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writes:Hello I am a student in middle-school(Korea) and I am school vice-president. I am the top in my school in grades and I have many friends(btw I am korean but I am fluent in English). Whenever I like someone, I felt good when something we did matched or she complimented me. But recently I have just gone insane. Because of one girl. Since I am vice-president, I must do the mc of my school festival with the other 9th grade vice president(Girl) and the 9th grade president(Male)(I am 8th grade male). We had to wear suits and dresses. The moment I saw the 9th grade vp I was just entranced. That day I couldn't go to sleep and I started day-dreaming in classes. Everyone looked like her in my eyes. So let me tell you about this girl. She is 1 year older than me and she graduates in 3 monthes(remember I live in Korea). I first met her in an English learning program for 6 months. I only had a light crush at that moment. After 6 more months I met her again as we both became vice presidents. After 9 months we started to talk at least. We were never on speaking terms. But I have 4 problems. First of all my best friend likes her too and gave her a rose at the festival. Second is we don't have a strong link(like friendship). After the festival the 9th grade class presidents and the school presidents I was laughing and getting along with everyone but her, and as a 9th grade said bye to me as we parted, she said bye in a small voice. Third she is extremely popular. And last she graduates in 3 months and, according to my mom's info from her mom, she is planning to go to a high schools really far away from my dream school.. I don't know what to do. I can't concentrate in classes and all I can think about is her. I start learning music about songs that relate to me and her, and I fear that my grades will drop suddenly.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (22 October 2012):
Hello to Korea!
I have some small knowledge about Korea's culture but maybe crushes, romance is not so different. You would be surprised that many feel the same as you.
I have straight-forward advice. For starters, DO something about the situation. Talk to the girl, and be honest with her. Popularity is not important. You need to be brave and begin to form an area of communication. EVEN if she is not interested in communication, you will feel MUCH better that you have made an attempt. It can help to try to speak with other girls, since our expectations are blown way out of proportion with reality. I didn't say to ask her out. But if you talk to her and after 2 or 3 days, things seem favourable (she laughs with you etc) then ask her out/confess.
Ignore things which don't matter, her future, your future, popularity...these are things you tell yourself over and over because you are afraid to make an attempt. She does not even know you so you have nothing to lose. At the very least you will gain so much experience. If you do something, your thoughts will not overwhelm you and your grades may not suffer.
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reader, jazzone  +, writes (22 October 2012):
Hey I'm Korean myself! But to be honest, a part of me would say forget about her and worry about your grades because you're young and you should focus on school. Plus you have plenty of time to find a girl. The other part of me would say go for it because you never know what could happen. Tell her how you feel and who knows, you might go to school together. That's what a relationship is all about, taking a chance and gamble to get to know someone and letting someone know you. As I think about it now, I think I would take that risk because it's obviously a burning question inside of you and you don't want to look back at it and say,"what if" because you might regret it and it would just be that, a burning question forever. So go for it man. What's the worst that could happen, her saying no. Oh well, if so just move on and focus on your grades. At least you knew you took a chance and had no regrets later in life. Well, good luck to you bro!
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 HI
The good thing is you have noticed now that this crush is spoiling your chances of getting good if not great grades. I think the best thing for you to do is just tell her how you feel, this way you will know one way or another if she feels the same way. If not you can move on and concentrate on your grades, and if she does you will be in a natural high mood and will fly through your grades. I wish you luck .
Mandy x
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