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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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My boyfriend said to his friend he is not attracted to me and I have a fat ass!
Q. Found conversations between my bf and a friend of his. He was telling her how he really likes me and that i am one of the nicest people out. But he hates my ass. He thinks it is fat and is not attracted to it. He is horny as fuck but doesnt even ...
A. 6 April 2011: For how long have you been together? Has it been years or are you in the beginning stages? In the beginning stages there is often "likes" instead of "loves", and feelings can develop. If the relationship is new, when he says he doesn't want you to ... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to get out of a bad relationship and move on?
Q. Have any of you been in a relationship where your SO brought out the worst in you? Turned you into someone who you never thought you could be? Made you feel like you were once something so special, but now you're worthless in their eyes? This is how ...
A. 4 April 2011: Another thing, being single is good. Make it good for you too! Got something you always wanted to do? Well, once you get single go ahead and do it! Take a vacation somewhere, get a new hairstyle, treat yourself to something you can't really afford, ... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to get out of a bad relationship and move on?
Q. Have any of you been in a relationship where your SO brought out the worst in you? Turned you into someone who you never thought you could be? Made you feel like you were once something so special, but now you're worthless in their eyes? This is how ...
A. 4 April 2011: I've been there. And there is only one thing to tell you: you WILL be happier once you get him out of your life. You are not happy now. Moving on is hard. But you're a big girl, you can do it. You just got to suck it up, acknowledge that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said to his friend he is not attracted to me and I have a fat ass!
Q. Found conversations between my bf and a friend of his. He was telling her how he really likes me and that i am one of the nicest people out. But he hates my ass. He thinks it is fat and is not attracted to it. He is horny as fuck but doesnt even ...
A. 4 April 2011: Like I said, when it came to my ex it wasn't so much about him loosing the weight as him showing me he actually took active choices. If he had stayed the weight he was, and been eating salads, working out regularly, and been active, eating ... (read in full...)
Am I slutty?
Q. I want to know if I'm a drunk slut i'm 19 and In my sophomore year of college last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 4 months but since we broke up... ive had 2 one night stands (full intercourse) given two blow jobs, and let one othe...
A. 4 April 2011: No I wouldn't say you are, in terms of number of guys. But then again "slutty" to me personally is not about the number of people you have had sex with. I find it slutty for a girl to give lap dances to strangers or jump up on tables and flash her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said to his friend he is not attracted to me and I have a fat ass!
Q. Found conversations between my bf and a friend of his. He was telling her how he really likes me and that i am one of the nicest people out. But he hates my ass. He thinks it is fat and is not attracted to it. He is horny as fuck but doesnt even ...
A. 4 April 2011: Before you do anything too fast, read this.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-just-dont-find-her-sexually-desirable.html
It is from a man who didn't find his girlfriend sexually attractive, and he actually spoke to her about it and they sort... (read in full...)
Why do all women shave down there?
Q. Why do all women, or almost all women shave down below? I read somewhere here on DC that even girls as young as 14 are doing this!...
A. 4 April 2011: We don't. Maybe all the women you were with did it because they thought you liked it? But in reality not all women shave, and even those who do shave only do so every once in a while to keep it tidy down there. It's easier to clean if there's not a ... (read in full...)
Why give me false hope and create expectation, why not rather say no or say nothing at all in the first place?
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for a year, and although we share interests and got along well at the start, I can’t stand the fact that he frequently doesn’t do what he has said or promised he would. Everyone has problems from time to time ...
A. 4 April 2011: Cindy got it right. He is feeding you these lines because he knows things don't look good as they are, and he knows if you took him at face value he might not be worth this relationship. Instead of owning up to his responsibilities, he hides away ... (read in full...)
Should I move away in the hopes of finding a partner?
Q. I have been single now for 18 months and I just don't meet any potential partners anywhere. I can't even get a date using online dating and with the net the rsponse is always because I don't want kids and there seem to be very few women in their ...
A. 4 April 2011: A year and a half and you give up? I have a very attractive friend who is in her early twenties, but she's been single for close to 4 years now and even though she thinks it is sad to be single she's not crying out about needing to move!
I thi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said to his friend he is not attracted to me and I have a fat ass!
Q. Found conversations between my bf and a friend of his. He was telling her how he really likes me and that i am one of the nicest people out. But he hates my ass. He thinks it is fat and is not attracted to it. He is horny as fuck but doesnt even ...
A. 4 April 2011: It is sad that you read that conversation, as it wasn't meant for you to know. What I mean is that if your boyfriend had talked to you about this he would have worded it differently, and perhaps it wouldn't have been so hurtful. Try to keep in mind ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts my GF and I ran out of oral things
Q. hi there me and girlfriend have been together for 6 months now. it is great but everytime we have sex she has pains in her vagina. we can only do missionary and i was wondering if i am doing anything wrong or am i trying to rush to fast and shud ...
A. 4 April 2011: Oral things? You ran out? You can't really "run out" of oral sex. Unless she ran out of orgasms you can still continue to deliver through oral sex. As for the intercourse, are you sure your girlfriend is wet when you have sex? Check with your ... (read in full...)
BF smoked weed before I took him to meet my parents. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. My boyfriend smokes weed. It doesn't bother me, but the other day he was gonna meet my parents for the first time, and he'd known this for a week beforehand, yet he still went over his friends and got high first. Is it just me being over sensitiv...
A. 4 April 2011: Im with you, you have every right to expect more out of a guy. He showed you that he didn't think it was important. He might as well have gotten drunk before a job interview! If he doesn't understand the seriousness of meeting your family, ... (read in full...)
Is it rude to ask someone if they are in a bad mood?
Q. Does anyone else hate this? Yesterday I was tired since I went hiking. So, my boyfriend was talking to me on the phone and asked if I was in a bad mood. I was only tired, but it put me in a bad mood when he asked if i was in a bad mood. Why do ...
A. 3 April 2011: I agree, it is rude, and it puts the person asked in a bad mood for sure! Last time I got asked if I was grumpy when I wasn't, and it really got to me. I got quite annoyed!
Yes it is rude, yes it is annoying, and yes it is not respectful to talk ... (read in full...)
He likes me, thinks I'm great, but is not ready for me yet! And that is why he will stay with his gf whom he thinks is clingy?
Q. Around March I received a friend request on facebook from this boy that was going to a college I had applied too. I didn't add him, just left it there and around july i finally added him because I was sure i was going to that college and I was bored ...
A. 3 April 2011: I have to agree with your other friends. He likes you, but not enough to want to have you as his girlfriend. These reasons of his for why he shouldn't or can't be with you is just excuses really. He could be saying anything, but the main message is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smells down there. Why, is this normal, and can it be changed?
Q. Before i start, im a girl, im 16, i have been with my boyfriend now for four months and i am really happy with the way things are going but here it goes... So, my boyfriend is a year older than me, he isn't very experienced, I am the first girl h...
A. 3 April 2011: Guys have their own unique scent down there, just like women do. Most guys will also have a distinctive taste to their sperm, and precum/body fluid. When a guy gets excited often there will be precum, and this could be what is causing the smell. You ... (read in full...)
After two years she has hurt me bad. How could she be so cruel?
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for about three weeks now. It really sucks. We broke up because it was long distance and she told me she thinks she has feelings for this other guy. Now on facebook I see pics of her and that guy at a party and then ...
A. 3 April 2011: She probably didn't put up those pictures to deliberately hurt you. I think you should stop thinking that she should take care of you and be kind to you, and start taking care of yourself! Stop checking her facebook! You are the one who hurt ... (read in full...)
Am I weird or is this a normal fetish?
Q. Hi all, I'm very new here and have always considered myself somewhat of a "freak" because of this. Ever since I was young when I had an operation and was put to sleep, I find myself aroused when I see pictures of myself asleep and even now I g...
A. 3 April 2011: Do you care if it is normal or not? Does it matter even? Whatever floats your boat, what does it matter if others think it is normal or not.
I'd say no, it's not "normal" in the way that many people have this fetish. But then again a fetish i... (read in full...)
LDR first meeting. I was on my period. Did that put him off oral?
Q. Does knowing your partner just came off her period put you off going down on her? Im in a LDR and went to see my bf a couple weeks ago. When I arrived I happened to get my period on the second day (I have irregular periods due to a medical condit...
A. 3 April 2011: I can't know, because this is something you must ask your boyfriend. If he was put off by it then that's up to him, there's no rule that guys in general get put off by it. Perhaps he thought you wouldn't like it as you just had your period, or ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are just room mates now but I want to sleep with him
Q. So me and this guy were dating for two years we broke up but remained good friends..... Last year he moved away n we were still friends we talked on the phone all the time soo finally he get an apartment n i leave home to roommate with him the ...
A. 2 April 2011: Why do you want to sleep with him? Are you just horny? Then can't you find another guy to have sex with and get it out of your system?
Your ex is pretty double standard if he sleeps in the same bed as you, takes blowjobs, and flirts, but doesn't ... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 2 April 2011: You are taking what happened with your ex to mean this will happen in future relationships as well. Instead of figuring out ways to handle the situation when it arises again I'd advice you to date a girl who can stand up for herself, lay down the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's relationship with his mother makes me uncomfortable.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a yr and three months now. I've been living with him and his mom and its like a relationship I've never seen before! So here I go... His mom has been married on and off been divorced three times so its real...
A. 2 April 2011: This is how he will treat you soon. Especially if you marry him. When you have a son he will expect you to obey to your son as well. Be careful.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me exactly what went wrong here?
Q. Dear Cupid Me and my bf of 2 years were arguing about stupid stuff today in my apartment and in the middle of an argument he said he was better than his father and i got angry, since his father was really a good man and my bf is an cheater (he c...
A. 2 April 2011: No matter how much you love him the fact remains that he doesn't love you enough to not cheat on you. Holding on to him simply because you love him is you failing to see that it takes two to have a relationship. You loving him just isn't enough.
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Should I tell my parents I can hear them having sex?
Q. I still live at home and my parents are in their 60's. I keep hearing them having sex and it's getting quite annoying and loud. Do you think I should say anything to them?...
A. 1 April 2011: No, don't say anything. Buy some ear plugs instead, and if they ask why you use them you can mention in a casual way that the walls aren't sound proof. But it's not something you should tell them really. If it annoys you move to a different part of ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits question.....
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I had to break up (my family forced it) So now we are just hanging out as friends. But the other day it turned into more (oral) and we've become friends with benefits. We've also sexted a few times. I still ...
A. 1 April 2011: FWB IS just hooking up for sex. Don't fool yourself. What I don't understand is why you had to break up with him? Your family isn't ok with you and him being a couple, but you and him being FWB is OK? I don't think so. If you broke up because of ... (read in full...)
Is it not normal for a girl to masturbate?
Q. Before you say anything, yes i'm quite aware that i'm a girl, but i mean, from what people say (not online or anything, like in 'reality') it seems as thought girls don't. But i do... At least once a week, usually once a day... But fro...
A. 1 April 2011: It's normal for girls to masturbate, but more guys than girls masturbate.
I think it's just because it's easy for guys to masturbate, the penis isn't that tricky to handle, it's pretty much straight forward. However few girls know how to masturba... (read in full...)
He asked me to pay for dinner on the second date! What should I think about this?
Q. If a man asks a woman to pay for dinner on the 2nd date what should she think ?...
A. 1 April 2011: Cerberus, if someone landed the bill in my lap on the first date I'd definitely not pay it as THAT is being taken advantage of. I don't get why you're arguing my words and bringing up my article, when they aren't contradicting each other.
Women... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 1 April 2011: Your ideal relationship sounds like a good one. It's good for you to keep your ideal relationship in mind when you consider girls for a relationship, and when you enter one. To remember exactly what it is you want, and if you feel you can't get your ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you dump a girl if she didnt have sex with you?
Q. This question is for guys and guys alone. Now i want you to be completely honest with me. If you were dating a teenaged girl and you were a teenager yourself, and you wanted to have sex badly and she didn't, would you dump her?...
A. 31 March 2011: I think I can answer all the same.
I wouldn't dump her if I was dating her for who she is and because I cared about her. If I was dating just because I wanted sex.. then yes I'd dump her.
Illithid, his case was different. It's different when y... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to make love to me, rather than just having sex?
Q. [MOD NOTE] User has written duplicates of one question, so we have combined the two in one post. I love my husband dearly, but he doesn't know how to make love to me. He thinks that having sex is making love. How do I make him understand the d...
A. 31 March 2011: Maybe you just need to teach him how it's done. Take charge and tell him how you want it to be. Then when you get down to it, ask him to move slower, ask him to look into your eyes, and remember to smile to him and make it enjoyable. Don't get upset ... (read in full...)
He asked me to pay for dinner on the second date! What should I think about this?
Q. If a man asks a woman to pay for dinner on the 2nd date what should she think ?...
A. 31 March 2011: Or did I get it right, the man asked you to pay for your own dinner right, not the entire dinner, his as well?
It is absolutely rude to ask someone to pay for your food! If you offer to pay for it that is fine, and a nice gesture, but to ask some... (read in full...)
He asked me to pay for dinner on the second date! What should I think about this?
Q. If a man asks a woman to pay for dinner on the 2nd date what should she think ?...
A. 31 March 2011: Option A: She should think that he's not a gentleman, and she can't expect red roses, chivalry, or to be treated like a lady. This man is all about equality, which means he will expect you to do just as must dirty jobs under the sink as he will.
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Is it ok for 2 men to share a bed??
Q. Is it normal for 2 grown men (early 40's) to sleep in the same bed? What if they were watching a movie and due to the late hour had simply fallen asleep? Is it normal for grown men to lay on the same bed watching a movie together in the first pl...
A. 31 March 2011: I don't see how that's anyones business. If you feel uncomfortable with it then don't do it. Other than that who cares. It's not anyones business if two guys feel comfortable enough with each other to share a bed. If someone cares then they have too ... (read in full...)
It's time we had sex. Tips please?
Q. I have been in my first relationship now for 3 months. So i am a rookie. What i want to know is when should i suggest having sex with my gf. she isn't a virgin, and i am. we haven't done anything like orals/handjobs, but do we need to do that before ...
A. 31 March 2011: There's no time set for when you should have sex or not. You do it when the relationship feels ready for it.
Do you want her? Do you want to have sex with her? Then go ahead and set the time and place. Invite her over somewhere where the setting ... (read in full...)
My bi-sexual wife has made friends with a lesbian. should I be worried?
Q. should i allow my wife to be friends with someone she's attracted to? my wife is bi and the person she's attracted to is a gay girl. i just found out about. shes been hiding it from me by deleteting her text messages. when i confronted her about it...
A. 31 March 2011: Treat it as you would had it been a man she was interested in and she was straight. This is something that could end your marriage, and you need to take this as a serious threat to your marriage. If she's confused about her marriage then she needs ... (read in full...)
Is sex with a 'player' a good idea?
Q. Hey I'll get right to the problem and i need answers asap! please :( The guy i had a crush on started talking to me about a month ago. He said he thought i was cute and a type of girl he would date. So he asked me to come over to his plac...
A. 31 March 2011: Yes you could get pregnant, and why didn't you use protection? There is no reason to not use one, either you use protection or you dont have sex! And if you think it wasn't planned think again, this guy had plans to have sex with you when he invited ... (read in full...)
Worried about my penis size
Q. i have a 5.7 inch erect penis length and 4.3 girth is this enough to satisfy a girl?......
A. 31 March 2011: Yes.... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my girl sits in my friends lap (innocently)?
Q. Hello Everyone. I have been dating this girl for about a year and a half and so far we haven't really fought over anything major, at least rarely. Recently, after saying I would stop being jealous over stupid stuff, might have been a bad idea, she ...
A. 31 March 2011: I often sit on my girl friends laps. Sitting on someones lap isn't always sexual, it is what you make it into. How if your girlfriend was sitting on a female friends lap? Would that be different? It shouldn't be, if it's a matter of principle and ... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my girl sits in my friends lap (innocently)?
Q. Hello Everyone. I have been dating this girl for about a year and a half and so far we haven't really fought over anything major, at least rarely. Recently, after saying I would stop being jealous over stupid stuff, might have been a bad idea, she ...
A. 31 March 2011: To me that is totally up to the situation, where she is at, is it a party, are there other places she could sit etc? Imagine if you are both at a crowded party, with friends, and everyone knows each other, having a laugh, but there's no more chairs, ... (read in full...)
Can I still think of myself as a virgin since my ex had a small penis?
Q. Is it possible to think you're still a virgin after you've had sex a few times??? Im asking this cuz my ex had a small penis and im ready to have sex with my new partner but im afraid cuz he has a 9 inch penis... Give me your opinions...
A. 31 March 2011: You're not a virgin honey, you had a penis inside of you. No matter how small, you had intercourse, you had sex, you got naked with a man and you did the deed. ... (read in full...)
Information on how to make a Russian girl happy on a date
Q. I know it's silly to ask, nationalities aside, people are people. Saying that, I do need some advice regarding a certain wonderful woman that I have met that happens to be Russian: I want to know what NOT to do and what I SHOULD, how to make her ...
A. 31 March 2011: Do not listen to Help.outGuy!! Are you just trying to be funny? That's the worst topics you can bring up, why not start discussing politics, Putin, and Chechnya while you're at it.
Russian girls hate it when guys joke about them drinking vodka et... (read in full...)
Hurt he didn't call, am I overreacting?
Q. I'm the kind of person that has always put in a lot of effort into my relationships. I used to go overboard with it but now I've definitely calmed down. I've really been trying to keep busy and not focus on my relationship because I know I have a ...
A. 31 March 2011: You're doing right in walking away if this is important to you. It's better to walk away than to try to change him. But, I'd still give him one more chance before dumping.
Tell him that when he says he will call, he needs to call, or have a d... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 31 March 2011: Then you have a control issue, not a trust issue. You know that's wrong and that you need to work on it, because even the most controlling person can not control other humans. You just can't. When you enter a relationship you put your heart in ... (read in full...)
Information on how to make a Russian girl happy on a date
Q. I know it's silly to ask, nationalities aside, people are people. Saying that, I do need some advice regarding a certain wonderful woman that I have met that happens to be Russian: I want to know what NOT to do and what I SHOULD, how to make her ...
A. 30 March 2011: Where are you from, how long have you dated her, and where is your relationship at at this point? You asked how to tell her you love her? Are you sure the relationship is at that stage if you just met her and is taking her out on a date? I wou... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 30 March 2011: If you do not trust them then they are strangers enough. You do trust your close friends right? That's the difference. And yes, there is no age set for how soon or late you should learn about life. The sooner the better actually. There is no use in ... (read in full...)
Hurt he didn't call, am I overreacting?
Q. I'm the kind of person that has always put in a lot of effort into my relationships. I used to go overboard with it but now I've definitely calmed down. I've really been trying to keep busy and not focus on my relationship because I know I have a ...
A. 30 March 2011: You're getting your period. Thread carefully! Unless you feel this exact same way in a week, when you are close to done with your period, then this is something you shouldn't speak of. You are a type of person who wants lots of attention and stress ... (read in full...)
A young, troubled guy, already.
Q. I have a question that has been on my mind for a little bit now, well, a few questions that is. 1. Why don't I really care for females anymore? I've only ever had three relationships, 2 being more than a month, one being two years. The longer ...
A. 30 March 2011: I think it is normal to feel this way after being lied to, and in particular after being cheated on. Every woman who breaks up with a jerk hates all men and swear she will never fall in love again. And that's just your average jerk, I can only ... (read in full...)
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