If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 5 August 2009: He is too complex, too much hard work, dishonest, disrespectful to your wishes and acts as if nothing is wrong, I'd catch a fast moving train in the opposite direction.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps calling me crazy
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years keeps telling me I am acting crazy because when we have problems all I want is to talk to him so we can work things out. He does not pick up the phone when I call. He does not reply back when I instant message him. I ...
A. 20 July 2009: You are too full on and are suffocating him. You should have stopped when he wouldn't answer his phone or respond to your sms. You can't force him to listen to you, he thinks your crazy because he feels pursued by you. You seem very insecure and ... (read in full...)
Is she worried or cheating
Q. my girlfriend used to stay with me quite a bit, lately she has been giving me excuses on why she cant. one nite i went over and she and 3 others were partying and she got mad i was there and asked me to leave. she says she hasnt cheated and its ...
A. 20 July 2009: It depends how long you have been going out and if you have both committed to each other. Did her excuses correspond with the party she had? I can't see the connection between being worried about a late period and having the party. Can we get more ... (read in full...)
Should I have a relationship with the boy I have been raising even though he is another man's son?
Q. I have been married for ten years. We have two sons. My wife recently told me she was having an affair with a coworker for five of those years. According to her, that man is the father of our youngest. Supposedly she broke it off six months ago ...
A. 16 July 2009: Your pretty angry...understandable. If you loved and cared for him as your son all those years then thats exactly what he is....no if's but's or maybes.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches a lot of porn and it makes me feel insecure about my own body!
Q. i just turned 17 and im a cup A :( i have a boyfriend. he is my first ever boyfriend and i am also his first. last month i told him my bra size. he told me it's fine and he doesnt mind small breasts as long as there's something to touch. lat...
A. 16 July 2009: You need to talk to him. Take him for coffee and explain how you feel uncomfortable about the porn...and then explain why. He will probably be glad you brought it up because he now knows it hurts you. By the way, when he tells you your boobs are ok, ... (read in full...)
What do men do when they realise their game doesn't work with you?
Q. What do men do when they realize their game doesn't work with you? In other words, you can pretty much see right through their bull. Do they try harder, freak out, or become tame? ...
A. 16 July 2009: They will immediately lose interest and look elsewhere.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about my past and I'm afraid I wont find anyone in the future who will accept me!
Q. I am a 16 year gal...I'm really finding it difficult to forget my past..here goes the story { In brief} I was in this relationship for about 13 months..After a long emotional drama..Fights..misunderstandings..Problems of insecurity.. We've called i...
A. 16 July 2009: Someone will find you and love you more than you could ever imagine, your past will have no bearing on this relationship and the incident will be as if it never happened. ... (read in full...)
Confused about this situation
Q. I became friends with a woman through work, so initially we saw each other only in the workplace. After a couple of months, I noticed that she would come up to me on the way out of work and ask if I was working the next day - we worked rotating ...
A. 16 July 2009: Everything has been going along just fine until that confusing statement, don't read into it as it is probably a throw away line that was not meant to stick. It is a complete contradiction to what you heard her discussing with her friend and ... (read in full...)
Venting relationship troubles
Q. Where to start? I am with this girl and she is 8 weeks pregnant with my child.She lives almost 2 hours away and neither of us has transportation at the moment.I broke up with her the morning of the 4th because she wanted to go home.I don`t have ...
A. 15 July 2009: Pretty heavy stuff. Part of the problem is that you haven't known each other very long so there hasn't been enough time to create a meaningful relationship and the connection between the two of you hasn't been established. The distance between you ... (read in full...)
I need closure, should I write him a letter?
Q. I wrote a post on here yesterday about my boyfriend cheating on me. I'm still extremely hurt by this as it is all new and fresh. He won't take my phone calls because he is so incredibly angry that I ended things with him. I guess he expected ...
A. 15 July 2009: I think the letter is a good idea, but don't drop it off post it.... (read in full...)
Venting relationship troubles
Q. Where to start? I am with this girl and she is 8 weeks pregnant with my child.She lives almost 2 hours away and neither of us has transportation at the moment.I broke up with her the morning of the 4th because she wanted to go home.I don`t have ...
A. 15 July 2009: If she wasn't pregnant I'd tell you to move on. I hate to say this but are you sure the baby is yours...sorry for asking but...... (read in full...)
I don't feeling comfortable exposing my breasts to my BF
Q. I am very paranoid about exposing my breasts, I'm not sure why. My boyfriend is very respectful of it and never asks me too but I can tell it is beginning to hurt his feelings like I'm not comfortable around him or something...any confidence ...
A. 15 July 2009: Just show them to him and the rest will fall into place (so to speak).... (read in full...)
Guys: What actions would make you give your ex girl another chance?
Q. To our guys here: Granted that you still love your ex girlfriend, in your opinion, what actions from her will convince you to go back to her once more? Should she be apologetic and sincere? Indifferent and has moved on? Or if she is with someone...
A. 15 July 2009: You should have mentioned all this in your first post then you would have got more replies to support you. It just won't work, you can't look into a guys eyes and know he loves you then have him reject you the next day. If you can't read him you ... (read in full...)
I think he doesn't love me anymore, and his comments about my weight hurt
Q. i have been with my botfriend now for almost 3 years. we have been through alot of bad times, but good times as well. i have stayed with him all summer long so far..things are great..but i feel like he isnt showing me enough attention anmore. he ...
A. 15 July 2009: I could think of about 3.2 billion guys who would like to know you. You do an enormous amount for him I doubt he would find another woman like you. Why do you do so much? It doesn't make sense that you would enslave yourself willingly like this as ... (read in full...)
He said he only stayed with me for six years because he felt obligated to, after everything I had done for him
Q. When I was 19 I fell in love with my best friend and him and I started dating and I lost my virginity to him. He was the first and only guy I had ever fallen in love with. It wasn't an easy journey because he was addicted to meth but I did ...
A. 14 July 2009: You will meet someone who loves you....very soon.... (read in full...)
I think he doesn't love me anymore, and his comments about my weight hurt
Q. i have been with my botfriend now for almost 3 years. we have been through alot of bad times, but good times as well. i have stayed with him all summer long so far..things are great..but i feel like he isnt showing me enough attention anmore. he ...
A. 14 July 2009: Why did you gain so much weight, you have glossed over this but I think it is important so we can get the complete picture. as It appears that some big things have happened in your life recently and this needs to be addressed first.... (read in full...)
Guys: What actions would make you give your ex girl another chance?
Q. To our guys here: Granted that you still love your ex girlfriend, in your opinion, what actions from her will convince you to go back to her once more? Should she be apologetic and sincere? Indifferent and has moved on? Or if she is with someone...
A. 14 July 2009: This could be better discussed in the forum section.... (read in full...)
I'm not happy but don't wish to end relationship just because I am depressed
Q. hi I am in a relationship, with someone i met around 9 months ago. he moved to my area when he was made redundant and got a good job in the catering industry. (i let him stay at my house, until he was back on his feet but because of my last relat...
A. 14 July 2009: Whatever makes you think you are mentally ill? You sound like a person who like all of us want to be with that person who truly loves and cares for us. In your case you should just let him go as you really do need someone who will be more of a ... (read in full...)
One night stand with someone I know!
Q. 3 months ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and he was my first and only. The other night I went out and saw a guy who I had gone on a date with once to a resturant. I will name this guy, guy B. Guy B had wanted to continue going out with me but ...
A. 14 July 2009: The only person who should feel ashamed is him. Even though he was drunk when it happened he did set the scene before it got to that stage. What you did was get too drunk in the company of an unscrupulous person and that is not your fault. In this ... (read in full...)
Rumors are swirling around at work about us and we aren't together!
Q. hi hope someone can maybe shed some light on what could be going on here. A few months ago a new guy joined my work and we seemed to get on ok. Over the last 2 - 3 months or so he has been talking to me more and we seemed to have a connection. my ...
A. 14 July 2009: His response to you may reflect his discomfort about the gossip. It doesn't matter how much you deny it the rumours will not go away in the short term. You have no choice but to work as colleagues and not friends, that doesn't mean ignoring each ... (read in full...)
My best friends BF has been cracking onto me, what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend. I love my bff as well, but her boyfriend kissed me. He also flirts with me when my bff and my boyfriend aren't around. He's always touching me and trying to hug me. I want to tell my boyfriend, but I'm too afraid that he'll ...
A. 14 July 2009: He will keep harassing you and taking advantage of you unless you put a stop to it. He will become more daring and eventually become more aggressive sexually as well as this if he gets caught he will blame you and then you will really be in ... (read in full...)
Will it seem desperate if I ask him to hang out?
Q. I've been dating someone for a couple of months, and a few days after our first date I asked him to have lunch with me that day - he couldn't, he was away for work that day. Then a couple of days after that I asked him to do something that weekend. ...
A. 14 July 2009: It shouldn't matter who asks who out, if you think like that then you see your relationship as some kind of chess game where there are winners and losers. Ask him out whenever you want and if he doesn't like it then you should find someone else.... (read in full...)
My brother planned a party that I didn't want. He said it was for a joke, but I feel like I was the joke!
Q. This last weekend was my birthday, and few months ago I had mentioned to my older brother that I would like a meal that just included the immediate family (2 sis, 1 other bro, and mom)A year ago my dad passed away 2 days after my birthday so I ...
A. 14 July 2009: You may not be aware of this but I think you were upset about the anniversary of your dads death and this flowed over to the party. Just mention this to your brother and friends and they will understand.... (read in full...)
He wants me to break up with my b/f but he won't commit to me
Q. Hello! Im am slightly confussed about this guy that I have a thing for online ... Okay, I'll tell you a few details; We've been chatting online for over a year now - I'm a student + I work weekends and he is a manager on a cruise ship which he ha...
A. 14 July 2009: As he is unwilling to commit then he has no right to demand anything of you, so you should feel free to anything you want. Given his ongoing hesitation about commitment and your persistence about it you need to be careful that he will say he is ... (read in full...)
My overly provocative friend....
Q. Views wanted on this please. I have a very good friend who has had a partner for the last 6 months and I have been with my partner for 4 years. However, we invited them round for supper last week and all night, my friend kept bending over and ...
A. 14 July 2009: You're right she did get dolled up for someone either your b/f or her sisters husband (don't dismiss this) depends who she was flashing her boobs at. As she was willing to do this in such a small family environment then she is a big attention seeker ... (read in full...)
What causes a man to constantly criticise the woman he's with?
Q. What causes a man to constantly criticise a girl that he's seeing? My boyfriend does this a lot. At first id laugh about it,because he always says it jokingly. But now I'm really starting to feel hurt by some of the things he says. For example,if ...
A. 14 July 2009: It doesn't matter why he says there things what matters is how you stop him. Next time he does it tell him that although it has been a joke and even some fun you now want it to stop because it is affecting how you feel about yourself. Tell him that ... (read in full...)
I don't feeling comfortable exposing my breasts to my BF
Q. I am very paranoid about exposing my breasts, I'm not sure why. My boyfriend is very respectful of it and never asks me too but I can tell it is beginning to hurt his feelings like I'm not comfortable around him or something...any confidence ...
A. 14 July 2009: You haven't mentioned why it is a problem eg do you think they are too small or large, has someone said something to you but ultimately you will have to show him. Why don't you have some fun with it and tell him you have a surprise for him.... (read in full...)
My overly provocative friend....
Q. Views wanted on this please. I have a very good friend who has had a partner for the last 6 months and I have been with my partner for 4 years. However, we invited them round for supper last week and all night, my friend kept bending over and ...
A. 13 July 2009: As her behaviour is the same for everyone and not just you and your boyfriend then I would not take this personally. I wouldn't worry about it as the only time it is a problem for you is when she is over at your place. I wouldn't talk to her unless ... (read in full...)
Two guys are chasing me for sex, what should I do?
Q. Well i'm a 14 year old girl, and um Lately i've been gettin alot of attention from the guy's i'm a Virgin and Just got out of a long bad Relationship, I know 2 Guy's That like me right now but They mostly want to have sex, tHat's not the bad Part, ...
A. 13 July 2009: Don't have sex with either of them and see if they remain interested in you. If you get dumped then you will be glad you did nothing. If one stays then you will know it was because you did not have sex and that having someone who cares is what is ... (read in full...)
When should I ask my ex to give me another chance?
Q. my ex and i broke up about a month ago, we ended on good terms. we text each other once in a while to see how we're both doing. i want to talk to her face to face but whenever i text her, when she is available she kind of avoids giving me an answer. ...
A. 13 July 2009: Tell her in person what you have said in this post and see what her response is, if you don't do this you will never have closure.... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about the porn I found on his computer!
Q. So recently I was on my boyfriend's computer and saw that he had google searched and dowloaded a porn video. The name sounded weird to me so I looked it up later and it turns out it was from a porn site where men have sex with women while they're ...
A. 13 July 2009: The only way to find out is to ask him about it even if it is embarrassing otherwise you are just guessing. ... (read in full...)
If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 13 July 2009: If he doesn't laugh with you or understand you, has nothing in common with you and you can't communicate with him then why do you think you should be spending time with him. Put him out of his suffering and let him go.
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I think I am in love, am I, and can I make this work despite of the age gap?
Q. hey i need help asap i met this guy and he is perfect i work in theater so i hav alot of gay friends (im bi so is this guy) but all of them think we r perfect and i totally agree i hav had many crushes and not to many boyfriends but not once hav i ...
A. 13 July 2009: What are you doing, you are only 13 spend more time with boys your own age or you will find yourself in water way above your head.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too selfish to tend to my needs!
Q. Hm, where do I begin? I've currently been in a LDR with my boyfriend for the past six months, we are not in a LDR any longer as he moved back to my hometown. I feel like he is the most selfish boy on the planet yet I instantly can forgive him with...
A. 13 July 2009: Why are you with this guy. He is selfish, lazy, doesn't care about you, uses you for easy sex, you are his washer woman, house keeper and banker. This story is not so much about your boyfriend but more about you. What in the hell are YOU doing with ... (read in full...)
I really need your advice on this one! How can I get her to open up about her feelings towards me?
Q. I apologize for the long post, but I feel that I’m experiencing a dilemma that requires some sort of a resolution. About three years ago I became the supervisor of a woman whom I found to be full of contradictions. (Currently I’m 43 and she is 39...
A. 13 July 2009: What a story. In your 2nd last paragraph you mentioned that she is looking for a steady relationship and ultimately marriage and that a relationship with her would not be emotionally healthy for her. If you know this is the case and not prepared to ... (read in full...)
What makes a guy suddenly want a break from sex?
Q. I just want to know from guys, but not just mainly... What would actually make a guy decide that they suddenly wanna take a break from sex? I'm just wondering....
A. 12 July 2009: Mostly if someone else is on the scene.... (read in full...)
What is my cousin's wife trying to do??
Q. I had a situation some years ago, I really loved this guy before and he kept lying to me that he was forced into a marriage but he really loved me, and I was stupid to believe him... So at the time my cousin and his wife were not married then..th...
A. 12 July 2009: This question has already been listed word for word and answered previously. No need to reply. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't get hard enough to have sex
Q. i need help when im with my boyfriend he cant get hard enough to make love to me weve been together off and on for 5 years now and we havent been able to make propper love making please hel ...
A. 12 July 2009: If he is in the 50's age group it could be a physiological issue, should see his doctor in case. If he is losing his libido try some erotic dvd's etc. ... (read in full...)
Why am I suddenly the enemy?
Q. Ok so...I have been with a man for nearly 6 years now, and we've had our share of problems. But recently his mother passed away. She was nearly 80 so..this was not unexpected. He has never had a good relationship with his parents, but after hi...
A. 12 July 2009: His family obviously don't like you or want you and are doing everything they can to poison his mind and are doing a good job of it. Because he has become guilty about cutting himself of from them he has left himself emotionally exposed to them and ... (read in full...)
What does he want from me? Getting mixed signals
Q. Well, I dunno how to start but I really need help. I'm 21 and the one I like is 22. We are from the same city. His house is close to mine, but we barely can meet as it is against the traditions in our country. Moreover, he studies in the states, ...
A. 12 July 2009: You need to move on. If he understands your culture he should have known that he is putting you at risk when he meets you and that kissing is a sign of commitment as you would know. Even if you match up how do you explain this to your family? they ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy mean when he tells others he wants to make me happy?
Q. What does a guy mean when he ask me if I am happy and when he tells others that he wants to make me happy? ...
A. 12 July 2009: You haven't provided enough information eg how long have you been going out, has he suggested marriage what kind of guy is he etc etc... (read in full...)
If he's interested, he'll ask me out again, right?
Q. I went out with a guy this past Sunday. Tonight he asked me if I wanted to go to this place tomorrow with him in the day time, but I can't because I have to work. So I texted him something like "stuck at work till 8..would definately go with you ...
A. 11 July 2009: Definately. Expect a call soon.... (read in full...)
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