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writes:Ive just learnt that my bf would want me to have an abortion if i were to fall pregnant now as he doesnt want a kidFor at least a few years. He was serious. We've had this talk before but it has never said that. We have been together for 3 years. He is 32 and i am 27. He has known that i want children ( and told Me he does too). He also said ( not sure if he was joking) that if i did not, he would not stick around. Its got me worried. How do i approach this with him? This is one of thoseTopics that he freaks at when the word baby is mentioned ( much like the word marriage too). It makes me wonder where the relationship is going.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (29 September 2012):
I think if abortion is something you are strongly against then I see no real future with your boyfriend. But that is just based on my morals.
I just don't understand many things in this question. For starters I don't understand why his views on children has changed. Why has it changed?
I am also perplexed as to why he "freaks out" with marriage as well. Why is he afraid of marriage?
I think these are all things you should be discussing with your boyfriend of three years. You just need to be careful in the tone of your voice so that he won't think you are pressuring him...I mean he is allowed to have his views, it's just the reasons behind it are important. Good luck
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reader, Diligence +, writes (28 September 2012):
 You've been together for 3 years and he freaks at the subjects of marriage and children? Then I think unless this is what you want, you'd be better off moving on. Anyone truly in love with you should at least not have a problem with talking about marriage!
On another note; are you sure you want to be with someone that can't talk about everything you two need to talk about? If your b/f can't talk to you about everything that's going to be between you both now, it won't get better in the future, (unless he sees a therapist for his problem(s)).
A bit harsh, I know, but don't waste your life. Be with someone that cares absolutely. ...and talks.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 September 2012):
 I suggest that you CLOSE your LEGS.... and tell "Boyfriend" that his "fun" is over until and unless you and he come to grips with this issue......
We guys are all-too-willing to dip our manhood in to a soft, warm place when we are so-inclined... but we eschew the responsibilities of BEING PARENTS if/when our escapades spark new life...
IF you and "B/F" aren't in accord on this subject.... don't be stupid and get knocked up, anyway, in the hopes that that will "bring him to his senses".... because it WON'T ("bring him to his senses").... and will only leave YOU with the stigma of being an "unwed mother".....
Good luck....
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