination ( I don't want you views ...
A. 9 March 2011: Do you have someone close that you can talk about this with? Someone who knows you well and that you trust? Talking helps, and they might have good advice for you.
I will ask you one question. It's not going to help you decide, but it's a questi... (read in full...)
Can you no longer be considered a virgin if there is no penetration?
Q. How do you define virginity? How do you lose it? I know the most known reason when there is penetration by the male organ? How about plain masturbation? Can you still be considered a virgin if a man touched your p***y or did cunnilingus but no p...
A. 8 March 2011: Strictly speaking you are a virgin until a penis has penetrated your vagina, no matter how little or for how long. Any penis will do no matter the size.
Virginity in this sense is determined by sexual contact between man and woman, and through ... (read in full...)
Unexpectedly pregnant and not sure if I really want a termination....
Q. Ok so here goes. Im in a relationship with an amazing man. he's 22 and im 26 We've been together for just over a year and i have fallen unexpectedly pregnant. We have discussed it and decided the best option in a termination ( I don't want you views ...
A. 7 March 2011:
Why are you scared he will reject you after having a termination? Where does this fear come from? Do you deep down think he might not want to be with you, but is staying with you to support you through this, and intends to leave afterwards? Has ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I lied to him even though it might sabotage our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months, nearly 5. We have trust issues. He's never done anything to make me doubt his love for me but i've lied to him many times and I created a lot of lies to cover up everything... in the end, it ...
A. 7 March 2011: Don't mention the club. He already knows you've been lying about small things. Instead focus on why you are so keen to lie about matters you really do not need to lie about. What are you scared of will happen if you are honest from the go? Why for ... (read in full...)
He's asked me out on a date but he's so effeminate!!!
Q. Hey, I have been talking to this dude for about a week. Get on great with him! Hes lovely, hes really funny and quite ambitious. The thing is, hes quite feminine, haha. I think hes gay like! And he did ask he out on two days ago for a date. Now ...
A. 7 March 2011: If you're not attracted to him or see him as someone you might want to share a relationship with, in all aspects, then tell him that you're not interested in more than friendship. He might be nice all he wants, and you may get along great, but if ... (read in full...)
Getting pregnant without sex?
Q. Neither me or my boyfriend have ever had sex before, but we do other things together. I was just wondering how low/high the chances are of getting pregnant if he doesn't ejaculate near my vagina, but his penis touches it and rubs against it while ...
A. 7 March 2011: It's not so much of a chance of getting pregnant, if rubbing on the outside is all he does. But, there is a very high chance he will "slip" and end up with his penis a little too far up. That is a risk you shouldn't be taking. Sexual play can, and ... (read in full...)
Can someone contract STDs or mouth infection through oral sex?
Q. Hi I have never tried any form of oral sex. I have a fantasy about it but i'm scared i might get any form of STD or infection of the mouth. Is it possible to contract the above mentioned diseases through oral sex? Also should i ignore the natur...
A. 7 March 2011: We call it "the mouse" :)... (read in full...)
Can someone contract STDs or mouth infection through oral sex?
Q. Hi I have never tried any form of oral sex. I have a fantasy about it but i'm scared i might get any form of STD or infection of the mouth. Is it possible to contract the above mentioned diseases through oral sex? Also should i ignore the natur...
A. 7 March 2011: The natural smell of the "beaver" is there no matter what. It's what men find intoxicating and delishious. If you don't like it you don't like it, and then there's not much you can do. But most like it. I take for granted that a girl will be ... (read in full...)
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