Like what
she writes?
... Add *-kitycatlok-x to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *-kitycatlok-x a private message | | | *-kitycatlok-x's profile:I'm an English girl of sixteen. I live with my mother. My mother and father were constantly fighting due to their clashing personalities and interests, so they split up. I will learn from their mistakes and never make them myself. Hopefully, I will be able to help people by using the problems my parents had and helping people avoid those problems.
I'm open to all new ideas and will try and be as supportive and open as I can; however, if I disagree with something then I won't keep it to myself. I'll still try and keep it as nice as I can, just as honest too. Thanks for reading. |
|
| Latest articles: Cyber-Sex - Cheating Or Not?
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
12 June 2008: This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it. We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, ri...
|
Does my boyfriend's mate really like me or not?
Q. i have interest in this paticular guy, which is also my boyfriend's friend. well it sounded very wrong thou. somehow the things he do makes me feel as thou he has feelings for me. it is also hard for me to tell because he might not wants to show his ...
A. 9 April 2008: If you like his friend more then you'll actually have to ask him how he feels about you. Tell him to be completely honest about it. You won't tell anyone and he won't either. Tell him that. See what he says. If he admits to liking you and you like ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's mate really like me or not?
Q. i have interest in this paticular guy, which is also my boyfriend's friend. well it sounded very wrong thou. somehow the things he do makes me feel as thou he has feelings for me. it is also hard for me to tell because he might not wants to show his ...
A. 8 April 2008: He definitely likes you. That's obvious now. You need to ask yourself whether you like him more than your boyfriend. If you do, then are you with the right person? That's what I'd think in this situation. If you like your boyfriend more then I'd try ... (read in full...)
Bottom line is I don't trust him-should I walk away or stay?
Q. id really like some advice as i have come to my last option. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2years. it has been very hard and emotional to stay together. in the begginning he told me he was single with no kids. after a few months he kept ...
A. 4 April 2008: Good on you! You'll find someone worth being with, and you'll never be happier.
Wishing you the best.
xx... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my fiance to be drunk enough to not remember having sex?
Q. My fiancee, who admits to dating and making out with a boy,(often), while wearing only her panties, and in his bed, while 300 miles away in college already engaged with the ring, says they had no sex, and she's still a virgin. My question is.....is ...
A. 3 April 2008: It's highly unlikely. I doubt it. Doesn't mean it's not possible, though. Wishing you the best. xx... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my mother for the sexual abuse or not? Is she interested in me or pursuing my money?
Q. hi there im 18 and in foster care i have had many problems in my life but this is my main 1. when i was younger my mum sexuaily assulted me and nuglected me and beat and just treat me like shit. older and like i said in foster care but my mum is n...
A. 3 April 2008: This woman may be after money from you and sexually assaulted you when you were under age, beat you and you're thinking about FORGIVING her? Seriously? This is no joke? How can you forgive someone who has done such horrible things to you. This woman ... (read in full...)
I find it difficult to go from talking everyday to nothing... how to cope?
Q. three weeks ago I found out who I was with had found someone else which was bad enough but we have known eachother for two years and he hasnt spoken 2 me for 2 weeks. I know its probably a clear indication that he doesn't want to but we used to talk...
A. 3 April 2008: He obviously doesn't deserve you. There's plenty more people out there. You're not being unreasonable. You just want to find out how he is after a couple of weeks. You could always ask him if you two can be friends and talk from there.
Wishi... (read in full...)
My younger sister (14) has sex with her BF which my mother doesn't know, should I tell her?
Q. hi, this isnt really advice im after but something i just cannot get my head around?!!!!!!!! my sister is 13 years old she will be 14 in august. she has been goin out with this 17 year old guy now for about 3 to 4 months and i know she is havi...
A. 3 April 2008: It seems unfair that your mother let your sister's boyfriend in the house but she didn't let yours in. Parents, huh? I suppose there's nothing that can be done. I think you should explain to her the dangers about it, and it is illegal, after all. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to make your boyfriend or girlfriend choose between you and a friend?
Q. Is it wrong to make your boyfriend or girlfriend choose between you and a friend of theirs that they have had for a while?? I mean even if you think you have a good reason??...
A. 3 April 2008: It depends on what the reason is and how good it is. If the friend has done something bad and you believe they are a bad influence then, yes, you can make them choose. It just depends on the reason really.
Wishing you the best.
xx... (read in full...)
Is it normal for Europeon men to have a wandering eye?
Q. Everytime I go out with my boyfriend (he is Europeon and I am american) he keeps oopgling other women and has an extreme wandering eye. I have never had this problem before with previous boyfriends. His previous girlfriends have all been Europeon. ...
A. 3 April 2008: It depends on the male. They can do, but if they really like a girl they tend not to. They can do if they find you unappealing, but maybe he's just the wrong sort to get involved with if he's eyeing up other people.
Wishing you the best.
... (read in full...)
I'm black, he's white. HE still to this day hides our relationship from his parents whom he still lives with. He says they are racist.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years I am 26 he is 25. I met him right after a previous serious relationship with a person I had a child with. My daugther was three months old when we met through work and we hit it off really well. ...
A. 3 April 2008: It seems like he's taking his parents' views to me, so I would drop him. If he has to hide you from his parents then he's not worth it, is he? You should be proud of who you are with and not hide them from the world. If you really want a ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for Europeon men to have a wandering eye?
Q. Everytime I go out with my boyfriend (he is Europeon and I am american) he keeps oopgling other women and has an extreme wandering eye. I have never had this problem before with previous boyfriends. His previous girlfriends have all been Europeon. ...
A. 3 April 2008: It doesn't matter where you're from. Not all European males have wandering eyes. You've just found a bad one. It isn't normal, no, but you aren't overreacting. If your boyfriend is oogling other girls then you need to do something about it! You're ... (read in full...)
Confused over two faced lad...
Q. I'm confused over who this boy likes: me or my friend. well, me and the boy I mentioned have been getting on well for ages, flirting like mad and just generally havin a laugh together. He told me he thinks I've got looks, a sense of humour, body and ...
A. 3 April 2008: He sounds like he can't decide between the two of you. He likes both of you but he can't decide which one he likes more. He says he likes you, and then he flirts with your friend, telling you that he doesn't like her? He's lying to you. He likes you ... (read in full...)
Bottom line is I don't trust him-should I walk away or stay?
Q. id really like some advice as i have come to my last option. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2years. it has been very hard and emotional to stay together. in the begginning he told me he was single with no kids. after a few months he kept ...
A. 3 April 2008: He's done this more than once, has he not? I don't think he's going to change. If you can't trust him now then you can't trust him at all. Just leave him and find someone else. He'll only end up breaking your heart again, and I doubt you will want ... (read in full...)
We are back together after he cheated me online, but he wont talk about it?
Q. I just had a fight with my long distance bf. The fight was over the fact that he singed up at a dating site, looking for a girl, and althgout he did not made any communitation with any girl, I am mad with the idea that while I am counting the ...
A. 3 April 2008: You need to tell him that you really do have a problem with it, and if it happens again then you're not sure how it can work out. Trust is broken when people cheat, and trust is important in any relationship. Without it you can pretty much wave your ... (read in full...)
My bf had sex with his own mom!!Ughh..How should I react?
Q. My boyfriend had sex with his own mother. And that is really embarassing like I can't even look at his mother anymore. I even have a kid with him and is under his name. Right now,,I feel like this family I got into doesn't seem like a good family ...
A. 3 April 2008: I don't think this family sounds like a good one to raise your child in. I would leave them if it were me. You didn't know this was going on, but now you do do you really want to raise a family where people sleep with their parents? It's wrong.
... (read in full...)
Do you think he may be gay??
Q. Hi guys I have a guy friend who is a little more than a friend but he is different than most guys I met. He likes to put lotion all over his body after a shower and keeps his place really clean....he also likes to clean his house and keep everything ...
A. 3 April 2008: It doesn't sound like he is gay. My friend is gay and he's messier than anyone else I know. Doesn't sound gay at all to me.
Wishing you the best.
xx... (read in full...)
What Do you think of this friendship I have with this guy I met?
Q. I have a platonic realtionship with a guy for some time now, almost a year. We have become good friends, share jokes, pictures of ourselves ,send each others hugs. He's very polite with me and all. He's military and was stationed overseas, recent...
A. 3 April 2008: You're close, right? Why should distance stop you from being friends? If it's not a relationship then the distance doesn't really matter at all. Even if something with romance does develop, you can manage it long distance. Things will work out fine. ... (read in full...)
Am I being to paranoid and immature?
Q. Hey.. ive been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now. I had to ask him out, and for the first few months he was dismissive to me. He was still a virgin before me, and i'm his first proper girlfriend. Our sex life is great, we only see each...
A. 3 April 2008: You aren't being too immature and paranoid. A relationship is a two way deal, remember? It takes two to tango and all that jazz. If he's not putting in the effort to contact you first, do something about it! Seriously. It seems like you're putting ... (read in full...)
He made me "do it" and I wasn't ready...
Q. dear cupids. I've got a real problem! I'm in a bad situation but I feel like I've caused it myself :S I have been *seeing* this guy, (a friend of my brother) who is aged 18, for 9 months, I am 15, 16 in May, and he is my *first love*, he's ...
A. 1 April 2008: He was manipulating you into having sex. He made you when you weren't ready. He almost forced you into it. This isn't right. I think you should leave him. That is wrong. He said he'd wait and then he made you do it for the first time in a bathroom ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants sex but I'm only 12!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for three months but his sister says he says he wants sex. The problem is i'm only 12! I just turned 12 this month and he's turning 13 in April we love each other so much that i don't know what to do, so i ...
A. 1 April 2008: You are aware of how completely illegal that is, aren't you? You just turned 12?!?! That's way too young! I wouldn't do it. I don't think you're ready for it yet. Your body still hasn't stopped growing fully and I doubt you'll be ready. Twelve is ... (read in full...)
Caught in a marriage, and caught in an affair, what should I do?
Q. I got married a month after I turned 18. No one knew. It was a secret, until I got married in church when I turned 19. We moved out of California across the way to Maryland. I left all family and friends behind because he was to be stationed ...
A. 1 April 2008: It sounds like he's gotten bored, as cruel as it sounds. Like, he's already married you so now no longer needs to try as you're there for a while. He's getting you to do everything while he lays around! He's making you miserable. If you're sad in ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him even though he has admitted he cheated on his ex while with the same group of mates that he might be meeting up with tonight?
Q. Hey everyone, I don't know what to do. I have a problem. I love my boyfriend very much and he says he loves me and wants to marry me. We have been together for six months but he has admitted that he cheated on his ex with a girl that he is meeting ...
A. 1 April 2008: That's great! Glad to hear it. Hope things continue working out for you. ^_^... (read in full...)
I was embarassed by a specific comment, that I now regard as a compliment, do I bring it up in conversation?
Q. When I was in Year 9 a teacher I know very well told the whole class that he wished I was his daughter..At the time I was embarassed and scared to say at the least but now when I look at it I think it off as a compliment. Should I ask him if he ...
A. 1 April 2008: I think you should ask him if he meant it. What harm can it do. What you should do is walk up to him, and say "Do you remember the time when you said you wished I was your daughter. Did you really mean it?" Or something like that. What harm can it ... (read in full...)
What would my sexuality be considered as?
Q. I am male and married. However when I was 15 years old I had a "relationship" with another 15 year old boy for about 6 months. We did mutual masturbation, oral and some anal sex. As far as I know, no one knows about our "relationship". I enjoyed it, ...
A. 1 April 2008: You would probably be classed as a bi-sexual. If you enjoyed it and still think about it a lot, then you probably are bi-sexual.
Wishing you the best
xx... (read in full...)
I'm scared she's going to break my heart...
Q. I've been in a relationship for 6 months now and I'd really appreciate some opinions as I feel I'm reaching a crossroads. The first four months were amazing, full of affection and excitement. There were lots of texts, "I love you"s etc. We sp...
A. 1 April 2008: It doesn't sound like she's going to end it with you. It just sounds like she needs a little time to herself too. It is always impossible to tell if someone's going to break up with you unless you have done something to deserve it. It really is ... (read in full...)
She's a violent "slob" ! But....am I a bully?
Q. As unbiased and truthful as it happened. Im in a relationship, 90% of the time its fine, we have our normal ups and downs as every one does. But everynow and again things get blown out of proportion. She's not the tidiest of people and Im wil...
A. 1 April 2008: Two words: Anger. Management. Get her enrolled in anger management classes. Hopefully this should teach her to not get so violent. She could actually get in serious trouble for doing that. She really needs to learn to control her violence. If she... (read in full...)
Stuck in a relationship with an alcoholic, is my reason to stay a valid one?
Q. I hate my boyfriend more and more each day. I dont know why I am with him. maybe its because I dont want to be a mom who has men in and out of my daughters life. but then again he isnt her father and it isnt really fair to subject her to him. I ...
A. 1 April 2008: Leave him. If he's getting violent and physical, leave him as soon as you can. This is also a danger to your daughter. What if he turns on her? He's even ruining your social life with friends! This isn't right. You may need a bit of help when you ... (read in full...)
I feel my BF should be with a "normal" girl...
Q. hi, i feel really abnormal i have really small boobs and I'm 16 my boyfriend says he likes them but when i see other girls on tv and things i always feel like he should be with a normal girl, am i abnormal help me i hate looking at myself i have ...
A. 1 April 2008: If he says he likes them, then he likes them. I know people over 40 with small breasts and they're all happily married. Having big breasts does not make you abnormal. There is no such thing as normal. Look at girls around you! They're all different ... (read in full...)
Your opinion of this scene at a party?
Q. At a party a drunk married woman cuddled up with another man on a sofa, unbuttoned his shirt and rubbed his bare chest with her hand for quite some time. Her husband saw this and said and did nothing. What is your opinion of the wife? The husband? ...
A. 1 April 2008: The wife: She is old enough to not cheat even when drunk. She should be able to control herself. That is just wrong. Wrong on so many levels. She's a grown woman! Who's married! She should be able to control herself. The husband: How could he let... (read in full...)
Could you be mates with an ex that still owes you money?
Q. Hi If you offered to lend someone 5 grand because they said their remortgage was definately coming through in 2 weeks(their broker assured them) Then they got refused the remortgage :o? would you be a bit brassed off about it? I mean, if you spli...
A. 1 April 2008: You aren't being a cow at all! 2 and a half grand is a LOT of money! You're doing the right thing about refusing to be with him until he's paid it back, and even then I don't think getting back together is an option. If he's done it once, who's to ... (read in full...)
All we ever talk about is sex so do we really love each other?
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy since last yr. We are very attracted to each other and we love each other. However, most of the time all we talk about is sex or having sex. Is there anything wrong with it? Or How do we figure out if its physical ...
A. 1 April 2008: You could love each other and just have very high sex drives. It's really quite impossible to tell as you haven't provided very much information. It could, of course, just be about sex. See if you can have a day without talking about sec or having ... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with my teacher?
Q. There's a teacher I know but he's alot older than me. Im 19 btw. When I see him he's friendly and we get on really well and he calls me a mate, but theres been suitations where I don't know where I stand with him. I think I'm stupid to think he'd be ...
A. 1 April 2008: I think you should ask him if he's interested in what you have to say. Tell him you're going through a lot and would like to tell him, but do not want to tell him unless he is willing to listen to it. I think that's what you should say. If he does ... (read in full...)
When a guy says you're the package?
Q. me and this lad were texting each other the other day (weve been texting each other for a while) n he asked me what i liked most about him. i told him i liked his personality n asked him what he liked most about me, he said "personality" aswell. ...
A. 1 April 2008: He means that he likes your personality and your looks too. It's like "I get everything in one. A package deal." Take it as a compliment! He's telling you he likes everything about you all in one! That's nice. Wishing you the best. xx... (read in full...)
Having a baby now when I'm so young but need to for health reasons?
Q. I'm 16 and i want a baby now with my boyfriend who i've been with for 3yrs. i was told that because of a mutation in my genes as i get older it would be harder for me to give birth to a healthy baby. I am deeply in love with my boyfriend and i want ...
A. 1 April 2008: Well if you really do want to have a baby, and now is the best time to do it, I suppose there's nothing you can really do. How... I think you should first tell him how much you love him. Then say how much you would like to have a family one day. ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's mate really like me or not?
Q. i have interest in this paticular guy, which is also my boyfriend's friend. well it sounded very wrong thou. somehow the things he do makes me feel as thou he has feelings for me. it is also hard for me to tell because he might not wants to show his ...
A. 1 April 2008: It sounds like he does like you, but is just unsure what to do as he doesn't want to upset your boyfriend in some way. That's what I think. That's what it sounds like. He does like you, but doesn't want to hurt your boyfriend. And you I don't think ... (read in full...)
Work colleague or more, plus he has a girlfriend? Help!!
Q. Hi this is a problem I feel terrible about so go easy on me! There's this guy I work with who I have always thought was attractive but have never really got to know until recently because we've been working on the same project together. Working ...
A. 1 April 2008: Would you really want to hurt the girl he's with? What if she found out? Would you feel guilty? This isn't meant as a "don't do it. You're stupid" because everyone feels like this about someone who's taken at some point or another. If he's willin... (read in full...)
Do I give in to the sex to keep my boyfriend or not?
Q. My boyfriend and I are drifting apart I can just tell. I feel as though there is something more I can do but he won't tell me what. We haven't even had any sexual contact yet cuz I'm not ready and I think that bugs him... what can I do to make it so ...
A. 1 April 2008: Do not sleep with him JUST to keep the relationship together. If you're drifting apart because you won't have sex with him then he's not worth it. You shouldn't feel pressured into having sex because you want to stay with this boy. It shouldn't bug ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and need advice to get the girl of my dreams, help please?
Q. hello i am 14 years old and i have never had a girlfriend. i fancy this girl but am too scared to ask her out or even ask for her msn address. what should i do? please help!...
A. 1 April 2008: Walk up to her, ask her for her MSN address. Gain the courage! You can do it, I'm sure. I'm sure she'll give it to you. You seem nice. I'm sure she'll give you her email address. What harm can it to if she doesn't give it to you? You're young. ... (read in full...)
I get what I wanted, and now I'm not sure. Is this normal?
Q. I am almost 30 (yikes!) and recently single for the first time in my adult life. I was in a terrible marriage for nine years, which I have three little girls from, and then in another fairly serious relationship for two years right after my ex ...
A. 1 April 2008: It sounds like he likes you too, so I would tell him personally. If you talk for this long and he came all the way to see you, he must feel something for you. You wouldn't do that just for someone you are on casual terms with. He's obviously crazy ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him even though he has admitted he cheated on his ex while with the same group of mates that he might be meeting up with tonight?
Q. Hey everyone, I don't know what to do. I have a problem. I love my boyfriend very much and he says he loves me and wants to marry me. We have been together for six months but he has admitted that he cheated on his ex with a girl that he is meeting ...
A. 1 April 2008: Why don't you ask to tag along? Drunk or not, cheating is still cheating. At least when you're there you can stop it. If he does cheat on you when he's drunk then it's still cheating. Would you honestly be able to forgive yourself if you were unable ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating on me with her?
Q. Husband told me he was afraid to tell me he was friends with a girl at work because he thought she was pretty, he's never done anything like this before. He has went to her apartment to help her move, they've been caught hugging at work and even ...
A. 1 April 2008: I agree with Jeep Lover, and that this does sound suspicious. If he's lying to you about things then it's definitely worth asking about. Especially if they've been seen hugging and such and he's going around her house. Don't do the snooping thing. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend loves someone else, shoul I break up with her?
Q. I have been with my gf for over 4 years, recently my gf meet a guy and had a serious crush on him, the guy knowing definately well that the girl has fallen for him has inturn started playing with my gf minds, now it seems she love him. we have ...
A. 1 April 2008: Leave her! If she's seeing someone else it's considered cheating. If she hasn't given her heart to you completely then I'd leave her. You deserved to be loved whole-heartedly by her. Who knows what she could do with this other man she loves? She ... (read in full...)
What do you consider cheating?
Q. Say a girl is engaged, still in college, while her fiancee is 300 miles away. She dates another boy on pretty much a regular bases. She makes out with the other boy and even does it while spending the night in his bed wih him, no sex, but wearing ...
A. 1 April 2008: She's cheating. No doubt about it. Seeing someone else is considered cheating. Making out with someone else is considered cheating. And she's ENGAGED? That's wrong on so many levels. Ditch the girl. She's not worth it. She's considered a cheater. No ... (read in full...)
She wont say she loves me because "you have not said the reason I am wanting to hear yet"-what does she mean?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for a while, and we recently became a couple, and I have fallen in love with her. She has told me it takes her a while to fall in love or at least allow herself to feel that strongly because of her past. I have been ...
A. 1 April 2008: You could tell her that she's a kind, giving, beautiful girl, but that's not why you love her. You love her because she's herself. She's never pretended to be anyone else. You love her for her. Instead of listing all of the reasons, say "I love you ... (read in full...)
| *-kitycatlok-x's friends
These are mutual friends, so *-kitycatlok-x has
added them and they have added *-kitycatlok-x!
|
