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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 2 April 2011: You are taking what happened with your ex to mean this will happen in future relationships as well. Instead of figuring out ways to handle the situation when it arises again I'd advice you to date a girl who can stand up for herself, lay down the ... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 1 April 2011: Your ideal relationship sounds like a good one. It's good for you to keep your ideal relationship in mind when you consider girls for a relationship, and when you enter one. To remember exactly what it is you want, and if you feel you can't get your ... (read in full...)
Information on how to make a Russian girl happy on a date
Q. I know it's silly to ask, nationalities aside, people are people. Saying that, I do need some advice regarding a certain wonderful woman that I have met that happens to be Russian: I want to know what NOT to do and what I SHOULD, how to make her ...
A. 31 March 2011: Do not listen to Help.outGuy!! Are you just trying to be funny? That's the worst topics you can bring up, why not start discussing politics, Putin, and Chechnya while you're at it.
Russian girls hate it when guys joke about them drinking vodka et... (read in full...)
Hurt he didn't call, am I overreacting?
Q. I'm the kind of person that has always put in a lot of effort into my relationships. I used to go overboard with it but now I've definitely calmed down. I've really been trying to keep busy and not focus on my relationship because I know I have a ...
A. 31 March 2011: You're doing right in walking away if this is important to you. It's better to walk away than to try to change him. But, I'd still give him one more chance before dumping.
Tell him that when he says he will call, he needs to call, or have a d... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 31 March 2011: Then you have a control issue, not a trust issue. You know that's wrong and that you need to work on it, because even the most controlling person can not control other humans. You just can't. When you enter a relationship you put your heart in ... (read in full...)
Information on how to make a Russian girl happy on a date
Q. I know it's silly to ask, nationalities aside, people are people. Saying that, I do need some advice regarding a certain wonderful woman that I have met that happens to be Russian: I want to know what NOT to do and what I SHOULD, how to make her ...
A. 30 March 2011: Where are you from, how long have you dated her, and where is your relationship at at this point? You asked how to tell her you love her? Are you sure the relationship is at that stage if you just met her and is taking her out on a date? I wou... (read in full...)
Why don't men have as much of a say when it comes to their children?
Q. I have a question that has been bugging me for awhile. What do you think of the fact that men don't seem to have much of a say when it comes to their children (planned or otherwise)? I'll use an example to illustrate. It's what has gotten me th...
A. 30 March 2011: I think those laws are there for a reason, for example the men have a tendency to bail. If they do, then they are basically out of the picture. It's if a man wants to have contact with his child, and be around, that the trouble really enters the ... (read in full...)
Is porn a step on the slippery slope to cheating?
Q. Is porn a step on the slippery slope to cheating? I found out that my bf of 7 months has some porn videos of women from the internet on his computer. He has done nothing to make me doubt my trust in him, but I'm a little worried that looking at ...
A. 30 March 2011: 100% of all cheaters also wear socks. ... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 30 March 2011: If you do not trust them then they are strangers enough. You do trust your close friends right? That's the difference. And yes, there is no age set for how soon or late you should learn about life. The sooner the better actually. There is no use in ... (read in full...)
Have to see Ex-BF tomorrow and not sure I'll be able to control my anger. Help!
Q. Your Open Question: How should I act when I see my lying cheating ex boyfriend? ? My ex boyfriend lied to me, cheated and dumped me. I knew something wasn't right cos he said he doesn't want a relationship. I found out he was sleeping with s...
A. 30 March 2011: Alternatively you could give him a smack. If my boyfriend ever cheats on me I told him I'd smack him upside down with my frying pan, and he said if he ever cheated, please do. Not to promote violence, just my honest opinion. Plot evil plans again... (read in full...)
Have to see Ex-BF tomorrow and not sure I'll be able to control my anger. Help!
Q. Your Open Question: How should I act when I see my lying cheating ex boyfriend? ? My ex boyfriend lied to me, cheated and dumped me. I knew something wasn't right cos he said he doesn't want a relationship. I found out he was sleeping with s...
A. 30 March 2011: Why meet him? Can't you just send someone else to get things from him if that's why you need to meet him?
I suggest you tell him you just want whatever it is you have to meet him for, get it over with, and leave. He doesn't have a right to expla... (read in full...)
Is porn a step on the slippery slope to cheating?
Q. Is porn a step on the slippery slope to cheating? I found out that my bf of 7 months has some porn videos of women from the internet on his computer. He has done nothing to make me doubt my trust in him, but I'm a little worried that looking at ...
A. 30 March 2011: Nope. Porn does not lead to cheating. ... (read in full...)
Hurt he didn't call, am I overreacting?
Q. I'm the kind of person that has always put in a lot of effort into my relationships. I used to go overboard with it but now I've definitely calmed down. I've really been trying to keep busy and not focus on my relationship because I know I have a ...
A. 30 March 2011: You're getting your period. Thread carefully! Unless you feel this exact same way in a week, when you are close to done with your period, then this is something you shouldn't speak of. You are a type of person who wants lots of attention and stress ... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 30 March 2011: I think it is normal to feel this way after being lied to, and in particular after being cheated on. Every woman who breaks up with a jerk hates all men and swear she will never fall in love again. And that's just your average jerk, I can only ... (read in full...)
Women--ever had an orgasm when you needed to relieve yourself?
Q. Women of all ages.. have you ever had... an orgasm while your bladder was desparate for you to relieve itself? (and your man, was right inside you at the time)? it seems to me that you couldnt relax to orgasm, while you are holding back the...
A. 30 March 2011: You are asking in a disguised way, so I am not sure what you're asking about? But this is what I get from it:
you assume that a woman can't feel like she needs to pee at the same time of having an orgasm.
Then you wonder if she had an orgasm, ... (read in full...)
Am I too pushy or selfish about moving in together?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have bin together for a year and seven months.Im 25 just turned in Feb and hes 24 he turns 25 in May. I work two jobs one full time and one part time he works nights and goes to school full time. I plan on attending grad ...
A. 30 March 2011: You need to be patient. You're nit selfish for wanting to move in with him, and I understand your frustration. But if you push this on him it will only cause him to get insecure. He needs to take his own time to get to that same level that you are ... (read in full...)
I want him to leave his live-in girlfriend for me
Q. here goes.........I have known this guy since november, he is a farmer and lives in the valley where i work. i run into him on a daily basis, we meet up nearly every night, and share hobbies at the weekends. we are so made for each other and are ...
A. 30 March 2011: See this is the problem, if he actually cared about you and was in love with YOU, he would be the one coming on here to ask this question, not you. Or better yet, he would have broken up with her already.
It's not that hard to break it off with... (read in full...)
Is HPV a major cause for concern?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a few questions regarding HPV... Obviously any sort of virus is a cause for concern, but it seems recently HPV has been talked about heavily, especially for and by women. I recently saw an ad on the TV for some drug for women a...
A. 29 March 2011: I had warts, and I have been to a doctor, and I have gotten correct information about warts. They don't do no harm, they are just warts. They don't cause infertility, moreover they are easily treated and once treated they go away for good.
Other... (read in full...)
Why do some women get themselves pregnant on purpose?
Q. One of my ex co workers got herself pregnant on purpose. She even told everyone about it. She had a short fling with someone and knew that he didn't want any children. They weren't even in a exclusive relationship. But she lied about what ...
A. 29 March 2011: "Because if the agreement on contraception is that the woman takes the pill, then it shouldn't have to be the man's responsibility to watch her take the pill every day or carry the pills everywhere to make sure they aren't switched with placebos or ... (read in full...)
Is HPV a major cause for concern?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a few questions regarding HPV... Obviously any sort of virus is a cause for concern, but it seems recently HPV has been talked about heavily, especially for and by women. I recently saw an ad on the TV for some drug for women a...
A. 29 March 2011: HPV is potentially dangerous to women, as it can give us cancer. It is harmless for men. HPV can cause warts that are easily treaded, and once treated they go away and are not left in the body. So many get HPV because it spreads like fire in ... (read in full...)
Will my shorter penis please her as much as a longer one?
Q. Hi, been lurking here, and have seen all the questions on penis size. I know these get asked a thousand times, but I have another one, sorry. I have never been insecure about my size before, but I am with a girl who was with a guy much, much ...
A. 28 March 2011: You should ask your woman what she feels. Oh no wait, she already told you! Well then, not to be rude, but why don't you believe her?
It was utterly silly of her to ever tell you about her ex's penis. Women need to stop doing that as the only res... (read in full...)
I'm having pain after sex!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a rather embarassing question to ask. On friday night my husband and I had sex that seemed to last a long time, maybe over an hour or more. We did have foreplay so when we went to have intercourse I would be ready. Well anyw...
A. 28 March 2011: Im not familiar with this exact problem, although I do know that rough sex can cause "bruises" internally, although more commonly at the entrance.
In these cases, it is harmless, it just takes you a couple of weeks to recover. I would advice y... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I should believe him when he tells me he loves me.
Q. My ex wants me back and i want him back so he has been kissing me and calling me his gf again. I know how i feel about him, i know how he SAYS how he feels about me, but some times i don't believe it. My "BF" says he wants to marry me one day and w...
A. 28 March 2011: Action speaks louder than words, always! He's telling you one thing, but what he does is quite the other. What he does is string you on, tell you sweet stories about marriage and what not, all the while he has another girlfriend who he probably ... (read in full...)
Why do some women get themselves pregnant on purpose?
Q. One of my ex co workers got herself pregnant on purpose. She even told everyone about it. She had a short fling with someone and knew that he didn't want any children. They weren't even in a exclusive relationship. But she lied about what ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think the law in the US is working towards making this illegal. Certainly, if the man can afford the good lawyers, he can win court cases and not need to take responsibility for the child, not need to pay child support or anything. But, ther... (read in full...)
My best friend and I have had sex with the same guys, she tested positive for an STD but I didnt, how does this happen?
Q. My best friend and I have sex with the same guys (threesome). She recently was tested positive for chlmydia. I freaked out and got tested too but my results were negative. How can this be? Has anyone ever had an std and been through a similiar ...
A. 28 March 2011: It's not a problem in your case, you don't have chlamydia. What happened is that when you have sex with a person with an STD, you aren't guaranteed to catch it. First off an STD is passed only through genital to genital contact. Touching doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why do some women get themselves pregnant on purpose?
Q. One of my ex co workers got herself pregnant on purpose. She even told everyone about it. She had a short fling with someone and knew that he didn't want any children. They weren't even in a exclusive relationship. But she lied about what ...
A. 28 March 2011: They do it because they are selfish and want a baby. People aren't perfect, and this is one of the reasons why men need to take more responsibility when it comes to contraceptives. So many men NEVER care about protection. If you ask me, if they are ... (read in full...)
I had sex with someone else while we were on a break and now he says I am 'dirty' to him, what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend who I love more that anything else told me we should take a break so he could deal with some issues. A week later I saw he was taking someone to prom and I knew he liked her. Out of jealousy and a need for security, I had sex with a ...
A. 28 March 2011: Were you a virgin? And why did you want a friend to be your first, instead of this boy that you say you love so much?
I think that in either case you just have to walk away from this seeing it as a life lesson. This is what happens when people s... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend was so large I'm afraid its ruined me for anyone else!
Q. Hello, agony aunts. Thanks in advance for reading my question, and for any thoughtful advice or answers. I have recently come out of a two year long relationship and I am now fresh on the single scene. My ex and I got together when we were bot...
A. 28 March 2011: Your vagina will adjust itself. After women give birth they are still perfectly capable of having a good sex life! The vagina DOES adapt, it's not widened permanently. It will also help if you do muscles exercises. You know the muscle you use to ... (read in full...)
Together three years and she didn't give me a birthday present.
Q. ME and my girlfriend have been together for over 3 years now and my birthday just past a month ago. She did not buy me anything for my birthday. I always buy her stuff for her birthday. Is this a bad sign?...
A. 27 March 2011: Has she never given you any gifts or is this something that happened this year? Did she forget your birthday? Did she give you a reason why she didn't give you any gift?
Yes, I would say this is a bad sign, and something you and her should t... (read in full...)
How do you respond to "tell me more about yourself"
Q. Hi guys i was on a dating website and Girls have this auto reply message that always comes back with " send me a message, and tell me more about yourself" like what am i supposed to write? is there any ways to get her attention in the first m...
A. 27 March 2011: I don't know what MOsh Pits is.
As for your message, not to be picky, or lower your spirits, but that is boring and wont attract much attention. Please don't brag about yourself (not that you have yet, except I think you were when you said "ra... (read in full...)
My 3rd cousin is checking me out. Does he want me to help him with relationships?
Q. I have a small concern and issue. I havent seen my cousin for many years. He is my third cousin so we are that distant. Well we moved to a new town and we just happen to run into each other. Him and my fiancée are really good friends. Well I have ...
A. 25 March 2011: "If I helped him out it would be made clear a one time thing in a desperate situation." Your cousin is not in a desperate situation. Relationship situations are never desperate. Desperate situations are those concerning life or death, or other ... (read in full...)
My mom says he says that to all the visitors!
Q. i met this boy in the bahamas he works on the beach and i thought it was love at first site he keeps telling me to move to florda so we can live together and get married my mother told me he says that to all the visiters..i have my money saved up ...
A. 25 March 2011: Listen to your mom and k_C100!!!... (read in full...)
How do you respond to "tell me more about yourself"
Q. Hi guys i was on a dating website and Girls have this auto reply message that always comes back with " send me a message, and tell me more about yourself" like what am i supposed to write? is there any ways to get her attention in the first m...
A. 25 March 2011: First you need to use proper grammar. Then you need to use your imagination. My advice is to just be straight forwards and tell things about yourself. No need to get into the deep and personal things, but the regular things you'd tell someone you ... (read in full...)
We are friends with benefits, and while I don't have romantic feelings for her, her having sex with others still bother me. Why?
Q. I have, what is common called, a f**k buddy. She and I both came out of long term relationships recently and sort of found each other. We have known each other for a long time and it just felt right. This has been going on for over a year now. ...
A. 25 March 2011: I think you should stop being F%%k buddies. You're not feeling comfortable about her sleeping with other guys. I don't think you should get into a relationship with her, you don't have romantic feelings towards her, and after this long, if you're ... (read in full...)
She liked that guys flirted with her, I broke it off, but I can't get over her and she wont talk to me!
Q. SO this is my story. I dated this girl 2 years ago ...now after a year and 10 months she was texting a guy behind my back i forgave her ...then again there was another guy that flirted wiht her on fb and she liked the post! now i dont like that and...
A. 25 March 2011: You are not ready for a serious relationship, you still have a lot of maturing left. I want to point out a few things that I hope you can realize you need to work on, and that perhaps will help you in future relationships. When you are in a rel... (read in full...)
Do girls think I'm desperate? Is that why I can't attract anyone?
Q. Why can't I attract anyone? What am I doing wrong? I'm 22, I'm at university, I work out, I watch what I eat, I'm by no means a bad looking guy... and yet when I go out I seem to get a few looks from girls, but that's all. No clear cut signs ...
A. 25 March 2011: The number one reason why girls and guy aren't hooking up is because they don't flirt. They don't put themselves out there. They don't smile, invite others on for conversation, start conversation, or make the first approach. In your case I thin... (read in full...)
I don't think I want to go to college anymore, I think I want a baby
Q. I'm 20 years old and in my second year of college. My dream career is to become a veterinarian but ever since I started college, I've been questioning what I want to be when I graduate. And because of this, I don't feel like I want to continue ...
A. 25 March 2011: Don't be a sheep. You do realize just how silly it is to want a baby just so you can fit in with your friends? Make your life decisions based on what's best for YOU, not what makes you "fit" in a crowd or something up the lines of that. Im gett... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want sex to get in the way of our relationship!
Q. Please he doesn't want to have sex w/ me anymore. I am about a size 14-16 and work out frequently, keep my hair and nails done and legs shaved, lol! He is good to me but since we became engaged he avoids any situation that might turn sexual. I have ...
A. 25 March 2011: Has he gotten cold feet? This is weird. He's been having sex with you, then got engaged, and now there's no sex because he doesn't want it in the way of the relationship? Have you even had a discussion about this or has he just decided over you... (read in full...)
Is there any hope left for me?
Q. So this is gonna be a long one, it's greatly appreciated if any insight can be made for this train wreck of a situation. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now, I'm an electrical engineering student with less than a month to ...
A. 24 March 2011: I only have one thing to say about your weed-smoking habit, and that is that you are an addict. You only smoke when stressed out you said, and that does happen often. That is an excuse. You smoke regularly, and you sound as you have gotten addicted. ... (read in full...)
I want to love him for who he is but I can help feeling uncofortable about his looks
Q. Hi, ive been dating this guy for 8 months now but thing is, he's not my ideal man when it comes to his looks. am not trying to be shallow but i cant help noticing that am 2 inches taller than him. ave always wanted my guy to be taller than me cos ...
A. 24 March 2011: Why did you start dating him? Try to think about that, he was shorter than you when you accepted to date him, so what were your reasons? In my experience, there are a certain number of physical things you can overlook, as long as the total packag... (read in full...)
Maybe you are the right one and his wife is the wrong one?
Q. Hi everyone. This is my question. Is it possible a married man could be falling for you instead of wanting an affair? Or are all these guys the same, wanting their cake and eating it, too? How do you know he is not truly happy in his marriage ...
A. 24 March 2011: A man who is truly unhappy in his marriage would file for divorce. Do you want to be his number second? No matter what good qualities you think he has, he has a wife. How great does that make you feel, how special does that make you feel? If... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me because I want to try and change my already wonderful husband?
Q. My husband... Tim... He's awesome! One series character always comes to my mind when I'm thinking about him - Aidan from Sex and The City. He's perfect - not for every girl, but for Carrie. The same is about Tim. He's perfect: his personality, his ...
A. 24 March 2011: Perhaps you have gotten spoiled? You are with a great man, you yourself think he is wonderful, and next to him you are less. There's no imperfections with this guy, he gives you all you need... And you have nothing to complain about. But "Next to ... (read in full...)
Too scared to have sex because of my penis size!
Q. I'm 17 and my penis is only 3inches long I am sooo scared to have sexual relations because of my size Please I need tips and advice what to do...
A. 24 March 2011: This is what you do.
You wait until you find a nice woman who you love, and who loves you back. Be in a relationship with her until both your and her feel ready to take it to the next step. That probably means wait until you are out of your teen... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems really knowledgeable about sex and I am worried she will laugh when she sees my penis!
Q. Dear Cupid, Ive recently met this girl and shes ready to have sex, shes let it be known that she wants to but im not sure, theirs multiple reasons but one of the larger reasons is because my penis is sort of thick but only 5.5" i don't know what ...
A. 24 March 2011: And Chris1979, the average penis is between 3.9-7.9 inches. Most guys are in either/or end, not at the middle of that. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems really knowledgeable about sex and I am worried she will laugh when she sees my penis!
Q. Dear Cupid, Ive recently met this girl and shes ready to have sex, shes let it be known that she wants to but im not sure, theirs multiple reasons but one of the larger reasons is because my penis is sort of thick but only 5.5" i don't know what ...
A. 24 March 2011: Now it's my turn to laugh. Don't you know that 5.5 is rather large?
What do you think all other guys are packing down there? Cucumbers? ... (read in full...)
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