She didn't tell me she cheated but says I should just "let it go" and I can't!
Q. so, i just found out by looking through my friends phone that my fiancee of just over 2 years had made out with her "best friend" an ex bf i might add. When i called her out on it she said she was going to tell me "eventually" and said it was only ...
A. 26 July 2009: Not good news Trax, I know you were really pissed off but life does come back to repay us for all we have done.... (read in full...)
She didn't tell me she cheated but says I should just "let it go" and I can't!
Q. so, i just found out by looking through my friends phone that my fiancee of just over 2 years had made out with her "best friend" an ex bf i might add. When i called her out on it she said she was going to tell me "eventually" and said it was only ...
A. 22 July 2009: I have trouble trusting a 'friend' that tells you all this stuff about what she did, it doesn't sound right for a friend to stir you up like that. You have two choices, you can dump her and move on and start again or you can let this ride and accept ... (read in full...)
He says if I don't sleep with him, he won't help with our children
Q. heres the story: about 5 months ago my live-in boyfriend of 5 years left me. He instantly had a gf (which leads me to believe he was seeing her before the break up, altho he denies it) anyway, we keep in touch bc we have to, as we have children ...
A. 11 July 2009: Threatening to suicide in some cases can be a form of emotional blackmail so don't be drawn into his manipulation. You should be proud of what you have achieved so far.... (read in full...)
Beautiful with a small chest...is this a problem (just asking)
Q. Beautiful with a small chest...is that a problem? Just asking because... I recently found out that my boyfriend of pretty much 4 years and the father of my child has a big breast porn fetish that he has been hiding for some time. When I leave, he...
A. 26 June 2009: Everyone has certain preferences eg generally speaking men have a liking for 'pin up' type girls like those in playboy etc its a look that we are hard wired to recognise, it has a lot to do with our primeval past where for the purposes of survival ... (read in full...)
I'm lost and heartbroken that her parents are making her marry someone else!
Q. We were in love for the past 10 years,we are from different religions and now my girlfriends parents are forcing her to get married to someone, she really cant go against her parents wish and wants us to call off our relationship.Its been 10 years ...
A. 26 June 2009: To marry someone from a different religion and possibly a different ethnic group should not be too hard....unless you live in India. You know she has little choice as the alternative will mean being ostracised by both families and india is too hard ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship going nowhere?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half. It started out great. But recently I have been wondering more and more about how long we will last. I see all of her faults no matter how hard I try to ignore them. I find myself wishing ...
A. 26 June 2009: You haven't had much experience and seem restless as if you are missing out on something even if you don't know what it is. She sounds absolutely wonderful but if you are becoming increasingly restless and it is getting worse and you stay then you ... (read in full...)
How do I forget this girl he cheated with?
Q. i have been with my bf for 2 years.6months back he cheated on me with this girl i would like to call "k".the minute i found out about them my bf told me he cant dump "k" because he loves her like he loves me,and the sad part is that he compared me ...
A. 26 June 2009: Usually I'd say give it a go and move on and maybe that just what you need to do but I am concerned at his extreme reaction to you finding out and the things he said after that. I don't think the girl is the issue here.... (read in full...)
Parents will not accept the man I'm dating because of race
Q. i am 25 years old white girl,and just graduated my master. during my studies i met and felt in love with a black man. our chemistry and our relationship is amazing and we even talking about our future plans and that one day we want to get married ...
A. 26 June 2009: The choice seems to be your family or your partner and from what you describe there doesn't seem to be any middle ground. However this is not actually the case. Their strategy is to hit you with every shred of emotional blackmail they can so you ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in a marriage with little affection or sex? Is this all my fault?
Q. I have been married for two and half year, the sad part of this marriage is I don’t believe there is any affection when the time I married him. The whole relationship just gone crazy, I was tired of all the lies happened before. And he is very nic...
A. 26 June 2009: To not be able to give or receive affection is a cruel existence for you both however you could first speak to your family doctor who would probably recommend a therapist and then you could reassess the relationship, you owe this to him as much as ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me in all this big mess?
Q. My boyfriend just jumped me for my best friend. He says she led him on and that he loves her buh he also loves me. He said he can not lie about it and hurt me any more than he already has and that he'd rather be honest wit me :( She told him s...
A. 25 June 2009: Both boys are using you and your best friend should have known better, a lot better. Give your boyfriend a miss there are plently of guys out there who would easily fall in love with you, appreciate and value you. You can do a lot better..someone ... (read in full...)
17 year old daily marijuana smoker - will I grow anymore?
Q. I want to know if I'm going to grow I'm 17 and my mom is around 5'7 and my dads like 6'1 I'm 5'10 but my brother seemed to get to 6'1 just like my father I want to know if I'm going to grow at least to 6'0 I have went trough puberty and I'm not a ...
A. 25 June 2009: Why don't you stop smoking for say 6 months and if you have grown taller then you know that it was the weed that is the problem.... (read in full...)
What does losing the spark mean?
Q. What does "I don't see the spark on us anymore" mean? Me and my ex-gf just broke up, I love her wiht all my heart and when we were talking about it she said to me "I don't feel the spark anymore, its not the same as the first time we met." "I stil...
A. 25 June 2009: It means that when you think of that person you can't help smiling and when you see them you can't stop holding hands and when you are together away from the rest of the world you don't want to stop kissing...thats when sparks also turn into stars.... (read in full...)
She didn't tell me she cheated but says I should just "let it go" and I can't!
Q. so, i just found out by looking through my friends phone that my fiancee of just over 2 years had made out with her "best friend" an ex bf i might add. When i called her out on it she said she was going to tell me "eventually" and said it was only ...
A. 25 June 2009: No doubt she did the wrong thing by you and I understand why you are so upset. Look at it this way, she kissed him but chose to stay with you, tells me that the 10 second kiss wasn't so good after all. ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cheated, how do I make him realise it was a mistake and get this to work?
Q. i dont know what to do. my boyfriend and i broke up almost 2 months ago. we've been together since high school for about 51/2 yrs. and have a 3yr. old son. we love each other vary much but because we live on a vary sm. island, we have gotten ...
A. 25 June 2009: No more games. Leave a message, don't beg be calm and be sincere then wait for him to call, be patient let 10 days pass then call once more using the same manner I just mentioned. Wait again, you can't force this and the more you sound desperate the ... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend and I'm scared
Q. please someone help me this guy asked me out and i said yes we never actually went out or hung out so i felt like it was pointless but i really do like him.then i told him that its useless and now its really awekward between us he keeps sayi...
A. 25 June 2009: You haven't done anything wrong and you arn't an idiot this is just a new experience for you and at your age its an uncomfortable and nervous experience. Just let him know how nervouse you are because you have never had a boyfriend and that you do ... (read in full...)
My BF left after an innocent misunderstanding? How do I make him trust me?
Q. Me in my BF been together for 7 years now we have a little girl and all but lately things have been really bad. We don't go out we are always arguing and tonight I was updating my face book status and one of my co workers must have seen that I was ...
A. 25 June 2009: He'll be back when he cools down. I can understand him being upset as a 2am text seems irregular especially in a long term relationship. But still its not your fault and you have done nothing wrong. He will talk to you but this time be calm and ... (read in full...)
Is she lying when she says my premature ejaculation doesn't bother her?
Q. hi I am wondering if this problem I think I may have is normal. And why I think I may bring my relationship to an end. When having sex with my partner I feel as though I ejaculate to soon (sometimes less than a minute, some times less than fiv...
A. 25 June 2009: You could try a spray with 9.6% lignocaine I'm not sure about England but you might be able to get it at a phamacy there or possible a sex shop, if not try the internet. Don't over use it and in the beginning you might want to use a condom as it ... (read in full...)
I need a free porn blocker!
Q. my brother(35) using porn websites on my 10 years sister computer is there any free porn blocker on the internet. i fought with my brother over it.hes just a **** about it. He says it was none of my business and he got vicious with me ...
A. 25 June 2009: I'm not sure what you mean by vicious but unless its strong violence you need to take him on. To avoid his aggression I'd suggest coming home ranting at him about being contacted by your daughters school about it (daughter mentioned something or ... (read in full...)
Is she lying when she says my premature ejaculation doesn't bother her?
Q. hi I am wondering if this problem I think I may have is normal. And why I think I may bring my relationship to an end. When having sex with my partner I feel as though I ejaculate to soon (sometimes less than a minute, some times less than fiv...
A. 25 June 2009: Its possible anxiety related and may also be linked to how long you have been with her etc. When you say the second time do you mean in the same session? ... (read in full...)
Should I try talking to the girl that broke my heart? Or move on?
Q. I found someone that I had tried to forget long ago on a dating/chat website that I roam, When I saw a picture I clicked it thinking hey she is kind of cute, then when it popped up full scale my heart skipped a beat as it clicked and I looked at the ...
A. 25 June 2009: Would you be prepared to go through the same pain or worse if it didn't work again?... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship?
Q. I'm dating a guy for the past 3mths and he's a sweetheart, he tells me that he loves me, but he still has his profile on numerous dating websites, I find this disrespectful and I'm seriously thinking of ending this relationship. Can you please ...
A. 24 June 2009: Just mention that his profiles are still up and that he doesn't need them anymore. If he does then no problem but if he doesn't then he is keeping his options open in case he can find someone better.... (read in full...)
I've asked him to stop but he won't - what can I do?
Q. My husband is flirting over the internet. He goes into instant messenger and flirts with women all over the world. When I confront him, he says its just a joke, nothing serious, it just a hobby. One of these ladies told him she would be visiting ...
A. 24 June 2009: He's flirting on line, having fun and is probbly some what addicted by it, the problem is he just might get a bite whether he wants to or not and thats where the temptation is. For the time being just keep an eye on him and watch for irregular ... (read in full...)
I need your help with regards to my husband and his work female friend
Q. i am married for over 6 years now and have 1 child. its been 2 years now that one day i have checked his mobile out of curiousity and seen a msg sent by him to her saying 'ok.kisses everywhere'. i have discussed this with him and claimed that it was ...
A. 24 June 2009: If you aren't normally a jealous person and you are concerned now then you are probably on the right track. Tthey are flirting with each other and the energy that creates can be difficult to walk away from. You may also be annoyed because he has ... (read in full...)
I introduced them and now they're texting one another, thing is I liked him first!
Q. Okay so I have this best guy friend whom I love like a brother and he knows everything about me and I feel super comfortable with him, the thing is I introduced him to my best chick friend about a year ago and now she gave him her number and she ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think you may feel like you have lost a unique personal relationship and disappointed that he seems to be unloyal to you after all you have shared. You need to talk to him and let him know that what he is doing is upsetting you and then speak to ... (read in full...)
Should I get there first and end it before he does?
Q. I met a guy at uni and become really close to him. we lost touch for a couple of years and recently met up . with a bit of alcohol and the obvious attraction still there, we ended up kissing. a week later caught up again and decided we'd be toget...
A. 24 June 2009: He must like you a lot to warn you that you could get hurt but that comment can apply to any couple in any relationship whether it is said or not, thats the risk we all take when finding a partner. He may also be moving into the same timeframe when ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do and am terrified he'll reject me!
Q. I'm totally in love with this guy but I know he wouldn't like me. We're great friends but I know I'll never be his girlfriend. He is a really really good guy, I've know him for years, but he is not interested in me! He said he wasn't interested in ...
A. 24 June 2009: He has made his position very clear and the fact that he told you indicates that he clearly does not want you to take it further, and if you do and you get rejected then that will make the existing friendship you have very difficult to maintain. ... (read in full...)
What should I do with this guy at work flirting with me having a GF in the same company?
Q. This is a co worker of mine. His GF works in the same company but different area. I know both of them, although I knew him long time ago. I´ve seen lately that he likes to talk to me and likes to hang around me and when he sees me he tried to get ...
A. 24 June 2009: If he were your boyfriend and he spoke behind your back like this I'm sure you would be angry and upset, so if he did become your b/f you can be sure you would get the same treatment. He is not worth knowing and you need to talk to him to let him ... (read in full...)
He keeps breaking his promises. Should I stop all contact?
Q. Hi my ex broke up with me. He had mentioned to me about being friends. At first I didn't want to , because I was so in love with me and my hurt would start all over again when ever I talked to,but not by the grace of God and advice from you all my ...
A. 24 June 2009: He is neither a boyfriend or a friend. You already know he had his day and that is now long gone. Time to leave again and this time close the door on him for good.... (read in full...)
Cheating wife and I don't think I can forgive her!
Q. just found out my wife has done something with another man,she said they havent had sex but only done it the once,we been together 20years,dont think i can forgive her,she says shes sorry and wants us to start again, she said it was because she was ...
A. 23 June 2009: I feel so sorry for you right now, the pain must be unbearable and your heart must feel terribly broken, there is nothing I can say that will make you feel better right now but what we can do is somehow put this in perspective. You have been ... (read in full...)
He says he's lonely and that's why he looks for others
Q. I'd like some advice from guys and girls out there. My bf and I have been together 9 yrs, but split up 1 yr ago for 6 months out of the blue, and I found out he was 'seeing' a female work colleague, posting himself on adult dating sites and ...
A. 23 June 2009: He is a serial cheat, hooked on porno and dating sites, having sex with any women he can then admits it but says that it is because he is unhappy which infers that he is not happy even when he is with you. Serial offenders reoffend as you have just ... (read in full...)
How do I confront her about her escapades with her ex?
Q. I am newly separated after 27 years of marriage. I met a wonderful woman through a dating service and have been with her for eight months. She was married for 17 years and had a kinky sexual relationship with her ex. I have no problem with that. He ...
A. 23 June 2009: It doesn't matter what happened after the split as long as she has been true to you, loved and valued you since being together, thats all that matters. I am interested as to why she kept the photos knowing how much they could hurt you if found.... (read in full...)
I embarassed my gf and now she wont talk to me!
Q. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years went to a party together. She usually doesn't wear stuff that shows off her body cause she thinks its slutty (she only wears clothes that sre 3 sizes too big or borrows my clothes). Anyway I somehow get her to a tube ...
A. 23 June 2009: Buddy, first you got her to do something she didn't want to but did because she wanted to please you, then you let your dickhead friends humiliate her in public and worse you joined them in the humiliation. Why is she with you?... (read in full...)
Should we go ahead with the threesome?
Q. Hi there, I'm in need of some advice regarding my current relationship/sexlife I'm Bi and have been for a long time, I've always wanted and still really want to have a three sum with another woman as well as my partner or with two other women for...
A. 23 June 2009: I don't think it is about how you would react but how he would. If he is sexually shy with little experience and he sees you really enjoying the experience with the third person he will definately feel left out and confused especially as he is ... (read in full...)
Break Down of communication with my husband of 25 years!, please help.
Q. Please can someone advise me, I have a problem with communication with my husband of 25 years. We had a dissagreement which was extremely minor and then he went off in a sulk to the pub to meet his friend. He did not return home that night and in ...
A. 23 June 2009: There seem to be two issues 1 the way you both interact and 2 the incident you describe.
From what you said it seems like the way you both interact is still the same as it usually is its that a bigger issue than usual has highlighted the disfunct... (read in full...)
I want him to go down on my more often!
Q. Ok ... here's my deal. I LOVE when my boyfriend goes down on me. I crave it and even daydream about it! The problem is he hardly ever does. He will occasionally but only when he "feels like it" even when I give him oral he hardly ever returns the ...
A. 23 June 2009: Some guys just don't like it but there may also be other reasons. Talk to him about it as it may be something that is easy to sort out eg he might not know how much you like it or when best to do it or he may need your advice because he might not ... (read in full...)
I've Fallen in love with an older man! What is the right decision?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 6 months and am head over heels in love with him, but, he is 18 years older than me, divorced, and has five children. We have very similar beliefs and out looks on life and want the same things in the future. Unlike him ...
A. 23 June 2009: He has a lot of stuff you will have to deal with, the kids alone will cause your problems as some are probably older than you. His relatives and friends will probably ostracise you and your own friends will have trouble connecting with him. As a... (read in full...)
How could he love me and still be on dating sites?
Q. I just reunited with my ex. We broke up for about a month, during that month it was a back and forth deal, he would text me missing me terribly and vice versa. I can't say what my status is with him right now. He's been on dating sites while we were ...
A. 22 June 2009: I agree with the comments made by 'chippy2'. Move on he's just using you for sex and will move on as soon as his text girlfriend is available. ... (read in full...)
I just want friendship, its not the right time for anything else!
Q. i chatted wid this guy who after the 3rd chat told me that he loved me very dearly. i'm 17 and he's 29; its not my age to get involved in anything such as this, i've to focus in my studies and have lots moreto do in life. i just wanna make him my ...
A. 22 June 2009: He will never be your friend because thats is not what he wants. To be blunt he is manipulating you and the fact that his has said this after the third meeting says that he thinks you are stupid and will fall for any comment that might flatter you. ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 14 and I want to take things alot slower!
Q. I've been chatting to my mates old boy mate online for a while now, we've met a few times but the last time we met he suggested we went back to his to watch a few movies. I wasn't alone it was me and my mate with him and his mate. When we got to his ...
A. 22 June 2009: Given that this happened the first time you met and that he persisted even after you made it clear you did not want him to do it I suggest you talk to him about what happened, tell him you didn't want to go that far. Explain that if he cared about ... (read in full...)
I am 19 I have been seeing my boss since I was 17
Q. i am 19 i have been seeing my boss since i was 17..the first time he kissed me i stopped it and said you have a fiance he said sorry but done it again and it led to something else i told him i love him he said it straight he wont leave his wife but ...
A. 22 June 2009: Your young, nieve, easy to manipulate and now providing regular free sex with no strings attached so of course he will still make you feel special and tell you sweet things to make you think he can't do without you, those who prey on young women ... (read in full...)
I am really regretting this "open marriage" arrangement!
Q. I'm not sure how to begin. Several years ago, my wife and I agreed to an open-marriage. I'm not happy with it at all and feel neglected, and to be honest, I feel less of a husband. She knows how I feel and even has tried to stop several times, ...
A. 22 June 2009: She is hooked on it and like a drug it is hard to let it go especially as it has been going on for so long and it has been part of her lifestyle for so long. Because it is seriously affecting you it needs to be sorted out and as you have already ... (read in full...)
He says if I don't sleep with him, he won't help with our children
Q. heres the story: about 5 months ago my live-in boyfriend of 5 years left me. He instantly had a gf (which leads me to believe he was seeing her before the break up, altho he denies it) anyway, we keep in touch bc we have to, as we have children ...
A. 22 June 2009: What a complete jerk, a lowlife. His behaviour is repugnant to all that is decent in a human being. Yes you are right he is blackmailing you to become his prostitute. Someone like this should not be looking after your kids anyway as anyone who ... (read in full...)
We were caught naked by my husband! Now what?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for nearly a year I,m in the process of separation from my husband. The guy i am seeing is still married he tells me he is leaving his wife next year when his youngest child will be 18. The big problem i have is that we ...
A. 21 June 2009: Carry on the relationship as if your husband hadn't caught you naked. Why would you change because o this. The question not asked is the married man who 'will leave his wife next year' we have all heard that one a thousand times before. For your ... (read in full...)
She's 12 and I have feelings for her
Q. ok so, i went to my friends birthday party yesterday and his sister had a couple of friends round ... there was this girl who just seemed to make something click in my brain and she was pretty funny for her age ... but the only problem (or is it a ...
A. 21 June 2009: At your age hormones are popping all over the place and sometimes they focus on someone who should not be in the picture. Recognise this, move on and allow your antenna to find someone closer to your age group.... (read in full...)
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