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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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My girlfriend seems really knowledgeable about sex and I am worried she will laugh when she sees my penis!
Q. Dear Cupid, Ive recently met this girl and shes ready to have sex, shes let it be known that she wants to but im not sure, theirs multiple reasons but one of the larger reasons is because my penis is sort of thick but only 5.5" i don't know what ...
A. 24 March 2011: And Chris1979, the average penis is between 3.9-7.9 inches. Most guys are in either/or end, not at the middle of that. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems really knowledgeable about sex and I am worried she will laugh when she sees my penis!
Q. Dear Cupid, Ive recently met this girl and shes ready to have sex, shes let it be known that she wants to but im not sure, theirs multiple reasons but one of the larger reasons is because my penis is sort of thick but only 5.5" i don't know what ...
A. 24 March 2011: Now it's my turn to laugh. Don't you know that 5.5 is rather large?
What do you think all other guys are packing down there? Cucumbers? ... (read in full...)
Why do guys beep their horns at girls? It is really embarassing!
Q. Everytime I go out, with my mom, my friends, ANYONE, people would do that whole 'I beep the horn because you're attractive' thing. Before, when I was an insecure person, i would feel really flattered. Now, it's just really embarassing and my parents ...
A. 24 March 2011: I definitely don't smile and wave. I smirk and raise my head up high. Or check that my skirt hasn't blow up. But no, be classy about it, don't smile and wave. It's not like they gave you a real compliment! If they had the guts to step out of the ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I get so wet, he slips out. Is this normal?
Q. This is probably a stupid question but is this normal? During sex and foreplay I get incredibly wet!! When my boyfriend touches me I get wet and the more aroused I get and the longer the wetter I get and I mean really wet. Sometimes so bad t...
A. 24 March 2011: Like FluffyPie said, it could be that he's just short. And so he easily slides out if it gets wet. That, or you are often in positions where it's easier for him to slide out. The missionary, or cowgirl, are safer bets if you want him put. Positions ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with same-sex interactions!
Q. Why am i so obsessed with girl on girl, I've spoken to my friends and they said they're not, but I'm attracted to anyone I know that's bi, any celbs that are bi or lesbian, anything to do lesbians, any also, anything to do with men being gay, like ...
A. 22 March 2011: It fascinates you. Perhaps it's your fetish. It's not supposed to be explained, it's supposed to be enjoyed. So don't worry, just go with whatever makes you happy. And of course not all your friends like this... People are different after ... (read in full...)
Do all girls shave, down there? what bits need shaving? What styles are there?
Q. Hello everyone, Apparently girls should shave their pubic hair, so I did, however I'm not sure where you actually shave. Say you stood naked infront of a mirror, all the hair you can see - that's what I shaved. Is that right or do you need to shav...
A. 22 March 2011: I'll add this in here for you as well: http://www.wikihow.com/Shave... (read in full...)
I always get a rash after shaving! What's wrong with me?
Q. Hi, well I've got a very embarrassing question that really needs answering. I'm 15 years old and well I'm a bit worried. Every time I shave my legs and nether regions I seem to get these little spots that appear like a rash. Its worse on my nether ...
A. 22 March 2011: There's nothing wrong with you. But there's likely something wrong with your shaving. Read this: http://www.wikihow.com/Shave ... (read in full...)
Do all girls shave, down there? what bits need shaving? What styles are there?
Q. Hello everyone, Apparently girls should shave their pubic hair, so I did, however I'm not sure where you actually shave. Say you stood naked infront of a mirror, all the hair you can see - that's what I shaved. Is that right or do you need to shav...
A. 22 March 2011: Well, no, not all girls shave. And the ones who regularly shave typically do it only for special reasons. Such as shaving the bikini line (remove the hair that would otherwise show when you're in a bikini), or if they have a special night with their ... (read in full...)
Why won't she give me oral?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for over 4 years now, and she has only went down on me 3 times out of 4 years! On top of that she met this guy, ("Who got his ass beat by the way." ) any way, she hung out with him just 4 times. Then on the ...
A. 22 March 2011: If after 4 years she isn't going down on you, I don't think she ever will either. Prepare for more years with no oral. Unless, of course, sitting down with her for a heart to heart chat about it will help. Obviously she isn't telling you the truth ... (read in full...)
I like porn and get turned on by women. Am I bisexual?
Q. Hey, well im sort of touching a senstive matter and i could perhaps use abit of advice. Im 14 years old and well im a girl and i like to watch porn. i watch metro sex porn, the thing that i dont really understa...
A. 22 March 2011: "i never have fancyied a girl and i have never looked a girl up in the street and thought wow shes fit or anything like that. i would never want to have sex with another girl either" That answers your question, no you are not bisexual. You li... (read in full...)
B/f thought I was going to dump him so he broke up with me!
Q. My bf now ex and i broke up a few days ago.....I am still madly in love with him! he says he is still in love with me and I am the best thing that ever happened to him. I am asked why he broke up with me in the first place and he said it was b/c ...
A. 22 March 2011: Are you the same girl who's boyfriend broke up with her by changing his facebook status, and changed it to being in a relationship with someone else?
If so, then you really should listen to the advice you have already received. What kind of perso... (read in full...)
Is it bad to date your friend's ex?
Q. Hi this has never happened to me before but i was wondering..is it bad to date ur friend's ex...i mean i know its bad if u r close friends ..but we r not..i actually rarely see or talk to her...or used to cause she's not talking to me anymore. I ...
A. 22 March 2011: If you're no longer talking to her then he's free to date. But if you want to be safe, contact this girl and ask her how she feels about it, and give her time to think about it.
But, if you do ask and she says you can't date him, then you can't. I... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants us to be together forever but I am very insecure about her past
Q. hello. i am currently in a relationship which seems fine... and nothing seems to go to wrong and not many arguments are had. but i have a huge hang up about it. i was a virgin when i met my current girlfriend. and ... she isnt. in fact i believe ...
A. 22 March 2011: First off, tell her you are not ready to move on so fast in the relationship. Especially as she is your first, you want to take things slow and feel comfortable with everything. She should understand that.
You said these feelings are because ... (read in full...)
Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...
A. 22 March 2011: Those people who tell you you are not normal are morons. They also tell you girls wont like if you are a virgin? Well take it from a girl, we do not like men who visit prostitutes. One round in the sack won't give you much of anything. You've... (read in full...)
Is it possible to predict before marriage that a couple's sex life will suck 5-10 years after they get married?
Q. Almost every one of my guy friends who has been married for more than 5 years or so has told me their wife has lost almost all interest in sex. Many go for a month or two without it onb a regular basis. They also tell me about friends of theirs who ...
A. 22 March 2011: I wrote "he", but it goes both ways.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to predict before marriage that a couple's sex life will suck 5-10 years after they get married?
Q. Almost every one of my guy friends who has been married for more than 5 years or so has told me their wife has lost almost all interest in sex. Many go for a month or two without it onb a regular basis. They also tell me about friends of theirs who ...
A. 22 March 2011: Sounds like Odds ran into a bad experience there.
There are no telling signs that a relationship, or marriage, will work or not, except for the obvious red flags of course. If the sex never was good to begin with, marriage won't help it. It will ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't give me blow jobs anymore!
Q. so I have a question for you guys on here, I'm sure there are other posts on here about the same subject on here. I have been happily married for 6 years now and wouldn't change a single thing except for one. my wife does not give me blow jobs any ...
A. 22 March 2011: "No oral for me, no oral for you" is petty childrens game. It's sinking pretty low, and shuts the door for an open communication in a relationship.
Lets all sit in each our corner of the room, not talk, but wait for the other to meet our needs fi... (read in full...)
I found porn on my 53 year old dad's computer
Q. My dad is 53yrs old.. a very simple, sober and decent man who practices meditation daily. But today when I went on his laptop, there were loads of porn (hardcore) websites in his browsing history. Is it normal for a person like him to be looking ...
A. 22 March 2011: Sure, why not? A person doesn't stop being sexually active after their reach their 50ties. And yes, your dad has had sex in his life, how do you think you were made?
Don't contact your dad about this. Just stop going on his computer if you don'... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't give me blow jobs anymore!
Q. so I have a question for you guys on here, I'm sure there are other posts on here about the same subject on here. I have been happily married for 6 years now and wouldn't change a single thing except for one. my wife does not give me blow jobs any ...
A. 22 March 2011: Well, sex isn't a "trade" of such that you can give her oral and expect it back. Then you could also factor in how long you go at it, until orgasm or not, etc. as that also plays a part.
But... I know me personally I'd feel weird and awkward ... (read in full...)
Why are people so judgmental?
Q. Why are people so judgemental? On here there are a lot of aunts and uncles, who seem to think that because a young questioner asks a question about love and relationships, they need to discourage this young person from being grown up and thInking ...
A. 22 March 2011: I don't think that I judge on age, but certain things I expect people to know at a certain age. So the age of the person is considered when I answer advice. Not because I want to discourage, but because .. certain things you know and don't know at a ... (read in full...)
My husband has been unwell for a long time and it disgusts me to have sex with him, as I'm just not attracted to him anymore...
Q. Hi dear cupid! I have a huge problem and I realy need help! My hb and I have been married for 10 yrs and he's been sick for 8 of those 10 yrs. We still don't know what his condition is. But he has dropped a lot of wieght to the point he's skin and...
A. 21 March 2011: Has any feedback been helpful? Do you know better what you will do? Or will you continue to do what you've done so far, tried to tell it gently, he's in denial, so do nothing?
Can you talk to someone else about this, a close friend of yours? Y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me return or exchange a foster child, but I would like to adopt
Q. I fostered a three year todler, with a view to adopt, against my boyfriend's will last year. We are now engaged to be married in next few months. he is still not for the idea of the boy being around. He is an active boy, and like any other child can ...
A. 21 March 2011: The boyfriend wasn't forced into anything. Who knows how serious this couple was back then? If she was pregnant with another mans child back then, and he didnt want to foster someone elses child, then it is normal to say he could leave her as this ... (read in full...)
Was our first time "normal"?
Q. Last weekend I had sex for the first time, I know the first time isn't meant to be amazing but my boyfriend was so worried about hurting me that he didn't cum,nor did I bleed, is this normal? ...
A. 21 March 2011: What do you think? What did you expect? This is very normal. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me return or exchange a foster child, but I would like to adopt
Q. I fostered a three year todler, with a view to adopt, against my boyfriend's will last year. We are now engaged to be married in next few months. he is still not for the idea of the boy being around. He is an active boy, and like any other child can ...
A. 21 March 2011: Option C, leave the boyfriend. The way he talks about this child reveals how he views humans, as property you can "return" or "exchange" when you are bored with him. Without doubt this is how he views not only the young child, but you as well, and ... (read in full...)
I can't understand why she is happy to give handjobs and blowjobs to me all the time but is reluctant to have sex.
Q. I have just come out of a rough relationship and an even rougher breakup. Recently, at a party, I hooked up with a girl who I have been close friends with since childhood. We didn't have sex but we did embark in other sexual acts on each other. ...
A. 21 March 2011: I think handjobs and blowjobs ARE sex. So I guess what you mean by "sex" is the actual intercourse? For many the intercourse is the closest and most personal you get. You don't have to be so revealing and vulnerable when you do other acts, but ... (read in full...)
What does "not serious" mean to you? No sex?
Q. When you women are dating, and you say you "aren't serious", but the relationship has potential, what does this typically mean? That you haven't had sex yet? To me, "not serious" means sex and/or serious feelings aren't involved yet. Yes?...
A. 21 March 2011: Nah, to me "nothing serious" means you are still out there looking for others, still dating others and flirting, and checking out the dating field, even if you are sleeping with someone. "Not serious" also means you aren't going to introduce the ... (read in full...)
My husband has been unwell for a long time and it disgusts me to have sex with him, as I'm just not attracted to him anymore...
Q. Hi dear cupid! I have a huge problem and I realy need help! My hb and I have been married for 10 yrs and he's been sick for 8 of those 10 yrs. We still don't know what his condition is. But he has dropped a lot of wieght to the point he's skin and...
A. 21 March 2011: You should talk to him about it. It will hurt him, but it hurts him and you both already the way things are now. You do not need to tell him he disgusts you, you can use gentler words. But you can say that he doesn't attract you any longer, and ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband having more friends that are single girls then guys?
Q. Well i have been married 14 years to my husband and i will admit i have some confidence and jelousy issues. my husband grew up having problems making friends with guys so he hung out with girls cause they were nicer to him and his child hood was ok ...
A. 21 March 2011: I know this might sound too simple and not a lengthy in depth advice. But, what if you started to see these friends of his differently? Put them in a new category? Instead of labeling them "single" and "women", you can try to give them names and ... (read in full...)
Girls:Would you chose attractive physical appearance over a big penis?
Q. I'm 18 , 6'3" tall, 200 pounds, athletic and i easily attract girls but i have problem that has been worrying me for a long time, i fit in the stereotype of a man with a big d**k,see i'm black,im tall, i wear a size 14 shoe and i have freakingly ...
A. 21 March 2011: The size of your hands and feet have nothing to do with the size of your penis. Every woman with some intelligence knows that, so you should not worry that women think you have a larger one. Smart women know that you can never tell on a guy what ... (read in full...)
Is his father really ill or is he just ignoring me? Is this a cover up for my boyfriend to leave me?
Q. My boyfriend and I lived together for about 3 months and he left me a month ago. A very brief summary how he left and I called it a "flee away." He texted me via my cell phone while I was at work telling me that his father had a stroke and his ...
A. 21 March 2011: If his father was on the deathbed, and he is now experiencing life altering changes, what do you think is more important? Sending an e-mail and thinking of a girl you just got together with, or your family, father and your whole career? If the st... (read in full...)
Is his father really ill or is he just ignoring me? Is this a cover up for my boyfriend to leave me?
Q. My boyfriend and I lived together for about 3 months and he left me a month ago. A very brief summary how he left and I called it a "flee away." He texted me via my cell phone while I was at work telling me that his father had a stroke and his ...
A. 21 March 2011: If the link doesn't work search for this on youtube:
While I was Away: Girlfriend Doesn't Realize Boyfriend is on Vacation ... (read in full...)
Is his father really ill or is he just ignoring me? Is this a cover up for my boyfriend to leave me?
Q. My boyfriend and I lived together for about 3 months and he left me a month ago. A very brief summary how he left and I called it a "flee away." He texted me via my cell phone while I was at work telling me that his father had a stroke and his ...
A. 21 March 2011: I have only this to say to you, please watch this video. It reminds me of your situation.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qg-heCy0CbQ
Don't get offended, but perhaps it will put things in perspective. You really need to trust in your boyfriend a... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to shower with me but we are virgins and I'm afraid it will lead to sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I are going on a holiday together which means that we are going to stay in the same room. He wants to shower with me but I don't know if I should as we are still virgins and I am afraid that that will lead to sex. Although, we h...
A. 21 March 2011: Doing everything is having sex, isn't it? Besides him going inside you. And having a shower together. Yes, it might lead to more sex. And it might turn you both on and then you'll have him inside you.
If you don't want to have sex then don't. S... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out without me again and there is more...disrespectful!?!
Q. I have been dating a guy for about a year now. We spend about a 1/2 a day together each week due to his career. I try to be understanding but admit I often feel lonely and there is a lot of tension. The relationship feels one sided. We typically ...
A. 20 March 2011: This guy is verbally abusive, and what more, he just says a lot of crap. Slutty? Whore? You know as well as we do that all that he said and called you is a lot of bullshit to be honest. You know it, we know it, he knows it. He just says that to be ... (read in full...)
What is precum?
Q. I have heard the word many times. I am from Argentina, so English is not my first language but you probably won't be able to notice because I'm good at it. Still, there are some words I don't know. What the heck is precum? What does it look lik...
A. 19 March 2011: Precum doesn't show when you have an orgasm. It's in the word itself "pre" means "before". So it is the liquid that comes out of your penis before you have an orgasm. Usually when you have an erection and get excited, you will .. dripple. Haven't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out without me again and there is more...disrespectful!?!
Q. I have been dating a guy for about a year now. We spend about a 1/2 a day together each week due to his career. I try to be understanding but admit I often feel lonely and there is a lot of tension. The relationship feels one sided. We typically ...
A. 19 March 2011: Agree with YouWish. It's lated this long because no other woman would tolerate this much. It is also possible that he's cheating on another woman with you, that another girl is his "real" girlfriend. Why else do you think you haven't met his family ... (read in full...)
Should she forgive me for wanting to use her for sex?
Q. Should a guy who fakes interested in a girl just to use the girl for sex be forgiven? What happens to a girl when that happens to her? I want to how a girl is thinking that it happened to....
A. 19 March 2011: That's never happened to me, if a guy only wanted sex I've usually been able to see straight through it. But I can't take liars. If a guy wants just sex and he is honest about it then that's fine, and maybe we'll have sex. But if a guy has been ... (read in full...)
Her longing for sex has increased. Is she just playing me? Or are we a normal couple again?
Q. After recently breaking up with my girlfriend due to paranoia issues and depression problems on her behalf, we agreed last Friday to meet up and clear the air. We met in an neutral place and she turned up wearing the shortest skirt I've ever seen...
A. 19 March 2011: Im sorry to be negative, but here's my personal experience. I once had a boyfriend who I got along with like a house on fire. The sex was amazing, some of the best I've ever had. We broke up for reasons like insecurity and him not knowing what he ... (read in full...)
This is gonna sound bad but I want to cheat on my girlfriend..
Q. Hey everyone This is gonna sound bad but I want to cheat on my girlfriend Now before people start getting up on there high horses and accuse me of being a troll and an ass and so on hear me out... About 6 months ago my gf cheated on me an...
A. 19 March 2011: You must realize how stupid this is. Im giving you some blunt, right from the gut advice here. Cheating on her will be stupid. Plain and simple. What exactly do you think you will achieve from cheating on her?
Your sex life with her will be just ... (read in full...)
I feel cheated because she loved someone more than me in the past!
Q. Please help me,I am suffering with this big problem,I don't know if I share this issue, you may think stupid but 'I am' what to do, here goes my story I believe in one women/one men in life for marriage/love, I have loved my g/f too much for 8-yrs ...
A. 19 March 2011: He didn't say she lied about it. He just said he didn't know about this until now. ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 19 March 2011: That has to do with who you want to sleep with, not your urge to sleep around. ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 18 March 2011: I don't buy this biology thing. I honestly do not think about being abandoned in the woods with a child if I have a one night stand. The thought never crossed my mind. Not have any of the men I've met expressed a desire to father tons of children ... (read in full...)
I feel cheated because she loved someone more than me in the past!
Q. Please help me,I am suffering with this big problem,I don't know if I share this issue, you may think stupid but 'I am' what to do, here goes my story I believe in one women/one men in life for marriage/love, I have loved my g/f too much for 8-yrs ...
A. 18 March 2011: First off you must understand that you are misusing the word "cheating". Cheating is when you are in a relationship with one person, but are intimate with another behind their back. What this woman has done is not cheating. Now unless I ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 17 March 2011: Oh dear you, don't try to pretend to know how God designed women for wanting sex for reproduction or whatever. You do not know if women in general want more sex than men, and you should try to stick to statistics instead, if there are any. And when ... (read in full...)
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