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writes:My boyfriend of almost two years keeps telling me I am acting crazy because when we have problems all I want is to talk to him so we can work things out. He does not pick up the phone when I call. He does not reply back when I instant message him. I don't feel like he takes me seriously so I would just go to his house so he can talk to me by force. Then when I get there he starts to threaten me and tell me to go otherwise our relationship would be over. He promises we will talk then he still doesn't tell me what's wrong. The other day he practilly yelled at me and told me I was out of my mind. That I annoyed him. That he didn't trust me.....I don't know what to do. I am now trying to stay away and give him space. But it is hard for me because I feel like he will forget about me....I love him with all my heart...I gave giving him everything I have to offer and I don't feel like he appreciates me. I don't want to leave him. My feeling for him are very strong. I am also very attached to him but I am working hard within my self so not be so attached. He says he won't stop calling me crazy until my behavior changes. I love him so it bothers me that he out of all people would say that to me. I want him to treat me better. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): is your boyfriend my boyfriend too , lol
he is the same , i dont know what he really wants from me
he doesnt show any interset on me
he never call me , i always call him , he never text me
i am trying to make space but i cant , its hard
i always miss him
just try to make distant it may help
i will try too
best luck
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 No, you are not crazy. But you seem desperate. Leave him alone and quit chasing him.
Be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): It may hurt, but you need to gather all the strength inside you that you can & LEAVE! You should not subject yourself to being called "crazy" by someone you care for! And he has clearly told you in so many words that he doesn't want you:
"He does not pick up the phone when I call" "He does not reply back when I instant message him", "he starts to threaten me and "told me I was out of my mind, "That I annoyed him" "That he didn't trust me"...What other signs do you need? A relationship is not one sided where one partner does all the mending on their own, it takes two to make it work & from what you have stated clearly that's not what's happening, you seem to be concerned with the relationship more than he is.
You said: "I want him to treat me better", well whether you want him to or not, you cannot make him treat you better, you cannot force someone to treat you a different way. So do yourself a favor honey, leave this man & work on "you".
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 You are too full on and are suffocating him. You should have stopped when he wouldn't answer his phone or respond to your sms. You can't force him to listen to you, he thinks your crazy because he feels pursued by you. You seem very insecure and anxious about him leaving you. Your need to talk is understandable however I suspect that when you want to talk it for a very long time and that want to do it frequently, guys don't communicate like this. If here is a problem they will talk about it but it needs to be fairly brief (15-20 minutes max - generalising) and not go over and over the same issue or it will start to drive them crazy and oppressed. I think you need to sort yourself out first before you can have a long term meaningful relationship.
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