My wife is not interested in sex anymore.
Q. My wife of 6 years is not interested in sex. In all other respects our relationship is excellent. We get on really well with no arguments or disagreements, and are each other's best friends. But since day one she has had a low sex drive, and show...
A. 14 June 2009: You sound like a caring and loving husband I'm glad you shared this with us as there are too many negative images of husbands. I agree with what babyduck and KiwiiTOS have said.I think Kiwiitos is right, sit down and tell her exactly what you have ... (read in full...)
He asked me an inappropriate question, why ?
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost 4 weeks now... things are going really well. Last night I went to a barbecue. When I talked to the special guy today and he asked me how the barbecue was... I said it was fun, told him a few highlights, ...
A. 14 June 2009: It doesn't matter why you think he may have said it a person who respects and cares for you even after only 4 weeks would not have said that. He is not the kind of person you want to be with, there are heaps of decent guys out there who will see ... (read in full...)
It seems I am going to have to get over him, any effective suggestions?
Q. okay so i danced with my crush at prom, he was the one who grabbed me from behind and started dancing with me. While we were dancing; he took my hand and folded his into mine; he kept rubbing my arms and when we slow danced; he kept rubbing my back ...
A. 14 June 2009: You should be very proud of yourself. You showed a lot of maturity and courage when talking to him and being honest about your sms and about how you really felt. It is now up to him to take the next step. If this doesn't happen you can move on ... (read in full...)
Anything that I can do to calm my girfriend down, she thinks she is pregnant?
Q. my girlfriend isn't scheduled to start her period for another week or so, but she thinks she is pregnant?? is this possible?? she is not on the pill and while we might start sex without a condom, i always put one on during sex. i feel confident ...
A. 14 June 2009: You seem responsible and careful so she is probably ok. Do not get drawn into her anxiety, No good trying to constantly reassure her, You need to keep calm and let her see your confidence and certainity that all is ok. You can't do anything more but ... (read in full...)
My ex threatened my first love, and told him lies, how do I fix this?
Q. 20 years ago I ended a relationship when I moved out of state. I never fell out of love with my first love but ended up marrying someone else 10 years ago. Last year I began my seperation with my husband, at the same time unknowingly my first love ...
A. 14 June 2009: I can understand why he is putting distance between you two. Your husband has threatened him twice. If it was only once it might have been ok but now he knows he can be 'pursued' by an agressive, angry and potentially violent husband. Its a lot for ... (read in full...)
Do I stay married and let her cheat?
Q. My wife and I have been married for six years and together for eleven. We have two beautiful boys soon to be five and six. On our third year of marriage work required me to leave for a year and I was only able to return for a two week block about ...
A. 13 June 2009: Its over and you know it you really don't need any of us to tell you that. See a lawyer, work out the finances find out what your options will be with regard to the kids. Can't believe she ran to ask your permission to go out with him...its over.... (read in full...)
Mom's boyfriend came into my room and played with me..how do I tell my mom?
Q. okay, last night my mom had to work (as usual). her boyfriend just moved in last week, so he is around when she's not. last night before I fell asleep, he came in my room and sat on my bed. he talked to me about boys and how now i was old enough to ...
A. 13 June 2009: You must tell your mum or he will do this over and over. One way to do this is to tell an aunty, uncle or a friends mum, someone your mother trusts or is close to. Let them tell her if you can't. I can assure once you tell your story that person ... (read in full...)
We're going to have to be apart and I don't know what to do!
Q. In need of help. Me and My boyfriend have been together for 2 years now and we have a fantastic relationship! Honestly its great he makes me feel alive, we have the same dry sense of humour where only us laugh he utterly adores me and cares for me ...
A. 13 June 2009: Its going to be painful no matter what you do. Long term relationships are very difficult to maintain, you can send sms and emails but this could make you even more heartsick or possibly lessen some of the pain a little. Either way you will find out ... (read in full...)
I'm doing something I think is important, but my g/f is afraid for me
Q. I'm 18 almost 19 and I'm signing up for the Army, I believe there is a great career in the Army and I think it will be rewarding to do, helping people all over the world. But my girlfriend is very worried and at one point she cried. I really want to ...
A. 13 June 2009: She clearly loves you, but you know that. You know you need to follow your heart and I know you will. Once she knows that you are doing this because it is important to you then she will eventually accept your decision. She will always be worried but ... (read in full...)
My husband kept pressuring me for sex when I was depressed
Q. My mom recently died and so I been a bit depress lately. I stopped wanting to do anything sexual with my husband. He was really annoyed by it. He still kept pressuring me. Anyway he come home really wasted and he come behind me and played with my ...
A. 13 June 2009: You have evey right to be angry with him. Given that you are still mourning your mother and may continue to do so for sometime, his behaviour is selfish in the extreme. Quite frankly he deserves to stay at the motel until he realises that he did not ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake cutting the other guy off!
Q. I'm afraid I made a bad choice, all I want is to be happy! Recently, I met this guy, we got along great, and he was normally really good to me. We had a few tiffs along the way though, and decided to remain friends, he soon after got a girlfriend. ...
A. 13 June 2009: I know you are upset about your decision but at your age emotions are all over the place, which explains why you aren't sure which way to go. First you need to be sure about what you want and if you can't do this then make a choice and stick with it ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't love me anymore and it hurts so much
Q. Hi,there everyone. I am in so much agony and pain. My heart truly aches, I never thought that was actually possible, but it does. I have been married for almost 22 years. We have two teenagers and one five year old. About 8 months ago, my ...
A. 13 June 2009: You sound like the most wonderful person, loyal, dedicated, caring and sensitive. You have been committed to the family and to him. You do the books, bring up the kids and do all the really hard work in the relationship. Its painful to hear how ... (read in full...)
Was I a fool to sleep with him after just a month?
Q. Hi all, Can you advise please. i am separated for 4 months now and i met a guy beginning of may, not my usually type so i reckon that was a good omen. Anyhow we have met a few times, he makes me laugh and we generally get along very well. ...
A. 12 June 2009: As long as you enjoyed sleeping with him then that is fine, but the real issue is that it is not likely that you are going to have a long term relationship if he lives 100 miles away. You need to be realistic, be glad you met someone nice and now go ... (read in full...)
Can you suggest if it is fine to trust this Turkish man and go ahead and marry him?
Q. Are Turkish men trustworthy? I am an indian girl sharing a relationship with a 34 year old turkish man who came to india on official purpose (for a period of one year). We met and he expressed his love for me. We have been seeing each other for a...
A. 12 June 2009: If you look at your message carefully you will notice that you mentioned more negatives then positives, a lot more. A person in love and certain of someone else's love would not have so many unanswered questions, far to many to gamble your ... (read in full...)
Lacking in communication, sexless marriage, what should I do?
Q. I am a 37 year old man. I have been married for 8 years with one 3 year old girl. My question revolves around sex. for the last few years i am lucky to get lucky once every 3 months to 6 months, and then i have to almost beg for it. when i try ...
A. 11 June 2009: Forget about the sex for the moment. You will need some patience for this don't expect a quick fix it will take time but it will be worth it. Start from scratch, in a gentle almost unkowning way begin to pay her some attention. Don't go at this too ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a relationship with an older man?
Q. Hi i'm 21 years old and a 43 year old man is interested in me. I like him because he is the opposite of me. We have nothing in common duh!. We have already kissed and It was nice. I am not naive to the fact that it is just about sex but should I ...
A. 11 June 2009: I suppose it depends on whether you want a sexual relationship or not...that's all its probably going to be...your friend... (read in full...)
My mum won't let me get my hair cut!
Q. hi. i really want to cut my hair but my mum wont let me. it's waist length now and it's not really practical for when i have to do lab work. my mum is a religious fanatic and refuses to let me have a hair cut. its not like i want it really short, ...
A. 11 June 2009: I like Dmct90's suggestion, its not a situation she can debate with you.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he last that long?
Q. Ok me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 5 months and well he doesnt last that long. Sometimes he doesnt even last a mintue and i cant go that fast cause the faster i go, the faster he cums. I have told my friends about it and they said ...
A. 11 June 2009: There are lots of reasons, he could be anxious may have had an experience with a girl who wasn't sympathetic when it first happened which affected his self esteem and loss of confidence etc. Take the focus and pressure off him by encouraging him ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my ex thinking so awfully of me?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't trust me because I kept my "past" from him when we first started dating and he thinks this past was slutty, although everyone has told me it wasn't (I used to make out with guys at parties, no strings attached, you get the ...
A. 11 June 2009: Just find another guy.... (read in full...)
Can someone please tell me what's in this man's head?!?!?
Q. ok, I went out with this guy (ill call him John)for a year. I was 22, him 23. Both living at our respective parents house. I was sleeping at his place quite often since my job was near by. I knew his mom, step dad, grandma... and was getting ...
A. 11 June 2009: One evening very soon sit down and look at yourself in the mirror then make believe you are his fiance, sit with that for a while, then get a sense of how you feel, then you'll know how you would feel if someone did that to you...your friend... (read in full...)
Parents don't approve. How can I make them like my friends?
Q. Hey there! my friend and i have been hanging out with some friends of ours who live 20 min away and im 16 and she is 14, and well the oldest guy there is 18 and he is the driver, and then the rest is 15,17,14,and 15. and there is on...
A. 11 June 2009: i don't think its about geting your parents to understand, its more like understanding why they need to be that way. You say you are all chilling out and noone has made a move but the cool 15 year old guy blows in your ear to turn you on. Read your ... (read in full...)
How can we get her to join us in a threesome?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend of 3 years have thought of having a threesome with him and another girl. and this was basically all my idea, but i am bisexual, and i think this would make my fantasy come real as also give him good pleasure, but we don't ...
A. 11 June 2009: What happens if after the experience you find her really likes your friend more then you and he wants to make the changeover...... (read in full...)
Are teachers now days giving off wrong ideas?
Q. Something you hear alot now days from teeagers.( Mostly girls). That they think their teacher is flirting with them or is being a pervert. I am a teenager myself. I know by first hand what their going threw. They need to know the difference of being ...
A. 11 June 2009: You are very perceptive and clearly a very mature person. You would be a good person to have as a friend... (read in full...)
Should I have sex at 13?
Q. i want to have sex with my boyfriend and he wants to as well but we r only 13 is it ok if we did?...
A. 11 June 2009: I wouldn't advise it. Beside all the things that could happen, sexually transmitted disease (regardless that he will tell you he is clean), pregnancy (don't think a condom always works..if he wears one) and the agony of losing him if he loses ... (read in full...)
Sensitive penis...
Q. Ok, so I badly want to have sex! I'm 21, only had sex once before and my current situation means that I HAVE to wear a condom, no question! My problem is, I have such a sensitive penis. Whether im erect or not, the thought of someone/somethin...
A. 10 June 2009: Sensitivity like this is not unusual, its just that guys don't want to talk about it because we are supposed to be 'such good performers' (its a guy thing). anxiety makes it worse and taking valium or zanax can sometimes make is worse. Yes you can ... (read in full...)
Can guys be in the mood for sex if they did it the day before?
Q. Hi, i'm 20 years old and I had great sex the night before with my gf for a good 40 minutes, but the next night she wanted to do it again, and i wasnt in the mood, i couldnt get aroused, is that normal? Can a guy really not be in the mood for sex ...
A. 9 June 2009: If you are doing it for so long its unlikely you could keep this up on a regular basis. Guys were not designed to do this. Sex in 'cave man' times was short and quick as they had to be on guard and aware of external dangers. Modern life has changed ... (read in full...)
Leaving my wife after 15 years of pain
Q. My wife changed the night our first child was born. We had been together for two years before that, and she was a happy, loving woman. When I left her at the hospital after our son was born, she was still the same happy woman, but when I came to ...
A. 9 June 2009: I don't think there are very many people who understand just how hard life can be living with a person with bipolar disease. I have had it since my thirties (a long time ago now) and went through every medication on the market. surprised my wife ... (read in full...)
Should my husband and I swap with my sister and her husband?
Q. hi i am 34 years old married woman and my husband is 36 years old working in multinational. we both like sex too much and we do sex daily morning and night 2-3 times. now we are thinking to have sex with other married couple and both are agree. he ...
A. 9 June 2009: You are right that your husband and brother in law have planned this. If you both want an open relationship I think that is fine as long as you both agree and are happy BUT what your huband is proposing will probably ruin your marriage. Most open ... (read in full...)
Something has been missing for a long time, I cheated, but I'm miserable
Q. Im not really sure where to start with this mess that I am in. Im in a relationship and have been for a very long time but at the end of last year, even though I have never even looked in the direction of another man since we have been together I ...
A. 9 June 2009: No need to feel guilty, you have the right to your experiences whether you think they are good or not so good so relax for the moment while I talk to you. In your situation the more you find something taboo and the more you push it away and the more ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, how do I deal with the guilt?
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend a few days ago. Not really doing anything actually just making out but I feel incredibly guilty about it and am not sure what to do. Please give me advice....
A. 6 June 2009: Say absolutely nothing. It is not wrong to do this as your experience is a learning opportunity.It will help you to understand yourself a little more. a tell all relationship will never survive, in fact if you feel guilty then this means you ... (read in full...)
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